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Bethany
Thanks
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 1:29 am
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Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Bethany! I know the pain that you would be feeling from the loss of your little brother.....I have also lost a loved one - my father - to Lou Gehrig's disease nearly a year ago.
I really appreciated hearing how the Lord has brought you through this hard time in your life - so many of the lessons you learnt through your brother's death is what I have learnt through my father's death.....God is TRULY in control - even though we often ask "Why" and feel that God is unfair, He DOES know what He is doing and by bringing these trials into our lives, it is to make us more like Him!

May the Lord richly bless you!
Lauren
Amen
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 8:48 am
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Wow! I can't even imagine losing a young sibling like that. I have four siblings and thank God that He has blessed me with them (Even though I sometimes become extremely frustrated with them;) I pray that the Lord would show His compassion, love, and peace towards each and every person who reads this blog! God has shown me His goodness by turning a time of depression and insecurity into a discovery of my identity in Him! (Here's a hint, His unconditional love, forgiveness, acceptance...) I know that I am not the only one who has dealt with this, so for all of you who are like me, there is someone who is totally in love with you! Someone who will forget about all the awful things you have done (and believe me your not the only one) someone who wants to hold you in his arms and won't EVER let you go, and his name is Jesus, Father, Aba, Everlasting God!
Chey or Anna
Wow!
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 9:12 am
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As humans we have tunnel vision. We can only see what is directly in front of us not the future plans God has in store that are effects of the situation we are in now. I am going through a lot of confusion right now and God is telling me to be still and know He is God. As long as we obey, read the Word, pray and worship God is directing our paths. I find great comfort in knowing that if I stay in His will that He will be the most glorified.

Thanks for a beautiful post! :)
Tabitha
Thanks
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 10:15 am
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Thanks for this post, I appreciate your sweet surrendered spirit and your truth/trust based response to what God allowed in your path. May the Lord bless you!
Jennifer
Tough Times
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 10:15 am
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Im glad i read this,right now im going through a tough situation financially and trying to balance being a single mother,its really hard,but i keep praying.Im thankful for stories like this that can keep help me in my tough situation.
Brittany
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on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 10:24 am
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Thanks for sharing your story! That is so sad. 'm always in a hard situation, and think to myself :should I keep trusting God and the Lord"? But, I know there both always there for me and listening to me and know there is a way out soon.
Sarah
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on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 11:05 am
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last year, my best friends went to another continent to be missionary's I was struggling for a really long time to see why they had to be so far or why I couldnt go there. I understood that they were there to spread the gospel but it was still really hard. I have kept in touch with them through email and now it seems as thought our friendship is based around God and not each other. It was really hard for me to surrender to God in this case though
Melissa
Love this
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 11:23 am
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Great word.
Kim
Trust
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 11:55 am
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What really helps me with trusting Him, is to know He is allknowing. He knows how it will turn out. He knows how every situaction fits in the grand scheme of life. He knows the outcome, whether that's six months from now, a year, a decade.

Leaning on someone that knows the outcome makes it not so scary. and it does make it easier.

