Best Of: It's Harder For Me To Dress Modestly Because . . .

Dannah Gresh 01/16/13
Category: Myself ; 58 comments

From the team: It's our fifth birthday here on the blog. To celebrate we are featuring the "best of" the blog all month. This post on modesty sure got you talking. With 128 comments, it's worth reading for some practical tips to make modesty possible (no matter what your body type).

I have two very beautiful teenage daughters. One is curvy and one is not. And, yep, it's a whole lot easier for my "not" curvy daughter to get away with certain girl shoppinglooks. Just a few weeks ago, we were shopping for formal dresses and "curvy" put on a dress and looked really . . . well, sexy. "Not" put it on and looked really cute. Are you feeling this pain?

Today's styles do make it harder on those of us who are a little curvier, but with a few tips you can not only pursue modesty, but look a few pounds lighter, too!

1. Layer up. Layers really help to flatten out the curves. For those of us who are a little more curvy, we have to take advantage of this tip. I never go on stage to speak without a jacket, vest, or scarf to camouflage and flatten out the curves. (I did once, and when I saw how immodest my beautiful loosely fitting green satin blouse looked, I made a commitment to just stick with layers.) And again, the right kind of layers can really smooth out your overall look and lengthen your torso, making you appear taller and thinner.

2. Wear shorter jewelry. Longer necklaces can really accentuate the curves, so opt for shorter necklaces. A short strand of pearls, for example, is really in style with a rugged T-shirt these days. It makes a great modest look! And speaking of T-shirts . . .

3. Wear men's cut T-shirts. It used to be that T-shirts were unisex. These days, girls' T-shirts are super small, and only the smallest of girls can slip into them without really bringing attention to the bustline. You might be a little like me . . . one of those girls who just really has to reach for the unisex T-shirts. There are sometimes T-shirts at places like Old Navy or Gap that I can get away with, but for the most part I just say "no" to the girl cut T-shirts!

4. Get mentally prepared to buy a bigger size. Let me be straight with you. I wear a size 8 (women's) or 11 (juniors). I'm not exceptionally huge, but when I buy T-shirts, tank tops, or sweaters, I'm almost always pushing it with an XL. But I got over it! How? The Wall Street Journal. They took a perfect size 8 model into downtown New York and found that in most cases, she could not actually fit in a size 8. They were way too small. The industry has gone crazy, and we have to just settle for buying what fits rather than what size we want to be. (My girlfriend Janet always tells me to cross out that size and write whatever I want in the label! You could even make it a Triple 0, if that makes you feel better.)

5. Get properly fitted for a bra. I've heard that about three quarters of all bra-wearing women are wearing the wrong size. The result? Spillage. Not only does it make it harder to fit well into your clothes, but it can make you look up to ten pounds heavier. I know a little about this. I was wearing a bra that was several cup sizes and a few inches off. I got fitted in a nice boutique and immediately my clothes fit better. And people said I looked slimmer! (A girl can always go for that!)

This past year I was speaking to a group of teen girls in Indiana about modesty. There was a very well-endowed girl there who raised her hand and said, "It is impossible for me to look modest in anything at all. I wear a size __!" Since there were no men in the room, I felt free to be truthful with her. I told the whole group my bra size, and they were all in shock (and not because it was on the smaller end of the scale)! "You can appear modest even when you're curvy," I told the group.

Take it from a sister who works really hard to be modest. You can do this. You just have to want to be obedient to God's guidelines for saving the deepest secrets of your beauty for just one man. Hebrews says that, "If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left" (10:26). 


HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, we’re not trained counselors. If you’re seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as they’ll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 2:29 am
    Thanks for the advice Dannah! It's always so awkward when I wear the wrong thing out and especially when there are guys. It may look okay at home with my mirror, but I guess I gotta think out there for others too.

