Does God's Word Allow Women to Work?

Erin Davis 05/28/09 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Myself ; 57 comments

working womanMind if I share part of my resume with you? I have a bachelor's degree in communication from Missouri State University (go Bears!). I have a master's degree in education from William Woods University. I have worked as a newspaper reporter, a high school journalism teacher, a public speaker, and a freelance writer. Currently, I work from home as an author and speaker. I also happen to have yogurt smeared on my shirt by my one-year-old, dinner on the stove to take to my hubby at work, and a pile of laundry on my floor nearly as tall as Mt. Everest.

I tell you all of that so you know where I'm coming from. So many of you are just beginning to consider what a godly future looks like. Your desire to embrace God's calling as women is clear. It tickles me pink to read about your genuine interest in sticking to God's plan. But amidst a flurry of conflicting opinions, I'm not surprised that you're feeling unsure about how to manage future careers, marriages, and families.

In the context of God's plan for us as women, where does education fit? What about working outside the home? What is the right thing to do when kiddos come along?

Even among Christian woman you will find varied answers to these questions. That's why I think we should look to God's Word as our standard as we seek to define godly womanhood.

In fact, there is one woman in Scripture who I think has the most to teach us about God's design for women. She can be found in Proverbs 31. This may be a familiar passage to you. The woman described here is often held up among Christians as the gold standard when defining biblical womanhood. If you don't mind, I'd like to revisit these verses, especially when considering how to manage work, family, and planning for the future.

I won't copy the entire passage into this post. But I would encourage you to grab your Bible and read about the Proverbs 31 woman for yourself. You can find the details of her life in Proverbs 31:10-31. For this discussion, I just want to highlight those verses that help us understand the role of work in this woman's life. We are going to look to these passages for an answer to the question, "Does God's Word allow women to work outside the home?"

In Proverbs 31:13-18 we read "she seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hand she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night."

What kind of woman is she? She's a hard worker, accustomed to working with her hands (v. 13). Her work is meaningful and provides for the needs of others (v. 15). She is an investor (v. 16), an entrepreneur (v. 16), a strong and capable woman (v. 17). She earns income (v. 18). If we jump ahead to verse 27, we learn that she doesn't sit idly by waiting for others to care for her and her family.

But this gal is more than a workhorse. In verse 20 we learn that she ministers to the needy around her. In verses 10, 11, 12, 27, and 28, we see clearly that caring for her husband and children is her highest priority. Much of her effort is spent toward managing the affairs of her household.

Does she work? You betcha. She buys real estate, plants a vineyard, sells garments to merchants. But she also does what is best for her husband, her children, and the needy in her sphere of influence.

In 1 Timothy 5:9-10 we meet a similar woman.

"[She] has been faithful to her husband, and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds."

I'd imagine that if the Proverbs 31 woman got together with the woman from 1 Timothy, they'd be fast friends. That's because they have shared priorities. They work hard to care for the needs of their families. They use their homes to serve others. Despite commitments and relationships outside the home, they are functioning in their design as women by making their households their primary area of focus. I'd love to have lunch with those gals because while I value my education and my work outside the house, my highest priorities and greatest successes are my husband, son, and home.

In Lies Women Believe, Nancy puts it this way, "The Scripture is clear that a married woman's life and ministry are to be centered in her home. This is not to suggest that it is necessarily wrong for a wife and mother to have a job outside her home—unless that job in any way competes with or diminishes her effectiveness in fulfilling her primary calling at home" (Lies Women Believe, 127-128).

And do you want to know the best part? You don't have to wait until you're married with children to live out God's standard for womanhood. Making your home (and the people in it) your priority, serving others with your time, talents, and resources, and working for God's glory are all possible within your current circumstances.

In fact, in tomorrow's post I'll be challenging you to find ways to live out Proverbs 31 right now! 

