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marie
that was great, but 1 ?
on Friday, July 11, 2008 at 9:26 pm
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thank you for sharing that with us all!! I have always had a hard time telling what was modest. but what about swimming suits? I don't think we need to swim in jeans, but I would not wear a bikini ether. what are your thoughts. i am praying about it.
thank you again!
Erin Davis
Marie
on Saturday, July 12, 2008 at 12:26 pm
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This is a great question, and one I've wrestled with a bunch. I'm not sure there is a such a thing as the perfect swimsuit, especially when striving for modesty, but here are the things to look for:
1. bellies can be highly attractive to guys. I would stay away from suits that show belly (a.k.a. bikinis).
2. Also watch for cleavage. Even if a suit fits well in the store, once you add water this area can get too exposed. Look for suits with high necklines.
3. Why not apply the "grandpa's mirror" test to your bathing suit shopping? If you'd be embarrassed to wear a suit in front of your grandpa (or dad), don't buy it.

What do you think? What other guidelines should we apply to swimsuits?

Erin Davis
LYWB Blog Moderator
Lisa
Swimsuits!
on Sunday, July 13, 2008 at 1:50 pm
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I like the response by Erin. Also there are little skirts you can wear over your suit when not in the water that will help cover other parts that might attract the wrong attention. Its all about your heart attitude. Are you trying to please God in what you are wearing or are you trying to please man? If your heart is to please God then do not worry about what others might think about your "granny" suit. Gods opinion is the ONLY one that counts!
marie
swimmingsuits
on Sunday, July 13, 2008 at 9:02 pm
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thank you for your advice. I recently got a swim suit and was not sure if it were modest. So I asked my older brother what he thought. i also asked my dad. I think God gave us brothers and dads for that reason also. I encourage all you girls to talk to your dad about it. If you are embarrassed about wearing it in front of them, maybe you should not wear it at all. thank you again!
Victoria{living my life for Him}
its not that hard....
on Sunday, July 13, 2008 at 10:03 pm
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Girls, honestly, it is not that hard to find clothes that are modest and cute. 2 years ago, i thought it was impossible, but lately things have been great. I'm into fashion, but i make my own style. Layering is one of my favorite things! And as long as you have a cami that doesn't show cleavage...and a polo...you're good to go. Aeropostale is one of my fav places to get shirts, because they are longer. I wait for sales...$20 is way to much for a plain t-shirt.
It does take time to shop around and even i get annoyed when i can't find anything modest and cute, but it's not impossible.
As for swimsuits. I wear a bikini when i'm with my girlfriends in their pool just to work on my tan(even though no one really sees it). When I know there are def gonna be boys around....if i even go swimming...I make sure my swimsuit is modest..and i wear shorts with it. Shorts with even a one-piece does look cute..and its modest too. :D
Corinne
Bathing Suits
on Sunday, July 13, 2008 at 10:18 pm
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I know bathing suits are a big thing in the summer and I know it's important to have a cute one. I have found the solution in the tankinis(?). They are the bathing suits with the long tops. I know what you're thinking: EW! But some of them can be really stylish and be very moderate! They can be very cute! Try em' on! Also I was hoping for your feed back too guys (lywb staff). Lemmie know what you think of my idea of tankinis(?) ! Thanx!
Brooke
replying to corinne
on Monday, July 14, 2008 at 1:04 pm
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I had a bikini but I just got ride of it and im getting a tankini. There accually is alot of cute one's!! There more modest than bikinis they dont show off all your belly! You right Corinne..
Bridgette
Marie:
on Monday, July 14, 2008 at 5:37 pm
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Hey! I have a suggestion. I wear a modest swimsuit, but, I also bought a cover up. It is like a bath towel material, but it's not form fitting, or anything, plus it keeps me warm if I am going swimming in the evening and will be staying out into the night. So, I hope this helps!
kailey
swim suits
on Monday, July 14, 2008 at 5:45 pm
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i dont know what bathing suit to wear when i go to the pool. are tankinis alright? or should i stick with a 1 peice?
Rebecca
Swimsuits
on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 1:19 pm
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My swimsuits are always one piece, I like tankinis but I haven't found one that I would be comfortable in (low tops) but yes I would buy a tankini, definetly not a bikini though (shows your stomach), also I like to wear my coverup (obviously not in the water though) Hope this helps.
Rebecca
Pants
on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 1:36 pm
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Sorta off topic, but I know a lot of people think its worg to wear pants, is it wrong to wear pats/shorts? I don't wear really short shorts but I wear high knee pants. Just a question.
Leilani
What's diffrent?
on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 1:50 pm
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What's diffrent from underwear and a bathing suit??
julaine
modesty
on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 8:03 pm
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IF WHAT UR SHOWIN AINT ON THE MENU KEEP IT COVERED UP!
when your dressing imodestly every guy 9-90 years old is lookin at you (not in a good way)

