Christ or Crush? (Mysterious)

Everyone knows girls like mysterious guys. There’s something thrilling about not being able to quite figure them out.

But have you ever thought about how the same is true of Christ? If you wanna talk about mysterious . . .

After you’ve watched this video, I’d love to hear from you. What do you think about the mysteriousness of your crush and the mysteriousness of Christ? Do you think you could ever fully know and understand your crush? Will you ever fully know and understand Christ? Does this fact make you want to pursue getting to know Him more or less through His Word?

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on PaulaWrites.com.

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  • Rebecca Brown

    I think I could one day understand my crush fully even though he is quite mysterious. I never can tell what he is really thinking as of right now, however. We are going through a situation right now where we are “just friends” but we used to like each other a lot! He isn’t easy to figure out, but I would say that his mysteriousness attracts me more.
    I think Christ is becoming more attractive to me. He seems mysterious in a loving, almost romantic way. He is always there for me and wants to hear my voice even though he can read all of my thoughts. He is willing to bare my burdens on His shoulders if I’ll let Him. I think Christ’s mysteriousness attracts me to Him just like it does to my crush.
    I know I can’t ever fully understand Christ, but I want to get to know Him as much as possible because He gave Himself for me. The ultimate proof of true love.

    • Paula Hendricks

      Thanks so much for sharing, Rebecca!

  • Jackie

    Great post 🙂 I don’t think it’s possible to fully understand anyone much less God. Right now I’m just trying to give my crush to God, I know that he will put us together if we were meant to be together. 🙂 I have a bit of a question, is it wrong to do things to get guy’s attention? I’ve read this blog’s posts on girls pursuing guys, and it just seems that a guy wouldn’t bother pursuing a girl if she doesn’t try to get his attention in some way.

    • Paula Hendricks

      Dear Jackie,

      Take it from the girl who’s spent years manipulating circumstances and pasting on a smile and doing whatever it took to get a guy’s attention: that’s a dead-end street. God doesn’t need your help gifting you to a guy. A guy doesn’t need your help to notice you. God has hardwired him to do just that.

      Pursue your God who is love, and enjoy the guys and girls He places in your life, but don’t feel like the future of your love life is up to you. It’s not. I promise!

      You can rest,


  • Emilie Bryant

    I love this post! 🙂 I think that one day you could maybe figure your crush out…. It is, at least, humanly possible. Although I’m sure it’s not humanly possible to figure God out for several reasons, but mostly because he is after all, the one who created everyone here on earth and sooooooooo many other creatures… all with different personalities. and those personalities happen to all be just a tiny piece of God’s creativity.. not anywhere close to all of it. and because everyone here has sooo little personality compared to God, that it would have to be confusing to understand God. Does that make sense?

    • Paula Hendricks

      Emilie, friend! So good to hear your thoughts. Thanks for taking the time to post.

  • Lynn

    Thanks as always for the thought provoking posts!! I really love plugging into this and being encouraged by Gods Word 🙂 but on the subject of understand your crush…. I don’t belive that we can fully understand someone else for two reasons:

    1. My parents are amazing and will have been married for 22 years this July and they have always taught me that you can never jump to conclusions on what you THINK your spouse is or is thinking… I also have seen them walk away from a conversation and say, “Wow I didn’t even know that about you, honey!”
    2. It’s hard enough to fully understand ourselves and be purely honest about our own motives and such; so, I believe that is another reason we can’t ever FULLY understand another person…

    And of course God is a whole other matter but His thoughts are higher than our thoughts and His ways higher than our ways 🙂
    Praise God! I’m so glad I’m not in control haha

    • Jordan

      Haha me too!! Love this comment, I agree!

    • Paula Hendricks

      Wow, Lynn, what a blessing to get to learn from your amazing parents. Thanks so much for your thought-provoking response!

  • Olivia Chambers

    Wonderful video and questions! That really got me thinking about how completely phenomenal God is and how fun it is to spend more time with him to get to know him. 🙂 I also like how you are comparing God and boys to each other. We were made in the image of God and I’ve noticed that we are a lot like him while being totally different at the same time. Kind of like how girls and guys can be really similar but very different too! Recently I have been thinking about how God created both men and women an integral part of his plan and how he uses our differences for his wonderful purpose. With the rise of feminism I think that sometimes women devalue men in an attempt to empower themselves. While I don’t believe that that is the intention of feminism I have been witnessing it happen. I think that it is so important to remember that God created both genders in his image and for a wonderful purpose and different for a reason. It’s always good to admire the different qualities that God built into each person so that I never forget how valuable each person is regardless of race, age, gender, and view points.

    Anyways, I got a little off topic. 🙂 I don’t think that I will ever fully know and understand God or my crush. Like you said, God is infinite. He has no limits what so ever so there will always be new things to learn about him and to discover. There will also always be things that I don’t know about him. But even though he is infinite he is still the same yesterday, today, and forever, (Hebrews 13:8). That is a little mind blowing to me! 🙂 I think that it means that I can know God, and I do. He is kind, he is strong, he is loving, he is perfect, he is compassionate, He is good, he is forgiving, he is merciful, he is beautiful, and he is so much more that words cannot even describe! Those things will never change. His love will never change. His mercy will never change. His sacrifice will never change. So I definitely do know God, but I will never know all of him. His personality, his character, his very being is far beyond me. There is no end to him or anything that he does! That makes me want to spend even more time with him as he reveals pieces of himself to me through his word, his voice, his presence, and by his actions. I think that never truly knowing all of him makes it more exciting to be his friend too. He is a never ending puzzle and I love it. 🙂

    The reason why I don’t think that I will ever fully understand my crush or future husband is because people are always changing. As people grow and mature their perspectives, interests, and character changes. Sometimes it’s a small change and other times it’s drastic change. God made us so complex and ever changing that I don’t feel like everyone is ever truly the same everyday. It’s not like having a double personality or being a completely different person the next day. But I do feel like people are constant learners who develop with each experience they face. The puzzle of a guys mind (or anyone’s for that matter) is a continuous puzzle as they grow. I like that people are like that but sometimes I really do wish I knew what they were thinking! 🙂

    • Paula Hendricks

      So appreciate your comment, Olivia!