Comments

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    April
    Re:
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 11:21 am
    I LOVE God's idea of womanhood! Even though I'm only sixteen, and marriage and kids are a long way off, I'm looking forward to making both my main priorities in life. Erin, I want to be just like you, with yogurt, drool, and who knows what else smeared all over me, and to be a blessing to my husband as well. I don't understand the need to be the head of some firm, or to be the first female president. Neither can compare with God's plan is the way I see it. Thank you! You rock!
    Lindsay Rice
    Does God's Word allow Women to work?
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 12:55 pm
    I really enjoyed this post. I believe that once a Women is married she needs not to work. Being a Wife, Mother, and Keeper at home should be her one and only job.It would be easy for her to get off track with this if she chosed a carrier while trying to be what God designed her to be. I have chosen to follow 1 Timothy 5;14, 15 It say's,
    I will therefore that the younger Women Marry, Bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
    For some are already turned aside after Satan.
    By preparing for this job now in my teen years, I will be prepared if God allow's me to marry and be a Keeper at home, which I belive is the greatest work a Woman could ever do.
    Also Titus 2:4 and 5 are verse that I'm applying to my life
    Leigh
    Re:
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 3:11 pm
    I must say, I disagree and maybe i am not obeying right conservatvie rules but i think that if everything at home is fine, you're kids are happy, husbands fine and you need money, I think it is okay for a woman to work
    Erin Davis
    Leigh
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 3:36 pm
    How is it that you disagree? That is exactly what this post is about. If your home and family are your priority I think it is great to work outside the home in many cases. Maybe go back and re-read this post. I think you'll find we are on the same page.

    Erin
    Hollie
    Unsure, need advice
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 6:54 pm
    I'm 15 and don't have any desire to get married. I love children but don't feel like I'd have the patience to have them around me 24-7. I would love to have a family deep down inside, but I don't want to get married. I want to go to college and get an education to be a nurse or something like that. Does my wanting to be a nurse and all make me any less holy or scriptural than you other ladies??

    Could I somehow not be fitting into God's plan by not wanting to be married??
    Regina
    Re:
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 7:58 pm
    I think this is so great! As a young woman ready to enter my early 20's, I must say we as adults take responsibility in our lives such as making priorities and honing our skills while we are young not just in home but also in the outside world. This is not just a way to be rich but also God's way of preparing you for a better purpose... to be a woman after His heart by being a Godly wife and a Godly mother to her children.
    Leah
    awesome
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 9:00 pm
    At my school we have this group that my teacher holds called Real. At Real we were on the subject of biblical womenhood. My teacher said that she doesn't agree with the Proverbs 31 women ministries because she thinks that's a perfect woman and no one can be that perfect woman. That got me confused for a while because she's a pretty wise woman and I listen to her advice most of the time. Afte your blog, this is becoming more clear to me that we CAN follow the Proverbs 31 Woman.
    Heather
    I wanna be a momma!!!!! =D
    on Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 10:39 pm
    I just wanted to say that I look forward to being a mother of a large family. (I want 8 kids!!!!)

    But I think that I may also devote a lot of time to my own schooling (I go to Rowan University in August =] ) and career as well (I hope to be an engineer one day).

    I would never let my career take the place of raising my children, but I do want to devote a decent amount of time to my craft.
    Rosie
    Re:
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 8:50 am
    i admit.. im probably the most liberal person on this blog. i believe you can be an amazing mother and workwoman! If your kids are in school, you dont need to work full time! take shifts when they are at school. thats just what i think...
    Leigh
    Sorry Erin
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 8:59 am
    Sorry Erin, I guess I only read the blog part not the actual reading part. Sorry.
    ~Leigh
    Erin Davis
    Rosie
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 10:22 am
    I agree with you. I think you can me an amazing momma and an amazing workman. I am living proof! Well, I try to be amazing at both anyway...No one is saying women/moms can't work. Just that your home needs to be your number one priority. Make sense?

