To Every Girl Who Feels Alone

“You are not alone.

Those words echo through my mind, reverberating down into the achiest places of my soul today.

I know how it feels to step aside and let the wave of darkness surge and swell and crash over your limp body—because it’s strong, you feel weak, and you don’t know where to even look for a lifesaver.

I’ve felt the silence of loneliness. The desperation to cry and yell, wanting someone to hear, but coming up empty when you wonder who you should tell.

I know the sting of the word “depression,” how it smacks you with the full force of its weight, but how it also feels distinctly desolate, a desert of heavy emptiness.

I understand. And you are not alone.

To Every Girl Who Feels Alone

To the girl who walks through the halls of her school, feeling painfully out of place, skipping lunch and retreating to the library because she doesn’t want to eat alone in the cafeteria, you are not alone.

To the girl who wears the label “Unloved,” because she doesn’t think her face or clothes or hair or personality measure up, you are not alone.

To the girl who was recently blindsided by an unexpected breakup, feeling like she’s lost her identity and her best friend, deleting a couple photos from Instagram, you are not alone.

To the girl plagued by social anxiety, longing for just one normal interaction with someone—anyone—because she desperately needs one friend, you are not alone.

To the new girl in the youth group who’s at a loss for breaking into the cliques among her peers, you are not alone.

To the girl overwhelmed by a secret, a regrettable decision she made that could change everything, a decision she can’t wrap her words around, a decision that she wonders if she should keep hidden always . . . you are not alone.

To the girl simply trying to navigate her day without the weight of inexplicable sadness stopping her in her tracks, paralyzing her, keeping her from moving forward, freezing her in place with tears streaming down her cheeks, you are not alone.

To the girl wrestling with an issue deemed unacceptable in our Christian community, an issue accompanied by hundreds of questions, an issue that wants to eat her alive, you are not alone.

To the girl who feels abandoned by her family, forgotten by her parents, longing for consistent love and support, yearning for belonging, mourning the loss of significant relationships and bonds, you are not alone.

To the girl who did something that plagues every inch of her with bitter regret, something that feels completely unforgivable, you are not alone.

To the girl betrayed by her best friend, left high and dry, and now doubting that anyone wants to be her friend at all, you are not alone.

To the girl wondering what it would be like to give up, you are not alone.

You Have Searched and Known Me

You are not alone.

You are deeply known, fully understood, and unfathomably loved by God. He’s right there, in your mess, tears, aching, despairing, writhing. Right there, in your desolate place. And He’s not going anywhere.

You are deeply known, fully understood, and unfathomably loved by God.

This isn’t a trite bandaid to slap on your hurting heart. This unfailing truth can change everything for you.

He knows you. He sees your every move with loving eyes. He understands every angle and aspect of what you’re experiencing, and none of it—not one single bit of it—needs to be hidden from Him.

Read Psalm 139:1–6 slowly, allowing the goodness of these God-ordained realities to breathe hope into your soul:

LORD, You have searched me and known me.
You know when I sit down and when I stand up;
You understand my thoughts from far away.
You observe my travels and my rest;
You are aware of all my ways.

Before a word is on my tongue,
You know all about it, LORD.
You have encircled me;
You have placed Your hand on me.
This extraordinary knowledge is beyond me.
It is lofty; I am unable to reach it.

You are not alone. God encircles you, places His hand on you, and even before you feel pain, He knows it. Even before you believe the enemy’s lie that you’re alone, He’s there.

I want to grab your hands, look into your eyes, and tell you that you’re not alone. And I wonder how many girls, Christian teen girls, feel desperately alone today. How many of us need to run to Jesus, crying out for help because we don’t feel known or understood? How many of us are on the brink of ruin because the pain is debilitating—and we’ve got to tell someone, but we don’t know where to turn? How many of us are hiding a giant secret or eating lunch alone at school every single day?

Girls, I want to link hands with you in one giant circle and cry with you and praise Jesus together, because He’s our Healer.

If today you feel completely alone, for any reason, will you do these three things?

1. Comment on this post, asking for prayer.

I’m committing to pray for every single girl who comments. We are not alone. And I want you all to know there are other girls who struggle and wrestle and hurt like you do. Your comment can be even be one word, like “lonely” or “depressed” or “anxious.” I will take your requests before the throne of our Lord and Savior.

2. Walk away from social media (and other technology) and run to the Bible.

Get away from the idea that your life is messed up while everyone else’s is problem-free and pretty. That’s such a lie from the enemy. Cling to passages like Psalm 139, Psalm 42, Psalm 86, and Psalm 27–28.

3. Tell someone.

I know, you might think that no one will get it, that what you’re going through is too embarrassing to share, and that it’s better to stay hidden. But those are thoughts from the enemy.

Bring your brokenness into the light. Shine a spotlight on the darkness. The shadows don’t have to win.

Bring your brokenness into the light. Shine a spotlight on the darkness. The shadows don’t have to win.

Go to a parent, a youth leader, a pastor, a teacher, an older sibling, someone. Ask for help. Tell them what’s going on. There’s power in linking arms with someone who can pray for you and offer wise counsel.

