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Tabby
Makes me wonder
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 1:44 am
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I wonder what lies I've been believing that are causing my problems. It's all sort of a mental thing. I have bipolar disorder, ocd, and possbily schizophrenia, so I don't think lies I'm believing could really cause any of that. Sometimes I wonder if God hates me. I don't want to sound like I'm just trying to get attention or anything, but I really needed to just vent that.
I'm such a sinner all the time, whether I try to be or not. Sometimes one of my disorders might make me accidentally sin, and sometimes I just sin because I can, I guess. I feel so guilty all the time and I feel like I'm just a bother to everyone. I think my mom hates me. It seems like no one will ever understand what I'm going through.
Any advice? And please pray for me. Sorry for venting.
kristen
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 2:12 am
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I tell myself lies all the time. I tell myself that I am not good enough, smart enough, etc almost everyday. I am just now learning about God and His truths. I am working on turning around my thoughts. I am learning to tell myself His truths rather than my own lies!
Bree
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 2:26 am
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For most of my life, I've tried to be perfect. If I wasn't getting perfect exam scores or appearing as a perfect person, I felt ashamed and useless. Starting in high school and through my mid-20s, I had an eating disorder. Part of this included not eating around other people, because I didn't want to be vulnerable and show that basic need. So, I'd spend the day being hungry, cranky, and miserable. Instead of focusing on improving my relationship with the Lord and helping others, I was self-absorbed about my body and capabilities. It took me years to finally realize that I can't be perfect. Perfection doesn't exist here on earth.
godsmiracle
Interesting
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 2:36 am
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It's amazing how God works. I was just responding to a question similar to this in the LYWB companion guide. Two most common lies I've believed is that I need to perform in order to be loved and accepted and that I am unable to overcome certain sins in my life. I'm a cancer survivor and as a result of the chemo and radiation I had received, I lost my vision on my left eye and have almost no peripheral vision on the right eye. I always thought "man, God healed me but left me with defects/disability." I was angry, or been angry until recently. God's been teAching me so much and although I may not understand His purpose in this right now, I trust in Him and His plans for my life, hoping that someday soon He will reveal to me many things I may not understand now. I want Romans 12:2 to become a reality in my life; I want to be transformed by the renewing of my mind with the Truth - God's faithful Word ...
cece
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 3:43 am
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This is very true! I have the same happen to me to. When you are stressed or worried it can cause dissemination ease..disease. Things just don't happen. God never intended for us to worry! That's why in 1 peter 5:7 he says cast your cares onto him for he cares for you! He knows what will happen if we worry or stress.
Em
RE: Tabby
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 3:43 am
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Hey Tabby,
Wow, that is a lot to be dealing with. First of all, God DOES NOT HATE YOU!!!! He loves you soooo much, like you have no idea. Even though life can suck at times and bad things happen to us, it is not happening because God hates you. Bad things do happen. And yeah, they suck, I understand that. But you know what? Maybe God is using your illnesses to strenghten you, and make you a better person. He might be turning you into a young inspiration for girls (and guys), that no matter what challenges you face, you can achieve anything you want in life. So look at it that way. Don't let the bad stuff weigh you down, or stop you from achieving your dreams. God loves you, and you have the ability within you, to achieve ANYTHING you want in life. You have endless potential. :) God made you and formed you in your mothers womb. He loves you no matter what you do. No matter what the sin, big or small, God still loves you. God will never, ever stop loving you. You are His daughter, and you mean everyhting to Him, EVERYTHING!!

Second of all, we ALL sin. No matter what we do, we all sin. We all stuff up, we all make mistakes, we have all lied, we all continue to make the same mistakes over and over again. We are humans. No matter how hard we try we can not stop sinning. Period. But God forgives your sins. Like I said, no matter how big or small the sin, God will forgive. Confess your sins to God and ask Him to forgive you and you are forgiven. It is as easy as that. Don't beat yourslef up every time you sin, because that is pointless. You can't stop sinning. Instead of focusing on not sinning, focus on being a good person and sharing Gods' word and truth. Spend some time reading your bible and praying to God. Talk to Him about stuff thats going on. Tell Him how your feeling, and whats bothering you. Make it real. Be happy with Him, thankful, angry, upset, doesn't matter. He wants to hear what you have to say and will listen to you. He is ALWAYS there to listen to you, because He loves you and cares about you, "Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you." (1Peter 5:7)