    Erin
    Morgan
    Puzzled
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 11:46 am
    I have felt the Lord really pulling my heart towards mission but I have the desire to be a full time mom also...How could I be both??? It is sort of puzzling to me....
    Jenny
    A Mom and a Work Woman!
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 11:47 am
    Thank you for this post! It has answered so, so, so many questions! It has taken a huge weight off my mind! I am now so excited for the future! I am not sacred anymore!
    Before I was afraid that if I worked I was not glorifying God, but now I know that there is a balance! I can't wait to begin being a Proverbs 31 woman!
    Thanks so much!
    If I could see you I would give you a great hug! God Bless!
    Jenny
    silvermist
    Hollie
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 12:26 pm
    hey not every one is meant to be marred i for 1 really want to ber marryed but some like your self God has made to be single if you dont have a desire to marry then i think your just fine to have acarrer theres no where in the bible that says everyone has to get marred!!
    Steph
    YES
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 12:27 pm
    I completely agree with everything on this blog - and it encourages me!!!
    Lindsay Rice
    re; Advice for Hollie
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 1:22 pm
    Hey Hollie, I get where your coming from. I don't think its wrong for you not to want to get married. As long as you follow Gods Word. In 1 Corinthians 7: 34 it say's,

    There is a diference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
    If you choose to make God first in your life, in everything you do, then you are following this verse. Remember though, that you are only 15. God can do anything he wants, including changing your heart. He know's you, your thoughts and questions. Turn to Him and he will direct your life. I know for me that there where things in my life that I had know desire for, So I simply asked my Heavenly Father to give me a desire to want those things. I'm about your age, and I now have a desire to get married, have children, and Become a keeper at home. Things that i didn't want before. If God truly dosen't want you to get married, He'll let you know in His time.

    I will be praying for you that you'll follow God's path.(;
    Erin Davis
    Jenny
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 1:55 pm
    I'll take your cyber-hugs any day. I am so glad that God's Word encouraged you today!

    Erin
    Erin Davis
    Singleness
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 2:01 pm
    Hey girls! Thanks for participating in such great conversation.

    Just so you know, we will have an entire post about serving God while you are single next Thursday. Be sure and check back and let us know your thoughts.

    Erin
    bella<3
    Re:
    on Friday, May 29, 2009 at 3:59 pm
    I dont want to get married or have kids...cause thatz just what I want I have no intention of being a mom, not that I have things against other people who want to be a house wife, I just dont want to.
    Charli
    Re: Morgan
    on Sunday, May 31, 2009 at 10:08 am
    Hey Morgan, move to where ever you wanna witness! I have friends living and preaching all over; France, Madagascar, Africa, etc.
    bri
    confused
    on Sunday, May 31, 2009 at 3:25 pm
    im just wondering. if the verses say that she is a diligent worker and smart business person, how did you make the connection from that to just only having ministry in your home?
    Erin Davis
    Bri
    on Sunday, May 31, 2009 at 5:57 pm
    No one is saying that a woman should only do ministry in her home. In fact, this entire post spells out quite the opposite message.

    I think that because of our culture, we girls tend to bristle very quickly when this subject is breeched and we don't always listen well to the point of view of others.

    Erin
    Heather
    interesting
    on Sunday, May 31, 2009 at 6:56 pm
    Bella <3 says that she does not wish to be a mother and a wife. Is that okay with God? As long as she is not sexually immoral or whatever?

    j/w b/c i don't remember a passage in the bible that said "THOU MUST MARRY AND HAVE BABIES, OR ELSE!!!!" lol

    idk curiousssss
    bri
    re: erin
    on Sunday, May 31, 2009 at 9:54 pm
    sorry. its just the way the post was worded, imistook it to mean that homemakeing is more important than ministry to others.
    Erin Davis
    Heather
    on Monday, June 1, 2009 at 11:59 am
    You're right. God's plan doesn't include marriage and children for every woman. In fact, to some women he gives the gift of singleness. Keep watching the blog. We will have a post or two about singleness later this week.

    Erin
    Erin Davis
    Bri
    on Monday, June 1, 2009 at 12:02 pm
    What if we use our homes as our primary place for ministering to others? There are a million ways that we can serve others through our homes and families. Can you think of any?