You are not alone, forgotten, or unloved, because the grace and presence of Jesus Christ wraps around you like a lifeline. Cling to it.

About Author

Samantha Nieves

Samantha loves grammar, lazy lake days, iced green tea, and writing about the glorious gospel truths that transform our everyday lives. A northern Indiana native, Samantha now lives in South Carolina and serves as the social media manager on the Revive Our Hearts staff.

HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, we’re not trained counselors. If you’re seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as they’ll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate. We may edit or remove your comment if it:

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  • Barbara le Roux

    Thank you so much for this touching and powerful post.
    I feel depressed and anxious. I have been in a better place for the past few months, but it feels like depression and distorted perspectives and thoughts are always lurking around the corners and I am afraid of them. I long for true freedom and rest and belief in God’s promises even when the storms are raging.

    • Rachel Carpenter

      Keep fighting. I have been where you are, and I know how discouraging it is to be months into a battle against depression, doing everything possible to beat it, but it still has not dissipated. It may take a while yet, but you will find healing.
      I will be praying for you.

      • Barbara le Roux

        Thank you for the encouragement, understanding and prayer, it means a lot*

  • Jessica

    Wow. Thanks so much for this post💜

  • Brynna Rice

    This is beautiful. Every once in a while, I do feel lonely – wishing for a constant and true friend, a solid group of Christian friends, a special place to do what I love…

    I tell myself that things will change when I move out and go to college in less than 2 years, but I know some feelings will never completely go away. But what I also know, is that Jesus never leaves me; He constantly reminds me of His great love, and I am satisfied with Him. Yes, I do desperately wish for things I think will make me less lonely. But I will wait on the Lord. Plans and dreams may change, but God never does.

  • Spring

    Reading this article is like listening to a big sister talking to me face to face. Softly and peacefully. I’ve never felt this way when I read any posts. Thank you so much for sharing this. 😭❤
    I haven’t had insomnia for several months until a few days ago, it started to come back and get me… When I can’t fall asleep at night, I feel so lonely, helpless, anxious and depressed. I can’t even pray properly. All I can say is, “please help me, Jesus.”

  • FadedSketch

    Thank you for writing this! For so long I have felt pretty lonely. Both my siblings are more capable of making friends, while here I am, wondering if the few friends I have know how important they are to me – because I’m afraid I’ll mess it all up and they’ll leave, like several have before. I hate feeling alone… I always relate it to being discontent, and then I feel even worse because I know I shouldn’t be discontent.

    My prayers go out to all of you who are feeling alone too.

    • Leah

      Discontentment is not good, but sometimes we have longings that ARE good. The Lord created us with a LONGING for friendship and fellowship with others, and that is a good thing! Absolutely nothing to feel guilty about, so long as you put Jesus before it. I pray that God will provide friends to walk with you in this life, and that He will teach you so much about Himself before, during, and/or even after those friendships happen

      • FadedSketch

        Thank you for your lovely comment, it really brightened my day!

  • FadedSketch

    Thank you for writing this! For so long I have felt pretty lonely. Both my siblings are more capable of making friends, while here I am, wondering if the few friends I have know how important they are to me – because I’m afraid I’ll mess it all up and they’ll leave, like several have before. I hate feeling alone… I always relate it to being discontent, and then I feel even worse because I know I shouldn’t be discontent.

    My prayers go out to all of you who are feeling alone too.

  • Lex

    Lonely, scared, trying to find myself and God after a breakup.

    • J

      God will always be there for you, I hope you find comfort in His loving arms.

  • Catherine


  • Erika

    Thank you so much Samantha <3

  • Christi Anne Viljoen

    Wow, this was perfect.
    I’ve always been a bit of a loner. My mom always reminds me that this should be the time in my life where I grow closest to God and commit myself to serve others.

  • ET

    Yes, lonely. And wondering if I’ve been abandoned all together. My church walked away from my family a few years ago when my parents separated and now the only two people in my life are my mom and my brother. Lonely because I have zero friends aside from them, lonely because I wonder if I’ll be single forever. Lonely because why would a God who cares so deeply about me let people walk away from us and send us into poverty. Yes, lonely. And even five years later trying to pick up the pieces while questioning everything I thought I knew. I keep trying to speak truth to my heart each day, I fight to have a sense of gratitude, but it gets so hard. And I wonder if every person in the church is two faced now.

    • Lily

      You are not alone. God cares so much and deeply for you and your family. Your feelings and questioning God/His purposes are real and unlike me when I was younger, run to God with them. Even if you’re angry, or sad beyond words, go to Him in prayer about it. Don’t continue to wallow or suffer alone- please go to Him first and talk with someone you trust and with someone who loves you.

      *Read Psalm 103- carefully and let it soak into your soul.
      *Meditate on Romans 8:38

    • Hannah

      My heart goes out to you, sister, because much of what you are expressing, I too experienced several years ago. My church kicked my family out and even now 5 years later, we still don’t have a home church. I too have felt the doubts of God’s goodness and the fear of every Christian being two-faced. But let me encourage you, as someone who as now come out the other side of the tunnel, cling tightly to God. He will be all you have during this dark time, and even though your church family has betrayed you, He never will. Spend extra time praying and reading His word (I found many of David’s psalms particularly helpful). Pray for yourself but also think beyond yourself and pray for others who are hurting and suffering, it helps to keep your troubles in perspective. I will be praying for you, and remember even though you feel like you have zero friends, you have me and Lily, who commented as well, and Samantha, who wrote this post and will also be praying for you, as your sisters in Christ!