When you think no one understands how your feeling, God does. He understands exactly what your feeling and why. He knows everything about you, even the number of hairs on your head, (Luke 12:7, Matthew 10:29) God also has a fufilling future planned out for you, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11)
It is true that not everyone will understand what you are going through. But God does. :))

You also said that you feel like you are a bother to everyone, and that your mum hates you. Ok. You are not a bother to EVERYONE. Sure, some people might think you're a bother, but you do not need those people, and they are selfish, and not worth you're time. If they do not want the friendship, love and awesomeness (yes, I made that word up)
you have to offer, than that is their problem, and they have no idea what they are missing out on! Still, continue to love them and be nice to them, but do not be discouraged or hurt when they don't seem to care. They don't understand. Pray for them to find God's grace, and for God to soften their hearts. That is all you can do. :)
So about your mum hating you. I don't believe she could possibly hate you. Now I don't know her, but I don't believe she could possibly hate you Tabby. You are her daughter, and maybe she doesn't show it, but I am sure that deep down, she loves you. Maybe she is finding it hard to cope with your disorders. Pray that God will soften her heart. Pray that God will help her to understand, and give her the knowledge, patience and wisdom she needs. Also pray that she will find God.
Remember:
1.People love you and accpet you for who you are. 2. You are unique and special, and there is no one in the world exactly like you. 3.You can achieve anything you want in life. 4. God loves you, understands you, and accpets you for who you are. (A sinner)

Sorry this was soo long! I had a lot to say. :) I will be praying for you Tabby. I really do understand what it is like to feel like no one could possibly understand. No one could possibly like a girl like me. Yeah? That is so NOT true. Don't give up girl!! God is there for you. God bless you, I will be praying for you. Hope this advice helps :))
Renée
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 4:18 am
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This is so valuable for me! i borrowed the book from my cousin and its amazing! i finally realized what was going on with me. i used to be called anorexic because i was naturally skinny, but i believed that i was anorexic and i over-ate and stopped exercising and i put on weight. then people stopped calling me anorexic and thin and i believed it was because i was fat. i started to starve myself, i over exercised and became obsessed with my body. But i realise now that i am perfect the way i am! Gods truth has set me from the lies!
kk
Re: Em, Tabby
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:15 am
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Hi! Just had to agree with you Em, great advice! I went through (and still struggle with) a LOT when I was a little girl. But just last night, as I was praying, God opened my heart to the truth. You see, I had been holding on to my hurt, and shame, and self-pity, and couldn't see any blessings from what had happened to me. But last night, as I talked to God, He showed me how much what happened changed me for the better, helped me to be a better person, and drew me closer to Him. So, I thanked God for what happened. For the past 9 yrs, I've been angry and now I'm turning it over to God and thanking Him for how He works and what He's done through me. Frankly, if I hadn't gone through my hard stuff, I'd probably be far away from God right now, with the wrong crowd, a totally different, but not better person.
I'm incredibly thankful God showed me how He turns bad into good.
Keep talking to God, Tabby. Some day, you might be able to see it a different way. (But maybe try not to take 9yrs to see it that way like I did :)
KK
Chey
My Battle
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:28 am
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It breaks my heart to see and read about people going through these battles with depression and anger. It makes me want to go up on a mountiantop and shout God's love!

A few years ago I struggled with the typical teen battles with beauty and depression. I thought that because other teens thought I was wierd and didn't accept me that neither did God or my parents. I felt unwanted and unloved every time I got into an argument. Even though these bouts of self pity were short and not always constant, they did SERIOUS harm.

God has done a major work in my life! I started to get more involved in my youth group. I stepped out in faith and worshiped God with no reservations. I'm not saying that everything is perfect now; sometimes I still struggle with the 'never good enough' lie that held me down.

It took me 3 years to get over most of the lies that resulted from bullying and self pity. I went to the secular assemblys that were trying to instill confidence in youth, they didn't do a thing. I read all the nonchristian blogs. I went on all the secular advice sites. You know what they all told me? They told me to instill character in my life to get acceptance from PEOPLE. To do some of the more worldly things to seem cool.

I was searching for answers! I completely forgot about the awesome and amazing God that has already made me a BABE. A Beautiful, Accepted, Blessed, Eternally Significant girl. I forgot that he went through horrible torture so that I could live free from these lies that held me down. I forgot His amazing love and grace that were directed toward me when I was still evil and blackened in heart.

