Best Of: "Boy-Crazy Girl" Video Shoot

Paula Hendricks 01/22/13 | Twitter: @PaulaWrites678
Category: Guys ; 56 comments

From the team: It's our fifth birthday here on the blog. To celebrate, we are featuring the "best of" the blog all month. This post on boy craziness was one of our most popular posts ever. It received 89 comments. Maybe that's because it's loaded with truth from God's Word!

By the way, if you want to hear the whole juicy story, watch for Paula's first book, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl coming this September. As you read her painfully honest journal entries, she'll invite you to join her on her trek from neediness . . . all the way to freedom!




I think I was born boy-crazy! As a young girl, I prayed over and over, "God, please let me marry Henry Harold Higgins!" (He was my first crush. Well, sorta. I just changed his name.) I devoured Christian romance novels (three a day in the summers!) and began my first relationship behind my parents' backs when I was fourteen. Never mind that he smoked pot and had slept with other girls. I didn't care . . . he wanted me! Just a month later I experienced my first of many heartbreaks when he ditched me for another girl.

Yep, I desperately wanted a boyfriend. I tried to attract guys' attention by showing off my body, parading around in itty-bitty shorts. It worked. I started dating a basketball stud (again, one I hid from my parents). However, he, too, ditched me for another girl, basically because I didn't have sex with him.   

When I was about sixteen, the pain of my perpetual boy-craziness was too much. So I stopped using my body to attract and keep guys. Unfortunately, I didn't stop crushgiving them my heart affections. For the next decade, my life was consumed with noticing a cute guy, daydreaming about him nonstop, and scheming ways to get him to notice me. If he didn't meet my needs, I'd get over him by hating him and finding another cute guy to set my sights on.

Time after time, I'd get my hopes up and emotionally give my heart away . . . only to have it broken again. I even went through a period of hating ALL guys, because they failed to meet my longings, and it just hurt so much. I was trapped in a perpetual cycle of neediness, disappointment, and pain.

That's why, at the age of twenty-six, I prayed a crazy prayer. I asked God to free me from my idolatry and teach me to trust Him with my love life. If I'd have known how He'd answer, I don't think I would've had the guts to pray it!  

At the time, I was in love with a guy I was doing ministry with, and one day he told me he was crazy about me! I couldn't believe it—I thought he was the most amazing guy in the world. Only our relationship was over as quickly as I said yes. I couldn't make any sense of it. I lost interest in everything and wondered if it would be winter in my soul forever. I hate to think of the destructive things I would have done to myself, in my pain, if it had not been for God's Word. For the first time in my life, I literally survived on God's promises. Promises like "if God is for us, who can be against us?"

In His mercy, the Lord had ripped the idol of being loved by a man out of my hands and was teaching me what it meant to be loved by God.

Over those next several months, through the intense pain, I experienced Romans 5:3–5: "We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us."

God did a great work in my heart to shift my focus from being boy-crazy to being crazy about knowing and being in love with Jesus.

Almost a year later, another guy began showing interest while I was studying Girls Gone Wise. Mary's chapters on focus and neediness were so timely. For the first time in my life, with lots of prayer and accountability from friends, I didn't initiate or manipulate our relationship! I simply prayed, waited, and put my hope and trust in God. God used that year to transform this boy-crazy girl from the inside out—something I never thought possible.

I'd still love to get married, but whether that happens or not, I am learning, as the psalmist said, that "God's nearness is my good." I can now say: "He has made known to me the path of life; in His presence there is fullness of joy; at His right hand are pleasures forevermore."  


HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, weíre not trained counselors. If youíre seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as theyíll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 9:57 am
    Wow i just needed that.. That is what I've been going through in the couple of past months.. I realized I really should wait on until I am a bit older and also let God do the deciding.

    Thanks Paula :)
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 10:16 am
    This was the PERFECT blog for today!! I have kinda been struggling with not being boy-crazy but I have struggled with just being liked by guys. I haven't gone out with anybody(I'm 14:) even though I could have like 5 different times if I wanted to but I don't want to! Well, I do want to but there is NO point in going out with somebody because your not going to get married or you arent looking to get married in 8th grade!!!! I keep telling myself that because i know it's true!! God has been working on my heart to focus on Him not on other guys! (It also helps that I'm kinda shy so I don't really attract many guys anyway!)

