Advice For Picking A College Major—Take A Chill Pill!

posted by Lindsey Wagstaffe on 05/29/12
Category: The Future; ; 35 comments

crossroadsYou've graduated. You're going to go to college—drumroll please—and now the pressure skyrockets to know what to do with the rest of your life. If you're like I was, you're pulling out your hair, spending hours in introspection, your ten-year-plan changes every two and a half days, and you've toyed with everything from astrophysics to zoology.

I've taken online college classes from three different schools, lived on campus at one, attended campus from home at another, and changed my major four times. Here are three things God's taught me about decision making over the past few years, in the midst of all that change.

God has already given you His will.
If I could time travel to drop a hint to my freshman self, I'd jab myself (gently) in the ribs and say, "Hey lady, take a chill pill—this college stuff isn't half as big as you think it is." Then I'd give myself a Jamba Juice and crack open the Bible. God's Word has all we need for life and godliness. He doesn't spell out the big life-decisions we're dying to know about, but His precise moral will is spelled out for us. Here's a little homework—Philippians 4:4–9 is a great place to begin renewing your mind with that truth.

You change as you go. Changing your mind is okay.
I used to have this sinking feeling that choosing my college and major was the educational equivalent of announcing engagement to some guy I'd never met before—total commitment ... and I'd live with the consequences forever. As it turns out, picking a field of study is more like dating than engagement, and your major(s) aren't even disappointed when you dump ‘em for something that fits better! Don't feel pressured to figure out your future freshman year. You may not even end up in a job directly related to your major.  

What do you enjoy learning about? What topics matter most to you? What kind of things do you bring up repeatedly in conversation with friends? What are your strengths and your weaknesses? Is there a need you see in the world that you can't get out of your mind? Where can your passions and abilities intersect with that need? These kinds of questions have helped guide and shape my desires.

The options are endless, and God is glorified in every legitimate vocation—so choose something that sounds interesting and give it a whirl. Talk to people who are graduating with that major. Talk to professionals in the field. Learn the pros and cons of the occupation. Talk to your academic advisor. Talk to the mentors who know you best. Ask your parents for their insights about your areas of giftedness and passion. Make lists. I was greatly helped by Alex Chediak's book Thriving in College. I highly, highly recommend it to all college students. He's also written stellar articles like this one and this one about college and vocation choices. If you appreciate the articles, you'll want to buy the book.

Career decisions cannot save you.
Fear reveals where your heart is. My decision paralysis showed me that I was banking hope for a satisfied life in my educational prospects. I was afraid of choosing a path that would lead me into "dissatisfaction" or "unhappiness." A satisfied life is found in fellowship with Jesus, not in circumstances—either present or future. If you seek ultimate contentment and joy in any career path, disappointment is a guarantee. If you seek fulfillment and joy in Jesus, you will find it.

Questions for current undergrads and grads:

  • What decision-making lessons has God been teaching you?
  • How would you counsel yourself if you could go back to freshman year?
  • How did you choose your major?

Comments

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    O
    Re:
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 1:23 am
    I've been under immense pressure lately to choose a major/plan what college/ plan my LIFE/name my kids/have everything worked out. This article couldn't have come at a better time. I've been thinking that if I don't choose exactly the right path I will get no joy in my future, when you are so right, Jesus is my joy. No matter where I end up, Jesus is there. I still don't know what I want to do- but I trust that Jesus will reveal his will for me. I have nothing to fear.
    Dania
    HELP!!?
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 2:38 am
    I have a big concern!
    I decided to become a nurse. I was all excited about this. A couple of weeks ago I heard about the new healthcare law that passed && will begin April 2013!!
    The law consists that everyone has to get this microchip either on your forthhead or right hand to be able to provide medines or even going to the doctor!! I don't want to get this microchip! This is on revelation 14:9 I think && since I wanted to become a nurse they will make me have this chip! I need advice as soon as possible
    Mindy
    Re:
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 7:02 am
    Dania,

    My advice would be to stop reading ridiculous websites that propagate false information. Just because someone is standing behind a pulpit or writing for a religious website does not make them credible. What you heard/read is absolutely in no way true...that you would even believe it makes me a bit O.o. You may want to adjust your tinfoil hat or actually have some interaction with the real world for a while.
    R
    Re: Dania
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 7:03 am
    As microchips are not clearly indicated in scripture as being the mark of the beast, and as they are not put in place until halfway thru the tribulation when the church is not here on the earth...then I don't think you have anything to worry about. I for one will gladly take a microchip if it means serving the Lord more effectively. But I would pray about it and then do whatever the Lord lays upon your heart to do about it.
    Meg
    Re: Dania and Mindy
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 9:16 am
    Hi Dania! I'd like to know where you heard this, because the truth is, it's really just a myth. It sprung from section g of the H.R. 3200 bill, which isn't even the real law, just an early draft, which calls for a registry of implanted devices, (not an implanted device for registry), like pacemakers and hip replacements. Apparently, around the same time, the FDA also approved (NOT MANDATED) microchipping people, and the concepts got jumbled until a the panicked rumor you heard began spreading like wildfire.