  • Miranda M

    Lonely, Forgotten, Overwhelmed

    • Heather


  • gloria4_gloria

    Tired, Lonely, Depressed, Anxious, Overwhelmed. I cannot even explain how I feel and I really am on the brink of ruin. You know what I thought about today? I thought that I should just let the darkness overwhelm me. That maybe I needed the darkness for a while so that I would appreciate the light when it came. But I’m scared that if I give in for a second I won’t be able to come back. Pray for me please because I don’t know how to pray for myself anymore. I’m exhausted

    • FadedSketch

      I’m sorry you feel that way – I have before, and it certainly is horrible. I pray that God will comfort you and strengthen you to keep going. You’re going to make it.

    • Leah

      Emotions suck sometimes, don’t they? :/ Thankfully, we serve a God whose truth transcends our feelings. I pray that you would read the Word and know this truth, even when your emotions refuse to line up with it, as mine often do. Also, please talk to someone and try to get help. This is a battle best not to be fought alone. Praying for you <3

  • Lonely, depressed, anxious, confused, discouraged.

    • Heather

      What you missed was “loved” 🙂 <3

  • TE

    Lonely, worried, anxious, overwhelmed. Just wanting to get to that place where I’m totally free in my relationship with God. Not being held back or down by any evil thing.

    • J

      Keep up the good work, I know it’s hard but remember you are loved, worthy, adored, and one in a million in God’s eyes.

  • Martina

    *Please excuse my english* Thank you so much for this post ♡ I was feeling so lonely today, and I found myself in almost every sentence. I couldn’t believe it, I was crying when I was reading this, because I felt like God was speaking to me through this post, like He made sure I read it today. I just wanted to tell you that God is really using you, and you also inspired me to say: girls (or boys) whatever you’re going through, I’m praying for you right now. You’re not alone.

    • Leah

      I’m praying for you! Also, your English is EXCELLENT, no need to apologize 😉

  • A

    Thank you so much for this article, Samantha! Your posts are the only reason I keep coming back to LYWB. Seven years of loneliness, depression, isolation and too many tears. It’s encouraging to know that there are others who truly struggle with these things…too many people have a “suffering complex” when they think they understand these things and by saying so, only succeed in making me feel more alone and misunderstood than before. I’ll pray for you too!!

  • L

    tired from hiding and feeling alone. Feeling as if prayer is not enough

    • Emma

      I’m praying for you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. ❤

    • Heather

      God is ALWAYS there for you! <3

  • Thanks so much, Samantha. I’ve been struggling with loneliness and anxiety a lot. ♥️

  • Estefania Pirela

    Thank you! I am the girl you described in your post THANK YOU

  • karen Vasquez

    Thank you for this post. Pray for me.

    • Heather

      Praying right now, <3

  • Lydia S

    Thank you for this extremely powerful post today. I was sitting in biology class today and was just overwhelmed by the voice of God. I have felt myself relating to a lot of the scenarios in the post. Just please pray for me. I have lately just been feeling lonely, anxious, isolated, confused, and just downright upset. Everyone around me seems to have those who really care about them except for me. I’ve been feeling this way for a while. Just pray that I can push through this or figure this out. By the way, I love getting the LYWB emails every week<3 In the past few weeks, I have really found myself relating to the emails in such a deep way. I really feel God is using y'all to renew my relationship in Him. Thank you again.

  • La Princessa

    Praying for all my sisters in Christ right now, that they feel the comfort of God’s all-consuming and unconditional love, and know that it’s here to stay. 💖

  • Taylor

    Thank you so much for sharing this. It is certainly what we need. God is always wanting us to spend time with Him. No matter the age we need Him first in our life.
    It hurts but someone has bullied me & of all they say that hurt. I know it does no good, but for me to be kind & forgive them. God is the judge of everything. They are people that do not have a relationship with God in their heart. That burdens me, because I want them to ask God into their heart.
    Praying for everyone!
    Thank you for this devotion.

  • A mother

    Alone and disabled without many friends, support or my driver’s license.

    • J

      You’re not alone

  • SW

    I feel so alone and depressed.

    • J

      You are not alone

  • dj

    “To the girl who was recently blindsided by an unexpected breakup, feeling like she’s lost her identity and her best friend, deleting a couple photos from Instagram, you are not alone.”
    This is me, it has been 8 months. Almost get married 😔

    • Heather

      I’m so sorry! <3

  • new every morning

    feeling left out and alone

    • J

      I feel the same most of the time but you are not alone

  • Cessy Anakay


    • J

      Praying for you

  • Emma

    Thank you. I pray by the blood of Christ that every person who comments on this blog know that God is with them no matter what. He cares about every little care and fear that even you think is insignificant. You are not alone. I am praying for you. You are a fighter, but you don’t have to do it alone. God loves you. You are His masterpiece, broken and beautiful. Even by commenting on this post, you are defeating the enemy by calling out and asking for prayer! When you are tired and weary, just say, “help me, Jesus!” When you feel like you are doing everything you can, and you still just don’t feel close to God but just full of sin, loneliness, and anxiety, just cry, “Help me, Jesus!!” There are times when I feel really alone and unloved, sometimes several times a day. But that is not true, because God loves me. Even when you feel like you don’t have anyone, know that there is always someone who will pray for you, no matter what. And more importantly, know that God loves you no matter what, and He could never love you any more than He does right now, in this very moment. You are loved, and you are not alone.

