A Fierce Answer To A Lunchroom Pick-up Line

posted by Erin Davis on 09/12/12 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Myself; ; 62 comments

Fierce Women"My husband says it was my fierceness that initially grabbed his attention and drew him to approach me. At the time, however, he had no idea how his world was about to be turned upside down by one really fierce woman. That fierceness he found so attractive? Well, he learned real fast it could work both ways, because the fierceness that drew his interest . . . also gave me the spunk to verbally slam him in our first conversation!

"It was the first day of the fall semester. I wasn't prepared for the shock of entering a large classroom crammed full with young men. Way in the back corner I spied one lone female. She was dressed in military fatigues and sporting a camo cap, so at first she blended in with the all-male landscape. She and I were the only women in Dr. Stagg's Greek 101. I guess I'd never considered whether this was a popular subject with female students; I just wanted to study the language.

"I soon picked up on the fact that this class was filled with what I referred to as ‘young preacher-boys.' And were they ever the cocky lot! Every Monday morning I watched them try to one-up each other by re-preaching their Sunday sermons. Lots of big stories, loud and long alliterations, exaggerated hand gestures. If they were trying to impress the two women in the room, they didn't.

"One day at the end of class, most of us headed to the cafeteria for lunch. I was standing in line waiting my turn to pick up a tray and silverware, minding my own business, when one of the cocky preacher-boys just behind me in line startled me with, ‘Do you mind if I ask you a personal question?'

"I'd never spoken to this guy before, didn't even know his name but had a vague notion he was in my class. I was thinking, This is his impressive opening line? Smooth. We've never spoken and this is how you introduce yourself?

"Now, how is a girl supposed to respond to an opening question like that? I have nothing to hide. I've always been a transparent person and often too blunt for my own good, so I mumbled, ‘Um . . . no, I guess not.' I could feel my eyebrow arching a bit. (It does that sometimes. I'm ashamed to admit, but if you ever meet me and see me do that . . . sorry, it could be indicating I'm a bit irritated.)

"‘Why are you in Greek class?' The question may seem innocent enough, but did you note his emphasis on the word you? With that one carefully turned word, he spoke volumes. The grip on my plastic lunch tray tightened as I realized—This guy thinks Greek class is no place for girls . . . Who does he think he is, asking me why I'm studying Greek? My eyebrow arched pointedly as I gave him a dead level glare while every ounce of my being flooded with Helen Reddy's theme song, I am woman, hear me roar! My response was delivered in cold, even tones.

"‘I'm taking the class so that I can study the original language of the New Testament for myself in order to prepare to pastor and shepherd my flock.' Delivering the slam, I turned to pick up my salad plate. Stunned, he mumbled a subdued, 'Oh.'

"I left him to think as I picked up condiments. But the Holy Spirit wouldn't
let me do it. I couldn't lie to this guy with
my impromptu fabrication about being a
'woman preacher'—even if he did seem to be a male chauvinist. With the last of my items placed on my tray, I took a deep breath and turned to tell him, ‘No, the real reason I'm studying Greek is because I've grown up hearing pastors claim what the original language says and I want to be able to read it myself, for my own personal growth.' His ‘Oh!' this time sounded much different, like he was extremely pleased with my answer. And with that, I concluded my first conversation with the man who would one day be my husband.

We both laugh about it now and he gets a kick out of telling people how my spirited response triggered his interest in me. I've heard many husbands say they experienced similar feelings of attraction when they met their feisty wives, like being drawn by the beauty and danger of climbing Mount Everest—the climb is filled with breathless anticipation and excitement, but woe to the man who attempts that climb unprepared!" (Fierce Women by Kimberly Wagner, 17–19).

It was Kimberly's fierceness that made her husband-to-be approach her in the lunchroom. It was the softness that she tempered that fierceness with that made him keep talking. What is a fierce woman? And what is it about our fierceness that appeals to the guys around us? Is being fierce a good thing?

These are the questions Kimberly tackles in her new book Fierce Women. You might recognize Kimberly's name from the list of writers for this blog. Her book is a great tool for understanding what it means to be a soft warrior.

You'll hear more from Kimberly tomorrow about what makes being a fierce woman attractive, but until then, I'd love to hear from you. Like Kimberly, do you have moments where you respond with fierce strength? What do you think makes a woman fierce?

