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Mattea
single years
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:09 am
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That's a really important part of your life...the single years.During those years, you r supposed to be "married" to God. ( totally devoted just to His work) I'm still in high school, but When I do go through the single years I want to be able to show something...I want to earn a few crowns in heaven for those years devoted to God. Thanks for the post LYWB team!!!!
Marie Sumo
Thankful
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:09 am
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Im very happy and thankful for this post. I never really think of my singleness in this way. I been serving others even during my high school years and up till now, but it wasn't in that mindset. Sometimes i get lonely and think otherwise about God,especially when everyone around is in a relationship and im the only single one. But from now on,im gonna use my singleness as serving and focusing on God and others faithfully.
Chey
My love Story
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:11 am
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The bible says that God knows what is best for us. He has a plan for our lives that we couldn't dream of. When we keep our focus on God all these things are added unto us. I am realizing that I don't ever regret time with God or serving him by obeying his commands. If we have God as the center of our life we can be sure that He will right our love story. When we entrust God our lives He will never disappoint!

Thanks for a great blog post that helped me examine my choices of late. :-)
Mere N.
Re:
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:36 am
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Thank you!!! This is just what I needed!
I've been thinking lately about what we do in our single years, and how I can make the most of it! Thank you so so so so much!

I've actually volunteered my time these next to weeks to preparing and helping with our church's Vacation Bible School. I'll be helping with the decorations, which means long hours of being bent over in the floor painting, and then stretching to hang up posters and decor.
I've volunteered to learn 3 of the songs we're using on the piano, then play them each VBS night, but I'll only have one week to learn them, and I've never done any big piano performances like that. However, if I didn't volunteer, there wouldn't have been any music for the kids to sing to.
And I've volunteered to help my youth pastor's wife (she's expecting their second baby) teach the group of 10-12 year old girls. The awesome thing about this is, that a few weeks ago, I prayed that God would give me an opportunity to teach a class. This was the perfect age group, and I love spending time with my youth pastor's wife.

I'm really glad that I have an opportunity to help my church this year.
Yes, it'll be hard. Yes, it'll be stressful. But YES! It's what God wants me to do!

Mere.
tillwehavefaces
Re:
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 1:16 pm
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Oh Wow, I'm heading into my single years and this is a wonderful reminder.
Natalie
THANKS!
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 1:33 pm
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i'm SO grateful for this post, thank you LWYB! God recently revealed to my boyfriend and i of several years that He thought it would be better if we weren't together. i've been wondering why in the world God would want that -- so thanks so much for reminding me that God is my "boyfriend" too <3

