5 Reasons to Ditch “Your Truth”

“Live your truth.” It’s a banner that seems to be flying everywhere. The big idea is that we should do what feels right to us. No one knows us like we do, and no one has the right to tell us what is true for our individual lives, right? It’s a move away from the idea that truth is black and white and toward seeing truth as a million shades of gray.

Can I be honest? It’s a concept that makes my fists clench and my stomach tie up in knots. I know the notion that we each have the freedom to determine what is true and right for us sounds as warm and cozy as a fuzzy blanket on a cold day and as liberating as a flag flying on the Fourth of July, but I also know it’s total hogwash, ultimately unable to give us the comfort and liberty we crave so desperately. I long to see you turn and run from the idea of living “your truth.” Here are five reasons why.

1. You’re a liar.

I’m sorry to be so blunt, but desperate beliefs call for desperate measures. When it comes to speaking truth, you simply cannot be trusted. Neither can I. Here’s why:

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? (Jer. 17:9).

Because our hearts are warped by sin, they cannot be trusted. They have a long track record of lying to us about what is good and what is bad, what is true and what is false.

Because our hearts are warped by sin, they cannot be trusted.

I’m sure you can think of at least one example of a time when you craved something (or someone) with all your heart. You thought you might spontaneously combust if you didn’t get it, but looking back you can see the desire was all wrong—that if God had granted you what your heart craved, the end result would have been disastrous.

While there are times when our hearts line up perfectly with the heart of God, that’s not always the case. If you are free to define “your truth” with whatever your heart tells you in the moment, there’s a good chance you’ll end up in the ditch.

2. You’re flying blind.

Proverbs 14:12 gives us this warning: “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.”

The image is this: We start walking down a path, and it it seems like we’re heading the right way. All of the “signs” seem to confirm this is the right thing for us, but ultimately it’s a path that leads to nowhere; even worse, it’s a path that leads to our destruction. “Your truth” can’t take you to the life you were made for. That’s the bad news. But God’s truth can. That’s really good news!

3. We’re all apple nibblers.

The shift from God’s truth to our truth is as subtle as it is dangerous. We see this played out in the story of Eve.

God spoke the truth in Genesis 2:16–17 when He said, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.”

Yet Eve chose to live “her truth.” It went like this:

And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die’” (3:2–3).

God’s truth: Don’t eat it.
Eve’s truth: Don’t touch it.

It seems like splitting hairs, doesn’t it? Yet the root of the shift was that Eve cared more about her own thoughts and feelings and understanding of the situation than God’s. From there we can assume her truth became that she could disobey God without consequence or that a good God wouldn’t deny her anything she craved. Nibble. Crunch. Fall.

As daughters of Eve, we remain nibblers on the rotten idea that we can override or rewrite God’s truth.

As daughters of Eve, we remain nibblers on the rotten idea that we can override or rewrite God’s truth. Though the consequences are not as devastating for us as they were for Eve (the fall of all mankind), we still wreak havoc on our lives when we listen to “our truth” instead of God’s truth.

4. We’ve got some growing up to do.

Seventh-grade me thought I was destined to be rich and famous, that constant attention from a boy was the only way to feel good about myself, and that I had no real beauty to offer the world because I didn’t look like a supermodel.

It all seems laughable in hindsight, but those were “my truths.” They were the things I thought and felt most deeply. What if I had let those ideas define the trajectory of my life? Shudder!

When we decide to identify God’s Word as the source of truth, it’s like planting roots in one spot. We grow up from there. Instead of constantly shifting our understanding of what is true, we gain wisdom inch by inch.

I love this warning and prayer found in 2 Peter 3:17–18. I’m praying it for you as you resist the idea of following “your truth.”

You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability. But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.

5. There’s only one source of truth.

Let there be no confusion: There is no your truth or my truth. There’s just the truth, and it has a single source.

“Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth” (John 17:17).

The Bible tells us that the truth is knowable (John 8:32). You don’t have to guess about what is true about the world around you or go with what your feelings tell you on any given day.

There is no your truth or my truth. There’s just the truth, and it has a single source.

I love how Jen Wilkin put it: “May God deliver me daily from the soul-eating curse of ‘living my truth.’” He is able to do it by the voice of His Spirit and through the power of His Word.

So whadya say? Let’s send the pendulum back swinging in the opposite direction, away from the idea that we can choose our own truth. We find our feet steadied and our hearts healed by this idea instead.

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14:6).

About Author

Erin Davis

Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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  • Wow! I love the honesty and hard truths in this article!

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    • Keith Ziegler

      Too bad for you, there are no hard truths or honesty in this article except for one, it’s nonsense because it’s predicated on a lie

      • Daniel C.

        Keith, what lie is it predicated upon?

