In 2009, is it okay to want to be a wife and mom?
She certainly isn’t the only gal feeling conflicted.
Here’s what the girls we interviewed told us when we asked them if they valued their future careers more than their future families.
“ For me the whole family idea is kind of overrated.”
“ It is not about families and having kids anymore. Women are expected to have careers, too.”
“ It has become uncool to want a husband and family.”
Frankly, we weren’t surprised that they felt this way. In fact, they are in good company. Gwen Sorell, Ph.D of Texas Tech recently opened a new semester by telling the young women enrolled in the women’s studies program this, “ It may be 2009, but teenage girls are still just dreaming of being wives. They should be able to dream beyond that.” Actress Marisa Tomei is quoted as saying, “ I’m not that big a fan of marriage as an institution and I don’t know why women need to have children to be seen as complete human beings.” It seems that even the church agrees. In 2007 47% of Christians reportedly felt that the roles of marriage and motherhood should not be emphasized for women.
The message that our culture (and sometimes our churches) is hurling your way is pretty clear “ Men and women are the same and being a wife and mom should not be your priority.” But, let me cut to the chase, this is not the portrait of womanhood painted in God’s Word. In fact, given the way we’re programmed by the World, God’s Truth is a stark contrast.
We’re going to be discussing Biblical womanhood for the next several weeks on the blog. And I’ve recruited some experts to do much of the teaching. Tomorrow, we’ll read part two of Dannah’s series about her 20th wedding anniversary. Besides being uber romantic, these posts paint a picture of marriage that is much sweeter and more genuine than anything pop culture will hurl your way. You’ll also hear from writers, speakers, wives, and mommas who have embraced God’s vision for womanhood even when it required swimming against the tide. It’s going to be a great discussion. I hope you’ll check back often as we seek to cast a vision for your life that matches up with God’s standards.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you. What messages do you hear the culture telling you about what it means to be a woman? What does God’s Word say about the value of wifedom, motherhood, and career (go ahead and tell us the Scripture)? Are you like Rachel in that you feel conflicted about what a woman’s life should look like in 2009?