    • Heather

      I love this! I am so happy to see someone who cares and loves strangers! You are doing a good work! I am praying for all of these people also. <3

  • Anna Vaca

    Alone, even with family around me

    • J

      I know how you feel but , God gave us our families for a reason, maybe try reaching out to them and letting them know you’re lonely. But I know for a fact you are not alone.

      • Anna Vaca

        Thank you for the encouragement. But I’m not sure if that would make a difference.. You see I’m the only Christian in my family and we don’t have the same view of a lot of things. I am grateful for them, but so different as well.

  • Sydney Scotford

    Alone and depressed

    • Heather

      Trust God! He will always hold you in our hardest times! <3

  • Proverbs 31 girl in Training

    Alone yet not alone. Depressed yet minor problems. Anxious yet nothing really to worry about. I live in a life that has no cause for these anymore, yet they linger. I’ve had really rough teenage years, but that is over. I am still living with the side affects. The constant fear, anxiety, loneliness, depression, and stress that controlled my life during those hard times refuse to let go now that the storm is over. I have been far from God and can’t seem to get close to Him again. I hold bitterness and distrust for Him because of the betrayal of sexual abuse by my step father, moving with my horrible biological father, finding out her was molesting my little sister, living with a depressed, emotional aunt, and finally moving back home with my mom who is still married to my step dad but he lives separately. I have a friend who helps guide me in the way of the Lord who has gone through the same things. Despite her encouragement, I can’t seem to find my way back to a positive, deep relationship with God. Sisters, I need prayer. My life is crumbling before me and spiraling out of control one cruel day at a time slowly enough for me not to see it in the moment but fast enough for me to look up and see how far I really am. I feel like I cannot even pray without guilt from knowing how selfish I am for feeling this way. I have been living with sin side affects of all that has happened. I am not pure in mind. It haunts me.

    • Rebecca

      Oh Sweet Sister I will be praying for you! May you experience the peace of God that surpasses all understanding and find rest.

    • Emma

      I will be praying for you, sister. God is by your side ❤

    • Leah

      Dearest friend! Sin does not have to hold you captive. You know a God who removes your sin “as far as the east is from the west”. He remembers your sin no more!! The guilt you feel is a lie from the enemy, because as soon as you ask for forgiveness, your purity has been restored. Jesus died so that God can look at your heart and see His perfect heart instead. There is no guilt and no shame. There is only goodness and righteousness. The Lord wants you to come to him in your pain. He loves you deeply, and He doesn’t want you to wait until you feel worthy to bow at his feet in prayer. He has already made a way for you to be worthy. And if you wait, you will never feel worthy – none of us ever are without the blood of Christ! So come to Him in your total, complete, brokenness. Tell him everything, and read His word earnestly. He will glorify himself through your brokenness. For “his grace is sufficient for you, for his power is made perfect in weakness”. Praying for you!

  • Rebecca

    Thank you for the reminder that when I feel alone and exhausted, I have a God who is by my side wherever I go and who goes before me and behind me.

  • Lms34

    Best friends don’t talk to me.
    Don’t think anyone cares at times.

    • Barbara le Roux

      Praying for you*

    • Heather

      God cares for you! He loves you and is always holding your hand! I am praying for you. <3

      • Eva

        You are doing something great in helping those girls and God will reward you for that!

  • Lindsey M

    Depressed, disappointed in myself. I feel unworthy and incapable. I desperately want to have a disciplined
    life, and to have peace and joy to share with others.

    • Emma

      You are worthy

  • XboxGurl 360

    I feel depressed at times and unworthy. Especially around that ‘time of the month’ but it’s gotten to the point where I accept the fact that I’ll never be good enough to anyone or myself. I’m just numb to it or I get really depressed and even cry about it (again only around my ‘monthly gift’) but I recognize it. But I still need prayer and encouragement to fight the lies and change my way of thinking. So if you can do that for me and pray – I’d greatly appreciate it.

    • Emma

      I’m praying for you ❤❤

    • Leah

      I’ll pray! If your period is that difficult, consider talking to an adult who can help you get medical attention. Depression associated with periods isn’t uncommon, and it can be successfully – and shamelessly – treated.

    • J

      You are good enough, God took the time to specifically make you and put breath into your lungs, you matter so much to Him that he died on the cross for you, so yeah, you are deffinately good enough, maybe not because of who you are or what you’ve done, but the cross has made you FLAWLESS.

  • Awesome girl

    I feel super alone at times. I’ve been pretty close to depression. I don’t really have any friends that I would consider “close.” I keep praying for good Christian friends, waiting to hear back from God. And I have not gotten an answer yet. I don’t have a relationship with
    some family members because they were cruel to me and their words hurt me so much. I don’t even enjoy the holidays anymore because my extended family is mean and makes things difficult.

