Dannah Stops by to Talk About "Twilight"

posted by Erin Davis on 12/13/08 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Media; ; 25 comments

As part of our focus on discernment, we’ve been talking about Twilight all week on the blog. If you’ve been following that conversation, you know that I’ve been upfront about the fact that I think this is a series you should stay away from. But, I don’t just want you to take my word for it. An important part of learning to discern, is listening to trustworthy voices, especially those individuals who are committed to pointing you toward God’s Truth.  Dannah Gresh is one of those voices.

Dannah is the co-author of Lies Young Women Believe. With two teenage girls at home, and lots of contact with young women through her ministry, Dannah is no stranger to Twilight. Here’s her take.

Erin: You have two teenage daughters at home, as a parent what are your thoughts about Twilight?

Dannah:
" Well, my girls are feeling the same pressure every other teen girl out there is feeling. Lexi has a lot of friends going to see Twilight and/or reading the series. She really wants to see the movie. We have an open dialogue about it because I know she has to face her friends who have seen it and talk about it. So, we've been talking about the content and keeping up with everyone's opinions. My strong opinion is that it's a seductive movie in the sense of desensitizing viewers to demonic activity. We cannot be complacent about it.

Admittedly, I have not read the books or seen the movie. But I have read reviews and understand that there is a strong progression of both demonic power and sexual content in the book series. I consider the first book and the movie a "gateway" to content that is unquestionably harmful to a person's spirit."

Erin: Are there any lies that you feel like readers of this series might be exposed to?

Dannah:
" It reminds me of Lie #6 in Lies Young Women Believe—"I've never been exposed to Satanic activity." That's a good chapter to read as girls think about this movie and book series. We think that we aren't really being exposed to Satan and his demonic forces. We tell ourselves, "It's just entertainment." But at some level it is destructive to our resolve and thought process. Do you really want to go there?"

Erin: What Truth would you use to counteract those lies?

Dannah:
" I keep quoting a verse to Lexi (and it drives her a little crazy). It is Philippians 4:8. "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Is there virtue or praise or purity in this movie? You need to ask yourself that."

Erin: What guidelines do you use to discern whether a book or movie is a wise choice for you or your girls?

Dannah:
" First of all, let me say that Bob (that’s Dannah’s hubby!) and I put ourselves through the same process as we do our kids. We say "no" to movies that we really want to see if we find the reviews reveal content that doesn't pass the Philippians 4:8 guideline. (And that's a lot of movies!) We trust Focus on the Family's Plugged-In Online a great deal. (Go to www.pluggedinonline.com.) The reviewers are not legalistic, but they don't let much get through. If they don't recommend a movie we generally do not see it."

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    horses4ever
    Thank you!
    on Sunday, December 14, 2008 at 10:10 am
    Thank you, Dannah! I really want to see the movie, so I've been going against it as much as I can, posting how bad it is, and your blog helped out a lot! Now, the movie could be great! but I don't want to see it. :) Keep it up! Tell your daughters hi from a 14-year-old Dannah-Gresh lover!
    ryannaundecided
    undecided(again)
    on Sunday, December 14, 2008 at 5:45 pm
    thx Dannah...
    all my friends are literly OBCESTED about Twilight and i didnt really know if i wanted to see it or not. But now i definatly know that i dont!
    veronica
    geeez.
    on Wednesday, December 17, 2008 at 1:08 am
    Well i wish i wouldve seen this blog about two years ago. Ive read the books and seen the movie...four times. :( i know ridiculous. Ive had a lot of people tell me it wasnt a good movie to watch but i just ignored them. Now reading this blog and seeing your explanations and references to the truth i realize it was a mistake. I wish i could take it back and never have seen it. But thanks anyway for revealing the truth to me. :)
    sheri
    we caved in
    on Wednesday, December 17, 2008 at 1:11 am
    My spirit told me the movie wasn't right, and without my husband's support, I caved pretty quickly and let my 14 year old daughter read the book series..she read 4 books in 5 days, and see the movie...okay....twice. My husband is a christian, but we don't really discuss spiritual things or pray together. Girls!!!! Don't let Satan in! I am so sorry I allowed this in my home and my daughters heart.
    Erin Davis
    Sheri
    on Wednesday, December 17, 2008 at 9:57 am
    It is not too late to do some damage control with your daughter. Why not have an open discussion with her about your regrets. The two of you could read these blog posts together. See what she thinks.