    Sources:
    http://www.snopes.com/politics/medical/microchip.asp
    http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=129581493

    Basically, there are some legitimate concerns about the healthcare law, but this is not one of them.


    Re: Mindy
    You have a point that just because someing claims to be Christian doesn't make it automatically credible. However, your comment, "You may want to adjust your tonfoil hat or actually have some interaction with the real world for a while" was mean-spirited and unnecessary. Although Dania should probably be a little less credulous (especially since the end of days is full of lies), you should treat your sister in christ wi more respect and speak to her more gently.
    Erin Davis
    Meg
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 9:33 am
    Very well said. I appreciate your allegiance to the facts and sticking up for Dania. You're right, we need to speak to our christians sisters (and brothers) with respect and gentleness.

    Erin
    Viv
    One Chill Pill, Please!
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 10:11 am
    I'm still in high school and have another year til I graduate, but I've been thinking a lot about my future and what I'm supposed to do with it. I know that God already has a plan for me and that I really don't have to worry, but, boy, is it hard not too! I think I'm supposed to be a missionary, but I'm kind of hesitant about telling people that, even my parents, because, well, it would take a mighty work of God to get this shy, quiet girl to speak the good news of Christ in front of a lot of people. I don't see how God's going to get me to that place. And another thing. Should I go to college? Cause being a missionary doesn't require a degree. I was thinking about going to Liberty University and majoring in Teaching English as a Second Language and minor in Intercultural Studies or reverse that. But I really don't know! A friend of mine recently got accepted into a YWAM program in South Africa, and that got me thinking that maybe I should go to a ministry school instead of college. AHHH! So, yeah I'm a bit conflicted.
    Gracer
    Re:
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 6:25 pm
    Thank you for your post. I've been putting off a major for several years. I don't know what to do with my life. Getting a degree is a big deal because it costs a ton of money and I will end up borrowing to pay for it. My folks (& everybody else) want me to become a vet tech "because you love animals." I'm not sure I can handle the math and chemistry involved. I'm not sure I want to spend my life indoors in vet office with sick animals.
    I want to work with horses, but my folks say, "you're not strong enough, it won't pay enough, or provide a retirement or health insurance..."
    So I'm dragging my feet. So what does God want me to do? I don't know. Probably anything would be better than nothing.
    Penn
    HELP!!!
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 7:39 pm
    I love God with all my heart and seek to be his disciple. Recently I have felt really convicted about giving all of my desires to the Lord. When I was doing devotionals I realized that if I don't give all my desires and possessions to God I am really living for my self. I know that God loves me and already knows my future, but I am feeling uncertain about college. I am a high school junior and I need to decide on a school. I know what I want to do but I can't decide between a big state school or a small Christian school like Westmont. In the past God has been clear about where he wants me to go or what he wants me to do, but this time I'm sitting on the fence, and I'm not hearing His still small voice. Any advice, on how to calm myself and know that the decision I make is in God's plan?
    aftergodsown<3
    Filed Away For Later. =)
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 9:37 pm
    This is all fabulous, and since I'm a soph-to-be-junior, I'm filing it all away for the future! Thanks so much for encouraging gals to think about our futures in a godly way, Lindsey!
    Mezeline
    Re:
    on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 9:46 pm
    I recently finished my freshman yr @ FGCU. I'ma nursing major. At first I picked it because it was one of the fields easy 2 find wk in & my parents were pressuring me. They shot down any major I considered & I had doubts. Now I want to continue nursing major because I want 2 use the skills on mission trip w/Joyce Meyer Ministries in the future. But the classes I have 2 take like Biology, Anatomy & College Algebra are not my strengths. & I have been asking God 4 some confirmation on the nursing major so Im on the path he wants me cause I dont feel passionate, just wanna go on a mission trip.PLEASE pray 4 me!!!. really appreciate it :)
    Christina
    Path of Wisdom
    on Wednesday, May 30, 2012 at 7:22 am
    This is all so true! Let God direct your path. Let His will be done in every aspect of your life, DO NOT hold back anything from Him. The verse I love that goes with this is Proverbs 3:5-6
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Viv
    on Wednesday, May 30, 2012 at 5:18 pm
    Viv, I encourage you to speak to your parents about your fears and about your desire to be a missionary. God has given them to you to help you and guide you in your life. They will be able to look at the options that are open to you to pursue what you are thinking and help you make the right decision. Remember, God chooses the weak to be His tools so that His strength is what is glorified (1 Cor. 1:27-31). Moses and Gideon also thought they were too weak to be used by God, but when they made themselves available to Him, He did mighty miracles through them.