    2 Questions:
    1) Are skinny jeans alright?
    2) Shorts (I mean quite short) with leggings.

    God bless.
    Great Post
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 2:53 am
    This is so true! Being the"curvy" sister in my household, I can totally relate to the whole watching the modesty thing! Thank you so much-this advice is so true and so helpful. Thanks again!!
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 4:58 am
    Are skinny jeans alright? also, are holey jeans okay?
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 8:19 am
    Yea, this is so true!! Also, let me make clear that curvy does not mean your fat - for curvy girls out there. It means you are a women and beautiful!
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 9:27 am
    I'm definitely the curvy sister in my house, and my sister who has taller thin figure definitely can find modest clothing easier! I love that a lot of loose tops are in style right now, which are usually modest yet still cute!
    Totally agree with Mattea, curvy does not equal fat. I love my curves :))
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 9:55 am
    I'm the curvy one, i am built like my favorite aunt:) I love my curves, but sometimes i get a little obsessed with thinking i'm fat. I love the curves, but i have two sisters that are tall and skinny. Me, i'm short and curvy. I'm gettin used to bein me though, i wouldn't wanna be any other way. I do dress very modest though, i love modesty!

    Skinny jeans are innapropriate because they are made to be conformed to the skin so guys can stare, same as the lettering on the back of the butt.
    Short shorts are still short shorts with leggings, and still can see the parts of your body so not ok.
    Holy jeans show little bits of your skin, and guys can stare at that. The parts of your thighs should not be shown, in the Bible days showing your thigh you'd be considered adulteress.
    Gilbert Chetty
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 10:15 am
    Even i am a man , i read daily that blog and am happy that this website is doing great job
    Yep, yep, yep!
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 10:35 am
    Thanks for the post, Dannah. I'm one of those girls that has been blessed with curves... I'm sure it's difficut to dress modestly when you're short and curvy... but I am tall and curvy and I find that has its own challenges. Skirts and dresses that would be fine on my friends are often much to snug in the hips and much too short. Even my mom, whom I can thank for my curves, is not much bigger than I and we can share certain clothes, but things that often fit her are much too short for me because my height is one thing I didn't get from her. lol It just seems like they don't make clothes for girls that are both tall and curvy... it's either short and curvy or tall sticks.
    I have found that shopping in the junior section just doesn't cut it. If I want something that really fits me well, I'll only find it in the women's section.
    Here's a question, though... how far is too far and what's okay? I mean, you've said before that you don't expect us to dress in potato sacks. So where do you draw the line between flattering and sexy?
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 12:30 pm
    Ok that comment 'Gilbert' made really freaked me out there for a moment. I suddenly am going to watch what I ask on here...I forgot that guys can read this too...eerie feeling that gave me when I read his comment...
    Back To The Subject!
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 12:55 pm
    I got a little side-tracked there in my last comment - sorry. Ok. Moving on. I thank you, Ms. Dannah, for posting this! It helped me a lot! I have four questions.

    1. Does my clothing indeed cause guys to lust?

    2. It is ok to wear dresses that are snug to my waistline but are still modest in length and around the bust?

    3. Like the other two girls asked, are skinny jeans okay?

    4. As a dancer, for recitals/performances, my coaches can pick out some very tight and not-so-modest leotards/outfits that we have to wear as a team to dance. What am I supposed to do then? Do I forfeit going to the recitals because of the immodest apparel? ...if I am indeed going to become a professional ballet dancer, that really isn't an, basically what I'm wondering is, would it be a sin if I did wear the leotards/outfits they put us in?

    Thank you for all you all do!
    Me and those curves
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 1:07 pm
    I exactly how it feels to have lots of curves! And its so hard when you have a younger sis that can fit into anything and get away with it! But I am learning to be thankful for all that God has given me:)
    Thanks for the post it's really helpful!
    I have a problem of "curviness."
    What do you think?
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 1:10 pm
    This is a challenge! All my life I've been told I'm curvy. And often times people say I should wear things to show off my figure. Often times, I get uncomfortable.

    I am ending up wearing sweaters now, mostly but when I'm at school I tend to dress both modestly and curvy pants.

