Becoming God's True Woman . . . While I Still Have A Curfew (And A Freebie!)

Erin Davis 11/12/12 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
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Here at we always love it when we get the chance to point you toward great books, especially those that can strengthen your faith and help you infuse Becoming God's True Woman While I Still Have a CurfewGod's Word into your life. Becoming God's True Woman ... While I Sill Have a Curfew is exactly that kind of book.

I touched base with the book's co-author, Mary Kassian (you might recognize her from Girls Gone Wise) recently about the book. Her thoughts will make you want to run right out and grab your own copy. (Or if you're lucky, you'll win a free book right here on the blog!)

Check it out!

Erin: What inspired you and Susan to write Becoming God's True Woman ... While I Still Have a Curfew?

Mary: I speak to thousands of women each year at conferences, and one of the comments I often hear from them is, "I wish someone would have told me this when I was young."
Last year, I met three girls, eighteen to twenty years old, who were attending a Girls Gone Wise Bible study at a live-in recovery center in Indiana. As we talked, one girl said, "I wish I would have known what the Bible says about how to make good decisions years ago." The second girl agreed. With tears in her eyes, she asked, "Why didn't anyone tell us?" The third girl said, "I'm talking to my little sister about all this stuff. I hope you're going to write a book for girls like her, to help them learn about how to be wise, before they mess up like we did."
So when Susan Hunt called me and asked me to write some devotions geared at teens for Becoming God's True Woman ... While I Still Have a Curfew based on my Girls Gone Wise book, I jumped at the opportunity.
We live in a sexually charged culture. Nowadays, girls need to be considering what the Bible says about identity, sex, gender, sexuality, guys and girls, and male-female relationships at age eleven, twelve, thirteen, and fourteen. That stuff can't wait until your late teens. If you don't know what God teaches about these things at an early age, chances are you can make some mistakes that will really hurt you and mess you up. Virtually everything a girl encounters in her world will try to pull her way from thinking about and living out her sexuality in a healthy, God-honoring way.
Susan and I wanted to give younger teen girls the tools they need to understand God's plan for their sexuality early on—how to think right thoughts about it, how to make good decisions about it. We wanted to set them up with the right information to give them the greatest chance of being happy and successful in life. And even more, so that they might showcase the amazing wonder of the story of Jesus through the way they live.
Erin: If a girl goes to God's Word looking for answers about her design, what will she find? What is God's heart for her?

Mary: God's heart for you is that you discover who He is and that you walk in the freedom, fullness, and joy of who He created you to be. The Bible says that God gave you instructions on how to live "for your good" (Deut. 10:12–13). In God's Word, you're going to find principles that will help guide your choices. The Bible doesn't give you a checklist to follow. You're not getting get a set of specific rules, like, "it's okay to kiss at age eighteen, but not at age fourteen." The Bible doesn't contain lists like that. (And neither do our devotionals!) But the Word of God does contain important principles and guidelines that will help you know how to conduct yourself in a holy, God-honoring way. The biggest help for Christians is the presence of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is your teacher, counselor, and guide. If your heart and mind are soaked in Scripture, the Holy Spirit will help you make practical decisions based on God's principles.   
Erin: Today's girls are busy, how does God's design fit in with schoolwork, homework, sports, and friends. 

Mary: You need to realize that you aren't going to get any less busy as you get older. It just gets busier! A big part of becoming God's true woman is learning how to manage your time and how to set priorities and make good choices about how to invest it. You need to learn how to put first things first and spend your time doing things that are going to bring you the greatest benefit in the future. If you want to be successful and happy in life, have a healthy sense of self, and have all the information and skills you need to navigate guy-girl relationships, you need to know how to make that happen. And the place you're going to get that crucial input is from God's Word.
Erin: Becoming God's True Woman asks the girls to do the heavy lifting of learning God's design through journaling, prayer, and action steps. Why did you write the book this way?

Mary: The lifting isn't actually all that heavy! I think you'll have a lot of fun. The book is set up as a series of personal devotions and journaling pages that you can go through at your own pace. We wanted to have a good balance of giving you information and having you process and apply that information to your life. The best way to do that is to get YOU into the Word of God. This isn't a light, fluffy devotional. It's for girls who want to use their brains and think. We don't want to be the naggy mom telling you what to do... we want to be life coaches, helping YOU figure it out. In the first part of the book, Susan will take you back to the beginning to the story of creation, to discover how and why God created male and female. In the second part of the book, I take a look at the difference between making smart and stupid decisions—how to be wise in a world that pushes girls to be wild. We take a look at what the book of Proverbs has to say to girls about the best way to live . . . how to relate to guys, how to dress, how to keep from going boy-crazy, and a lot of other important stuff. There are also a lot of stories and comments from teens, so girls can hear from others their age that are trying to figure these things out. I think if girls knew how much this information would benefit their lives, they'd be super eager to dig in. Yeah, it will take a bit of effort, but the results will be well worth it. A great way to make the lifting fun instead of heavy is to work your way through the devotional with a girlfriend or two.
Erin: I'm sure they will read the whole book (right, girls?), but can you go ahead and give us a spoiler? How can a girl be a true woman while she still has a curfew (and math homework, and chores ...)?