    I think that there is a lot she could learn by hearing you say " I messed up! I knew I shouldn't let you read these, but I caved to the pressures of culture which told me, It is just a book!"

    Based on my experience with Twilight readers, her love for the books and movies may keep her from being immediately open to the idea that they should be avoided. But the Truth of this matter may at least give her pause.

    And how great would it be if she could talk about these books with her 14-year-old friends armed with Truth from God's Word, and her momma's support!

    Let me know how that conversation goes!

    Erin Davis
    omg
    THANK U!
    on Saturday, December 20, 2008 at 10:29 pm
    ok all my friends have wathched AND read the book, and i wanted to see it or read, but now that i have read this blog i NO LONGER want to read or see it bcuz now when i think of the twilight a will remember that God wants us to keep ourselves pure and twilight is not the way to be pure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Ellie
    ThankYouThankYOu!
    on Saturday, January 3, 2009 at 2:31 pm
    My Bible class, most of which is obsessed with Twilight, was studying that verse, Phil. 4:8, and I was so frustrated, b/c no one realized that that verse was a great reason not to read Twilight. Not to condemn people who have read them, but...those books are ones I don't really want to read. I want to "flee from immorality" because who knows...no matter how strong someone's will is, you never know if they will fall prey to something.
    Regina
    one of the 'few'
    on Tuesday, January 13, 2009 at 9:16 pm
    hey, i have two sisters, both whom are obsessed and will defend the series. =)

    my eldest sister actually is the first one who started reading it and when she saw me reading one your blogs regarding twilight she thought it was judging the book because of 'vampires'. I said no and she read a few parts herself and said 'they have a point.' with a tone I'm not very convinced that she regrets or recognizes the dangers.

    my younger sister followed suit, she acknowledges herself that it contained very sexual content, but still reading it and grabbing the chance while reviewing for her exams.

    my friends watched it alot of times. one of them is obsessed she squeals and smiles alot then will quote words from the books, then daydreams.

    I can only sigh and smile. Honestly, I watched it twice. One, to know what is the fuss is all about and Second, I came with my eldest sister for the reason I get free tickets. (But I guess, that was compromising and wrong...) and never I liked any parts at all... and I can feel there is something so wrong about this movie!

    About the characters way of thinking, acting and what are they trying to portray.

    My younger sister told me to read it also so I can appreciate it, I just said "No, not my kind of thing."

    I like to quote ellie "no matter how strong someone's will is, you never know if they will fall prey to something."

    True very true.
    Please pray for my sisters...