  • Brittania

    Amen!! I love this. Jesus is the Truth. Anything that contradicts Him is a lie. Thank you guys for spreading a powerful message!!!

    -Brittania

    • Keith Ziegler

      Too bad science trumps your beliefs

      • Daniel C.

        So how has science proven that “science trumps your beliefs”? That is not something that science can even test. And if it can’t, then your statement is a belief and your concussion makes no sense. Also, I love science, have a science degree, biology, however, it is fallible. It is based upon the process of induction, which is pretty much, according to David Hume, blind faith. Hume’s problem of induction is still with us today. Science is a great way to come to truth, but it only gives us understanding about limited things in our world we live in.

  • Joy

    Living in a culture which preaches self-love and acceptance, its so crucial to be reminded that my heart is truly deceitful and sick. I’m slowly learning that living according to “my truth” only further damages what I seek to improve. Thank you for the encouragement!

    • Keith Ziegler

      FEEL VERY SORRY for someone that believes such lies about themselves.

  • GoodHeart

    Nailed it!! Within the LGBT+ community “live your truth” is a cornerstone for relationships, identity, and staying in bondage. I have finally realized, there is only “the truth” and it is the Word of God which asks me to live a life free of sexual sin. Thanks for shedding light on this!!

    • Keith Ziegler

      She didn’t nail it at all…she made the same TIRED arguments that are debunked by default given the FACT that the bible is demonstrably false.

      • Daniel C.

        Such as how is the Bible demonstrably false?

  • Functional OrOO

    Good rebuttal to the christian indoctrination of this article:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_iTeUjs6w4

    • Daniel C.

      Actually this is not a good rebuttal, it is contradictory and a little confused (I’m not saying that to be mean). She does seem to be a nice person, I have listened to a number of her videos and like her as a person. However, this, like some of the others, leaves me wondering why she confuses things, does not make proper distinctions and at times makes logical errors.

      First, she does not demarcated subjective truth from objective truth. Subjective truth would be I like chocolate ice-cream (which I do) and you like vanilla (maybe you don’t but you get the picture). However, objective truth would be gravity, if you jump off a three hundred foot cliff to the rocks below, you will die. This truth is not dependent upon my opinion or desires.

      Second, she is very much against black and white claims, however, she is making black and white claims in this video. The claim is self-defeating.

      Third, she claims she is not perfect and knows she will never be perfect. However, she gives no indication for where that standard of that perfection comes from. In other words, a knowledge of a perfect standard is necessary to know that one did not meet that standard. What is that standard and where does it come from? And to be frank, where did that knowledge come from anyhow?

      Forth, she claims that religion makes people fearful, or the like, and that is bad. However, she is doing the same in opposition to religion, telling why religion, or at least the outworkings of religion (ie, Christianity) is wrong and dangerous.

      Fifth, she seems fine with people who believe their religion is true, but she is not fine with it when one really follows that religion. This view does not logically follow.

      Sixth, she is pro critical thinking, thinking for yourself and free will, however, these are all Christian ethos (even though she seems to not think that). Discernment, knowledge and wisdom (critical thinking), free will (can be found throughout the Bible) and thinking for yourself, again gaining knowledge and using wisdom. However, the Bible too makes the claim that we don’t know everything and we are not perfect (ya, obvious) and there is one that does and is (you may disagree, but that is the claim, and if it is true, it is true whether you like it or not). If true, we better listen to the one who does know a lot of things (which the Bible calls God). That is not that crazy it seems to me, especially if true.

      Seventh, she in this video and other videos, wants to give herself and other people the praise and glory for accomplishments (and rightfully so in one sense) and not God. However, even though she does not believe in God, God was the one who gave her life, free will, the ability and desire to think and her creativity. In other words, she is sitting in God’s lap and trying to slap his face. I don’t find that attitude very tasteful.

    • Daniel C.

      I would not call this a good rebuttal of this article. Rachel seems to be a nice person, I have listened to a number of her videos and like her as a person. However, this, like some of the others, leaves me wondering why she confuses things, does not make proper distinctions and at times makes logical errors.

      First, she does not demarcated subjective truth from objective truth. Subjective truth would be I like chocolate ice-cream (which I do) and you like vanilla (maybe you don’t but you get the picture). However, objective truth would be gravity, if you jump off a three hundred foot cliff to the rocks below, you will die. This truth is not dependent upon my opinion or desires.

      Second, she is very much against black and white claims, however, she is making black and white claims in this video. The claim is self-defeating.

      Third, she claims she is not perfect and knows she will never be perfect. However, she gives no indication for where that standard of that perfection comes from. In other words, a knowledge of a perfect standard is necessary to know that one did not meet that standard. What is that standard and where does it come from? And to be frank, where did that knowledge come from anyhow?

