5 Ways to Make Sure Your Friends (Don’t) Like God

How do I get my friends that never talk about God to actually like Him? That’s what one of you asked me recently.

Well, ultimately you can’t make anyone like God. But there are some things you can do along the way that will definitely help . . . or hurt. Here are five ways you can help your friends not like God.

  1. Don’t enjoy God yourself.
    You can’t help but talk about what you enjoy. So don’t spend any time with Him, just you and Him. And by all means, don’t enjoy Him! Then you might not be able to contain your excitement—you might spill the latest thing you’ve been admiring about Him—and your friends might actually get excited about God, too.
  2. Don’t live what you claim to believe.
    Embrace Jesus as your Savior but not your Lord. It doesn’t really matter that you follow and obey Him each day. I mean, He shouldn’t mess up your life or plans or have a say over every area of your life. That would be too . . . radical, don’t you think?
  3. Don’t share the Good News with your friend.
    There are a whole heap of reasons for this. It might make the conversation weird. You might stutter and stumble over your words. Surely your friend wouldn’t be interested! And what if it ruined your friendship? You might miss out on a future opportunity to share the Good News with her.
  4. Only share the gospel once, but expect your friend to trust in Christ immediately.
    Never mind the fact that God is a patient God or that you and I had to hear the gospel countless times; this is different. Your friend really should just get it! Besides, if you’ve told him or her once, you’ve done your job, right?
  5. Never seek to understand.
    Don’t ask your friend questions; don’t seek to understand what he or she has been told about God, or if they even believe He exists at all. Just preach at your friend. Act as if you have all the answers. I mean, you basically do, right? Why bother asking questions like Jesus did? He was God—you’re not. Just try to impress them with all your knowledge.

Of course I’m saying this tongue in cheek, since you and I actually want our friends to like God. In fact, we want them to love Him with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength! But sometimes we put obstacles in their way.

Have you ever done any of this? If so, what do you relate to? And more importantly, what can you do today to share the Good News with your friend in a way that will possibly help them almost . . . like God?

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on PaulaWrites.com.

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  • Paybay

    I’m kind of confused about the post. I’m not sure if what you were writing under the subheadings is stuff that we should do or stuff that we shouldn’t do. Can you elaborate a little more,I’m kind of confused. :/

    • phendricks

      Sorry for the confusion, Paybay. Instead of writing 5 ways to help your friends LIKE God, I flipped it and wrote the opposite–5 ways to make sure your friends DON’T like God. So no, you shouldn’t do what’s under each point–you should do just the opposite. Does that help?

      • Paybay

        Ohh, ok. Thanks!!

  • Katie

    OMYGOODNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE BLOG IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT!!!!!!!!!! WHOA!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • phendricks

      🙂 Playing around with a different approach today, Katie.

      • phendricks

        I just realized you’re probably not talking about my post but about the whole site. Isn’t it beautiful? We’ve been planning this redesign for years. 🙂

        • Katie

          tee hee 🙂 You’re so cute! Yes, I did mean the site! It’s NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s going to take a while for me to get used to not seeing the lime green background that was familiar, but it’s not a bad change! Like it! 🙂

          And the article was great, Paula! <3 I appreciated several points that the sarcasm brings to light 😉

          • phendricks

            🙂

  • jiujitsulover

    Did you guys pick the design of this site based off of GirlDefined.com ? This new look is really confusing and hard to learn how to do stuff. Is it possible to change it back if enough people don’t like it?

    • phendricks

      Hey, jiujitsulover,

      Nope, we didn’t base this site off GirlDefined.com. This site update was looooong overdue. We can’t really “go back” to the old site, but we can do our best to make things better as we move ahead. Feel free to send us specific items you find confusing, and we may address those as time allows.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us! Grateful you’re here,

      paula

  • Hannah

    I love the new look guys!!!
    And great blog post, Mrs. Paula 🙂

    • phendricks

      Thanks, Hannah!