    Erin
    bella<3
    single
    on Monday, June 1, 2009 at 7:15 pm
    haha!!! hey itz fine to remain single rite. i just want to serve God with out a 2 year old hanging on me all the time!!!!! and i dont want to be having to think of some one else`z safty for the rest of my life. i really hate being atached to someone cause everyone else i atached to hurt me
    Erin Davis
    Bella
    on Monday, June 1, 2009 at 10:49 pm
    I see two issues here.

    First, the simple answer to your question. Yes, for some women singleness is part of God's plan. In fact we will have two posts about singleness later this week.

    Second, choosing to stay single and never have kids because everyone you've been attached to in the past has hurt you...well...that's an entirely different issue.

    Singleness in itself is not bad. But if you are choosing singleness out of pain and fear, something has gone awry. Likewise, you shouldn't run to marriage out of pain and fear. So, what's a girl to do? Deal with the pain and fear. Or rather let God deal with it.

    Don't worry about if you will or will not marry someday or if you will or will not have kids someday. You need to take the pain and rejection you feel to Jesus. It sounds to me like you are experiencing some bondage due to past hurts. Search God's Word for Truth about that pain and let Him sort out the details of your future along the way.

    Erin
    <3Bella
    Re:
    on Tuesday, June 2, 2009 at 2:22 am
    I think even if I wasnt hurt I would still not want to get married. but I have trouble conneting with God cause I feel sooner or later he will hurt me also, so ya
    L.R.
    3Bella
    on Wednesday, June 3, 2009 at 1:02 pm
    Hebrew's 13;5b

    I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

    God loves you bella. Don't be afraid. Trust Him. He is there to catch you when ever you fall. Talk to Him. He will listen. He know's your hurt.

    I'm praying for you Bella.
    Carol
    on target
    on Wednesday, June 3, 2009 at 1:58 pm
    ok... i'm a bit old to blog, but i'm getting ready to conduct a the book study for 10-12 grade girls at my church... so i ended up here. i just have to say in my years of reading on this subject this is one of the few times i've found that scripture is interpreted the way i have come to understand it, and believe it to be correctly represented. a woman is expected to be a productive member of society... yes, God and family first, but i haven't found anywhere in scripture that supports the churches trend toward "all christian moms must be full-time homemakers." i've never had the opportunity to experience that and i've been married 25 years and have two healthy, happy, grown children. i had the "understanding" as a young woman that i would get married, have kids, and then give up my career and stay home. but, that's not what God had planned for me. i spent years being bitter (toward God and my husband) until through Bible study and prayer, i came to understand i could honor God as a working mom. the peace in my life and blessings i've seen as a result are too many to tell! thank you and may God bless you!
    **caution: young women... don't say to yourself or to God that my life is going to be this way or that way. instead love God, live for God and be willing to let Him plot your course. life will be a greater adventure than anything you could have planned!
    Erin Davis
    Carol
    on Thursday, June 4, 2009 at 10:43 am
    You're never too old to blog! It is just like having a conversation (only in writing!) I really appreciate your insights and perspective.

    Erin Davis
    Ylenia
    Nice post!
    on Sunday, June 7, 2009 at 4:05 am
    Nice post, Erin!
    I totally agree with you. I'm using this passage in Proverb to write an article about women and the Bible for my Christian site. Here in Italy there's really few stuff about the defence of Christian women.
    Thanks!
    Tiff
    my future
    on Tuesday, July 14, 2009 at 10:30 am
    Do people seriously expect every single Christian woman to want to stay at home 24/7 and not work? I'm young but I know for sure that I will pursue an important career in the future that will hopefully benefit God and his people. How dare anything or anyone suggest that my right and capabilities to engage in a FINANCIAL role is somehow diminished and insignificant just because I am a female! I know that God has called me to use my academic and intellectual abilities for both home-making and a job, but that doesn't mean that my intention to have a job should be belittled. We are all called to different roles, I firmly believe in that verse; " To whom more is given more is expected. " Upon judgment I don't want God to say " You could have done so much more - why did you let other people's opinions stop you from fulfilling my full plans for you". I guess I simply owe more 'profit' as that parable goes... Sorry I get so worried when I'm given the idea that we're supposed to stay at home stay at home stay at home. It's not for me omg I would burst of impatience and restlessness and boredom while growing fat from all those desserts my "Inner" Proverbs Lady makes ;P. There are people who feel that 100% home-maker is their calling, and I respect and admire your full devotion to that . Erin I am really glad you did not curb your own potential, I also liked how you shared 'part' of your resume with us, would love to hear a reply.
    :) Cheers
    Erin Davis
    Tiff
    on Tuesday, July 14, 2009 at 10:52 am
    I don't think anyone is suggesting that Christian women should stay home 24/7, in fact if you read all of our posts on this subject, you'll see that our point is quite the opposite. I just think that the Bible gives some clear direction that your home is to be your first priority. If God has in mind for you to pursue a certain career for His glory--go for it.

