When Mean Girls Strike

Erin Davis 10/01/13
Category: Relationships ; 35 comments

 

When mean girls strike

 

A sweet thing that sometimes babysits my kids was struggling last week. It seems she was smack-dab in the crosshairs of some mean girls at her school. Their weapon of choice was gossip, and they were making her life miserable by spreading rumors that were untrue. Understandably, she was sad, anxious, and a little shaken.

My heart broke for her because I have so been there and done that.

I have a hunch that almost all of us have. I polled our little staff of writers for this blog to see if they have any mean girl stories. Almost all of us did, with the exception of Lindsey who said, "I honestly can't say that I've ever experienced girl drama. My friendships with girls have been really blessed!" I think she hit the girl friendship jackpot, don't you? Most of us don't get through female friendships so unscathed.

So what can you do when a mean girl (or a pack of mean girls) attack? Here are four strategies, straight from God's Word.

Kill Her With Kindness
Romans 12:20–21 says, "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

These words apply well to enemies and frenemies alike. Don't return mean girl stuff with mean girl stuff. Don't give drama for drama. Instead make an effort to be kind to those girls who are unkind to you. Pray for opportunities to overcome the bitterness, jealousy, anger, etc., in their hearts with God's deep love.

Don't Defend Yourself
Just before Paul urges us to show kindness to our enemies in the passage above, he writes these words:

Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord" (Rom. 12:19).

"Never avenge yourselves ..."

In other words, don't get back at that girl for talking about you by talking about her. Don't repay her mean looks with more mean looks. Don't look for ways to get back at, get even, or punish her. Let God handle it.

Psalm 18:2 says, "The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold" (emphasis added).

Is someone saying something about you that isn't true?

God is your defender.

Is someone pitting a group of girls against you?

God is your defender.

Is someone determined to make your life miserable?

God is your defender.

You don't have to claw your way out of a bad situation. God can send the rescue chopper for you. You don't have to come up with an answer for every lie ever told about you. If you defend yourself, it will likely just add fuel to the fire. Instead, let the big guns handle it and know that God will fight for you.

Choose Friends Wisely
Some girls thrive on drama, but drama doesn't have to be a part of the equation with your female friendships. (Remember Lindsey's story?) While we are encouraged to show love to everyone, even those that mistreat us, we don't have to let mean girls inside our inner circle.

Proverbs 13:20 gives this warning about friendships: "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."

If you've got a friend (or frenemy) who has a track record of gossip, jealousy, and mean girl shenanigans, it's okay to defriend her. You don't have to tell her that's what you're doing. You sure don't have to announce it to other girls (that's gossip too!), but you don't have to put yourself in her sights to be targeted either. Simply move on, and choose wiser friends.

Remember Who You Can Count On
Middle school and high school tend to be seasons when girl drama is at its peak. Take it from someone whose school days are gone, it's not always gonna be this intense, but that doesn't mean that relationships will always be smooth sailing. No matter what stage of life you're in or who your friends are, relationships will always be complicated.

That's why it's wise to memorize this little nugget of truth.

For my father and mother have forsaken me, but the LORD will take me in (Ps. 27:10).

When others walk out, He walks in.
When others give up, He cheers us on.
When others abandon, He promises He never will.
When others want to kick us to the curb, God will take us in.

No matter what others do, you can always, always, always count on God.

How do you cope with girl drama? Leave us a comment below to tell us about it.

Psst ... be sure to check out tomorrow's post where I'll fess up about what it's like to be the mean girl. Hint: It's not as much fun as it seems!

Comments

HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, weíre not trained counselors. If youíre seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as theyíll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    Faliure
    The Mean Girls
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 1:16 am
    About a year ago I was happily going to a public school. All of a sudden I got the "mean girls". It got pretty bad and I decided to be homeschooled. I still can't get over it. I feel like I lost... or gave up. When I see them in other places it's like my head tell my body to get away; and to get away fast! I still don't have the courage to even speak to them. What to do?
    C
    Prayer request...
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 7:05 am
    Thank you. This made me think of my ex boyfriend and his best friend. (His best friend is gay so idk maybe since he's more feminine he's more into drama? I don't say that to be offensive, it's just what I'm thinking.) I texted my ex boyfriend last Friday. He has a new girlfriend and I said I hope he's happy because he deserves to be (I was being genuine about it, not sarcastic). Well he didn't answer me. I actually thought he just hadn't gotten the text but he texted me last night and said he's sorry his best friend called me a bad name. He said he didn't want this to turn into a conversation but it was out of like so he was apologizing on the guy's behalf. I didn't even know his best friend DID this so I'm thinking maybe he did it on a social media network? Because I didn't hear him if he said it at school. But either way, it was really nice of my ex to do this when I've been really mean to him before...

