The #1 Lie Young Women Believe

From the LYWB.com Team: An updated version of Lies Young Women Believe (the book that launched this blog!) recently released. To celebrate, we’re passing along five days of devos taken from the pages of the book. (It’s like getting some of the book’s very best content delivered to your screen for free!) Be sure to hop back on the blog tomorrow for more wisdom from the pages of the new Lies Young Women Believe.

Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you (Ps. 73:25).

We talked to over 1,000 teen girls about the lies that were making them feel depressed, lonely, angry, stressed, hopeless and a lot of other terrible emotions. Though they didn’t realize it, many of them had fallen for the lie, “God is not enough.” Sure, they knew that God should be enough, but they found themselves holding out for something more:

If I just had a friend I could count on, that would be enough . . .
If my parents let me stay out late, that would be enough . . .
If I got into my dream college, that would be enough . . .
If I had a boyfriend, that would be enough . . .

In the end, 88 percent of them agreed that they believed the lie: “God is not enough.” In fact, it was the most commonly believed lie young women were struggling to overcome.

The Idol of Others

We have struggled with this lie, too! I, Nancy, went through a hard time when a close friend and mentor died, another moved away, and a third friend was removed from my life through a tragic circumstance. I was devastated. For the next several months, I struggled with feelings of disappointment with God and battled some intense doubts about my faith.

Finally, as I began to cry out to the Lord, He showed me that I had been looking to my friends to meet my needs and to fill the deepest places of my heart. I discovered that by putting people in the place of God, they had become idols in my life. I began to realize that there was no human (or anything else) on the planet that could truly satisfy my unfulfilled longings. I discovered that I was insecure because I was placing my trust in people, who could be taken away from me, rather than in the One who never changes and who will never leave me.

That desperate season proved to be a huge turning point in my life. I repented of my idolatry and asked God to show me when I was expecting others to meet needs that only He could meet. He brought me to the place where I could honestly say:

Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you (Ps. 73:25).

The Truth

God is enough; He will meet your needs and wants to be your closest confidant. His Word promises: “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:19).

  • He is the One who can heal your heart when it is broken (Ps. 147:3).
  • He is the One who can encourage, guide, and protect you (Ps. 121:7).
  • He is the One who can make you feel safe when others fail you (Ps. 27:10).
  • He is the One who can make you feel valued no matter what you can or cannot do (Matt. 10:29–31).

We get to know our friends better as we spend time with them. The same is true about having a friendship with God. As we spend time reading and thinking about what He’s saying to us in His Word, or as we pray or meet with others to worship Him or study the Bible together, our relationship with Him grows deeper. The more you get to know God, the more you see that He is the only One who can meet your deepest needs.

It’s Your Turn

Do you believe you need something or someone other than God in order to be happy?

How can you spend extra time getting to know God this week?

Leave us a comment below with your answers.

And keep reading the blog all week for more wisdom from Lies Young Women Believe, written by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Dannah Gresh.

About Author

Dannah Gresh

Dannah Gresh is completely in love with her chocolate labradoodle, Stormie. (But just for the record, she doesn't like dog kisses.) She's been married to Bob for over twenty years and loves that he brings her "freshly sharpened bouquets of pencils." She's the mom to Lexi, Autumn, and Rob. Oh, and she co-wrote Lies Young Women Believe with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth!

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  • SARAH BROWN

    This is a little irrelevant, but right now my school is experiencing grief. Last night a student passed away in a car crash. Could you point me to some verses or a blog post about overcoming grief? Thanks so much.

    • genesis herrera

      Omg I’m so sorry for your guy’s loss. There’s 2 versus I love:
      Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (NIV)
      and Matthew 11:28 28Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. (NLT)
      hope these things help and God Bless hun 🙂
      also i started a blog of where I talk about God and other topics as well every wednesday if you wanna check it out : http://www.uncagedfreedom.net

      • SARAH BROWN

        Thanks so much!!