Finish this sentence in a comment below. A fierce woman is... We'll give away free copies of Fierce Women to the three of you with the best answers!

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    valencia
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 1:50 am
    A fierce woman is a glamorous heavy hitter for God & makes herself attractive by the good things she does.
    HisFaithfulCowgirl18
    A Fierce Woman Is.....
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 3:17 am
    A Fierce woman.... is someone who has respect for herself and those around her,who is not afraid to stand up for what is right in the sight of God.One who does not depend on others but on God alone! She should be humble in her fierceness and not be doing it to please herself or place herself above others. She must have a pure heart and a clear purpose! One who can walk around with joy when no one else does. She should be bold and steady in her beliefs and not easily wavered. A woman of God who is ready to face the challenges of this world which are set before her.
    Mackenna
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 6:43 am
    A Fierce Woman is a lady who's willing To follow God's will no matter what. She's a lady who never once Tries to be something she isn't. Shes comforted by the fact that God made her who she is and she wants to do EVERYTHING for His glory. She's in-tune with the Holy Spirit and takes her passion and love for How great God is to a fiery good natured attitude.

    A fierce woman tries to look for the good in others, sometimes even when she can't see it in herself. She depends only on God, and not on those around her. She is pure of heart, however sometimes struggles with temptation. But she always relies back on her faith and tells Satan that he has no control over her. She is high spirited and transparent, even when the world around her is guarded and depressed. Her love for God turns into a PASSION. That passion turns into a FIRE that cannot be extinguished, and that fire turns into her attitude. And that attitude, which makes her on fire for God, transforms her into a Fierce woman. And a fierce woman brings glory to His name because she knows that HE ALONE is GREATER than anything we can imagine.
    Blue
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 7:25 am
    I guess a fierce woman is super confident and self-sufficient. Like the heroine in the novels. I'm nothing like that lol I'm usually super friendly and chill
    Heidi
    A fierce woman is....
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:08 am
    someone who does not let other people make her feel inferior or shy, someone who is confident in who she is in Christ, and is not afraid to show it.
    Lacey
    Fierce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:10 am
    A fierce woman is a woman brave enough to stand up for her self and her creator. Her fierceness comes from her love of God. She is not afraid to stand up for what she believes is right in the eyes of God. Her love for him builds up so much that it bursts out of her in a firey passion, hitting anyone within range.

    A fierce woman does not let just any man get close to her. Her fierceness can scare off the wimps (: but attract that man that God has chosen for her.

    Her fierceness helps her to over come her fears when talking about her creator. When someone is disrespecting God, she has enough confidence to stand up for him.

    A fierce women is not lazy. She puts her all into everything she does. She wants to be the best and never gives up until she has succeeded.
    David
    Fierce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:21 am
    A fierce woman is one who pursues and is driven by the Gospel relentlessly.
    Tatiana
    A fierce woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:26 am
    A fierce woman is displayed in Proverbs 31. She stands for her Lord and anyone in her care. She has the means and ability to defend what she must, but the knowledge to know when it is not her place. She is productive and not slothful. She is the picture of fierceness in a soft shell.
    I<3relientk morgan
    A Feirce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:27 am
    A fierce woman is . . . Not afraid to stand up for herself and what she believes.