    I realized this meant he got my text Friday and his best friend probably told him to ignore me, and he (the best friend) probably said a lot of other mean things too. After I read the text, I shook uncontrollably for 10-15 minutes or so then I cried, like really cried. I've been making this situation with my ex an idol for SO LONG now and God has been showing me lately that that's a problem. Last night when I cried, I prayed and opened my Bible to a random place and it was talking about idols coming between a person and God, so that reminded me.

    I could really use prayer right now, guys. I had it in my mind that if I was miserable enough it would fix things between my ex and I (yesterday marked exactly 4 months since he last talked to me, and then he texted me). But he has a new gf now, I don't think he's ever going to give me the chance to hurt him again, and even if he wanted to I'm sure his best friend wouldn't let him. (His best friend... I won't even get started on him in this comment.) To sum it up, I've really been struggling lately and God hasn't been the true center of my life in months. Please please pray for me. I need healing and I need to stop feeling like I'm gonna puke so often... I'm actually staying home today because I didn't get to sleep until after 1:00 AM and I figured I'd cry if I went and now I know I'd feel sick if I went, too. I have awful anxiety/nerves and lately I've just wanted to kill myself but I don't think I could ever go through with it...

    Please pray.

    Thank you if you read all of this. God bless.
    C
    *
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 7:11 am
    Out of *line, not like
    Laura
    RE: and C
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 7:39 am
    C, I'm totally praying for you!!! <3

    It gives me such a good feeling being nice to my enemies. It really works, because it makes them stop....and view me differently. And God will ALWAYS fight for you. (:
    Macey
    Re:
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 8:26 am
    My friend once had a group of kids spreading a rumor about her using drugs :( and she was just the sweetest girl I know please pray that they will stop saying things about her.
    Jordan
    RE: to C
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 9:51 am
    Hon,
    I can relate to your situation a bit. This year I ended a six year friendship with one of my very best guy friends. Our relationship was becoming too much and he has a girlfriend so I didn't want to come between them. But it's been extremely difficult and when he texts me sometimes I can barely handle it.
    But I have a point to share. By ending my friendship with him, I've learned that I'm worth more. So hon, you need to know that you are worth so much more. God had declared you more precious than rubies. You are worth more than depending upon these boys' words. You are worth so much more than losing the fight. God has amazing plans for you. I'm praying for you, girl. God bless :)
    Alyssa M.
    Re: Failure
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 10:19 am
    In that situation, did you pray about it? If so, did you feel that God was urging you to stay at the school and you did not? If so, that's a problem. But you weren't necessarily wrong to run away from the situation--it depends on the girls' actions and what God told you to do.
    The fact that you are fearful means that you probably haven't resolved the fear that you felt when they were bullying you. How were they bullying you? If they were speaking out against you, you can resolve that fear, however, the process will be different than if they were physically bullying you.
    Caitlin
    Re:
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 10:49 am
    Where was this when I was in elementary! :) Thankfully the Lord moved me away from that situation and now that I'm older he has helped me see those situations better and be able to help prevent them or just encourage the younger girls in my youth group!
    Jordan
    Question
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 12:32 pm
    I was wondering what you guys think of Downton Abbey? I want to know what you guys think about it. Whether I should watch it or not. Thanks.
    J
    While I agree....
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 2:21 pm
    Thanks Erin, for this post and while I agree with most, please allow me to "add to", if you will.