    Thanks Paula! And I'll be praying for you!!!:)

    God Bless!
    Boy Crazy
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 10:43 am
    I'm sorry for how many times i've said this, i just know the book helps and the topic is up in the air for discussion, so Young Lady in Waiting is a really good book for this. This morning i read Psalm 27:1-14. I learned about paitience, His will is going to be done in His timing. That is the best. We just have to have trust in Him and let Him guide our steps, all will be in His hands and we have nothing to worry about.
    Kaylee S. Smith
    Is It Even Possible For Me...?
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 10:52 am

    Is it even possible for me to feel that kind of freedom like Ms. Paula did? I have prayed many a prayer to God asking for deliverance/freedom from my boy-crazy-ness. I have gotten better by not day dreaming so many romantic thoughts about him, but to be honest, it is SOOO hard for me to be myself and not worry about whatever the next 'cute guy' will think of me!! I don't want it to be that way!!

    I like this guy named Patrick P., and every time I am around him, I struggle with trying to make myself relax and be myself without trying to get him to notice me.'s frustrating because I want to be myself without worrying about catching his attention...

    I will take anyone's godly advise...I need help...

    ~ Kaylee S. Smith
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 11:06 am
    This is what I want! I'm really tired of worrying about my appearence and my actions, just for some guy that'll leave in the end. God's love is forever and I pray that I can experience that! What I find annoying is when I tell people that I'm contemplating not dating anyone and getting married, that I want to get ot the point where God is more than enough for me. People always say "Oh don't worry you'll get married someday" it makes me mad that they don't understand what I am trying to say! If God decides to bring a guy into my life then I will gladly accept but if not, I just want to be content with that :) Hope that made sense lol
    Boy-Crazy Girl
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 11:18 am
    Thank you so much Paula! That sounds a lot like me. I want to stop giving my heart away to every cute looking guy I see and who talks to me about anything. I just want to be content for now because I'm too young to be thinking about this stuff.
    @ Kaylee
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 12:01 pm
    Hey girl! I know exactly what you are going through and yes! it is possible to feel that freedom! I was obsessed with guys for about 4 years, and that was literally all i thought about. But last August, I told my mom about it, and she's been helping me through it and praying with me about it. A really good book I would recommend that helped me with boy craziness is "Wait For Me" by Rebecca Saint-James. There's a book and a study guide and both are amazing! Also another good book is "God Girl" by Haley DeMarco. I think that's her name.. And also "Obsessed" by the same author. I hope this helped!
    I'll be praying for you! Just know that NO guy will EVER love you as much as God does, and He will love you through everything. Blessings,
    i'm guy-crazy too...
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 12:24 pm
    I know i've said in commenting on another post that i've been through the "crushes" rounds time and again...and now it's just like I think I'm in love with this one guy...and it's more that i respect him for his commitment to God and the church...and i'm one of the 'uncool' girls and he's one of the cooler guys but he's so good at making me (and everyone else) feel included rather than looking down on us 'uncool' ones. Annnddd, i think i've given my heart to him pretty much, but i really don't want to have my sights set on only can i change this?!
    Best blog ever
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 12:34 pm
    Best. Blog. Ever. Enough said.
    Kaylee S. Smith
    @ Kat
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 12:49 pm
    Hey there,

    Omg (oh my goodness)...I never listened to that song but I found it on an old CD of hers that I had and 'Wait for Me' was on there...I nearly cried when I listened to the song it touched me so deeply. I never though about it as my future husband is praying that I will wait for him, too, as he waits for me. That totally changed my perspective on purity - makes me want to save myself for just him. If I give my heart away before marriage, I am basically cheating my husband (by not giving him my whole heart because I have given it away one too many times).

    Anyway, thank you so VERY much for pointing to towards that song. God Bless you, Kat! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! <3

    Love as a Sister,

    ~ Kaylee S. Smith
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 1:55 pm
    This is something I have been working on too. I haven't really tried to lure guys with my body but I have tried manipulate relationships so that I get what I want. Haven't we all? My goal this year is to try and "go with the flow" more. Not worry about guys see me but worry about how Christ does. Not to worry about looking great for my crush but acting in an honorable way in the eyes of my savior. It's been hard (I don't have a lot of confidence) because I would get a twisted assurance from compliments and guys noticing me. I would do the right things to look good in the eyes of man but NOW I am working on doing good things because it is what God commands of us.