by the way tankinis are ok if the top is long enough and the bottoms arent like wearing someing from victorias secret
GirlofGrace
Bathing Suits
on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 11:43 pm
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Usually when I go swimming I put a t-shirt and a pair of shorts on over my swimming suit. That way you don't show anything:)
Stephanie
Bathing suits
on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 at 10:56 am
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It's SO hard to find a modest swimsuit! But, I found one at JCpenny and it covers so well! It's a skirt and a tankini top that covers everything! I was happy to find something like that! Guys think differently than we girls do. Usually when girls see other girls in bikinis, we think, "yuck!" or ,"that's gonna be a problem for some guy out there." Sometimes we are tempted to wear whatever we want and let guys suffer in their own temptations...they DO need to guard their eyes, but we need to dress in a way that would please our heavenly Father. When you try something on, think, if Jesus were standing right in front of you, would He be pleased with what you are wearing.
Stephanie
To Leilani
on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 at 10:57 am
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AMEN!
Aly
swimsuits
on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 at 12:06 pm
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if you girls ever have a hard time finding a cute one piece, go to a sports gear store! they almost always have racing suits(which are always one pieces) and there are a lot of cute designs,usually for a good price!hope this helps!
Kierra
swimsuits
on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 at 6:35 pm
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see I dont like one pieces because I have some what of a belly and I dont like to have things to tight so I get tankinis and shorts see I got a pair of shorts at wallmart and there pretty long and the tankini is very cute and there cheaper then one pieces :)
Carolyn
Swimsuits
on Thursday, July 17, 2008 at 1:22 pm
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I can't seem to find ANY tankinis that are cute. I can only find bikinis, but no one seems to have cut tankins for a resonable price. Where might I find one?
Madeline
swimsuits
on Thursday, July 17, 2008 at 5:23 pm
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My mom and i went bathing suit shopping the other day and we both feel the same way: we doon't like how the bathingsuits are so low.
Jen
Re: Bathing Suits
on Thursday, July 17, 2008 at 9:12 pm
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Like "GirlofGrace", I think it's a good idea to wear a t-shirt and shorts over your bathing suit. You can find board shorts [safe in the water] at Wal-Mart in the summertime. Also, you don't have to worry about what your bathing suit looks like. Faded? No prob, no one will know!
Lisa
Big difference!
on Friday, July 18, 2008 at 12:21 am
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Well I never saw a one piece underwear... lol so there is a big difference! I can look at underwear and always tell the difference between those and bathing suits. And if you cant tell the difference, chances are it is immodest and you should keep shopping:)
jen
swimming suits
on Friday, July 18, 2008 at 6:17 pm
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tankinis are deffinetly "in" and they're also modest so ya.....
Kierra
tankinis
on Friday, July 18, 2008 at 7:37 pm
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well theres tankinis at jcpennys and sport chalet and wall mart in the teen section some times in the kids
:D Happygirl :D
swim suit
on Saturday, July 19, 2008 at 12:25 pm
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Hey, I have a tankini and the top is a little low and shortish (such as when i pull it down to make it a little longer it gets to low, and when i pull it up to make it less low it get's to short) Do you have any suggestions on what to do? The bottom is perfect shorts, so i don't really want to get a new suit!
jen
to happygirl
on Sunday, July 20, 2008 at 12:43 am
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maybe u should wear a t-shirt over the top
Rach
a helpful suggestion with swim suits:)
on Sunday, July 20, 2008 at 4:22 am
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Hey girls!!! You all have this amazing desire to be modest with your swim suits and I really admire that! Me and my sister ran into the same problems you guys have. We totally understand and have been through many frustrations as well with getting a modest swim suit. So, what we did (please read the whole description) is we bought a bikini with shorts and a tank-top over the bikinis (it ended up looking extremely cute, and was MODEST!) The tank top wasn't see-through when it was wet. You buy each item separately, but in the end, if you think it through, it is totally worth it :) follow that and you get a cute, modest swim suit! Hope this helps some of you!
<3 your sister in Christ :)
ashley
swimsuits
on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 11:05 am
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I think with tankinis you can't make the generalization that they are all modest or immodest. It really varies on each individual suit. Another thing to consider is that a swimsuit that one girl can wear and still be modest may not necessarily be modest on you. For example, halter cuts may be okay for smo girls, but if you have a lot to cover, it may be different. And taller girls may not be able to wear tankinis as easily as shorter girls. Longer torso = shorter top and more belly.
Just some things to think about. :-)
Bethany
in reply to happygirl
on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 10:02 pm
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many places sell swim peices separatly (i know target does...) and in all colors and styles, so you're bound to find a top piece that is modest and matches your shorts. hope that was helpful!
Amy
swimsuits
on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 at 1:15 am
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I agree that generally tankinis are more modest, and rather than wear shorts with my suit, I actually found one with a skirt bottom instead of the traditional underwear-like one
