But, we also want you to realize that dabbling in dark activities isn’t the only way to expose yourself to satanic activity. Did you know that your emotions also have the power to open you up to Satan’s influence?

Are your emotions giving Satan a foothold?

Erin Davis 11/29/08 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: The Liar ; 56 comments

While doing research for Lies Young Women Believe, we asked girls if they had ever been exposed to satanic activities. The majority said “no.” But when we pressed them on their answer, we found that many of them were naive about what even constituted as “satanic activity” or the potential harm participating in those activities could have on their lives.

We certainly want you to realize the potential danger in things like horoscopes, psychics, and supernaturally themed movies and television shows (for a more in-depth discussion on this topic read our post about magic But, we also want you to realize that dabbling in dark activities isn’t the only way to expose yourself to satanic activity. Did you know that your emotions also have the power to open you up to Satan’s influence?

I am leading a Lies Young Women Believe Bible study with a small group of girls from my church. We recently tackled the lies about Satan presented in the book and I found that many of us were pretty clueless about the power of our emotions to make us vulnerable to Satan’s attacks. As I confessed my own recent struggle with feelings like anger and bitterness, I was hit between the eyes with the realization that my emotions were opening me up to Satan’s influence.

This Truth is spelled out clearly in Scripture.

Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “ In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”

2 Corinthians 2: 10-11 says, “If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven—if there was anything to forgive—I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.”  

The Truth is, it’s not just séances and palm readings that open the door for Satan to have access in our lives. Certain heart attitudes can be just as dangerous.

Here’s a short attitude assessment we included in the LYWB Companion Guide. I wanted to post it here on the blog as food for thought on the power our emotions have to make us vulnerable to Satan’s influence.

How often are you angered to the point that you yell, curse, or throw things?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often
How often do you imagine yourself “chewing others out” or confronting them over something you are mad about?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often
How often do you find yourself in verbal fights with others?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often
How often do you find yourself rolling your eyes or arguing when your parents ask you to do something you don’t want to do?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often
How often do you get in trouble at school for disrespecting teachers or administrators?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often
How often do you hold resentment in your heart toward someone who has hurt you?
    never        rarely        sometimes        often

Do your answers indicate a pattern of anger, rebellion, or bitterness? If so, there is work to be done to limit Satan’s activity in your life.

Nancy and Dannah offer words of encouragement for this process in the book.

“ We want to encourage you to examine your life. If you are exposing yourself to any activities that could have occult connections, or if there is anger, unforgiveness, or rebellion in your heart, you are opening the door to the Enemy. Slam it shut! Choose to forgive those who have wronged you. Make sure you renounce every evil practice you may have been engaged in or exposed to; then ask the Lord to forgive you and to release you from any foothold that Satan many have gained in your life through your choices” (Lies Young Women Believe, 66).

In addition to the attitude assessment above, here are some questions to help you think through this Truth.  As always, we would love for you to share what God is teaching you by leaving us a comment.

1. What specific emotions seem to do the most damage to your spiritual walk?
2. Why do you think emotions like anger, bitterness, and rebellion make us vulnerable to Satan’s influence?
3. Did the attitude assessment reveal any surprising areas of struggle in your life?


HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, weíre not trained counselors. If youíre seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as theyíll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    Please Pray
    on Saturday, November 29, 2008 at 10:18 pm
    Hey you all,
    I really need Prayer in this area... I am a very Emotional Person, and way to often do they get out of hand. I Get really up set about my life situation that i wish i could run away or commit suicide. Please Help!!!!!! Thank you!!
    Erin Davis
    on Monday, December 1, 2008 at 11:03 am
    Thanks for being so brave and honest about the way your emotions are impacting you. I can really relate to your situation. Several years ago, the Lord really convicted me that I was a slave to my emotions. I couldn't seem to control my anger, sadness, frustration etc...I was a walking time bomb. I really prayed that the Lord would give me self-control in that area and He has been so faithful to do so! I think you are taking a really important step by realizing your need for prayer in this area. Can you find any scriptures that are specifically encouraging in this area? I'd love for you to post them right here. I think it would open some great dialogue on this topic.

