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Lacey Olson
Thank You.
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 1:41 am
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I wanna start off by saying THANK YOU. Thank You for taking your time to write this beautiful / inspiring message . I totally agree that The purity ring we place on our finger is a representative of the Gospel... To be honest this message has opened my eyes up and allowed me to understand on a deeper level that its not just about being pure in some areas of your life, its bout living pure and living out the Gospel. And I'm Blessed that you have mentioned the Bride Of Christ... to be honest i have been reading the Bible and truly trying to seek the Truth, and God keeps showing me over and over again the truth. To get a little deeper, I've had someone tell me that they believe the Bride Of Christ is just one female , and The church His Body is not the Bride of Christ, and God has made it clear that we are His Bride.

And to talk about the purity ring i wear on my finger.... I am 16, my birthday was in August and last year on my birthday my best friend gave me a purity ring because of God saving me and changing my life / thoughts around and me wanting a change... God sure is Blessing me with keeping myself Pure, in all aspects, i will admit it can be hard, but not too hard because i am not alone for God is my strength that gets me through it. Thank You for your time, God Bless.
Janine
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 2:45 am
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I don't wear a purity ring simply because I don't have one. (But I want one XD) But I do have a commitment to wait until I finish school before I enter into a romantic relationship with a guy. And also the commitment to stay sexually pure before, during, and after my marriage. :D
Sara
A reminder
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 3:58 am
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My parents gave me a purity ring for my 16th birthday and I totally agree that it's a statement that God's pure and that it shows the gospel; I've been asked several times why I'm wearing it (I've even been asked if I'm engaged) and I've been able to share that it's an outward showing of my commitment to God to stay pure. I think the ring is also very valuable in that it's a physical reminder that I'm constantly aware of. I am always playing with my ring, and it's my hope that if I ever get in a riskay situation that I'll feel it on my finger and remember my promise. It's also a reminder to me of my Daddy's love for me. He has my best interests at heart and he'll watch out for me, especially when it comes to the world of boys, which he knows much more about than I do. Just thought I'd share my insights regarding purity rings :)
Jemma
Need?
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 5:49 am
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I made a commitment to God and myself to save myself for marriage but I don't have a purity ring. I have a friend who does and for her it's really important and she's suggested that I get one. I just want to ask if its really that important to get one or if its a personal choice. For her she says that it represents her promise and I fully understand and respect that, but I don't feel the need to get one. I feel that I don't need a ring to make my promise real. What do you think?
Chey
:-)
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 6:50 am
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My entire church did a purity service for our youth group! I am a proud owner of a purity ring. Through that I was able to get some other girls at my school to make the same vow. It such a wonderful ministry! I encourage anyone who doesn't have one to take a vow before God and honor him by following Him in purity! :-)
Thanks for the post...
Esther Falcetta
Purity rings...
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 6:55 am
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When our daughter turned 13, we gave her a ring that has a cross, a key and a heart woven together. It's rather tiny, so people often look closely at that ring. She's had many conversations with friends (Christian and non-Christian), and had the opportunity to share the saving love of Christ. We also began intentionally discussing with her the 'truth' about purity...that putting Christ first will give her strength to remain pure (body, mind, spirit/heart). We've read books by amazing Christian authors and have continued to encourage her to guard her heart and mind. She's not perfect (we have ongoing debates about what's appropriate for Christian kids to listen to and watch; regular reminders that her outward attitude is a reflection of her 'heart'...typical teen stuff)...but we are seeing positive progress as she 'owns' her personal faith. I think these outward 'reminders' can provide encouragement and reinforcement for our kids. I 100% agree with Brad's perspective on what a purity ring should NOT be...and also what it CAN be. In our community, a lot of kids seem to wear purity rings as part of a 'fad'. Sadly, their real-life choices don't reflect that circle of metal that sits on their fingers. Our daughter's ring represents her faith in Christ (cross), her choice to let Christ hold the key to her heart & mind (key), and the love that she has for her Savior (heart). Eventually, we pray that the Lord will lead her to a Godly guy that will protect, provide and help her to continue to grow in her relationship with Christ. Even then, we hope she will always keep Christ as her 'first love'!
Nina
Purity ring
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 8:42 am
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When I turned 12 I remember me and my dad siting down at a restraunt and him giving me my purity ring :) usually when people ask me what it is I tell them it's a promise to God and the ask what promise? And that's when I tell them what it's all about :) this is one way I help share the gospel with others because one question usually leads to another and soon enough your talking about Jesus and the Bible :)
Marie Sumo
Purity Ring
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 8:47 am
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Thank you sooo much for this. I have a purity ring and people always asking me if im marry to Jesus. Sometimes it get tired of them asking,but im always telling them that it's a commitment between God and myself to stay pure in all area especially sexually. It's hard to stay pure,but God has been very good and helpful,bringing people in my life that helping me stay faithful to God at all times. Thank you for this reminder that we showing the gospel about Jesus by wearing our rings.
Christina
Evangelist Shettler
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 8:58 am
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I go to camp every summer in North Carolina, and last year the preacher was Evangelist Jim Shettler. He talked about dating, and things around that area. We had found out that he was having a Purity Conference in January, yes it was a drive, but so worth it! We talked to my youth pastor, who then we found out he was going to a different church. We got a new youth pastor a few months after, and we still wanted to go to the Conference, we were not giving up the idea. So we asked him, and we went. This was an all day thing for us, it was amazing! They had different areas: some for guys and girls, some for just girls, and some for just guys. I went to the one for just girls (they talked about beauty), and there was one that everyone had to attend at least once during the day. That one talked about purity and a lot more, it was an all day Conference. This was amazing, yes i had already self conciously made the decision to stay pure, but this time i really put it into thought. The next day i went in front of my church and told my pastor and he told everyone that i made the promise to God to stay pure: for God, for my future husband, and for myself. That day after church I got a purity ring!
Christina
Re: Evangelist Shettler
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 8:59 am
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I meant after we got out of church I got my purity ring
Bethany Ann
Purity Rings
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 9:08 am
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I believe that wearing a purity ring ( i don't have one but want to get one) will help you IF you are faced with a temptation, you can feel /see the ring and remember your promise.
Mary
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 9:18 am
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I have a purity ring and i've had it since i was around ten.I love it when people ask me about it cuz then i can tell them why i where it and how they can make a commitment to purity. :)
Kala N.
Wow.
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 9:26 am
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I had just taken my ring off last night because I decided I didn't want to get married if all men were like my dad so what was the point of still wearing one if I wasn't going toget involved anyway? But this post has changed my mind! I'm still going to remain physically pure but I'm going to look at my ring with a different purpose in mind! Thanks!