    • Leah

      Praying for you! Remember that your waiting is actually a season in and of itself. Keep seeking Jesus and knowing him better! It will be a blessing to you in the present, and it will make your future friendships SO much sweeter <3

  • Anonymous

    Lonely. “To the girl who walks through the halls of her school, feeling painfully out of place, skipping lunch and retreating to the library because she doesn’t want to eat alone in the cafeteria, you are not alone.” That’s part of my story.
    I really want good friends, and it’s so hard feeling like I don’t have anyone to talk to. There are people in my life that I could talk to, but I don’t feel super close to any of them. Except God, of course. 🙂
    The nights that I sit in my room, thinking about my life and despairing over the lack of deep friendship in my life – it makes me really sad. There are so many people I pass by every day – all the people in my grade at school in the hallways – but I always avoid eye contact and never know what to say even though I really want to get to know them. I don’t want to play the victim, but I also don’t want to blame myself too much. Is it partially my fault that I don’t have as many deep friendships as I would like?
    I feel like when I graduate, I’ll be filled with extreme regret and sadness over all the lives, all the people, all the stories that I never got to hear. I wish I had friends at school. Not just surface-level friendships that are barely past the level of acquaintances. Someone who gets me. I know that Christ does, but he also wants us to have friendships with others. I’m so used to living like this – settling for loneliness and pretending that it’s not a big deal that I don’t really have friends – but I don’t want to.
    To everyone who commented here and also feels alone, know that at least some of us understand exactly what you’re going through. If you’re looking for a new friend, comment here and maybe I can get in touch with you 🙂

    • FadedSketch

      We almost sound like the same person, Anon – I often blame myself for my lack of friendships, either online or offline. I don’t start enough conversations, I have no stories to tell/nothing of interest to say, and so on… I so get it. I pray that you will find relief and comfort in God from your loneliness.

      • Anonymous

        Thank you!

    • Leah

      Hi! I have a very similar story, and it’s taken me a long time to find steady friendships. Even when I did, they’re with people I don’t get to see very often, and/or who are not my age. But that’s ok! You can impact people’s lives without being best friends with them (you can’t – and shouldn’t – be bff’s with everyone). Keep on loving on your peers, and keep on praying for deep friendships. You’re right, they aren’t easy to find. But Jesus does not desire you to be lonely! He created friendship and he loves blessing His children with it! I know the loneliness is hard, but He is preparing you for something more. Whether that’s in a year, a week, or ten years, I know He will answer your prayers. When we pray for things that are good – as friendship certainly is – God will provide at the right time. Use your time now as preparation, and learn to lean on your Savior above all else. Sometimes it’s easy to idolize friendships when you haven’t had many, so focus on knowing – and keeping – God as your only stability. It will help immensely in the long run. I am praying for you now! Blessings!

      • Anonymous

        Thank you, Leah!

  • anonymous

    Hi, this came to my gmail when I was needing to heart this the most. My name is Sara and I would be so thankful that you could pray for me. How I would describe my situation right now, would be through words like: depressed and hopeless. I feel like I’ve lost everything and my life does not make sense at all. Thank you for sharing this! We needed it so bad 🙂

  • prayer

    I broke up with someone seven months ago. Today, he has a new girlfriend and it hurts so much. I’m feeling lonely and depressed. I want to trust God, but it gets so hard sometimes. Blessings!

    • J

      I know how you feel, but I find comfort in the fact that, God allowed that relationship to end and if we truly trust that God wants the best for us than we can know that we were not meant to be with that person, because all things happen for a reason and , we may not see it now but God does have a plan for our lives, and He knows what he’s doing.

  • Melanie

    I struggle a lot with school and it makes me really depressed. I am almost nineteen and this will be my last year of school. I would like prayer for this. I want to finish school and get a good job. I have felt lonely too. I don’t have any close friends. The ones I thought were good friends walked out of my life when I was going through something really hard. It hurts so much.

    • Heather

      God loves you and is ALWAYS there for you! I will pray for you. <3
      "Blessings" by Laura Story
      We pray for blessings
      We pray for peace
      Comfort for family, protection while we sleep
      We pray for healing, for prosperity
      We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering
      All the while, You hear each spoken need
      Yet love is way too much to give us lesser things
      'Cause what if your blessings come through raindrops
      What if Your healing comes through tears
      What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near
      What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
      We pray for wisdom
      Your voice to hear
      We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
      We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love
      As if every promise from Your Word is not enough
      All the while, You hear each desperate plea
      And long that we'd have faith to believe
      When friends betray us
      When darkness seems to win
      We know that pain reminds this heart
      That this is not our home
      What if my greatest disappointments
      Or the aching of this life
      Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can't satisfy
      What if trials of this life
      The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
      Are your mercies in disguise

  • ChristIlove

    Sometimes I fell alone because everybody seems to be ignoring me. Please pray that I will just remember I am not alone and pray to God more often.