I'm very thankful for the tough situactions I've been through the last year cause it's really helped me get into the practice of understanding Who is really in control.
tillwehavefaces
Re:
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 1:34 pm
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I could use some prayer in this area
Leah Mac
Blessing
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 7:58 pm
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Thank you so much for this, Bethany! God suddenly took my grandpa Home on December 10, 2009 at the age of 57 of a massive heart attack. He was the best pawpaw hands down to his 8 grandchildren that when he died, I felt like a piece of my heart had been ripped out and could never be replaced. I felt like this for a while and I would ask God, "Why? Why would you do this to me and my family? I thought you loved me." I then realized that God took him away because He loved me. I had fallen away from God and through this death, I realized that I needed to seek Him for the friendship and affection that my grandpa gave, and Christ's love surpasses any love that my pawpaw could show me. Christ filled that empty hole in my heart with love un-ending.
Although I still miss my grandpa and his love, God always reminds me that he loves me more than any earthly mortal ever could. I know I will see my grandpa again one day and will get to spend eternity with him, but until then I must rest in my Abba Father's promise to "Fear not, for I am with thee".
Thank you again for this post. It is just what I needed today! :)
Gracer
Thanks
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 10:35 pm
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Thank you for the post, I struggle with this issue off and on my whole life. Only I tend to question God's goodness and to think that God is wrong to have let sin enter the world in the first place. Long and short of it is, can I really trust God even if my life and the life of others around me is horrible? I know the answer is yes, though learning to actually accept and trust God's way of doing things is a lifelong process. Thank you for sharing your hope and encouragement.
Tabby
Thanks!
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 11:23 pm
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I really needed this right now because of my own doubts and fear and worry. Thank you for sharing your own story. Sometimes I feel like God doesn't care enough about me to help me or take care of me, but this post should help me some. Thank you, and God bless.
Elaine
Re
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 7:30 am
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This was such an encouragement! My baby brother also died, about 2 1/2 years ago. My sister died about 7 years ago but I felt closer to my brother, maybe it was because I was older. Proverbs 3:5-6 are also very special to me. I don't think I'll ever stop missing him but I think I know now part of the reason why he died. 1 God loved him enough to take him to heaven so that he would not experiance any more suffering (he was very sick). 2 Through that I learned what love really was and I got a little idea of how much God really loves us to send his son to die.
Although there's been many trials that have come up in our family since then I think I handle them a little better, because I saw that God really was in controll and he knew what he was doing.
What an amazing God!
Mere N.
what would you do?
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 9:46 am
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First off, I left this comment on 'Not what I was expecting Part 2' but apparently no one saw it. I'm going to copy and paste it to here, because I would like some advice.

Mere N.
What would you do?
on Thursday, July 12, 2012 at 2:41 pm
I'd like to request a bit of advice dealing with this area.

Well, first off, I've never had a boyfriend. At this point, I don't even know if i even have a prospect.
I am, as it is called, a nerd. I have glasses, wear my hair in a ponytail, and am in love with science, physics, vehicles, and well, NASCAR.
I have this envisioned 'Dream Guy'. He's okay with my vehicle obsessions. He likes contemporary Christian music or hymns. He's not going to ignore me because I'm homeschooled. He wants kids. He's nice to my large family. He loves me.

Right now, things look pretty hopeless. And I'm also a little upset because there was this guy, (kinda nerdy like me) but he ignores me and then I think he quit going to our church, so I haven't seen him in a while. I decided after talking to my mom, getting her advice, and praying some, to drop him... From being my crush.

I would love to have a boyfriend/fiancè/husband. I can't stand being alone, because it makes me feel worthless and upset. I truly hope that somewhere in God's plan for me, it involves a husband.

Also, recently, I decided that I would love (in a year or two of instruction) to become a Sunday school teacher. I love being with and around kids and teaching them/ helping them memorize scripture.
This may sound strange, but I feel like God is guiding/Telling me to becoming a teacher. I've been in the word and in prayer a lot more lately, and God gave me an opportunity last week to be an assistant teacher. I loved it, and wanted to be THE teacher.
However, I feel that if I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't be able to focus on my dream of teaching as efficiently.
I know what I HAVE to do and where God's calling me, But I want so badly to feel loved. It hurts to see couples together, holding hands. I've never had my hand held like that. I LONG for that sense of loving, but I'm afraid that if I decide to pursue a relationship instead of being a teacher, I'll miss the oppurtunity and make my single years worth nothing. On the other hand, I'm also slightly afraid that if I pursue the teaching, I'll never get a boyfriend, be single and lonely for the rest of my life, never have kids/get to raise godly children, but I will have served God through teaching.