~Kala
Meg
Purity but no ring
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 9:58 am
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I am committed to purity, but I don't see the point of wearing a ring for it. I feel like it might be similar to fasting without telling anyone: you're not suppose to share with everyone that your fasting, but to "put oil on your face", so why should we show outward signs in this?
Mary
confused!!!!
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 10:38 am
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ok i know this has NOTHING to do with purity rings but i have a problem and i need help!! so i'm going to this co-op thing every friday [it's sorta like classes for home-schoolers]and there's a few guys that like me right now and i sorta like them. There's this one guy i've been talking to alot and all the mothers and our friends are talking about it!! i mean why do they have to make a big deal? We're only 13!nothing is gonna happen between us! I never thought grown women would go around gossiping about me. It really hurts to think that they don't trust me.And we might even get in trouble because of it! Why is it such a big deal? We've been friends for years. And what should i do?Cuz this is really hurting me and i can't get my mind of it!
Danni
purity rings
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 10:50 am
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I wear one, but it's not one of those "true love waits" rings. When I was little, that's what I though purity meant, until I started digging through the bible. So the purity ring I have is very plane with Ps 51:10 engraved on it as a reminder to me that God want's me to remain pure in all things, not just relationships. I also had a friend of mine this summer share with me that the guy she was dating left her as soon as she got a purity ring. Putting that in perspective, wearing a purity ring can also save a girl from a lot of hurt from a guy who doesn't really care about the relationship, but just what he can get from it.
Christina
Re: Mary and Kala N.
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 11:22 am
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Kala N. remember that it if it is God's will you need to follow Him, you shouldn't do what you want. I do not know how your father is, but I do know how my father is. Mine is unsaved, a guy that disowned me and has nothing to do with me. My grandfather has a good heart truly, but he never shows it. He just fights with my grandma and some other stuff that isn't like abuse, but i still don't like it. Then my mom's boy friends are never good. If i were looking at them, i would have given up on guys a long time ago. The thing is, i do have other guys and families at my church that care about me and are important to me, i see the other side but didn't always. There are still good guys, don't give up. Don't go searching, and who knows maybe you are suppose to be single, but if it His will and He brings someone to you then don't rebel. If we have another half, God does have the right ones already picked out for us and there is no doubt that guy is the right one, but remember he can sometimes disappoint you, but everyone can. We're all human! The only one that is perfect is God:)

Mary: I have been through the same, stay friends, at your age don't worry about guys yet, you have so much ahead of you! God has a perfect will for us, follow that path. I know it's hard, but do try your best to ignore that or talk about it in a gentle way and kindly tell them it is hurting your feelings. Do remember that you should never be alone with a guy unless your married to him, and don't touch. The slightest touch will spark a fire, and then more can happen. Just like no kissing or hugging until your married, it will lead to temptation and you will end up going farther than you want to happen. That is advice for now and for the future since you are entering the teen years.
Blue
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 12:05 pm
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When I became a Christian, I committed myself to purity, and the only reason I got a ring was because I wanted an excuse to wear a pretty ring! I ended up losing it after like a week lol And now I don't wear one because 1) I'll just lose it again lol, 2) I don't feel like the ring makes me any more pure than I am already trying to be, 3) I feel like it's a mark of pride for me.., 4) my family will think I'm stupid for wearing a purity ring, and 5) I don't want guys to think I'm taken b/c then I'll never get married =X