Girls, God is an amazing, loving and awesome God that none of us can comprehend until we get to know Him. He gentle and gradually removed the lies in my heart and replaced them with His truth! I can't tell you the regret I've experienced because I was mired in self pity and I missed opportunities to show others Christ's love. I know that went through the depression for a reason; It might be so one of you can read this and find encouragement!

Now, whenever I am tempted and lied to by the devil, I have a new holy arsenal! I am armed to the teeth with the armor of God. He reminds me of his truth in the midst of the lies. He reminds me His love and acceptance are all that matters. The only way I was able to break free was by looking to God! So many are focused on what the path is they forget to look at the one leading. As Christians we are called to "Be still and know that I am God." When we look at the one leading we don't have to worry about the path. When we let Him carry us we only need to see His beautiful face.

God has replaced the lies and given me truth to hold onto when I fight the lies. He gave me himself for eternal comfort. I just focus on him and become free!

Thank you for the reminder! I always need to be reminded of the Creators love :)
God bless!
Linda
Help :(
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:29 am
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I recently went through a very hard time in my life. I was in a relationship with this guy in secret for over a year. We slept together unfortunately and we were caught and torn apart. After that I had a pregnancy scare and I just went crazy. For weeksI've had serious stomach issues, a lot of intense pain and bloating. We even had to go to the hospital one time. I did some heart searching and I found that I've believe may times that God isn't good and that he doesn't want the best for me, or that I'm never going to be ok.. that I'll hurt and be unhappy forever. Also, that I have no worth.. that I'm some slut that isn't a virgin anymore and I lost all my worth with that and no one will ever love me or appreciate me. So, there are a lot of issues going on with me. Alot of things I need to deal with and I feel overwhelmed with everything I need to change in me. Thank you for this post ;)
Caroline
Lies
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:33 am
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Being a varsity athlete, the pressures to stay thin are definately there: you can "perform better", and look better in your uniform. I was in 7th grade when I first made the team, and there was all that added drama between the older girls going on. I wanted to fit in and feel like part of the team, but I know that some of the girls don't know Jesus. Because I acted differently than them , I'm sort of looked at like the little naive girl who needs to grow up. It would be easy to go into this season trying to act like them and do anything to get their approval. The LIE is that there approval is important- I must constantly remind myself that it is not! I've realized it is more important for these girls to see Jesus in me than to try to follow along with them in hopes of becoming accepted. It's more important for them to know Him than it is for me to do well at my sport. It's all something I need to keep in perspective. Maybe God put me in my situation for "such a time as this", like Esther! When I think about it like that, I'm excited! The thouht of God be able to useme is so cool! Who knows? Maybe, when I strive to be as much like Jesus as possible, that's when friends will be made. I do hope to do well athletically this season (I've trained hard all year!), but please pray for me as I try to reflect the Lord to these girls. I have always been shy about witnessing, but I'll go for it if I feel like it's the right time. But I think I'll try to let my life speak to them first. I feel like it will be more like I'm sharing than preaching that way. :)Tryouts are starting tomorrow!! :)
Kez
Wow
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:49 am
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I'm glad I've found this website. Lately, I have been suffering from anxiety due to waiting for my exam results. I know it may sound silly but I really do worry about this.
I've also felt very angry because of something which I think has began to leave me bitter. I certainly want to change the way I've been thinking. I've realised that thes things have started taking a toll on my body and I have headaches and stomach pain.
At first I thought it was physical but I've actually noticed that when I go to God, I feel a burden has been removed. This is what made me suspect that my problems were more than physical. I still face problems but now I'm trying to turn them over to God. Thankyou.
Marie
Re: Tabby
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 10:24 am
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Dear Tabby,

I will pray for you and I ask that you read this article:
http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/can-you-believe-it/

I grew up in a Christian home and was blessed in so many ways with loving parents and a biblical upbringing. However, my understanding of God and His salvation was skewed and it was only recently that my eyes have been opened to the truth. May God us this article to set you free as He did me. May he open your eyes to His promises!