    Is that wrong? Yet, I don't like when I get inappropriate comments from guys. What do you think I should do? My sisters taught me to show off my curve like they do.

    What do you recommend that I do? I wear sweaters at home, and baggy pants. I took the advice to put on cothes over my Jazzercise clothes to and from class.

    This is something to think about. Do you think I should wear "baggy" clothes all the time? Not baggy but dress differently even though I try to make sure I wear long shirts?
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 1:35 pm
    Great post and great tips!
    @I have a problem with "curviness."
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 1:52 pm
    I what you are going through... I got the curves too! You don't have to wear "baggy" clothes to be modest. I don't wear clothes that are skin tight but I don't wear clothes that feel like they're about to fall of because they are so baggy. You can still find modest clothes that are cute and comfortable! I also have a long waist and long arms too! I will tell that does not make it super easy to find clothes. I have made this rule... if its really tight in the butt then its probably going to just be to tight all around... I Know that this might be different for you but I know that you can do it!
    For tops there are really cute shirts out there... a test is before you buy a shirt reach up and if you can see your skin... its probably to short. I know that you don't have to do all this stuff but these are just some tips that you can use if you want.
    Lots of Love,
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 2:59 pm
    Awesome post! I have a question.
    I'm a swimmer so I wear a bathing suit 2 days a week in front of many guys! I am very curvy! Sometimes I wonder... Does wearing a 1 piece black bathing suit with a butterfly back causes guys to lust?
    Thanks for any answers! love y'all
    Skinny Jeans
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 3:17 pm
    As always, thanks to LYWB for a great article! Keep up the good work! =D
    My opinion on skinny jeans really depends on just how skinny they are. If they are skin tight and don't leave much to the imagination, then yeah, it's probably not a good idea to wear them, at least in front of guys. But if they aren't tight in the seat and nothing can be seen from the back when you bend over to tie your shoe, then I think they're ok. Same thing as with shirts, dresses, etc. Some girls just can't wear skinny jeans and other certain clothes because of their body type, while other girls don't have a problem. If you are one of the girls who cannot wear skinny jeans, you could try straight leg jeans, which are a little looser, but still cute!
    A bra tip
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 3:33 pm
    So many misconceptions about bras out there! I am not that curvy, yet am technically a DD32. It's not nearly as big as it sounds, but its an impossible size to find. I get a C36 and take 3 or so inches off the band and it fits perfectly. So, if you can't afford the boutique or don't live near one, or are like me and have a size you simply can't find, just buy a bra that matches the cup and take in the band!
    As for the skinny jeans/holes/short shorts argument. Much like this post states, its very relative. I've tried on and put back plenty of immodest jeans (skinny and otherwise), but I have two pairs of skinny jeans (for over-the-jean boots) and I don't think they are any less modest than my bootcuts or flares. I don't think you can make hard, fast rules. With the right adjustments and strut, you can make an Amish outfit immodest, so you have to bring your heart close to the Lord and let the Holy Ghost be your guide.
    skinny jeans
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 3:56 pm
    This post is just what i needed right now!! I am 15 years old and only 5 feet tall. I only wear skinny jeans...i was told that they make me look taller. Are skinny jeans an ok thing to wear?
    "having a problem with curviness."
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 4:35 pm
    Hi Jacquelyn!

    Thank-you so much for that! That really helps a lot. I'll take those tips. I do have different type of pants that I have I can wear.

    That really helps. I really appreciate it. I think I'll start doing that. I'll have to fix some of my shirts.