    Erin Davis
    Gods Girl
    on Monday, December 1, 2008 at 6:40 pm
    it is really interesting that you all are talking about emtoins right now because (it's really-well- cool) I have just felt so far away from God for so long and I tried soooo hard just to do everything right and stuff but I never felt any closer to God. Well I was talking to a really close friend of mine about it and how I just didn't feel any emotion for God. What I mean by that is I ( for example) never really felt like crying or thanking God truely from my heart for dieing for our sins. I was always kind of like "oh ya thanks Jesus" but never really felt well- any emotion about his death on the cross for us. my friend told me "chrstianity is not an emotion. Emotions are fleeting". well, the next day at church heard the same thing and It just seems like everywhere I look I see that. Emotion isn't christianity and only by haveing a relationship with God are we who he wants us to be. He just wants us to love Him. I'm not saying that emotion is bad. I truly think I should feel something when I think of Jesus's death and resurrection but my point is that I think God wants to tell me that He is so much more than our emotions and even our works. I know it kind of seems obvious but... that's what i needed to hear!
    Gods girl
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 10:03 am
    Hey I just wanted to thank you for saying what you did because I have been thinking about that very subject for quite a while. I have a really hard time not "feeling" any emotion like crying when I sin or think about Jesus dying on the cross for our sins. Is it wrong not to cry over your sins? Sometimes I feel so dry of emotion when I am asking for forgiveness.
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 2:53 pm
    Hey guys please pray for my friend.His girlfriend thought that no one cared for her so she hung herself in her backyard.She was my best friend's girlfriend and now he's starting to cut himself and take drugs so please pray 4 him.
    Gods Girl
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 4:07 pm
    I know exactly what you mean about feeling dry of emotion. I feel that so often!
    I'm not sure if its wrong to not cry over our sins. I know its wrong to let emotion rule our lives. I think if we are close to God and are fallowing Him as we should be God will make our emotions come naturally to us. Like if we need to cry over our sin we will cry over our sin. But we shoudn't have to try to make the tears come. Does that make sense?
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 4:14 pm
    Wow that is so horrible! One of our friends girlfriend hung herself and he really changed. He started smokeing and doing really bad stuff. I wish I could help you more than I am able to, but really all anyone can do is pray. Don't loose hope for him! Even if it seems impossible, let him know that your there for him and that someone does feel his hurting. It was a very careing thing you did to ask others to pray for this person. Bless you!!!
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 4:43 pm
    Very thought provoking post. There are so many little things that has girls we are led into and caught by our emotions. I think that is the reason why most Christian girls can watch most chick flicks and not even think about the bad side to them, because they are thinking more about the emotional aspect of it.
    JJ- That is so tragic, I just prayed for your friend.
    Erin Davis
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 6:40 pm
    Hi there! These are some very serious issues that you and your friend are dealing with. If you are seriously concerned that he may harm himself, you need to talk to an adult in your community. We certainly can pray for you (and will do so) but situations like this require the help of a godly, adult in your own community. Is there someone you trust to talk to? Is there someone whom your friend respects who can intervene--such as a youth pastor, teacher, or counselor?