    • Heather

      I hope this song is a help to you! I just said a prayer for you. <3
      You're Not Alone
      by Meredith Andrews
      I searched for love when the night came and it closed in
      I was alone, but You found me where I was hiding
      And now I'll never ever be the same
      It was the sweetest voice that called my name, saying
      "You're not alone for I am here
      Let me wipe away your every fear
      My love, I've never left your side
      I have seen you through the darkest night
      And I'm the One who's loved you all your life
      All your life"
      You cry yourself to sleep
      'Cause the hurt is real and the pain cuts deep
      All hope seems lost with heartache your closest friend
      And everyone else long gone
      You've had to face the music on your own
      But there is a sweeter song that calls you home, saying
      "You're not alone for I am here
      Let me wipe away your every tear
      My love, I've never left your side
      I have seen you through the darkest night
      And I'm the One who's loved you all your life
      All your life
      Faithful and true forever
      My love will carry you
      You're not alone for I, I am here
      Let me wipe away your every fear
      My love, I've never left your side
      I have seen you through the darkest night
      Your darkest night
      And I'm the One who's loved you all your life
      All your life"

  • vincy

    Im alone and have no friends. It’s easy to say to talk to so and so person like pastor,parent etc
    But who should i talk to? Who can i trust?

    • Heather

      I didn’t talk to a pastor or parent. I talked to a lady who is older than me, and I knew that I could trust her. A pastor or parent would be a great idea, but for me, being a girl, it was easiest to talk to a girl who didn’t know me that well. We are now great friends and I still talk to her and can tell her everything to this day. I hope this was a help to you. And don’t forget, God loves you and you can always talk to Him. He is ALWAYS there for you! <3

    • Eva

      Hey Vincy. I feel lonely too. I just want you to know that even if you can’t talk to a human being, talk to God. And seriously, just sit down right know, and tell God EVERYTHING. I pray for you! Lots of Love, Eva.

  • Claire

    I feel really overwhelmed sometimes by doubts and fear. Looking for God’s assurance.

    • Heather

      This song is a huge help to me when I am feeling down. I hope it helps you! I just prayed a prayer for you. <3
      "Great God Who Saves" by Laura Story
      Oh the promises of God,
      The rock on which I stand
      The Truth to which I cling
      His love that knows no bounds
      He showers us with grace
      Withholding no good thing
      When I stumble
      And my faith is small
      I will call your name
      Great God who saves
      I would have despaired
      If I had not believed
      That You would come to me
      Great God who saves
      In my darkest hour
      Your mercy and Your power
      Are reaching out to me
      Great God who saves
      Oh the mystery of God,
      Who holds all space and time
      Yet knows my every need
      The vastness of Your power
      The strength You give the weak
      I soar on eagle's wings
      When I stumble
      And my faith is small
      I will call Your name
      Great God who saves
      I would have despaired
      If I had not believed
      That You would come to me
      Great God who saves
      In my darkest hour
      Your mercy and Your power
      Are reaching out to me
      Great God who saves
      And in my pain and in my need
      You heard me calling out Your name
      When I was blind and could not see
      You stepped in and saved a wretch like me
      You saved a wretch like me
      And I would have despaired
      If I had not believed
      That You would come to me
      Great God who saves
      In my darkest hour
      Your mercy and Your power
      Are reaching out to me
      Great God who saves

  • Heather

    I hope that every single person who reads this post knows that they are loved and cherished by God! He loves you. He holds you. He comforts you.
    I am praying for everyone of you! <3

    "What a Friend We Have in Jesus'
    What a friend we have in Jesus,
    All our sins and griefs to bear!
    What a privilege to carry
    Everything to God in prayer!
    Oh, what peace we often forfeit,
    Oh, what needless pain we bear,
    All because we do not carry
    Everything to God in prayer!
    Have we trials and temptations?
    Is there trouble anywhere?
    We should never be discouraged—
    Take it to the Lord in prayer.
    Can we find a friend so faithful,
    Who will all our sorrows share?
    Jesus knows our every weakness;
    Take it to the Lord in prayer.
    Are we weak and heavy-laden,
    Cumbered with a load of care?
    Precious Savior, still our refuge—
    Take it to the Lord in prayer.
    Do thy friends despise, forsake thee?
    Take it to the Lord in prayer!
    In His arms He’ll take and shield thee,
    Thou wilt find a solace there.

  • Gabriela

    I loved this post.

    I have been feeling alone recently, as in, for the past year. This may be a bit long, but I’ll share anyways.

    In March last year I was a sophmore, and a guy in our class publicly embarassed my two best friends in our class chat by sending an obscene picture and labeling them [my friends]as if they were committing the act depicted in the picture. I immediately spoke up and left the chat, and the week after he was expelled. Rumors began to roam around and my entire class (16 people, counting me) decided it was my fault he’d been expelled. They quit speaking to me, even my two former friends left me. As time went by things began getting worse. They stole my books, left my by myself during lunch, and constantly taunted me with their comments. A month later, the student that had been expelled came back and was reintegrated in the school. The board of education in my country ordered this to happen and threatened the school to do so or else they would have to close down. We later found out the student’s family had bribed the board of education to make him come back. I also later learned that had the school not intervened, my situation could have been much worse, for my classmates were planning some more horrible things against me in another chat.