    I try my best to be a fairly fierce girl, sometimes even a little feisty, and Kimberly is right that it does earn you respect. I know what I stand for and nobody is going make me doubt that.
    Rebecca
    Fierce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:31 am
    A fierce woman is one who is filled with God-given confidence.
    Karis
    Questioning
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 9:09 am
    I would love to agree with all of you here on the blog, but I don't think I can in light of Scripture. The Bible tells us women to have a " meek and quiet spirit" 1 Peter 3:4. I believe we should not be so quick to shoot out smart answers like that and then think we can make up for it later. We WILL answer for every word spoken here on earth even if spoken in sarcasm or jest... Ephesians 5:4.
    From many of the answers on the blog, I get the impression that most of you think of a fierce woman as someone who is spiritually bold enough to go out and give someone the gospel. I agree with this view, though not with the view that if we are smart-alecy and have quick retorts that men will like us for that. I suggest that we take a look in God's Word to find out how we are to really act with our male counterparts. In Christ's Love, Karis
    Kat Lewis
    Fierce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 9:15 am
    A fierce woman is a woman who knows herself, inside and out. She does not have to pretend to be something she's not because she is super comfortable in her own skin. That's the main reason so many people call her--well--fierce, because she doesn't take any guff that she doesn't want to. She is independent without being a bra-burner and she is confident and sassy! To stand unmovingly for who you are and what you believe is truly what makes you fierce, not some snappy-though hilarious-comebacks you have to insults.
    Allie
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 10:27 am
    A fierce woman is strong and determined. Regardless if you're naturally quiet or outgoing, a fierce woman depends on God, and is determined to overcome any obsticle with His help. I don't think it has to do with personality (a woman can be 'quiet' or 'soft' or shy while still being fierce) so much as it has to do with having the will and determination to follow God, no matter what.
    Kirstin
    I want to be a fierce a woman.
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 10:59 am
    A fierce woman has a strong backbone. She has the ability to be filled by her spiritual life and not need the things of this world to fill her. She gleams with the light of Christ within her and shows that light off to the world in a bold way. A fierce woman's confidence and ability to know what she stands for comes off as attractive to most people around her. The only hold up? A fierce girl must watch how she presents her confidence and opinions. There are some people who will be rubbed the wrong way or put off by it. I think that especially as a college student, being a fierce Christian woman is a sure-fire way to hold your own and stand by your morals. It will help you keep the straight and narrow as you transition into the independence of adulthood.
    Christina
    A Fierce Woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 11:08 am
    is...someone who speaks their mind and doesn't care who they are talking to. If they have a thought, they will speak it.


    I had this problem a long while ago, until i started watching myelf, i keep myself in check. I'm more of the meek and loving, joyful, humble person. I used to be ok with being fierce, but I'm the woman the one that is not suppose to be in charge. I prayed, and God worked on my heart, I have changed immensley and am not as fierce as i used to be. Maybe I am wrong, but that is how i look at it.
    Rose
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 11:08 am
    A fierce woman is filled with strength, has confidence in herself as well as the Holy Spirit.

    I have been struggling to figure out the difference between "fierce" and "down-right rude".. I cannot wait to read tomorrows post!
    Grace
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 11:26 am
    A fierce woman is opinionated and confident of her true identity in Christ, resulting in a guarded discipline over her own will and expression.
    Kayla
    A feirce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 11:50 am
    A fierce woman is eager to defy the expectations of a woman in this twisted society. She knows that women are uniquely made and can serve a purpose that men cannot. She is not a doormat, timid or fearful, desperate or needy. She knows that she is complete in Christ and she enthusiastically goes out into the world and confidently carries out God’s will for her. She knows that a fierce woman is NOT the same as a man, in fact they are completely different. She is not fearful and does not hide her true self from the people around her. She doesn’t care what they think a woman should be, she cares about the woman God made her to be.

    With all that said, I think There is a fierce woman in me, but I am often afraid to be that woman, because I try so hard to be that soft and timid lady that I’ve heard women are supposed to be. That’s why this post intrigued me and that’s why I really want to read this book now!
    Shanni
    FIERCE!
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 11:55 am
    A fierce woman is wearing the full armor of God to exstinguish the fiery darts of the enemy, baby!!!

    "Blessed is she whose strength is the Lord!" (from psalm 83 or 84 i think.)
    just me
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 12:20 pm
    A fierce woman is someone who harbors God-given inner strength and stands with humble confidence.