although as i understand it, what if God means for someone to be single their entire life? does He have someone for everybody, or does He sometimes plan for their "singleness" their whole earthly life? does anyone know of any bible quotes on this?
Elaine
Re Natalie
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 4:12 pm
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Hey Natalie, this question depends on what you believe but I do think that sometimes God wills that a certain person lives their whole life single. I know this one lady who has lived like that and she is 84 and still very active. She has blessed sooo many people and always seems to be joyful about it. She told me when she was in her early twenties she was dating a gie and she told him she felt like God was saying no so they stopped. Although early in her life she really wished she could get married she never regretted calling off that relationship. As far as verses go 1 Corinthians 7 talks about it.
I difinatly want to use my years before I marry wisely. I'm not going to college, so I'll have a lot of time. I'll difinatly serve my family at home (which I do already). I was also thinking about missionary work. I don't know. Because we're from the "family integrated movement" girls tend to get married earlier. So it wouldn't be odd if I got married soon after I finished highschool, which would be just fine with me! But I'm definatly not going to waste any of my life! Our family strongly believes in Ephesians 5:15-16 "Be careful then how you live, not as unwise but as wise; making the most of every oportunity because the days are evil."
kk
Service
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 4:37 pm
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Another great way to serve is to get involved in teaching 5-Day Bible clubs if your area has it. This is my second year so far and I love it! Last year, I watched over 10 kids come to Christ in my town! It's geared for 4-12 yr old kids and taught by 13-19 yr (and adults). Just thought I'd let everyone know of another way to serve.
Great post!
aftergodsown<3
Thank you, thank you, thank you...
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 4:59 pm
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God knew that I needed to hear this today. I thank you so much for sharing. The fact that so many girls respond to this in such a string, positive way is such an encouragement!
Meredith
Dwindling???
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 5:31 pm
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I really like the way you put some of the things in this post. I feel like I am already doing these things as sort of a "time filler," but I haven't thought that my single years are "dwindling." I volunteer with a lot of stuff, am really involved in church, family, friends and younger girls' lives, and I also do a lot with our Youth at church. I feel like I am redeeming the time rather than twiddling my thumbs. Yet I have never thought of it in the terms you stated. It's true that we don't have much time as single ladies, and so we need to realize that it's dwindling. Great post, great God-smack, and great encouragement! Thanks, Bethany.
Stela
The most encouraging speech i have ever read recently....
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 5:32 pm
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thank you so much for reminding me what is like to be single and what it should be..it will be for sure my mission and i am happy to fulfill it during my single period of life...God bless you and thanks for share...:)
katie
Re:
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 6:28 pm
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Thanks!! I sooo needed this today!!!:)
God's Girl :)
Re:
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:00 pm
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Thank-you for this!!! Post, I needed to hear that as well! It's hard, but an old guy-friend I knew in High-school we met again seven years later! To make a long story short, and he asked me out again on a fourth date but it's been nearly a month, and it hurts, because I know he's a believer, and I'm still healing from my PTSD, and I really liked him a lot even in High-School! But the challenge was a good thing for me to hear, I'm stuck here at home, and I love it at home, I wish I was a normal 24 year old like my other peers, but it's hard to focus on God during a tough time, of wondering what will become of him, and over-coming my PTSD, and also still loving God despite a broken dream that I still have!

And it's hard to serve God when you are so broken! Thank-you for the challenge, and to remember to also that this is a time for me to serve at home! I think my parents are also learning from me as well!

But being single is hard! That's why diving into God's word is important!

Thank-you for this post! Going through a broken engagement I couldn't imagine! I also was thinking about working with children because I love working with the young kids!!! :) Every time I have a chance to play with kids at church or anywhere God is always reminding me: "Delight yourself, in the LORD and HE will give you the desires of your heart!" I feel like I'm having the best time in my life!!!:)

Even though, I'm wondering and asking God why did you allow these things to happen? A broken dream, and being back home even though I love where I live!:)

This is seriously really encouraging!!!:)
Maddy M.
What about the girls....
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 9:28 pm
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You all are such an amazing site that the Lords using in my life and so mang others. But .... I have a request. A lot of your relationship blogs are about singleness or marriage, which are incredible things that we need to hear about... But what about us girls, like myself, who have been called, at 16, into a godly and holy relationship with a boy under the Lords will right now? Im looking for advice about that too, about navigating in my relationship in a godly way right now. Do you guys have any blogs for girls like me? Thank you so.much. For your service to all of these girls and to me, we're prayin for you.
Aubrey
paragraph 7
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 10:00 pm
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Ok, so i get your point here. Made me have an AH-HA moment too. But in paragraph #7 cant you do all that anyway if you are in a relationship???
Aubrey
@Maddy M.
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 10:05 pm
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I totally know what you mean! Im in a relationship too, and i just wanna have help on how to have a healthy relationship and well idk, but that would be great
ktbug
A challenge to me
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 10:52 pm
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I praise the Lord for allowing me to check this blog tonight! Today's post seems to relate to me more than ever, for lately I have been restless with the place at which God has me at this time in my life. This post has encouraged me and has challenged me to consider how I'm living my life right now.
Melinda
Re:
on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 11:04 pm
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srry to hear about your broken engagement. God has been teaching me to enjoy my singleness. Its a time for me to have a relationship with Jesus without distractions and to spend time with family. Thanks for the post.
Tabby
Thought-provoking
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 1:12 am
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This made me think, and I know that I should try to spend more time serving God, not others. Thank you.
AbbyS
On singleness, and time
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 1:33 am
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As you get older, you start to itch BAD for the one relationship that will be "it." I'm not a believer in dating around, so you can imagine what it's like to wait for what seems like even longer for that other half of you! But this post reminded me of how easy it is to get sucked into waiting! Once you get married, your devotion to your husband takes over most of your life. So serving ardently while single is extremely important because you never get those years back. It's very, very precious time!