And mine is like a halter top, but it has a tie in the back so I can make it higher to show less cleavage.
Emily
swimsuits
on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 at 2:38 pm
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i usually wear one pieces, but my friend got a tankini with a skirt bottom and it is sooo cute.
Victoria
Swimsuit
on Thursday, July 24, 2008 at 3:20 pm
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Swimsuits are the hardest thing for me to find. My mom has to make sure it si alright in every place and I have ot make sure I feel modest and not self-conscious. Self-conscious is something else you can use to determine if soemthing is immodest. if you feel s-c about the tightness of your pants or neckline then you probably should not wear it.
Back to swimsuits, i usually have to go to lots of stores b/c i am in between sizes. I love tankinis but they are expensive. There is something about bathing suits
- One can usually tell what another promotes/stands for by their everyday clothes & swimsuit -
are you sending the right message to the world with you everydaywear & swimsuit?
Alice
Swimsuits
on Saturday, July 26, 2008 at 2:34 pm
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I hate wearing one-pice bathing suits. I don't like how when it gets wet it clings everywhere. But I don't want to wear an imodest bikini. I don't want that kind of attention from guys but I do want to be comfortable when I swim. I tried tankinis and they were good but some of them still clinged. What should I wear when I go swimming then? I can't just not swim cause I live in Florida and I love to swim. Help?
Anonymous
it IS a challenge
on Saturday, July 26, 2008 at 3:03 pm
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In my neck of the woods, it IS really REALLY hard to find modest clothes!!! not everyone shares the same struggles, but unless you are a really good seamstress, it is a huge challenge to find modest clothes! i shopped for 3 days every day and couldn't even find ONE skirt below the knee. i asked a sales lady if they had denim skirts. she took me to a rack of MINI SKIRTS! i was like, uh, i mean, skirts below the knee. she gave me the weirdest look! she's like "well NOWDAYS [as if!] girls don't wear those type of skirts. their simply not fashionable anymore." i kinda struggled to be nice to her after that! ;-) where can you find good modest clothes? cuz i'm REALLY super small (like size zero) and if, by some amazing chance i find some shorts (switching topic a little here...) that fit me in the waist, their ALWAYS too tight. so i have to get shorts (bermudas) that are too big in the waist so they'll be just a little bit loose. does anyone have any suggestions about where i can find modest bottoms that FIT!?!?!? i feel like i've looked EVERYWHERE... and well, i don't have a million dollars to spend on shorts too.....
Last Edit: on Saturday, July 26, 2008 at 7:32pm by edavis  
Erica
modest swimsuits
on Saturday, July 26, 2008 at 9:21 pm
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When my sisters and I were little, our parents let us wear one piece swimsuits. After we got older, though, my Mom sewed us our own swimsuits that were two piece, showed no belly, had short sleeves, shorts, and a skirt that came down to the knee. The first year we wore these, we heard a lot of comments from other people. One boy even asked me how mine was made. That particular style didn't always stay comfortably on underwater, though, because the skirt and shorts were in one piece, so since then we have bought swimsuits from "Swim Modest", which has a website (www.swimmodest.com). They're rather expensive, but they are really cute and are similar to the ones my Mom made. They are a one piece outfit and the only thing you have to worry about is the skirt being flipped up when you're not in the water. The only time I have ever felt self conscious in one of their swimsuits was when I was wearing the largest girls size, but needed the built in bra that is in the ladies sizes.
gigi
clothes
on Sunday, July 27, 2008 at 1:35 pm
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its been hard to find somewhat modest clothes lately, especially bathing suits.
i recently had to buy a bikini - there was simply no other option! my solution, is wear a tank top over it and your good to go!
but clothing has been hard to find for me, everythings low-cut, or too tight or just plain uncomfortable! ughhh im seriously considering starting my own fashion line....
gigi
clothes
on Sunday, July 27, 2008 at 1:39 pm
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ok so yea clothes are hard to find, and i even no how to sew but it doesnt help much because its a process. one piece bathing suits are uncomfortable, but i have 1 none the less. but, thats the only one i had. i couldnt find a tankini in my size anywhere! so, i was forced to buy a bikini. the simple solution is to wear a tank top over it. its not that complicated .. .about skirts- - i think its ok to wear a skirt just above the knee. if u cant find anything other than miniskirts, u can wear leggings, but its just not the same.
whered all the modest clothing go???? i mean, every time i go into the dressing room, everythings too lowcut, too tight, ect!! im considering my own fashion line lol
Allison
swimwear and clothes...
on Monday, July 28, 2008 at 1:02 am
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The quick-dry shirts in the active section of stores work perfectly over swimsuits. They are not clingy like t-shirts, and they dry SOOOO much faster! Board shorts work well over swimsuits as well. I wear a tankini with a quick-dry shirt and knee-length board shorts. Works perfectly! I think showing too much leg can be a temptation to guys, so I don't go without shorts, or short shorts for that matter either. Swimsuits alone are tight too, So I wear a shirt on top. Modesty sometimes appears to be a pain, but it is completely worth it to glorify GOD and not be a stumbling block to others!
In response to Rebecca:
I personally do not believe it is wrong to wear pants or shorts, in certain aspects. Tight jeans are out of the question in our family, and mid-thigh shorts are as well. Actually, I rarely wear shorts (even bremuda shorts) because I'm not comfortable in them. I think that pants and capris can be modest and feminine if they are not too tight, but skirts always rate #1 in "femininity" in my opinion.