    Romans 12:18 states as "As much as lieth in you (me), live at peace with everybody". This means that the responsibility to keep peace with others depend on what I do or not do according to the measure of grace given me to handle the situation, and not try to make others live at peace with me if they don't want to. What I'm trying to say is we have the responsibility to take care of ourselves and protect ourselves, even if it's as simple as, as you mentioned "defriending" someone or keeping ourselves out of harms way. Living at peace is not a forceful thing we do by trying to be nice in order to make others be nice back. We have to be careful of our reasons for treating others kindly. Are we doing it because we truly love God and want to obey Him? Or are we doing it out of a secret desire to be accepted by that person? Or is it "secret revenge"-where we just HAVE to see those coals of fire heaped upon our enemies, preferably by us.(I've been guilty of all of these, sad to say-have repented,glad to say :-) ).

    I dont' intend to undermine what has been posted, and I highly encourage it, but it also has to be rightly divided and applied too. This is my own personal experience, but I've gone through "being nice" or "acting nice" to those who have mistreated me,under the cloak of obeying God because I thought it was the "Christian" thing to do, but deep in my heart I resented what others did to me and me "having to take it" for my lack of understanding of the Word. And it made me a bitter, angry, short-tempered person once I got "burned out"-result of works based religion, instead of relationship...UNTIL God showed me in Ephesians 4:25-27, that I should put away lying(to myself and others), speak the truth in love,be angry (against Godly injustices,not just to be angry), but without sinning; not to let the sun go down on my wrath because it gave satan a foothold in my life. Whew! What does that all mean? God showed me that when I allowed other people to mistreat or hurt me and I either pretended it was ok or shrugged it off as its ok, I forgive them, without acknowledging the hurt, I was lying to myself. By not confronting the person (when necessary, pick and choose your battles wisely) or the situation, it allowed satan to come in my head and heart and torment me with thoughts of what i "should've, could've ,would've done" in those circumstances. But when I acknowledged the hurt, and I let that person know that what they did hurt me and I don't appreciate it, whether they cared, apologized or not, it set ME free. The enemy was no longer able to keep bringing that thing up in my every waking moment and injecting fear in me, fear of man, fear of rejection. Even Jesus, according to John 8:59, when people were set to cast stones at him, He got away from them and He didn't keep going back to let them hurt him again because He knew their intentions and that His time was not yet.

    Sorry for being so long winded and Erin, I truly enjoy your writings A LOT, and like your post, but I just felt like the young ladies need to know that there is nothing wrong with protecting themselves. And God isn't mad if they do. He did. God Bless you and keep on encouraging our young women! You are a blessing!
    Lisa M.
    Girls Girls Girls
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 3:59 pm
    I, along with my siblings were homeschooled until junior high. My twin sister and little sister and I were way different than the public school girls. We were sweet and quiet and dressed modestly and that automatically made us targets with these flamboyant, attention seeking mean girls. We were picked on and attacked at every front. It was miserable. We threw up every morning before school. before the next two years of public school were finished we had gotten into several fist fights defending ourselves against these girls. We learned that hard way how so many worldly girls are. Its pretty sad. Nothing we did made it better. We both quit school in the 9th grade. (we got our GED's) I have 4 children whom I have homeschooled for the last ten years. No way would I ever put them in that situation, schools have only gotten worse. I am grateful to God for the opportunity to keep them home with me. And I feel so sorry for those girls that have no choice to be subjected to this. What damage it does.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Failure
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 5:48 pm
    Iím sorry to hear what happened, my friend. While you canít go back and change anything that happened or decisions that was made, I want to remind you that you can move forward. Would you commit to pray for each of these girls by name? Bring them to the Throne of Grace and ask God to work in their hearts by convicting them and drawing them into a personal relationship with Him. Share with God the pain in your heart and ask Him to show you how you should respond to them when you see them. He may not want you to talk to them at this point. But by praying for them, you are not only investing eternally into their lives, but you can trust that God will begin to heal your wounds and bring beauty out of this situation. He can do that and He will! Iím praying for you right now, my friend.
    Anonymous
    post.. and C
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 5:59 pm
    Thank you for this post!
    I have been home-schooled all my life, so I have never been targeted by bullies the way this post is describing, but I have been picked on plenty.. When I was younger, there were a lot of girls at Church who (i think) ignored me on purpose, because whenever I would try to talk to them, they would walk away or say that they had to go do something.
    I was also picked on by my siblings and my best friend for quite a few years, but that is all in the past, and they have all grown out of that since then; by the Lord's grace, I forgave them long ago! :) I don't know of anyone making fun of me or anything lately, so I praise the Lord for that!