    Erin Davis
    emotions/ are they a reliable source of the truth
    on Wednesday, December 3, 2008 at 6:42 pm
    Hey i don't think i know any of the people who posted above... but i thought i would ask you all a question, and see if any one had an answer. Do your emotions realy express truth in your life(I am not sure, but i do not think the do)?????? The reason for this questions is I feel like every thing i do or say is stupid and i just do not feel like Jesus is close to me. i want to be close to him. But how? I think i have done everything i know to do to get forgivness a be close to HIs side. I just feel like He is so far away. Is it my feelings or emotions or is it the truth. I want Jesus so much. What do I do
    on Friday, December 5, 2008 at 9:10 am
    God will not turn his back on you. A lot of times it "feels" like God is far away from us. Everyone has those feelings at one point or another. It is really difficult. I would just continue to keep seeking Christ and don't stop, don't seek him any less than you are. Even though it may seem one sided at the time it is not. God sees you, it says it in His Word. He cares about you even though it seem like He is not there. Look for His hand in little things. Like the sunset, His creation and such and you will begin to see Jesus in the little things.
    on Friday, December 5, 2008 at 11:44 am
    I struggle with emotions all the time. Ever since I was eight years old my emotions have been a big problem. I always have to keep my emotions in in track or I end up saying, doing, and thinking horrible things. It is really scary when you let your emotions control you. It is like handing a gun to a muderer who desires to kill you. It is all right to feel things but when you let it dictate your life it can lead to devastating consequences. This has always been a weak spot in my life. I have messed up countless times in this area and I do believe that satan uses emotions to tear people down. I do not think we can ever stop our emotions but we can decide how we are going to act on them. No matter what, humans are helpless in this area if they do not have a relationship with Christ. Only God can help us overcome our emotions and not to dwell on them. Its so easy to think "hey I can get rid of this sin" without coming to Jesus and asking him for strength.
    Erin Davis
    More about "feelings"
    on Friday, December 5, 2008 at 10:18 pm
    Hey girls! I think you are really digging into some important Truth here! I am going to do an entire post on feelings about sin soon. Since it is such an important topic, I am going to take my time and really pray through it. But, be watching. We will address this issue in a more in-depth way ASAP.


    Erin Davis
    on Monday, December 8, 2008 at 4:57 pm
    I know what it's like to feel that Jesus isn't very close to me. In my spiritual life I have my ups and downs by turns. Sometimes I feel really close to Him, and other times I just seem to rush through devotions just for the sake of getting them done. The one trend I've found is that PRAYER follows every single curve. You need to pray! I'm not just talking about "Thank you for this, please do this" type of prayer. I have to really TALK. Tell God about my struggles, ask Him what He wants to do in my life, etc. I have to listen, too. Most one-way conversations aren't particularly interesting for me to listen to, and I'm sure God thinks so too. I have had two-way conversations with God. Let me tell you, it is thrilling! Pray, pray, pray! It's the most important part of your spiritual life.
    Re: daughteroftheking
    on Monday, December 8, 2008 at 6:38 pm
    I want to just help you feel peace in knowing that others feel the same way as you! at least I know that I feel that way right now. I feel like everything, EVERYTHING I say or do is stupid or embaressing. I don't know if the reason is because of our emotions or not but I have learned this week not to trust your emotions or let your emotions rule you. Trust God instead!!
    Last Edit: on Tuesday, December 9, 2008 at 10:25am by edavis  
    THanks from Daughter of the KIng
    on Tuesday, December 9, 2008 at 11:57 pm
    Sarah and Clo...THANKYOU SO VERY VERY VERY much. it has been a while since i posted the above.. God has been reavealling Himself to me. I am learning to trust the truth of HIS word rather than my emotional lies. Isaiah 40:31 is true no matter what i feel. Romans 8 is true no matter what I feel. Guys i believe god really used you all. Thank you. I will ask Jesus to send MANY MANY blessings upon you all. You all have no idea how much your words meant to my heart.
    Well.....THanyou,Thankyou,and morethankyous
    KaLEigh Long
    daughter of the King
    Thankyou Erica
    on Wednesday, December 10, 2008 at 5:27 pm
    Hello Erica, THankyou so much for your helpful advise as well. I feel so close to you guys, but i don't even know you. your words are inspiring, and I believe GOD wants to use you and everyone else on this web for a great and amazing and awsome plan THANKYOU guys(girls) for everything
    love you all KaLeigh LOng
    on Wednesday, December 10, 2008 at 9:42 pm
    I'm so glad God is revealing Himself to you! May God bless you even more, Daughter of the King!
    on Thursday, December 11, 2008 at 7:58 pm
    Thanks so much for the encouraging posts! Emotions are a HUGE struggle for me! I've always felt pressure to "feel" certain emotions... lemme explain. This evangelist came to speak at our school chapel this afternoon and he kept saying all these "experiences" we should have had to know that we're saved and all these different emotions we should have felt. It scared me cuz I've never been one to get emotional about my salvation and he said we should have and all this other stuff! I really need this cleared up! I would appreciate any advice!
    on Thursday, December 11, 2008 at 8:00 pm
    Oh! I forgot! Thankyou soooooooooooo much Erica! What you wrote is exactly what I experience! (Not "feeling" close to Jesus all the time, spiritual ups and downs) Your advice REALLY helped! Thanks!!!!!!
    re: Audie
    on Monday, December 15, 2008 at 5:36 pm
    I really don't feel that emotional w/ my christian life either. I have been really thinking about this lately and really haven't come to a good conclusion. should we be emotional about the things of God?? I was reading a book a few days ago and the women who wrote it said " when you are not close to God you are not emotonal. Imagine not being emotional about the things of God!" I don't know if I agree or dissagree w/ her, but I think that God should be the one giveing us our emotions. We shouldn't try to cry when we think of Jesus's death (for example). When we trust in God and are close to Him, He will give us the right emotions at the right time. SP.
    Erin Davis
    More About Emotions Coming Soon
    on Thursday, January 1, 2009 at 1:40 pm