FOR THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW WHERE TO BUY CLOTHES....
Have you tried the thrift store/resale shop? Those tend to be the best place to find modest clothes at a decent price.
I also have some friends who have a modest boutique with really cute clothes at reasonable prices if you want to check it out!!!!
http://bellissimamodestyboutique.com
lalaleslie}}
bathing suits
on Monday, July 28, 2008 at 12:01 pm
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i found a really good solution to the bathing suit problem: board shorts and shirts! their cute and comfy! the shirts you can get in varying sleve lengths and the shorts are the same. plus, they often have really cute patterns and stuff! they can get expensive, but its really worth it!
You have to get them kind of tight so they stay on and stuff- just like bathing suits. but they cover well.
Last Edit: on Tuesday, July 29, 2008 at 9:57am by edavis  
Sarah
rebelution
on Monday, July 28, 2008 at 8:55 pm
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hey, girls, I just went on the Rebelution website, and man, I had to drag myself off to come over here. Anyway, one thing that I looked at, was the Modesty survey. If you haven't already, go check that out. (I thought it was a bit hard to find, but it was worth it.) It had some great coments from guys on their thoughts on some of the clothes we wear and stuff. I found the swimsuit category really helpful. Some of the things we think are modest, are actually stumbling blocks to guys. (Till about half an hour ago I thought t-shirts over bikinis we ok, but guys think differently.)
meg
swimsuits
on Wednesday, July 30, 2008 at 12:32 am
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yeah, just like a lot of girls i always wear either girl board shorts or guy swim shorts when i go swimming and i try to find swimsuits that don't have a plunging neckline... tnx for the test:)
meg
to sarah
on Wednesday, July 30, 2008 at 12:59 am
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hey, i just got of the rebelution site and yeah- it was a pain in the neck to find the survey but it is so helpful and after i'm done i'll prob go back over there and surf it:) anyway, the exact link is
http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/browse... and yeah, i was totally surprised at the "a tankini w/ shorts is immodest." guys are really in a totally different leage!!!
sophie :)
swimsuits
on Thursday, July 31, 2008 at 11:11 pm
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i love the rebelution website and the modesty survey is amazing:) i've told all my friends about it:) there are so many things that i could've never thought they'd be a stumbling block for guys but they are:) i've always used one piece swimsuits or tankinis but i was telling my mom that i want some board shorts and a swim shirt this summer bc of everything i read on the website about guys and what they say about showing so much leg or cleavege:) it really is cool to see what real guys think of the way we dress:) if you have the chance, go on to the website and see for yourself what guys say about us:) it really opened my eyes to the area of modesty:) hope this helps:)
Leah
clothing
on Saturday, August 2, 2008 at 11:52 am
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I know what you mean about things being too tight or too short, just about anything but modest. So, I like to go to Goodwill, or Playdoughs Closet or other resaile places. Often you can find things that are brand new, for less than $5. And all the modest clothing, unfortunately, seems to end up in places like that. Also, try layering things that are too low, as long as there not too tight, that will make it modest and still look cute.
Rachel
Ugh.
on Monday, August 4, 2008 at 10:38 am
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Lately my sister has been annoying me about what I wear. My Dad usually gets on me about my clothes if they are not modest, which is rare because my Mom and I try to pick clothes that fit right and aren't too short or too low. But it was my birthday a few days and we celebrated and then I saw my sister had bought me some clothes from Aeropostale, they were medium shirts and I said to her that I usually buy a large because the shirts run really small and she says that my shirts are always baggy and it makes me look overweight. LOL. I'm not overweight though and anyone WITH a brain would be able to know that. But I'm not like my sister. She wears short shorts and sometimes low shirts and usually her shirts are tight. She says I dress childish though I am only a teenager. But it's annoying. I'd expect this from girls at school not from my own sister. I'm just trying to wear what feels comfortable to me and something that is also modest. I wish she'd just stop worrying about what I wear and worry about herself. :(
abby
oh gee...
on Monday, August 4, 2008 at 4:06 pm
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I found out that I don't show my belly button too much. And I don't wear skirts, but however I do wear short shorts and I think that I should switch capris, Thanks! It turns out that the pants that I'm wearing today were too low so I just put on a belt. My shirt isn't too tight, but thanks for having me check. I don't need to layer this time. Thanks so much!
ChristianDramatist!
Testing...
on Wednesday, August 6, 2008 at 12:36 pm
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#1 is no problem for me because I naturally have excess skin there, so I naturally don't let it show because it makes me look like I have belly fat or even will make me look about 3 months pregnant. It bugs me, so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that, although I do check.
#2 was a great check for me. When reading that one, I was a bit concerned about a couple skirts at first, especially since I have a tendency to sit with my legs apart, but they pass the test, so that's good! Now if I can only get into the habit of crossing my legs...
#3 is one I have a problem with because the only kind of jeans that fit me right are basically "bell bottoms". So what I actually do is I'll wear a longer top with it so that I don't have to layer!
#4 was one I should've used months ago when those tight tops actually fit me right. But now they don't, and I actually like a lot of the fashionable loose-fitting tops better anyway.
#5 is one where I have trouble. I mean, I'm big-chested, but my cleavage doesn't show as high up as most girls and women. My chest kind of sits lower on me, so although the fabric doesn't quiet meet pinkie, my cleavage is completely hidden. Would you consider that ok???
I also love what you had to say on swim-suits. I'm so glad that I don't have to worry about bikinis, since they don't fit right on bottom anyway. I wear tankinis, though, and that makes it just as hard and sometimes even harder to find a good swim-suit. Thanks for the tips; I may need to get a new swim-suit soon, so those tips will become very handy when I need to get a new one!
Amelia
clothes
on Thursday, August 7, 2008 at 10:43 pm
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Well, Mom and I work together on my clothes. Anything I by, she gives her apruval first. It is a good team. She can really be soo much help to me! Unfortunetlly, I am really big in the cheast, though I am not over weight. I just am naturally, so shirts are sooo annoying. Basicly, anything but a turtle neck is too low. grrrr. I wear tank tops under every single thing I wear, but still, a little clevige shows. It drives me crazy!