Mary: The cool thing about the Bible is that it doesn't pull any punches. It tells it like it is. Good. Bad. Ugly. Heartache. Heartbreak. Everything. Here's the spoiler: A lot of the stuff you're going to learn in the second part of the devotional comes from a story in the Bible about a girl who messed up big time! The drama going on in her life would rival that of the juiciest gossip you might hear at school. It's the same kind of story you'd see on TV or read about in a glossy teen mag—except it's weighed through the lens of God's Word. The way you can be a true woman while you still have a curfew is to make the time to check it out. I know you've got some spare minutes available. You can turn off the TV or close the magazine and check out the drama in the Bible instead. Being intentional about it and making the effort is the first and most important step in becoming God's true woman.     

I'm intrigued, aren't you? I'd love to encourage each of you to grab a copy of Mary and Susan's book.

But before you dig in, I'd love to hear from you. What has God already taught you about your design as a young woman in His Word? What would you like to understand better? Leave a comment and tell me about it. I will chose five of you at random next week to receive a free copy of Becoming God's True Woman...While I Still Have a Curfew.


HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, we’re not trained counselors. If you’re seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as they’ll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 11:17 am
    Thanks so much for this post! God has been teaching me to rein in my desires and to let the young men in my life live freely; often I would get so protective of them even if I didn't like them. Kinda ridiculous. Right now though, I've been struggling with finding time for God when I don't have an issue to talk with him about. I feel like I can't just bask in his presence for the joy of spending time with him - whenever I go to him I have to talk about the shoddy stuff in my life. I really want to become a woman of God and all that, but the journey to become one is really difficult right now. Could you pray for me?
    What God is teaching me
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 11:39 am
    As a college first year, God has been teaching me to walk by faith and not by sight when it comes to guys. Instead of diving right in and trying to start a relationship, I am learning to be more patient, and to let myself be pursued by a man of God rather than chase the wrong type of guy. I have learned from God that it is better to wait for Him, and for Him to bring you the person He has made just for you. College is, however, an atmosphere filled with temptation, so it is a challenge for many to live by these type of teachings. But for me, challenge accepted.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:18 pm
    I wish I became a Christian a long time ago. I messed up pretty bad with my sexuality during high school, and I still mess up a lot lately. I don't want to waste my life. Something needs to change.
    What God is teaching me
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:19 pm
    Right now my biggest struggle is trying to find time in the word, in praying and reading my Bible. God is teaching me that I need to be putting Him first in my life no matter what the cost is.