Blessing,
Marie
Em
Very True
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 10:45 am
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All I can say about this article is that this is VERY true!!:)
Fashion4ever
@Caroline
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 11:15 am
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@Caroline:
Your post was such a blessing!!! I know EXACTLY what you're going through and it was awesome to hear that i'm not alone in this. Whether its on one of my sports team or people who just know me from school look at me like "the naive little girl who needs to grow up" just like you said! you described it so perfectly! it gets annoying because i wanted to prove myself to them but at what cost? Do i start cussing, telling dirty jokes, or having sex just to fit in? no i want to be confident in who i am in Christ and be willing to be my own person. Because what you said is absolutely true...their opinion or approval simply doesn't matter. plus, i love how you've flipped in around into a witnessing opportunity. if we put it in perspective when we get to heaven it won't if we fit in on our sports team but how we reflected Christ in our lives. I'm sure if one of those girls came to know Christ through you and got to spend eternity in heaven she would thank you for not being so worried about fitting in!!! you helped me get some perspective...thanks girl <3 God bless!
Tabby
Em, kk, Marie
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 11:21 am
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Thank you guys so much! You've all encouraged me a lot. =)
Lizzy
I really needed this
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 11:40 am
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Thank you so much for posting this blog entry. I have been dealing with this for almost 6-10 years. I have been in and out of the hospital for mental evaluations. And I have been on numerous medications. I have also been seeing a doctor/therapist for about 6 or 7 years as well. I really need prayer and guidance because I have let lies and wrong belief systems influence the way I think and interact with people, most devastatingly, my family, and my God. My relationship with my Lord and Savior has been affected dramatically. I feel so terrible. Please any help or advice would be great.

Thanks
candy
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 11:59 am
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For a long time (and even sometimes now) I found myself getting caught in the lie that I was worthless UNLESS i had someone there for me..(i.e a boy or close friends)...After a year of chasing after things like that my entire world came crumbling down!! I had lied and faked and basically ruined myself...It was not easy faking who i was usually i would play happy in front of my boyfriend and other friends, but once i got home i was miserable because i knew deep down that i was lieing to everyone! Thankfully God spared me from loosing anything to precious to me, but i went through a lot of unneeded pain...In the end God miraculously got a hold of me and I (with His help) was able to begin turning my life around...I have been living in God's love and grace for about 2 months now...Some people say "wow only two months.." But i have been through so much and i find that everyday i wake up i am so HAPPY!! i no longer have to lie about who i am...I know that i have screwed up, but i know that God and my parents didn't ever stop loving me through all of it. I also know that if i continue to trip on the past that it is only hurting me and no one else...Once you have been where i was you can only look up to God and thank Him for how truly great and awesome He really is.....I know going through everything wasn't probably His first choice for me, but God wasn't surprised and i know he had me go through everything for a reason...I think the reason was to finally bring me to the end of myself! (which is where i am)

God is so awesome...He tells me that He is always with me...He is closer than a brother...He wants what is best for me...And if i allow Him to rule my life i know that i will never again have to feel worthless or useless...God made me He thought about me and He loves me...what more could i want? <3
Brittany
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 1:18 pm
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Another great post! Thanks for posting this, it's very helpful to me. I always pray to the Lord first, and then wig out and go to a doctor...almost EVERY time. My anxiety/ panic disorder along with my bipolar disorder get the best of me, but I'm seeking help.
Anonoymous 101
Wow! Thank-you! Any scripture references?:)
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 1:43 pm
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Wow!!! Thank-you for this!

This is certainly relates to my current situation in some-way, I'm still dealing with over-coming my PTSD, and there are certain places that remind me of an event that took place.... (Wont go into that,) (It's minuscule to what other people get when diagnosed with PTSD.) Thi


but I have been afraid of going into the pool for a certain reason and other things, and finally after God is showing me the root of the problem and through forgiveness, God is showing me that the chains are being broken, when I want to run and hide from the pool, God reminds me of HIS word! God has blessed me with wonderful people to help me continue to over-come this, and as silly as it seems, I'm still afraid of the pool for reasons, and slowly, I'm being set free from that part.

Anyone have any recommendations of how to continue to pursuing healing, and good scriptures?

Thank-you! When you have PTSD and finally coming out of it, in the beginning you are constantly on guard and don't want to go anywhere, but through the right treatment, and praying scripture over our lives God brings Healing.

Thank-you again, I could use a lot of prayer still in regards to fear from something that took place nearly a year ago!
breaking free
Lies
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 2:32 pm
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I've always struggled with believing lies. I am a rather imaginative person, with an active mental life. I daydream and zone out a lot, am very dramatic, and a tad on the introvert side. I tend to over-inflate things that have happened in my life, and think that they are the worst things that ever could happen.