    Erin
    Tiff
    thx for the reply.
    on Wednesday, July 15, 2009 at 3:54 am
    ... What do you mean by home though? Does home-maker necessarily mean house-maker? Are you referring to the physical house? Surely house-like issues such as the wall paint- color and the type of gourmet dinners we cook cannot really really bother God. If by 'home' you mean the well-being and foundation of a family then I completely understand and agree, but I would also like to hear that men equally share that same priority. And sorry I wasn't intending to seem aggressive to you or anyone who commented on this blog, my anger probably came from having read other articles that vilify working women.
    sadie
    anonymous
    on Thursday, July 16, 2009 at 6:41 pm
    what if you want a dog more than kids
    ? sometims i feel bad because i love dogs too much. i always said i wanted 8 kids and 10 pit bulls ( each kid has a buddy plus 2 for me!) i want kids , but a dog first.
    Erin Davis
    Tiff
    on Thursday, July 16, 2009 at 10:16 pm
    I mean the second one. I mean making your husband and children your priority when considering how to use your time, energy, gifts and talents. I mean seeing the work you do at "home" (wherever you live) and with your family as your most important work. I mean using your home (regardless of the paint color and type of dinners you cook) as a place of ministry.

    How's that sound?

    Erin
    Tiff
    this is my last question i promise!
    on Friday, July 17, 2009 at 10:51 am
    That sounds alright. hehe Yes I happen to live in a house. I apologize for continually sending confronting posts, hopefully after this I can come to terms with this issue and stop brooding about it. One last question - Must the husband also make his wife and children the priority when using his time, energy gifts and talents and use his as a place of ministry? Thanks for your patience and dedication to this blog, I've since then become inspired to lead a similar lifestyle to you. :) :) :)
    Erin Davis
    Tiff
    on Friday, July 17, 2009 at 11:13 am
    I am happy to field as many questions as you feel like asking. That's why I'm here.

    Yes, husbands are called to make their families a priority as well. In fact, I think Christ calls them to an even higher standard than he calls us to.

    Check out Ephesians 5:21-26

    "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
    Wives and Husbands

    Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

    Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing[her by the washing with water through the word."

    Now I get that the second paragraph is the one that may be ruffling your feathers. It clearly says that men are the head of the household and that as wives, we are to submit.

    But the next paragraph gives an even tougher challenge to men. They are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. You know, the kind of love that motivated Him to come to Earth and die for her. And the first paragraph tells us that we are all to submit to each other out of love for Christ.

    But if you are looking for me to tell you that God created men and women equal and that we are to have equal roles in the home and in ministry, I can't do it. There is a lot of evidence in the Bible that there is a division of labor and that the responsibilities of managing the home, children ect. are uniquely the woman's. I actually think that's really cool!

    I'm not saying that a man should never help around the house or with the kids. I don't think that at all. But I do think there is a lot of Biblical evidence that as women our first priority is to take care of our homes and families.

    I strongly encourage you to work out this issue with the Lord. Look for the answers to your questions in the Word for yourself. Ask God to use His Word to help you understand His Truth for your life. Pray specifically that He will give you wisdom in this area. Here's a promise that I really trust when I am looking for insight in a certain area.

    James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."

    Ask God for wisdom in determining His plan for gender roles. He gives generously without finding fault.