    This book looks so amazing, thanks for telling us about it!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:36 pm
    God has taught me that my design isn't going to be like what lust over on tv. Were the women are perfect and have lives and can do what ever they want and live in fancy apartments with huge mac computers.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:40 pm
    I grew up without knowing God's word. Would love to read along with my daughters.
    Sandy C.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:41 pm
    I keep learning that I'm still learning - meaning everything I thought was simple about growing up, the things I assumed to be easy, are easier said than done. I would look forward to reading this book :)
    For the young and old
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 12:54 pm
    This post is great and the author sounds amazing. I would love to get this book and read through it with my younger sister. I'm 18 and I feel like God is calling me to a future where I minister to young girls on topics like these. The thing is, I didn't have the knowledge when I was younger either. This makes me nervous, so do you have any advice for me? I know how God can use our previous not so good situations for greatness in the future and I'm just hoping I can live up to that.
    Letting boys be boys
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 1:15 pm
    Thanks for this post!!! One thing that God showed me recently about following His good design as women is to "support your local chivalry". I used to think, "hey, I am totally capable of opening that door!" or "I can carry my own luggage" I have learned that God has designed me different from guys and that was awesome to see. I now enjoy guys opening doors and carrying things for me, and being thankful in God's good design.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 1:33 pm
    I'm not very good at putting my thoughts into words. And so I'm sure I can say what God has been teaching me (even to myself). But I've been really trying lately to listen to him, and take every thought captive.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
    God is teaching me to cling to His promises.
    So awesome!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 2:06 pm
    Isn't it so amazing how God can bring up a subject over and over again... God has really been teaching me about prayer and that it is so important to talk to him all the time, not just when you are going through a hard time. It was like the topic of prayer was everywhere! I just kept avoiding it and didn't really pay any attention to it... I was just pushing it off to the side you could say. But then at our church we had meetings and there it was again! I am so thankful that God had that preacher preach on that subject, I have been learning that God is always there for me no matter what and it is fun to talk to him. Please don't just push away the things God lays on your heart, deal with them today ask God for help! He is always there for you just like he is always there for me.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 2:09 pm
    In the last month, God has shown me an idol in my life. He is a strong Chrsitian, commited to the Lord, however, that does not mean that I had the right to engage him in my thoughts 24/7, or to even start dreaming of a future with him. The fact that I allowed this fantasy to take God's place, and replaced the joy of our intimate relationship with dreaming about this guy is obviously a sign that I am not ready yet. Not now, not next year, not the year after. Jesus showed me that in order to find the man that He has created for me, I should first be self-sufficient in my relationship with Christ, not relying on this guy's spirituality to build a family. I realized my mistake of giving this guy my heart, instead of keeping it hidden in God. I am so thankful that the Lord was gracious enough to open my eyes to see the destruction that I was headed towards. And part of it was through reading the "Guys" section on this blog. There, Paula clearly described the "symptoms" of an idol and how to get rid of it, along with the truth about being pure in thoughts and emotions. Being a godly woman is the true desire of my heart, and I will be striving towards it,.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 2:58 pm
    God is teaching me so much!!! I'm learning how to be joyful & rejoice in The Lord ALWAYS. There has been a lot of really hard stuff in my family & school & just life overall recently, & God is teaching me that while it is normal & right to be sad about it, true joy knows that I am loved & secure no matter what my circumstances are. So I'm truly just learning to be joyful even when I'm sad & not happy. God is SO good. I would like to know more about how to handle guys, however.. There's a big situation with a guy that I don't really know how to handle (but that's for a different comment some other time :P) & I'm trying to search God's word for answers & all but I have such a crazy busy life that I'm not really spending much time with Him.. & I know I need to work on that but I'd appreciate prayer about how to search for answers with an open mind & just always draw closer & closer to God <3
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 3:00 pm
    I have asked the Lord to show me what He thinks of me. I always see this girl getting ready to be married. Getting her hair done, nails done, the perfect dress, etc... For the whole day she doesn't see her soon to be husband because He is off preparing himself for her. Just as Jesus is. Now he is waiting at the altar and Just as the doors open he sees his beautiful bride. Just as Jesus is the bridegroom going to prepare to come back to the earth to marry his bride, the church, and just as the doors open that is how God sees us girls.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 3:08 pm
    God has been showing me that I am not alone in my struggles. For the longest time, I have thought I was the only one that has issues with the things I do, but that is simply not true. During a Bible study with some amazing young women, one girl mentioned that people tend to think Christians don't have to struggle with temptation, particularly sexual temptation. That hit me really hard because I realized that I was thinking I must be the only Christian in the world with these struggles. I'm not. I'm not alone.
    JAZZY 101
    My Thoughts and Thank-you!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 3:09 pm
    Thank-you so much for this!!!
    I'm 25 years old, and still struggling with healing from fear from yonder years... When I was hurt by guys when I was five.... Anyhew, I fell into the trap about believing the lie that the friend God used to bring back into my life would make everything better for me.

    Some of my own thoughts:
    However, instead God allowed him to use that door to open up a lot of pain, and instead, it's hard to be drawn back into GOD's word to have HIM heal the wounds from my past. Even though, I really like this guy a lot, he can't heal me, only God can!

    And the final point I was going to make, is funny story, I was just talking about this with some people today in class about how valuable purity was. They were surprised, but I believe at any age, purity is one thing that God commands us to strive for. No matter what age!

    And there has been a lot of tears on my end. Sometimes day and night. It's not easy, I'm grateful for God bringing my friend back into my life, but guys can't heal us, only God can, and purity is something that we all need to strive for no matter what age! :)

    I could use prayers, as God continues to heal me. Thank-you!
    I might just have to pick up the book! :)
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 3:18 pm
    This sounds like such an awesome book! Now I really want to go out and buy it! It sounds like it's hitting on a lot of the things I'm going through right now! Thanks for recommending it!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 3:33 pm
    I can't wait for the book to come out!
    For me, I've been learning my role as a women by learning to let go of my dreams and follow what God wants me to do, and make those my dreams.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Jillian
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:15 pm
    I’ve prayed for you today, Jillian! Have you ever tried writing a love letter to God – writing and telling Him what you appreciate about Him, or how you’ve seen Him work during the day, or just expressing your thankfulness to Him? You could also read a passage in Scripture and then write a letter to God telling Him 1) what you learned about Him; 2) what you learned about yourself; and 3) What you intend to do about what you read/learned. These are just a couple of ideas that help me to get out of my “spiritual rut”. I pray that as you try this, your relationship with the Lord will be revitalized.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:17 pm
    Thanks so much, and it sound like a great book that i will have to read!
    God has been working in my heart A LOT this summer/beginning of school year. I have been wrestling with God on my faith, but I know he is God and even when I disagree, He still has a great plan for me, I just need to follow. That's what God has been teaching me for the past few months.

