A Beautiful Calling

From the LYWB.com Team: We’re shaking things up a bit round here on the Lies blog. Instead of blog posts, we’ll be leading you through an online Bible study for the next two weeks. The study comes from Erin’s newest books, A Beautiful Story and Beautiful Encounters. You don’t need copies of the books to participate, just yourself and your Bible. We will return to regularly scheduled programming October 9. Grab your Bible (and maybe your journal and a pen), and join us as we look for the gospel in the lives of four Old Testament women. (Psst . . . be sure to keep reading for your chance to win signed copies of A Beautiful Story and Beautiful Encounters.)

After traveling for weeks, I was finally on my way home. All I could think about was seeing my family and sleeping in my own bed again. Then a storm hit, causing my flight to be canceled. I fought hot tears as I stood in line waiting for new flight information.

I kept my cool until I stepped up to the counter and met the rude woman working the desk. Her attitude stunk! After a few minutes of her cranky behavior, my calm disguise cracked. I pointed my finger and said (loudly), “You don’t have the right to be rude to me!” Then I turned and marched myself in the opposite direction. As soon as I rounded the corner, I collapsed in a heap of tears. What is it about uncalled for rudeness that rattles us so much?

As I look back on that airport encounter, I’m not proud of my response. If I had that moment to do over again, I would choose to respond with humility and kindness instead of anger and frustration. I wish I’d been more like Abigail.

Before we look at the details of Abigail’s life, let’s examine the backstory. David was anointed by the prophet Samuel as the next king of Israel (1 Sam. 16:1–13). That was good news for David, but it was not such good news for Saul, the reigning king of Israel. Knowing David would someday take his throne sent Saul into a jealous rage, and he set out to kill David (1 Sam. 23:15). David had an opportunity to kill Saul instead, but he didn’t take it. He chose to honor Saul and his authority (1 Sam. 24:1–15).

David and his men were on the run and living in the wilderness when they met Abigail and her husband, Nabal.

Humble and Kind

Read 1 Samuel 25:2–11. Abigail is described as “discerning and beautiful.” Her husband, on the other hand was “harsh and badly behaved.” What a difference!

Fast forward to 1 Samuel 25:23–24. I’d describe Abigail’s reaction as humble and kind. God’s Word encourages us to have the same attitude as Abigail. Humility can be a slightly tricky concept to grasp (and to live). It means to trade in our wants and needs for the wants and needs of others.

Read Colossians 3:12. This verse lists five virtues we should “put on” as God’s chosen ones.

  1. Compassionate hearts
  2. Kindness
  3. Humility
  4. Meekness
  5. Patience

Live Like Daughters of the King

The primary difference between Nabal and Abigail wasn’t in their words and attitudes, but in their hearts.

Read Luke 6:45.

Our words and actions reveal the true condition of our hearts. Grab your Bible and a pen, and I will show you what I mean.

Go back through 1 Samuel 25, and underline every time you see the word lord in lowercase. Circle every time you see the word Lord in uppercase. (The fancy word for writing in our Bibles is “annotating,” short for “add notes to.” It’s my favorite way to understand Scripture.)

Abigail referred to David as lord, showing him honor as the future king. But she referred to God as Lord, demonstrating her trust and surrender to Him.

If Abigail’s words revealed what was on her heart, she was a woman fully surrendered to God as her true King and David as her future king. Eventually, Abigail became royalty herself, marrying David and accompanying him to the palace where he reigned for forty years (1 Sam. 25:39–42). But first, Abigail was a daughter of the true King. She was able to respond to a rude husband and to an angry future king with kindness and humility because she trusted the Lord.

Talk About It

We cannot face difficult people gracefully on our own. Pride seems to come more naturally to us than humility. There are moments when each of us wants to respond with anger or bitterness rather than kindness. Abigail’s story reminds us that it is only because of our relationship with the Lord that we can respond rightly to others.

Read John 14:26. Consider how the Holy Spirit is described in this verse.

How do you need the Holy Spirit to help you today? Leave us a comment below with your answer. I will choose one commenter each day to receive signed copies of A Beautiful Story and Beautiful Encounters.

Be sure to hurry back to the blog on Monday. We will start part two of our online Bible study, focusing on Jesus’ encounters with women in the New Testament.

About Author

Erin Davis

Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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  • Tera V.

    In my opinion, the Holy Spirit is probably the second most beautiful gift God has given us. (the first being Salvation of course) I need the Holy Spirit everyday. The Holy Spirit (or the Helper): guides me down the right path, helps me show grace, gives me peace when all around me is chaos, pleas my case before God the Father (Romans 8:26), and gives us an assurance in sharing in God’s glory (Colossians 1:27). Without the Holy Spirit, I would be nothing.

  • Lisa Yabra

    YAY new bible study!!! ok now let me read it

  • Rose

    The part at the airport really spoke to me because I deal with rude people everyday at my work place, but with the help of the Holy Spirit, I always respond nicely. That’s not to say though my thoughts are always pure, but that us what I need help with everyday.

  • isabella loiola castelo branco

    I want to be more sweeter than I am now. I really would like to express the beauty of Jesus through my behavior, as Abigail did. I’d like to be mature enough to respond with kindness even in the midst os rudeness. Thank you Erin, you’ve blessed my heart! <3

  • hannah

    I need help with doing what my mom and dad tell me to do.
    And how will we know if we win the books?

  • Brittania

    The Holy Spirit needs to help me in EVERYTHING! lol. He is God. I esp. need Him to help me with self control and kindness. He is amazing. You have to ask Him to help you. I love Him!

  • Gladys

    Thank you for this,taught me alot

  • Alissa

    In reality we need the Holy Spirit for everything, every day. For today I especially need him to guide me in being more Christ-like and to shine with the light of the gospel daily.

  • Kerry

    I feel like When do we not need the Holy Spirit? I’ve been praying these past few days for the Holy Spirit to speak through me especially in situations where I would totally blow it and just for the courage to be bold but also tactful and not rude. Sometimes the hardest part is that we know what we should be like or what we should do but instead of asking the Holy Spirit to help us, we try on our own and fail hopelessly. I’m learning (albeit slowly) to surrender my speech and ways to the Spirit of God.

  • Faith M. Borres

    Honestly, for me the Holy Spirit is needed in our daily lives, in everything we do. But if there’s one specific area in my life now that I really need the Holy Spirit, it is my relationship with others and specially how I respond to people who are harsh towards me. Thank you for this post! 💓

  • Erin S.

    I have come to realize there is not an aspect in my life where I do not need the Helper. Especially if I wish to live a life worthy of Him, to treat others as one in Christ, and to have correct thoughts and actions even when it seems no one is looking. To think that there are any areas where the Holy Spirit is not needed is foolish and deceitful thinking. He is as needed as much as we need oxygen.

  • Amy Cook

    Another great read, PRAISE GOD he’s showing me new things daily through this study❤

  • Esther Sentosa

    God’s word is refreshing to the soul and sharper than a double edged sword. Thank you so much for spending your time for us and teaching us and pointing us towards Christ. LYWB has been a blessing.

  • Coral Vásquez

    This makes me notice that I really need God to work in my life. I usually respond with anger when someone offends me or treats me bad. Even today someone said something cruel to me and I got so mad at him that I answered back ignoring him. I need to learn a lot from this history and from Jesus.

  • Kayla Stewart

    I need help with my words and actions. They’re not always the best -lol! I love how Abigail responded to David’s threat on her husbands life. She responded with humility and kindness, not anger.