      Forth, she claims that religion makes people fearful, or the like, and that is bad. However, she is doing the same in opposition to religion, telling why religion, or at least the outworkings of religion (ie, Christianity) is wrong and dangerous.

      Fifth, she seems fine with people who believe their religion is true, but she is not fine with it when one really follows that religion. This view does not logically follow.

      Sixth, she is pro critical thinking, thinking for yourself and free will, however, these are all Christian ethos (even though she seems to not think that). Discernment, knowledge and wisdom (critical thinking), free will (can be found throughout the Bible) and thinking for yourself, again gaining knowledge and using wisdom. However, the Bible too makes the claim that we don’t know everything and we are not perfect (ya, obvious) and there is one that does and is (you may disagree, but that is the claim, and if it is true, it is true whether you like it or not). If true, we better listen to the one who does know a lot of things (which the Bible calls God). That is not that crazy it seems to me, especially if true.

      Seventh, she in this video and other videos, wants to give herself and other people the praise and glory for accomplishments (and rightfully so in one sense) and not God. However, even though she does not believe in God, God was the one who gave her life, free will, the ability and desire to think and her creativity. In other words, she is sitting in God’s lap and trying to slap his face. I don’t find that attitude very tasteful.

    • Daniel C.

      Rachel, in the video above, seems to be a nice person, I have listened to a number of her videos and like her as a person. However, this, like some of the others, leaves me wondering why she confuses things, does not make proper distinctions and at times makes logical errors.

      First, she does not demarcated subjective truth from objective truth. Subjective truth would be I like chocolate ice-cream (which I do) and you like vanilla (maybe you don’t but you get the picture). However, objective truth would be gravity, if you jump off a three hundred foot cliff to the rocks below, you will die. This truth is not dependent upon my opinion or desires.

      Second, she is very much against black and white claims, however, she is making black and white claims in this video. The claim is self-defeating.

      Third, she claims she is not perfect and knows she will never be perfect. However, she gives no indication for where that standard of that perfection comes from. In other words, a knowledge of a perfect standard is necessary to know that one did not meet that standard. What is that standard and where does it come from? And to be frank, where did that knowledge come from anyhow?

      Forth, she claims that religion makes people fearful, or the like, and that is bad. However, she is doing the same in opposition to religion, telling why religion, or at least the outworkings of religion (ie, Christianity) is wrong and dangerous.

      Fifth, she seems fine with people who believe their religion is true, but she is not fine with it when one really follows that religion. This view does not logically follow.

      Sixth, she is pro critical thinking, thinking for yourself and free will, however, these are all Christian ethos (even though she seems to not think that). Discernment, knowledge and wisdom (critical thinking), free will (can be found throughout the Bible) and thinking for yourself, again gaining knowledge and using wisdom. However, the Bible too makes the claim that we don’t know everything and we are not perfect (ya, obvious) and there is one that does and is (you may disagree, but that is the claim, and if it is true, it is true whether you like it or not). If true, we better listen to the one who does know a lot of things (which the Bible calls God). That is not that crazy it seems to me, especially if true.

      Seventh, she in this video and other videos, wants to give herself and other people the praise and glory for accomplishments (and rightfully so in one sense) and not God. However, even though she does not believe in God, God was the one who gave her life, free will, the ability and desire to think and her creativity. In other words, she is sitting in God’s lap and trying to slap his face. I don’t find that attitude very tasteful.

  • Keith Ziegler

    Unfortunately the author here is using the bible for her justification and that simple doesn’t work. The bible is the claim, not the evidence.

    Simple reality, there was no Adam and Eve, that means no original sin.

    Sorry but REAL truth, supported by scientific data TRUMPS religious mythology that people pretend is truth.

    Besides, why would you WANT the bible to be true, if it was, that would make the thing you worship a monster.

    • Daniel C.

      Keith, it strike me as if you have hurt in your voice. Let’s but it this way, you made some truth claims such as scientific data trumps religious mythology, but what scientific data do you have to support your claim? In addition, I’m not sure if anyone wants or does not want the Bible to be true. It comes down to the question of is it true? If it is, it is true, if not, it is not true. Our opinion and wants have nothing to do with this type of truth.

      • Functional OrOO

        Daniel, if you seriously are asking for scientific data to refute creationism (Adam/Eve, Noah, etc.) then either you have never studied any science at all or you are buying into the creationists’ pseudo-science.

        Here is just one of many series of videos pitting science against creationism. But seriously, if you are asking the question you’ve already chosen to ignore science.
        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL126AFB53A6F002CC

        • Daniel C.

          I would appreciate you to give me an argument, not a video. Maybe chose one claim in the video and we can talk about it, if it has merits or not. Pick one or two of your favorites for this discussion.