    Kendal Barriere
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:27 pm
    Us ladies at our church love to be in discipleship relationships, and I know that this book would be a great add to a young lady and older lady group to go over.
    Erin Perry
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:35 pm
    As someone who works with troubled teen girls, it great to see resource aimed at teens and young women. I am always looking for resources that will appeal to the teens I work with, especially those that are biblically based. They need writing and examples that meets them on their level. I have read several women's books and wished that had a teen version, and someones there are and sometimes I just have to use it as is and related to the girls. I will for sure look into this book and add it to my collection. (or a free one will be great too ;) )
    Emily Elizabeth
    What He has Taught and what I hope to Learn
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:49 pm
    One of the things He has taught me is that girls are completely different then boys. And although that may seem obvious, I do a lot of theater work, and the gay population is very heavy. I am 13 and have already decided to respect but not encourage gay people. Girls were made differently then boys, and God made them different for a reason.

    And something that I wish to learn is about purity. I think that it is the right thing to wait for marriage until my first kiss. But again, I am in theater, and many roles require kissing onstage. I have been asked to kiss someone before, but I said I was not allowed and the director respected it. But I know that this will not last long. I will come to an age wherever they won't ask they will just expect.

    I think that this book would be very helpful to me.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 4:59 pm
    Nobody's life is perfect and when things go wrong, we tend to blame it on God. Right now, God is teaching me to trust Him. I've been through a lot where my dad doesn't live with me anymore but he is still around to help me. I've had to go a new church and sometimes I feel lonely because everybody has their own cliques. It's harder because I don't have a dad always around me like I'm used to. From all of this, I've learned to trust Him. He is the person I can talk to. What motivates me is psalm 30:5. I would like to learn ways to manage my time with Him because I've been so busy. I want to learn what God says about boys and dating because I'm clueless!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 5:19 pm
    I have been thinking about this subject a lot. Its been a great encouragement to see other young woman wanting to stay pure and to see woman write books to help instruct us. Thank-you so much, I can't wait to read this book. I pray that I would learn to keep my eyes focused on God in all things, especially when I want to divert them to guys.

    Thanks again...
    Thanks for the great post!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 5:32 pm
    As I look back over the last two weeks God has taught me soo much. He taught me to be I afraid even when two huge storms hit hard. He also taught me about his strength. After the hurricane hit, me and my sis went for a walk the next day. Trees, totally uprooted, littered the streets. Electrical lines hung low over the roads or even on the streets. I didn't live near the water so we didn't see flooding or water damage. In the storm damage their was still hope, the bible promises us that. :) please keep praying for recovery efforts!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 5:46 pm
    This sounds like a great book!!
    I've read Girls Gone Wise and I really like that one!