    God is able to do far more than all that we ask or think (Eph. 3:20). I’m praying for you, Viv, and asking God to give you the courage to be all He wants you to be.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Penn
    on Wednesday, May 30, 2012 at 5:19 pm
    Penn, I encourage you to continue to pray, read the Word and trust the Lord to lead you one step at a time.

    Proverbs 15:22 says: “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” I also encourage you to seek the advice of godly counsel – your parents, your pastor, and other godly people. They know you, are familiar with your gifts, your personality, your strengths and your weaknesses. Often they can see the situation more objectively than you can and can give advice that you can’t even see because you are so close to the “problem”. Take their advice and pray through it along with reading God’s Word and you can trust that God will lead you in the way you should go (Is. 30:21). I’m praying for you, Penn!
    aashley
    Re:
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 9:25 am
    maybe god has a diffrent plan for your life to the point where you dont know just get in your prayer closet and talk to him.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Dania
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 1:49 pm
    I appreciate your concerns about the chip, but caution you to check out the validity of what you have heard. You can check out the links that Meg gave earlier to read more about the chips.

    I encourage you to talk your concerns and fears over with a trusted adult – your parents, your youth pastor or another godly woman. Let them pray with you through this to determine the Lord’s will in this matter. Being a nurse is a very rewarding profession and one that God can use to touch the lives of the physically needy as well as those needing a spiritual healing through Jesus Christ.

    I’ve prayed for your wisdom today and trust that the Lord will faithfully lead you in the path you should go.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Mezeline
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 1:51 pm
    I can sense your uncertainties about the difficult classes associated with a nursing degree. Even though these may not be your strengths, God can show Himself strong in your weakness (2 Cor. 12:9-10) as you study hard and rely on Him, Mezeline.

    I encourage you to keep praying, examine your motives and talk through all this with your parents. If your only reason for pursuing nursing is so you can go on a medical mission trip then that is probably wrong motivation. Do you think it might be possible to see if there is a mission trip you could participate in during the summer between school semesters? Also, would it be possible for you to find a summer job in the medical field (nursing assistant) that would give you a taste of what nursing would really be like so you have a better idea is this is a good fit and God’s will for you? I’m praying for you, Mezeline, and for your wisdom and courage to trust and follow God’s leading in your life.
    Manide
    College: To Go or Not to Go
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 6:56 pm
    I am trying to decide whether or not I should go to college. I am only in the tenth grade, but right now, people have been asking me about it a lot! My dad, with, his gentle guidance, is urging me to go. But half of me feels like God doesn't want me to go; yet the other half of me feels like God wants to go and that I am all for college...
    Some people are even telling me that it is not a girl's place to go to college. Other people are telling me that just because we are women doesn't mean that we can't get an education. I really am trying to see the Lord's plan for my life and yet still honor both my Heavenly Father and my earthly father-- whether going to college or not.
    Dania
    re to everyone :P
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 8:47 pm
    well i heard about it && they even spoke about it at my church && my church walks by the holy spirit (sorry my primary language is spanish && i have some trouble writing it correctly or/& sent4ence structure) well ive heard it in a couple of places theres a video that speaks about this but its in spanish! heres the link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RH9K3do4Mg fo those who understand the language!

    (im not sure if i can post a link)

    && none of these answers actually help with what im specifically asking! :/
    Dania
    :D
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 8:50 pm
    loreee thanks sorry i didnt saw your post thanks! tomorrow at church ill ask my youth pastor about it! :D
    Dania
    meg
    on Thursday, May 31, 2012 at 8:57 pm
    thanks ;D
    Dance Among the Ruins
    Re:
    on Saturday, June 2, 2012 at 4:31 pm
    Any tips on applying for college? Or how to get a scholarship?
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Manide...
    on Saturday, June 2, 2012 at 9:48 pm
    It certainly is a decision that you don’t have to make right now. You have time to pray about this decision. Certainly the Lord gives wisdom and guidance to young ladies through their earthly fathers. I encourage you to listen to your father and heed his advice. If God doesn’t intend for you to go, He can change your father’s heart as well as yours. Make it a matter of prayer and rest in the fact that God hears, He answers, and He does indeed lead through earthly authorities. It’s His way.

