10 Ways to Shine Online

“The media has a negative influence on my relationship with God and others, but its benefits are worth it.”

If we asked you to agree or disagree with that statement, what would you say? (Be honest!)

When we pitched that same question at thousands of girls during the research phase for Lies Young Women Believe, a whopping 98% agreed with it. Amazingly, they knew their media usage did some damage in their walk with Christ, but they thought it was worth it anyway.

Here’s a newsflash . . . it is possible to honor God and others online. In fact, here are ten specific ways you can shine online.

10. Post pics of creation.

Have you seen a beautiful sunset lately? Spotted a pretty bird or a beautiful butterfly? Rather than filling your feed with selfies, why not point others toward the Creator through Twitter and Instagram.

Here’s a verse you can use to accompany your pics.

“All things were made through him, and without him was not anything made that was made” John 1:3.

9. Post a verse a day

Social media provides an awesome opportunity to share Scripture with a wide audience. Post verses that you read in your own quiet time each day or simply choose a verse that matters to you and post it.

If you need some help, try using sites like VerseOfTheDay.com and BibleStudyTools.com.

8. Don’t talk in code.

“I wish some people would stop acting like they’re better than me.”
“Spent all day dreaming about him.”
“She is getting on my nerves.”

Talking in code about people doesn’t mean you’re not talking about people. Did you know that the Bible specifically tells us that when we have a problem with a person, we are to approach them one on one? It’s true!

Matthew 18:15 says, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.”

If someone has hurt you, talk to them about it face to face, not in cryptic messages online.

Still think those vague messages are a good idea? Check out Matthew 5:37.

“Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No;’ anything more than this comes from evil.”

In other words, say what you mean and mean what you say. Ditch the passive-aggressive stuff.

7. Honor the ‘rents.

God asks you to honor your parents as part of the Ten Commandments (Ex. 20:12). Make a commitment never to bash your parents online, but don’t stop there! Give your parents access to your social media, and then make it a point to publicly share your love and respect. Here are a few tweets you can fill in the blanks with.

I have the best parents ever! (Include a cute pic of the fam.)
I love my mom because . . .
Thanks, Dad, for . . .
I love it when my parents . . .

6. Only build up.

Ephesians 4:29 gives us this rule: if it doesn’t build others up, don’t say it. Make it a point to be an encourager online. Is there a Christian band you love? Tell them about it on Twitter. Are you reading a great book? Share why you love it! Did your friend do something awesome? Congratulate her on her Facebook wall. Actively look for opportunities to build up and encourage others online.

5. Zero grumbling.

Philippians 2:14 says to do all things without grumbling or complaining. Don’t use your social media as a place to vent.

4. Brag on your church.

Social media is a great place to showcase your excitement about your church. Post pics of your latest youth trip or invite others to an upcoming event. Make it a point to give an impression of your church that makes others want to come. (By the way, I found some pretty awesome tweets that used the hashtag #ilovemychurch)

3. Be a trendsetter.

“Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (1 Tim. 4:12).

You can set the example for others in the way that you talk online. Instead of lowering the bar by saying things online that you would never say in person, why not raise the bar? Be a trendsetter by creating a higher standard in what you say and post online.

2. Model modest fashion.

We’ve all seen plenty of selfies of girls in skimpy tank tops with pouty lips, but you know what I haven’t seen much of? Girls rocking cute, modest clothes!

Forget the sexy selfies. Show off your cute, modest outfits and naturally beautiful smile.

1. Be you!

You don’t have to create a persona online designed to impress others. Don’t make compromises online that you would never make in person. You can be confident to just be yourself online (and in person) because you are already loved and accepted by Jesus, and He wants to use your life to show others about Him.

He said so in Matthew 5:14–17.

“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

How can you use social media to be a light for Jesus in our dark world?

About Author

Erin Davis

Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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  • Ana Yefimov

    This is a really cool reminder. Thanks Erin. It really applies to many girls in our culture.

    • GodGirl

      I agree!

  • erinleedavis

    Thanks Ana!

    I’ve noticed you really jumping in and offering wise advice to other readers on the blog lately. Thanks for pointing them toward God’s Truth!


    • Joy Underwood

      thought of starting a blog to do some of what you talked about! What
      would be the best blogging website to use (if that is what you would
      call it)?

  • Joy Underwood

    I thought of starting a blog to do some of what you talked about! What would be the best blogging website to use (if that is what you would call it)?

    • I started my website on wordpress.com for free. I’ve really liked it.

      • Joy Underwood

        Thanks I’ll look into it!:)

    • Brooklyn Mikinzie

      Ive used blogspot.com and I really like it!

      • Joy Underwood

        I’ll look it up:) Thank you!

      • GodGirl

        And you can clearly shine on your blog! 😉

    • blogger.com is really a good one, as it comes along Your gmail account and there is this new option that allows You to share every post that You publish here directly to your google plus page. The only drawback could be that You might not be able to easily get Your blog post up in google search. ‘WordPress’ is also very good and there are more chances for Your blog to show up in search engines.

      • Joy Underwood

        Thanks I’ll look it up:)

  • jiujitsulover

    This is really what girls of this day and age need to learn and then put into practice. Because I don’t have Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, how can I do the above things that involve FB and such things

    • Brooklyn Mikinzie

      I struggle with the same thing!

      • GodGirl

        Well, Brooklyn, you comment on this blog and you probably have an email or texting … what about phone calls or texts or any form of commenting?

        And you have a profile pic on here so that’s a Disqus account . . . why can’t you use that?

        There are so many options even if you don’t have social media. Thanks, Erin for a great post. 😉

  • Dear Erin Davis, i am really blessed by this article. I have got light into areas that i wasn’t aware of. Thank You !!

  • Brooklyn Mikinzie

    How can you do all of this when you dont have ANY social media?

  • erinleedavis

    Brooklyn and Jiujitsulover –

    Hey girls!

    Most of these ideas are things you can do with or without social media. Like you can honor your parents, model modest fashion, and refuse to grumble just as easily (maybe more easily) in person as you can online. In fact, with the exception of #9 and #10 all of these ideas are possible in person.

    As far as posting pictures of creation or a verse of the day, why not try posting these things on your school notebooks or inside your locker. Or, for your own benefit…choose a verse of the day and post it on your bathroom mirror each morning.

    Social media should be an extension of who we are in real life, so shine in your face to face interactions in the same way I am encouraging girls to shine online.

    Grace and Peace!


    • jiujitsulover

      Thanks! 🙂 I will try it.

  • Megan

    Totally agree. You rock! I’ll add a couple more. When blogging, cite Scripture that relates to the topic as much as possible. And bless parents often, or those unsung heroes who raised u, like foster parents or grandparents. Older siblings count too!

  • Ezreal

    I absolutely love this post!!!!

    Even though I’m not a social media member, I frequent game forums. Though I’m often the only girl, I always remember to be myself online and not rage….

  • Nicole Pfeiffer

    i totally agree with this.

  • yenis

    I would love to translate this post to Spanish and bridge the language gap for my Spanish speaking ff . It greatly blessed me and beautifully echoed some of my thoughts about this issue. God may continue to richly bless you, using you Erin.