I’m Taking a Facebook Fast

posted by Erin Davis on 09/21/08 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Media; ; 44 comments

I’m doing something unusual this week—I’m unplugging. Well, not completely. I am still going to be checking email and filtering comments for this blog, but I am going to completely pull the plug on one of my favorite media habits—Facebook. From the time this post goes up on the blog until this time next week, I am fasting from Facebook. That’s just a fancy way of saying; I’m taking a break.

Why? It’s not that I think Facebook is “bad” necessarily. There is a lot that is great about it. It gives me an opportunity to connect with friends who I don’t see often or don’t live near. I use it as a tool to keep my family updated with news of my adorable little boy. I even use it for ministry, to encourage girls from the youth group at my church and to remind them of upcoming events. But, I want to make sure that these benefits really outweigh the harm.

While it’s true that Facebook, and a lot of other forms of media, offer me a lot of benefits. There are also pitfalls. In this case, I spend a lot of time on Facebook, when honestly, I could probably put that time to better use. What more, sometimes I use Facebook as a means of “cyber gossip.” I can’t wait to see what everyone else is up to. I get pretty caught up in status updates and relationship changes. I’m not sure this is God-honoring.

And whether we like it or not, the way we use media does impact us. Nancy and Dannah write about this in Lies Young Women Believe.

“ If you think you are immune to behavior changes influenced by your media choices, think again. Horror novelist Stephen King once said, ‘ Movies are the highest popular art of our time, and art has the ability to change lives.’ We are not immune from buying what they want us to buy, dressing how the want us to dress, and valuing what they want us to value” (Lies Young Women Believe, 151-152).

They’re right. Our media choices do impact us. With that in mind, I think it is important that we take a hard look at our choices to make sure that they do more good than harm. Otherwise, our media choices can slowly introduce us to lies and lead to bondage.

“If you are taking in regular or significant doses of music, television, the internet, and movies, you are being affected by them. The question is: Are you being influenced positively or negatively? The impact is usually not felt immediately—its more like an IV in your arm that goes drip…drip…drip…gradually pumping a foreign substance into your system. If the substance dripping through that plastic tubing is toxic or poisonous, you may not feel the results right away, but once it gets into your system, your whole body will definitely be affected!

Likewise, the consequences of taking toxic media into your mind and soul may not be realized until further down the road when it’s too late and the damage has been done” (Lies Young Women Believe, 152).

So, I’m turning off the drip. I am going to pray through my media choices, specifically my use of Facebook and I’m going to make sure that the pros outweigh the cons. I am going to strive to be especially mindful of how this particular media choice impacts my spiritual walk.

I’ll let you know what I come up with, but in the meantime I would like to invite you to join me. Take a break from your email, your television, or your music. Turn it off for a week or two and use that time to evaluate your media habits in light of what you know from God’s Word. Then, let's talk about it right here on the blog. I'm looking forward to hearing more from you.

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    marie
    hmm........
    on Sunday, September 21, 2008 at 6:43 pm
    that is a lot to think about! thank you Erin for the challenge , i think i am going to not go to a web sit that i like for a week. it is not necessarily god honoring (even though it is not bad)and very additive to me, and i love to look on it. ..what am i to do in the time i am not on it?
    kaylee
    wow
    on Sunday, September 21, 2008 at 11:47 pm
    kudos to you. that's awesome. :) i've been thinking about deleting my facebook account just because it's so addictive. I always want to update my status, check my inbox or look at my friends new bumper stickers. i love that i can reach old friends, but doesn't email do the same thing? if you have a facebook, you can have an email. it's essentially the same, only different. anyway, you have been really encouraging. thanks for all you put into the blog...
    -kaylee
    K.C.
    i agree.....and a comment for marie
    on Monday, September 22, 2008 at 5:30 pm
    i agree with the lay of the facebook and email for a week. i know thats going to be really hard for me, but i will try. its a great idea and i think i just needed a little boost to make me do it. THANKS

    oh and marie, the times that you would usually go onto facebook you can spend reading God's word or hanging with your family or even just be outside in the fresh air.
    Erin Davis
    One Day Facebook Free...
    on Monday, September 22, 2008 at 5:55 pm
    Well girls, I have been steering clear of Facebook for one whole day so I thought I'd drop in and let you know how it's going.