To the sisters who are in a relationship already: Yes, you can be serving alongside your bf, but there's just so much beauty and power in devoting ALL of you to being Christ's hands and feet. Don't get me wrong, God can definitely bring people together at a very young age and make them STAY together. But there's just something awesome about serving the body in the years when your heart's not as compromised. That sounds bad, but it's not meant to be lol. I hope I am making sense.
Autie
But...
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 8:38 am
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I know you're on the right track when my mind immediately goes "But that's not FUN!" :) Great post.
Alaina
re AbbyS
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 9:09 am
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Hey! I totally know what you mean, about waiting and not dating... Our family believes in courting, instead of dating. So I would also agree that right now around 16 years old that dating someone could last forever, but waiting and devoting this time in your life only to God is very important. I think that a really good book to read is Before You Meet Prince Charming, by Sarah Mally. It offers a lot on waiting for the perfect guy, and what to do before you meet him... thanks for the great post!!!
RachelAllison
I get it... but I don't.
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 11:38 am
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This is something I've always struggled with. Not the making the most of your singleness part. I totally get and support that. Doing my best at it right now, in fact. The part that gets me is the years once you're married... I realize there will be greater responsibilities and distractions, but it bugs me the way that everyone presents those years as a time when you can't serve God as well as you can when you're single... it scares me, to be honest.
I realize that as a single young lady, my heart can be completely God's and I can serve Him with all of it, but can I honestly not do the same when I am married? Does loving my husband mean my love for God must diminish in some way? I thought love for your husband was supposed to give you a better understanding of God's love for you and therefore increase your love for God. But then comes this verse in 1 Corinthians that says, "There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world--how she may please her husband."
So is it impossible to serve God whole-heartedly as a married woman? Because I'm looking at this time of singleness and preparing my heart for my time of being married. I'm looking at it as focusing completely on growing closer to God, because I know that my life will not makes sense without Him where He ought to be in my heart and that I cannot love my future husband as I should without a proper relationship with God.... but if a husband will keep me from serving God with my whole heart, is it truly wise to marry? And how can such a thing be honoring to God?
I won't give up my relationship with God for any man, no matter how wonderful... so please help me to understand how this works. Because I find it hard to believe that a woman cannot serve God just a fully when she is married as she can when she is single... wouldn't it be better said that the two simply serve in different ways because of their different circumstances?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Maddy M.
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 3:52 pm
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I appreciate your suggestion for blogs, Maddy! I am thrilled to hear about the godly, holy relationship God has given you. You are indeed blessed! Most of our blogs have to deal with lies that we buy into. But we do have some that would pertain to your situation. Here are just a few:

• Being the Right Person for love: http://tinyurl.com/6sleyox
• Do Your Man Some Good : http://tinyurl.com/6ohugdk
• A List of Prayers for Your Future Husband: http://tinyurl.com/75vd4jr
• Secret to Being a Great Wife & Mom: http://tinyurl.com/7uckz74
• Truth and Lies about Marriage: http://tinyurl.com/7nv5zrf

You might also check out www.ReviveOurHearts.com and find many series that pertain to being a godly woman. These are great whether you are in a relationship or not as our focus is being all God wants us to be throughout our entire life! Praying for you, Maddy!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Natalie
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 3:53 pm
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Natalie, sometimes God does call people to singleness during their entire lifetime. Paul is a great Biblical example of this. He says in 1 Cor. 7:8: “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain singles as I am.” Jesus, himself, said that some choose to be single (eunuchs) for the sake of the kingdom of Heaven (Matt. 19:10-12).

