An Unlikely Friendship

posted by Paula Hendricks on 08/10/09 | Twitter: @PaulaWrites678
Category: Faith; ; 36 comments

Hey, girls! This month we're going to be talking a lot about friendship. But before we dig into friendships with our peers, I want to talk with you about friendship with God.

CristiMeet my friend Cristi. I remember the day she told me that in her teen years God was her best friend. I was glad I was sitting down when she told me that, because I could've fallen over backward from surprise. I'd never heard that from anyone before.

This is her story.

When she was 13, Cristi's family moved to work at Life Action's Christian camp. She had to leave tons of great friends, her church, and her Christian school. Her mom started to homeschool her, she didn't fit in, and she felt pretty lonely.

One day, an older girl shared with Cristi how she had experienced a time when she had no friends. God had said to her, "You should make Me your best friend."

When Cristi heard that, she thought, "That's what I'm going to do!" She started setting aside time to go on "dates" with God. She would grab a yummy snack, burn a candle, and would read the Bible and talk to God. She did that for the entire year. As she did, she began to make friends, but she no longer needed them like she always had before. What I mean is, she wasn't relying on them to meet any needs, because God was meeting all her needs.

She would even often turn down an invitation to go shopping (which she loves to do) in order to hang out with her family or spend time with God.

During that time, Cristi really changed. She had been shy before, but once she started spending time with God and got her eyes off herself, she became confident. She found her worth in God. She was suddenly able to give to other people who needed help. She realized she didn't need a boyfriend. She was getting all she needed from God and was no longer looking to someone else to satisfy her desires.

How about you? Is God your best friend? If not, would you like to work on deepening your friendship with Him? I asked Cristi how you and I could get started, and this is what she suggested:

  1. Schedule a time. Figure out how to make it special. Cristi always looked forward to her date with God. Sometimes (especially when there were hard things going on in her life) she would spend hours with Him. Other days, she'd just be like, "God, You're so good to me," and would spend fifteen minutes or so with Him.   
  2. Instead of running to someone else about the problems, joys, and events in your life, go to God first. Be honest with Him. Tell Him what you'd tell your friends. After all, He is your friend!
  3. Read the Word to get encouragement and answers. Cristi would ask God, "Would you encourage me in some way?" Every time she prayed that, God would! Cristi also enjoyed journaling, listening to music, thinking about Him, and sometimes spending time in His creation.

Comments

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    Olivia
    I admire you Cristi :]
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 2:10 am
    Cristi I admire how u find your worth in God. Its always so hard for me bc i try to find my worth in friends and guys, but then I always get disappointed and feel lonely. but with God, you never feel disappointed.
    Emily
    re:
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 8:08 am
    this is such a great story! it really makes me want to become even closer with God! I want to be able to say God is my best friend :]
    Delaney
    Christi
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 10:20 am
    Wow! That is such a great way to grow closer to God! Thanks for sharing, you really really inspired me:)
    Anonymous
    Re:
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 11:34 am
    I was just thinking yesterday how I want to start doing something like this. reason being that I find myself getting so depressed and discontent because I try to find my worth in other peers, particularly guys. I would love the confidence that Cristi got after spending more time with God every day.
    Yessenia
    wow!
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 12:12 pm
    in advance, please excuse grammar errors and ranting ;)

    My guinea pig died last week, so i've been kinda lonely and depressed. it may sound silly to be crying and such over a guinea pig, but hey! she was a pet. This morning before I checked my email, i asked God to please put something helpful and encouraging in it.

    when i read this i felt SO great because he answered my prayer. now all i have to do is make God my best friend and the lonely part of me will fade away :)

    not to say my friends werent by my side when she (my guinea pig) died, they were with me the whole time.
    Cristi
    =)
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 1:07 pm
    It's convicting for me to read this story... the weird thing is that it's about me. =) It's so easy to become busy and to not make time for the One who knows me the best. Thank you, Paula, for asking me questions and for reminding me to maintain the best friendship any girl could ever have.
    Tori
    Best friend
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 2:05 pm
    That is so neat! I am defiantly going to plan a date with God! Thanks for this post it was a great encouragement.
    Jenny
    My Best Friend
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 2:24 pm
    I have moved a lot in my life. I am only 16 and have moved 13 times. Each time I move I have to make new friendships and new friends. It is really hard. I just moved again 6 months ago.
    Just last week I was thinking how I really don't have a best friend.
    This post encouraged me bunches! Although I was wondering what Cristi's dates w/God consisted of. Like how did you plan them?
    Lindsey
    Thank you
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 2:35 pm
    Thank you so much for posting this. I really needed to hear it. I haven't had any friends for about six years because we're always moving, and sometimes I get really upset and lonely. I need to realize that only God can satisfy my deepest needs - not youth groups, friends or boys.
    SweetPea
    ¢¾¢¾
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 5:16 pm
    Jenney and Lindsey~ Over the last few years I lost all my friends. I mean totally! I'm 14 and my friend and Aaron (he was a best friend!) just stopped talking to me! Ever since we were 4 we did things together at church. We both were saved at 6. I guess maybe he thought,"She's a girl." Now I haven't talked to him for... 4 years? And we live 5 miles away!!!!!!!!!!!!And since we moved and I'm homeschooled I have to make entirely new friends at 4-H. And all my girl-friends literaly flew away.