    It's easy to get sucked into the culture, and ideas but it's better to stand out. Being able to look nice, but not skimpy. It's often hard, going to a secular college and stand out dressing modestly at the same time.
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 5:23 pm
    Hey Abbie! Believe it or not, i'm shorter than you and a little older than you. I'm legally a midgette, people tend to think i'm taller just because i'm proportioned well. I am the way God made me and happy for it:) I wear flares:) I love flares, and if not flares than i wear boot cut or straight legs:) I'd say you could try straight legs, same affect just not so skin conforming. I used to wear skinny jeans, and my pastor and his family are really close to me, they helped me in the modesty area. He's the one that told me i shouldn't be wearing skinny jeans, i dress cute all the time, but i'm a very modest girl. And by the way, i love bein short! It has adventages, like wearin heels and the guy bein taller than you:)
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 5:29 pm
    Thanks for sharing!
    I am slim enough, I think, but I do have a lot of curves. Thanks for the tips.
    I like wearing layers and this gives me more reasons to!

    Oh, and the shirt thing is a good idea too!
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 5:32 pm
    Regarding Skinny jeans.

    If you have to ask if they are modest...They probably aren't. my personal opinion, if they are not too tight, they are okay.

    And I think only certain people can wear skinny jeans! =P
    its me
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 9:29 pm
    I have the same thing as @Kat I swim a couple times a week, and I've learned not to wear bikinis in front of guys. My one peice isn't lined up top. I don't really know if it cause guys to lust, but you can see all of my legs and most of my back. I have a really tall, lean frame, but I also have curves. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks
    on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 at 10:49 pm
    Me's t-shirts? Flattening out your curves? "Problems" with curviness? Why does everyone seem to think you have to dress like a nun to be "modest". Curves aren't the devil, people! There's nothing wrong with embracing your curves and wearing clothes that flatter them.
    a girl
    re: Abbie
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 1:59 am
    I'm 5 ft too [I'm older than you though] and I know what it's like to be short! I stopped wearing skinny jeans [even though I'm proportional in size] because...believe it or not, they make short girls look hippy!:O They will prob make you look shorter or wider in the thighs/hips [unless you have very VERY little curve].

    I always wear flair-out jeans. They are harder to find [I recomend thrift store, and as horrible as this may sound, TRY THE KIDS SECTION. You'll find pants that might fit your size better! I have some kids jeans and no one has ever been able to tell they weren't women's.] But flair's make you look more proportional and they are much more modest.

    Good rule of thumb: if you can pintch the fabric on the sides of your jeans, they should be loose enough to be 'modest'. If not, they may be too tight. If you do choose to continue wearing skinny jeans, wear longer shirts with them [since skinny jeans are usualy low rise]. This is very modest and really feminine!
    @ Caroline
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 10:18 am
    Hello, Caroline.

    I, personally, don't think that these young women here are thinking that you have to wear a nun outfit to be modest. Granted, one shouldn't go the other way and start wearing extremely revealing clothes. There has to be a happy medium. Curves are not a curse of any kind - but with girls who DO have curves, they need to make sure that the shirts they wear aren't really tight around the entire bust and/or showing ample cleavage. I believe that is what everyone is getting at here.

    I agree that one should embrace what God gave 'em and flattering them - as long as it isn't in a sexy/look-at-me-guys kind of way. Again: happy medium.

    Does my post make any sense? I hope so! God Bless you, I'm praying for you!

    ~ Kay
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 12:11 pm
    I totally agree with this last comment. I think a some people take modesty to a whole new obsessive level at my Christian club on campus. I think it's enough to hide the cleavage and hiney (and some leg). I don't wear my clothes baggy at all. My clothes are tight enough to show my womanhood, but not so tight that you can see down to the stitching of my bra. I think it's going overboard to believe that you have to look like a straight stick with baggy clothes so that guys won't be tempted to have lustful thoughts.
    . . .
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 12:18 pm
    Guys can have lustful thoughts whether you're wearing a bag or a bikini. So, let's err on the side of caution by being modesty to help them stay pure, no? :) God Bless.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Kat and It's me
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 1:51 pm
    I appreciate your heart to do the right thing in the area of swimwear. Here are a couple of blogs for you to check out:

    Dannah weighs in on swimwear:
    The Science of Bikinis

    It’s important to remember that swimwear is for swimming, so when you are in the water, modest swimwear is fine. But it’s a great idea when you are out of the water to put on a t-shirt and shorts out of respect for the guys who are around.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Janice, Kay and Pursuing Him
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 2:08 pm
    Rather than tell you that skinny jeans are right or wrong, I want to remind you that modesty is a heart issue rather than a list of what to wear and what not to wear. This is what Nancy Leigh DeMoss says in her booklet “The Look: Does God Really Care What I Wear?”