**Epiphany! I was just thinking.. Yesterday at work this guy was flirting suggestively with me, and even though I was flattered at the time and enjoyed the attention, I felt kinda cheap and guilty after he left.. Maybe if I was wearing a ring, he wouldn't have bothered me, at all. That's something to think about.. I still probably won't wear one though b/c I don't want my family to think I'm a total weirdo, and I don't want to be single forever.
Jennifer
Purity Locket :)
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 12:24 pm
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My mom gave me a purity ring when I was 11. Its now probably sitting at the bottom of a lake because I dropped it. I bought another one at a garage sale and now its at a hotel in northern MN because I forgot it there. After being SUPER frustrated. my grandma gave me an empty locket that was my great aunts so who knows how old it is. I took this locket and printed out a message in tiny font and glued it inside my locket. Now it says on one side: PURITY and on the other side it says "You are worth the wait" I wear necklaces so often that this will be very hard to lose :)
Mary
Re:Blue
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 12:33 pm
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Wearing a purity ring reminds us to stay pure, it isn't prideful to wear one.And even if your family thinks your stupid [which they shouldn't] it's worth it because it's what you stand for. and wearing a purity ring doesn't mean your taken,it's just a reminder. I wear my purity ring all the time and guys still flirt with me and wearing a purity ring doesn't make you stay single for the rest of your life.Guys like girls who stand for something.They don't want some girl who just gives her self away,they want a girl who's saving herself for her future husband.
L
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 12:34 pm
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Hi there, thanks for the great post. I'm committed to purity, but, like Meg, I don't see the point of wearing a ring for it. In my opinion, it doesn't matter if you got the ring or not, but it's actually on your commitment to purity itself, commitment to follow God's standards :)
EmilyJ
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 12:50 pm
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I have a purity ring. My parents gave it to me when I turned thirteen. At the time I was just like "okay whatever...." It was a tradition in my house. Both my older brothers had gotton one. I got one too.
But since then it was become wayyy more important to me. And for me, it doesn't just simbolize staying sexually pure (although that is extremely important to me)....but pure in my mind and heart as well. Psalm 51:10 is engraved on it. "create in me a clean heart O God...."
It's really hard for me sometimes to try and keep my mind and heart clean. I might reaalllyyyyy wanna listen to that catchy new song on the radio, (with the terrible, worldly "stay-with-you-tonight kinda message) but should I? No. Garbage in, garbage out.
And there are many other examples.
So anyway, I've put a lot of thought into my purity ring......and I think I might continue to wear even after I'm married. The world doesn't suddenly become sunshine and daisies, a "happily ever after" kind of fairy tale when you say "I do".
There will still be lots of worldly temptations and garbage trying to get in my mind and heart. My battle for purity won't end until I'm in Heaven.
So.... yeah. Just something I've been thinking about.

P.s. an awesome book about purity that I read is Every Young Womans Battle. I don't remember who wrote it on the top of my head, but I do know its on the reading list here. (:
Rebecca
Purity Rings
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 1:07 pm
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I have a purity ring--it was given to me for my thirteenth birthday. It has also been called a "promise ring," which shows why I wear mine. I wear my ring to symbolize the promise I have made to God, my dad, and my future husband that I will save myself for my husband--physically and emotionally. I think it is important to save my heart for my husband as well as my body. I also like wearing it because people ask me about it, and I can tell them about the Gospel, how God is pure, and how God requires his bride to be pure. Thank you for this post. :)
Anonomous 101
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 2:28 pm
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THANK-YOU!!!

Thank-you so much!!! Yes, I do! I still believe in the value of purity, in many ways, such as how we dress modestly, speak and interact with men, how we represent God to others, and represent the kingdom of God!

I was just curious, random question but based upon purity which is on my highest list, is it ok to have a "check-list," as in what you what you want in a guy? :) Or, would we miss out on the richness that God has someone for us that is totally different? Also, I was curious, what if God dropped someone in your life after not talking to him for seven years?


Totally Random Question:
And opening the doors for me to heal and talking to him ever-so often how do you know if God is in this new small friendship?

Do guys watch for girls who have care more about purity, and in speech then other things? And how do you know something is from God or not?

