Do Something Hard; Learn From Someone Old

posted by Dannah Gresh on 04/19/12
Category: Myself; ; 13 comments

When I wrote my first book, And The Bride Wore White, I was twenty-six and I wanted to write a book that didn't have a cartoon on the cover and that, like didn't use the word like. I despise dumbed-down teaching!

I guess not much has changed.

Alex and Brett Harris open up their bestselling book, Do Hard Things, with these words:

Check online or walk through your local bookstore. You'll find plenty of books written by fortysomethings who, like totally understand what it's like being a teenager. You'll find a lot of cheap throwaway books for teens because young people today aren't supposed to care about books or see any reason to keep them around. And you'll find a wide selection of books where you never have to read anything twice—because the message is dumbed-down. Like, just for you.

One of the low expectations today's mature Christian teen is ready to rebel against is shallow, immature, teachings directed at them. Sadly, we live in a culture grandma sharing wisdomwhere youth ministry is often dumbed-down. Teachers and authors either speak down to you or try too hard to be cool. Makes me kinda sick.

Recently I had the privilege of sitting under the rich teaching of Pastor Johnny Hunt who, among other honors, is the former head of one of the largest Protestant denominations in the world. His teaching was on overcoming strongholds. He delivered it with a hearty dose of deep theology that whetted the appetites of those of us in the audience to learn more by digging into the Word ourselves.

This year Pastor Hunt will be sixty. The average age of each person in the audience was probably fifteen. Pastor Hunt was speaking to 6,500 people. His graying hair, lack of vocabulary from urbandictionary.com, and well-pressed shirt were no barrier to the students who feasted on the Word of God that day. His power was not in relating to them, but it was wholly in the Word.

My husband, Bob, and I were both amazed at the spiritual weight of his teaching on all of us. There was an authority in what he spoke as compared to the other teachers, even though he delivered his teaching with simplicity and humility. And ... ahem ... I myself had a few moments on that stage. I'm not disparaging any of the other great speakers at that particular event. However, in terms of both years and wisdom, Pastor Hunt passed us all up.

Titus 2:3–5 encourages both you and I to be taught by older women:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

We're not called to be taught by our peers or those just a tad ahead of us so that we can relate to each other. But we're called to embrace the heavy weight of someone who's walked with the Lord for years.

The great young teachers and authors have a place in the Body of Christ. They push you to devour meaty teaching. But they cannot replace the weight of an older teacher like Johnny Hunt. (And the Harris brothers don't want them to. They just don't want you to settle for shallow teaching.)

I suspect two solid teachers like the Harris brothers will still be around when they're over the age of ... gasp ... thirty! I think they have the maturity to give them staying power to age wisely into "older" teachers. Imagine what weight they will have for us to sit under when they are almost sixty!

Speaking of older teachers, Erin and I are excited to teach brand-new, deep material at True Woman ‘12's Lies Young Women Believe LIVE! It's a full day of Bible truth just for you, but don't expect us to dumb anything down. We're going to dig deeply into God's Word gleaning for ourselves as we present solid, meaty truth for you in September. Would you mind covering us in prayer that we'd dig deep and present in mature humility?

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    Mattea
    Re:
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 9:16 am
    I will definitely pray for you when you teach this year...only wish I had enough money to be there!! :) .....We are most definitely supposed respect and listen to our elders! I feel like a lot of people treat the elderly like they're stupid but... the older know a lot more about life and God then I do because they've been around for longer and seen God work! Thanks soooo much for the post! May God bless you all! ;)
    Elaina
    Re:
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 10:16 am
    I learn so much from my Mom and the older people around me! Thank you for the reminder that old peolpe are not a nuisance, but treasure chests of wisdom!!!
    And I wish I could go to LYWB Live! I just don't have enough money. ):
    Jules
    True
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 11:55 am
    This is so true. I work with Jr. high girls at our church! They are my love. I want so much for them Spiritually, to realize how much God loves them and has such a perfect plan for them as individuals.

    Then as they see their worth in Christ, they can see how they fit together in each other's lives, just as a puzzle has individual pieces...but when it is put together the picture is so much better. So is God's plan!

    Loving on these girls is an honor and privilege. Being real with them about my struggles, makes them see that God is real and He can work with them too.

    Building relationships with them is key. When we love on them, they can in turn, reflect Christ by loving on others.