    “Remember that, as Christians, our goal is not to draw attention to ourselves, but rather to please God and reflect His glory. Ask the Lord to help you choose clothing that honors Him. Also, ask a godly family member or a close friend to give you their honest opinion about your clothing choices. Finally, ask yourself, ‘Why do I want to wear that particular outfit?’ and ‘Do I truly believe God would be pleased with the way I look in this outfit?’”

    Erin gives some tips for determining what’s modest on this blog:

    If you are questioning whether something is modest, then chances are it isn’t modest. We need to learn to pay attention to those “red flags” that God puts in our heart. We represent Christ in all areas of our lives—even in how we dress. God can be trusted to convict your heart in the area of modesty as you surrender this to Him.
    What About...?
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 2:10 pm
    What do you think about my question(s)?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Kay
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 2:17 pm
    Our clothing can cause guys to be tempted to lust. So we need to do what we can to not be a part of the temptations that are around them. Check out the link I shared above with Kat and It’s me about the science of bikinis. It will help you to understand how God, in His infinite and wonderful plan, has hard wired guys.

    I encourage you to pray and ask God to give you wisdom in your dresses and even enlist the help of a godly older man in your life (your dad or grandpa) to ask if your dresses are too “form fitting” to be modest. They love you and can be trusted to give you their honest opinion about your clothing. As far as dancing, your attire as a dancer is much like swimwear. While on stage, your leotard/costume is what is expected. But when you are offstage, I encourage you put something over your leotard to cover up.

    I appreciate your heart to do the right thing in regards to modesty, Kay!
    Thank You, Ms. Lorree!
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 2:34 pm
    Thank you again and again for that bit of wisdom you shared with me - I fully take it to heart; it blessed me. You are in my prayers!!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Rachel Allison
    on Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 2:35 pm
    It sounds as if you are doing a great job already fighting culture in finding modest attire. Thank you for that, Rachel Allison! Finding a balance is important. In regards to your question, I encourage you to enlist an older godly man you trust (your dad, your grandpa) and take him shopping with you and your mom. Let them help you to find that fine line. Their love for you will prompt them to want to be protective and wise in the advice they give.

    Also, check out the blog for some more suggestions in shopping and making wise clothing choices:

    Praying for you, Rachel Allison! Keep on striving to please the Lord even in what you wear!
    Thank you, Lorree!
    on Friday, January 18, 2013 at 11:44 am
    Thank you so much, Lorree, for you reply! I don't know why that hadn't occured to me before. My dad and brothers would be more than happy to offer that help. :)
    on Friday, January 18, 2013 at 10:10 pm
    Thank you sooo much, its so helpful :) and is it alright to wear skinny jeans?
    on Saturday, January 19, 2013 at 11:23 am
    before i ask my question let me just say i realy like youre book the ''lies young women believe'' i've been reading it and it has helped me, so any my mom likes for me to wear clothes thats like realy girly like jewls and glitter and sparkle but i like t-shirts and jeans and sometimes denim skirts ,so how do we come to a agreement ?plus i have a realy girly sister.
    Please! Check this out!
    on Saturday, January 19, 2013 at 9:29 pm
    I think I posted this website on here before... but I'll do it again anyway:

    Please, check this out. It has been so helpful to me relating to this subject. It's a survey taken by honest, earnest, Christian guys and it will answer practically any question you have on modesty. Please read it!