Haley
So True!!
on Sunday, August 10, 2008 at 3:27 pm
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It is so hard to find modest clothes! I'm EXTREMELY tall and everything that would look good on other girls looks too small for me. Expecially bathing suits!! They're always too low or too tight or the expose my stomach even when I find one that doesn't go to low it's WAAAAY too highcut on the thigh. I don;t know where to shop anymore???
ama
over and out
on Monday, August 11, 2008 at 10:50 pm
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I know somtimes tucking in your shirt is okay but to some people would think that that is not very fashionable if you don't want to tuck in your shirt just find a reasonably priced pair of not so low riding jeans I know it is not that hard because that is all i buy ( cant afford those expensive name brands)
Bridgette
Re:
on Monday, August 18, 2008 at 4:05 pm
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Hey, everyone! Amelia- I know how you feel, i am the same way, so you're not alone! LOL What i do is get an adjustable cami with lace at the top, adjust the straps all the way up and put another shirt over top. It works and it looks really good!
K
swimming suites
on Monday, August 18, 2008 at 5:04 pm
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when i was at camp this year no one could where bikini's so alot of the girls had tankini's they don't show stomach and they aren't a one peice. and they got them in the maternity section. the swimming suites that are now in the jrs department are usually bikinis with really low bottoms. and the modest swim suited there are usually not cute. so go for the maternity section lol. or if you find a cute modest top with not so modest bottoms...then put a pair of shorts over them. thats what i do. :)
Vanessa
Re:
on Saturday, August 23, 2008 at 4:07 pm
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Here's just some suggestions: if you are a swimmer and love the water, beach or pool and you don't know what type of swim attire would be good for you, then just buy a regular one piece or two piece swimsuit and put a pair of long shorts (I prefer basketball shorts, bought in the boy's department) and a t-shirt on top which isn't low. Or sometimes if I'm just with my family and really close friends, I'll wear a tank top which is really high, showing no cleavage or anything. I'm very careful with what I wear when I swim. It just has to be right and modest for me. I can't stand those swimsuits which they make for those reasons of being modest, I just like to wear shorts and a t-shirt over. That's my opinion though!
L
swimsuit idea...
on Sunday, August 24, 2008 at 4:25 pm
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If you can't find any cute modest swimsuits, here's an idea i thought was kind of cool and cute: Just wear any kind of swimsuit, and then top it with a cute colored cami (or tank top...) For the bottoms there are lots of cute skirt bottoms, or board shorts are becoming more popular too! And if the cami (or tank) matches the bottom it totally looks like it goes with the suit! Hope that helps! :D
Emily
Swimsuits
on Thursday, August 28, 2008 at 10:40 pm
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Here's an idea for modest swimsuits....it's what my sisters and I wear. Surfing shorts, or swimming trunks, and a t-shirt. Surfing shorts over a regular swimsuit is good too. Maybe that will help some!
daughetr of THE King
Re:emily
on Monday, September 8, 2008 at 11:32 am
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hey thanks you sound like a perrety good girl
godlover
Agreement
on Thursday, October 9, 2008 at 9:36 pm
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I have thought about these questions in my daily life. I know what it feels like to made fun of, but you have let these things go. Some girls at school make it a habit to make fun of me because of what I wear, that I don't wear makeup yet, and that I don't have cool friends. They are the kind of girls that say bad words. You know whatt I am talking about, don't you? It isn't that easy to say no to things you know aren't right. I have been there before.
godlover
swimsuits
on Thursday, October 9, 2008 at 9:39 pm
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I beg my mom for bikinis all the time, even though I know the answer all ready. Now all I ask for are things I know my mom likes. She doesn't really go for the halter tops, but if they don't show that much skin, she'll take it. But if she finds a better 1 piece, she would rather have me buy that one. Is anyone else's mom like that? I love my mm and the decisions she makes, because I know they are for the best for me.
Alice
Swimsuits
on Saturday, October 18, 2008 at 12:47 pm
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Not exactly on subject but speaking of swimsuits my mom says that what ever you swim suit covers no one else should ever touch or see (by the way our swimsuits have always been modest takinis or one-pieces)
monica
To anonymous
on Wednesday, October 29, 2008 at 11:32 pm
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Hey! I was so excited to read about you spending 3 days and still not finding any long skirts! That's just like me and my sisters! And we often get that look when we ask for long skirts too! I wear skirts 365 days a year (of course not in bed!!) and I work in a greenhouse so my skirts wear out pretty quick. I been looking out for skirts for months but haven't found any. I've decided to go to one of those stores where they sell consignment clothes. They often have long skirts there (though it seems gross to wear someone else's clothes!). Last night I spent an hour trying on tops and only one was not too tight. One was so tight I almost got in a panic trying to take it off!!
People think we're crazy and you always get put in a box when they see you wearing a skirt (if you know what I mean) And when you finally do find a skirt it's usually so tight you can hardly walk in it or there's a long split in the back. But my Mom showed me how to fill in the split. People think it's wierd to not wear make up. But I'm not against a little bit, but I just don't wear it cause I couldn't be bothered! Sometimes, I wish people would just take it easy and leave us alone even if we don't dress exactly like them.
Had SOOOOO much fun over this website! Don't know many poeple that care about trying to look modest. Cheers :)
andie
erin:
on Saturday, November 15, 2008 at 6:17 pm
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i have this one hollister shirt i reallly like, but it comes to the veryy bottom of side of my pinky is this ok?
Anonymous
Re:
on Monday, November 24, 2008 at 8:53 pm
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are tankinis ok?
jules
Re:
on Friday, December 19, 2008 at 8:45 pm
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my dad is a pastor at a church in california and he has always been picky about what i wear. i am not even allowed to wear jeans which i love cuz they match with everything. grrrrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Kara
Bikini's tankini's and one pieces
on Monday, January 12, 2009 at 3:31 pm
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I have struggled countless years trying each year to find a swimming suit that was modest, cute, and afforadable...but no matter how many stores my mom and I went to, noone seemed to have the "Right Thing"


