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GG
Re:
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 1:26 am
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Good post; sometimes it's easy for me to let myself off the hook easily for messing up, but be super hard on others.

And this is completely un-related, but I found it funny to post this comment, as where I am it's still yesterday by this site's time. :)
Esther
my daddy is imperfect but i love him
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 1:43 am
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Years ago, i was thinking in kill me, well exactly when was 8 years... why do you think? because i believe that i was the guilty of this TRAGEDY (Dad and mom was separated) but the Angel of the Lord kept me (for this times my sister ten years older than me was going to a church and led me with her...I learned many songs about the love of JESUS...yes MY MOM AND DAD BROKEN THEIR MARRIAGE, MY DAD WAS A ALCOHOLIC...My father had other family...now lived with they...I grew only with my mom and my sister and yes...I grew with many fears and insecurities...but in middle of drama...I found an AMAZING DAD (GOD)...for years I couldn´t see my dad with the eyes that i see it now...now i can hug him and kiss my man, my favorite man in the earth (my dad) because God help me to FORGIVE him and yes Him give me STRENGTH, COMFORT & ADOPT ME...giving to me SECURITY.
My dad was and is a imperfect man, and i believe that coming soon his heart will belong to Christ, i pray for this.
My dad is an authority for me but also i have more, like my pastor and the husband of my beautiful mentor, they are the men of my life.
I´m so thankfull to God for the life of the men arround to my life...because they impact, inspire and influence me.
Monica
Re: Esther
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 4:20 am
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wow, what an amazing story Esther! You have reached a place in your relationship with God that i haven't, though i long too. Its amazing how God uses our struggles in life to bring us closer to him!
Esther
Re:Monica
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 8:41 am
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I admit it was not easy Monica, but i learn that my scars are beautiful for HIM and can be used to give glory to God...in many preachings I was encouraged and exhorted to give steps...steps to forgive.
Now i can bless lifes of girls that pass for the same and understand them.
If you are in a similar case i say to you...First of all, God wants to heal you, pray, PRAY...TRUST, trust...& sorrounder all. You are loved Moni :)
Mattea
Super-Human-Dad
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 9:10 am
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My dad went to jail when I was eight years old for drinking and driving. He was addicted to drugs and alcohol and I was so scared a lot of times and....yea IT WAS REALLY BAD!! I don't even want to say everything that happened to my family! However, GOD was gracious and my dad it is out of jail, living with us again, and going to church and everything. It's really hard for me to honor him sometimes when I remember what he did to me and my family....he's always getting mad at me for not be honoring to him...but it's soooooooooooooo hard!!! Could everyone please pray for my dad and my relationship?!!
RachelAllison
@Mattea
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 10:23 am
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You are in my prayers, dear friend! <3
Mattea
@RachelAllison
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 10:25 am
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Thanks RachelAllison! LOL:)
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Esther...
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 11:06 am
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I agree with Monica...amazing story! And a beautiful testimony to the Word and ways of God! Thank you for blessing us with your post! Blessings to you, Esther!
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Mattea...
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 11:09 am
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I'm praying for you! Praying God will give you wisdom and strength in your relationship with your dad! May His grace and peace be abundant in your life as you trust in Him (2 Pet. 1:2)!
Esther
RE:Mattea
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 11:33 am
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I´m praying for you too!


AND THANKS SARAH :) BLESSINGS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Mattea
@Esther
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 12:54 pm
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Thanks everyone for your prayers! Esther, I read your comment... our dads were both gone when we were eight...I'm praying for you too:)
Katie Bea
Daddy is MY Super Hero
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 2:43 pm
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My dad died 4 years ago, although he was gone most of my life, and I really didn't know him. But my "Daddy" became my dad 7 years ago and I have never been more blessed!
No, he is not prefect, but he tries so hard for us and I thank God for him everyday.
HE IS MY SUPER HERO!
Dance Among the Ruins
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on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 4:53 pm
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Wow. This gave me a lot to think about. I always expected my Dad, not to be perfect, but to BE there. That didn't happen, like at all. And I always blamed him for it, always thought that if he really loved me he would have found some way to change all of this, he would have never done x y and z, he would never have said the things he said, my parents wouldn't have split up, I wouldn't be where I am now, having to deal with what I'm dealing with. I know I'm not perfect, but I grew up expecting he would be. That's part of the reason it hurt so bad when he left for the reasons he did. This post really helped me clear up some of my thoughts on the subject, and in a good way. Thank Y'all so much.