    I have been tempted to hop on Facebook several times today just to double check that my inbox is still empty, but to be honest, I haven't truly missed it. I have been much better about time management today. Maybe I was wasting more time on Facebook than I even realized!

    How about you? Marie have you stayed away from that website? K.C., did you take the boost and decide to fast from Facebook too? Kaylee, have you decided to delete your Facebook altogether?

    I can't wait to hear from you.

    Erin
    marie
    yessssss
    on Tuesday, September 23, 2008 at 1:43 pm
    yes i have, and i will for a week!! you are sooooooooooooooo encouraging!!!
    chelsea
    Computer Break
    on Tuesday, September 23, 2008 at 8:41 pm
    I think that I'm going to see how long I can go without my computer! If I succeed, you won't be hearing from me for a while. Thanks so much for the reminder that media can be harmful, Erin!
    Danielle
    Cool!!!!!!!!!!!
    on Wednesday, September 24, 2008 at 1:10 pm
    Hey im new
    actually i think its really cool that you would take it seriously i would take the challenge 2 but my c\home cuputer is broken and i dont get have a facebook page any way
    best of luck!!!!!!
    Carissa
    Thank you!!!
    on Thursday, September 25, 2008 at 3:32 pm
    Boy do i ever appreciate your insight on this topic! I have been having the same hesitations about having a page on Facebook simply because it IS SO time consuming & I have had to evaluate time & time again why I am using this site. Not only are there inappropriate things that are on the site (the button application for example...there's actually half dressed men & many many sexual innuendo buttons) that I have to glance through just to get to the "ok" stuff. As much as it's great to be able to enc one another & keep in touch w/ friends from the past how much more time would it really take me to make a phone call or jot a handwritten note to someone.
    Brianna
    Um...
    on Thursday, September 25, 2008 at 4:19 pm
    I understand that Facebook is very addicting, girls. I only have simple e-mail and that can be addicting as well. But I want you to know that, for those of you who can't find anything else to do, you miss out on a lot when you're on the computer 24/7. Try doing more with you siblings (if you have them). Explore the possibilities for life. Make memories.
    Luv, Brianna
    Rebecca
    I agree
    on Thursday, September 25, 2008 at 4:30 pm
    I agree, that is a totally awesome thing to do. I think I am going to do it too. I think we get so wrapped up into the world and the technology that we forget about God and shove Him into a corner.
    chelsea
    Question
    on Thursday, September 25, 2008 at 8:32 pm
    I failed because I so wanted to come to this website! Is it OK if I all I do on the computer is come here? Please reply soon so I can know.
    Haley
    Myspace Misery
    on Thursday, September 25, 2008 at 10:58 pm
    Hello!

    I was never really one to blog and such until a couple of years ago. I first joined xanga and then ditched it for the up-and-coming Myspace, which was growing in popularity by the second! I found myself spending a ton of time on the computer (even behind my parents' backs) to update my pictures, send comments to people I barely knew/shouldn't have been talking to like I was, write about myself, surf the web for icons, pictures, and music for my site, and browse many other people's myspaces. I became moe and more self-focused, self-concious (I had to have the perfect picture!), and loose in my beliefs. After several months, God, having tried to get through to me, quickly shut the Myspace door. I've had to work on being more honest with my family, and I've had to really limit my time on the computer (plus prioritize.) With time, though, Christ has redeemed much of what I've lost. I don't mean to say that blogging/Facebook/and Myspace are bad in themselves; we just need to be very cautious about the consequences they bear in our lives!! We will all bear fruit- whether good or bad- watch what you put in your life so that you can bear God-glorifying fruit!!
    jessica
    Re:
    on Friday, September 26, 2008 at 6:31 pm
    well whatever. but i personally COULD NOT stand to spend a whole week w.out my compu... like. no. i refuse.
    but if your dffrnt, whatever...
    Last Edit: on Sunday, September 28, 2008 at 3:38pm by edavis  
    marieso
    to chelsea
    on Friday, September 26, 2008 at 9:43 pm
    i dont think it is wrong for you 2 be on this web site, because it is for us 2 encourage each other! so hang in there!
    praying for ya!!!!
    marie
    to chelsea
    on Friday, September 26, 2008 at 9:44 pm
    i dont think it is wrong for you 2 be on this web site, because it is for us 2 encourage each other! so hang in there!
    praying for ya!!!!
    Taylor
    Tips?
    on Saturday, September 27, 2008 at 12:08 am
    Wow! That is a good idea. I dont have a facebook, but i tend to frequently go on itunes and some other websites. i doubt that i can go for a week w/o getting on the computer tho! Any tips, Erin or anyone else?
    chelsea
    Thanks to Marie!
    on Saturday, September 27, 2008 at 2:14 pm
    Thanks so much for your tips and prayers!
    chelsea
    Taylor
    on Saturday, September 27, 2008 at 2:17 pm
    Sometimes I want to go on my computer really badly! When that happens, I:

    1. read my favorite book
    2. play outside with my brothers
    3. bury myself in work so that there's no time for the computer
    Charisa
    No media for me
    on Sunday, September 28, 2008 at 6:23 pm
    I took the challenge on my own, because it was about time. I deleted my myspace, my facebook, and my 3 email accounts. What can I not give up for my Saviour, Jesus Christ, after all He did for me by dying for me and saving me and loving me and keeping me? There is nothing to compare with His love, I owe Him everything. This was not an easy thing for me to, but I just had to do it without much consideration because the more I thought about it I could find so many excuses why it was not something I could do or I needed to do. The truth is I can't afford not to. I'm in my mid- 20's and I have a career and I'm very connected with the computer and my iPhone, but it was time to pull the plug on the addiction. I also have canceled my internet service so very shortly I won't have access to the big world wide web that has potential for so much destruction in my life. For those of you who think you can't do this and said absolutely not... why can't you give up something so small for something so much greater? If you have nothing to do but sit on the computer on a social networking site, then I feel sorry for you. God is such a vast God. Romans 11: 33
    O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out!
    How about making a study of Jesus Christ and His life or studying the character and person of God the Father. Make a study of all the things that Jesus gave up to die for you and then you giving up time on the internet might not seem to huge of a task. Satan doesn't want you or I to take drastic measures in our life, he wants us to be complacent and content. God calls us to a life of separation and holiness. I Peter I: 16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy. If you have trouble with this, remember the Bible calls for drastic measures when it says to pluck your eye out when it offends you. Mark 9:47 And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire: Something to think about while you spend those unthinkable moments away from your computer screen.
    Ecclesiastes 7:28 Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found. I hope that this is not the commentary on our generation. Let's be women of the Bible, of character, of holiness. Thank you Lies Women Believe for helping me make such radical changes in my life for God.
    anonymous
    Re:
    on Wednesday, October 1, 2008 at 9:29 pm
    Thank you, Charisa!!!
    Suzanne
    redeeming the time
    on Saturday, October 11, 2008 at 9:51 pm
    I deleted my facebook a few months ago, and it has been such a great blessing actually... yes, there's a bunch of friends I haven't been able to connect with as much, but there's been so much more time to focus on my time with the Lord and on my family... and it's resulted in a lot more mental time that I don't have to think about the drama going on with facebook. I know it sounds drastic to delete, but it's actually been really worth it for me. It's something I felt God had wanted me to surrender for a while, and it took me a few months to obey, but there was such freedom after I did! I think it's helped me to learn to lead a more "quiet" life as it talks about in Scripture. :-) Blessings on you all!
    Elizabeth V.
    Facebook
    on Tuesday, November 4, 2008 at 1:09 pm
    I've actually never had either a Facebook or a MySpace page. Do you girls think it might be better to not ever get one? I'd really been wanting one, but reading this makes me think maybe not? What do you think?
    Rachel
    Re:
    on Friday, November 7, 2008 at 7:27 pm
    Wow! I can totally relate to this facebook addiciton thing. I've had facebook for a little over a year,and let me tell you...I get sooooooooo addicted. I went on a facebook fast about awhile ago. i didn't go on for 30 days. It was so good for me. So,in repsonse to Elizabeth, i would say to seriously pray about whether God wants you to get a facebook or not. Facebook can be used for lots of good things,but it can also really waste your time. If you do get one,don't let yourself get addicted like I did. It's a hard addiction to conquer.
    Steph
    Fasting from tv
    on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 at 10:02 pm
    I'm fasting from tv for a week and so far it's going great. Just a peek or two! I have four more days to go....I may do this more often!
    Haley
    Elizabeth!
    on Thursday, November 20, 2008 at 10:48 pm
    I'd say it's a true ACCOMPLISHMENT to have never had one. It's kind of embarrassing that I ever got hooked by it :-( All it did was waste my time (that I could've used on God or family or other important things), distance me from my family, and make me into a person that I really wasn't nor should have been pretending to be. I'm still working on finding out who Christ really wants me to be. Myspace/Facebook only kept me from starting that.
    natalie
    facebook
    on Sunday, November 30, 2008 at 8:52 pm
    facebook is sooooooo addictive i was on it 24/7 i had this HUGE cat fight on it w/ my brother girlfriend it didnt end well but i did learn from my mistakes and i hope you dont do the mistakes i did and just be careful!
    Sarah
    Addiction 2 Facebook
    on Tuesday, December 2, 2008 at 1:53 pm
    I am soooooo addicted to facebook. I'll get on and be like I'm only gunna be on a minute and then I look at the clock and I've been on like 2 hours! I think it's awesome that all of you are taking a break from it. Maybe I'll follow your lead, though it won't be easy! Thanks, Sarah
    Sarah
    Sarah Again
    on Thursday, December 4, 2008 at 4:39 pm
    This is pretty funny. The other day I wrote that I was addicted to facebook and should probably take a break. Well, apparently God agreed because our computer got a virus and will not be working again until sometime next week.(I'm using my dad's work computer now, which I can't do facebook on) I don't think it is a good thing that our computer crashed but I do think God used it as a good thing for me.
    So, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.
    Sarah
    Melanie
    addictions
    on Friday, December 5, 2008 at 11:08 pm
    As a college student facebook is the way to stay in contact with all of my friends from high school and all of those people who had an impact on my life, like Erin. However, I think I am going to take Erin's challenge of no facebook for the next week! I am very excited about what God will do in my life with the increase in amount of time I will spend with him rather than be on facebook. I wish I could say I could go without my computer fully, however, as a college student that is next to impossible. This is our last week of classes before finals, therefore, I have several papers due and a test online this week. With my current position as a Community Advisor, we also have to check our email multiple times a day.