I know I should trust that God will work it out, but things seem kinda hopeless right now. It's hard to trust.
What should I do?
Blue
Re:
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 10:50 am
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Yesterday, someone who I really trusted in the church betrayed a secret of mine to another pastor. I've forgiven him because I realize he was just doing his job.. it was a big secret that I guess had to be told in this situation. I know that God could have stopped this from happening, so idk why He let this happen. I'm definitely having difficulty figuring this out and trusting God's control in this situation right now. Although, I know that even though my huge secret was let out, God might use this to bring good in my life. I hope so!
RachelAllison
@Mere N.
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 10:56 am
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My dear friend, I know your struggle. I am praying for you.
What should you do? Trust God. I know it's not easy, I know it goes against your very human nature, but realize this: there is nothing in this universe that is out of God's control. Nothing. And if we serve a God who is has everything in His able hands, then why do we live as though it's all up to us? Why do we worry as if we cannot be sure that things will work out? And true, perhaps they may not work out as we had originally planned, but that is because we are human, finite, and our perspective is small, so we cannot see the future and know what is ultimately best for us. But God can and He wants what's best for you, Mere. He really does, because He loves you with a deeper and more perfect love than anyone (even a boyfriend/fiancè/husband) ever, ever can. His love is everlasting. It is a love so deep, it will change your life to know it - to know Him. And you see, perhaps it is that God knows that you do not yet have a deep enough knowledge of His love - because the truth is, until you understand God's love on a deeply personal level, you will not be able to love a boyfriend/fiancè/husband as you ought. He is not keeping a boyfriend away because He knows you want one and He enjoys depriving you of your desires. Certainly not! He has not brought along the right man for you yet, because He knows your heart is not yet ready for the love that He has for you through this man. Because He is preparing your heart; not only for a man, but for your life - for ministry and for all that He has planned for you.
One thing you must understand, Mere, is that your worth and your value comes from God. Because He has given you life when you had none and love before anyone else even knew you. Your validation comes from His love and not the love of any other. Until you learn find your worth in Him, you will not have a proper view of a relationship with a man. The world has a messed up view of marriage, Mere. They really do. Because when you fall away from God and do not understand who He is, then you will not understand the gift of love that He has given us and you will misuse it. So focus right now on God's love and all that it entails, and trust God to bring the right man when He knows your heart is ready for him.
It's not easy. I know that. But when you lay your hopes and dreams in the able hands of the One who loves you so, you will not be disappointed. Truly He loves you more than you will even fully know - so focus on that love; get lost in that love; search out God's love in His Word and find what He has for you, because His love is greater than any man's and it is the very best thing you could ever understand.
I would suggest you begin by taking a look at Psalm 103. :)
Praying for you!
Blessings,
RachelAllison
Kim
To Mere N
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 12:36 pm
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Hi Girly!

First off, I wanted to say there's absolutely nothing wrong with never having a boyfriend. I was fed that lie constantly through high school because, like you said, couples were everywhere and it wasn't until I got to college that I realized how normal it was to never to have had one.

Please please don't ever make yourself think you are "hopeless" because of that. Don't let that ever bash your self-confidence. Don't give the Devil the glory of listening to that lie. Because if you do, you can be "tricked" into falling for boys that are no good for you, because you think they are the only potential for you. It's already starting with the boy you have a crush on now.

I feel almost every christian teenage girl is a little scared about whether or not it is God's plan for you to marry, especially during seasons when there are no good guys around. So don't feel like that's a crazy idea, most girls feel the same way.

When you talk about your dream about becoming a sunday school teacher, I couldn't help but smile! That is such a selfless passion, which can only be given by God. I would absolutely enourage you to pursue that! It sounds like He's put children on your sweet heart, and He'd be such a proud Father when you go give your all pursuing His will for your life.

I believe RachelAllison above me mentioned this but I'll say it again. It sounds like you are putting your worth in boys and your appearance. Those will never satisfy the desires of your heart. Those will never make you feel valued fully. I think you know Who can though :) I'm not saying you have to automatically switch over to looking to Him for value, because I think that is impossible. It takes a while. It took my entire senior year for me to finally lose my focus on boys' opinnons. I would encourage you to pray and read your Bible! Tell Him what you feel and your insecurities.

And please please remember who you are. You described yourself as a nerdy girl, who is boyfriend-less and lonely, and falls for the boys who are no good for her. That is not your identity. Your identity is the sweet, gentle daughter of the King, Who loves you more than you could ever even imagine. So much that He gave you a gift straight from Heaven: a passion for children!

Please know that He knows your insecurities and your desire to get married. He knows. He also knows your future. He can see 10 years from now.

So please don't give up on yourself or passion! I will be praying for you because I know exactly how you feel, because that was my exact dilema for many years!

love you chica!
Mere N.
Is this a good plan?
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 4:45 pm
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So, if you saw my comment above, 'What would you do', you understand my dilemma.

I made a decision/commitment today. I am going to take a year, (an entire year), and focus only on getting to know God more. That would help with my dream of teaching, and I wouldn't have to worry about getting a boyfriend.
Until July 13th 2013, I'm only going to focus on knowing God better.
I prayed and I said, 'God, is this what you want for me?'
And immediately after I'd prayed that, the verse Matthew 6:33 came to mind: 'But seek ye FIRST the kingdom of God, and HIS righteousness. And all these things shall be added unto you.'
That could have only come from God. So I made my decision.