    Grace and Peace!

    Erin
    Heather
    Wasn't sure where to post this question???
    on Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 11:28 am
    I'm in college now, and I've been thinking about what I want to do as a career in the future. I was really interested in psychology, but now I'm thinking is it okay for a Christian to study psychology? I know that there are Christian psychologists, but I kinda feel like why would a Christian ever need to see a psychologist?

    I'm really good at psychology, so it would be a shame if I had to give it up. But if that's what I have to do to mature spiritually, then so be it. I'll just have to make myself be interested in something else lol XP
    Erin Davis
    Heather
    on Tuesday, October 27, 2009 at 2:47 pm
    This is really an issue between you and God. I am sure there are many Christian psychologists who are using their work in that field for God's glory. There are also probably some situations where psychology is used to blur the lines of Truth.

    What God has planned for you future is between you and Him. Commit the matter to prayer. Ask Him to give you clear direction for you future.

    Erin
    Heather
    Erin
    on Tuesday, October 27, 2009 at 8:02 pm
    Yeah, you're right. I noticed that sometimes psychology is used to "blur the lines of Truth." For example, my teacher told us that it's not always someone's fault if they are a murderer, because that behavior could be the result of extreme child abuse at the hands of the parents. So then it would be the parents' fault. Or it's not someone's fault if they are a homosexual, because that behavior could stem from being molested as a child. Idk sometimes I feel like psychology acts as if a person has no say in what choices they make, and it's all up to the environment. But God didn't make the world that way; we have minds of our own, and we can choose to be good. Psychology tends to forget that, and make it seem as if sin isn't a big deal. Maybe I can reform psychology, though, through research of my own. Hmm...I'm getting some ideas! How exciting! But before I continue in my studies, I'll pray to God for guidance. Thanks for your advice, Erin! =D
    Sharon
    Re:
    on Friday, October 30, 2009 at 11:21 am
    I am all about trying to be the virtuous women that everyone is talking in about Prov 31, but I find it hard to believe that a woman can take up a full time job outside the home and then come home and do another full time job of taking care of family and the house chores. Taking care of the house and family itself is a large and at most times a completely exhausting responsibility. I know because I've been doing it for so long now...and now that I'm expecting our first child real soon, I don't know how I'm suppose to do extra for baby, husband and all those chores plus work a full time job. There would be no "me" time at all. In real life a woman would eventually burn out in today's standards. So to me that would be hard. I'm struggling to talk to my husband into letting me be stay-at-home-mother/wife so that I can take care of the him, house chores (and pretty soon baby) more closesly cause I've been so unable to do it while I was working full time...not to mention his not helping me at all! And because of his not helping me, there would be times I would cry myself to sleep every night over that fact that I haven't recieved a break to relax for myself. It's going to be even harder once the baby gets here. Besides, lets get real here, I don't think that God intended a women to do all those things in Prov 31; I think that these things are just listed as some of the things that God would like for us to do, I don't think that he would expect us to do all of that, cause that would be physically impossible for just one woman to provide for her family like that. There isn't enough time in a day for her do all those things.
    Gina
    Job/ Being a mom
    on Sunday, February 7, 2010 at 1:04 pm
    Please, before I write this, don't get me wrong, I want to be a wife and a Mom, and I want to honor my commitment to my kids and husband over my job, but earlier in this post you were saying that women should do most of the housework and although the men should 'help', it's a womens calling. I want to be a lawyer more than anything right now, and when I get married, I hope that both my husband and I will work full time, then when we have kids, maybe both work part time or one of us could, but it would not be just assumed that I, as the woman, should do this. It just doesn't seem fair, I know some people like housework... I'm not one of those people. It sems so unfair that even if I had higher earning potential, I should have to give up my job, or work part time AND do most of the housework. I just don't get how this could possibly be fair.
    Tracie Ervin
    Moms in the workplace
    on Sunday, October 10, 2010 at 6:43 pm
    I believe that we have to follow all of God's purpose for a women. He also wants us to be fruitful and multiply. If we only have one child it is easy to still have a career. My question than becomes are you fulfilling Gods plan if you have only produced one child. However a mother of four and five children will only have time to work in the house. She will rise early cooking, cleaning, getting the children ready for school. During school she will be washing ironing and getting dinner together. Honestly there isn't enough time in a day to truly run a house and have a career. Unless your truly not running your house. I have four children and I wake up at 5:30a.m my day ends at about 6:30p.m. My children are not lacking attention they are well trained, they are productive in school. My husband is satisfied we purchased a home. I help out the neighbors by taking some of their children home from school. I work in the church often but their isn't enough time in the day to do any extra outside of my house.
    I truly fill fulfilled when I run my entire house. I fill as though God is smiling on me. It is hard work but it fills great because my family comes first. When I work on church projects and slack on my household duties that include reading to my children and helping them learn to become adults, they also slack. God meant what he said. If young women want to have a career I think they should start it after they have raised their children. The children are going to be out of the house sooner than we think and we can't get those years back. I feel when we have a desire to fulfill our own needs and if we are not completely satisfied being stuck at home doing chores, etc. Hold off on children because your not ready for the beauty of God's perfect plan.
    Sonya
    Nothing
    on Monday, March 14, 2011 at 12:03 am
    If this is what the bible said about being a Godly woman, I don't want anything to do with heterosexual relationships, children, marriage, or Christianity.