    What has God been teaching me in His word? A lot lately. These probably aren't going to be quite the answers you're looking for, but God has been showing me things lately. Not necessarily to do with my design as a woman.
    Recently I 'lost' my best friend and I've been going to God through prayer and reading His word more. He's my Healer, my Comforter, the *greatest* Friend who promises to *never* leave or forsake me. God has truly helped me through this difficult time.
    I'm learning to give my worries/burdens to God instead of letting them bother me. I don't always understand why certain things happen, but I'm trying to trust Him. His ways are better than my ways.
    I've also been pretty concerned with my looks, but God has been showing me more that what is inside, how my heart is, is more important than how the world views my outward appearances. And that I should be patient and wait for the right guy. The right guy will try to keep Christ first in His life and will care more about the spiritual part and character than the physical appearances.
    I'm not so good with words either to describe what God is all teaching me, but He has been helping me. God is good!
    Re:Becoming a true woman
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 5:53 pm
    I'm so thankful for the people in my life who have influenced me to be a godly woman. I'm also thankful for ministries such as LYWB, Revive our hearts, and many more. Recently, I started a blog for young ladies, and have been able to minister to other girls such as myself. Keep serving Jesus! You have been an encouragement to many. God bless!
    My issue
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 5:59 pm
    My major question in life is how I can truly manage my time and do everything God wants me to do? I want so bad to do His will, not only with my actions but with my emotions too. Life is too short not to live each moment for our God. I struggle with remembering this....
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 6:29 pm
    I want to admit that I am a bit older than a teen:), but I really have that burden in my heart to help teen girls know the truth about themselves and God. Reading all these girls' comments was so precious and helpful! Thank you all for writing! I ordered Lies Young Women Believe some time ago (through a friend in the States because I am not an American and live in a place and a culture way too different) because of my still baby daughter. That's how I got into the blog... And being protective as a mom over my daughter and her future, God put in my heart a strong desire to be protective over the teen girls in my church. I want to help them know, learn and follow the Truth. I am grateful God found me at the age of 17, and I've learned several important things about the subject which I would like to share with the girls: 1. Though I am a girl, and I have desire to marry and be romanced, I have to give that desire up to Him, and matter how long. 2. A band of commited Christian girl firends who accept, agree, and follow what I value from the Bible is of a great help - they keep me accountable, pray for me, share with me...and I know: I'm not alone in my battles. 3. Never, ever give your heart to a non-Christian guy (that includes your emotions, thoughts, first kiss, virginity), and be on alert with the Christian guy, unless he's your husband. 4. To be a True Woman of God requires time, hope, and trust in God who works in me. I had many struggles but God was helping me through them, and it worthed, really:)
    I know Mary from Girls Gone Wise and I am sure this new book will be great. I'll be happy to be one of the lucky-s to have it for the teen girls at my church, and for my daughter.
    God's true every aspect
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 6:43 pm
    I have been dating a guy that God has put in my life for a long time now, and he is wonderful. About a week ago though, we feel like we went to far physically. (making out) We both felt really guilty about it and have made very strict boundaries to prevent it from ever happening again. We want to get married soon, and we talked about wanting a dating life that we could tell our children about one day, and have no regrets. I really respect him for taking this initiative. People make mistakes, but God always forgives. What you choose to do with those mistakes once you have made them is up to you. We have learned a very valuable lesson and are pursuing a pure, sweet relationship. We have prayed so so hard, told God that if this is not his will to take any attraction for each other away, and it has stayed beyond everything. Any advice from Erin or Dannah?
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 6:54 pm
    Thank for the words of wisdom!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 7:07 pm
    So thrilled about this new book! I am surrounded by young girls in our church that have not been taught by their parents about the importance of making wise decisions early on. They do not understand the Gospel motivates us to live in such a way as to glorify God and while some may understand this with their heads, translating it to their hearts and hands is not done. Can't wait to read this book. Mary Kassian is a favorite of mine and I know she will be true to Scripture.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 7:12 pm
    I am learning that my relationship with Christ needs to be my number 1 priority right now. I definitely have that desire to have a boyfriend, but I know that my relationship with Christ is what needs to be growing right now. Trying to be content.
    This is awesome!!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 7:54 pm
    Wow! This sounds great! I am 20 years old, but I would still love to read about how to become a true woman of God. I'm constantly growing, but am going through some challenging times about where God is leading me. It is so difficult for me to dig deeper into God's word because sometimes I don't understand what I read and I can't always relate to the stories. I would love to learn how to dig deeper and learn more about healthy, godly relationships!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 8:01 pm
    The one of the biggest things I've learned as a young woman is to be submissive. God designed marriage in a special, unique way. The husband is the leader in the relationship, and the wife must be submissive. Although I am not married, I can still practice this principle with my family--I need to submit to my parents and their decisions for me.

    I've also learned that I need to be completely satisfied in Christ before anything else can be in the right place. If I am not finding satisfaction in Christ, I will look to other things. My relationship with Christ needs to be first place in my life.

    I would love to continue learning how to be God's true woman. I want to learn even more about the roles of men and women in marriage, and where the Bible supports those ideas.
    Thank you
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 8:55 pm
    I truly wish I had God and Hiis word when I was a teen. I am so grateful for you and your helpful Guidence in raising my two teen daughters. Thank you! From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
    for my daughters
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:00 pm
    I'm interested in this book because I have two daughters still at home - ages 14 & 12 - and I'd love to work through the book with them.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:01 pm
    I recently learned that I'm going to honor God in spite of my busy schedule rather than through it. I used to think that I would bring Him glory through my business, but it that isn't how it works. I also know I need more humility, but I need God to work in my heart on that, since humility and performance seem so opposite...
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:02 pm
    Yay!! looking forward to buying one. I am planning on starting a girls bible study and was thinking of using lies young women believe, but now Im thinking maybe this you get a discount if you order more online?
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:52 pm
    Souds like a great book! I know something that I struggle with is trusting God's plan for my life in the area of guys and marriage. There is a major lack of Christian guys where I live so I find it really difficult to trust that I will get married. I find it difficult to not give myself away emotionally to guys that I'm not even going out with. I also find it really difficult to be myself and follow God's path for me because my parents are pastors so people put all sorts of unrealistic expectations on me and judge me for different things. I also put unrealistic expectations on myself because I think that I should measure up to a certain standard. So yeah, I really need to learn to trust God and try to live up to HIS expectations for me, and not mine or other people's.
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:59 pm
    This sounds like a south a great book! I am a younger teen that really wants to follow Jesus with all my heart and He is just so awesome! I am a newer Christian, but I grew up in a solid Christian home, so I feel like that kinda jumpstarted me into really growing a lot as a Christian teen. I really want Him to change from the inside into His servant who will do anything for Him. I know I can do nothing without Him. I really want to be walking with the Holy Spirit who is inside of me. God loves me so much, and He is changing my heart to focus on the things that matter to Him and have a heart attitude that focuses on serving others in a Christ-like way.