    We think this topic of "feelings" is a great one. Your questions about how you should feel in regards to your sin and your Savior are great ones. So, we are going to explore this topic further in the month of February. Be sure to check back then to be a part of that conversation.

    Are there any questions you would specifically like to explore then?

    I look forward to hearing from you!

    on Thursday, February 12, 2009 at 3:52 pm
    Thanks for this great blog i am a PK Pastors kid and for some reason i feel far from God. I get lots of help but....please keep me in your prayers. Thanks. Some girls from my church and myself our doing this book. And i hope to grow spiritually with God.

    emotional stronghold
    on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 at 6:24 pm
    Wow, this was really great to read - I'm so grateful that God led me here. I have recently been delivered from years and years of emotional eating - stuffing my feelings with food. I used to think that I wasn't an emotional person because I never cried or had any outbursts of anger or sadness - it was that I ate and ate in an attempt to comfort myself. Whether I was happy, sad, bored, lonely,or frustrated, I ate to express it. But God in His mercy, set me free by showing me that I am actually a very emotional girl - and that He wants me to lay down everything that I'm feeling before Him in prayer. I didn't really know what it meant to cast my burdens on Him nor did I really believe that He would be enough to satisfy me. Satan had me bound up and I couldn't even see it! Jesus showed me the way that faithful prayer - intimate communication with God every moment of every day - is absolutely essential to being set free from emotional strongholds - and I am so thankful!
    i'm emo.
    on Saturday, March 28, 2009 at 1:55 am
    I'm emo, i've been that way ever since. i don't know if u guys know wat that meens but in my town it means that ur a cutter, and that u dress in black and that u might of tried suicide.(don't worry, i haven't tried suicide, YET.) i do have to admit that sometimes my emotions do give satan a foothold. I think that they give satan a foothold on making me feel even worse about myself. i really do need help, i know that i have to stop cutting but it's like i don't when to or how to. HELP!!!!! P.S. emo is short for emotinal.
    Erin Davis
    on Sunday, March 29, 2009 at 12:49 pm
    Thanks for being so transparent. I have a few thoughts/questions for you.

    1. Are you a Christian?
    2. Have you talked to a Christian adult about cutting?
    3. Ephesians 5:8 says, "for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light."

    Once we are Christians, we need to live like children of the light, not darkness. This is why I think being emo isn't a good choice for those of us who are believers. Yes, we are still emotional beings. But a fascination with death and pain doesn't reflect all that Christ has done for us.

    What do you think about ditching the emo thing and trying to live as a "child of the light?"

