Are Cliques Killing Your Mission?
Though these relationships are a sweet blessing from God, we didn't keep the love all to ourselves. My friends and I worked hard to be mission-minded at church and at functions where others would be around.
The temptation as you gain sweet friendships is to be shut-off from others or cliquish. Cliques are closed groups. It's hard for a stranger to penetrate a clique of girls. (As I am sure you know if you've ever been on the outside of a clique!) Cliques can be intimidating. You know the group of girls in the corner giggling and sharing fun stories—yeah, that group ... they're intimidating! That is why we, as Christians, need to be intentionally mindful of our surroundings and the opportunities to include others in our lives.
Matthew tells us in the Great Commission to "go therefore and make disciples of all nations" (Matt. 28:19). One simple step to being mission-minded in the context of where you are right now is to simply avoid the temptation to be cliquish. Our friendships are wonderful, but in order to make disciples of all nations we must open up our lives to people we don't know. Even people we aren't sure about.
Practically, it may be choosing to speak with the girl who is sitting by herself and inviting her to join you. Maybe it's making an effort at a gathering to find someone new to sit with rather than the same group of friends. Maybe it's even taking a step of faith and inviting someone to lunch. God can provide opportunities for mission work without going to a foreign country. There is a mission field available to you right where you are.
Do you have someone in mind that you have seen without a group of friends? Go to her and befriend her and then share the good news of God's grace. You may be surprised—she may be your next BFF.
What does it mean to go and make disciples in your context? What are some ways you can reach out to others around you?
About the Author: Trillia spends most of her days cleaning up spills from her daughter's love of dumping drinks and convincing her son that it is fine for him to pretend to be Superman, but jumping off of the kitchen table isn't the best idea. She daydreams about World Class Chocolate ice cream from Baskin Robbins almost daily. When she isn't doing those things, you can find her writing. She contributes to her local paper as well as several magazines and websites around the country. When she isn't writing, she is teaching group fitness classes at her local gym. Most of all, she loves Jesus Christ and sharing His love with others. Trillia lives in Knoxville with her best friend and husband, Thern, and their two kids. Oh, and her last name is Newbell.