    Almost a year later, we are now Juniors. None of them talk to me still. I told the school counselor I was more than willing to open up to any of them that was willing to talk to me as well. Nobody showed up.So I have learned to build a life outisde of school. I have friends and a lovely family, they are just not there with me in school. I also learned to trust God, and He has put some wonderful people in my life. One of them was a Senior girl that kind of “adopted” me into her class and spent time with me, but her dad got fired and she moved out of the country two weeks ago. Now I hang out with some of the Seniors still, and we are already planning for ways to make my Senior year bearable.

    Through all this time I have learned that God is with me, and that I have been blessed so richly, outside and even inside of school. Some days I feel very lonely, but I remember that I am not alone, it is just temporary, and before I know it the school year will be over. I have been doing therapy and have really focused on building my life and letting this season be a season of thriving, and it has been amazing to see how much God can do when we trust Him.

    • Last year was a tough year for me. Like you Gabriela, I was ditched by friends and I felt alone. I spent countless hours crying in the school bathrooms, missing classes on a regular basis. Now, I look back on this, and I can see how God has used this experience to shape me and mold me into the person I am today. Looking back, I also realize that my relationship with God wasn’t as strong as it is now, in fact, I was growing lazy in talking to God. I’M NOT SAYING THIS IS YOU AT ALL! It could be you, but nobody knows except you and Christ. I just want you to know that I’m here for you, and I’ll be praying for you x

  • Thank you so much for this post! It was much needed in today’s society

  • Rachel Lee

    we are not alone!

    • J


  • zinny

    Sometimes I don’t feel so in love with God. I know life without Him is pointless and he is the most important being but I don’t feel so excited to be in His presence as I am about surfing the net or watching TV. And I feel like God doesn’t want a relationship with me. I keep praying to Him to help me love Him more and fill me with His spirit but it seems like He doesn’t want to. Shouldn’t that be the most important thing to Him? It’s even worse when I read about Paul in the bible or other great Christians that seemed like God was always ‘hanging’ out with them, sending them visions, clearly speaking to them, answering their prayers in mere minutes, making the ground shake with His presence, just doing anything to prove that He was with them. And I wonder why He isn’t doing any of that with me. He is a God that never changes, so why don’t I feel that great presence of His sometimes? why does it feel so hard to be overwhelmed by His presence? A lot of Christian leaders make loving God seem so easy, like Jesus just appears in your life when you’re broken and bam! You’re over pouring with His spirit and having a deep relationship with Him. They seem like loving God is the easiest thing they have ever done, that they always long to be in His presence and they are always burning for God. But sometimes, I don’t feel like that, sometimes I have to force myself to love God and I know that shouldn’t be. I just feel like God isn’t being very active in a relationship with me, like I’m the one struggling to be intimate with him. Also, a lot of great Christians of the past felt so much joy and contentment in being in God’s presence; so many of them could lock themselves in their room for days or be in the wilderness just soaking God up. But sometimes when I try to have those times with him, I don’t feel anything special. So this is my predicament, please pray for me to God. I know He loves me more than anything, and by His grace we will all be able to rise above our problems and come to a fulfilling relationship with Him.

    • Chika Uwandu

      Hi Zinny,
      I have felt that way before, time and time again. Honestly, I feel that the problem stems within the soul; for me, it was what I was feeding it.What are some things you could give up to rely more on God? I tend to spend a lot of my time either doing homework or idly scrolling on social media..the latter will account primarily for nothing in the grand scheme of life. It is very important to feed your spirit with Godly things as well. Maybe try listening to Christian songs if you don’t already. Spotify playlists are so helpful for me, because I find myself connecting to God more through songs, and randomly just praising Him as the music reverberates within me (I am definitely a music person, haha). Also, watching Christian YouTubers is incredibly helpful, especially if you find yourself watching a lot of TV or browsing the internet. I like Girl Defined, Jamie Grace, ChelseaMariaa, Jess and Gabriel, Kristin Lauria, and probably some others I have forgotten. Also, I don’t know if you’ve confessed to God how you feel, probably you should. :). Give your brokenness to God, and pray that He lift the burdens that you feel off of your chest. Lastly, asking God to search your heart (Psalms 139:23), because the heart is sooo important, would be beneficial in your walk with Him. Hope I helped!! If it consoles you, this advice isn’t uniquely designed for just you, as I’m sure others (myself included) struggle with it at times, too. God bless!

      • zinny


        • zinny

          I’m a music person as well Chika. Any suggestions in terms of music!

          • Chika Uwandu

            Geez, I have a lot! It honestly depends on the type of music you like.
            Contemporary – My favorites have been “There is No One Like Our God,” by Lincoln Brewster. “Glory,” and “The Secret Place,” by Phil Wickham. “Broken Prayers,” by Riley Clemmons. “Save Yourself,” and “No Room,” by Kolby Kollof. Essentially any Jamie Grace song! Lauren Daigle, tobyMac, Chris Tomlin, We Are Messengers, and Micah Tyler. It’s hard trying to recollect all of the artists/songs I’ve loved in the past years, so this list is definitely incomplete.