That's one of the reasons why I where mine! And also, to save myself!
hurricane
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 4:37 pm
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Re: Anonomous 101,
Dear Anonomous,
Wow, great questions! i can't answer them all but here are some thoughts I had that might help.
1. It is totally okay to have a check list of what you want in a guy. But instead of putting things like "must have red hair", or "must be over 6 feet tall", or other little preferences, make it a list of character traits that you MUST have in a husband, such as honesty, humor, hard-working, what ever it is that you know you need to have in your husband. And don't ever settle for anything less!
2. Guy's totally want a girl who is pure in how she talks and acts. IF he is a true man and some one who wants to put God first. Any guy who doesn't care if his girlfriend/wife is pure, is not worth hanging out with. True men care and notice when women act purely.
3. How to know if God is "for" your relationship with a guy.... I'd have to say this is one of the hardest things to answer, honestly, the only thing you can do is to make sure that you're always praying and asking God's will for your relationship with the guy. And when you ask God to show you his will, mean it. A while back I REALLY liked a guy and it was basically consuming my life. I would ask God to show me if it wasn't what he wanted but I didn't really mean it... I finally decided to turn my self over to the Lord and focus on him completely and i quit liking the guy! Now I like a different guy but when ever I start thinking about him to much and not focusing on God enough, I come to God and just pray and read the Bible asking him to help me focus on him. Also, pray for the guy you like... I have started doing that and it helps so much just looking at the whole thing differently. If you are able, you could even ask him if there is anything he needs prayers for. And if not, just pray for God to bless him and help with any thing he's struggling with.
I hope this helps!
Grace L
Question
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 5:47 pm
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I agree with most of this post, but I have a question: why is it bad for someone to think of their purity ring as a spiritual commitment to union with Christ?

I understand that Christ is married to the Church, but the Church is made up of individual believers. This isn't about exclusivity because God does have a personal relationship with each believer. We don't think of God as the Father of only the church as a whole entity, but He is also the Father of every believer. In the same way, we each are one with Christ, the Bridegroom, through the marriage covenant of the Lamb (Rev. 19:6-9). And together we are Christ's Church.

I think that the fight for purity is life long. After you get married to an earthly husband, you still have to be given the grace to not let the temptations of the world divide you from your spouse, right? My purity ring helps me remember that I belong to God first and that I am to be holy because He is holy (1 Peter.1:13-16), and that I should purse purity in every aspect of my life. I believe that this should still be my top priority after I enter into earthly marriage. Just a thought :)
Breaking Free
? and Reply:Kala
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 6:11 pm
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Hey, I know this is probably a really stupid question, but I really, really, really want to get a purity ring and I'm not sure where to find one. I want one with maybe a bible verse on it, and i don't have a lot of money so I can't afford a really nice one.

And Kala, I understand where you're coming from on the whole guy thing. My Dad left and I love love love my Grandpa, but he's not a Christian, I don't really know any christian boys in the school or town I just moved to, and it's kind of sad. But I'm really glad to hear that you haven't given up hope, and I'll try to do the same. It was really encouraging to hear that someone else was struggling with the same thing I was, and made the right decision.
Brittany
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 6:11 pm
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I liked the post. I don't have a purity ring, but always wanted one. Where can you get them?
Elisabeth
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 6:59 pm
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Thank you so much for sharing this message with us! It's always good to get a guy's opinion on stuff like this.

For Brittany: I ordered mine online, you can find some nice ones if you google them.
C
Re: Mary/Blue
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 7:08 pm
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I think Blue meant that for her personally the ring gave her a sense of pride, like "Look how good I am, I have a purity ring, go me, I'm so righteous."

I could be wrong, and if I am I'm sorry for putting words in your mouth, Blue! It's just I think that's what you meant so I wanted to clear up what you were trying to say to Mary. :)
C
Re: EmilyJ
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 7:12 pm
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Wow, girl... you have just totally inspired me! I see what you mean about the ring not just standing for SEXUAL purity to you, but purity in all areas of life. I don't have a purity ring though I have said I want one before, and what you said has encouraged me more to get one because I feel like it would help me think more about purity in ALL aspects of life. Thank you so much for sharing! xoxo :) <3
Anonoymous-101
Thank-you Hurricane!! And on the road to freedom!
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 10:39 pm
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Hi hurricane!!
Thank-you you really encouraged me! I often have so much doubt! But your post truly encourage me! What did you mean by asking if this guy wanted prayer? Like ask him personally? I do know one thing, I asked him about something simple, and he totally didn't mind!

Do normal guys talk to girls one-on-one if there interested?

I know he's a believer, and I know God opened up doors for me to heal, I'm just at a complete lost like why God? Did you bring him in my life after seven years and for me to heal, and then he goes on his way?

I'm at a complete lost with that, I know one thing, purity and having the same faith, and standards is the number one things is on my "check list,". I could use prayer, I just wish God would give me a clear answer, and not give up on healing! :)

And on the idea that is someone out there for me! Sometimes, I doubt that a lot that there's no one out there for me, and with my friend, and my healing process it has caused me to turn to the LORD like never before!!!