    This breaks my heart. I believe in the God of Israel, but I think he doesn't love women.
    DD
    Exhausted
    on Friday, August 3, 2012 at 12:01 pm
    It is so frustrating to me that even in Christian community women are expected to work AND take care of their families and home. After years of trying to do it all I am depressed, and feel like a failure. I just couldn't work, earn the money my husband and society thought I should, and take care of my family. My family suffered. I suffered and my marriage suffered. Why do we teach that women should be able to do it all???? Why do we tell men that it is ok to expect women to do it all. I just can't do anymore. I am heart broken to find that the womens ministry I have spent two years devoted to "revive our hearts" would support putting women in this lose- lose situation. Either we take care of our family and homes or we work. Or maybe I am just a failure as a woman because I couldn't do it all successfully. I do not interpret the Bible the same way as this blog writer has. I wish I had not come across this article. It really just added to my feelings of failure as a woman. It also made me feel like I will never be able to succeed in my Christian walk. It seems to me that politically correct and the popular world view always seems to win out. There is no protection for family, even within the Christian circles. I am done listening to Revive Our Hearts.
    Erin Davis
    DD
    on Friday, August 3, 2012 at 4:54 pm
    As a wife, and mom myself I can relate to the frustration I hear in you comment. If I could, I'd offer to take your kids for the afternoon so that you could get a pedicure and a little break.

    I do understand your frustration with trying to handle it all as a mom. It is tough and I applaud you for choosing to stay home with your family (that sounds like the choice you made if I am reading your comment right) However, I don't understand your beef with this post or with Revive Our Hearts.

    There is absolutely no Biblical grounds for saying that women cannot work. It just is not there. However, if you will take a holistic view of the message of Revive Our Hearts and of this blog, we state over and over and over that prioritizing your family and your children is what is best. We have stated many times on this blog and I have heard it said in every arm of ROH that it should not be our goal as women to try to "have it all" or keep up with societies standards. We are presenting the exact opposite message that you are accusing us of.

    You sound like a defeated mom. We would love to help encourage you and equip you with God's Word. It is, of course, not our mission to make you feel worse about all you are trying to do.

    I think if you take a second look, you will find Revive Our Hearts to be a ministry that affirms you as a woman, rather than heaping on guilt.

    I'd be happy to point you toward specific posts and broadcasts that could help if you'd like.