    A fierce woman realizes being God's servant is a privilege, not a weakness.
    Blue
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 12:32 pm
    I agree with Karis =\ ... I didn't want to be a pot-stirrer, but I think fierce or feisty are words that can be inter-changed with "catty" . I would love to think that a guy much more prefers sweetness and kindness and an effort to not put others off.
    Last Edit: on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 1:12pm by cgaul  
    BryAna
    Fierce woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 12:44 pm
    A fierce woman is not fierce at all.. She clings to the One who is fierce and all powerful, bestowing mercy and grace, as she has recieved mercy and grace from God. She stands on the stable Rock that is Christ.
    Kathryn
    A Fierce Women Is..
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 12:45 pm
    A Fierce Women is one who is living her life completly and fully for Jesus Christ! And doing this not out of her own strength but compleltly from the strengh of God who lives in her. She is constantly reading God's Word and prayer is continual throughout the day and night. Her Love is genuine, and she hates all evil. She has the love of 1 Corinthians 13 and the strength of the Proverbs 31 woman. She has put on the whole Armor of God so that she is able to stand Against all evil. She is confident not in herself, but in her Saviour. She has exchanged her former self confidence for a confidence in Christ. For she knows and understands that its nothing in her but it is all Jesus' and His work in her life. She has the peace that passeth all understanding and has a gentle and quiet spirit . She pours out her life for those around her, and each day she is striving to be more like Jesus. And through the trials and ups and downs of life she trusts her Saviour to bring her through .For God is her helper and He upholds her life.
    Autumn
    A Fierce Woman Is..
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 1:58 pm
    A fierce woman is someone who isn't afraid to let God work in her life. She is brave in the face of danger, she's always up for a challenge, and she won't let anyone but God (and her parents, depending on her age) tell her what to do. She doesn't stress out about her appearance because she knows God sees her inward beauty, and that is what pleases Him. A fierce woman isn't who she is to attract men. She is who she is because she is a warrior princess of the King. She is fully protected with the Armor of God, and that is what makes her fierce.
    Kathryn
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 3:06 pm
    A true believer in God. She's always brave and asks God to help her in tough situations. and she isn't scared to say what she thinks!
    Nina
    Fierce women
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 3:14 pm
    A fierce women is a real go getter and isn't afraid to stand down when it come to God! She never lets anyone offend her faith and she makes sure they are put in there place if they question her life with God :)
    Amy
    A fierce woman is....
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 3:48 pm
    passionate, straight-forward and loves God. She is counter-cultural and strong, and she is not afraid of man, but her strength comes from her fear of the Lord. She will always strive to please Him first.
    Alanna Singer
    What is a fierce woman?
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 3:59 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman like Esther from the Bible. She was willing to give her life for her people and for God. (Esther 4:16)
    A woman who sacrifices everything that she is in order to defend her Savior and King. Who in any situation will be willing to admit her faith, even unto death. This woman is also a Proverbs 31 woman. She "opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy" (v20)

    "Strength and dignity are her clothing" (v25)

    "She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue" (v26)

    How many women do you know that have any one of these qualities? In the world today femininity is not valued as it should be. Because of this, a girl who is soft spoken yet bold in the truth is the one I would call fierce. It is far greater a challenge to be this way, than to conform to the norm of girls in today's culture.

    Finally, verse 30... "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."

    A woman who fears the Lord. Now that!!! Is FIERCE.
    Laurie
    A Fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 4:01 pm
    one who loves the Lord with all heart, soul, and mind and will not be swayed...not because she is self-sufficient but because she knows she can only do it with the power of God.
    Cherie
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 4:11 pm
    ...one who prioritizes her daily personal time in communication with the Lord. The strength, love and joy with which He fills her heart during their time together overflows to those around her. Her fierceness is not from her own wisdom & strength, but His when she gives Him his rightful place on the throne of her heart. Her fierceness comes from her humble submission to His Lordship.
    Marilyn Burns
    A Fierce woman
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 4:12 pm
    A fierce woman isn't afraid to stand for the truth, and when the truth needs to be spoken, she can speak the truth in love.
    Anonoymous 101
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 4:41 pm
    Hi Kimberly!!!

    Thank-you so much!!
    Actually, funny story I'm actually praying about a friend I re-met after not even speaking to him for nearly seven years!! Long story!