    Thanks for this post! :-)
    Any Advice?
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 2:40 pm
    I've been thinking about this guy lately... a lot more then I should, i know thats its just a crush, but God has been telling me that I need to stop thinking about him so much. And I just want to ask you guys if you would pray for me? I would really appreciate it! And also if you have any advice I would love to here it!
    Manipulative Me...
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 2:52 pm
    I'm afraid I'm have a tendency to be very manipulative. I was manipulating people before I even knew what the world meant. Growing up, my mom told me often that I was trying to manipulate her into giving me what I wanted. I do it without even trying... and that scares me. Lately I feel I've been a bit manipulative with my best friend (who is a guy), which irks me no end. And I'm sure if I apologize, he'll assure me they didn't notice or that it was fine. But it's really bugging me and this blog post kinda just stepped on my toes about it... because even if he and I are simply friends, I don't want to manipulate him into complimenting me or doing things for me.
    Would you guys please pray for me? That I would be able to realize when I'm being manipulative and that God would give me the strength not to be?
    Thank you for the post, Paula! :)
    Kaylee S. Smith
    @ Lexi
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 3:01 pm
    I would be more than glad to be praying for you, Lexi!!

    And, honestly, I have only been 'non-boy-crazy' for 52 minutes now, so I'm not one whom has seniority on the subject. But I can tell you what changed my life 52 minutes ago, was the song Kat mentioned to me - 'Wait for Me' by Rebecca St. James. It's not necessarily that if you listen to it once, you will automatically be non-boy-crazy...because that probably isn't so. It's just that the anointing I felt coming from that song touched my heart and in that moment God spoke to me telling me that I need to simply save my heart for the man He has for me in HIS timing. But here was one of those 'life changing' moments -

    What absolutely broke my heart was what He (Jesus Christ), said to my heart next...He said that He has been, and will be, pursuing me for more years than any man ever has or will because God loved me so much from the beginning. He loves you beyond measure, too! I know that this can sound like little kid's Sunday school class, but it just now hit me that all this time, while I have been desiring for a man to deeply know me, I have been pushing away the only One whom can (and does) truly know every part of me.

    HE is the One whom loves you more than anything. HE is the One whom will satisfy your deepest needs! He IS the amazing Prince Charming. He swept me off my feet with love for me, so undeserving, but so rich, and I know He will to you, too!

    One last thing - I just wanted to share with you the prayer that I prayed to Jesus about an hour ago, 'I'm sorry that I have pushed You aside in the past...please forgive me...Thank You, Jesus, for Your love...I accept it into my heart forever...'

    Know that God is with you. He will never leave you. And He will never EVER break your heart as others may.

    God Bless you, sister!

    ~ Kaylee S. Smith
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 3:53 pm
    Thanks Kaylee, Thats really helpful and I will take any more advice you have:)
    Kaylee S. Smith
    @ Lexi
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 5:19 pm
    Hello again!

    There is one more thing that might help you. I founded a purity ministry for girls/teens/young women called 'Heart of Purity'. Check it out sometime. - There are blog posts on there and a site full of info about purity.

    Let me know if this helps!

