Book Review & a Freebie Friday Giveaway!

From the Team: Hi, girls! Because we want to point you toward great resources that will help you choose truth, you will start to see the occasional book review here on the blog. Just because we review a book doesn’t mean we agree with every word between its covers, but we do think it’s worth considering as you add to your bookshelf. Check out this review of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart.

The way people meet and form romantic relationships has changed drastically in the last fifteen years. With the surge of technology, online dating, social media, dating apps, and cohabitation, many are left wondering, How am I supposed to figure out relationships with all these options?

In his book, Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age, Ben Stuart tackles this question. He weaves modern questions with biblical truths and clearly shows how to navigate relationships in a fulfilling and God-honoring way. Here’s a sneak peek of each section of the book.

First Things First

The tagline for this chapter reads, “We must get a relationship with God right before we can get a relationship with a guy or girl right.” Stuart doesn’t want the reader to settle for a cheap version of love, so he reiterates the importance of our relationship with God and provides biblical items that show God’s love.

Single: Devotion

Many singles spend years pining for a relationship. Stuart wants the reader to completely avoid this mindset and describes the purpose of singleness and how that relates to serving God and growing as a person. The freedom of the single years offers the unique opportunity of devotion to God that many attached people cannot have. This section focuses on the life of the apostle Paul as an example on how to live the single years well.

Dating: Evaluation

Stuart makes it abundantly clear that before we start dating, we need to be serving the Lord and “running the race” God has set before us. This section also focuses on finding the right person to date, four pitfalls to avoid, good character, and chemistry, along with seven principles of how to date.

Before wrapping up with a biblical case study of Isaac and Rebekah, Stuart devotes an entire chapter to sex. He describes God’s design for sex and relays how many people deal with deep hurts and regrets today because they let their sexual “fire” burn out of control.

Engaged: Union

“But how do I know if they’re ‘the one’?” is the main question Stuart addresses in this section. (We talk a lot about that here on the blog, too! Type “the one” into our blog search engine to find out more.) Stuart’s book outlines four ways to determine the answer. He also shows how to bring together your family, finances, future, and faith. The biblical case study dissects the relationship of Solomon and the Shulamite woman.

Married: Mission

In this section, Stuart describes God’s design for marriage and how it should reflect Him. He also tackles everyone’s “favorite” topic of submission and how a husband is to love his wife. The biblical case study centers on Priscilla and Aquila who were integral with helping spread the apostle Paul’s ministry.

Love Is Learned

Many people believe that you either get how to do relationships or you don’t. This is not the case. Anyone can learn how to have good relationships, and this book helps do just that. No matter what relationship stage you find yourself in, this book charts a clear path to follow, and I highly recommend it.

What’s your favorite relationship book? Let us know below!

PS: We’re giving away one of our favorite relationship books And the Bride Wore White for Freebie Friday today! Log on to the giveaway widget below before commenting for your chance to win a copy.

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About Author

Sarah Garrett

Sarah Garrett is a passionate educator and founder of the Transformed4More Ministries that she runs with her identical twin sister. It is her desire to reach struggling teenagers and tell them about the transformative power and love of God. Her book, "So, You Think You Are Ready to Date?" released in October 2017.

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  • Emily Anderson

    I absolutely love “Girl Defined” by Kirsten and Bethany! Thank you for this sweet giveaway.

    • Sarah

      I love “Girl Defined” also Emily! They are fun to listen to and also provide a lot of really good and helpful information and tips.

  • I know that whole thing isn’t about relationships, but Lies Young Women Believe has the best chapter on relationships than any other book I’ve read!

  • Edna Mullett

    I love the book “It’s Not That Complicated” by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin. It’s biblical, practical, and encouraging 🙂

  • I’m always looking for more good Christian books to read. Thanks for the review and I’ll have to check this book out! I love “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Brett Harris.

    • hannah

      Do u mean Joshua Harris

      • Lol yes sorry. Those Harris brothers get me confused sometimes 😛

  • My favorite relationship books right are “When God Writes Your Love Story” by Eric and Leslie Ludy and “It’s Not that Complicated” by Ana Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin.

  • Allie

    Aside from God’s Word (the best relationship book there is!), I’ve been really blessed by Captivating by John and Stasi Eldridge, When Dreams Come True by the Ludys, and Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliott.

  • Marie Pellegrini

    I’m reciently engaged and have been looking for great relationship resources to read. I enjoyed the “5 love languages”.

  • Abby

    I know people have already said these, but I love It’s (Not that) Complicated by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin, and I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris. I also love When Dreams Come True by Eric & Leslie Ludy, and I’m looking forward to reading more from the Ludy’s – they have such amazing, truth-filled books, podcasts, and sermons!

  • Hannah B

    Well these have already been mentioned but; Lies Young Women Believe, It’s (Not that) complicated by the Botkin sisters, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, and The Five Love languages for singles.

  • Hannah D.

    This looks like a really good book, I would LOVE it!😃 Thanks for all the contest and post you guys do, they have helped me a lot!!!

  • JaLynn Rae Atnip

    I actually haven’t really read many relationship books but I’d like to read the bride wore white at some point in my life.😂

  • rebeccavanmiddelkoop

    “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris for sure!

  • Sarah

    “Praying for your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His” by Robin Jones Gunn is the only book that I have read on relationships, but this one was really good.

  • Kailee Scroggins

    Praying for your Future Husband by Robin Jones Gunn! It definitely changed my outlook on marriage!

  • Hannah Espineda

    I’ve enjoyed the relationship advice/encouragement from Girl Defined and Kirk Cameron 🙂 If you’re looking for something wholesome to follow on Facebook, follow them!

  • Keren

    I loved the book ‘Pure love, pure life’ by Elsa Colopy . It explores God’s heart on purity and it is very helpful for living a Christ-like pure life!

  • Esther Sentosa

    I loved “Boy Meets Girl” and “I kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris. It really helped me to shape my view on dating and marriage.

  • Kayla

    My favorite is “Preparing to be Help Meet”, by Debi Pearl. It has helped me a lot over the years. 🙂

  • Grace

    I really like preparing to be a help meet and before you meet prince charming.

  • Rebeca

    Loved it!!!

  • Rebeca

    My favorite is Passion and Purity!

  • Lois

    I think my favorite would be “When Dreams Come True” by Eric and Leslie Ludy (so good!).

  • Shepherd’s Handmaiden

    I have SOOO MANY favorite relationship books!!! But for now I’ll have to say Joshua Harris’ Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship

  • Lily Thomas

    I know this is probably the lamest list ever, but here goes…
    Lies young woman believe,
    The princess’s kiss
    His little princess
    there it is. I love these so much.

  • Rebecca

    I don’t know I haven’t read too many relationship books, but the five love languages would be a nice one.

  • Anna

    Not Yet Married by Marshall Segal is great, as well as Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot.

  • Brittany

    I like Just Friends by Mike Ray. It was good!

  • hannah

    Mine is every Young Woman’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Arterburn foreword by Josh Mcdowell