            Worship – Hillsong United/Worship (they have a new album coming out :D), Bethel Music, Elevation Worship, ICF Worship.

            Indie – Bright City, The Brilliance, John Tibbs, Johnathan Ogden, Ellie Holcomb.

            Christian EDM – Capital Kings, “Marchin’ On,” Rend Collective and Hillsong Y&F. “Details,” by Sarah Reeves. “Way Up,” (very energetic, I must say) by CASS, Chris Howland, and Sajan Nauriyal. “You Hear Me,” by Chris Howland ft. Tessa E. “Follow Me,” by Shonlock. “Sticks and Stones,” by CASS. “Where You Are Reimagined,” by Hillsong Young and Free. “Where You Go,” by Marshall Marshall. “Adventure,” and “System Victim,” by Matthew Parker.

            There’s more, but this is getting quite long, haha. Tell me if you’d like more recommendations! FYI, Spotify has a lot of song variety and choices.

  • Ria

    Extremely lonely would love help and to share but don’t have anyone to share with and my family are part of the issue so we don’t get along.

    • Ria

      I talk to God everyday regularly throughout the day. But with God it’s not a 2 way dialogue there’s no reply. But I constantly talk to God anyways.

      I do long to be comforted by God and feel His presence surround me. Honestly I’ve been dealing with loneliness and health conditions for 5 years + now, always praying but I’m still plagued with debilitating health issues and I’m still incredibly alone.

      • J

        Feel free to share here, this is a safe place with girls just like you, struggling everyday, including me , but as sisters in Christ we are here for you to help you as much as we can and to share God’s love.

  • Eve

    Thank you soooo much for this post!
    It was a year ago, I was feeling so desperate, lonely, unloved… I tried to run to God, but when I prayed all troubles, which I could hide during the day, came on surface and I was so blinded of sadness that I forgot that Jesus is mighter than all of my troubles. I was thinking about comitting suicide many times. Only hope in Jesus saved me from this and I am thanking him for this.
    I’m still on my way to find my true worth and happiness, so please, pray for me. 🙂

  • Erin

    I recently gave up social media because I felt it was distorting my view of myself as well as blinding me from all of God’s blessings. Thank you for this post! I have been battling lonliness, but God has been speaking to me through many encouraging sources. I know that in every area of my life he will provide.

  • Irene

    I’m 28 years old and I feel very lonely. I have no boyfriend (I’ve never had one) nor a friend who I can trust… I feel that I don’t fit in any group in my church, there the group for the married women and for the younger ones… but I’m too old for that and I’m not married for the other, so I feel so out space. that I don’t know what to do…. and yes, I know God is there, I know he loves me… but sometimes I would like to talk to someone else and spend time with friends… I know this blog is for teens, many years ago I used to read it… but I felt the need to share what I was going through … Thanks for your post I’ll try to tell somebody

    • J

      Hey just wanted to let you know you are not alone, and even though you are older I think it’s perfectly fine to read these blogs, some people are just young at heart. I also feel out of place right now and even thought I am and older teen most of the time I don’t even feel comfortable in youth groups, but don’t ever let that stop being you from being yourself , I believe eventually we will all find our place and our calling in life, as long as we stay in God’s Will.

  • Torri

    Thank you so much for this post. I so needed this. I few so alone, and i have no one to talk to. I have a wonderful family and lots of friends, but i still feel like i have no one to talk to. I hate myself and who i am becoming. I went back to
    my old thought pattern and have been fantasizing. I dont know what to do.

  • Snow

    My heart aches with sadness and it’s hard to wait on God for his plan for someone. some days are such sadness An feel so alone. Makes me feel guilty because I feel like it’s selfish to feel sad when I am so blessed

    • J

      You are definatelly not alone

  • J

    Just know that your worth can’t be measured by what any person thinks of you, and that your worth comes from God, who made you and he cares for you and loves you soooooo much and to Him you are good enough and pretty enough, in His eyes you are a masterpiece (a poem) that he is making out of you.

  • Georgie Walsh

    I would love prayer so much. I feel so inadequate among my friends and peers- i dont feel good enough – even though i know in Gods eyes- I am adored and loved. Thank you for this post.

    • Maria-Simona C.

      You are enough. You are loved. You are amazing. You have done, and will continue to do, many great things for the glory of God.
      Don’t always rely on your feelings. Fill your mind and heart with the truths of God’s Word, and act upon those truths. Soon, you’ll grow more confident and start seeing your worth 🙂
      I’m praying for you, Georgie!

  • Sarah Bean

    I can really relate to this post. I was abandoned by my birth mother and birth father and I get ditched by a lot of my friends, but I never doubt that I AM BLESSED! No one is alone.

  • Jean


  • Sarah

    Praying for all of you girls! God loves you so much!!

  • Bethany

    All of my friends have left me and I’m all alone at school and church.

  • Agnes

    Thank you so much for this post! I always seem to forget that there are so many girls struggling with the feeling of loneliness and how devastating the impact is. I’ve been struggling with loneliness, depression and self-doubt. I don’t feel worthy enough to be loved by God or any anyone else due to the mistakes I’ve made in the past. My faith has been completely destroyed and I don’t know how to rise up again. Please pray for me.