    ~ Kaylee S. Smith
    Thanks; Kaylee; Lexi
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 6:00 pm
    Thanks so much for sharing this story! It was so helpful.
    Hey Kaylee and Lexi! I don't really have any advice, because I still often struggle with the same problems. However, I was just in this program at our capitol building, learning how our government works, and it forced me me to work with other Christian guys, as well as girls. This helped me a lot, as well as looking around and seeing guys who are trying to keep themselves pure, and it makes you want to help them, by being friendly and kind, but not overly so.
    I'll be praying for you, and maybe you girls can pray for me, because this is definitely not a thing you'll just struggle with once.
    not aboutboys but....
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 7:07 pm
    the roman 3;5 thing i guess. but anyways i forgot my notes on friday so i only got half credit so i lost 5 points. and i didnt get an A by 5 points. so it may not seem like a big deal and ts really off topic but it ruined my perfect gpa and i feel upset. all my friends got all a's except me. ok so i hope it doesnt sound really stupid, im just upset. i probably care about grades so much but please pray for me someone ive been so stressed.
    Andrea Martin
    @ Alexis
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 7:40 pm
    I totally agree with you. I'm saving my heart (thanks to "Before you Meet Prince Charming" by Sarah Mally) and it also really helps that I'm shy and don't get ANY attention from guys. I mean, if a cute guy even LOOKS twice at me I'm like "whoa" :)
    Andrea M.
    @ Lexi
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 7:42 pm
    Write out your dreams and desires on a peice of paper (from marrying this guy to getting a new outfit- or whatever) and go down the list and surrender them each to God and ask Him to exchange them for His perfect Will. Then, tear up the dreams.
    I did that and it helped amazingly with the one guy I was having a crush on. My thoughts for him have totally gone away. maybe that won't hapen for you but It will still benefit you!
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 8:44 pm
    Hey there, sister, I can say, too, "been there, done that". Did you know that God cares about what we care about, even such a "little" thing as grades? Yup, you read that right. I Peter 5:7 :"Casting all your cares upon Him, for He careth for you." or, in the Amplified, "Casting the whole of your care--all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all--on Him; for He cares for you affectionately, and cares about you watchfully." Did you catch how may "all"s were in there?? ALL. Not the big things, or the things that would be "better" to be stressed about, but all. Everything. And guess what, after we've done our best, which is all God expects of us, do you think He's gonna say, 'She's not worth my time because she forgot her notes and therefore does not have a perfect GPA." ? Of course not!! I'll tell you a secret.....after you've done your best, He DOESN'T care about how perfect or unperfect the GPA is. He still loves you no matter what kind of grade you got. OK, so I know I've said, He cares, and He doesn't care, but do you catch what I mean?

    "Dear Father in Heaven, thank-You that You care about what Your children care about, and yet, it isn't a standard that You set up for who is worthy of Your love. Thank-You that You love us all -- ALWAYS. And I bring Himi to You, You know all about her situation. Just bless her, and help her to bathe herself in the warmth of Your love. Help her to run to You. And help her, after she's done her best, to just relax in knowing she did what you wanted her to. Thank-You that You know all about her and her needs, and that You are ready to meet those needs. In Jesus' name, Amen. "
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 9:39 pm
    Just a note to let you know I have prayed for you tonight. I pray God will give you a peace that passes all understanding (Phil. 4:7) and help you put a right perspective on your grades. I do understand; grades were very important to me too. Entrust it to God and let Him work His grace in your heart. Praying for you.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 9:48 pm
    What a great place for you to grow in Christ--learning to tame manipulative ways, with a good friend who happens to be a guy! It is a lesson that will stand you in good stead all of the days of your life. Manipulative ways are characteristic of us girls--until we are made new in Christ--and then we have the power of the Holy Spirit to help us see ourselves as we are. I have prayed for you tonight--proud of you for recognizing the ways you need to be very careful.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 9:52 pm
    What a neat program you got to be a part of! Just wanted to let you know that I have prayed for you! Blessings to you!
    My Struggle and needs
    on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 11:14 pm
    Thank-you so much for this!
    (This is exactly what I needed and the video was dead on.)

    I'm going through this similar struggle as well. I'm 25 years old. And it's so easy to be wrapped up and be boy crazy. I see so many of people I used to know being engaged. I often ask God, God when is it going to be my turn?

    God is giving me so much time to spend with HIM. I feel so alone, because I go to a secular college. I have turned down guys who were interested in me in the past and I regret that. I was so excited to learn that there was one guy in one of my classes who wants to be a youth pastor.

    It's so hard, not to get emotionally involved with someone who has similar values when it's so rare. I wish God would just so me who he was so that I wouldn't search.

    I'm still struggling, and wondering God why me? Why is God allowing other girls to be married early but God is giving me all this time to spend with HIM? What are your thoughts?

    I'm learning more about the scriptures each day. And I see how good that is.
    Not alone C.Jazzy101
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 1:53 am
    Hey 25 too and going through alot..many of my friends are getting married, and me as for one not even shown them my Boyfriend even a single time..that one of them actually insinuated that i could be gay..but u know wat i keep strong knowing that God has the perfect time for me (Jer29:11) we have got to pray for each other..because believe you me our time is COMING
    @ Dee
    From: C.Jazzy 101
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 11:34 am
    Hi Dee!

    Thank-you so much Dee for that! That was really encouraging! I truly appreciate that. Why would your friends say you could be gay? If they say that, then they couldn't be your friends. (With all do respect.)

    I sure hope you're right that someone else is struggling as well. We'll you pray with me? I believe God has someone for me. I know one thing God is doing right now, is teaching me how to serve men with my Dad and brother.