Nancy Leigh DeMoss says she has been called to singleness which has allowed her to devote all her love and energy toward the Lord. This is what she wrote in her January 31, 2008 Seeking Him radio devotional:

You see, happiness isn’t found in or out of marriage. In fact, it’s not found in any human relationship. True joy can only be found in Christ. God has promised to give us everything we need. If He knows a husband would make it possible for you to bring Him greater glory, then He’ll provide a husband. True contentment comes when we choose to be satisfied with what God has provided.

I encourage you to spend these single years of your life serving Him with all your heart and becoming the godly woman He wants you to be. I’ve prayed for you Natalie! I know this is a rough time as you come out of your relationship. I encourage you to pray and surrender your future and your will to the Lord, trusting Him to provide what you need and to be your joy and satisfaction throughout your entire life. He has a wonderful plan for your life.
Skye
God's Promise
on Tuesday, June 26, 2012 at 5:33 pm
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I competely agree with this article and it is actually what I needed to hear and I am thanking God for that. I guess for me the reason why I am scared to make such a huge move in my realtionship with God is that I am scared. For me getting married is one of the biggest desires of my heart I am 21 and I really want to get married soon and want to stay at home nad raise my kids ( old fashioned I know but my heart is sooo drawn to that lifestyle) and I feel as though if I stop thinking about marriage and start focusing on God, that because I stop thinking about marriage and a family God will forget how much I desire it. I know it sounds silly but I am struggling with truly believing the promises that God has for us. Like granting us the desires of our hearts. If anyone that reads this can pray that I will put my trust completely in God so I wont focus on getting married (which is becoming an idol in my life I would say because it is comsuming my thoughts)but rather focus on my relationship with God. I would greatly appreciate it.
Liz B.
singleness
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 12:47 am
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re: I get it, but don't.....I was single til 31...before that I was actively involved at church and Crisis Pregnancy Center, inner-city AWANA, etc. After marriage, my time and energy were significantly shifted to my husband and later my children, which the Apostle Paul makes clear will happen. Doing ministry after marriage and especially when kids are small is not to be the focus of our lives. Our families are to be our main ministry as wives and moms. I had several friends who would try and do both (raise little kids, serve their husbands and do ministry in church.) I would cringe to see them pour energy into church ministry when God clearly calls us to be content to minister to our families as a first priority....as kids grow, we are freer to serve the church in ways that include the family. Honestly, I struggled with frustration when my kids were small that all my time and energy were spent at home while the church "needed me". I realized my motives were largely selfish, as I didn't receive the recognition and thanks at home that I received at church. So one needs to watch the heart motive behind wanting to serve the church as a mom of little ones. Allow the older moms and ppl with grown children to serve the church and pour your time and affections into your husband and children....it is only for a season! It's passed before you can blink...don't resent the time that God has called you to be home and make that the center of your ministry....hospitality with other young families is a great way to serve in that context. And remember, God is pleased with us changing dirty diapers and singing songs to our kids as he is with outside service, if we do all for His glory.
Mere N.
A question.
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 12:26 pm
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I have a question.
I'm one of eight children, the oldest 20, and the youngest under two years.
I'm the second oldest.
My day usually consists of running laundry, cleaning the rooms, watching the kids, cooking a few meals, getting the baby a nap, changing her diapers, breaking up fights, making sure people are happy, washing dishes, helping the kids with projects, helping my older sis with her job, and etc.
I'm single, and I'm wondering, me being an in the house, hands on big sister, is what I'm doing serving God? Changing diapers and washing dishes seem insignificant compared to helping at nursing homes and pregnancy crisis centers.
Am I using my single years wisely by cleaning and cooking?
I also help with small church projects, but my day-to-day life is cooking and cleaning and watching the kids.
Is this serving God?
Beka
@Mere N. and Skye
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 1:55 pm
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Thanks for the good reminder Bethany! I want to focus on God in my single years. I struggle with it alot, so I definitely need His help!