    C, I will definitely pray for you!
    Amber
    Girl Drama
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 7:39 pm
    Being homeschooled, I don't see this very often, though I don't have many girl friends that I'm very close to. Even at church, I usually get left with the non-sports playing guys (which are just a bunch of geeks) because the girls all already have cliques and have no room for me. I have two girl friends that I know pretty well but they are not in my church and both in highschool, which means they are extremely busy. One of those friends was a victim of this though. She went to a private Catholic school through 8th grade and was bullied by boys but especially by girls. So this year for her freshman year she was NOT going to highschool with the rest of her schoolmates but is going to highschool out of district. She loves school and everyone is very nice! What a change!
    Slm
    Re:
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 8:11 pm
    Thx for this post! A year ago at church some girls kept picking on me and my friends and I got tired of it! Thankfully I don't see them as much which is a HUGE relief.

    C I will be praying for u!!!!
    T
    For C
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 9:19 pm
    Jesus, I thank you for the life of C and that you love her and care for her more than she knows. Thank you that she realizes that this situation with her ex has become an idol, Lord, and please help her work through it. Help her be able to focus on you and find all her worth in you and not what this boy or his friend thinks or says about her. God, I don't know her situation but you know every detail and you know how bad she hurts. Give her peace, Lord, and help here to know that she is loved and valuable and your child! That's worth more than anything else. Give her courage to live her life. Help her to not let this situation bring her down and cripple her spirit. Amen.
    Marnie
    Re:
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 11:03 pm
    Honestly when girls are mean to me i tend to blurt everything to my sister when obviously that is along the lines of gossip also... Although i am not bashing on them but rather what they did to me, it is not positive and my sister doesnt need to hear that. I am trying to work, through prayer, on removing the urge to blurt and get angry.
    Sam
    Re:
    on Tuesday, October 1, 2013 at 11:04 pm
    I myself, went to a very small public school in kindergarten and then went to Christian school all through elementary before going to public school in 6th grade. I really didn't like it at first but I am very grateful for it now! I met some Christian friends and I think it is good to learn how to handle situations that arise in public schools
    Breeya
    Mean Girls
    on Wednesday, October 2, 2013 at 9:24 am
    I have been homeschooled since 4th grade, but I wish I could of read this post back then! I was picked on all the time. Thats why I never want to go back to public school. I got picked on because I was short, and I skipped 1st grade. I wish I could of read this! It would of made school so much easier! Especially since me getting bullied was pulling me away from God. Thanks!
    SB
    Any Suggestion?!?!?!?
    on Wednesday, October 2, 2013 at 3:41 pm
    There is a girl at my church that can be so mean at times. She used to be terrible but she is getting a little better. There is also another girl at my church that can be so fun to be around except when she is with another girl ( the first girl i told you about). Sometimes we are really good friends but if she is with the other girl you would of thought we had been enemies forever. We used to be best friends ( when she was really seeking a relationship with God). Now Im trying to tell her she doesnt have to act different when she is around the other girl. I guess she feels like she has to act different to impress her. Are there any suggestions on how I could talk to her and try to get her back on the good road again?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Jordan
    on Wednesday, October 2, 2013 at 4:24 pm
    Deciding whatís best for us to watch is challenging isnít it, Jordan? You might check out the blogs below as you go through the process of discerning whatís best for you. They have some really good questions to ask yourself as you make this decision. Iím praying that you will know from the Lord what is acceptable for you.

    How to Know if a Media Choice is Wise
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=698

    Glee and Northern Pike
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=621
    Jwl
    Re:
    on Wednesday, October 2, 2013 at 9:27 pm
    What about when it's your sisters who are getting picked on?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Jwl
    on Thursday, October 3, 2013 at 3:59 pm
    When those we love are being bullied, it really hurts, doesnít it Jwl! Erin has some wise words in a blog below. She says: ďIf you are being bullied, run first to God. Pray for His help, and allow His Word to give you the strength to hold on. Once you've taken that important first step, talk to a wise Christian adult or friend about what you're facing. You might start with your youth pastor, your pastor's wife, or the wise mom of a friend. Ask them to pray for you, and enlist their help to stop the bullying.Ē

    You can help your sisters by following Erinís advice. Pray for them, encourage them with Scripture and then help them talk to an older trusted adult about what is going on so they can get the help they need. Will you do that? Iím praying for you.