    Erin Davis
    sad girl 101
    is satin winning
    on Wednesday, April 22, 2009 at 12:02 am
    sometimes i think satin is winning because he has preshured me wth drugs and all this other stuff. I just dont know wat to do. Once i gave into the pear pressure and smoked i really thought it was stupid. My parrents dont know, and i dont want them to know because i think they will hate me for it. Shuld i tell them? I really dont want them to be mad at me, im shure if i do tell them they will hate me. Im so confused on life i need Gods word to help me and strenghten me.

    P.S. i am always sad and emotional!! Does that make me emo?
    Erin Davis
    Sad Girl 101
    on Wednesday, April 22, 2009 at 11:40 pm
    Being emotional doesn't mean your means you're a girl! Emotions seem to be part of the package...especially when you are a teenager and your hormones aren't quite regulated.

    You're right, experimenting with drugs was a bad choice. But I am glad that you are feeling convicted about it. But God has forgiven that sin.

    Psalm 103:11-13 says, "For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west,so far has he removed our transgressions from us.As a father has compassion on his children,so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him"

    He has removed your sin as far as the East is from the West. That is total forgiveness.

    I would strongly encourage you to find someone to hold you accountable in this area. Can you talk with your youth pastor's wife maybe?

    Erin Davis
    sad girl 101
    on Thursday, April 23, 2009 at 6:30 pm
    my pastor is new and i dont know him or his family verry well so it would be kind of weard and they my think bad of me.
    Erin Davis
    sad girl 101
    on Thursday, April 23, 2009 at 10:34 pm
    They won't think bad of you. They likely have a great deal of experience counseling individuals just like you (my husband is a pastor).

    Is there another adult you would feel more comfortable talking to? Like a friend's mom perhaps?

    sad girl 101
    on Friday, April 24, 2009 at 11:32 pm
    no there is nobody i can really trust. but ill try to.
    on Thursday, April 30, 2009 at 6:38 am
    wow i didn't realize how far i got.
    i thought i was doing pretty good but the closer i get to God, the more he is cleansing me, which is great though.
    i get pretty emotional sometimes too, like i have asked for forgiveness and i thought i had forgiven the person for what happened but it will just pop into my head and make me sick! i guess its Satans way of saying im not worthy of forgiveness...which IS a lie.
    on Thursday, April 30, 2009 at 6:44 am
    you said that you think everything you say is stupid, well i feel like what i say is!
    there isn't a day i dont feel this way.
    i try to be like other people you seem polite and controlled but i am an energetic and confident person naturally. i dont think i really like being like that.
    on Monday, May 4, 2009 at 9:29 pm
    You have made it very clear through this that ungodly emotions and activities such as seances and visiting psychics open the door for Satan to enter our lives, but what about the more gray area of the world? I love reading and I'm a big fan of Edgar Allan Poe, Richard Matheson and some H.P. Lovecraft. I play alot of video games as well that involve magic and certain things like that. Nothing bad, per se, but it's very hard to know whether I should continue playing them or not. Also recently, I took a World Religions class and gave a presentation about Freemasonry (I don't want to step on anyone's toes here, but Masonry can involve blood oaths and sacrifice) and for extra credit wrote about the Esoteric Order of Dagon (a satanic cult). Through studying these things and remaining strong in my faith (these books and studies have actually helped define my faith and make it stronger) is this...evil? I feel much more confident in myself now that I have a better idea of what tricksy things our Enemy is doing...but sometimes I feel like some poeple who know these things about me are kinda looking down on me for this. Is it true? Am I in the wrong as clearly as I would be if I were struggling with my emotions?
    are your emotions giving satan a foothold
    on Monday, October 26, 2009 at 9:52 pm
    refering to question 1 above: anger is a emotion in which satan can get a foothold in my life. i am often in verbal arguments with people. (especially with my brother) i just say what i think and what i believe. i can be quick witted and i say things without thinking. i also keep things against people.(grudges)
    Jesus' Girl
    Demonic Activity
    on Tuesday, December 8, 2009 at 11:38 am
    Raisin cakes will also lead to satanic activity in a woman's life (please read Hosea 3:1). I've also read that many types of jewelry, including engagement rings, are tainted by curses placed on them by the Jews - these can also open a person up to demonic activity. Paisley pattern may also be harboring demons. I'm glad we're working these problems out. Satan's out there and, by golly, he's going to get us girls if we don't suppress our emotions!
    slave to emotions
    on Tuesday, February 23, 2010 at 9:22 pm
    Recently I came to the harsh realization that my emotions control me much more than I thought. I had been caught up in something that felt right, even though i knew I was wrong and dishonoring my parents. I subconciously convinced myself that my sin had to be ok because it felt good...WRONG! In the end I ended up hurting so many more people than just myself. I realized what I had been fighting for wasn't even worth it. Next time I know: no matter how much something feels right and good, if God's word says its wrong, its wrong. My feelings don't justify it, and from now on I know for a fact that obeying the Lord is always the better route to take.
    Let it all out
    on Monday, May 3, 2010 at 7:51 pm
    For a long time I let my emotions take control of me and I was a slave to feeling certain ways and stuff. When I wanted to cry I just sucked it all in and pouted instead, but that just made it worse. So last week when I felt like bawling my eyes out I did. After wards I felt great and I was so glad that I did. Crying might seem like something little kids do when they feel upset, but it's actually very healthy for you. So when you cry its like pulling the plug on a tub full of emotions and you can start fresh. Try it, when you feel upset, of course.
    The dark side of emotions
    on Sunday, July 4, 2010 at 3:55 pm
    Fear leads to anger,
    anger leads to hate,
    hate leads to suffering,
    suffering leads to the Dark Side.