Mere: May I answer your question? Yes, what you are doing is serving God! I know, sometimes, I get ancy and think, I just wanna get out there and DO something! And we should, when God calls us to. I think what's really important to God, though, is BEING WHERE HE WANTS US. And sometimes, that's right at home. He has lessons He wants us to learn that sometimes can only be learned during times of "being still", He wants us to be faithful right where He puts us, and to make the most of where we are. May you be that, and in that way, be ready to step out when He calls you.

Skye:Prayed for you! Please don't be worried that God will forget the desires of your heart! God knows YOU from the inside out, and He MADE you with that desire. Isn't that awesome? He loves you sooo much, dear girl! God's message to you today: Is. 43:1-5a and Zeph. 3:17
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Aubrey
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 5:19 pm
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Yes, you can do those things whether you are in a relationship or not. Once you are married, your primary area of ministry becomes your home and your family. I believe Bethany’s point is to look for things we can do that have eternal value during the single years of your life.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
RachelAllison
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 5:21 pm
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I’ve prayed for you today, RachelAllison. You ask some very good questions. I’m so thankful that you are using your years of singleness to serve the Lord. The time you are investing in your relationship with God right now is one of the best gifts you can give to your future husband.

Our love for God and our relationship with Him should always be first in our lives whether we are single or married. He is the lover of our souls and the only One who can meet our deepest needs.

When we marry, we can still serve the Lord just as faithfully and wholeheartedly as we can when we are single. It is just that our venue for doing that becomes primarily our home, our husband and our children (Titus 2:4-5). Our family and our home become our mission field. They are to be our primary area of ministry with venues outside the home becoming secondary.

When we are single, we are able to serve the Lord in the home and outside the home without the distractions and responsibilities that a wife and mom have. Bethany is challenging us to use the single years of our lives to invest in things of eternal value and further the Kingdom of God--focusing on others rather than ourselves.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Mere N...
on Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 6:06 pm
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Thank you for your question! Oh, yes! You are serving God! It is not the tasks, or the importance of the tasks that determine if you are serving God…it is the heart that says I am doing this for the good of those you have placed in my sphere of influence that determines whether you are serving God!

Today’s program on Revive Our Hearts is entitled Potential Pitfalls of Servanthood (http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/revive-our-hearts/today/potential-pitfalls-servanthood/). Here is an excerpt from the first of the program…

“… it’s easy when you’re a servant to lose perspective—to lose perspective, to get caught up in the what you’re doing (the tasks) and forget why you’re doing it and forget Who you’re doing it for. Ultimately we’re serving Christ.

It’s easy when you’re caught up—especially moms, those of you who have husbands and children or maybe you serve in a type of industry where you’re doing a lot of servanthood sorts of tasks. You can get caught up in the daily routines of serving and really lose perspective as to why you’re doing this. It can become so menial, so trivial, and you can think, 'One more meal to cook, one more load of laundry to wash, one more time to make this school run,' and it can get really burdensome if you lose perspective.”

Be blessed this day, Mere N., as you look to the Lord in the midst of your tasks.

The program continues: “Kim: Peeling potatoes, washing pots and pans. He turned it into just a sanctuary of worship. The Lord opened my eyes to carrying that screaming baby at night, changing those dirty diapers, washing that laundry, over and over and over was acts of worship that I could lift up to Him. It totally turned my perspective on motherhood.

Holly: I think that’s huge for moms because so much of what we do is mundane. You do it over and over and over. You catch up on all the laundry, but tomorrow there’s more and your kids are hungry again. It can get monotonous when you’re doing mundane tasks over and over and it seems they never end.”