And Esther and Mattea, I'll be praying for both of you and your dads.
Jennifer
My Dad
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 7:04 pm
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I've never had any really big stories with my Dad, like Esther and Mattea, but I always expect him to be better than he is. He has problem controlling his temper, nothing major AT ALL, but it doesn't make for a peaceful house, you know? He really has been trying to be better, so I am trying to not hold it against him. I would appreciate prayer for me, my siblings, and Dad. Thanks!

I'll be praying for you, Esther and Mattea!

God bless you, sisters!
Jennifer
Heidi
Re:
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 8:12 pm
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I caught my dad looking at pornography a couple of years back. I still have trouble trusting him when He is home alone, even though he said he was sorry and apologized and vowed never to get on the computer again, and he hasn't. But it's just hard. You know all the disgusting commercials on TV these days.

I'm praying for you Mattea and Esther and Jennifer, and if anyone would be willing to pray for me I'd really appreciate it. Thanks
Elaina
Re Heidi
on Wednesday, June 6, 2012 at 11:02 pm
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Wow girl! That's tough! I just shot a prayer up for you. I wish I could help better..... but I will pray for you.
Julie
Praying
on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 12:19 am
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I will remember Mattea and Heidi in my prayers.
Dance Among the Ruins
Re: Heidi
on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 12:32 am
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I'll be praying for you and your dad Heidi
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Heidi
on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 1:31 pm
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I know it is hard to trust your dad again, Heidi! I encourage you to forgive him and not harbor bitterness in your heart (Eph. 4:31-32). It sounds like he is doing what he needs to do in following through on his vow (Job 31:1). I encourage you to not give up on him (Eph. 3:20), but to pray for him, encourage him and love on him. None of our dads are perfect, but it sounds like your dad wants to be a man of his word. I’ve prayed for you today, Heidi and have prayed for your dad asking the Lord to continue to give your dad the strength to continue to do what he needs to do to guard his eyes and his heart.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Jennifer
on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 1:32 pm
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I’m glad you see that your dad is trying to do better at controlling his temper. Anger can be a very difficult emotion to control. I encourage you to pray for him and to encourage him by telling him you see how he is trying to do better and how much you appreciate that.

I also encourage you to forgive your dad for his expression of anger. God tells us to forgive as He forgives us (Eph. 4:31-32). And then pray for him and ask God how you can encourage him in his battle to overcome this sin in his life.

My prayers are with you Jennifer! I know God is going to provide you a way through this (1Cor. 10:13).
anonymous
my story
on Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 3:40 pm
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Both my Mom and Dad grew up in pretty disfunctional homes. I used to make it a good excuse for decisions they made, I don't anymore. I was mostly bitter with my Dad for a long time. I was 12 when I found out he had been a drug addict for about 15 years or so. My parents hid the secret from us kids well. I was disappointed he couldn't be the Dad I needed. I was angry he put my Mom through that all, after she had had a VERY bad childhood. And I was saddened he couldn't be the Dad my siblings needed.
Over the past 5 years, God has really changed my heart. It seems the older I get, the harder it is to deal with. I have forgiven him... or at least, God has given me His forgiveness so that I may forgive my Daddy.
I do love him (my dad), and I do still sometimes get angry when he messes something up. Then I just have to give it up to God again. It is an ongoing process. But it is getting harder and easier at the same time. The older I get the more I realize what I missed out on, but my heart gets softened and then becomes easier to handle it.
God has been so prevalent in the process. My dad started rehab 5 years ago and didn't relapse ONCE. That is truly a miracle!! Also, God has really been just knitting our family back together, and helped us trust him more. He has also been learning how to be the Dad God has always wanted him to be. I have the hope that he can be the father to my siblings that he wasn't to me. I know that might sound like I am sad, but I am not anymore. I know I can live with the thought that I never had the Dad I needed because in the end, my Father in heaven was ALWAYS there for me even if my earthly father wasn't. That thought is good enough for me =). In the end, I know it is all in God's hands even though it is still hard sometimes. But that is what makes it more beautiful... that even when all else fails in the world, that God has always, and will always be there for me =).
Katie Bea
Praying
on Friday, June 8, 2012 at 11:24 am
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Praying for you all! Reading all these posts makes me feel bad about complaining and asking God why he would let the things that have happen in my past to happen...but nothing in my past has been as bad as some. Pray for me too.
Jennifer
Heidiand anonymous
on Friday, June 8, 2012 at 8:42 pm
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Thanks Heidi, for praying. I'll pray for you often. That's an amazing story, Girl! (anonymous) I'll be praying for you and your dad. I'm glad this is turning out well, and his rehab progress IS a miracle!
God bless everyone,
Jennifer
Christina
My Dad
on Friday, June 8, 2012 at 10:21 pm
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This does make me think, I know my dad is for sure not a superhuman. My dad has hurt me many times durin my lifetime, but maybe that kinda comes with the fact that when he was born, he was just a kid himself. My dad has hurt me a lot, but by the fact he's not a superhuman, it just means i should pray for him even more!
Ania
Write a comment
on Friday, June 15, 2012 at 10:20 am
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Hey... All these tributes to dads were so sweet! I want to write something to my dad too :) I know my Dad isn't superhuman. But he's an amazing Dad still and I love Him so much. And just to imagine what my heavenly Father is like... makes me cry again. I know that I am so undeserving to have such a Father. I want to know Him and be his girl. He amazes me...