It's not that bad things haven't happened. In fact, the past couple years would have been difficult to handle for anyone, but I made them a lot bigger than they were. I believed the lie that God either couldn't handle them, that he was punishing me, or that he just didn't care.

I felt so far from him, so seperated, and never even realized, until recently, that it was because of me, not because of him. I was so mad at the world, angry at God, that I had turned my back on him, not the other way around.

Things haven't come to a finish yet, I still don't know why the things happened that did, but I find comfort in the fact that God knows the plans he has for me, that he will never leave me or forsake me, and that nothing can seperate me from the love of God in Jesus Christ my Lord.
Cristi
feelings
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 3:41 pm
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The lie I've often struggled with is that I can't handle things in a biblical way because of my bad feelings. Or my main goal in life is to get rid of my bad feelings or depression rather than to love and please God. Or not dealing with shame and guilt by taking it to Jesus to forgive, but rather trying to hide it or make up for it on my own. I'm learning to act, rather than react, to life. Even if I feel badly, physically or emotionally, the Holy Spirit can still give me power to do what God has asked me to do. 2 Peter 1:3 says "as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue. " The Lord has used two tools in my life: a counselor--certified by the Nouthetic Association of Christian Counselors (NANC)--that instead of trying to counsel to make me "normal" tries to counsel to help me deal with my sin/guilt in a right relationship with Christ. Our main issue isn't that we aren't normal, but that we are all born sinners and sometimes we don't know what to do with that fact, how to grow closer to God in the middle of a trial time. The other thing that really helped my thinking is Ted Lane and Paul Tripp's book How to Change. Thanks!
Net
Angry
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 3:46 pm
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I have been dealing with a lot of anger towards my family and the people around because I feel no matter what I do I can't find approval anywhere. I even questioned Gods love for me. Molested as a child I never dealt with that or got any kind of counseling,ended in me feeling useless and always trying to find approval. More recently having a very hard time financially and battling depression has me totally worn out. I know in my heart that God loves me and I don't want to give up, please pray for me....
Morgan McKenzie
Re; Tabby & Encouragement
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 3:50 pm
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I want to thank all of you ladies for admitting your failures, struggles and faults to everyone. It is vital as ladies, women of God to be vulnerable with each other, and the Lord. Coming across strong all the time is not what people remember, but through your struggles, as God did for Paul in II Corthians 12:9" My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness". It was so encouraging, to read each post. For Tabby and everyone, God loves you even when you feel like He hates you, and doesn't understand what you are going through. I feel like that alot at times. Tabby have you though about writing in a journal, when you feel like, and write letters of encouragement to yourself? Have you thought about going to counseling or seeking out other ladies in your church that you can meet on a regular basis that can minster to you. I say this loving, and will be praying for you and the rest of you! Psalms 27 is a wonderful passage for when we are discouraged. Have a blessed week and rest of the year!
Rachel
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 4:15 pm
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One of the biggest lies I, or actually my parents and my whole family, believed was that the best way to end up in heaven was to be Amish. So Daddy gets saved, and God starts opening his eyes to other lies he's believing (rejection, fear, and that sort of thing). The end result is that today my family is no longer Amish, Dad is a total different person from the angry, fearful, man he once was, and nobody but God could have accomplished this much in the last five years.
Brittany
Being deceived
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 5:15 pm
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One of the biggest lies I'm dealing with now is that God isn't real. There was a time I stopped reading the Word and praying. That's when The Liar started entering my thoughts. Now I'm starting back reading the Word and I don't feel that fire that was once there in my heart anymore. A couple weeks ago I found I had acid reflux and have been worrying about my health. I know I have to trust God but where do I start?
breaking free
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on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 5:40 pm
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And I don't know if this happens to anyone else, but the lie that has probably had the MOST impact on my life is this: "I have to be perfect".

It can get overwhelming, when I do anything, even the smallest bit wrong, or even if I just think I did something wrong, or even if someone else thinks I did something wrong. I go over it and over it and over it constantly in my head. Sometimes, if it's really bad I get headaches, or feel nauseated, sometimes physically exhausted and crying.

It has been getting better. I'm trying to work on learning to LEARN from mistakes, and not to beat myself over the head for every single one, but to accept God's forgiveness, and to know that he'll never leave me, or stop loving me.

I learned to start battling feelings with the truth, and read my Bible more often so I know what the truth is. I also learned to talk over these issues, mostly with my Mom, and sometimes my Best Friend as well. Both are very godly, and encouraging.