    Yessenia~ Know how you feel! When my chickens and buuies died (espesially the babies) I wailed,'God! They're my pets!' But it happens so often I've toughened up to the fact it's life. Still...when Cubs,my sweet,inocent pet rabbit died on June 19 of this year I was devestated. Like you said it really hurts.

    I'll defidently do that Paula and Christi! Love this blog Paula! Christi I think it's wonderful! WILL DEFIDENTLY DO !!!!!!!!!!!
    amber
    thanks!
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 6:40 pm
    thanks for writting this. it has really challenged me to have a deeper walk and relationship with God!
    monica
    thank you
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 11:42 pm
    Right one! You rock, Christi. I've been very lonely and unhappy lately because I feel like I have no real friends. But lately I'd been thinking maybe God is trying to draw me closer to him and he wants to be my very best friend. So now I try to tell God everything that I would want to tell a friend. I've been feeling alot happier lately and I hope I will get even closer to Him because I know that's what will make me the happiest. God is a jealous God. When he sees that he is becoming second place in our lives he takes away what was keeping us for a time. It makes me happy to think that he loves me that much and doesn't leave me on my own.
    Paula Hendricks
    To Yessenia
    on Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 11:20 am
    Dear Yessenia,

    I’m so sorry to hear that your guinea pig died.

    I am so encouraged to hear, though, that you ran to God with your pain, and asked Him to encourage you. You are well on your way to counting Him your best friend!

    Praying for you,

    paula
    Paula Hendricks
    To Jenny
    on Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 11:30 am
    Hey, Jenny,

    Check out points 1-3 above for how Cristi planned her dates with God. Then, let me know if you have a more specific question and I’ll try to answer it for you.

    Love,

    paula
    Allison
    Re:
    on Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 1:41 pm
    This post has really helped me.Ever since I have become born again I struggled with letting God be my best friend.I dnt have alot of close friends because I dnt trust ppl.So therefore I started to treat god the same way...as if I didnt trust him. I really want to become closer to him and have him be my everything....but I dnt know how or where to start. Please give advice :) thanks
    zara
    Re:
    on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 at 2:41 pm
    When I read this post today, I was so happy! I graduated from highschool two years ago, and enjoyed my first year in college in my home town last year. I kept most of my highschool friends during that time, and made few college friends. But i felt something was missing, I was never content, I always wanted more from my friends, and they couldn't supply it. Some moved away and some I lost contact with. Recently (around April-ish) I started to really take my faith seriously. I grew up in a Roman Catholic family, and my faith was always on the back burner, but the more I studied the bible, the more I wanted to know more. To the point that my life did a complete 360 for the better. God is my bestfriend and was since April. I get my selfworth from him, not from my friends! I am more confident, and less shy than I used to be. Basically all the things mentioned that Cristi experienced. I have friends but they are an added blessing. However, I still have ALOT to learn.
    Jazz
    :)
    on Thursday, August 13, 2009 at 2:31 am
    I think more people need to think like this.
    I remember for a couple of years I moved around a lot, and I homeschooled so I didn't make any friends. Sure I had aquaintances but I didn't really have any meaningful relationships, I'm so thankful I had a sister that I'm close to or I don't know what would have happened. Anyway, a few lonely years later I met the Lord and it was the best thing that happened to me. He kept me grounded and he became my BFF. I've moved again and before I moved I prayed really hard for a good christian friend. My prayers were answered and now I have an awesome close girlfriend that loves the Lord too.
    In moving around heaps and not really clinging onto friends for support I've found support in God. Friends are very important, but I know that the best friend that you can ever have is God.
    I still have to keep reminding myself not to take him for granted. Sometimes I still feel lonely because I need more faith (don't we all?), but I've come to realise that no matter what, He will always be here for me. <3

    Cristi is an inspiration. Thanks for this post :)
    yessenia
    thanks!!
    on Thursday, August 13, 2009 at 11:54 am
    thanks SweetPea and Paula :)
    Paula Hendricks
    To Zara
    on Thursday, August 13, 2009 at 2:17 pm
    Zara,

    I am so encouraged by your post. Keep digging into God's Word for yourself and seeking Him above every other relationship.