I have a lot of upcoming places I'm going where there is potential for eligible guys. But I've decided to block it out. I only want to focus on my savior.
Much like the story of Stephanie(?) and Wess(?) (were those their names?)

So, overall, does this sound like a good idea? And could I have a little encouragement/prayer before embarking on this new journey? Many thanks!
Mere
Me
Re: is this a good plan?
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 6:06 pm
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Wow! I did this EXACT same thing last year, from my 17th birthday till my 18th. I turned 18 last month and I can honestly say I didn't keep my commitment very well but I think I tried my best under the circumstances. You see, around my 17th I realized this smashing young man in my church had a serious interest in me, and I began to fall for him as well. What a lot of turmoil! We were struggling for most of that year to be God-focused and in fact he was attempting to keep a commitment like mine as well, because neither of us were ready for a relationship. I've come through this year and things have died down (although not disappeared completely) between me and this guy. We still hope for a future I think but we have grown up a lot in the last year. I can attest that this sort of commitment is HARD but well worth having, and actually I'm doing it again (hopefully succeed better this time) until my 19th. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm a homeschooled Christian girl, and I know God will direct my paths. But wow has it taken a lot to get to even this place. And there's still so much learning to be done.

I'm not sure why I felt compelled to share that because I don't usually share so many personal feelings on the Internet. But I hope this can be an encouragement of some sort. And I'd appreciate prayer to keep this commitment for a year longer than I'd originally planned! I don't NEED to hold out till my 19th but the first year-off attempt didn't go very smoothly and I think I need to grow a great deal more before a husband could look at me and say I'm worth having for life. And I want him to want me. And I want to love God more. So it's a win-win. :)

God bless!
JennaEmilia
RE: Mere N.
on Friday, July 13, 2012 at 9:02 pm
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I find this sermon really helpful in this area. I HIGHLY recommend watching it. http://vimeo.com/44616520
somebody
Please pray for me!
on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 1:00 am
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This is off topic, but I just got my braces off and I'm wearing my clear retainer all the time like I'm suposed to, but my gums are enflamed-- really red, hurting, a bit swollen around the edges of my retainer and bleeding a little bit, and I can't call my ortho until later next week cause his office is closed. Please pray for me, I'm afraid of infection and I think I might have mild gum disease.. I'm not totally sure but I've been looking into it for a while trying to see if this was normal or not and most folks said it means my gums are infected or something:( Even if it's just irritation, it hurts a lot and even more so when I take the retainers out:'(
Cara31
Re:
on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 9:56 am
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Hi. I know this isnt really much to be dealing with compared to some people, but i'd just like you to pray for me. Theres this person who was a friend of our family, and we were all really close to her - i dont have any sisters but she was like my sister. We'd only known her for a year or so, but recently it seemed like she started to avoid us. And now I think she's left and gone back home (she was just here for college) and she didn't say bye and i miss her and don't think we'll see her again. :( She won't even reply to my texts and i dunno why, whether she's just not getting them or what. Anyway, sorry.
Mary
Re: somebody
on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 3:24 pm
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i'll pray for you!!!! i've had a gum infection before. it's not terrible but it depends how bad you have it. i finally got the infection to go and i dont have it now. but anyway i'll pray for you and i hope you feel better soon!!!!
Tabby
@Cara31
on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 8:09 pm
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I'm sorry about what you're going through! I'll be praying for you!
TomboyTexan
Tough Times
on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 8:24 pm
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This post is exactly what I needed today. Over the past couple years I've literally gotten to watch my world slowly crumble around me.

One of the ways that's happened is my Uncle getting diagnosed with kidney cancer only one week before Christmas. So, as you can imagine, this Christmas I wasn't really looking forward to getting up early and getting presents, but being able to be with my uncle. I love my uncle to death and his cancer hasn't gotten worse, but it also hasn't gotten better... Today we got the news that he might be developing cancer on his lungs. He's been a really heavy smoker for as long as I can remember (I'm 15) and the doctors said that if he does get lung cancer, his chances of survival are low. It breaks my heart and I know that God is in control of this situation, but it's easy to wonder if He really is or if He even cares about what happens to my uncle...