It almost reminds me of the story of Ruth, and funny thing he is a hard-worker!!! :)
I was once obessed with a guy and realized I can't do that anymore, I started to do that again, and bam! God's like nope not this time!!! Work on healing, and it's all in God's timing!!! :)

If you have any other thoughts or advice I'd love to know!! Thank-you Hurricane!! You gave me a lot to think about!!! :)

But again the three top things on my list are: Godly man, purity, faith, and a man after God's own heart!! And (hard-worker:)

Your friend,

Anonomous 101!! :)

Thank-you!!! :)

I'll take all the advice I can get:)
Blue
Re:
on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 11:16 pm
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Thank you, C! That's exactly what I was saying. I felt a little self-righteous while I was wearing a purity ring. It's not that way for everyone, but I don't think it works out for me..
Sierra Rose
Re: Question
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 12:57 am
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I agree with you! I understand what the blogger was trying to say, however, about the fact that some girls might take the idea of being Jesus' bridegroom too far by hoarding Jesus and thinking of Him as only hers. However, I do believe that God has a special relationship with each of His daughters. We are His princesses! Isaiah 54:5 says, "For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called." I'm not a Biblical scholar, so I could be mistaken; however, it seems to me that this verse illustrates the personal relationship that each of us has with the Lord, yet He is still the God of the whole earth. He has that special, deep relationship with each one of us. I think it's just the idea that we are committed to Him and to serving Him, and to giving Him all of us (our bodies, minds, and spirits). And He adores us when we do this. It's not the exact same thing as an earthly marriage, because no man on earth can compare to the Lord of hosts. However, it mirrors it slightly. Anyhow, this is just my opinion. :)
EmilyJ
@C
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 1:28 am
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Haha, I inspired you? Cool! Your welcome!
And I hope you find a ring you really like(:
Emily
Kala.N
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 3:30 am
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Hey Kayla.N,
I just wanted to say tha although your dad may have made mistakes in the past that have really hurt you, not all men are like that. Don't completely give up on love, ok? God has someone very special out there for you who will love you and cherish you for who you are. Your dad's mistakes may have been really bad and hurtful, but everyone makes mistakes and you have to forgive him for what he has done (I know that might be really hard)

I am praying for you :)
Sofia Miryam
The Day I Lost My Purity Ring...
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 3:42 am
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... Was the day the man I have spent over 4 years praying about asked me to marry him!
Having planned for years to hand him the ring at that moment and tell him that I have kept myself pure for him, I reached for the ring and it was gone! I looked at him and we started laughing, at this point no ring was going to change anything. My commitment to God and his grace had kept me pure, and even though I will not get to give the ring to him, or show it to our future children, the joy I felt in that moment (and still feel) could not be darkened by the loss of a ring, however much I had been emotionally attached to it.

You can read my blog and part of my testimony (more will be added) at "youngwomansheart.blogspot.com".
God has called me to serve in full time ministry but "A Young Woman´s Heart" is a ministry He put on my heart a few years back. I hope and pray to see it grow as I grow with Him! Feel free to read the blog and spread it, I have a burden to reach not as many as possible, but anyone and everyone who might be in need to hear what I have to share...

Grace and peace,
Sofia Miryam
raquel
:)
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 5:08 am
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hehe.. after reading this blog, i did call to a jewelry shop near our street and ask if they have a purity ring, this weekend i will have one.. hehe!! soo excited.. thanks guys for your posts.. im encouraged.. :)
Hannah
my purity ring
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 9:53 am
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My dad has gotten all of his girls purity rings, but I discovered from quizzing other girls who have purity rings, that his kind require a lot more commitment than they usually do. My purity ring doesn't just mean that I'm going to stay sexually pure before marriage, it also means that I give my dad the power. If someone asks about me I can immediately refer them to my dad and he will make sure they're serious. If they are (like with my two older sisters) He goes through a bible study with them and talks about their lives until he is absolutely sure that they will be good for me. The guy doesn't have to be perfect, my dad just has to make sure that he isn't there for the fun of it. Then, and only then, would I be able to talk to him. I get to decide after that, unless I veto the whole thing from the beginning. :) This process, where my dad protects me from getting emotionally involved and unable to make rational decisions, is called courtship and just the knowledge that my dad is there to protect me makes me feel safer about myself and my future. So my purity ring means more than I won't have sex or a boyfriend, it means that I give my dad the power to guard my heart since I can't by myself.
Christina
RE: Breaking Free
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 10:54 am
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Try searching online, i got mine at Family Christian Book Store, but i know they have a ton of them online:)