    Although, I am very excited because I will be traveling to New Zealand over Christmas break for Study Abroad and internet access will be very limited, therefore this test of no facebook will be great prep for my three weeks in New Zealand.

    Once again, Thanks for the challenge! Erin, I hope to hear from you soon and hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!
    Layne
    FaceBook?
    on Tuesday, December 9, 2008 at 4:51 pm
    I have never had a facebook or myspace or anything like that before. My parents didn't want me spending all my time on the computer. Right now my mom is thinking about letting me have a facebook and I believe I will be able to control my self. Do you think I should get a facebook page or stay away from it all together? Please Respond
    jo
    Layne
    on Saturday, December 13, 2008 at 1:20 pm
    PRAY PRAY PRAY 'bout it, Layne!

    :-\
    Bugsy
    I'm impressed...
    on Monday, December 15, 2008 at 10:35 pm
    Wow... I can't say how impressed I am with the grammar, spelling, and proper punctuation of all these comments. Especially coming from teenagers and such. I don't think I've seen this on any other blog before...

    Fascinating!
    Tiffany
    HARD!
    on Thursday, January 8, 2009 at 10:37 pm
    I love going on Facebook and chatting with friends, but i agree Facebook is very addicting. You need to be careful. I often find myself putting homework off and other important things just to go on. So if you have a facebook set a certain amount of time to go on, it really helps!
    Haley
    Layne
    on Monday, March 9, 2009 at 9:52 pm
    I'm a bit late, but if you check this, Layne, I agree- PRAY. From personal experience, I wouldn't encourage you at all to get a myspace/ facebook. But remember that I'm human- as are the others who have given you advice about this (for or against.) The only perfect answer will come from the only perfect Advisor: GOD! So, as jo said...