    Are You Being Bullied at School?
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=328

    Hope for the Bullied
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=864

    Hope for the Bullies
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=865
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ SB
    on Thursday, October 3, 2013 at 4:42 pm
    Iím thankful that you can see some improvement in the behavior of this ďmean girlĒ at church. Keep praying for her and reaching out to her. Pray for both of these girls and pray for yourself, SB. Ask God to show you how to reach out to them. Romans 12:9-21 has some great advice. Will you take the time to read through that tonight? While you cannot change your friends, God certainly can, so it is a very loving and wise thing to take them the Lord in prayer. As far as speaking with the second girl, I encourage you to pray and examine your own heart and motive before speaking with her (Matt. 7:1-5). Then approach her humbly saying ďWhen you do this, this is how I feel. Is there a way we can all be friends?Ē (Matt. 18:15-17) and see where God takes it. Iím praying for your wisdom, SB, for your courage and for grace as you walk through this time.
    K
    Why?
    on Thursday, October 3, 2013 at 10:08 pm
    I used to be real good friends with this guy, but suddenly he doesn't talk to me very much and I've been told he really doesn't like/hates me. Why all of the sudden? He also tells my other friends the things I do and he kinda turns them against me, why me??????? What have I done to hurt him??? Please give me advice!!!!
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @K...
    on Saturday, October 5, 2013 at 10:14 pm
    If there is nothing you are aware of that has happened between the two of you, then you need to let it go. There is nothing you can do, so let him go. You are guessing at a whole lot of things; his behavior may not have anything to do with being "against" you. You are using your time and energy on something that you can't fix. It is not unusual for "friends" to "change", so look for the friends you have now and be thankful for them. Invest your life--your thoughts and actions--on being a good friend to them. There will be a few people that really last to the end as friends--and they will become treasures to you.
    k
    thank you!!
    on Monday, October 7, 2013 at 10:25 pm
    thank you so much for the advice I was just so focused on getting our friendship back on track I didn't see the blessing I had in my other friends. I just felt so hurt and betrayed.
    I will let him go and try to build my friendship with my other friends!
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @k...
    on Wednesday, October 9, 2013 at 3:07 pm
    I understand completely the feelings of hurt. I am dealing with much the same thing in my life right now with someone I thought was a closer friend than it turns out to be. Bless you as you look to the Lord to fill your heart in the hurt places and let Him bring joy in your other friends. "The Lord heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." (Ps. 147:3) Blessings to you!
    Crystal
    Question.....
    on Wednesday, October 9, 2013 at 8:06 pm
    I have a friend who is not really mean but like, she's not afraid to say what she feels about someone. She doesn't spread rumors but she tells me and my friends how she doesn't like a girl or etc. Would she be considered and unwise friend?
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Crystal...
    on Thursday, October 10, 2013 at 12:12 pm
    You are very wise to consider whether this is a girl you would want to spend much time with. The Bible says in 2 Timothy 2:16--"Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly." If you feel you can, speak up in the group and say "I don't think we should talk about other girls" or "I know you don't like her, but when you say that, it turns others against her. I'm not sure that is fair and right". If you aren't comfortable in the group saying something, then I would for sure ask God to give me wisdom about curbing that friendship. There are others you can spend time with that encourage you to love others and speak kindly. That's the kind of friends you want. "He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?" (Micah 6:8) God bless you, Crystal!
    Crystal
    @Sarah
    on Friday, October 11, 2013 at 5:52 pm
    Thank you! Your comment helped me a lot. I especially like the verse.
    Ellie
    Thanks
    on Monday, December 16, 2013 at 11:41 am
    Thank you so much for this post. This will help me not only at school but also at home. I love with my family and my grandpa, and he tends to be very belittling, and extremely negative. Thank you for the encouragement about God always being there with me.
    Craycray
    Am I mean???
    on Saturday, February 1, 2014 at 5:07 pm
    So I've been strugleing alot lately. I feel like I'm starting to become a bad person.
    I'm the kind of person who is very protective over my inner self and I tend to transform into a little bit of a different person with everyone I talk to. If I get offended, (wich does'nt happen too often) I I tend to make a point of it-- gossip about the person, say bad things about them, on and on. But I never, ever say it to there face.

