Facebook, You Are Not My Church

This is not an anti-Facebook post.

It’s not an anti-social media post or an anti-Internet post either.

This is a pro-church post.

It’s an I-can’t-live-without-my-local church kind of post.

And a neither-should-you kind of post.

Before we can stand up and cheer for the global Church or the local church I hope you’ll run to next Sunday, let’s consider Facebook for a few.

Facebook recently announced they’ve hit the milestone of two billion users. Yep, you read that right—billion with a B. There are more Facebook members than members of any religion except Christianity. (Just barely. There are 2.4 billion of us Christ-followers globally.) That means that worldwide, one in four people now use Facebook every month.

I should probably fess up that I am among the few billion people not on Facebook. I’ve written about why here if you’re curious. But I’ll be the first to admit that Facebook itself isn’t “bad” or “evil.” I’ve seen it used for a lot of good. Whether or not you should have Facebook is not a hill I’m willing to die on.

Whether or not you look to Facebook as your church is.

Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg is upfront about the company’s plans to do more than simply connect people online. He wants to:

  • Stop our growing sense of disconnectedness.
  • Weave strength into the social fabric.
  • Bring the world closer together.

It’s hard to argue with that! Those are good goals. But he lost me when he suggested that Facebook could plug the holes in our lives left by declining church attendance. “A lot of people now need to find a sense of purpose and support somewhere else,” Zuckerberg said.

Christ’s Plan A for our sanctification and the world’s redemption is the local church.

The First Christian Church of Facebook can only temporarily spackle the holes in our hearts and lives, never fix or heal them. We need Jesus for that, and Christ’s Plan A for our sanctification and the world’s redemption is the local church. Not the cyber church. Not the podcast church. Not the blogosphere church. Not even the Facebook church. Here’s are three reasons why.

1. The Church is physical.

Acts 2:42 describes the early New Testament church. This is the model instituted by the disciples under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit after Christ’s death and resurrection.

And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.

This is a simple and effective mission statement for the local church.

  • We learn God’s Word together.
  • We connect with other Christians.
  • We share communion together.
  • We pray for each other.

Some of these goals can be accomplished online, but usually only as a cheap substitute. How does an online devotional written by someone you’ve never met compare to a Bible study in your living room hosted by an older woman who loves you and knows about your life? How does connecting online compare with connecting over coffee? How can we bear each others’ burdens (Gal. 6:2) when our profiles are all polished up to a high shine and no one knows we’re struggling? How can you take communion across a computer screen? How can you kneel side by side and hand in hand via Facebook?

So much of the nitty gritty of what happens in the church happens in a physical building, physically standing side by side with other believers.

2. The Church has shepherds.

Facebook’s founder called for “great leaders” to shepherd the growing Facebook flock. He even compared these leaders to pastors. Great idea! In fact, it’s God’s idea.

As Paul planted churches across Europe and Asia, he directed church leaders to appoint elders for each church (Titus 1:5). Paul made it clear that elder selection shouldn’t be random, nor should it be a popularity contest based on votes like an episode of American Idol. Elders are to be chosen based on evidence of the fruit of the Holy Spirit in their lives. Specifically an elder should be:

  • Above reproach.
  • Faithful to his wife.
  • Discipling his own children.
  • A man of self-control.
  • Obedient to God and respectful of others.
  • Not arrogant, quick-tempered, drunk, or violent.
  • Hospitable.
  • A lover of good.
  • Upright.
  • Holy.
  • Disciplined.
  • A hearer and doer of God’s Word.
  • A teacher of wisdom.
  • An enforcer of godly discipline (vv. 5–9).

Are these the qualities we see online? Or do the loud and obnoxious prevail more often? Can godly men and women supervise the Internet? If so, who would appoint them?

Matthew 18 outlines a plan to bring believers back to godly living when they are in sin. James 5:16 encourages us to confess our sins to each other. Spiritual authority is a tremendous gift given to us by a loving God who knows our sinful hearts. The Church is a safety net woven by God because of our tendency to choose sin and then find ourselves in a freefall. It cannot be replicated online. We need our pastors. We need our elders. We need the men and women sitting in the pew beside us who are brave enough to ask us if we’re struggling and hold us accountable.

2. The Church needs you.

The Church was created for you, and you were created for the Church. Let me show you what I mean.