You are not the “mom”, but doing the work and service of a “mom”! Be encouraged! It is not in what we do but WHO we do it unto!! What a precious girl you are to serve your family in tireless ways!! May your reward be great (Col. 3:23-24).
Jenna
Re:
on Thursday, June 28, 2012 at 1:47 am
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Our sermon was about this on Sunday! Our pastor discussed that singleness is a gift from God, just as marriage is. (1 Corinthians 7:7- referring to the gifts of marriage and singleness)
His second point: Remaining single frees you up to do God's work. (1 Corinthians 7:32-35)
Third: If you can't wait, you need to find a mate. But, until marriage you desire/ duty/ thing is purity.
He asked many thought provoking messages.
-Are you rejecting singleness?
-Are you utilizing your singleness for the glory of God or are you wasting it?
-Has God gifted you for marriage?
-Are you dating the kind of people God wants you to? (To which our pastor said, "If not, you need to break some hearts tonight- in the name of God!)
-Are you being the kind of person who attracts a Godly spouse?
-Are you afraid of commitment?
-Who are you seeking more- God or a spouse?
-Do you live with the fear of missing out on the next potential person to a degree that you never commit to a relationship? (I didn't understand that one.)
I learned a lot, and it was super encouraging. I thought I'd share it with you.
Great post, Bethany!
Alaina
re MereN
on Thursday, June 28, 2012 at 1:08 pm
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I know exactly what you are talking about... there are 7 of us, the oldest is 18 and the youngest is 2. I am also the second oldest... I have to do 3-4 loads of laundry a day, and probably about 15 sinkfulls of dishes (because we don't have a dishwasher). Sometimes I wonder, how is this supposed to be glorifying God??? He says in 1Chorinthians 10: 31 "Whether you eat or whether you drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God" wow! God is telling us to glorify Him even when we eat! So, I think that as long as we work willingly, and with a happy heart, we can glorify God in anything we do. I'll be praying for you!
Alaina :)
Brittany
Single
on Thursday, June 28, 2012 at 8:17 pm
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I'm glad to see this post, and understand why being single in my life is important and for a reason! I do realize I need the Lord more than anything right now. Thanks for the post again!
Jess
Re:Being Single
on Friday, June 29, 2012 at 6:07 pm
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Being isn't such a big deal to me now that I have got God, I know that he has a plan for my life. I've seen many different couples and I used to feel a little sad about it but now I see that God does have someone special for me and that one day I'll get married no matter how long it takes. I trust Him with my heart and know that He loves me and I love Him
Thankyou for the post.
Christina
Serving God
on Friday, June 29, 2012 at 6:55 pm
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I'm spending my free time serving God. I help out around my house, i help serve at my church, and i work at a community center for senior citizens. Once you aren't single anymore, your main focus goes on serving your mate so i'm spending my free time serving my God:)
bella
Re:
on Sunday, July 1, 2012 at 1:24 am
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humbling. needed this post. thank you God
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Re: God’s Promise
on Thursday, July 5, 2012 at 1:41 pm
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Praying for you today to rest wholeheartedly in the love of our Savior, dear friend! There is no safer place.

“I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand. Do not fear. I will help you; though you stumble you will not fall for I the Lord uphold you with my hand. So do not fear for I am with you. Do not be dismayed or anxiously look about you for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (Is. 41:13; Ps. 37:24; Is 41:10).”
anne
my man
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 2:22 pm
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Im not single...but I recently caught my boyfriend, who is super sweet and godly, in a lie. I havent confronted him yet, and it wasnt a big deal....and when he said what he did he was exausted so I think that he just wasn't thinking. But even if he was, and hes repentant about it, I will forgive him. Is that wrong?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Anne
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 7:00 pm
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It is always right to forgive others, Anne! God tells us that we are to forgive others in the same way that He forgives us (Eph. 4:31-32). He forgives us totally, completely and buries our sins at the bottom of the deepest sea (Ps. 103).