    In between the times you talk to your Heavenly Father, talk with your earthly father and talk through the issue—how you feel, your concerns, your questions. Perhaps the two of you can pray together, but certainly you can pray with the same heart—wanting God’s best for you. Enjoy the journey! “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

    P.S. There are no biblical mandates for girls going to college or not going to college, so you are free to go or not go, and still be right before the Lord. You only need to determine what is His plan that your life might serve the purpose for which He has chosen you (Eph. 2:10).
    Dania
    Good news
    on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 2:17 am
    I had a lot of concerns on what to study && today at. Hurch i received word from god thru a woman of God && the word was something like this; dont worry about what youre going to study dont worry what school or where youre going to live God has youre future just depend on him dont ask for advice He is the only one that will give you the answer just seek him! So now im calm,! && i just wanted to share it with lies young women believe :D
    RachelAllison
    @Dania
    on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 9:19 am
    Hey Dania, I'm glad to hear your fears have subsided as you learn to trust God with your future. There is a peace that passes understand when you know that God has it under control, isn't there? :) But one thing I wanted to say, after reading your comment, was that it's okay to ask for advice. Asking for advice is not distrusting God, because God uses other people and their experience to help guide us into this future that He has planned out just for us. Allowing other people to help us along the way is a good thing and although we ought always to compare the advice we receive with the truths found in God's Word, there are people out there who have walked this walk before us and been in our shoes (parents specifically) and if we are to be wise we ought to take advantage of that wisdom. The book of Proverbs speaks often of the importance of listening to those who have wisdom and heeding their advice. So don't rule out asking for advice, friend, because that is an important part of learning. :)
    Blessings,
    Rachel
    God's Girl:)
    Feeling at Peace with my Majors
    on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 12:37 pm
    Hi!

    Thank-you so much for this! This may sound silly but this reminds me of High-School Musical 3 when all the kids are trying to decide where to go to school! :)

    For me, I remember I only got accepted into one school called Spring Arbor University and it really didn't matter what I majored in, God placed on my heart since I was ten years old to see a revival in Hollywood! :)

    So, when I was sitting there with all the other Freshmen class men I felt a little nudge on my heart saying: "Major in Film Studies," and I sat there and I prayed with my brother and I picked that one!!! :)

    I feel like God helped me pick the right major, and my family was happy, and so was I! :) Then to make a long story short, I had a medical issue it was like God was giving me a second chance by getting a Masters degree and as I started my degree I felt like God was nudging me saying: "Pick Business Management," and so I did and I felt such peace about it that I felt like I did what God called me to do. Then the first class I'm taking for credit in Intro to Sociology and (being diagnosed with PTSD) ten months ago (long story) I'm finally recovering from it and then the topics that are discussed in the class I'm like why God why??? Of all classes!

    And that was the only class available to fit my schedule! So I'm like great, I'm finally starting to heal and then wam God's like you have to trust me!

    I could use a lot of prayer while I'm in that class because I'm like the only Believer and come from a conservative world-view! I'm praying and it's hard, especially when you're one of the only believers in a class that is a secular school!

    I know God is with me though, and I believe God wants me in that class and that major to challenge those around me, and to also learn their side! Jesus loves the Business Majors!!:)

    This was an encouraging reminder that:) I'll take all the prayers I can get to get through this class! :) And to be an ambassador for Jesus Christ to the students and professors! :) I see my new masters degree as a ministry opportunity:)
    Dance Among the Ruins
    Thank You :)
    on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 5:16 pm
    Thank You so much Mrs. Lindsey for this very timely reminder. I stress way too much about College and my future. I'm only 15 but I'm finishing my Junior year in High School so this summer I am working on applications and the ACT and all the upcoming tests. I tend to get so overwhelmed by it that I forget it's really God who has my future planned, and it's all in his control. Again, thank you!
    God's Girl :)
    Re:
    on Monday, June 4, 2012 at 11:25 pm
    Just remember: Jeremiah 29:11

    "For I know the Plans I have for you Says the Lord, Not to Harm you but to give you an amazing HOPE and a Future,"

    I also highly recommend Experience God (Dance Among the Ruins!) It's helping me a ton!! :)

    Hope this helps! I'm still trusting God that HE has everything under control for me! :)
    Dance Among the Ruins
    Re:
    on Tuesday, June 5, 2012 at 12:09 am
    Thank you God's Girl :)
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Dance Among the Ruins
    on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 5:11 pm
    Each college has an application process that you will need to go through, friend. The earlier you start the better—especially if you are looking for scholarships, as they are typically awarded early in the school year. Your parents will need to fill out a FAFSA form based on their income tax filings. You can go to the counseling department at the local high school. Even homeschoolers can use this department as a resource as they apply for college.