    I say we should continue to pray for our future spouses. I believe that's one of the most powerful things we can do. Wow, I didn't realize that girls can be so mean like that! Why would they?

    Sometimes, I feel so alone in all of this, I don't manipulate guys, I don't believe in that. I believe in letting guys pursue me. That's the way my parents taught me. I'm not going to ignore them this time.

    It's hard, I'm not goign to lie. SOmetimes, I wish God would say: "This is the one," like loud and clear and then I can sit back and relax and wait. One word God did say to me is: "Be open to other people."

    Perhaps God is teaching us both to patience. I'll keep speaking Jeremiah 29:11 over me!
    LUV 2 U
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 11:42 am
    Such an encouraging post! God bless you guys with whatever youīre going through
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ C.Jazzy101
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 12:40 pm
    We may never know why God has allowed certain things into our lives. We need to search our hearts to see if we are okay with that. After all, He is God and we are not. He will always know more things than we do. His ways are higher than our ways (Is. 55:8-9). Are you willing to surrender the right to understand His reasons for what heís allowed in your life? If so, you can begin to express your gratitude to Him for what He is doing.

    God has a different plan for each of our lives. Comparing ourselves to others can quickly lead to discontent and depression. I am so thankful that during this waiting time, C.Jazzy101, you are growing in your knowledge and in your relationship with God. That will be such a blessing as you go through life. It will give you a firm foundation to build upon as you go forward.

    I encourage you to not look back with regrets or look forward with doubts, but to cherish this time and the growth that you are experiencing with the Lord. Choose to trust His heart for you and His plan for your life. Keep on spending time each day in the Word and hide these truths in your heart. You will not go wrong by doing this! Iím taking the time to pray for peace in your heart today, my friend!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Lexi
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 12:41 pm
    Iím more than happy to pray for you and Iím doing so right now, Lexi. Iím thankful that you are listening to God and want to obey Him and take your thoughts captive (1 Cor. 10:5). One way that has helped me is to memorize Scripture. Then when my thoughts wander or I am struggling emotionally, I am able to bring them back to obedience by focusing on God as I quote Scripture to myself. You might try memorizing Philippians 4:4-8 or Psalm 103. Which will you begin memorizing today, Lexi?
    @Kaylee and Lorree
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 2:17 pm
    Kaylee, I cheched out the website and its really helpful... thanks

    Lorree, i'm going to start memorizing Psalms 103 thanks for the advice!
    @ Andrea and Jennifer
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 2:19 pm
    Thanks for the advice, It's really helpful!
    @ Lorree-Thank-you
    on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 at 3:35 pm
    Thank-you Lorree!

    I really appreciate that encouragement.
    It's hard, and you're right HE IS GOD and we are not. We can not choose our timing, it's all in HIS timing.

    I wont understand. I do know, that God has given me all this time to begin to memorize his word. And one of my new goals is to memorize the entire Bible so I know it at the back of my hand.

    It's hard but waiting for what the Lord wants is the right thing to do. The funny thing is, that I'm always surrounded by men since I'm in school mostly in the business department and God reminds me daily to focus on HIM. Not the men around me.
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 8:20 am
    I'll be praying for you!
    God Bless,
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 9:55 am
    WOW, that was a really powerful and needed message. The last couple years I have gone absolutely boy crazy, and in the last month or so I have realized how wrong I was. I am now trying to search Gods word, I am 13 and I know I want to wait till I am older till I get into dating and such, but that is a lot easier said then done. I am on my way to being free of my obsession with boys, but still need a lot of prayer.
    And also if anyone has any scriptures to help that would be amazing!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Kaylee
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 12:44 pm
    I want to assure you that it is totally possible to be at peace and experience the freedom that Ms. Paula shared in her video. God can do it for you just as He did it for Ms. Paula as you choose to surrender your love life to the Lord.

    You donít have to try and impress anyone, Kaylee! I encourage you to relax and just be yourself. Focus on your walk with the Lord and your relationship with Him. As He becomes the center of your life, your heart of submission to Him will be what draws a godly man your direction. Instead of trying to get others to notice you, perhaps you could look for ways to serve them. One great way is by praying for them. Praying for the guys in your life is a powerful way to be involved in their lives and at the same time keeping your own heart fixed on God.