Relationships need to be built on trust. So we encourage you to talk to your boyfriend about his lie, how it made you feel and the fact that you have forgiven him. Encourage him with the knowledge that he can trust you and he can always tell you the truth. If his lying becomes a pattern of behavior, you may need to get others involved with this sin.

Thank you, Anne, for walking in obedience to God’s commands!
Edrly
Random Question
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 3:18 am
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(This doesn't have to be a comment:) )Ok so, I was reading my crushes latest little 'blog posting' and heres the thing... is like, he is being all spiritual and having intellectual thoughts. So what if I (almost in a way) start looking up to it for like 'guidence'?. Because, ya know how men are supposed to lead? What if I start looking forward/up to what he is saying in his blog? I mean, this is not a problem, but knowing myself, I could almost see it becoming one. What do you think? Should I just stop reading the thing, or do you think I could try reading it and seeing what happens, or maybe should I ask my friend to keep me accountable? and if so how?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Edrly
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 9:16 pm
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Hey, Edrly. Thanks for your question. I am glad to see that You want to guard your heart and take your thoughts captive in this area. I’m not sure I have a definite answer for you. But I would suggest that you not limit yourself to just reading his blog, but also the blogs of others who have your respect. Be sure and take everything you read back to Scripture to see if it lines up with God’s Word.

Perhaps you and a couple of friends could find several blogs and then read through them together and discuss them in light of what Scripture says. That way you wouldn’t be isolated to just reading your crushes’ blogs, but reading others as well. Ask your friends to hold you accountable to not talking just about your crush – or if you seem to be focusing more on him than you should to bring it to your attention. Pray for all the bloggers and honor them as brothers in Christ rather than giving special attention to just one of them. This is a great way to encourage them in learning to be spiritual leaders. And then be sure you are looking to the older, godly men in your lives for leadership as well – your dad, your pastor, your youth pastor, and the like.
jemma<3michael19
YEARS ?!
on Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 3:39 am
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Woah ! You guys are sungle for years ! I'm single for a couple of days ! But I do all of those 'single year things' now . I'm 11 so nursing homes would not work . Plus eww totes would ruin my image ! My boyfriend and I , michael (as in my name ) go to like charity things . Its sad . Well every 1st friday of the month is some like goodwill thing at Cocoa beach . Its sad some people hve to wear something else than Hollister ! Well lemme get back to himm <3 .
Esther
Bible Camp
on Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 4:00 pm
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Off topic* But read. You might be interested. Almost every year i go to this Bible Camp. Its a different topic every year. What i like about this camp is that it is full of Christians ready to learn but there is also a fun part to it. You don't have to be a Christian. Ages are from 8-18. If you are 18 and up you can be a counselor. You can still be a Camper if you like too. Here is the Website. Check it out. The camp cost $425. You don't have to pay it all. You can pay 25, 50, 55, 80.What ever you have. This year i only paid a little. If you don't pay it all, you write a letter to the person who donated the money to you. They provide you with paper and pens. You get divided into age group cabins , so if you16, you wont be with 12 year olds, you'll be with 14,15, 16. Check out the Website. Tell your mom, your dad, your brothers and sisters. http://www.northeastfccamp.com/index.html


Youll be glad you came. The director of the camp is Gardner hall. This year on the 4th of July, i got baptized. The topic this year was love. I cant wait to find out about next year. There is also a camp just for girls, this august. The topic is, choose today whom you will serve. Aside from that, we are going to learn how to be faithful to our husbands in the future and how to cook and be holy women. You can contact Gardner Hall on the same website. Only Girls.
Aubrey
jemma<3michael
on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 12:21 am
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yes, years and people have done it and then one day get married and area OVERJOYED about their spouse... my brother is this way about his wife. It is worth the wait