    God bless us everyone!
    KATELYN :)
    satan's winning,
    on Wednesday, January 14, 2009 at 8:45 pm
    Satan is winning in this case, so I definitely think that we should pray about this. Especially for girls like me, vulnerable, and 13.
    Julie
    In the Twilight Zone!
    on Thursday, January 29, 2009 at 8:05 am
    It's sad what our society is putting out as "okay" in today's world. In response to an earlier post about her sisters defending it...I know when Mom really got into the Bible after we got saved, and she wanted me to stop reading things like Harry Potter, I was hopping mad! But gradually, after being away from it for a while, I began to see how it was harmful to my spiritual well being. As the Bible says, we should "flee youthful lusts". And from what I've heard, Twilight has plenty of those.
    Christina Charles
    THANK A MILLION!!
    on Sunday, February 15, 2009 at 4:41 pm
    thanks SO much 4 all that u said about the book/ movie! It seems like I'm the only one who hasn't seen the movie or read the books! ot only that but it seems like I am the only person who wants nothing to do with them!! :) Even my accountability partner/ bff invited me to go see it with her and tells me about them ALL THE TIME... and it kinda makes my heart break for her thinking bout how she makes all these stands for Christ ALL THE TIME but yet, it ALWAYS seems that the Devil gets a hold of her the easiest through the media (specifically movies!) but its really nice and refreshing to hear that I'm not alone! :)
    rgjo777
    huh?
    on Friday, March 20, 2009 at 2:11 pm
    I don't get the big deal about twilight!alot of kids at my (christian) school are into it and I don't get it!I was at a rental place and I read the case and it already seemed bad just by what I read off the case! I didn't know it was that bad though!
    I guess all I can do is not read the books or see the movie.By the way,if any of you have read them what was your fascination with them?Just wonderin'.
    krlosier
    in agreement with rgjo777
    on Monday, March 23, 2009 at 9:41 pm
    I go to the same school, as I've mentioned before, and I know exactly what she means! Everybody keeps telling me I should read them, but I wouldn't! Doesn't that violate the standard of Phillipians 4:8 (is that the right reference?)
    rgjo777
    to krlosier
    on Thursday, March 26, 2009 at 3:27 pm
    yah it's phillipians 4:8.Still about my question.Why is twilight such a big deal?
    krlosier
    to rgjo777
    on Thursday, April 2, 2009 at 8:35 pm
    because it's addicting and once you start reading them, it gets so exciting that it is hard to stop. I don't know from experience, but from observing others.
    ALLaroundABBY
    Question
    on Saturday, May 9, 2009 at 4:04 pm
    I haven't had much of a battle with this.I just don't see the point of reading or watcthing a movie about a vampire in love with a human.Wouldn't that be like dating Drackula?
    Most of the 8th grade girls were obsessed with it when it first came out.Everyone was wearing a t-shirt with "twilight" printed on it.For the first few weeks I thought it might be interesting,but as I found more info on it,it didn't seem that great.
    I do have one problem. A friend I know is obsessed with the books.When I'm talking with her and she brings that up,
    I'm at loss for words.I'm simply not interested in it and think it's wrong.She doesn't see it that way and makes up lame escuses when I tell her I don't think it's something she sould be reading.
    I don't want to offend her.
    Erin,Danah,anyone! how do I approch this?