          • Functional OrOO

            You and the original poster claim creationism is true.
            Science proves creationism is false.
            If you believe science supports creationism, please point to peer-reviewed science papers that support creationism. There are thousands of peer-reviewed papers which show biblical creationism to be false.

            I provided a link to a series of videos which present information about science disproving creationism. If you have some valid, peer-reviewed claim to show the truth of Adam/Eve, Noah’s Ark, or other biblical creationism claims please provide them.

          • Daniel C.

            What do you not like or think is false about creationism? Adam and Eve and Noah’s Ark? I guess those are not the foundational claims of the idea of Creation, nor are they my expertise. If you really want to talk about those two issue we can, however, I think the real issue comes down to the origin of life, did God create life (ie creation) or did it all come about through naturalistic mechanisms. These mechanisms would include abiogenesis and Darwinian evolution (DE). DE claims that all life on earth came from a universal common ancestor via genetic mutation filtered by natural selection. I would argue the former. So what is your evidence of abiogenesis and Darwinian evolution?

          • Functional OrOO

            As is typical for a creationist, you are trying to change the discussion.
            Whether abiogenesis or any of the dozens of other hypotheses about the beginnings of life are true or false, that does absolutely nothing to show any truth in the biblical creation story or any of the “Supernatural Jesus” myth or of the existence of a god.
            Whether evolution is true or false does nothing to show any truth in the biblical creation story or the Jesus myth or existence of a god.

            Please show evidence to support the biblical creation story, Jesus being a supernatural being, or the existence of a god.
            The original poster claimed truth in biblical creation; specifically Adam and Eve and original sin. You have posted in support of her. Please provide your evidence.

          • Daniel C.

            Actually abiogenesis is the main issue here, it goes counter to the Biblical record. If true, that God did not create life, including Adam and Eve, then you would have a point. However, that is main thesis that will have to be addressed. Did God create life (including Adam and Eve) or did humans evolve from lower animals as Darwin and others suggest. I would say no, first we have NO evidence life started nationalistically, second, the best evidence is life comes from life, always, third the information within the cell makes Darwinism and abiogenesis unworkable.

            Concerning the reality of the existence of Jesus (topic change alert), I’m not sure who does not think he did not exist anymore. We do know from the historical record (biblical and extra-biblical) that he existed, he was a miracle worker, he died on a Roman cross, he was buried, he was placed in a guarded tomb for three days and hundreds of people claimed to see him alive after that time.

            So for you, what are your reasons why God does not exist, since you brought it up?

          • Functional OrOO

            Daniel, once again you are showing the deceitful acts of a biblical creationist by trying to change the conversation.

            The topic you and I responded to was the original poster’s claim that Adam and Eve and original sin as presented in the bible is a true story. You are trying to change the discussion away from that.

            Additionally, you are saying that I stated Jesus never existed. I never stated that; I don’t know if he existed or not. However, if you ask any honest biblical scholar, he will tell you: There is no reason whatsoever to believe that if Jesus existed at all, he was anything more than an apocalyptic Jewish priest who went around preaching that the end of times would come during the lifetime of those he preached to. There is no evidence at all of anything supernatural related to Jesus outside the bible, and HONEST biblical scholars will be quick to tell you there’s no reason to believe the supernatural claims of the bible.

            “Hundreds of people claimed to see him alive after that time” <– Please provide a reference to any documentation outside the bible for this. You are making a claim that exists only in the bible, and quoting it as if it is accepted fact. Biblical scholars will gladly tell you there is no reason to believe the claim.

            "what are your reasons why God does not exist" <– again, a dishonest question. I never claimed none of the thousands of gods exists, I simply said there is no evidence for any of them. If you have evidence to show that one or more of the thousands of believed gods exists, please provide evidence.

            I can see that you are a quite dishonest person, Daniel, so there is no point continuing this conversation.

            Good video on the biblical Jesus:
            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAEghxnK3UU

          • Secret Forever

            @functionaloroo:disqus, Yes, things can be explained by science. Yes, we all have our own theories on why things happened, and yes, I am a Christian. We believe that the Bible is truth, and that God preserved it for so long. I don’t feel as if I need evidence, but I will give you some anyway. Christianity is built on faith, faith that he exists and that he loves us, and that he sent his son to die on Calvary. Ok, evidence time. 1) How are you reading this? It is because of your brain right? But, have you ever stopped and thought about how complex it is? We still need to learn about it. It is a wonderful thing! It is nothing man could produce… it is nothing short of a miracle. 2) Now that we have covered the brain, look at the rest of you! Just coincidence? Maybe, but why isn’t there diversity? Shouldn’t it just be one really intelligent species? You tell me. 3) And do find evidence proving me wrong. I beg of you, I want to see it.