Christ or Crush? (Super Godly)

Some of you are attracted to your crush for much deeper reasons than his dark hair and strong muscles. You love the way he loves God. Rock on! Still, I wonder if you’ve thought through this?

Now it’s your turn. How specifically is your crush godly, or God-like? And how does his godliness line up with Christ’s godliness?

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on

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  • Bailey

    Hey Paula, I love this series. It has helped me see my crush (and God) in a whole new way. This is a bit off topic, but can you pray for me? I’m trying to find a summer job. The job I had last year tore down my faith with bad influences, and i just have been praying that I’ll find a better one.Thanks 🙂

    • Jesusfreak17

      I also need a summer job. (I’ve never had one in the first place though.) we can pray for each other to start if you want. 🙂

      • Bailey

        I will definitely be praying for you. I know how hard it is to find a good job that won’t crush your faith. I’m sure God will lead both of us to the right job he wants us to have this summer 🙂

        • Jesusfreak17

          Thanks, though I’m mostly concerned about just getting a job period. I’ve been through many trials and dealt with many faithless people in the past and my faith has not been shaken, so I’m not too concerned about a job that would challenge my faith to that extent. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been through that experience though! I’ll be praying you get a job that supports your faith instead of challenges it!

    • Holly

      Hey Bailey! I just read your comment. And I just got off of work myself:) And believe me, I know how hard it is to get a job with the right atmosphere for your walk with Christ. My parents wanted me to really think about what type of atmosphere I was in, was my job going to be pleasing to the Lord, who was I working for, ect. And the Lord graciously opened the door for me last summer with a Nanny job. I babysit two cute little kids for a military family here in my area. Although the parents are not Christians, God put me in an environment where the parents are respectful towards my beliefs. They know I’m a Christian, and they respect that. So God has been good to me. I would suggest maybe looking on, that’s how I found this family. You can specify your requirements, and the site has a SAFE way of matching your requirements up with people who have similar standards. You can also communicate with these people through the site without giving out your personal information. Like I said, it was a very SAFE way to get in touch with people who are looking for someone to hire. I still have my job, and I really believe that the Lord has opened up an opportunity for me to be a testimony to this family:) I’ll be praying that God opens a door for you!! And keep praying that God shows you the path that He wants you to take!!

      • Carrie @ Revive Our Hearts

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      • Bailey

        Hi Holly, thank you for your suggestions and prayer.It sounds like God gave you a really great job. Good luck with your job 🙂 I’ll be praying for you.

    • Stephanie

      Hey Bailey! 🙂
      I’m praying for you girl! God will give you the perfect job in His perfect timing. One suggestion I have is the YMCA. I work at one and even though I’m surrounded by some non-Christians, it’s very family friendly. The first YMCA started by Christians. So majority of their morals are Christian based even though they don’t specifically say Christian. I’ve grown a lot with my relationship with Christ while working there. Another suggestion is working at a Bible camp or if you’re 18 respite care for individuals with special needs. Like Holly said, Nannying could be a good job. You can check out your local college website and sometimes they have a job center that you can find ideas. Hope this helps! 🙂

      • Bailey

        Hey girl 🙂 thanks for your suggestions and prayer. I just looked into job openings at my local YMCA a found out they need day camp counselors. 🙂 Good luck with your job. I hope you continue growing in the Lord. I’ll be praying for you.

    • phendricks

      Absolutely, Bailey! I’d also encourage you to ask an older, godly woman in your life for prayer/accountability this summer. Let me know how your job search goes!

  • Stephanie

    Hey Paula! 🙂
    This is encouraging to hear. God has been teaching me this often. Even though I know we’re all sinful and God gives us to have that desire to be attracted to a godly man, it’s still a good reminder not to put them on a pedestal. Thanks for posting! 🙂

  • Amanda M. A

    My crush is selfless in the way he serves. I see that going in front of people makes him kinda nervous but he does it anyway to praise God’s name. (He leads music.)I hope to serve selflessly like him even if I don’t feel comfortable with every situation.

  • Rachel

    My crush is very selfless, is not afraid to admit his mistakes, and always referencing Bible verses for like everything. He is very invested in our church and is always trying to show God through his life. But on the other hand I can see he is only a part of what God is like. God is able to resist temptation but my crush can and will give in to some temptation. God is willing to forgive everyone and everything, but my crush is hurt by things others do to him and may not be so easy to forgive. Thnxs Paula for this video!

  • Grace M.

    My crush is super involved in church. No matter what they need help with he’ll do it. But this has helped me realize that yes, I like that about my crush, but that he is only a tiny, tiny reflection of what God is really like. My crush does sin, I sin, we’re not perfect whatsoever, but God is….

  • Stephanie Hanagan

    While not my crush, my best guy friend has a lot of traits I would look for in the man I would marry. His favorite verse is Philippians 2:3-4 (Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.) And he lives it out really well! He always has time for people and never rushes them to get back to his own schedule or agenda. He will drop everything to help a friend in need. He doesn’t judge others and puts the needs of others before his own.

  • genesis herrera

    i know that my crush loves God. I know he dose!! But i guess that i tend to love him and chose him more than i do God himself. i guess that also have to do with lonely ness

  • Jade

    Is there a godly way to get your crush’s attention?

    • phendricks

      Dear Jade,

      Absolutely! If your crush is a godly guy, and if you seek God wholeheartedly and “clothe yourself with good works,” he’s gonna take notice. That doesn’t mean he’ll necessarily choose to pursue you romantically, but he will definitely respect you as a beautiful woman of God.

      (For an example of this, see Ruth’s story in the Bible. Check out how she first got Boaz’s attention in Ruth 2:11.)

      Great question!


  • Annika

    I’ve liked a guy for close to a year now, but I don’t know if I should tell him. He is a really close friend of mine who has always been there for me and has saved my life countless times. I know he’s a Christian as well, so that’s awesome. What should I do?