Purity is not a tradition in my house, in fact i'm looked at as an outcast in my house because i'm pure and won't hold a guys hand or hug a guy. My family has a tradition that when they got their GED they got pregnant and dropped out of school, this is my mom, aunt, grandma, and many many generations. I'm breaking the family chain, and purity is a big deal for me:)
C
Re: Blue
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 7:14 pm
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I gotcha, girl! No prob. :)
Ashley
Purity Ring !
on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 9:19 pm
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i am a proud owner of a purity or "promise" ring. I got it when i was 15 years old at a camp I go to over the summer along with 7 other girls in the cabin I was with. This ring represented the promise I made to God and my future husband that i would stay pure until marriage. Also that i would wait for God to show me who to marry and that i would not just jump into any relationship. It is not one of those fancy rings but it is a ring that i made a promise over (the center spins). I always wear, no matter where I go and I always remember that promise I made.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
To Breaking Free
on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 3:05 pm
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You could check for a purity ring at a local Christian book store or even look on line for some. I want to assure you, friend, that there are young men out there who love the Lord with all their hearts and will cherish the woman God brings to them for marriage. Keep trusting the Lord for your future and make the choice to not give up hope!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
To Jemma
on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 3:20 pm
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The purity ring is simply a symbol, Jemma, of your promise to God and your commitment to purity. It is a physical reminder of your spiritual commitment. It is not required to have one to be pure. It is totally up to you if you want to get a purity ring or not.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
To Mary
on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 3:31 pm
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I agree with Christina and encourage you to focus on being the best friend you can be to your girlfriends right now. There is plenty of time for guys in your future and it is best to wait for God’s timing in that area so that you don’t have to work through the emotional pain that comes with relationships before you are ready.

I’m sorry you feel as if you are the object of gossip, Mary. The words of others hurt us, don’t they! I encourage you to do two things. First of all, talk to God about the pain you are experiencing because of the words of others. He is the only One that can truly heal your hurts. Second, talk to your mom about what is going on in your heart and how she would advise you to respond going forward.

Praying for you, Mary!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
To Meg
on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 3:36 pm
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I appreciate your thoughts on this, Meg. I encourage you to pray this through and follow the Lord’s leading in regards to this. The commitment to purity does not require you to have a purity ring. Some people like having a physical reminder of the promise they have made with God and their desire to be pure just as God is pure. This is a decision that needs to be between you and God.
Hannah
in a relationship with Jesus?
on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at 5:51 pm
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i love that you said that you AREN'T Jesus' girlfriend if you have a purity ring or made a commitment to staying sexually pure. I have never heard it before but it makes so much sense! Thanks!
hurricane
Re: Thank-you Hurricane!! And on the road to freedom!
on Friday, September 28, 2012 at 10:32 am
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Dear Anonoymous-101,
I am so happy I could help you! I am younger (15) and so I don't to often have the chance to help someone out! I'm so happy i could help you. Ya, ask him personally if you feel comfortable doing it. Defiantly! if there is a guy who is truly interested in you I think he would probably want to get to know you better, and there's no better way then talking to you! I totally feel for you. There was a time for me when I totally obsessed over a guy, and then later are started doing the same thing with a different guy and God was like " Wait!" You need to have me as your center! not that guy!" I hope very much that stuff works out for you and that God shows you his will! keep seeking his will girlfriend, I will be praying for you!
~hurricane
Laci
Re:Jennifer and my story
on Friday, September 28, 2012 at 7:42 pm
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First of all I want to say congrats Jennifer!! That is really clever and means just as much to you as a ring. I bought myself one last August b/c I just felt like I needed to show others that I was in a seriously committed relationship with Jesus, and It has t been off of my finger/body since August 15,2011 and I was mowing the lawn for my dad and I took it off. and I thought I had put it in my pocket when I ended up dropping it in the grass!!!! And I cried so hard because that ring was a promise to myself, God, and whoever I married someday, it also said " I will wait agreeing to stay pure because I know God loves me and His blessing is in store." whoever reads this please pray that I find it, it means a lot to me, and I know God is waiting for me to open my eyes and find it. Thanks for your prayers, and have a blessed weekend!!!! In His name, Laci
Katie Bea
Oh Yeah!
on Saturday, September 29, 2012 at 3:41 pm
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Sara, that is exactly how I have always felt! I am 16 years old and I do wear a ring. I am constantly turning it, mostly absentmindedly, and looking at it.
It forever reminds me of the promise I made and what my Father expects of me. And I don't think it's just how we act, but also what we think. It is just as important to keep our minds pure.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Brittany...
on Monday, October 1, 2012 at 6:06 pm
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Another place you might check for "purity rings" is at this link for LifeWay:
http://www.lifeway.com/n/subtype/rings and CBD: http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/cms_content?page=470623&sp=51500&kw=true_love_waits_rings&event=PPCSRC&p=1020037&cm_mmc=MSN-_-Gifts-_-jewelry-_-true%20love%20waits%20rings.