Right now I may not be able to see how this is God's plan, but I'm trying to stick with it and this post really helped :)

And to all the other girls struggling out there, the verse of Psalm 46:5 has helped me a LOT over the past few months. It's even on my anklet that I wear everyday! The verse is: God is within her, she will not fall. :)
EmilyJ
Tomboy Texan
on Sunday, July 15, 2012 at 2:55 am
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Hey girl....praying for you and your Uncle.
I can't say I know quite how you feel, I've never had to walk through cancer, mine or somebody elses. But my Uncle died last December. On the 12th. His funeral was the day before Christmas eve. It was tough. We had to go through his things to sell them along with the old family estate.
I'll miss him.
But whenever I go through something tough I try to remind myself that God knows what he's doing and that there must be something to learn. And that it'll all be worth it when I get to Heaven.
I don't really know what else to say (I have a hard time getting my thoughts into words on the page) and I don't even know if you were asking for a response or not....but I thought I'd just share a tiny bit since your post kinda rang familer to me.

And also, Psalm 46 is one of my fave chaptors in the bible(:
Mary
Re:
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 9:37 am
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i'm sorry to all you girls who are going through a hard time. compared to some of you, i'm not really going through a "hard time". lately i've been dealing with my family and we dont get along. they dont like my friends they say i have a bad attitude about things and my parents are talking about me going to collage. i'm only 13!!!!! and the thing with my friends thy're christians to. i tried to look in the bible for something that talks about my problems but i cant find anything! :{
lily
wow
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 1:26 pm
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wow. I always feel that when things go bad god has just abandoned me. This REALLY helped. Thxs.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Brittany
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 7:03 pm
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You should always choose to trust God, Brittany, no matter how difficult the situation you are in! He is the only One who is totally worthy of our trust. He never lies. He always keeps His promises! He loves you far more than anyone else you will ever know. I have prayed for you today.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Jennifer
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 7:04 pm
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I am so glad the Lord has used this blog to encourage you, Jennifer! I know that the path you are walking is difficult, but I also know that the Lord is faithful. He promises to guide us in the way we should go. He promises to be our provider. There isn’t anything He does not know or does not see. He hears our every prayer and answers them in His timing and in His way. He often uses difficult circumstances to draw us closer in our relationship to Him.

I encourage you to commit to spending some time in His Word everyday as you seek to draw close to Him and hear His voice. I also encourage you to pray about meeting with a godly woman during this time of your life. If you don’t know of one, you might ask your pastor if he has any recommendations. You need someone who will walk with you, pray, encourage and keep you pointed to the Lord.

Stay in the Word, Jennifer. Praying for you today.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Tillwehavefaces
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 7:06 pm
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Praying for you, sweet friend!
Christina
Hard Times
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 8:43 pm
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I trust God with everythin! Sometimes though i do worry. But i do know He will get me through it. I've Got Confidence is a song i remember by Elvis Presley. I love music, and i listen to Christian so it uplifts my spirit! I myself have had experiences in life where i should have died if the cases went how they normally would, but God kept me alive. I have a purpose, and i ain't fulfilled it yet. Doesn't give hope! My dog died in Feb and she was my baby, but i was ok with it. I had a piece, because He was still here for me. We don't give the grandpa i live with much loner time to live, but we have peace. He is goin to Heaven! He won't be sufferin anymore! I trust God, even though sometimes it seem i don't.
somebody
Re: Mary
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 11:50 pm
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Thank you so much for praying! My mouth is doing SO much better! God is good:)
somebody
Re: Mere N.
on Monday, July 16, 2012 at 11:55 pm
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Hey! I read the comment about your commitment about taking a year to focus only on God-- that is so cool! I will pray for you, and I think I'm going to try that idea too!:O May God help you keep your eyes on HIM ALWAYS:) Even after a year;)
Mary
Re: somebody
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 3:15 pm
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oh good!!!! i was really worried about ya!
O
Re:
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 3:37 pm
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This was very timely. My dad died 3 weeks ago. It's been very hard, but I've been trying to trust God, and not doing so well lately, so this was a very good reminder for me. Thanks.
Blue
O
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 7:08 pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss =_( I really am.. Know that God is with you even now, even if it may not feel that way. He is working for your good, even in this<33 I'm saying a prayer for you now<33 *hugs*
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Tomboy Texan
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 9:10 pm
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I am so sorry to hear about your uncle’s diagnosis. I know this is a hard time for you and I am so thankful to know that our post helped you and that you are in God’s Word and trusting Him even when it is hard. He is in control and He truly loves and cares for your uncle and you even when it doesn’t look like it through our eyes. I hope you will cling to the truth that is in Romans 8:37-38:

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Mary
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 9:13 pm
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Hey, Mary! The Bible says we are to honor, respect and obey our parents. I would encourage you to humbly ask your parents what it is that they don’t like about your friends or your attitude. I say to do it humbly, Mary, because you need to be willing to truly listen and hear what they are saying.

Pray and ask God to open a window of opportunity to discuss this with them when all of you are calm and willing to talk openly. You might even tell them you’d like to discuss this with them and then ask them when will be a good time to do that. Then pray and ask God to prepare all of your hearts to hear and to be truly willing to consider what the other is saying.

You might like to read a blog done earlier this year about ways we can improve our relationship with our parents (http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=875).
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Cara31
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 9:19 pm
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I know how hard this is on you Cara! I’ve found that sometimes when people know they are moving on, they will pull away from the relationships they have. It seems to make it easier for them when it actually comes time to leave. I’m not saying it’s right to do this, just that some people do.

Do you think you could call her rather than just texting or even write her a letter and share how much you miss her? In the meantime, I’m praying that the Lord will fill the void that is in your heart with His presence.
TomboyTexan
Re
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 9:53 pm
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Thank you all so much for your encouragement!

And to all the other girls who are struggling: don't give up! God's with you and He will protect you all the way through :)
Mary
Re:Lorree
on Tuesday, July 17, 2012 at 10:40 pm
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alright i'll try to be brave! lol alot of the time it's hard when they say i flirt. it's not like i do it on purpose, i do it without thinking about it. flirting is something i struggle with and i dont like it when they remind me that i still struggle with it. another thing is how my little brother and i fight.alot of it is cuz he beats me up. it sucks. if you guys would pray for me right now, that would be amazing. :}
Cara31
Re:
on Wednesday, July 18, 2012 at 7:25 pm
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Thanks for the advice and prayers. I'll try and give it a go. But yeah thanks for prayers.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Mary
on Thursday, July 19, 2012 at 4:46 pm
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I’m sure your parents want to help you be the best godly woman that you can possibly be. Have you asked your parents what you do that looks like flirting to them? Sometimes we can’t see how our actions are flirting, but the input of others can shed some light.