There was a group started on Facebook called, Bring Back Modesty. So, if you have facebook, you might want to find that group! The picture is of two hands holding a heart in them...I can't remember exactely but... :-)

Also, a note to Jules, wow! I really respect your dad's convictions. Because I am homeschooled, wearing a skirt for me is as normal as talking...(I do that a lot! lol!) But yah, I agree, Jeans do go with everything! It is funny!

Oh well! Well I had better sign off!

Love in Christ,

Kara
Last Edit: on Tuesday, January 13, 2009 at 9:54am by edavis  
all4Jesus
Jeans
on Monday, February 9, 2009 at 7:40 am
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maybe im too late sorry but you can make skirts with jean. i have like two and i were them day in and day out. i know what you mean. you can buy a cheap pair of jeans and open up the legs and sew in a triangle piece of fabric. it makes for a really cute skirt. or you can go to http://mariemadelinestudio.typepad.com/mariemadeline_studio/2008/08/re-use-those-je.html or if that is too flashy, http://www.fashion-icon.com/fall_2001/jeansplicing.html but i would just use old jean for the insert. hope this is helpful.
Anne
Re:erica and swimwear
on Wednesday, February 11, 2009 at 12:18 am
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yeah, the swim modest swimsuits are really nice. you can choose what type of fabric you like. we usually wear t-shirts with shorts (boys shorts sometimes because they are more modest) but those swimsuits are a lot cuter! recently, our mom went to a sports store and bought us swim shirts which are less revealing than T-shirts. they are adult's so they are guys or girls, but they are really cool. they have turtle-necks, and sleeves. not sure if you guys can get them in America. this is a European store i think. it's called Decathlon.
Christina
swimsuits...
on Thursday, February 19, 2009 at 8:42 pm
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yeah swimsuits are always a really big issue at our house... our rule at our house is that when im in our backyard just with the friends and family i can wear whatever bathing suit that i want... when i go over to a (girl)friends house then i have to wear a tankini... and when i go over to someones house where there will be guys its an extremely modest tankini either with or without shorts and a tanktop... usually i will wear one though just to be on the safe side... :) :)
Kat
Granny & glad
on Monday, February 23, 2009 at 5:37 pm
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I wear a high-necked onepiece with shorts that cover at least half of my thighs...and so far it's been the right choice for me personally. Ask God what's right for you. He'll answer. This blog had great tips! :)

Victoria: Thanks for mentioning Aeropostale! I'm always looking for longer shirts...
Cheyenne
GREAT BOOK
on Saturday, March 7, 2009 at 4:51 am
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If any of you have not read the book 'Secret Keeper" by Dannah Gresh, you really should. I read it recently at my friend's house. It's a great book. IT's written in a way that is easy to understand, but it gets the point across. it really makes you feel special, and also makes you WANT to be modest. It's definitely worth it!
Olivia
Modest Swimwear
on Thursday, March 19, 2009 at 12:47 am
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I think being modest is so important. God made us and our body is holy and therefore we need to honor God with our bodies my dressing modest. I am ordering my swimsuit online this year because I cannot seem to find a modest one in stores. I wanted to share this awesome website that carries modest fashionable swim wear. www.limericki.com :)
Becca
Swimminggggggg
on Friday, April 24, 2009 at 11:53 am
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haha I laughed so much when I read some of this. What about skinny-dipping with your friends? Is that okay, because it's not like you're "inticing" other boys
silvermist
2 erin
on Friday, April 24, 2009 at 8:17 pm
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to erin

hey i was wondering what you thought on swiming like what to wear or do you beleive in mix swimming at all???
Erin Davis
Hi silvermist
on Friday, April 24, 2009 at 11:11 pm
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Great question! I guess it is that time of year again huh?