    PRAY PRAY PRAY! :-\
    krlosier
    Re:
    on Monday, March 23, 2009 at 9:46 pm
    I am getting a facebook in a couple of days, on my birthday. My mom goes on mine and my brother's facebook every day to check and make sure there is nothing wrong on our's or are friends, and she takes off the frineds she doesn't think are good. We have a twenty-minute a day computer limit, and I only go on to check with friends that are in college and stuff. But is it a waste of time? I will probably put really high standards on my time-spending on facebook! I don't want to become addicted. I like what The Lies Young Women Believe book said. It was saying to test if you are addicted, give it up for 30 days, and if you can't do it, then your addicted! Thanks everyone!
    Princess
    Is it proper or not to delete facebook account?
    on Tuesday, March 24, 2009 at 2:20 pm
    Hello, I am 21 and I too have a facebook account. I was recently messaging to a guy once every week through facebook because I do not give my number out to guys nor my e-mail becasue it's something I need to keep. However, I recently told this good christian guy that I believe that we are on different stages on our lives because he's ready for a commited relationship, he is done with college, is working and I am planing to go to professional school after I graduate on May. He was just going too fast for me, but I want to delete my account on facebook so that it may be easier for him to forget about me, another thing he is not from my same town so he came twice to see me.My question is would it be rude of me to delete my account now or should I wait, since I already explained to him my stand point. We met through a friend, and his parents came to meet me but I really do not want to get involved with anyone. What should I do?
    Erin Davis
    Princess
    on Tuesday, March 24, 2009 at 9:57 pm
    I actually shut down my Facebook profile several weeks ago. I gave a two-day warning in my status and then pulled the plug. I don't miss it at all.

    It sounds like it might be a great solution for you.

    Erin Davis
    Princess
    Facebook
    on Tuesday, April 28, 2009 at 12:22 am
    Thank you for your response. I prayed about the situation and it turned out that the guy deleted me as a friend on his own a week after I blogged it here. It was kind of weird but I thank God for taking care of me. Did you provide an explanation on your status or did you just announce that you were going to delete your account. I still have mines but I have been feeling convicted about it. I am sorry to respond so late but I was waiting for an e-mail that would confirm my comment and I did not check the blog on the website.It has been really busy lately with school and all. Thank you once again. :D
    Erin Davis
    Princes
    on Tuesday, April 28, 2009 at 12:28 pm
    I am glad it worked out well. When I shut down my Facebook, I changed my status to say that I was shutting down my Facebook the next day, feel free to email me. And then...I pulled the plug.

    I am so glad that I did it. The Lord had been convicting me about it for weeks and I tried setting different boundaries. When I was finally just obedient, it was very freeing.

    Erin
    chloe
    wowzers
    on Monday, May 25, 2009 at 12:43 am
    i honestly don't know if i could give up my tv, email, music, computer, and texting. i'm a little ashamed to say that but my life is eat sleep email text listen to musice watch tv go hang out with friends. i don't pay attention at school because i don't CARE. after all everyone's always going on about how u should "enjoy being young" and to not try to "be older than u are" at first i thought that what they were saying was ridiculous but now it makes sense....have fun while u can
    Anonymous
    I'll TRY
    on Wednesday, June 3, 2009 at 7:23 pm
    Okay, I'm going to try to not go on the Computer for a week! It's summer break, so I"m like on the computer MOST of the day! And It's like REALLY addicting, even the things like youtube, or email...

    Could y'all pray for me!

    I really want to spend my time doing useful things, and spend more time with God. Once the week is out, I'll let y'all know how it went!!
    Erin Davis
    Anonymous
    on Thursday, June 4, 2009 at 10:54 am
    I think that is a great personal challenge. Let me know how it goes.

    Erin
    Mich
    Facebook fast
    on Tuesday, July 28, 2009 at 2:34 pm
    Hey Erin, I went off facebook for like... 3-4 months and now summer is coming I am back. I do realize a lot of the stuff you've been saying. It is really addictive!
    The first week I was on I didn't go on that much because I wasn't really "involved".
    However when friends started messaging me and using it as a tool to contact me and invite me to stuff. I kept on using it because it was like having a 2nd email. Then after events, the lure of checking out pictures and status updates begins.
    For sure I think its a great idea to stop and observe our own actions and see the patterns of our behaviour and how it impacts our heart towards God!! I love this website! Still haven't bought the book but I'm learning a lot from this blog!
    Melon
    Re:
    on Tuesday, January 24, 2012 at 10:27 am
    I really want to say that I am so thankful that God brought me to this blog, it has provided me with a lot of help in my spiritual life. Facebook was one of my obsession that influenced my relationship with Christ, at the beginning it seems very harmless, but it turns out that I was very addicted to it, and it seems like I would never get enough of it, but afterwards it just leaves me feeling emptied. I have been deactivating FB for a while but there's always some 'good' reason to lure me back to it, just like any other obsession/sins that tapped me. So I will keep on praying that God will give me strength to use my time wisely and to do everything to glorify his name:)

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