  • Kiley

    “Guys are mysterious because they are made in the likeness of God and no one is as mysterious as God!” (Hope I got that quote right ;)). LOVE this way of looking at it!! Thanks Paula for this awesome insight!!

    • Paula Hendricks

      You’re so welcome, Kiley. Thanks for taking the time to watch the video!

  • Amber

    God is infinite and amazing! He does everything for a purpose and time and place. I want to pursue God, even though it is a daunting task. My crush is very mysterious as well. Sometimes he’s funny, mostly quiet, always thinking, sometimes he lets down his hair and gets goofy, he’s an amazing Christian guy! I don’t know if I could figure him out, but he’s amazing. Maybe one day I’ll know more about Christ and my crush!

    • Paula Hendricks

      Both sound like good ideas, Amber. Praying you will pursue knowing and loving Christ with all your heart, and that you will also get to know your crush even better as well. (That’s a good idea ’cause Proverbs 19:2 tells us that “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste [hurries] misses his way.” As much as you might think you know your crush, God alone knows his heart.)

  • Brenda

    Right know I don’t think i have a crush because i really want to know God first and accept myself who i am. But thinking about this, after knowing this special person you would know what their thinking because you been with them for so long. But God is infinite and as Paul said God doesn’t have a end. I would continue looking for him and wonder and study him but there will be no end but no matter what I’ll continue.

    • Paula Hendricks

      Keep pressing in to know Him, Brenda!

  • Near

    So I posted this on the original Christ or Crush but got no replies. (about my crush)

    He’s pretty great. One thing though.

    I kind of find myself as a bit of an outcast sometimes at church. The other girls are really into popular stuff right now and are bestirs at school and sports etc. I go to a different school, don’t like sports, and don’t like all the same pop culture stuff. I once asked “Do any of you like anime?” (My faveeee) and I got blank looks and “what’s THAT?!?” Also at camp this year all the guys (including the one above) invited two of the girls to sit at their table for dinner and they were laughing and talking and I was just sitting there watching that girl sit right next to him laughing and talking and stacking cups and whatnot while I just looked over. No one notices me, guys-wise. What should I do? How can I get him to notice me?

    • Ronnie

      Hi, I use to have almost the same problem. I can probably never fully understand cause we are two different individuals but I lasted through junior high and high school just craving for love and self worth from the opposite sex and nothing. I personally felt undesirable and unloved. Also an outcast cause I didn’t have anything in common clothes wise etc. Until last year when I got into university. I joined a Christian club. Admittedly for a boyfriend but no luck there. Instead I found a relationship with God. I started to read the bible cover to cover and realized that nothing else mattered but Him. God loves me so much more than these guys and I have been putting Him in the back burner. I started to feel loved and valuable again because I have someone who is in control of my life. Right now, trust that God is in control and has plans for you. Also know that while you’re waiting you can pray for your future hubby. His walk with God, his role as a leader and father, etc. and work on your relationship with God and your family! Many blessings!

    • Paula Hendricks

      Dear Near,

      I’m so sorry that you feel like an outcast sometimes at church (sigh). I’m praying that this hardship will help shape you into the kind of young woman who makes other “outcasts” feel welcome.

      You don’t need to do anything about guys not noticing you. I went through a stage where the same thing was true for me. Unfortunately, I tried to figure out what kind of a girl my crush wanted, and I tried to play the part. That doesn’t work. Trust me.

      When God provides you with a husband, it will be a man who loves you for YOU.

      I think a better question to ask isn’t “How can I get him to notice me?” but “How can I love him and the others in my youth group, and point them to God who loves them infinitely more?”

      Know this: the world (and God!) is infinitely bigger than the little circle of guys you know today. He will provide His very best for you at just the right time.

      You can trust Him.



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  • Grace M.

    I never ever thought of it this way before. God is the ultimate mystery, I will never be able to fully understand Him.

    • Paula Hendricks

      I like the way you put that, Grace: “God is the ultimate mystery.” Yes! And yet He’s chosen to make Himself known through His Son, Jesus Christ. Amazing.

  • Taryn

    No one will ever fully understand anyone. Everyone is a mystery. It’s just that God is the ultimate mystery.

  • Bahar

    I don’t think I could fully understand either. (Though I don’t have a crush right now, I’m being more careful about setting my heart on people. My hopes have been dashed to pieces too much. and I should be focusing on God more.) But just as I would try to understand my crush, I would (definitely should) try to understand at least a little bit of God and press into Him.
    Paula, you’re so awesome <3

  • sobella

    Thanks so much for this video! I’m sure you really help to a bunch of girls like me!
    God Bless,

  • kylie cole

    it makes me want to keep pure and just follow and trust God way more even through the tough times 🙂 thanks soooo much

  • Megan

    Christ is mysterious and unfathomable which leads us to more worship. It’s hard for me to compare Him to my crush because for me that leads to heart issue of liking my crush or pursuing my crush more than my relationship with God.

  • Moon

    God is so finite and knowable. He’s so finite, he doesn’t exist. Isn’t it amazing? I hope you take this grain of truth and realize that virginity means nothing, purity means nothing, and all you’re doing is lying to yourself.