    Check out these blogs, Kaylee:

    Can Guys and Girls Be Just Friends?
    Can Guys and Girls Be Just Friends? part 2

    Iím praying for you today, Kaylee. Focus on God and let Him bring the friends and guys into your life that He desires. He is faithful and can be trusted with your heart!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Lia
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 12:47 pm
    The key to changing what your sights are set on, Lia, is to set them on growing in your love relationship with God. As you focus on this, the beauty of your submissive heart and your love for Him will shine forth and will be what draws people to you. You can trust God to bring the right man to you in His time. Waiting is the right thing to doÖand as you pour your heart into knowing God and growing thereÖthe waiting will be eternally beneficial to you. Iím praying that you will choose to fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and the perfecter of your faith (Heb. 12:2).
    Kaylee S. Smith
    @ Ms. Lorree
    on Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 1:30 pm
    Thank you so very much, ma'am, for wisdom and insight into my life and the problems I am facing. I thank God for you and am praying for you.

    I just have to say this again...simply....thanks <3

    ~ Kaylee S. Smith
    on Friday, January 25, 2013 at 10:24 am
    Thank you so much, Sarah! I really appreciate your encouragement and prayers!
    um ... WOW
    on Friday, January 25, 2013 at 6:41 pm
    wow. wow. wow. amazing video. amazing testimony. amazing God. (timely too... funny how God does that :-)
    I didn't read all the comments above, but "God Girl" is a great book-- I second whoever said that and nearly ANYTHING by Leslie Ludy is a great encouragement in this area as well!!!... oo! Oo! so is "a YOUNG lady in waiting" :-)
    Very good timing
    on Friday, January 25, 2013 at 7:44 pm
    God had this for me. My school has a banquet coming up and I get worried that a guy won't ask me to it. I want to go with a guy soooo badly, and I even try to become friends with guys in hopes that I get asked. That is totally an unfair reason to treat a guy nicely just so I might get something out of it. It is time for me to give God control of my love life. I have said that I have, but I have been way too concerned with the banquet coming up. If God allows me to go with a guy, then praise the Lord. If God does not allow me to go with a guy, then praise the Lord. I will not let my worth be measured by weather I get asked or not. It was a little hard for me because one of my best friends already got asked and I got a little jealous. It was wrong of me. Thanks so much Paula for sharing!
    on Sunday, January 27, 2013 at 9:56 pm
    I've been experiencing kind of the same thing...Every time I "fall in love," the guy never feels the same way about me. Actually I was friends with this guy whom I really cared about...but I guess he didn't feel the same way about me because he and my best friend(!) are in what seems like a pretty serious relationship. I'd like to think I've accepted the fact, and I've tried to move on but I can never stop thinking about him (especially since we are still friends). My friend doesn't know that I like him but I don't want to tell her and sacrifice our friendship and cause drama. I want to be over him but I'm not. So this has been a hard issue for me too. I still don't know why things are the way they are or even what to do...but yeah. :( Anyone else here with a similar experience???
    on Sunday, January 27, 2013 at 10:04 pm
    Hey girl! I was in a very similar situation. I liked a guy, but he and a friend of mine were together. It was hard to get over him, but I decided with God's help to put my friend above myself. I decided to just be friends with him and not mess up their relationship. I eventually did get over him, and my friend and him actually ended up breaking up. Knowing she had to go through the break up makes me thankful that God helped me guard my heart and stay out of their realtionship. SInce I was friends with him, he invited me to a party at his house with other friends but I made sure my friend (the girl) was going as well so that I was tempted to flirt with him and stuff or hurt their relationship. Try to get your mind on Christ. Get to know Him more and more and you will be fully satisfied. :) have a great week! <3
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    on Sunday, January 27, 2013 at 11:22 pm
    You might try these Scriptures:
    "Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him. Fear the LORD, you His saints, for those who fear Him lack nothing" (Ps. 34:8Ė9).
    "I say: The LORD is my portion, therefore I will put my hope in Him. The LORD is good to those who wait for Him, to the person who seeks Him. It is good to wait quietly for deliverance from the LORD."