Here is my advice.
1. steer clear of bikinis. Trust me they are highly intoxicating to guys.
2. Tankinis can be a good route. But make sure they completely cover your midriff.
3. Be careful about cleavage. When suits get wet they can get loose in this area. Halter type suits are good.
4. I think that board shorts with a tankini top are a great option. Board shorts with a bikini top...not so much.

Let me know what you come up with. I am always looking for new ways to be cute and modest.

Erin
silvermist
Erin (and others)
on Saturday, April 25, 2009 at 11:13 am
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O.k I was just wondering what you thought on it my opionion is that If youre swimming with just other girls or with close family ( your dad or brothers) then you san swim in whatever you want well mabey not a bikini with your brother or dad but i got a really cute halter top tankini with shorts that i feal compltly comfortable in around brother,dad and other girls!


but when if you swim with other guys (besides your brother or father) then i sugest boys swim shorts that go below the knee (you can get some really cute ones try some on!) and for the top i dont sugest a swim suit top of any kind cause can you really buy a swim suit top that isint form fitting? But they make make ummm.. like sport shirts that i have that are made out of slik material so thay dont cling when they get wet! that way you dont have to worry about showing any thing any where!

thanks for your opinion erin i LOVE this blog!!!
Silvermist
cullottes
on Thursday, April 30, 2009 at 9:35 pm
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Hey.... I found this reallly cool site where you can buy what they call "Skirlottes) which is culottes with a skirt thing over it (like a skort) and there really cute and verry modest and they have all kinds of typs of fabrics to choose from and you can do any thing in them! because they cullottes under them so... there kinda expensive it was like 30 dollers a pair but my older sister bought 1 and it turned out really cute! anyway the site is

mycullottes.com
yessy
my swim suit
on Monday, June 29, 2009 at 1:34 pm
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even though this hasnt been commented in a while, i still have to! i am allergic to nylon, spandex, and polyester which is pretty much everything in a swim suit. i bought a halter top tankini with skirt bottoms. and under the tankini i put on a plain cotton pink undershirt and then i sewed the undershirt into it, and made the neckline higher. being allergic to everything in a bathing suit is a bit like a modesty blessing in disguise :D
andie
swim party
on Sunday, July 5, 2009 at 4:48 pm
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hey erin (and girls if u hav any advice) i have a family swim party thing coming up in august and is it ok if i wear a bikini scince its my family or should i put a tank over it? im not doing a t shirt. they look HORRIBLE on mein a swimsuit
Erin Davis
Andie
on Sunday, July 5, 2009 at 10:40 pm
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The way I see it, why push it. Bikinis aren't modest. There's no way around that. Why wear them at all? You never know who might be tempted.

Erin
andie
re:erin
on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 at 12:10 am
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so should i just put a dark tank over it? or just wear a takini? but my tankini is really low cut.
Erin Davis
Andie
on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 at 9:56 am
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If your tankini's low cut, that's not a good solution. There are lots of cute ways to make sure that you're covered up. Try board shorts and a t-shirt or a cute tank top. Just make sure that you've covered those parts that might cause others to stumble.

Erin
Andie
re:erin
on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 at 1:40 pm
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are cheer shorts like sofee's ok?
Erin Davis
Andie
on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 at 2:02 pm
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Dannah has a great list of Truth or Bare Fashion Tests (more than are on the list above) on her website www.purefreedom.org. Here is the link to where you can find PDF of those tests: http://purefreedom.org/downloads.htm. These should help you determine whether or not specific clothing items are modest. I appreciate your heart to be modest. Keep it up girl!

Erin
andie
edavis
on Wednesday, July 15, 2009 at 1:00 am
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so they had these short board shorts on the website. does that mean that sofees are ok?
sadie
Re:
on Thursday, July 16, 2009 at 7:28 pm
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to anonymoose:
i have the exact prblem. i am a 0 or 00, and have trouble with finding stuff. icannt find swimmsuits that fit well. all i have is blah racing suits. i swim on a team. it is so hard!
Chelsey
Swimsuits
on Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 11:41 pm
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OH! I really wish I had read this blog earlier, I know of a website that sells great, fashionable modest swimsuits!! It is called Lime Ricki limeircki.com And I believe it's morman, anyway, look it up, you wouldn'y believe how cute and modest these are!!!!!!!!
Marissa
Help!!!!
on Monday, March 22, 2010 at 12:20 am
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Erin, anyone, I feel extremely alone right now. I have this guy friend and he's been pressuring me to do things I know I shouldn't do like text him a picture of me without clothes on and stuff. Well tonight I sent him a picture of me with only my bra and undies on. We talked to eachother and talked about really sexual things. I've been struggling with lust lately and I can't help myself. I've been asking God for help but I feel really lonely and depressed. I used to be anorexic and I've been feeling really fat lately and counting calories. I'm just awful and I feel so alone. Can anyone help me?
Erin Davis
Marissa
on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 at 4:37 pm
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I am so sorry it has taken me so long to respond to you. Sometimes my inbox gets flooded!