    I’ve prayed for you, friend, and have asked the Lord to be your guide and provider as you seek to further your education.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    God's Girl
    on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 5:12 pm
    It has been my honor to pray for you and your focus as you work through this class at school. I know that as you strive to keep your relationship with God top on your list of priorities that His light will shine through you on your “mission field”. Stay in the Word, sweet friend! God is in control and He will get you through (Is. 43:1-3).
    Elizabeth
    God's lessons
    on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 8:51 am
    My whole life all I wanted in my future was stability. I've had multiple plans and have many day dreams of my future so that I know where I can go and that I'll have the stable life I always wanted. But after hearing a mentor's testimony, I realized that stability isn't exactly what God promises. He was in the same career that I plan on taking and he changed jobs every couple of years until God settled him in the one he is in now. It made me see that God is truly in control of my future and that I shouldn't be satisfied in what this world may seem to offer; a stable job, money, house with a white picket fence...Christ is my fulfillment, don't need anything but Him! Now, I plan on asking God on where to go and not let my flesh lead me or try to find joy in the things of this world, that only really pass away. I have no clue where I'm going, but it is in God's hands and his grace is sufficient for me wherever I may be!
    Joy
    Simplifying Life
    on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 8:10 am
    I was dually enrolled in high school, so I have a degree in paralegal studies. This is my first year of "real" college and the message God keeps sending me is to simplify life. Joyce Meyer has a teaching on it (she has a podcast for the people that have great technology) and whenever I am thinking of throwing in the towel I remember that message. I watch her messages on tv and the message has come on twice. I realized that I get quickly overwhelmed by trying to decide big and little problems so it is best for me to take life moment by moment. I make a list of all of the things I want to do for the day and then I just pick an item I can do quickly so I can say that I have done something. I know this is somewhat off subject but I know some of you all may have this problem. But I am in a dual degree program for chemistry and chemical engineering. Ever since I was little I have been mixing things together; trying to find differences between items; and of course asking,"Why did this happen?" I like making my own hair and skin products. I definitely like a challenge so the sciences were the place for me. I'm also interested in environmental science/ law, but there are ways to unite all of these. I went on collegeboard.com and if you have already taken the personality test and you didn't like the result, look through the majors. I know God always has a way to reveal what you should do. Make sure to pray constantly because He will just drop things into your life, BUT you have to be willing to pay attention to the message He is trying to send you!
    Bay
    Major Change..HELP!
    on Thursday, May 2, 2013 at 9:41 am
    I could really use some advice from some Godly people. I have wanted to be a vet since i was three. I am now finishing up my freshman year of college as a bio major to pursue that dream and i am doing terrible in school. i am not good at bio and chem at all! i took a criminal justice class this semester and i loved it! I am good with people and animals and i have a gift of helps. I want to follow God's plan for my life but i dont want to regret changing my major if that is not the plan God has for me. Any advice?
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Bay...
    on Thursday, May 2, 2013 at 11:14 pm
    This is a good time for you to think through this and pray through it! Don't think it is too late. It is just the right time. You have dreamed about your profession but maybe it took being in the classes to see that this is not your calling. Or, maybe you have had exposure to something that you couldn't have known about before this time at college. See it as a time of seeking God and hearing from Him instead of just "dreams".

    It often helps in situations like this to talk with those who know you best. Start making a list. Go to your parents. Put the two options before them and see what they think. Go to one of your church leaders--maybe a pastor that has known you well, a youth minister or his wife that have followed your life and interests, or a Sunday School teacher--and ask them to pray with you and see if they have input into your life and calling. Talk to a couple of good friends, and then find a vet and someone in the criminal justice system. Ask them what it takes for their job and see if they have any guidance for you. Write a couple of things down from each person, then take the list and go before the Lord. Take a week and diligently pray through your future and discern God's plan for you. It may take even another year of classes to make a final decision. But, you have the rest of your life before you. Sometimes God uses situations like this in our lives to teach us how to call on Him and learn to hear His voice. What a great lesson for life. You can trust Him to lead you as you seek Him: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path." (Prov. 3:5-6) I'm praying for you tonight.

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