    But I believe a fierce women is like Esther! Whose kind, caring, loving, compassionate, who is bold and fears the LORD and falls down at the king's feet to save her people from the enemy's hand!!
    Rachel M.
    A Fierce Woman Is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 5:06 pm
    I believe that a fierce woman is a woman who is not afraid to show her passion for her Savior through her words and actions. Sometimes she comes on strong, but her words are truly filled with the Holy Spirit, and she finds her confidence in Him.
    Lana10
    a fierce woman...?
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 5:18 pm
    hmm... when I think of 'a feirce woman',
    I think of a woman as someone who is not catty, but rather who doesn't laugh mockingly or gossip about others. She is not snobbish or haughty, but genuine. She checks her words before she speaks. She is sensitive, not to her own feelings (although she can feel) but to other's. She is not afraid to show her feelings if they are okay to show. She is not afraid to be open and needy, but doesn't want to draw attention either. Rather than worrying about being popular, she seeks the "outcasts" to befriend. She does not care about what others may think of her, but rather what God thinks. She is kind to others and has a radiant spirit. She does, however, have a good sense of humor and is far from boring. She uses her talents and shares them willingly. She is not afraid to have opinions and let others know quietly, but she doesn't force them on others or act as though other's ideas or opinions are stupid, either. She loves children and dresses attractively, though not to attract guys.
    Crystal
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 5:24 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman who believes & lives out the promises of her Lord Jesus.
    Chocolate
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 5:27 pm
    A fierce woman is a warrior for Christ. She knows who she is IN HIM. She is not afraid to stir people up to the Lord, and yet she gives a soft answer to turn away anger. She knows her purpose and identity in Christ. She is the kind of woman I want to be like
    kk
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 6:40 pm
    A fierce woman is one who knows who she is in God, how He wants her to showcase His glory, and isn't afraid to do it!
    Jennifer
    A Fierce Woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 6:43 pm
    One puts her relationship with the Lord first, who seeks to bring others to Him, who is not afraid to serve in non-glamorous positions, content to not be in the lime-light but if she must be, is not haughty or prideful, she is meek and gentle but can be a momma-bear if her cubs need protecting!
    gracefulklutz
    A fierce woman is...
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 6:58 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman who remains gracious but does not allow herself to be trampled upon. She demands respect, but also gives it, and she shows determination in her tasks. She is approachable but not gullible. She is not affected by flirting and does not engage in it herself; she prefers genuineness and straight answers. She finds her strength in God, and shows God to the world. A fierce woman is able to stand her ground in challenging situations without being weakened. Above all, a fierce woman is fierce about her God, her convictions, and her beliefs.
    Mary
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:15 pm
    a fierce women stands up for what is right. she stands up for Jesus and gives the truth in love.she's strong and courageous. she is diligent and wise. she is more concerned about her inner beauty then her outward looks. she isn't the flirt, she waits for the right guy to come along. her relationship with Christ is very important to her and means more to her then having a boyfriend.she doesn't put others down, she always builds them up.she's thoughtful and tenderhearted. she truly a women after God's own heart, i truly hope i can become like that someday.
    Holly C.
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 8:58 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman that has a fierce love and warrior heart for the things of God. She doesn't lord it over men, or other people, but she gets angered by the things that anger her God and stands up for His truth.
    Jwl
    Re:
    on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 at 9:51 pm
    When I see "Fierce Woman" in the good sense, I think - warrior. Warrior as in prayer warrior and a warrior fighting for freedom from sin and Satan and against the evil that is present. I love the idea of being a warrior princess. A daughter of the King of kings.
    JayJay
    A fierce woman is
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 1:54 am
    I think a fierce woman is one who knows her ability to be fierce, and make things happen, but has learned and continuously learning, the benefit to taper herself (repent of sinful nature) with self-control (really God's-control) in humility, by His spirit, and marvel at and be thankful for and grow in the "truth and gracious" fierce character of God in every situation.
    Dawn Marie
    A Fierce Woman
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 3:37 am
    A fierce woman is a woman whho has found that God meets every need and every desire as the true lover of her soul.
    It makes her strong because she doesn't look to other people to meet her spiritual and emotional needs. She goes to Him. And it makes it possible for her to endure overwhelming hardship and seemingly unsumountable odds. She knows. She has a secret. The secret is that God is her everything, and nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING this life has to offer can even compare! And NOTHING this life can throw at her will shake her from the knowlege that she is His.
    A woman can do spiritual battle every day knowing she is with the Winner.
    Sarah
    ?
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:53 am
    Is a fierce woman sarcastic or just good with fast comebacks? I guess that's what I would think of first :).
    Emily
    A Fierce Woman...
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 12:15 pm
    A fierce woman isn't afraid to speak the Truth even she knows there will be opposition. She stands up for what she knows is right, even when she's scared to death. She says what's on her mind, but in a graceful, gentle, God-honoring manner.
    Emily
    And by the way...
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 12:16 pm
    Oh! And by the way, dear ladies! I've started up my own little blog and would be simply thrilled if y'all would stop by! walkingonsonshine12.blogspot.com. :)
    cece
    Re:
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 12:20 pm
    Thanks so much for posting this!!!!! I'm reading a little of the book on Amazon!! It's REALLY GOOD!
    Kate
    Re: What is a fierce woman?
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 1:14 pm
    A fierce Woman is strong and bold, yet compassionate at the same time.
    She will not think about silly feelings, when it comes to correcting crime.
    There is love in her voice, when she rectifies sin.
    For in her heart, the truth rules and holiness resonates within.
    A fierce woman stands tall, as a warrior of the One.
    Yet, humbly, she knows, it is not of her strength, but of the Son.
    She seeks Him faithfully and tries to please Him daily.
    Such a woman is rarely found, but in every single one of us, a quiet battle cry resounds.
    So listen, dear ones, listen to the One who loves all,
    for He will pick up even the strongest warriors who fall.

