Are You Really His? The Proof Is in Your Words.

For the past three weeks we’ve been talking about words, words, words. Is all this talk just a good suggestion?

Nope, it’s a lot more serious than that. Turns out your future is at stake, according to Jesus:

“I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matt. 12:36–37).

Umm, question! Doesn’t that sound like we’re working our way to heaven?

Nope. We’d never be good enough to get to heaven on our own. It’s just that our words reveal our hearts like a thermometer reveals a fever or snow reveals cold.

Our words clearly show our true heart condition. God doesn’t miss a thing, and He says we’ll give an account to Him one day soon of every single word we ever spoke (gulp!). I’m gonna guess that also includes words we type, text, etc.

Like I said a couple weeks ago, we all desperately need a heart transplant (because our words reflect a deeper problem: a heart problem).

But how? Do you have to fill out a bunch of paperwork? Get stuck on a waiting list for years? Save up thousands of dollars?

Nope! God wants to give you a new heart. His heart.

When you confess to God the sin in your heart and ask Him to give you a new one, He will generously give you His Holy Spirit. And it won’t cost you a penny; it’s a gift! It wasn’t free for the Son of God, mind you; it cost Him His life. But it’s free for you.

Check out His promise in Ezekiel 36:26–29:

“I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.

“And I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules. . . . You shall be my people, and I will be your God. And I will deliver you from all your uncleannesses.”

By the way, this isn’t a get-out-of-hell-free-and-then-live-any-way-you-want card. If you really understand your need for a heart transplant and God’s crazy incredible grace in giving one to you, you will be forever changed.

And the proof will be in your new words.

You’ll begin to serve a new Master now with every single word you speak. He’ll own your tongue, your body, your life.

If you know you’ve never truly received a heart transplant, would you agree with God about the condition of your wicked heart and ask Him to replace it with His righteous one? If so, He’ll do it immediately!

If, on the other hand, you’ve had a heart transplant but when you take the Are Your Words Nasty or Nice? quiz you still see sin coming out of your mouth, would you:

  1. Confess to God the big ways you’re sinning with your mouth and choose to turn from them.
  2. Ask God how you can begin to store up good treasures in your heart by practicing the opposite of that sinful tendency.For example, if you struggle with lying, ask the person for forgiveness each time you lie to them. Do this until you begin to speak only the truth.Or if you regularly tear others down—even just in your thoughts—begin to intentionally encourage those people.
  3. Share your top struggles and commitments with a friend for prayer and accountability.

Sound like a plan?

Thanks for tracking with me through this series. I’d love to hear what God showed you and how you responded to Him!

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on

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  • Brooklyn Mikinzie

    I’ve just loved this series! God has been changing my heart from the very first post.
    I’ve noticed a difference in my words, actions, and thoughts. I used to be sarcastic, slightly obnoxious, and oblivious to it all. However these posts have opened my eyes to the fact that I needed to pray for and strive toward a heart change. I can see the change, and others can too. Thank you for this!!!

    • phendricks

      Wow, how incredibly encouraging, Brooklyn. Thank You, Lord! Continue the good work you’ve begun in Brooklyn, please.

  • Bri Yordy

    This is so true. Are we really his? This question really gets me thinking. I’m glad to know I am his.

    • phendricks

      Glad it got you thinking, Bri!

  • Maggie Smith

    Thank you so much for this! This month last year I lost me grandmother, and for a long time afterwards I questioned God about why He had taken her away from me. Then because I was questioning God about His reasons my faith suffered, and I began to question whether I really was a Christian, or if I had been “faking it” this whole time. I wanted to worship, but part of me felt like God didn’t really deserve my praise, because He had taken my grandmother from me. I knew that God absolutely deserved my praise, but I still struggled, and found it hard to truly worship Him like I wanted to. And because I was unable to worship Him I found it hard to believe in Him, and that He had saved me. But a sermon my pastor preached last week made me realize that God didn’t have to answer to me, and I began to thank Him for his goodness even though there had been grieving as well. And this post has made me realize that I am His, and thank Him for that. True, there is growing to do, and I will need your prayers, but I am willing to do a complete 180 degree turn from wondering about Gods sovereignty to worshiping Him for the Savior He sent. Thank you so very much for this post.
    If you would like to listen to the sermon my pastor preached then just go to Google, and type in “Watkinsville First Baptist Church Georgia.”, and click on the first link. The sermon came from Romans 5, which you can hear when you click on the section that says “Listen”. Have a great day, and may God bless you!

    • phendricks

      Wow, Maggie, praise for the Lord! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry for the pain you’ve felt at the death of your grandma, but I am so encouraged by your choice to repent and trust the Lord even when you don’t understand His ways.

      Praying for you now!



      PS: Were you able to tell your pastor how much his sermon helped you? I’m sure that would be so encouraging for him to hear!

  • Jj

    This journey of a heart He’s shaping has been exciting and convicting! Every time I think I’m doing okay He shows me more of His side if things- is the heart He sees beautiful like He intends to make it? I know that I am His but do my words show it?

    Anyway. Thank you for this. I love love love those Ezekiel verses. 🙂


    • phendricks

      You are so welcome, Jj!

  • Becca

    Oh my goodness I love this post! Very great message:) Please tell me I’m not the only one who thought of “Hermie, A Common Caterpillar” where God always told Hermie that He was giving him “a Heart like His”?

    • phendricks

      Hey, Becca,

      I’ll have to check that book out–I haven’t heard of it. 🙂

  • Leloh

    thank you!!!!
    Paula Hendricks
    i promise you everytime you guys post something it always seems like you guys are speaking to my life and circumstances im faced with. the past week was in trouble because i had shared information i shouldn’t have…. and i realized that i should stop sharing staff that hurt people rather share staff that will make them happy and build them as individuals, its a struggle but it works when i don’t get to excited about a topic that is being shared among the fellow friends im with..i just talk less and lesser and i than sleep peacefully without that guilt of ‘i wonder how she will say now that i have shared her secret” or rather asking myself if “i didn’t hurt her feelings” you know so i got the (gulp) moment myself lol !!

    this year has built me as a child of God in a way nobody could have thought a year ago and blogs like these just make it all easy by answering all the questions we all have in our hearts.

    p.s stay blessed and God bless you!!