    God has really been convicting of my pride and selfishness (and those lead to every other kind of sin). It is really easy to want to impress other people or look down on others or just be in it for me, but I know that how God wants me to live and so I want to do His will.

    I want to be an example to my friends who don't "get it" quite as much, even my Christian friends, but I have to find the balance between showing off and really trying to love them the way Jesus does.

    I have been learning that I need to steer clear of the danger of perfectionism. I know I'm not perfect and will keep messing up, but in my eagerness to follow God, sometimes I get too caught up in the legalism of following rules. The rules and guidelines God gives are important and true, but I need to follow them out of my love for Him, not my trying to be perfect.

    God is also teaching me that he values my inner beauty and I am His precious daughter. I like to think I'm pretty on the outside too, but we all have those days when we don't particularly feel that way, and so it is a comfort God loves me no matter what I look like. I also have to remember that what He thinks of me is so much more important that what my friends or guys think of me. The guy He has planned for me, should love Jesus more than He does me, and know that inner beauty is more important that outer beauty anyway.

    Anyway, God has been teaching me so many things, and it is my utmost desire to be a radical, loving, world changing, Jesus freak. Please pray that I would continue to grow in my faith and my walk with Jesus. Pray that I wouldn't doubt God or His Word, and would trust Him to have the perfect plan for my life. Pray that I will have the courage to boldly share my faith and get my hands dirty serving Jesus by serving the least of these. Thank you!

    I love this website and God has really used it to bless me!

    Growing in grace,
    God Bless!

    Maddy McLaughlin
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 10:23 pm
    Thankfully, The Lord himself has raised me and my little sister in these ways and is teaching us what our parents aren't always able to. I don't need this book for me exactly, but for a close friend of mine. So I'm saying Lord if its your will for my sweet Elizabeth to have this then you'll choose me :) God bless you Lies Young Women Believe.. Than you so much.
    sounds good!
    on Monday, November 12, 2012 at 10:39 pm
    This sounds like a really good book! God has taught me that I can find rest in Him, and He will take care of me. I would love to know more about finding my security in Christ. I know that I am secure in Christ, but I would like to know more about it. Thank you so much!
    Thanks for this post! :)
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 1:07 am
    This year God has completly turned my life around! He has blessed me in such amazing ways and taught me how to love people. After reading his word last night in 1 Peter 3:3 God showed me that i need to put way more effort into making my inside self more beautiful. I realise that i put to much effort on my outter beauty, which will fade away.
    This sounds like a fantastic book :) Thanks you so much for all your posts! They are so encouraging!
    True Woman
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 9:37 am
    I have been doing the True Woman 101 Divine Design devotional, by Mary Kassian and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It is really encouraging to see that womanhood is all about God. Today's reading remided me that it's OK to desire a husband, and that I don't need to fret over my future family. My dreams have been given to God; He has everything under control. :)
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 1:00 pm
    Hi, thanks for this post. I just want to ask, if I'm almost 16, should I get this book or girls gone wise? Which on would be the mist suitable.
    GOD's word has taught me that I was created as a helper.
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 2:23 pm
    wooww, i just want to read the book already. It sound very interesting and i know it's going to be helpful to me and my younger cousins. God has taught me to be patience. recently my friend just got married,which im happy for her, but God took over my heart and made me realize that in due time i will find my husband too. So He is teaching me patience and i have come a long way from my unpatience ways. I still need more lesson in that area,but now i wanna learn how i can serve people without expecting anything in return, even thank you:)
    Thank you!
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 2:28 pm
    Thank you so much for writing books like these. I work with teenagers in our church alongside my husband and I am concerned about what the world is telling them. I have shared my heart, but it's always great to have someone else from the outside doing it as well!! Keep up the "God" work!!!
    Grecia Enns
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 2:35 pm
    In the midst of my sinful life and rebellion against God's design for me, He grabbed ahold of me through the Gospel. I was floored by the truth that Christ died on my behalf and took what I deserved. While he did that I kept slandering and rebelling away, making unwise choices and being a canniving wicked girl. I am so grateful to have been saved by God and while I have made many mistakes and sinned so much, I know I am forgiven and I wish to continue sharing what I am learning with my two little sisters who are in their teens. I hope that they too will be saved and that they will trust in Jesus. I would love to share this book with them!
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 3:42 pm
    This seems like a cool book! I'd love to read it. It's hard sometimes in this big cruel world... for everyone really, but it seems (selfishly) like i have it the worst! I know that everyone feels like that too but it's so comforting to know that if i keep my eyes on him, then everything else seems small and it feels like (in the most dramatic way to say it) i am the most blessed human being that ever existed!!!! It's crazy what a difference Jesus makes, in every aspect of life, whether it's making good grades, trying to fit in, doing what's right,... boys, I mean the list goes on and on! It especially helps with brothers, and if you have them, you know EXACTLY what i mean. Of course it's not easy to keep my eyes on him and of lately I've been really needing a boost of God-confidence, and motivation to keep my eyes on him. Could you pray for me?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Abbie
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 5:05 pm
    I am so encouraged to hear of your heart for young girls and the desire to work with them in the hopes of sparing them the pain of mistakes from your past. God seems to relish working out of our brokenness. He pours His grace in to our lives so that through our weaknesses He is able to show Himself to be strong (2 Cor. 12:9-10).