    ~Blessings, Kate
    Squeaks
    A fierce woman is.......
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 2:48 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman who is strong enough in Christ to live for Him, strong enough to finish the race He has chosen for her (2 Timothy 4:7), and strong enough to be a woman who lives out her call to femininity. Because being called to Biblical femininity is not easy. It is hard to lay down our own desires and live for Christ. It is hard to submit to authority placed over us. And for those of us who will one day marry, there will be times where it is hard to submit to our husbands. But we must be fierce enough and strong enough in Christ to do just that. We must be able to fiercely defend our faith and yet temper that fierceness with love to try to win many souls for Christ. A fierce woman loves her Lord with all her heart, mind, and soul. And she does so fiercely.
    Alyssa
    Fierce Woman
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 3:56 pm
    A fierce woman is a woman who seeks God with all her heart, soul, and mind. She'll never give up her faith in Him for anything! She remains strong in the Word and consistently keeps up with her promises and faithfulness towards God and others. She remains to be a fierce woman and is kind to everyone. She is a light for Christ, and others can see Him through her!
    Lacey
    A FIERCE WOMAN IS...
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 6:46 pm
    A fierce woman is... A woman who bodily and unabashedly knows who she is in Christ. A woman who knows when to play the background and is not needing attention, as well as for standing up when God puts in it on her heart and she does not back down , and is not shaken in her faith and confidence in Christ Jesus. A woman who is quick to listen yet slow to speak , for she chooses her words wisely. A fierce woman is not tempted by every handsome guy she sees, for that is not her interest, her interest is put into Christ and she is not seeking a man, so when guys tempt her she can bodily stand back and say no for she belongs to Christ. And A Fierce Woman knows her life is in Christ hands, for if its Gods will for her to get married, God will provide, but she knows that she is to be consumed and so in Love with God before he is out in to her life. And A Fierce woman is to so in Love with Christ, that A man has to seek Christ in order to find her.... thank you for your time for reading my response, I'm very blessed, to be receiving these articles, and go on your website. It sure helps my walk with Christ. By the way my Name is Lacey Alexus Olson, and I'm 16 years old, love to hear back from you. God Blesssss.
    Lacey
    A FIERCE WOMAN IS...
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 6:54 pm
    A fierce woman is... A woman who bodily and unabashedly knows who she is in Christ. A woman who knows when to play the background and is not needing attention, as well as for standing up when God puts it on her heart and she does not back down , and is not shaken in her faith and confidence in Christ Jesus. A woman who is quick to listen yet slow to speak , for she chooses her words wisely. A fierce woman is not tempted by every handsome guy she sees, for that is not her interest, her interest is put into Christ and she is not seeking a man, so when guys tempt her she can bodily stand back and say no for she belongs to Christ. And A Fierce Woman knows her life is in Christ hands, for if it`s Gods will for her to get married, God will provide, but she knows that she is to be consumed and so in Love with God before he is put in to her life. And A Fierce woman is to so in Love with Christ, that A man has to seek Christ in order to find her....
    #sorry, i messed up a few words on the other post so i fixed it :) Thankyou again. God Bless.
    Janice
    Re:
    on Thursday, September 13, 2012 at 9:22 pm
    To me, a fierce woman is one who can love with an unconditional love and fiercely too. Someone who stands up for the broken hearted and refuses to back down even when the world is against her :) And of course! Someone who knows how they are in Christ.