    Well, recently, I was at a youth event at a church, me and my friends were on the line cheering for our team, then, the coach for that team got angry at us for being there and told us to get off. I was highly offended because our lead youth group
    leaders are constantly telling (forcing is more like it) us we are all one team and need to cheer eachother on. So, whenwe were leaving I said it rather loudly: "Just another reason why (the club) sucks!"

    I don't know if he heard me but i think he did because of his curtness to me lately. I know for a fact that the leaders have been favoring and cheeting certain kids in
    the club and I get so angry because of it. I feel like almost all the leaders are fakes and selfish. But lately I've looked in my own reflection and have noticed my many flaws.

    Also, recently, a leader from a lower grade that I have always looked up to was in our club, I did'nt mean to sound snotty but I did, I was just joking but he took it the wrong way, I said, "Are'nt you a little young to be in here?"

    He looked down seriously and said, "Are'nt you a little young ti be questioning me?"

    Ouch!

    That hurt me so much I cried that night bitterly, (I tend not to be a very emotional person but it cut deep) I felt like such an idiot and feel like I'm ruining relashionsips and constantly am screwing up. I got really depressed. I've tried giving it to God but Its still haunting me. Church is my only social life other than home and I have enough family problems as it is, abd now church is too? Plz give me advice, I feel lost.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ Craycray
    on Monday, February 3, 2014 at 5:30 pm
    Iím thankful that you have become aware of the importance of looking inward at your flaws. While that is painful, that is where humility begins by seeing ourselves as we really are. We are truly wretched apart from Christ. I encourage you to seek the Lordís forgiveness for the ways you have responded to leadership (specifically the two instances you shared with us). God is ready and able to forgive you for this (1 Jn. 1:9). Then I encourage you to pray about approaching these two leaders and asking their forgiveness for your words and your attitude. Having a clear conscience in regards to both of these leaders will help you as you have interaction with them in the future (Mt. 5:21-26). This wonít be easy, but it will lighten the load you are carrying because of this. Going through this process may make you think twice before you speak your thoughts next time. It sure has helped me to be more aware of my words.

    Thank you for your honesty, Craycray! I know this isnít easy. But remember, God promises that when we are tempted He will always provide a way out so we donít fall (1 Cor. 10:13). We have to be willing to choose to take the way He provides out. Will you memorize that verse so that when you are tempted to speak your mind you will pause instead and choose not to sin with your mouth? Iím praying that you will be open to hearing this from me and for a willingness to take action on it in the next couple of days so that you will be freed from this burden.
    Flaming_Aurora
    Mean Boys???
    on Monday, March 17, 2014 at 7:28 pm
    so I have always heard of the term mean girls and figured that guys weren't that mean. that was, until this past year.

    you see I am in 8th grade and I am 13 years old. I have guy and girls as friends and I am nice as I can be to everyone- now that doesn't mean I wont stick up for me or others, and I love pranks too- so I never really thought that anyone would want to hurt me. well one of my guy friends told a major secret that I really trusted him with. so my secret was out.

    a few weeks later another one of my TRUE guy friends came up to me and told me that my other friend was planning on taking a vote in the 59 8th graders we have at my school to see who still wants me to even be at this school.... the vote ended up that 6 actually wanted me to stay at the school.

    I couldn't figure out why on earth this guy wanted to hurt me so much!! ive never dated anyone, so it couldn't be that, ive never been mean to him, etc. well I had to take it all the way to the administrator of the school and tell her about it. for the next months I was always miserable- I actually went to cutting and still do, and I had a bottle of pills and monster trying to kill myself over this- bcuz the school couldn't do anything about it until I had proof.... well to this day I still don't have proof and this keeps happening. I get a feeling that its just bcuz I said no to him on the whole bf/gf thing.

    I need prayer and/or advice on what to do!!!

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