    Your fan,

    paula
    chloe
    HELP!!!!!!!!!
    on Thursday, August 13, 2009 at 9:28 pm
    i'm kinda doubting God right now based on things that have happened recently....how do i get back to not doubting God???
    LindseyLou
    Thanks!
    on Friday, August 14, 2009 at 7:58 am
    Thanks so much for this blog! Your story, Cristi, is so amazing and I admire it. Not many people actually spend time with God. Sometimes I get lonely and I have to rememeber that God is always right there beside me.
    Paula Hendricks
    To Chloe
    on Friday, August 14, 2009 at 2:22 pm
    Hey, Chloe,

    Hmmm . . . can you tell me a little more? What specifically are you doubting? God’s existence? His love for you? Are you disappointed because He didn’t do something you thought He should do?

    I look forward to hearing back from you,

    paula
    zara
    Paula
    on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 2:40 pm
    Thank you Paula! It really means alot to me =)
    Ashley
    Re:
    on Monday, August 17, 2009 at 7:58 pm
    ahh!!! this is exactly what i needed today, right now!!!
    Ashley
    blog issue idea
    on Monday, August 17, 2009 at 8:09 pm
    I was wondering if you could maybe use "talking with guys" for a blog topic. My friend just became friends with some guys and she thinks I don't like them because I won't accept them as Facebook friends or I don't talk to them when we're together (which has really been only like 3 times for short periods of time). For one, I don't even really know them. My whole life, I've never been the type of girl to just run up and start talking with a guy and I've never had guys as friends or anything. I feel awkward talking to them and I don't know what to say. It appears that I hate guys because I don't talk to them, but I don't and I don't want them to feel that way at all. I want them to be able to say "oh, yeah, I know Ashley she is a really nice person" and I don't want to be flirty, just nice and pleasant. I really need help in this area. Please give me some advice.
    jvnahla09
    Re:
    on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 at 9:53 pm
    Great post!
    Carly
    To Yessenia
    on Saturday, September 26, 2009 at 1:18 am
    Yessenia I know how you feel about your guinea pig. My hamster had to be put down because she was really sick. I cried and cried. I have been depressed and tired and I just don't feel the same. I walk into my room and I see her cage and i get this longing feel to see her little body running in that wheel. So don't feel like you are a crazy person crying over a guinea pig.

    Carly.
    Yessenia
    Carly
    on Wednesday, September 30, 2009 at 12:01 am
    Aww, I'm really sorry to hear that :(

    I totally know how you feel about the walking into your room and seeing her cage, it's a really depressing feeling.

    Praying for you!!-

    Yessenia
    God's Princess
    Awesome
    on Saturday, October 10, 2009 at 1:22 am
    This is an awesome blog. It really relates... I need to spend more time just with God. I haven't been doing that enough lately.
    meghan
    Re:
    on Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 9:22 pm
    This is awesome!
    Alaina
    Re:
    on Friday, December 4, 2009 at 2:43 pm
    WOW! That blog is really encouraging! Right now i"m kinda losing my best friend. And i guess i'm just realizing that Jesus needs to be my best friend right now. It is just hard losing my friend after 8 years of friendship.
    ali
    hey
    on Saturday, December 5, 2009 at 5:03 pm
    I've been struggling at school and home any advice
    LindseyV
    To ali
    on Thursday, December 10, 2009 at 5:50 pm
    Can you give us some more specifics about your situation?
    Paula Hendricks
    Ali
    on Friday, December 11, 2009 at 2:46 pm
    Hey, Ali,

    We'd love to try to help. Feel free to email us with your specific situation at Info@ReviveOurHearts.com.

    Love,

    paula
    Anonymous
    Heyy
    on Sunday, January 10, 2010 at 12:22 am
    I have been really struggling with my freindships here lately. I just became a high schooler this year and i have really struggled.
    Sarah
    Heyy
    on Tuesday, January 12, 2010 at 9:01 pm
    I am sorry you are struggling so with your friendships. That can be very painful. Many people struggle with friendships at this time in their lives. In fact, many look back at the first year of high school as a most difficult time. I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord to help you establish some close Christian friends. Here are some suggestions for beginning: 1. Ask your youth leader at church to help you identify what makes your friendships so difficult. 2. Look for others who have no friends and you take the initiative to befriend them. 3. Remember with friendships, quality is better than quantity.

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