    I encourage you to speak with your parents and with your pastor about what is on your heart. Let them advise you in how to begin working with younger girls in this area. Your nerves will begin to calm as you sense the support of them in ministry. You will have a great support team with them behind you.

    I have prayed for you today, Abbie, and asked God to infuse you with courage, openness, honesty and transparency as you minister to your younger sister and the other younger girls in your life. May God continue to guide you and direct you in the way He would have you go and may your heart always be willing to say “Yes, Lord!” to His will in your life.
    i can also be a "proper " Christian ...
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 5:09 pm
    I always thought that because I grew up in a Christian family, went to church evwry Sunday and was taught Bible stories and lessons from a young age, it meant that I couldnt be "as good " a Christian as someone with an awesome testimony whose life changed completely after they came to know God. But when i was twelve or thirteen i read a book called "Taming the Tiger"; its Tony Anthonys testimony. When i read the blurb i sort of thought like, wow, another fabulous life changed testimony. But about half way through the book, one of his Christian friends tells him that becoming a Christian is like getting a train to another country, you get there but you might not be awake when you're crossing the border, but you still get there. This has been very inspirational for me to remind me that i can be a proper Christian even without a life changing experience.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Austin
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 5:14 pm
    I am thankful that you have recognized a line that you shouldn’t be crossing yet in your relationship, Austin. It sounds like this young man is doing the right thing in leading you away from temptation and back into purity. Your goal to have a “regret-less” dating life is an excellent one to have and I’m thankful to know you have established some very strict boundaries to keep you headed in the right direction. Avoiding one-on-one time, avoiding sexually stimulating movies, group dates, accountability with your parents are great boundaries to avoid temptation. I've prayed for you, Austin, and the guy you are dating today and have asked God to give direction in how to keep Him at the center of your relationship and bring much honor and glory to God through that.
    To be a lady
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 5:36 pm
    This is a great post! Kinda going with what Jennifer said about chivalry, God has been teaching me that all those feminine desires I have are good and true! The way the world brings up a woman is wrong, but it was built into me to want to be pursued, to want to have a provider and protector (which is now my dad, but will later be my husband), and to be feminine! He's showing me that I don't have to pretend to be a woman as the world sees her, but to be the lady that my heart desires to be. (and to let the boys learn how to be men)
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ J
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 5:56 pm
    I am so encouraged to hear how God is working in your heart and life! You are right, J, happiness is dependent upon circumstances. But true joy is found only in an intimate, personal relationship with Jesus Christ. The joy of His presence in our lives does not need to be effected by the things happening in our lives. God truly is good all the time!

    As you choose to spend time each day in God’s Word and in prayer, you will find that you are drawn closer to His heart. He promises that as we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us (James 4:8). It doesn't have to involve a lot of time, J, just a few minutes in the morning before you get out of bed and then some time again before you go to sleep. God knows your heart and will honor all your efforts to spend time with Him. I’m praying for your walk with the Lord and that you would have the intimacy, wisdom and discernment that you desire.
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 6:30 pm
    What God is teaching me as a young woman. Well what God is teaching me about being a young woman. God has taught me recently to let my outward appearance shine forth who He is. That I am the temple of quite a mighty, glorious, and beautiful God. My outward appearance and how I treat others should shine forth all of who He is.¢¾
    Danielle Counts
    book for our resource center
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 8:26 pm
    I would love to read and recommend this book for young girls in our youth group. I did a bible study a couple of years ago with the Girls Gone Wise in A World Gone Wild book with the young married women and they loved it. I would love to read through it and also recommend for your resource center. We do not have much in it geared toward younger women.
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 9:13 pm
    When we have questions we want to find God's answers to, how do we know where in the Bible to read for those answers? People say they have a question and they search the Bible for an answer. How do they know where to begin reading for those answers?
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 10:18 pm
    I would love to read this book. I'm always hungry for new material to substitute for the popular books of today's culture. :)
    @ Austin from JAZZY 101
    Do we really love JESUS with all of our heart, mind and soul? A struggle!
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 10:48 pm
    HI Austin!
    I had a question for you. Your post stood out to me! I realized that I liked a guy ever since God brought him back into my life after not talking to him for nearly seven years! And it was so hard, that God took him out of my life. And I also realized something today, I don't know if this helps at all, but I realized that I wasn't being teachable in the areas of wisdom from older women if that makes sense.