  • In Matthew 28:19–20, Jesus gave believers through the ages the Great Commission. We are on a co-mission with Christ to make disciples and teach the Word. This calling is unique to the Church. It cannot be replicated, duplicated, or delegated.
  • Ephesians 4:10–12 tells us that Christ gave us the Church “to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.” It’s the Church’s job to equip you so that you can get to work for the kingdom. Christ has personally called you (and me) to do everything we can to build up the Church. We’ve got work to do!
  • Our gifts belong to each other. “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace” (1 Peter 4:10). You have irreplaceable gifts God wants you to use to serve other Christians. I have irreplaceable but different gifts God wants me to use to serve you. Part of the reason we were created was to serve the local church body. Maybe your needs are being met online, but what about ours? We cannot do this without you.

The Christian life is a life of service. We bring our “firstfruits,” the best of our time, talents, and resources and lay them on the altar in front of God’s people, asking Him to use them to build His kingdom. You can’t serve in the Facebook nursery. You can’t sing in the Facebook praise team. You can’t teach a Facebook Sunday school, take a Facebook mission trip, or visit the sick, discouraged, or grieving on Facebook.

The Church was created for you, and you were created for the Church.

Social media platforms will likely continue to grow. The web will remain a worldwide hub for connection, but it can only enhance, never replace the gift God gave us when He created the Church.

Thanks, But No Thanks

With these truths in mind, I kindly send back Facebook’s offer to be my church. Join me?

Dear Facebook (and Instagram, and Twitter, and whatever social media platform that is to come),

You cannot fix my sin problem. You cannot call me to live like Christ. You cannot give my life meaning or take my gifts and multiply them to reach the world. You are created by man. The Church was created by God. You are destined to pass away. The Church will stand forever (Dan. 2:44).

You are a great forum for witty memes and quick news updates. Thanks for the laughs you’ve given us. But we need more. We need shepherds. We need to serve. We need each other.

Facebook, you are not our church.

About Author

Erin Davis

Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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  • Tiana

    Great post, Erin!

  • Facebook shouldn’t be a substitute for church and for the connected-ness Christians find there. It’s easy to substitute online relationships for real ones, and I am guilty of that. But we need to be connected as a church. Thanks, Erin! 🙂


  • Alaina

    Awesome post…I had Facebook for about two years, but even though I kept finding myself addicted to it, I just felt drained after scrolling through Facebook. Finally I deleted my account, and I don’t miss it a bit!:)

  • Jacque

    Thank you Erin for this post. I have witnessed countless marriages suffer. With the addition of social media outlets, present, physical relationships seem to be less and less important. You hit the nail on the head when you reminded us that we can’t actually know when another is hurting on FB because we always show our “good side” in those outlets. I’ve seen even more suffering because spouses are choosing their phones and these sites for comfort. They are missing each other’s needs. It’s so sad. What’s even more sad is that you’re right, they are choosing FB to be their “church.”

  • Oghosa

    Amen! Good truth!

  • Anonymous Sister

    Brilliantly done, Erin. Thank you!

  • Katherine

    Excellent article. I’ll never do FB and for a variety of reasons. 1-FB’s politics are polar opposites of my own, and in good conscience I could never be a part of FB. (I boycott businesses like Starbucks and Target for the same reason.) 2- FB is mostly a huge echo chamber for the masses; and drama, TMI, gossip, retaliations, and recorded despicable acts (sometimes criminal) come with the territory. 3- Waste of time. Time is better spent enjoying life outside the techno bubble and with one on one relationships.

  • Nicole Lewis

    Yes and No. Just simply going to a Church isn’t Gods will. Look around and you will see many Churches that embrace homosexuality and LBGT community. This is not to say that they cannot come to the churches, but they are embracing the sin itself. We embrace sinners but not their sin. If you are living in sin churches need to tell you to repent and encourage others to serve and obey the word. Church can be good but it needs to be a spirit filled church. Too many churches are sold out because they are run by the government 5031 which limits what the church can say otherwise they take away the funding. That’s why its important to read your bible and use discernment when you are looking for a church. Many Churches lead people astary by preaching false gospel. Let the holy spirit guide you about a church. But yes, fellowship serves many purposes and you can’t be arrogant and think you can go at it alone and no one is as spiritual as you. Its about balance and putting God first, even if that means forsaking friends and leaving your Church or questioning your pastor outside the sermon.