Does anyone else struggle with this? If so, how do you battle it?
Kirsten
Lies
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 6:02 pm
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The lie that I struggle with is wearing the right clothes and being "pretty enough". I know that I dont need to worry about it and that its not about what is on the outside, but I still find myself worrying about it. Luckily, it has gotten a little better recently but I'm still not sure how to stop believing these lies.
Me
Re:
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 6:09 pm
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This post is true. I've believed some horrendous lies over the last several years and they caused me to sink into depression, suicidal thoughts and an almost-attempt, constant headaches, thoughts about anorexia, and an unbelievable amount of other things. It began with a boy telling me with his actions that I was worthless and I was the one in the wrong, even though I was innocent. It screwed my thinking completely.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Anonymous 101
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 6:20 pm
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I am so thankful to hear how the Lord is bringing healing into your life as you meditate on His Word and through forgiveness! Don’t quit going in this direction, friend! His Word is living, active and powerful and can work miracles in your heart and life! Matthew 6:25-33 are wonderful verses straight from Jesus mouth while He walked on this earth. God had me memorize this during a very stressful time of my life where there were a lot of unknowns that could have led to fear and anxiety. His Word worked powerfully in my life through this!

You could also camp out in the Psalms. David often poured out his heart to God talking with about his fears. It is a good plan for us to follow, too! Praying for you, sweet friend!
Ira
Quick Question....please respond
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 7:30 pm
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Ummmm...i have been reading lies young women believe and i just visited this web. Does anyone know how to start a blog? Thanks soo much!
Ira
Sry
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 7:37 pm
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never mind i just relized that there are authors who do this..not just anyone
Christina
Lies
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:29 pm
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If i could talk to this woman, i certainly would. Talk to her face to face or just simply write her a letter or email. I so would, i would tell her my testimony and what i went through in my kid years of life, what lead me to depression, what lead me to Anoerexia, to where i am now i so would! This might change her perspective. If you would like me to email you my full on testimony so you can send it to her i would be more than willing! Just let me know:)
Christina
My Testimony and Lies I Believed
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:53 pm
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From when i was little i was pushed aside from my parents, i was the last of what they could care about. I felt unloved, like no one cared about me, i was pushed away and this was basically from the begining of my toddler years. In 2001 my grandparents got guardianship of me. I have a brother that lives with me, two others that live else where with not the best lifestyles, n i'm the oldest of em all. My mom 18 years older than me and my dad 14 years older than me. I was in and out of church, my mom would take me and my brother but when she had a boy friend we wouldn't go. Finally i said i was done and quit going. The church i go to now is the one that i had went to when i was little:) I stayed the night at my friends in 6th grade with the knowledge i was going to church the next mornin, n not caring whether i went or not. I got there n people remembered me:) I felt so joyful! I started goin every Sunday mornin ridin in on the church bus. Was not at the point of standards as i should have been, but i was goin to church:) In 7th gd my friend killed himself. I had the knowledge that he was going to before he did it and i was like ill make it to his house and talk to him this weekend, i got busy n couldn't. That week he killed himself, i felt it was my fault. I went into this great depression and i stopped eating and i was slowly killing myself, i just didn't know it then. I went to camp that summer and one of the lead guys told me that it wasn't my fault and he already had it set in his mind to do it, he wouldve whether i talked to him or not. This was so true, i began gettin out of my depression. I started eating, i don't look at myself as fat anymore. I am wonderfully and fearfully made by God! I am now goin into 10th grade next month and i have grown more than i could ever imagine! After depression, i slowly started growin. I changed my music, then i went back, changed it, then went back. Changed TV shows, went back n did same pattern. This past January i changed my standards. I only listen to Christian, i don't really watch TV and anythin i do watch is not PG-13 or above and i still make sure PG and G shows are good, anythin i wear goes to the knees, nothin is low cut. The clothing standards ive had for a while. I read my Bible and pray everyday. I have this relationship with God and i am truly satisfied! I have changed so much, and a few years ago i could never see me bein where i am now! My best friend is amazed by where i am now, she watched me grow and she loves it! I love it too! I have plans for the future that are based on the Bible, what God wants. I am different and set apart from my family and from the world! I love it! I am satisfied and i have all my trust in Him! I have a fire for the Lord!
Christina
More Added
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:58 pm
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I share the Word with others all the time and ALWAYS talk about God:) I love it! I always get told bout how i'm living for the Lord and how i always talk about Him:) I have knowledge in the Word:) My advice is from the Bible:) There is so much that i have changed and i am blessed beyond my wildest dreams! They always say what you talk about a lot shows what you treasure and i always talk about Him! I am happy now, i always have i smile on my face:) I get giddy for the Lord! I am sastisfied and could talk about Him forever, could have my light for Him forever! I have never felt something so amazing, but that's because there is nothing so amazing! Nothing can satisfy you like He can and He does when you have a true relationship with Him!
Christina
Lies In My Life and Consequences
on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 9:09 pm
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Yes another one:) I believed that i was fat, that's all i saw in the mirror and found out now that i was just skin and bones, i ended up with a lie that caused me to stop eating and i could have died. I believed no one loved me, that did lead me to the wrong path. I believed that my friend killing himself was my fault, that lead me to a depression. These had big effects on where i was, i was a girl that had gone through stuff when i was a kid and it lead me to be broken. My heart was crushed. It needed mending. And you know what? God did it! He taped it up and i have people that love me even though i have a bad past. God can do miracles! I have a blessing in my life, a guy that is very special to me. Where i thought that i would have problems finding someone to love me because of what i went through, he knows what i went through and he still loves me for me! I read Young Lady in Waiting and Mr. Right was Jesus, and He still is because if this guy isn't the one (though i believe he is), Jesus is still there! But after reading that book, and me praying for a long time, He brought me someone. Someone that is a good Christian guy, is respectful, nice, kind, has a good Christian family that loves me and counts me as family, he's a gentleman. He loves me for me, knowing what went on in my past! I love the Lord, and i'm satisfied! And He has blessed me more than i could have ever asked!
rachel
Linda
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 2:00 am
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Linda- You were caught in your lie. So, have you yet experienced the true catharsis of Confession? Have you poured out your sins to God in every detail? Fess up to every single little thing. Everything. A pastor or bishop is useful with this, but it needs to be done in prayer too, because God really wants the privilege of telling you directly of his love for you. Honesty is the only way to feel love. Dishonesty leaves you with fear and loathing. So, the best way to stop believing the lies is to come completely clean about the ones you told. I promise you, love will flow unto you from it.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Lizzy
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 1:52 pm
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I am thankful that you are getting the help you need, Lizzy. Have you read the book Lies Young Women Believe? It is a great help in discovering the lies of our enemy. But not only that, you will find the Truth from God’s Word you can choose to believe instead of those lies. This blog is a by-product of that book.