    And I was wondering, what should I do in a similar way. I guess one of the most important things is to pursue God with all our heart, mind and soul and get our self right with God first.

    But I could use help with this as well. It's so hard to lay my friend at the feet of JESUS. We only went out twice and chatted! It was so much fun! Couldn't take my eyes off of my friend!

    I hope that helps Austin! It's hard. What do you think?
    @ Austin from JAZZY 101
    Oops! Sorry, just to clarify the question!
    on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 10:53 pm
    I didn't write that very clearly! What I meant to say was, What caused you ask about what you should do? I feel the same way, I really liked my friend ever since I met him as a freshmen in high-school, and we are both believers. What do you think I should do? All we did was chatted.
    Dry Bones
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 3:18 am
    Through the living and active Word, I have been healed and restored. God has opened my eyes and has turned my past(dry bones) into something extraordinary for his glory to shown. He is the sole reason why I am the woman I am today. God takes what the devil intended for evil and turns it to good. I would like to know more about how to hear from God, like hear his voice.
    Lisa Maxwell
    Book resource
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 4:18 am
    I have four daughters in the age range of 10-17. I would love to have a resource like this to help support our girls in their walk with the Lord.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 6:40 am
    Your post reminded me of the verse in Psalms…”I will thank You forever, because You have done it. I will wait for Your name, for it is good, in the presence of the godly.” (52:9) God has made Himself known in your presence. Praise His name! I was in a group this week that prayed for the recovery efforts and those affected, so know God is bringing your area to mind and calling His people to pray. God bless you in these trying days, Julie.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 7:59 am
    You are so right; you said it so well!! We are indeed SO blessed--and have SO much to be grateful for! I'm praying for you this morning that you will indeed keep your eyes on the Savior! He will be your peace and strength! "But I will hope continually and will praise you yet more and more." (Psalm 71:14)
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 10:52 am
    This was a wonderful post. I have been stumbling through raising our daughters and with our 1st being 14, I have been praying for wisdom and direction constantly! I would love for her to have this book! If it doesn't turn out that we win one, I will be looking to buy it. Thank you for sharing your heart.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Monica
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 3:09 pm
    I’m excited to hear of your plans to start a study with some of your friends! Lies Young Women Believe offers a discount for 5 or more books ordered. You can check the prices on the website under “store”. There is not a similar discount for this book. I’m praying that God will lead you to just the right study for your group! Thanks, Monica, for being willing to reach out to others and share God’s truth with them!
    My sis wants me to read this book
    on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 at 4:40 pm
    My sis would like to do like a Bible/study group thing with me.I'm 16 so this book could be a very big help for me in this insane world! So much evil and temptations in this world.Plus as a teen you always feel like you have to try to fit in with other teens in order to be liked by others and do things to be noticed even though we shouldn't become like these worldly people.I guess for me it is a struggly to be what God wants me to be when you feel like you are being pressured to be like everyone else.
    from head to toes Im entirely HIS!
    on Thursday, November 15, 2012 at 5:22 am
    It's been an amazing as well as a painful journey. God has shown me and continues to, that ALL of me belongs to Him- from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet! Iam His holy habitation purchased with the precious blood of Jesus! God has a say concerning everything I do with this body, from the clothes I choose to wear to where I go and even what I do with my hair! everything about me has to reflect His glory and holiness! everything that is of the world must be cast down! it's a difficult process because dying to oneself will always cause us great pain but the end result is priceless! i pray that God would continue to reveal to us His perfect and good will through the Holy Spirit and that He would bestow upon us grace to submit wholly to His leading!
    on Thursday, November 15, 2012 at 11:21 pm
    I've learned that I don't have to be perfect, and that it's okay to mess up. I've also learned that my dreams and hopes are in line with what God wants for me, but I can only achieve them through His holy and perfect will. Furthermore, I have learned that if I become a godly woman, then one day- it could be tomorrow, it could be ten years from now- I will meet a godly man who will be who God wants me to be with. Until then, I will continue to walk in God's path and grow each and every day.
    Thank you
    on Friday, November 16, 2012 at 7:33 am
    I love the book Girls Gone Wise and would love a copy if this sounds great!!

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