    - Master Yoda
    Jesus's Girl
    on Sunday, July 4, 2010 at 11:30 pm
    Let me see all I learned when I was a Christian was to repress my emotions, except that I needed to be "Happy all the time as that's what Jesus commands!" Well, its not healthy to repress everything and put a fake smile on your face as it leads to a lot of problems. I mean until I learned how to express my emotions and be truly genuine I had high blood pressure, an eating disorder, and explosive disorder from repressing "sinful" emotions. Along the way I've learned that I'm a human being, and that I have feelings that are genuine and need to be expressed appropriately, not boiling under a "Happy happy joy joy Christian" facade ready to explode at any given moment. So many Christians have health problems because they think anger, sadness, and anything except ( sometimes fake) happiness is acceptable by God. I remember how we had an "over eater's anonymous" women's group in the church I used to go to, and many people seemed to have stress related health problems even though they went around all happy as they were repressing their genuine feelings. And here I feel more healthier being agnostic and being genuine in my feelings than stuffing all my "sinful" emotions down until I develop health problems.
    Correction on above post
    on Monday, July 5, 2010 at 3:59 pm
    * Correction: "So many Christians have health problems because they think anger and sadness is a "sin", but only happiness is acceptable by God (even when you have to fake it).
    on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 at 6:58 pm
    Yes i can def relate! I am one of the most emotional girls you can get! That is satan's biggest foothold on me. I will act without thinking while i am really emotional. I try so hard to stay close to God but sometimes it is sooooo hard! Especially when you feel like your emotions are taking over you! Pray for me in this area!
    Re: Sarah and Sequoia
    on Tuesday, February 8, 2011 at 11:31 am
    Don't let Christianity drain you of energy with all the repression of "sinful" feelings. It takes effort to see what bugs you than to put a fake smile on your face because some god wants you to be happy all the time no matter how miserable you feel inside. I have had to search myself to see how to be a genuine person and not be so repressive of my true feelings. As an athiest I have learned not to stuff all of my "sinful" feelings under a happy happy facade, which just caused me an eating disorder and anger management problems when I was a Christian.

    Go see a psychiatrist ( not a Christian one) and find your true feelings about things, rather than hide behind a lie of being happy all the time. Be your genuine selves, not what some religion tells you to be. Believe me I am happier since I left all religion behind and I don't have all those physical problems( like overeating) because I was stuffing my true feelings inside because some religion considers it "Sinful".