    P.S. I agree with,you,rgjo777!
    evangaline
    Re: ALLaroundABBY
    on Wednesday, July 22, 2009 at 1:37 pm
    to answer your question... bella dating edward is nothing like dating dracula...dracula is a "bad" vampire and the cullens are "good" (they dont drink human blood). i am not in anyway trying to offend you by saying this but i dont think its right for you to tell your frined what she should and shouldnt read. maybe she doesnt see anything wrong with it.if thats the case then you shouldt make her feel bad for what she enjoys. it isnt offensive when someone tells me they dont think twilight is right but it is annoying when they wont drop it. when someone feels that way then i respect how they feel and dont talk about it with them and your friend should repect you enough to not talk about it with you. dont give her grief about it. i can tell you from experience all you are going to do is push her away from you for bossing her around. this is why my bbest friend and i arent best friends anymore because she felt the need to tell me what to and to not feel,act,do,say, read. i got sick of it. i hope i helped and didnt offend you. i would love to hear what else you have to say about the situation with your friend
    Anonymous
    Re:
    on Thursday, July 30, 2009 at 5:33 pm
    I READ TWILIGHT! IM A CHRISTIAN AND MY MOM GIVES ME THE BOOKS! SHES A CHRISTIAN TOO! SO ARE YOU SAYING WE ARENT STRONG IN OUR WALK WITH CHRIST IF READ IT? PEOPLE ARE GOING TO HAVE SEX!! IF WE DONT EXPOSE OURSELVES TO THESE THINGS WE ARE GOING TO GET HURT IN LIFE!SO TWILIGHT IS FINE IN MY OPINION! I AM GOING TO READ IT. U CANT CHANGE MY MIND. IDK U
    ^^ that person who left the last comment
    Re:
    on Saturday, August 1, 2009 at 1:48 am
    i apologize some ppl have there own boundries anf i just have different ones so im going to read twilight and see the movies. because that doesnt violate my personal boundaries:)
    ALLaroundABBY
    evangaline
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 5:02 pm
    Evangaline,
    I understand what your saying.I try not to be obsessive about it, but, not to offend anyone, it can be repulsive to the peson who is not overly obsessed with twilight, and let me tell you, she put in something about twilight in almost evey conversation.
    I'm IN NO WAY trying to preach, and this is my opinion, but if you see some one doing something that could be harmful to them, you should tell them.
    If you fill your mind with sex and romance, you'll start to desire that and it will consume you.
    This is only my personal opinion and I am NOT trying to say in any way that you're a bad person if you read them, but I am saying I think that it could have bad effects if you're not careful.Sure that stuff is out there and we have to be informed, but I don't think this is the best way to go about it.
    Dude
    The media deceives
    on Sunday, November 1, 2009 at 6:37 am
    There are many forms of media such as televesion, internet, books, magazines, radio etc. We live in a fallen world, whose god is satan, the prince and power of the air. In the beginning, just as he deceived eve and through eve deceived adam, he will deceive you if you expose yourself long enough to his devices. All of the secular media is influenced by satan and his kingdom of darkness - yes, all of it. In this world there is no nuetral, only good and evil; there is no in between. If those producing media are not under the lordship of Jesus Christ but that of satan, then the media will be satanic and reflect his nature. Most of society sees satan as a dark, menacing creature with horns wielding a pitch fork. Although he is a dark, sinister being, the bible says that he often appears as an angel of light. There are many forms of media that may seem good or ok, even as forms of entertainment, but are really deceptive. Satan often attacks with subtleties and his goal is to slowly guide you away from the truth without you knowing it. This is analogous to boilling a frog in a pot of water. There are many songs out there that seem ok on the surface, but if you look very closely at the words, you will see things that are really contrary to the word of God. If you examine most forms of media, you can see the subtleties and the deception. As far as Twilight is concerned, you need to go no further than the cover of the book. Why is the series referred to as twilight? Vampires? Vampire lust? A girl offering an apple? Drinking blood? Come on ladies, this one is easy to discern. If you are a Christian, you have no business even looking at this junk. Why let it into your eye gate? Don't take this the wrong way nor am I putting down women, but there is biblical evidence that women are more easily deceived than men, not to say that men aren't easily deceived because most are. That is why satan went through eve first in the garden. So ladies, especially young ladies, why even expose yourself to this temptation and lies? Stay away from the forbidden fruit....
    girlygril10
    hello are you up thare
    on Monday, December 3, 2012 at 9:03 pm
    sumtimes i whonder if GOD is always thare for me i just wish i can hear him when i pray
    girltgirl10
    none
    on Monday, December 3, 2012 at 9:06 pm
    do you know of a good christshin sing
    girlygirl10
    Re:
    on Monday, December 3, 2012 at 9:07 pm
    sorry song
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ girlygirl10
    on Tuesday, December 4, 2012 at 7:01 pm
    There will come a day when we will not only hear God’s voice, but we will also see His glorious face. In the meantime, it is so important that we take our emotions – what we are feeling – back to God’s Word to see how they measure up. Psalm 145:18-19 says this: “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth, He fulfills the desire of those who fear him; he also hears their cry and saves them.” Psalm 34:15 says this: The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and his ears toward their cry.” Psalm 6:9 says: “The Lord has hear my plea; the Lord accepts my prayer.” He tells us to cast our cares on Him because He cares for us (1 Pet. 5:7)

    When we come to the Lord and have confessed any sin that may stand in between us and God, we can confidently approach Him (Heb. 4:16) and know He hears our prayer and He is near to those who draw near to Him (James 4:8).

    I’m praying for you, girlygirl10, and asking God to keep you strong through His Word and that you will have confidence not only in His presence with you but also that He hears your prayers.

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