    I guess these are the things I aim for too.
    victoria
    good point Jancie :]
    on Friday, September 14, 2012 at 5:35 pm
    Silvia
    A firce woman is
    on Friday, September 14, 2012 at 8:07 pm
    A fierce woman is a person who's not afraid to be a leader, still humble, a person who know what's to stand alone for her belief's, a person who's heart is seeking a mayor purpose, the purpose that God has prepared for her , since the beginning of times
    A fierce woman is a godly woman
    A fierce woman is the one who's not afraid to live with high standards knowing that God has everything already planned,
    a woman who will not settle for less than what's God has prepared
    candy
    Re:
    on Sunday, September 16, 2012 at 12:22 am
    A fierce woman is...kind yet straight forward, gentle yet strong. She is one who loves the Lord with all she has and is always ready to "fight down" the enemy.
    Hanna
    problem with this post
    on Sunday, September 16, 2012 at 12:14 pm
    This article makes it sound like you should be "fierce" because it will attract men and please your future husband; I don't know if that was the authors intention. My point is, you shouldn't pretend to be "fierce" because you think it will be attractive. You should be fierce and strong and confident because that's what you are, whether people like it or not. If you don't have a feisty personality than you really shouldn't fabricate one. Be confident in who you are and not in pretending to be someone else.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Sarah...
    on Sunday, September 16, 2012 at 9:21 pm
    Look at this definition by the author in the next post:

    "She's plunged in fully to the forgiveness and love of Christ, and He holds her heart so completely that she's reached true contentment. Her identity is forged through abiding in Him, and her courage is displayed by her commitment to Him and His cause. He is her driving motivation and propels her by the wind of His Spirit. Her passion is stoked by His fire. She is no 'halfhearted creature' but is drinking deeply of Him and experiencing infinite joy."

    Though Kimberly gave a "quick" answer the first time, the "fierceness" is a woman fully committed to Christ who finds her sufficiency in Him. Sarcasm wouldn't be becoming to this type of woman.

    Blessings to you!
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Hanna...
    on Sunday, September 16, 2012 at 9:25 pm
    The definition of a "fierce" woman found in the book will be a help to you to see the author's heart and intent:

    "Why is fierceness in women appealing to men? I think they like a challenge. They admire the strength, courage, loyalty, and determination of a fierce woman. They like spunk and passion. Fierce women don't grovel for their attention and aren't desperate for a man to meet their deepest needs. Men admire a woman who doesn't depend solely on them for their identity or happiness.

    The truly beautifully fierce woman has an otherworldly strength derived from a source beyond herself. She's plunged in fully to the forgiveness and love of Christ, and He holds her heart so completely that she's reached true contentment. Her identity is forged through abiding in Him, and her courage is displayed by her commitment to Him and His cause. He is her driving motivation and propels her by the wind of His Spirit. Her passion is stoked by His fire. She is no "halfhearted creature" but is drinking deeply of Him and experiencing infinite joy."
    (Fierce Women, 19–20)

    Thanks for your comments.
    Erin Davis
    Winners Announced
    on Monday, September 17, 2012 at 3:53 pm
    Great answers, girls!

    They're all good, but here are my three favorites. They each win a free copy of "Fierce Women" by Kimberly Wagner.

    1. Mackenna

    She says that a fierce woman is in tune with the Holy Spirit. Amen!

    2. Kirsten

    Kirsten says that fierce woman is filled up by her spiritual life and doesn't need the things of this world. That is fierce!

    3. Lacey

    Lacy wrote, "A fierce woman is so in love with Christ that a man has to seek Christ in order to find her." Love that!

    Girls, watch your inbox for an email from me asking for your shipping information.

    Everyone else...keep watching the blog. You never know when we will send free stuff your way!

    Erin Davis
    Elyse Karsik
    A fierce woman
    on Wednesday, September 19, 2012 at 8:36 am
    A Fierce woman is... A Proverbs 31 woman. A woman who knows that charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but she who fears the Lord will be praised. Her identity and who she is as a woman is found in the creator of all things. She knows that the only one who can truly satisfy her heart is the One who made it. Jesus.

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