    Just today I snapped at a lady who was giving me problems because my coughing asthma attack was irritating her. If I had just let her walk all over me then she would have never learned to not bother asthmatics in the middle of an attack. My chest actually clearned up a bit after I snipped a few choice words at her when my attack was subsiding. In the old times I would have held all the anger in in until I got ahold of food to stuff it down, or ( as in this case) my health got worse because of holding it in.
    on Friday, May 13, 2011 at 10:55 am
    I am rarely angered to the point of yelling or anything but it happens from time to time.
    I never image confronting someone with something i am mad about.
    I sometimes have verbal fights but it just about never gets to yelling points.
    Yes i almost always argue with my parents when they tell me to do something i doen't want to do but it doesn't last very long.
    I never get in trouble for disrespecting teachers. i don't do that.
    I always hold resentment sometimes for days but it almost never goes longer than a couple of minutes to one hour. It is only when someone gets me to snapping point do i stay mad longer than that.
    on Friday, July 1, 2011 at 10:40 pm

    I've been following this blog for the past several days, beginning with your first posts and moving on from there. Tonight, I tried to type out a prayer that I would repeat for as long as...well, as long as I felt it pleased the Lord. I wanted to address many of the topics you've addressed on this website that are issues in my life that I want to give to the Lord and see conquered completely.

    However, when I started writing, every sentence contained an 'I' or 'me' or 'my' within the first 2-3 words. The focus of my prayers needs to be GOD and NOT ME at all, because I don't want to live a me-focused life, but a God-focused life.

    Can you help me?
    Erin Davis
    on Saturday, July 23, 2011 at 4:39 pm
    Sweet Sarah,

    So glad you've discovered our blog and I think writing out a prayer to God that expresses what's on your heart is a great idea!

    Unfortunately, I can't do it for you. Then it wouldn't be a prayer from your heart to His.

    I would suggest that you check out the Psalms. Most of them are prayers from David to God. I think you will be inspired and maybe find the words you are looking for.

    Hope this helps!

    "In your anger, sin not."
    on Tuesday, August 6, 2013 at 10:39 am
    First off, I love this blog! I am not exactly a young woman anymore (30? I'm getting up there!) but I minister to young ladies and the topics you bring up always make me think, Oh Yeah! I need to talk about that! :)

    Thank you for posting this; I think it is a profound look into making a move on the "Go With Your Feelings" culture that young girls are swimming in these days.

    I just want to encourage those that feel that Nancy and Danna are saying that being angry AT ALL is not right/unChristian, that that is not at all what they are saying because the Bible clearly indicated to us that anger is a legitimate feeling- Jesus got angry at the sellers in the Temple, God gets angry about sin, and as humans, we experience anger too. The Psalms have a certain type of psalm where the writer says how angry he is with the sin around him and how he wishes for people to die sometimes! All of that is in the Bible, so God knows anger is REAL and it exists in humans.

    I think the difference between our anger and Gods anger is obvious: that Jesus and Gods anger is, 1. holy 2. restrained in its immediate action 3. completely tempered by infinite wisdom/mercy/kindness for people. Gods anger is real, but we see that he is SLOW to anger, and abounding in steadfast love. That is a big difference with how we as humans naturally react when we experience the emotion of anger.

    I think often people get angry because of stress/sadness/sin that isn't dealt with, which would mean the anger itself is a by-product of a deeper issue; if thats the case, we have to step away from the initial anger to look deeper at what is causing the anger.

    OR we have to work at the impatience/lack of forbearance we have for people and practice patience instead, looking at the Lords example of faithfulness and asking for the the Holy Spirit to help us in this area.

    OR we have a righteous anger when someone sins against us or sins against others and we keenly feel the injustice- in this case, it may be about speaking up for yourself or for that other person, but in a manner that is OK with God/The Bible!Just because you are angry, does not mean it should be a free for all to get things off your chest!