    In His Grip,
    on Saturday, January 19, 2013 at 10:17 pm
    This is just what I've been looking for! Whenever I go clothes shopping with my friends I'm reminded of this issue :) I really like the short strand of pearls and rugged T-shirt idea, sounds kinda hipster. Haha I should try that out! Since camis and tanks don't work for me...scarves are great especially this time of year. And thanks for the confidence boost about buying bigger sizes! It sounds ridiculous that sometimes I'd buy a tighter shirt just because I felt better getting the smaller size...but it's true! Not anymore, I'll get a large and feel better about the fact that it's a much classier fit.
    Re: kat
    on Sunday, January 20, 2013 at 4:29 pm
    Hey, girl! I'm a swimmer too and I wanted to let you know my opinion on the swimsuit issue. I used to live in the water practically (18 hours a week, plus coaching). It's hard to imagine what the guys on your team are thinking, but I'm going to guarantee it revolves around food and Xbox. Lol. But seriously now, teen guys appreciate it when girls cover up. I was told by some of the guys on my team one time. :) It's hard to do, but think of it this way: you're keeping your muscles warm, and you don't want to freeze up before a swim or afterwards even. It makes it a little easier to do that way, at least for me. I hope this helps you and your fellow team members!

    @ KAT and bathing suits
    on Monday, January 21, 2013 at 8:44 am
    Hi dear!
    Honestly, what I wear to the beach or swimming are board shorts( you can find some at zappos .com)
    I also wear a tank top or surf shirt for the top and a bathing suit underneath my outfit......... sometimes I feel awkward because I am the only one being modest. However, I know I am pleasing the Lord and not causing guys to lust after me! Love u!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Joey
    on Monday, January 21, 2013 at 4:41 pm
    I’m glad you like our book, Joey! Thanks for letting us know. I want to encourage you to pray and ask God to give you a time when you can meet with your mom to share your heart about your choices of clothing. It needs to be a time when neither of you are emotional so you can talk and listen to each other openly. It might even help you to write your thoughts and feelings out in a letter and share that letter with her before you meet.

    You will want to listen to and hear why she likes you to dress in a girly fashion and you will want to humbly share why you like to dress more casually. I’m praying for both of you and asking God to give you both humble hearts and the ability to work through this as well as growing in your love and appreciation for each other in the process.
    Islamic bathing suit,modest swimwear, Muslim swimsuit
    swim suit
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 5:51 am
    Hi, Thanks for your good advice.
    Gilbert Chetty
    Good tips
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 11:00 am
    I share the link with some friends ... Kay ... You make me really smile loudly hehehehe
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Katya
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 4:13 pm
    I’m so thankful to know that this blog has been helpful to you! I encourage you to take a look at my response to Janice, Kay and Pursing Him above in regards to skinny jeans.
    @ Gilbert
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 1:23 pm
    I make you 'smile loudly'?

    .........awkward silence........
    Blue girl
    on Saturday, April 27, 2013 at 9:21 pm
    I'm 5'5 and I weigh 123 pounds, that may not be so bad if it was actually evenly proportioned... It's mostly in my bottom region, and I feel insecure especially around the guy I like.. Does anyone have advice?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Blue girl
    on Monday, April 29, 2013 at 1:18 pm
    You are right where you ought to be – a healthy weight for your height! While we may wish our bodies were shaped differently, we need to remember that God created us just the way we are. It helps to learn to not focus on our outward appearance and the things we cannot change, but to focus on our hearts and our walk with the Lord. These are the things that will make us truly beautiful and will draw others not only to want to be our friends, but also to want to learn about the Jesus that gives us our beauty. 1 Peter 3:4 says: “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” I’m praying for you right now, my friend!
    Blue girl
    on Tuesday, May 14, 2013 at 3:36 pm
    Thank you soo much!!! It's always nice to know other girls feel this way! And everybody up there just know that God loves you and whoever you marry will love you no matter what!
    my issue
    on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 2:37 am
    I have a major issue! Its my behind unfortunatly. I know it may sound funny, but it isn't to me. Like in most of my capris and shorts and some of my jeans... How am I supposed to be modest! Yeah I'm a girl out of proportion, just in case you girls were wondering. I'm now medium width. Average to thin torso and waist (but with unhealthy eating I've gained some folds! Uug!) I have small bust, which I am not proud about for a woman of 21 years, who appears to be 5 years younger, I am curvy, being my wide curvy hips and hated buttox. Yeah I'm definatly what you would call "Pear Shaped". So no I'm not overwieght I'm a thin girl with a big buttox! What are some modest fashion tips for my dilemna?
    Last Edit: on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 9:18am by cgaul  
    Elizabeth or Big Butt
    To: "Curvy"
    on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 2:44 am
    Oh my gosh! I should have read some of the coments first, I so feel you Curvy! You and I are the same body type! I'm glad I'm not the only one! Sometimes the only thing I can think of for being modest in my clothing, is wear bike shorts underneath my pants... Somebody please help me!
    Last Edit: on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 9:19am by cgaul  
    on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 2:59 am
    Oops. I'm totally embarrassed now. I just read the comment from Gilbert Chetty. I think it great that he is reading the article to how some girls are trying to dress modestly and they have some ideas, but I feel like the comment section should be hidden from boys...I feel really exposed and sorta rude. I would feel better if just girls are reading my posts... and with some of my vivid descriptions, it could produce sexual feelings and images in guys reading the posts.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Elizabeth
    on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 1:01 pm
    I want to assure you that God created you just the way you are and He loves your pear shape! He’s also very pleased with your desire to be modest!