Thank you for posting about Dads :D

Ania
Becky
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on Tuesday, June 19, 2012 at 9:55 am
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I have a hard time loving my father. He was a truck driver until a few years ago and when I was between the ages of 0-7 he was gone a lot for weeks at a time. When he was home I'd try to hang out with him but he'd always yell at me or ignore me. I started loosing faith in him when I was around 10. He was home most of the time after I turned 7, but would rather watch tv than spend time with his kids. When I was 16 I did a lot of self-reflecting and realized all the verbal abuse I'd endured over the years and all the time he could have spent with me but didn't. So I came to the conclusion that he just doesn't know how to be a dad (I have 5 siblings and he treats us all alike, save one) and also that I didn't love him anymore. I know it probably sounds bad...there are a lot of kids out there without a father. But it still hurts when a father is present and it feels like he doesn't care.
I was wondering if you girls could pray for me in this area? It's also hindered the way I see God as a father. For now I can only see him as a close friend.
Carrie, with the LYWB team
@Becky
on Wednesday, June 20, 2012 at 5:00 pm
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I’m sorry you’re Dad has been distant and cold toward you and your siblings over the years. The Lord’s given you great insight, Becky, in understanding your Dad probably does not know how to relate as a loving father to his children. While that truth doesn’t change the heartache you’ve known, it does help you as you continually choose to forgive your Dad and to ask the Lord to bring healing and wholeness in his life.

I’m praying for you tonight, friend, to embrace the fullness of God’s love for you! His love for you is so very different that your earthly Father’s.

“Jesus Lives: Seeing His Love In Your Life” by Sarah Young would be a great little devotional book for you to pick up.
Holly
Dad
on Friday, July 6, 2012 at 9:18 am
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My dad left us about 2 months ago. My mom and dad were arguing about everything, and I guess my dad couldn't put up with all the yelling even though he was doing it too. Worse than that, he's fallen away from God.
When he left he said it would only be for a few weeks. I still have to visit him every other weekend.
I don't know who to believe. My mom, whos trying to help me through this, or my dad, who left me and is just making everything worse. I know the choice seems obvious but they are both still my parents. They are both telling me opposite stories of each other, like "Mom's always yelling at me and that's why I left" or "Dad has fallen away from God and doesn't want to get up". Daddy even called me Moms Little Spy!!!! I'm just getting so mad and so hurt by him that I don't know what to do at all. Can I please have some advice??
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Re: Dad
on Monday, July 9, 2012 at 8:20 pm
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I’m really sorry, Holly; I sure wish you didn’t have to walk through this trial. Know I am praying for you tonight, but more importantly know Jesus is praying for you (Rom. 8:34) and your Heavenly Father has promised to never leave you (Is. 43:1-3).

In almost every situation, when a married couple separates you can be assured both parties carry a certain level of responsibility for the conflict in their relationship. To avoid getting caught in the crossfire of their conflict, Holly, ask the Lord to help you take the “high ground” by setting an example for your parents of what it means to speak words that build up rather than tear down and to be kind, tender-hearted and forgiving ( Eph. 4:29-32 ).

Graciously and kindly let them know that you will not listen to nor take part in conversation that is related to their conflict. Then pray for the courage and the grace to walk away from every conversation that turns toward bashing the other parent. Commit to praying daily for your parents to be humble and broken before the Lord that He might restore their marriage.

Precious friend, there is a high calling upon your life. You get to live out the love of Christ and His glorious gospel in front of your parents. Jesus will give you everything you need to do this, Holly (1 Peter 1:3). Persevere, dear friend, and know we are praying for you all. “Those who sow in tears shall reap with shouts of joy (Ps. 126:6).”
Lydia
God will always be your Daddy
on Saturday, November 3, 2012 at 6:01 pm
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I am praying for all of you. l have never been close to my dad. l really need him a lot at times but l have never even had a personal conversation with him. lf l had the chance, l probably wouldn't know what to say. l have nine siblings and he loves all of us and works hard for us but he has never been a part of my personal life. l am so thankful that l have a Heavenly Father who is perfect and will be there even if my dad isn't.