    Erin Davis
    Angie
    Are we really moms when we are at work?!!?
    on Monday, October 22, 2012 at 1:58 pm
    I have been working since I can remember, I am now in my 30s, with two children. I am still working full time and even though my job is not too demanding, I cannot but feel that Gods calling for my life is clear, He gave me a Husband and Children, and they should be my priority and only care. As I write this, I am still working and juggleling the work/life balance. But if we are truly honest with each other, we could admitt that we will NEVER be able to give our house the attention we would if we did not work outside the home. The home alone is a full time job, then the taking care of the children is another, and then your husband. As much as I would like to agree that both are managable, they are not, one will suffer and more often than not, its our families. The increased crime, teen deaths, and high depression cases, high divorse cases, and so many other horrible statistics are proof that when the mom is absent from the home, our families will often be attached by the enemie.
    This is the reason why I am planning my exit from corporate america, to focus on the next generation and not let the enemie have it his way!!!
    And Erin, I truly like your perspective on the case, however, if you did not have to work, your pile of laundry would be taken care of and as a result you would not be frustrated. You'd probably find time to clean your yogurt stains and feel relaxed.
    A
    shadow
    Re:
    on Sunday, December 16, 2012 at 1:55 pm
    what's wrong with a woman wanting to work outside of the home? sometimes that's the only way we can make a difference. sometimes the only way to share God's love and to pursue your calling is to be away from home.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    @ shadow
    on Thursday, December 20, 2012 at 1:05 pm
    We aren’t saying that it is wrong for a woman to work outside the home. Please re-read Erin’s quote from above:

    In Lies Women Believe, Nancy puts it this way, "The Scripture is clear that a married woman's life and ministry are to be centered in her home. This is not to suggest that it is necessarily wrong for a wife and mother to have a job outside her home—unless that job in any way competes with or diminishes her effectiveness in fulfilling her primary calling at home" (Lies Women Believe, 127-128).

    As a married woman, our primary calling is ministry to our husband and family. That is clear from Scripture. But that doesn’t mean that we cannot work outside the home. If God has us working outside the home, as well, we can trust that He will give us the wisdom to balance what He has given us to do as we call on Him for the grace we need.
    Jenny Herbert
    To All:
    on Monday, April 22, 2013 at 7:00 pm
    The right choice, working outside the home or not, is quite simple. You need to pray to God for wisdom and then obey what He is saying. Listening, knowing, and then answering may be the difficult parts. I have been all three--a full time working mom, a stay-at-home mom, and a part-time working mom. None are easy. God wants our marriage to be our #1 priority relationship after our relationship with Him, so this is a matter to discuss with your husband. Follow God's calling! :)
    Cindy
    Proverbs 31
    on Friday, May 10, 2013 at 1:11 am
    I just wanted to comment on the life of the Prov 31 Woman. I do not believe that this chapter is summarizing one day in her life. Notice that towards the end it mentions that her children will rise and call her blessed. At what age do children do this? There is a season for all of her works. And the season of raising children is the shortest and most crucial. If a woman's husband, however, demands her to work, then she must submit to him and trust The Lord. The husband will be held accountable for not submitting to Him in His definition of gender roles.
    Phillipians 4:6-7
    Alanna Singer
    Titus
    on Sunday, June 23, 2013 at 2:12 am
    What about Titus 2:5???

    I am checking the Greek and this passage specifically says for the older women to teach the younger women to be workers from the home. "a stayer at home" is how the Greek would translate it.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @Alanna
    on Tuesday, June 25, 2013 at 10:48 am
    Great find, Alanna! Love your heart to dig into God’s Word.

    Nancy DeMoss has a great teaching series on the Titus 2 passage,
    (http://tinyurl.com/p92e4fr). She talks specifically about Titus 2:5 here: (http://tinyurl.com/qhcbfc3).
    Bianca
    God never changes
    on Saturday, March 1, 2014 at 2:40 pm
    Proverbs 31 describes the "excellent wife" as one who "looks well to the ways of her household." All of her work and enterprise, and even running a small home business, are all done in the home. I believe this is what is meant in Titus 2:6 when it says that a woman must be subject to her "own husband." I used to ask, "Well, who else's husband would she be subject to?"

    However, a woman at work in the workforce is subject to another authority, her employer - who may be a male supervisor. A woman in an employer/employee relationship is under authorities that God has not enjoined her to.

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