    Julie
    Lia
    So True!!
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 11:58 am
    This is soo true! I really appreciate books for teens (like Lies Young Women Believe :) that ditch the "coolness factor" and just tell it to us straight. What a blessing to have Godly authors who are brave enough to face possible rejection from the popular teenage crowd because they aren't mincing their words!

    My church goes to a nursing home every month to hold a church service for the residents. If you girls don't do anything like that on a regular basis, I would strongly recommend it!! It has really helped me lose my selfish attitude and care about someone else for a change! You know, it usually smells in there. And, most of the residents have Alsheimer's or dementia. Sometimes, they get really mad at you for no reason. But what an opportunity to show Christ's love! He loves the unlovely (including myself!!), and can't I give back just a little?
    Gods Jewel
    Very True!
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 1:11 pm
    I will definitely be praying for you as you teach at this conference. I wish I couldne there, one year I will be there!
    I haven't read Alex and Brett Harris book, but I can't wait till I do. I am a twin too!
    Dorcas
    Re:
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 1:37 pm
    Amen! I love this post..thanks for not trying to be cool...
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Elaina
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 4:56 pm
    Hey Elaina,

    We’re so glad you want to join Erin and Dannah at LYWB Live! We’re pumped about all the Lord may want to do at this event and would love to have you with us.

    I know it may seem like impossibility right now, but I wonder what God might do if you were to begin praying about the possibility of attending, Elaina? We’ve heard amazing stories of how God has provided for women to attend past True Woman Events. I just heard again this afternoon the stories of the 100+ women who came to True Woman 08 from the Dominican Republic – the cost for them to travel and attend was in excess of $1,000 per person… an “impossible” amount for many of them- BUT GOD… He provided, Elaina, above and beyond what they could have asked or imagined.

    So we’re going to join you in praying that if it’s God’s desire for you to attend LYWB LIVE, He will give you creativity and open doors to raise the funds you would need to be a part of this conference.

    Eye has not seen and ear has not heard, and which have not entered the heart of man, all that God has planned for those who love Him (1 Corinthians 2:9).
    Jaylee
    Re:
    on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 8:32 pm
    Thanks! I think most of us have heard this before, but just don't think about it much...at least that's how it is for me. I really needed to hear this again :)
    "Do Hard Things" is an amazing book! I highly recommend it :D and I'll keep you guys in prayer :)
    I definitely agree with Lia! It's always a HUGE blessing to visit nursing homes. It may take you a little while to "adjust" to an environment like that, but you'll find that a lot of the people appreciate you coming there. Most of them were just dumped there by their families that didn't want to spend time taking care of them. I've met some that have amazing testimonies that have really spoken to my heart. If you go with an open heart, willing to serve God, you'll come back feeling really blessed :)
    Bethany
    Re:
    on Friday, April 20, 2012 at 12:26 am
    This seems pretty appropriate for my life right now. On Saturday, I am going to my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary party. My other grandparents have been married for 49 years, and my parents for 22. I love that about my family, and if nothing else, I have learned from them that a godly marriage can last until death do you part, no matter how they met. Thanks for all of your great posts!
    Elaine
    Re
    on Friday, April 20, 2012 at 10:56 am
    Doubed down yes! That's why our family doesn't do youth group or sunday school (one of the reasons) because it's so doumbed down.
    I've always enjoyed listening to older people talk because I generally don't fit in with people my age.
    RachelAllison
    Amen!
    on Friday, April 20, 2012 at 11:15 am
    I've felt this way for years and it's amazing and encouraging to hear you guys saying it. This is why I love LYWB so much; because you guys have a passion for the truth and you dig deep into God's Word. I really appreciate that and commend you all for the work you are doing for the Lord. You're all such a blessing and a help for so many of us. Thank you. <3
    Dannah Gresh
    Re:
    on Friday, April 20, 2012 at 12:22 pm
    So cool to hear that you guys will be praying for Erin and I. Warms my heart!
    Megan
    Re:
    on Friday, April 20, 2012 at 1:49 pm
    Love this! I'm trying hard to bond with the older people in my church and I know a few of the men quite well... but what I really want is an older woman to mentor me! I go to quite a young church (a uni church really!) when I'm at school, so I miss having the support of the older generations at my home church. Will definitely be praying for true woman this year.

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