    Also, a good blog post for you to consider would be "When You Can't Stop Thinking of Someone" found at:

    I have indeed prayed for you! So proud of you for taking your thoughts captive at this early age, and waiting for God's timing in your life.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Anonymous
    on Monday, January 28, 2013 at 6:14 pm
    I encourage you to pray for this guy. Ask the Lord to draw him close, grow him in his walk with the Lord and keep him pure for his future wife. You can pray those things for your best friend and for yourself as well! By doing this, you are loving them, investing eternally in their lives and taking your thoughts captive. By focusing on your own relationship with the Lord and keeping Him the center of your life, you will be empowered as you battle your emotions and feelings about guys. Please know Iíve prayed for you today.
    Girl..We on the Samee Page
    on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 10:01 am
    Hey sister!
    So I just wanted to reassure you that I know EXACTLY what you're feeling. I'm currently still in an EXTREMELY manipulative stage with all my guy friends. I would say things (ex. I'm ugly or worthless) so that they would tell me differently! Sooo wrong right?! : o
    Well it's become such a habit, that it is feeling VERY overwhelming, but It has gotten better. If you pray, tell God what you're feeling, and what is going on in your heart, He'll help you change it :)
    -Hugs n Kisses
    ~Just the Messenger~
    on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 6:07 pm
    Thanks guys! That was really encouraging, especially to know that someone was praying for me. :) thanks so much
    on Friday, February 1, 2013 at 2:23 am
    I like this Blog, cause there..Paul was actually right when he said no temptation hasn't happened to a common man...I keep in prayer with u for our future HUSBANDS..may the Good Lord be with u all through this trying time
    Boy Crazy
    on Monday, February 25, 2013 at 1:35 am
    I personally think it's ok to be boy crazy but not like to the point where have sex and crap like that... just my opinion
    on Monday, March 4, 2013 at 12:43 pm
    How do let God have your heart and let him take over your love life?.. I am boy crazy i thought I had stopped but i feel like i am even more boy crazy wanting that one guy attention...
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Micaela
    on Thursday, March 7, 2013 at 12:16 pm
    Micaela, I appreciate your heart to do the right thing in the area of your love life. The best way to accomplish what you are asking is to pour your heart and thoughts into your relationship with God. Anytime you find yourself thinking about guys Ė especially when it is a specific guy Ė run to God in your thoughts and prayers. Spend time each day reading His Word and praying. Memorize Scripture! Some great passages to memorize are Ps. 103, Ps. 139; Rom. 8:31-39 and Phil. 4:4-8.

    Be careful what you allow into your mind, too, Micaela. Movies, novels, songs Ė they can all stimulate us to think more about guys and what we want but donít have rather than cherishing the love and relationship we do have with our heavenly Father.

    Another great way to battle this is to find an older godly woman you can share with. She could be your mom, your pastorís wife or anyone else that you see is walking with the Lord. Meet with her, share your struggles and your desire to surrender this to the Lord. She can encourage you, support you in prayer and hold you accountable. Iím praying for you right now, Micaela, and asking God to give you the resolve to surrender your heart and longings to Him and to also find a mentor to walk this journey with you.
    Boy Crazy
    on Friday, March 8, 2013 at 6:44 pm
    I was told yesterday that with this guy I know I "flirty fight". That was one if my best girl friends. Ouch. I don't even mean to. I have become boy crazy in the last month or two. I read lies young women believe. Truthfully I don't want to stop being boy craxy. I use the xcuse : it's natural. I like it!!!! Pray 4 me!!!
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 at 2:19 pm
    @ Kat

    Jesus, I pray you would give Kat a picture today of your love for her. I pray you would show her whatís at the root of her desire to remain boy-crazy. Thank you that you are at work in her life today. Thank you for a friend that loves her enough to be honest...even when it's hard. Thank you that your love for Kat never changes. May she herself and others as You seem them and may she become a young woman passionately crazy about you and marked by selfless love that considers others and their needs as more important than her own
    chelsea harrison
    i need......
    on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 at 5:39 pm
    I think i need a guy just to talk to but there are no boys in my class that want to talk to me just to be a friend, How do i get a guy to talk to me? Or not, Who should i talk to?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Chelsea
    on Thursday, March 14, 2013 at 1:17 pm
    I encourage you to not be concerned about getting guys to talk to you at this point in your life. You can trust God to bring guy friends along when you are ready for them. Will you take a look at these blogs?

    I need a boyfriend:

    Freedom from the need for a boyfriend:

    I encourage you to focus your attention, instead, on cultivating your friendships with your girlfriends and with God. It will protect you from emotional heartaches and will strengthen you in spiritual walk with the Lord and prepare you to be a better friend to others in your life. Will you do that?
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