Better Than Boy Meets Girl

Boy meets girl.
Boy falls in love with girl. (And girl falls in love with boy, of course!)
Boy asks girl to marry him.
Boy and girl live happily ever after.

That’s the scenario I wish could happen to me. It’s simple, typical, yet seemingly unattainable in my life right now. I can’t help but wonder, Will it ever happen for me?

Are you like me, wondering when the love of your life will appear?
Wondering if any guy will ever pick you?
Wondering if you’ll ever know what it’s like to be a bride?

Do you secretly wonder if you’re really worth pursuing in the first place?

I understand if those are the painful questions your heart is burdened with. They are mine as well. “Isn’t there anyone out there who would love me enough to want to marry me?” Slap! The answer hit me in the face one dismal afternoon as I was dreaming and wishing and wondering when and if a man could ever fall in love with me.

With a jolt, I was reminded that there is Someone who is madly in love with me! He kept pursuing me even when I wanted nothing to do with Him. When I was tempted to give up, He refused to accept my resignation. When I was unfaithful to Him, He patiently and lovingly followed and forgave me. He never gave up on me. He gave His life for me!


The story I long for has already been written, and it’s bigger and better than I’ve imagined in my most elaborate daydream.

God creates girl.
God loves girl even when girl doesn’t always love God.
God sent His Son to die for girl.
God has already made a way for me to be a spotless, radiant bride (Rev. 19:7–9).

This isn’t wishful thinking. It isn’t something just to daydream about. It’s true! We are chosen by God to be Christ’s betrothed. Right now, He is preparing a place for us in heaven so we can be with Him forever and enjoy the eternal wedding feast. The Bible calls it the marriage supper of the Lamb.

An Invitation to Think Again

Knowing these deep truths doesn’t necessarily diminish our desire for marriage, and God isn’t asking us to crush our desires! Marriage was His idea, after all. But when we look to God’s Word we find that:

We are loved.
We are desired.
We have been pursued.

When our emotions and desires tell us otherwise, they are lying to us. In that moment, we have a choice to trust our feelings or to trust our God.

You Have Captivated My Heart

Have you ever read the Song of Solomon? It is saturated with romance and alludes to Christ’s love for us, His Bride.

Check out verse 4:9:

You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.

We have captivated Christ’s heart! Isn’t that a staggering thought?

Don’t think for a minute that I have mastered contentment with being single or that I never doubt how truly treasured I am by the Lord and that He is more than enough for me. I do! But God’s Word points my heart back toward the truth.

Can Jesus truly satisfy? Can He really be enough? The bride was asked this question in Song of Solomon 5:9:

What is your beloved more than another beloved, O most beautiful among women? What is your beloved more than another beloved, that you thus adjure us?

In other words, what made him so much more special than any other man? The bride declared her groom to be “altogether desirable” (v. 16). So is Jesus! When we look to Him, we will discover that we can never get enough of Him. He is an ocean of love whose depths we can never reach. When our hearts get tied up in knots, if we would stop and consider the lengths that Christ went for us on the cross and the vast depths of His passionate love for us, any notion of not being valued enough would go out the window. We are so cherished! We are so wanted!

We may not have a diamond ring to put on our finger, but one day we will receive a crown in glory (1 Peter 5:4). We have a choice. We can continue to put our hope and sense of worth in a possible human marriage, or we can look at Christ’s love for us and see how deeply loved we are. May the knowledge of that vast love help us trust He is working for our good, even while He is (at least temporarily) withholding from us that which we so long for.

For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you (Isa. 62:5).

PS: Don’t miss tomorrow’s post to discover the one thing you need most to become a great wife someday.

About Author

Kaitlin Dendekker

As a single young woman, Kaitlin knows the challenge of resisting the world's pull but can testify of the full satisfaction that's found only in the Lord. Her primary goal is to point the eyes of women to Jesus Christ, making Him the Lover of their soul. In her free time, she can be found either writing, painting, baking, playing piano, or reading (usually three books on the go). She also teaches Sunday school to a lively bunch of young children.

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  • Beautiful reminder! Thank you!

  • Chelsey

    Yes! I agree that sometimes we forget the One who loves us most and should be our frist love as well! Thank you for the reminder and transparency!

  • Evenstar

    So lovely…thank you for sharing with us

  • Myranda

    This article and yesterdays together are powerful. I subscribed to this blog because I am a bonus mom to a teen girl, but it still convicts me. I’ve been struggling through figuring out what to do now that I’m happily married with a house in the country, cute kids and a few animals. Ever since I can remember, I’ve spent a lot of time dreaming of the future and now I really wish I had prepared for the future a little more. Learning how to live in the moment and be content, learning how to have good healthy habits and learning to have bigger faith would have been a lot better way to spend all those hours I sat around designing my life in my own imagination. I wonder how much I missed in those hours I spent daydreaming? I wonder which girlfriends could have used a more attentive friend? How much difference could I have made? How much more could I have prayed and matured?

    • Morgan

      Good insight!

  • Becca<3

    I needed this so much. Thank you for the encouragement!

  • Brittania

    Thank you….I feel better

  • Chelsie

    Hi, I just want to share sth. I have been liking this boy quite a while, and he too. And we were just friends all the time but we were getting closer and closer to the stage of being another thing, and I knew he would ask me to be his girlfriend and I was hopeful and he was too, but I knew we just couldnt date cuz it is not the time, my parents dont agree and he is not even a christian but he is changing. So, one day i couldnt take it any longer and I just told that he has to forget me and that nothing will happen between us. He accepted. I know he still likes me and he knows I like him too. And I think he is forgetting me as I told him, is good, really good. I should try and make the same thing but I cant cuz I have never felt something like this, and I really do like him. I feel so bad. And I know God can comfort me and that made the right thing, but it hurts so bad. I just want to share this.

    • Kaitlin

      Thank-you for sharing, Chelsea. I know this was difficult for you, but you can expect blessings from God for doing the right thing. Take your pain and hurt to Christ. Feel your emotions and them give them to Him. He understands.