    Modesty starts in the heart, our relationship with the Lord and is reflected in our clothing choices. In order to minimize your hips through your clothing, you can choose patterned or brightly colored tops and dark solid colored pants or skirts. Choosing pants that are wide in the leg or boot legged pants rather than fitted will tend to minimize the hips. Choosing a shirt or jacket that end at the hips rather than above or below tends to minimize, too. You can also choose pretty accessories (necklaces, earrings, scarves) that will draw a person’s eyes up rather than down. Hope you find these tips helpful, Elizabeth!
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @ Elizabeth
    on Monday, July 29, 2013 at 2:26 pm
    We agree, Elizabeth. We’ve tweaked your comments a bit for that reason. Sorry we can’t control who read these blog posts/ comments.

    on Tuesday, August 27, 2013 at 2:17 pm
    Okay, I know i'm not supposed to say this, but I actually am about fifty pounds overweight. And I'm not saying this to get attention, or lying to myself, I AM overweight. So obviously, I'm curvy :) but like they said, curvy doesn't equal fat. For me it does, but even if you're ten pounds "overweight", you aren't fat in my book.

    Anyways, I always like bigger shirts and sweatshirts because they make me like slimmer. I do think that if I ever lose my extra weight, I'll be a lot prettier than I am now. But I have some other tips for curvy (NOT FAT) people.

    1. Don't wear straight jeans. They will exaggerate your curves, making you look a bit more curvy than you are.
    2. Some really skinny jeans look okay, but only wear them around the girls, obviously for modesty reasons.
    3. Bootcut jeans are really, really good for the curvier ladies.
    4. Choker necklaces are really good, but obviously not the ones with skulls and goth stuff on it. You don't want to be mistaken for something you aren't.
    5. Stripes are really good. Especially the smaller ones. For some reason, they don't make you look as curvy as you really are.

    These are tips for the curvy or overweight ladies that Dannah hasn't already covered. Hope I helped!!
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    on Wednesday, May 7, 2014 at 5:34 am
    First of all you have to understand that curvy doesn’t mean you are fat. Also it is not true that only thin girls can find perfect modest clothing. Even the curvy girls can have their own choice of modest clothing.

    If you don’t believe my word then see the collection of that has perfect modest clothing for plus size girls. I hope after seeing this, your misconception would have gone.
    on Wednesday, July 9, 2014 at 9:15 am
    I don't like this article. There is nothing wrong with being curvy. Advice like "wear men's shirts..", "buy bigger sizes...", "add layers..." come off it. Why are you encouraging women to hide their bodies? I refuse to accept that anyone should feel ashamed of their natural shape.

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