Obviously, I wish you hadn't made the choice to send that text message. You are so precious, and I hate to think about you letting a guy in on the most intimate parts of your beauty. I know that you don't want me to dish out condemnation, but I don't want to just say "it's okay" either.

The great news is that God will freely forgive you if you ask Him to. 1 John 1:9
promises, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

He will forgive you fully if you ask.

I would say that this is just a symptom that you may be believing some serious lies. It sounds like you have wrestled with identity and beauty lies in the past and that may be coming back into your life right now.

Have you read Lies Young Women Believe? If not, I highly recommend that you do. It will teach you the process of identifying which lies you are believing and replacing them with God's Truth.

Also, I would strongly encourage you to seek out a Christian mentor in your own community. There is only so much I can do in this blog format. But meeting with a wise Christian woman on a regular basis can really help you combat Satan's lies.

I know that it can be really scary to ask for help, but it is necessary when our lives get out of control.

Is there anything else I can do to help you right now?

Erin
Marissa
Re: erin
on Thursday, April 8, 2010 at 11:40 am
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Sorry it's taken me time to reply! I forgot I posted here! Lol

Anyway, I understand where you're coming from with telling me it's NOT ok but I'm not going to hell forever and ever. I've written letters to God in my prayer journal asking for forgiveness. Let me tell ya, the moment my pen wrote the words "forgive me" I seriously felt calm and had a sense of inner peace. the weirdest part was that I felt like I was being hugged by God! Idk but it was really awesome.

Well, I talk to this girl, Rebecca, who is like my sister (we even call eachother sis). But I don't regularly meet with her because she lives an hour away. Idk who to talk to but she calls me on the phone about twice a week.

I don't think there's anything else you can help me with. My mom found out and she is friends with the guys mom so they talked and the picture was deleted. He's not allowed to talkto me at school and my mom blocked his number. Just keep praying for my emotional scars please. You must have a long prayer list...

Thanks for all the help you've been and the work you do on the blog!

Sister in Christ,
Marissa
Me
The Test
on Wednesday, June 2, 2010 at 4:37 pm
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I took your test and was surprised to see I got an "A" if you will. I totally am going to tell some of my friends about this. I think, in our world today, that modesty has gone down hill from where it started. Even my friends, who I've known all my life, they have greatly gone away from dressing "right." I think that God made me special just the way I am and I shouldn't show it off like a prize horse(you can tell I'm a country girl). I belive that everybody is pretty in there own way with out modern clothes, 2 pounds of make-up, and a million Facebook friends. I'm really glad that your websites here. God Bless!
Sylvia
Swimsuits
on Thursday, June 10, 2010 at 12:28 pm
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What I'm using for my swimsuit this year is a pair of board shorts, a rashguard shirt, and a bikini underneath that. It's cute and comfortable and my dad is really happy with my swimwear this year.
Rachelle
Swimsuits
on Wednesday, June 16, 2010 at 11:58 pm
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I am a little more curvy and well busty and i used to wear halter top tankinis. Well, at least I did till one day i looked in the mirror and well relized I wasnt too modest. So we found a tube top at wal-mart just solid black and i made sure it passed to palm pilot test. and then even better I found a long skirt at jc pennys.
Maarten Gubbens
Australian Designer
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 1:58 am
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Seen your site first time, i must say there is something special. Thanks for sharing with us this beautiful and informative post....
Last Edit: on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 9:09am by cgaul  
Eva
swimwear: is this modest enough
on Saturday, April 21, 2012 at 9:09 pm
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Is a two piece swimsuit considered modest enough as long as it covers everything? I'm talking about something that dosen't show a lick of cleavage. Not like a bikini or anything. But not a tankini either. my only question is because it shows some stomach. Is it okay to wear around girls at least? Plz reply.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Eva
on Monday, April 23, 2012 at 2:21 pm
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I know how difficult it is to find a modest suit, Eva. I so appreciate your heart to be modest even in your swim wear. Showing your stomach is not being modest. As Erin said, bellies can be very intoxicating to a guy. You never know when a guy might show up – so it would be to keep looking and take a look at some one piece suits, Eva. It is better to be certain you are dressed modestly than to be concerned about a guy wandering in and being tempted. Praying that God will help you find just the right suit!
Eva
thanks
on Tuesday, April 24, 2012 at 2:00 pm
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Thank you so much that really clears things up alot! That also makes a ton of sense! :)
Belle
Question
on Monday, May 28, 2012 at 8:19 pm
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Hi LYWB team! The link of the PDF of those tests that Mrs. Erin Davis put up earlier no longer works. Is there somewhere I can get all the "Truth or Bare Fashion Tests" in a printable form? The reason I ask is because I have a girl youth group at my church and we are going through the LYWB book. We have gotten to the Guys chapter and I wanted to print those tests for them but I can't find a printable form of all the tests. Can you help me?
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Re: Question
on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 6:23 pm
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I apologize for the delay in responding to your question, Belle. Thanks so much for all you’re doing to invest God’s truth in the lives of the young women in your church. I’m sorry we don’t have a PDF for you to print, but you’re welcome to copy and paste the Truth or Bare Test from Erin’s post above.

Praying God abundantly blesses your labors of love!