        • genesis herrera

          of course!! God bless swwetheart 🙂

    • Mary

      sending prayers to you <3 a few years back in high school I lost a teammate to a car accident right outside of school. I felt so confused and at a lost. the verse Romans 8:18 helped me through that and other trials. it reads “this suffering is nothing when compared to heaven”. just thinking that we will one day all reunite in heaven reassured me. just remember God is always near to you and is always there to comfort you. keeping you and your friends in prayer <3

  • Mina

    It’s probably impossible to be totally satisfied with God unless you’re amazingly submissive and spiritual like Paul or Nancy. We can only do our best. I’m extremely far behind, but I’m still trying to grow anyways.

    • Maria-Simona C.

      Same!

  • J

    I struggle with binge eating. I put my attention on my dream body, and I go to the internet for gel rather than God. I find things of this world to “cure” my regret and embarrassment after a binge session. I’m basically abusing my body. I want to stop, but my brain’s desires make it seem impossible. I know God can heal me; I don’t need counseling to “heal” me. God’s enough, but sin has me chained down and hurting. I feeling I deserve this pain because I’ve done so much in my life to anger God. Please pray for me. Thanks.

    • Maria-Simona C.

      You do not deserve this pain. Feeling like you’ve angered God and believing you are not worthy of His love and goodness–these are actually lies from Satan. (In the name of Jesus, I rebuke the enemy’s lies that have taken over J’s mind and heart, and I pray that God shows her the truths of His love and forgiveness.)
      Honestly, I struggle with the same sin. I succumb to my fleshly desires, and then as a “cure”, I’ll watch YouTube videos or read motivational quotes to hide my shame, instead of turning to God. You are not alone, J.
      It would be a good idea to tell a wise, older Christian woman about what you’re struggling with. Whether that be your mom, a church leader, or an older friend, etc. She can pray for you and mentor you in walking well.
      Also, bury yourself in God’s truths. Whenever you feel like binge-eating, instead of reaching for a huge bag of snacks or running to the fridge, grab a Bible (or Bible app) and start reading and praying. You are never chained down forever. In Jesus’s name, you will win this fight! 🙂
      You can also text a close Christian friend or mentor, and ask them to talk to or pray for you until the urge passes by. You can also take a walk outside, do some intense (but fun!) workout moves, blast music, or do something else that you love that is productive.
      Remember, through God, you have the power to rebuke and cast out Satan and his lies. If you feel an emotion or start thinking lies that are not of God, say “I rebuke you, Satan, in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe His truth, not your lies! He has a plan and He has a purpose for me.”
      I will definitely be keeping you in prayer, J. God bless, girl. Have a great day 🙂

      • J

        Thank you so much for the encouragement and tips. I really appreciate! God bless 🙂

        • Maria-Simona C.

          🙂

    • Carrie @ Revive Our Hearts

      Sweet friend, Jesus bore all the pain you and I deserve. God’s Word tells us that Jesus Himself became the propitiation (wrath-absorber) for all our sins (1 John 2:2). God is not angry at you, J. He loves you infinitely more than you can imagine. He hates what sin does to us and He longs to heal our broken and wounded souls.

      The next time you want to binge eat, would you be willing to ask Jesus, to help you become aware of what you’re feeling in that moment? You might even take the time to write it out, in as much detail as you can. You could start with something like, “Jesus, right now I feel _________________________. Maybe it’s anger or fear, hurt or disappointment, maybe you feel stressed or anxious about something that just happened.

      Jesus invites us to be honest with Him. We don’t have to hide or pretend. And He promises always to meet us in the place where we are—not where we think we should be or once were. But in the place of truth. And then, gently and tenderly, He leads us one step at a time out of captivity and into the freedom that He longs for you to know, J.

      I’ve prayed for you tonight, friend. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free (John 8:32).

      Grace and peace,
      Carrie

      • Sarah Bean

        That was beautiful Carrie.

  • Sarah Bean

    I have believed in a lot of Satan’s lies. Example:
    “You’re not pretty enough.”
    “Your birth mom threw you away.”
    “You are alone.”

    So I’m really working on seeing the light and following the truth.
    Thank you Dannah and Nancy for this blog.

  • Julie

    Truth: I am undeserving of forgiveness.
    Also a truth: God can because He sacrificed Jesus on that cross to bear all of the world’s disgusting sin. God is so, so much above sin. He is more than enough.