I encourage you to ray and ask God to help you in your relationship with your brother. Ask Him if there is anything that you are doing to add to the conflict so that you can ask your brother’s forgiveness and perhaps improve your relationship. It might be a good idea to get your parent’s input on this, too, Mary. I’m praying for you, friend!
Mary
Re:Lorree
on Thursday, July 19, 2012 at 5:58 pm
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they think i act different around guys, like all nice and "giggly". that's what my sibilings say to. it gets SO frustrating!! i mean, there's a guy i like right now, [i talked about him on the other blog. the one called,"i have a fever, and the only cure is...."] i dont flirt with him at all, cuz he doesn't flirt with girls, [that's one thing i like about him] he wants to get married but he doesn't wanna flirt to get a girl. but anyway thanks for the prayers.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Mere N...
on Friday, July 20, 2012 at 3:09 pm
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Just a note to encourage you one week into your commitment. I trust you have found a new sense of closeness with the Lord as you have chosen to draw near to Him... "Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you." (James 4:8) You could never go wrong, Mere N., by giving your whole heart to Him. He looks out for your good; He loves you and longs for your company! Enjoy this year, knowing that it will produce the peaceable fruit of righteousness and a sweet relationship with your Savior. What better preparation could you have for a life of ministry! What a privilege it is to be called to teach His Word! Praise be to the Lord! Our love to you; I am praying for you this afternoon!
Daughter of the King
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on Friday, July 20, 2012 at 7:21 pm
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Hi everyone,
it has been a long time since i last wrote but mow more than ever i could use some prayer and encouragement. Frist my uncle and i are not currently speaking to each other. I am also feeling a new feeling.. Hate. i am beginning to hate my uncle. then i am so confused between two guys. i thought my feelings for the first guy was over but now they are coming back. i am so confused. then i feel like God has turned a deaf ear to me. I wonder does he hear me at all or am i not heard? i am just going through a season of doubt. i really dont know what to do. does God love me? Does he hear me? do i matter anymore? then i was hurt by my older sister and her husband by there words. i overheard them say i would never get a boyfriend because i come with so much baggae who could possibly want to go out with her? I am seriously starting to believe them. please i am really hurting I am at my ropes end with life. i am confused and hurt. please sisters help me.
Mary
Re:Daughter of the king
on Friday, July 20, 2012 at 11:36 pm
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oh my goodness!! i am so sorry!! God hasn't left you!! he promises he wont! God loves you SOOOO much!!!!! he's listening and you are SOOOOO precious to him!!! i'm going through the same thing!! [ the thing with the guys] i gave it to God. and with what you sister said it's NOT true!!! when i was really little people used to call me ugly, but God says the exact opposite. you cant believe what they say!! i know it hurts right now,i've been going through the motions to.but God will stay with you no matter what!!! Dont believe them!! i dont know why your sister would say that but its not true! i'll be praying for ya!! dont give up!!
Daughter of the King
re: Mary
on Saturday, July 21, 2012 at 1:56 am
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thank you so much i was near tears at how kind and uplifting your post was. Thank you so much for your prayers they are needed.
Mary
Re:Daughter of the king
on Saturday, July 21, 2012 at 9:20 am
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aww your welcome!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
O
on Saturday, July 21, 2012 at 7:40 pm
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I am so sorry, O, for your loss. I’m sure you have a huge void in your heart that is missing your dad! I’m glad God used this blog to remind you that even when you don’t understand or even when you don’t like what God has allowed in your life, He is still trustworthy and faithful. He can take our pain and use it for our good as we choose to trust Him in the midst of it! While our enemy wants to use our circumstances to bring us down and make us doubt God, God is able to use the awful things in our lives to strengthen us and to make us more like Jesus. I’m praying for you, sweet friend, and asking God to help you trust Him and to fill up the void left by your dad with His love, joy and peace.
Jennifer
Mere N.
on Wednesday, July 25, 2012 at 2:27 pm
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Hey! If God told it was a good idea, then do it! Hope you get amazingly good results!

And Jennifer, you're the first other Jennifer I've seen post. I'll be praying for you.
Aubrey
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on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 8:20 pm
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Ok i have a question so my mom had 5 siblings. 2 older and 3 younger. And she was the 3rd oldest and she was closest to the 4th oldest, John. When John was 18 he died in a car crash. The car fell in a ditch and well crushed him. Now 40 some years later i found a picture of John and i brought it up to my mom to ask if it was him. She started crying telling me of how cool he was and how much fun he was and how much i wouldve loved my uncle. I started to cry too and i had never even met him... Still my mom doesnt really see the good in why this happened... can anyone answer this? Why did God let him die, he was young and a good kid... just why
Aubrey
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on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 8:21 pm
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plus i know God is in control but just why. I know He is sovereign but why
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Aubrey
on Thursday, August 2, 2012 at 5:38 pm
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Oh, Aubrey, I wish I could answer your question. I don’t know why God allowed that to happen. But I do know that His ways are different than ours – they are higher and better (Is. 55:8-9). He can see the beginning and the end of our lives. He knows what is best for us. He loves us with an everlasting love (Ps. 103: 8). While we don’t know why God allowed John to die, we can trust that His love for John and his family, including you, didn’t change in John’s death.

Our world is marred by sin – and death is a consequence of the sin that mars our earth. It isn’t the way God wants it to be and He sent Jesus to conquer death so that we have hope beyond this earthly life. When we believe in Jesus sacrifice on the cross for us, we can look forward to joining our other family members in Heaven who also believe in Jesus. We may not be able to understand or see the good in the trials of our lives on this side of Heaven. But one day we will understand clearly all God has allowed into our lives.

In Psalms 139:16, we read “Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there were none of them.” So even before we were born, God knows the number of our days. He walks with us through the difficult times in our lives (Is. 43:1-3a). He is there for you to run to for comfort as you work through these questions in your mind (2 Cor. 1:3-4). He came to set the captives free and to bring beauty out of the ashes in our lives (Is. 61:1-4).

