An Idol Called Insecurity

From the LYWB.com Team: We love to see young writers using their gifts to point girls toward God’s truth! This post was submitted by one of our readers, Sara Barratt. You can read the original version here.

You don’t know, Oh, oh
You don’t know you’re beautiful
Oh, oh, oh, That’s what makes you beautiful.

One Direction fan or not, there are some songs that are so catchy they replay over and over in our minds. Everywhere I go I seem to continually hear “Oh, oh, oh, you don’t know you’re beautiful” blaring from the speakers. Which, in a way, is very flattering—except they aren’t really singing about me. Are they?

No matter who they are singing about, this is the type of song any girl can relate to, and I can’t help but wonder if they’ve hit the nail on the head.

We really don’t know we’re beautiful.
We don’t know we’re talented.
We don’t know we’re smart.
We don’t know our own worth.

This is an epidemic, and it’s been spreading rapidly since Eve first disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden. No one is immune. Generation after generation has been infected. And it all starts with a lie—a voice that tells us, “You’re not good enough. Why even try?” Or “Just look at her. You’ll never look like that.” And weak as we are, we believe it. Soon it becomes who we are.

Or does it?

We’re insecure. But not worthless.

Why do we allow ourselves to be defined by voices that contradict the Word of God even though we’re daughters of the King of kings?

It’s Time to See Our Insecurities for What They Really Are

What does God think about our insecurities? What does He feel when we question how He created us, wishing we were better, different, or more like so-and-so?

Does He feel hurt? Rejected? Angry? Annoyed?

I believe it’s time to see our insecurities as they really are. Not merely our own little issue or something we have to try and get over, but instead as a direct insult to God’s perfect handiwork. As sin. As an idol in our lives. Those may feel like extreme labels for something everyone seems to struggle with. At first glance, it may feel like a stretch, but an idol is anything we put above God. When we allow our insecurities to blind us, we’re bowing to the idol of our own self-centeredness, refusing to look past ourselves and to the One who so lovingly created us.

This is hard to swallow. While I know it’s true, I still struggle. I have placed my insecurities—my appearance, my worth, my talents—above God more times than I can count.

There has to be a better way.

There’s a Difference Between Knowing and Believing

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well (Ps. 139:14).

Maybe you’ve heard that verse so many times that you rushed right past it. But pause a moment and consider this: Do we really believe it? Do we know it “full well”? Do we allow that truth to take root in our heart or is it choked out by insecurity?
Romans 1:25 gives us this warning: “They exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever!”

Do we exchange the truth about God’s Word for a lie about how we feel about ourselves? Don’t we essentially worship and serve ourselves (the creature) rather than the Creator when we obsesses over how we look instead of all that Christ has claimed us to be?

Let this truth sink into your heart. Hear it as though you have never heard it before.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made, crafted beautifully with thought and care. You were given unique talents to be used for God’s glory. You’re destined for kingdom-building things. You are chosen. Claimed. Spoken for. And loved without measure, more than you could ever comprehend.

It’s Time to Shine

It’s time to shine! It’s time for us to let go of our insecurities and be the light of the world God calls us to be (Matt. 5:14). I know this is easier said than done. But when those voices try to make you feel worthless, rebuke them and replace them with truth. There is power in the truth of God’s Word. Our insecurities will taunt and torment, but in one Word they cower.

Jesus.

The name of the One who gave us truth and who loves us so very much.

It’s time for us to let go of our insecurities and be the light of the world God calls us to be.

You were not destined to live in bondage to every insecure thought and feeling. The Holy One died to grant you freedom (Gal. 5:1). Grasp hold of that truth. Fix your eyes on it instead of your perceived flaws. Ask God to show you how He sees you. As He does, write it down. Make a list of who you are in Christ. Read it often. Believe it.

You were chosen for so much more.
You don’t have to bow at the altar of insecurity.
You can worship at the feet of the One who made and defines you instead.

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9).

PS: True security is found in Christ’s acceptance of us, not our acceptance of ourselves. We’ll chat more about that in tomorrow’s post. Don’t miss it!

About Author

Sara Barratt

Sara Barratt is a youth leader, writer, avid reader, chocolate lover, and “I Love Lucy” fan. She strives every day to know her Savior better and fall more in love with Him. A regular contributor for The Rebelution, Sara has been published on numerous other blogs including Know Your Value and The Overflow. Connect with her on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/sarabarrattauthor/

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  • Anonymous Sister

    Yes! Everyday look yourself in the mirror ladies and say that verse! Also, don’t believe the lie that your insecurity is just you being “modest and meek”. No! Claim that you’re awesome, not because of what you have done, but because God created you. The same one that made billions of stars loved you more than them! Nothing can change your worth. Nothing. Can. Change. Your. Worth. Not even your actions.

    • Sara Barratt

      Yes! That’s so true! Thank you so much for reading! I’m so glad you could relate! 🙂

  • Hey Sara

    An Idol Called Insecurity was an enjoyable read. It’s nice to read posts by other readers 🙂 Sure, some songs stick with us longer than others.

    The eight appearances of Jesus in ‘Jesus Speaks’ looks like an interesting read. I like that the books come with three reading plans.

    I’m in line with you on the negative impact of the lies we tell ourselves daily. As you say, it’s important to see the difference between being insecure and worthless.

    For me, it’s important to motive myself, but without a proper foundation, it’s like useless. Our foundation should be God’s Word, the Bible.

    My favourite part of your blog was where you say: “You’re destined for Kingdom – building things” – that really what it’s all about: Being the light of the world, God intended us to be.

    It’s interesting, you’re a youth leader. I love chocolate too 🙂

    I’ll share on my Social accounts Monday.

    PS: I love Pizza too 🙂

    Regards,
    Edna Davidsen

    • Sara Barratt

      Hi Edna! I’m so glad you enjoyed reading it! I certainly enjoyed writing it! I totally agree, our foundation should be the Bible!

      Yay! Thanks in advance for sharing. And just between us, who couldn’t love chocolate and pizza??? 🙂

      Thanks again!

      • My pleasure 🙂

        It would be nice if pizza and chocolate were so healthy that we could eat bunch of it daily.

  • I’m guilty of making insecurity my idol… If I let it become more important than God, I have disobeyed Him. But He gives us worth and value and security!

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    • Sara Barratt

      That’s so true, Grace! Thank you so much for reading! God bless!

  • Brittania

    Yep. . .been here done that. Jesus doesn’t worry about our insecurities, because insecurity is usually based on a lie. Perhaps Eve took the apple because she was insecure that she didn’t know it all. . .Satan likes to deceive us into thinking we are less than we really are.(And pride the opposite. . .thinking we are more than we are.) http://getadeeperlife.weebly.com/

    • Sara Barratt

      That’s so true, Brittania! Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! 🙂

  • Bonnie

    Ooh this one is a big one for me! All those times I’ve hated myself. All those hours I’ve spent trying to make myself look pretty, but in the end I never feel pretty. Everyone else always seems to have it all together! I was aware that God doesn’t want us to think badly about ourselves, but I’ve never thought it was actually a sin. Very enlightening! Thank you!

    • Sara Barratt

      Bonnie, this comment means so much to me! I can totally relate. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but everyone who always seems to ” have it together” really doesn’t. They’re just as insecure as you and I. It’s okay to not “have it together. ” God still loves us and wants our hearts and wouldn’t have made us differently for anything! Thank you so much for reading and sharing your heart! Praying for you!