God is right there with you, Lizzy. As you discover lies that you have believed, ask Him to forgive you (1 Jn. 1:9) and guide you in the way of Truth (Jn. 8:32). It is through God’s Truth that you will find freedom. God loves you and will be faithful to lead you in the way you should go! I’m praying for you, sweet friend!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Net
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 2:00 pm
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Oh, sweet Net, God does love you! He grieves over what has happened in your past. He is walking right beside you through this difficult time (Is. 43:1-3a). Don’t give up, my friend! Don’t lose hope. God is the God of hope (Rom. 15:13). Have you considered talking to an older godly woman about what has happened in your past and what you are struggling with now? If you don’t know of one, perhaps your pastor can help you connect with someone. She could meet with you, encourage you, pray for you, support you and hold you accountable to be in the Word so that our enemy doesn’t get a foothold into your heart through the trials you are experiencing. Is there someone you could share with?

I also encourage you to choose to forgive your family for the way they have responded to you. Your anger, unless you work through it, will continue to eat you up from the inside out. Choosing to forgive is the only way to free you from the burdens you are carrying. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what happened to you or how you were treated was right. It simply moves the responsibility for judgement from your shoulders to God’s. He is the only One who can judge justly, mercifully and rightly.

I’m praying you will have the courage and desire to give this to the Lord, forgive your family and be freed from the prison of bitterness! Please stay in the Word, Net! It is the lifeline for your soul!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Tabby
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 6:25 pm
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I want to assure you, Tabby, that God does not hate you. He loves you enough to die for you (Jn. 3:16). Once you believe that and receive His gift of salvation, nothing can separate you from His love (Rom. 8:38-39). Your mom loves you, too, Tabby! She may be struggling with some of the ways your problems manifest themselves, but deep down she loves you with all her heart.