Blessings to you!
mist
Awe!
on Monday, October 1, 2012 at 7:44 pm
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I love the idea of a ring!!! I wish I had one! That would be cool to remind you of what your really doing it all for.
But in all truth..I dont think i have to worry about having one..i dont think i guy will ever find me cute!
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Laci...
on Tuesday, October 2, 2012 at 12:21 pm
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I have prayed for you and asked the Lord in His grace to help you. I have been looking for something myself this week so I know how it is to search for something important. Know I am thinking of you and asking the Lord for His grace.
Jaqylyn
Re:
on Wednesday, October 3, 2012 at 3:17 pm
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I have a question....I am engaged to a man that I know is the one that God has chosen for me, and we are careful to be pure in our actions together, however since I know that I am going to marry him it's hard to keep my mind pure; I feel physically drawn to him even when he is not around. It's not his fault; we have been completely pure in our relationship and will be until our wedding night; but it;s hard not to think about it..
Daughter of the King
re: Purity and Jaqylyn
on Thursday, October 4, 2012 at 12:52 pm
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Hey thanks for this awesome post. I got my first purity ring when i was 13. My dad took me out to a nice dinner and he even wore a tie and sports jacket.=) It was really special. Then before dessert he pulled out this tiny ring box and said what true purity is. I have never ever had a boyfriend and am 17. I will stay pure in mind, heart, and body. And Jaqylyn i may be only 17 but i think it is normal to have those feelings. When you feel like you are having those thoughts i would bring out my Bible and read the Psalms they are wonderful. And i pray that you and your future husband have a wonderful life together. Congratulations :)
Lorree, with the LYWB team
To Jaqylyn
on Thursday, October 4, 2012 at 6:57 pm
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Congratulations on your engagement, Jaqylyn! I want to assure you that it is only natural, as you get closer to your wedding, to be drawn to your fiancé physically. The closer your date gets, the stronger that battle will be. But God promises that when we are tempted He will provide a way out of that temptation for us (1 Cor. 10:13). So I encourage you to engage in the battle. Be careful in your consumption of romance novels and chick flicks right now or anything else that causes you to dwell on intimacy with your fiancé. As you fight for your purity, be careful to not be alone in a secluded area with your fiancé until after your wedding.

I also encourage you to commit Phil.4:4-8 to memory and when you struggle with your thoughts, begin to quote those verses to yourself. Whatever things are pure…..think on these things. Your fiancé is not your husband yet. So take your thoughts captive and think about things that are pure and true and honorable. God’s Word is pure, true and honorable. So memorizing Scripture is a powerful way to engage in the battle you are in. Jesus used Scripture in his battle with the devil (Lk. 4:1-13). He demonstrated the power of the Word against our enemy.

I’m praying for you, Jaqylyn. I know that by God’s grace and your obedience you can make it to the altar being totally pure in your relationship. What a beautiful way to demonstrate God’s power and honor Him!
lily
thanks
on Sunday, October 7, 2012 at 10:37 am
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thank you so much it has helped me so much by just reading this i know more about why you wear it . i do not have one but it is now in my mind and heart to pray about it and to ask god about it . again thank you so much it really has helped me so much
Rom8:28
if not?
on Monday, October 8, 2012 at 8:35 pm
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what about those who have not remained pure, but now because of God's grace, strive to do so until marriage? should we not wear the ring that was given to us by our parents at 16? while it may not have meant much to me then, but now i take the commitment to God very seriously and be pure until marriage.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Rom8:28...
on Wednesday, October 10, 2012 at 12:24 am
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Your purity ring is for YOU...I say yes, you can wear it with a new commitment to the Lord that you will from this day forward stay pure in every area of life! However, you might consider this--get a new ring, a different ring, for the new commitment so there is no reminder of condemnation (see Romans 8:1) or failure, but a constant reminder of the grace found in the Lord Jesus and your desire to honor Him because of the work He has done in your life. You can't beat that--a constant reminder of the Gospel! Pray about it and do whatever God gives you peace to do. I'm so proud of you for your commitment to God and for your taking your relationship with Him seriously. Bless you!
Rose
Re:
on Monday, October 15, 2012 at 3:34 am
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I have worn a purity ring on my right ring finger ever since I was 13 (it was a gift from my grandparents). I will be honest and say that when I was younger, I did not really keep the commitment it represented, and I wore it "just because," and it actually made me feel guilty about what I was doing. Eventually I came around and actually started to stick to that commitment and it's an everyday reminder of who I used to be, God's forgiveness, and who I am and can be now.

I also now wear a promise ring on my left ring finger from my boyfriend who I'm pre-engaged to. Its significance to me is mostly a reinforcement of the meaning of the purity ring, and that I will remain faithful to him by staying pure.

Thanks for this post!
Rachael
RE:
on Thursday, November 8, 2012 at 7:02 pm
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I don't have one but wish to someday. My boyfriends mom says they are pre-engagement rings and wont let him but me one. Is she right?
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Rachael...
on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 11:10 am
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I do know parents that feel the same as your boyfriend's mom, so that is not uncommon. They feel for the boy to give a "purity" ring it would be a "promise" ring.

A purity ring is generally a gift given to the girl by her parents or other significant adults, or can even be bought by the girl to express her commitment to purity. The purity ring is a visible reminder to the girl and a statement to any boy she dates, that she has a commitment to purity. You might consider making that purchase.