While our enemy seeks to kill and destroy (1 Pet. 5:8), our Almighty God want to use this in your life for your good (Rom. 8:28-29) as you trust His heart for you. I’m praying this afternoon, Aubrey, that even though you may not be able to understand why or see the good in this, that you will choose to trust God – His character, His steadfast love for you, His Word and His plan for your life (Jer. 29:11).
Aubrey
@Lorree
on Friday, August 10, 2012 at 8:47 pm
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Thank you, that helped a lot but i have another question. So this past Tuesday, my 30 year old brother, Rhyan, was in a motorcycle accident. A semi didnt see him and tried to get in the right lane. There was construction, and Rhyan tried to get ahead but he hit one of those orange cone things with his handle bars. He had a helmet on but did not a have a leather jacket on. He knew he had lost control so he decided to jump so he wouldnt get stuck under the wheel. He ended up sliding infront of the semi, across the road, and miracliously did not get hit. I live in Indiana and him and his wife live in Michigan... me and my mom went up there to see him and Lisa (his wife) and my other brother who is 29. When we got to Rhyans house he was sitting in a lazy boy chair and was wrapped up like a mummy. The gauze they had wrapped his arms around in was so thick that my hands could not go around it but gunk still seeped from it. his knee was very bruised. his chest and stomache had lost several layers, his forearms are so pink and black and about 4 layers are gone and he has no palm. All the skin came off... It was so hard to see him like that because just 2 weeks before my dad and i had gone upl there and he was fit and working out, up and moving. It took much of my brothers strength to simply stay awake while we cleaned the wounds that constantly hurt him. It took 4-5 hours to unwrap, soak, clean, and rewrap everything. Lisa and her mom are both in the medical field and had a mini hospital at their home. I helped and did whatever i possibly could to help them and Rhyan. I would feed him, give him water, and adjust pillows, while doing different errands around the house for Lisa. It hurt him that he could only make 4 laps around the kitchen. So i am 13 and at first Rhyan didnt even want me to look at his arms because he didnt want me to be scared. Once when i was sitting next to him i started to tear up and he saw and with closed eyes he said "I love you sissy." I couldnt answer because i had started to cry. (he has called me 'sissy' since i was born) I love my brother so much and he is a living miracle because he should be dead, praise God. I would rather be in his shoes then him. But its so hard. I dont see how this will benefit any of us. It just hurts my entire family. My mom cries so much and i cry myself to sleep thinking of him. I know i will probably never understand why but its just so hard. Oh great im crying now but like im not mad at God, i trust Him and i know He has a plan through all this but still I feel like everytime i recover from something in my life im dragged right back down to hopelessness, and i dont know wht im doing because im not falling away from my devos or anything. In fact now is the closest i have been to God in all my life, which is still very short but still. I just i dont, i think i just needed to tell someone everything....
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Aubrey
on Monday, August 13, 2012 at 4:02 pm
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Thank you, Aubrey, for telling me what happened to your brother. We may never know why God allowed this in Rhyan’s life, but one thing we do know that God isn’t finished with his life on earth yet. He has spared your brother’s life and has more for him to accomplish here.

Part of your tears may be due to grief, Aubrey. God wants to comfort you in your grief – the reality that Rhyan could have died. He wants you to recognize how precious life is. We often don’t realize that truth until we are faced with a near-tragedy like this. I am praying right now for Rhyan and Lisa and also for you, Aubrey and your entire family. Keep running to God, friend! He will use this for all of your good as you trust Him through it all.
monica
Trusting God
on Sunday, December 2, 2012 at 7:22 pm
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I know I can trust God, it's just that actually trusting Him that's difficult. Over the years, God has taken away every instrument in my life that I could use to have control over certain things, and although I have changed my ways since, just like any human being, I still struggle with the fact that God has the control, not me.
Carrie, with the LYWB team
@ monica
on Tuesday, December 4, 2012 at 11:39 am
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Our loving Heavenly Father is patient with us, Monica. He builds our trust in Him by proving Himself faithful over and over again. The more we grow in knowing Him (through His Word and prayer) the more we see how foolish we are to place any trust in our own severely limited abilities, discernment, wisdom etc. It’s like a clay pot saying to the potter, “I know what’s best”. The Creator always knows what’s best for His creation.

Keep pursuing, Him, friend! Get to know Him more and more. Here’s a great study that will help you http://store.precept.org/p-535-lord-i-want-to-know-you.aspx.