    These are all scenarios where anger is OK to have, but what we DO with it, HOW we project it onto people and the manner in which we include the Lords wisdom with dealing with it, is really how we will not make it a foothold for Satan! If your anger is explosive and you never consider your words, or treat others as you would be treated, then its time to consider where the anger comes from and how best to start practicing the putting on of patience-kindness-gentleness-self control and above all LOVE.

    I hope that as each of us learn to control our emotions, not by sheer willpower or fear, but by turning to our righteous and faithful God, who will take care of our defense when needed. We will have anger, thats a given, but dealing with it in a healthy way is how we can honor God and not let our flesh or Satans footholds take a hold of us!

    I struggle with this, and will be going into the next room after I finish writing this to resolve issues with a person. Praying for Gods peace and for patience and understanding! :)

    God bless all!
    a bitter person
    Sick of it
    on Tuesday, August 13, 2013 at 6:07 pm
    Since nobody else really seems to care about what I say, I'll tell you on here, and if you could be bothered to pray for me, thank you. I used to cut myself, and I've considered it again. The butterfly project is helping, but I'm sure for how long. I feel like I'm non existant a lot, which is making me bitter towards people. I know this is exactly what Satan wants, but it's so much easier to give up. If you try to fix yourself, that means fighting, and I don't think I'm strong enough to fight much longer. I'm really scared.

    I apologize if I just wasted your time. Thank you for listening.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @a bitter person
    on Thursday, August 15, 2013 at 8:08 pm
    Iím thankful for the help youíre getting, friend. Thanks for allowing us to pray for you. Have you talked with your youth pastor or his wife? Would you do that this week, friend? There is help and hope, but you canít do this alone. If youíll email me Iíd like to send you a resource to help you through this time.

    I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand. Do not fear. I will help you; though you stumble you will not fall for I the Lord uphold you with my hand. So do not fear for I am with you. Do not be dismayed or anxiously look about you for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (Is. 41:13; Ps. 37:24; Is 41:10).
    a bitter person
    thank you Carrie
    on Friday, August 16, 2013 at 7:08 pm
    Thank you so much. You've got no idea how much it means to have someone really care. I did talk to one of my youth pastors, and few other people, and they told me I had a week to tell my mom, so I did, on the last day :). She cried and asked if I wanted professional help. I said no, but should I ask for some? I don't know. But I think word is floating around school that I'm a cutter. I've been reading the LYWB book, and that's helped a TON, and my Bible like craziness, but finding people who actually really, really care is hard. Thank you.
    a bitter person
    to Carrie again
    on Friday, August 16, 2013 at 7:12 pm
    And I'm honestly not sure how the person who found out at school found out. But he may have scared me into getting help. God works in mysterious ways. Thank you for the Bible verses again. I guess I've had issues with trusting people and I've always had problems with letting things go.
    a bitter person (again, sorry :P)
    on Friday, August 16, 2013 at 7:18 pm
    And I would email you, except that I'm not sure how to find your email address.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @ a bitter person
    on Monday, August 19, 2013 at 12:22 pm
    Iím proud of you for talking with your mom, friend! That took tremendous courage.
    I donít know if you need professional help, but I do know you need a godly woman who can help you take the truths youíre learning and apply them practically in your thoughts and actions. That might be your mom or it might be your youth pastorís wife or another older woman in your church who walks with Jesus.

    Iím praying today that your mom will help you discern the next step on your journey.

    You may contact me at

    Grace and peace ~
    a bitter person
    Thank you!
    on Monday, August 19, 2013 at 4:34 pm
    Thanks so much Carrie. You're great :)
    Amanda Cross
    on Monday, March 10, 2014 at 1:06 am
    I did not know this. I do have a problem with anger and saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment. I wish I had heard this message when I was a young girl. It would have saved me a lot of trouble.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @Amanda Cross
    on Monday, March 10, 2014 at 9:31 pm
    Itís never too late to slam the door closed, my friend! If it would be helpful to you, Iíd be happy to send you a copy of Nancyís book Choosing Forgiveness.

    You may contact me at

    Grace and peace,

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