God bless you, Rachael, as you commit yourself to a pure heart which is shown through pure actions and thoughts.
SMS
Truthfully understand what it means to be "Pure"
on Tuesday, December 11, 2012 at 3:33 pm
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Hi everyone, I am finally at peace with myself which is a huge step and commitment before one can be truly pure. I am 27 years old now. It was a time in the past I tried to wear a purity ring. Didnt last because I honestly wasn't pure at heart nor had my priorities in my life in place. This is later I guess to have finally reached peace but its better late than never. I currently and finally have a great man who I do plan to someday marry. We both are strong believers in God first and both have made the commitment to save ourselves until marriage. I am so much more happier now than I honestly can remember with myself! I do wear a purity ring proudly and a friend commented and said it looks like an engagement ring. I told my boyfriend I'll wear this ring until he replaces it with a wedding ring someday. However long it takes I will continue to keep God first and be patient.. Ladies please choose to stay or be pure.. Saving yourself will keep a whole life of heartache and heartbreaks to a minimal. It is never to late! Good Luck.
Anonymous
My story
on Wednesday, February 6, 2013 at 3:57 pm
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It's been about a year since I've bought my purity ring.
What a lot of you girls on this site might not realize is that there are girls who don't have purity as an option. Girls that aren't told you can and should safe yourself for marriage.
I was one of them.
My parents were nomial Christians and all they told me as a girl was, "When you have a boyfriend, don't get pregnant."
Other Christian relatives addressed purity in a "proper" way. A Christian female relative read me "The Princess and the kiss" (my mom mocked her when I told my mom about the book).
Then when I was about 13 or so I was staying with a Christian relative (not a nomial one) and as we were watching a movie that relative said, "Those two people shouldn't be in bed together. They aren't married." At that phase in my life I was introduced to Christian radio stations, to a youth group, and to the idea that I COULD and I SHOULD safe myself for my future husband.
I already gave away my first kiss. I confessed it to God and God has helped me forgive myself.
But I didn't give away my purity and I am so THANKFUL that God told me through that relative that I could be pure.
Emma
Am I do this for the right reasons?
on Sunday, February 17, 2013 at 7:25 pm
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I'm 17, I don't have a purity ring but I've decided to make a ring that I wear everyday 1 instead. From what I understand they symbolise sexual purity but I've been having dreams (that im sure are from God) and its of when I meet a guy that then is my husband a little way down the line and he also has a ring round his neck on a chain in the dreams to show how he has also waited. My question is this: Can a purity ring also symbolise waiting for a relationship/true love?
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Emma...
on Wednesday, February 20, 2013 at 12:21 am
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Indeed, a purity ring can symbolize a pure heart waiting for a relationship where God leads in His perfect timing and purpose. God bless you for your heart to honor Him and your future husband.
Rachel
Purity
on Monday, April 22, 2013 at 5:25 pm
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I grew up in a Christian home, but my mom and I weren't close until I moved out and went to college, so she never talked to me about sexuality. My town is small, and the church I was a part of was very close-minded and did not talk about sexuality, either. I do, however, and always have had, very strong morals. When I was 18, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend at the time. He pressured me into it, but I didn't exactly stop it from happening. I was ashamed, and felt horrible about it. But continued to do it. Until about 6 months ago, my relationship with Christ was iffy- on MY part, wholly. I broke up with my boyfriend because of my faith. He wasn't a Christian, simple as that. And I was living in sin. I recently bought a purity ring, even though in the worlds eyes, I am not 'pure'. I have been forgiven from the sin I was in, and I believe that I am pure now. I have rededicated my life to Christ. I am a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:16-18). I've noticed that most of the comments made were by younger girls. But as I'm a bit older than they are, I figured I could offer my insight. Just because something happened in your past, does NOT mean it has to define your future. God bless!! :)
shania
?
on Friday, May 24, 2013 at 12:08 am
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If you have had sex, but you regret it and have decided to not do it again until marriage, is it wrong to wear a purity ring?
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@shania...
on Saturday, May 25, 2013 at 9:17 pm
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Since the purity ring is a symbol of a commitment to wait for sex until marriage, if you have made that firm commitment now, you can wear the ring. It is in the heart attitude and reason that makes it OK/not OK. Before you put on a purity ring, I encourage you to bow before the Lord and give Him your heart anew and vow to purity.

Take note of the following quote from above. Can you wear the ring as a true heart commitment to show the purity of God and a new commitment to make ALL of your boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and actions represent the purity of your Heavenly Father?

"A purity ring declares the gospel truth that God is completely pure (Prov. 30:5). Through the 'camping out' of God's Spirit in you because of faith in Jesus, you are able to reflect and represent the purity of God in your boyfriend/girlfriend relationships in physical AND emotional ways. That ring doesn't just show abstinence or morality. That ring can show the gospel."

May your life be a living testimony of the God you serve ~ a God and Savior full of grace and truth. "Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him." (Prov. 30:5)