We are all sinners, Tabby, and whether we sin “accidentally” or on purpose, those sins are covered by Christ and are forgiven when we confess them to God (1 Jn. 1:9). I encourage you to make the commitment to spend time in God’s Word. As you do so, and as you grow in your knowledge of God and of His Truth, He will strengthen you and show you ways to overcome your sin and turn away so that you can walk in victory. I’ve prayed for you today, Tabby, and trusting God to complete the work He has begun in your heart and life!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Kirsten
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 6:26 pm
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I am so thankful to know that you want to stop believing the lies of our enemy, Kirsten! The way to do that is to first of all recognize that what you believe is a lie. It sounds like you have done that. The second step is to counter those lies with Truth – and that is found in Scripture. A couple of Bible passages I thought of to counter your lie is the one in 1 Sam. 16:7 where we learn that although man looks at the outward appearance, God looks at the heart. Another is found in 1 Pet. 3:3-4 where we are told not to focus on outward adorning but to focus on a gentle and quiet heart which is very precious to God. You might look those up and post them on notes around your desk or in your locker or bathroom as a reminder of Truth. Memorize these and when you are tempted to think you aren’t pretty enough, say these out loud to yourself as a means of replacing those lies with the Truth.

Remember, Kirsten, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Ps. 139:14); charm is deceitful and beauty is vain (Prov. 31:30). Spend time in God’s Word, Kirsten, and in doing so you will become beautiful from the inside out and that is what counts! Praying that you will believe what God says about beauty in His Word.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Ira
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 6:27 pm
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Ira, there are many sites on the internet that will walk you through the process of starting your own blog, step by step. Many people use their gift of writing by doing a blog and it isn’t just authors that do this! If you have prayed and are feeling the Lord leading you in this direction, I encourage you to let your parents know what you want to do so they can help you walk through the process. That will also provide some accountability and direction as you venture into this new area.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Brittany
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 6:28 pm
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Brittany, you are doing the right thing by getting back into the Word. Scripture is the tool we use to fight the lies of our enemy. Even though you don’t feel the fire you once had, continue with your commitment to be in the Word on a regular basis. As you read and pray, you can ask God to rekindle your passion for Him.

Memorizing and meditating on Scripture is a great way to take your thoughts captive in your battle of worry. Matthew 6:25-34 is a great place to start memorizing. Then you can add Philippians 4:4-8. Doing a search in your concordance for verses that have the word “worry” or “anxiety” in them and mediating or memorizing them is another way to take those thoughts captive.

Stay in the Word, Brittany! You are headed in the right direction!
Anonoymous 101
Thank-you Lorree!!!
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 9:52 pm
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Hi Lorree!!!

Thank-you so much!!! I really needed that today your encouragement! I have no plans this summer, so perhaps I should start a Bible memorization plan, actually I've been reading some of the Psalms over me, and thank-you it's really hard to forgive, as the part of the healing process!!!

Thank-you for praying, I could use a lot of prayer, and prayer for a good solid BIble study to go too! :) I just don't understand why sometimes God allows this to happen, I'll keep reading the Psalms, and never realized how David poured his heart out in the Psalms!!!

I'll keep coming on this! Sometimes, the enemy loves to take hold of us when it comes to unforgiveness, but that is the main thing God's highlighted to me over this summer:) Thank-you!!!!!!
Chey
breaking free
on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 11:13 pm
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This has been my number one lie and thankfully, a lie I have overcome. Whenever a thought like that enters my mind I remind myself of a few things. Why would Jesus have died if I had to be perfect to recieve love etc? I don't have to be perfect for Christ's love. He died so I wouldn't have to be! Which leads me to another reminder. Christ is the perfection for us. He is the perfect example of love and beauty that lives inside me!! He made the sacrifice so I can be forgiven when I fall. He died so he could give me a life with him through my failure. I am so thankful for Christ's sacrifice aren't you? I can talk or be with him because of the perfection that was sacrificed. God sacrificed the need for perfection through his perfect son.

The cross is a the beautiful event when all the imperfect were saved by a perfect lamb!
Christine
Re: Christina
on Thursday, August 2, 2012 at 12:57 am
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Christina, what a beautiful story! So glad you are keeping Jesus at the center of your life. You are a strong girl, God made you that way. Thank you for sharing, your story really inspired me. - Christine
Christina
Re: Christine
on Sunday, August 5, 2012 at 5:01 pm
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Thank you! That really blesses me that it inspired you! I didn't get your comment til today and my pastor asked if we wanted to be blessed today. Well, it really does bless me that you are inspired by my life story:) Thank you for blessing me!