Can guys and girls be just friends? Part 2

posted by Erin Davis on 08/16/09 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Relationships; ; 55 comments

On Friday I asked the question "Can guys and girls be just friends?" Based on the example of Jesus, we concluded that mixed gender friendships are fine in general. But there are some caveats to consider. group of guy and girl friends

Friendships with guys are not the same as friendships with girls
True, Jesus had female friends. But His closest friends were men. He spent the bulk of His time with the 12 disciples and even more time with His three closest friends, Peter, John, and James. This seems like a good model to follow.

Proverbs 12:26 gives this warning, "A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray."

It is wise to be cautious in friendship. This seems like especially good advice when we consider guy/girl friendships. Let's face it, friendship can merge into romance without much warning. It is wise to protect your heart and the heart of others in all situations, including your friendships.

My husband and I have a long-standing rule that we don't spend time alone with members of the opposite sex. I have friends who are guys and my husband has friends who are girls, but we simply don't spend time alone with them. This is our method for being cautious in friendship (and protective of our marriage). As single girls, you may not need the same boundary, but it is wise to put some parameters on your friendships with guys.

Specifically, I think it's important to think through what you will and will not discuss with your guy friends. Proverbs 10:19 says, "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." Just as there is wisdom in cautiously choosing our friends, the Bible points to the perks of knowing what not to say. There are some topics that should only be discussed with your girlfriends. Romance is an example.

I cringe every time I hear about a girl who gushes about her crushes and heartbreaks to her best guy friend. It may be tempting to get a guy's perspective on romance, but I don't think it's a good way to protect your heart (or his). There are other topics that require discretion and should be off the table for guy/girl conversations. The short list includes: fantasies about the future, past sexual behaviors, and periods. As a general rule, if you don't want to talk about it with your dad, don't talk about it with your guy friends.

I know I said this on Friday, but it bears repeating. Cut the flirting out of your friendships. It isn't fitting for Christians to be sexting, flirting with their guy "friends" in person or online, or maintaining friends with benefits. I know I bust out the whatever principle a lot here on LYWB.com, but it bears repeating as we consider what's appropriate for our opposite sex friendships.

Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

Make sure that the conversations and behaviors you are bringing in to your friendships with guys are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.

Be honest about why you have guy friends
Proverbs 17:17 tells us that "a friend loves at all times." True friendship is as much about loving and caring for others as it is about being loved. Real friends care for each other when the going gets tough and point each other toward a closer walk with Christ.

If your guys friends meet these criteria, great! But too often I see young women surrounding themselves with guy "friends" for all the wrong reasons. There is something exciting about being surrounded by a group of guys, isn't there? Even if they are just our "friends," we tend to feel better about ourselves if a guy (or two) likes us and wants to spend time with us. And even more often we claim to be "just friends" with a guy while we're secretly doodling his name in all our notebooks, hoping the relationship will evolve. I think it's great to have guy friends, but only for the right reasons and with the right motives.

Comments

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Anonymous

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 8:10 am

thanks for posting that! i needed to read it!

Anonymous

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 9:06 am

Sometimes I'm having a really bad 'friend day' and I hang out with my guy friends and one or two of my best girl friends. Guys just act differently, and my closest girl friends and I feel more comfortable with them.
We don't talk about the events of the day, and sometimes we girls don't talk at all. It's just nice to have a different style of friends to go to. Is this wrong? We don't flirt, we're open and honest, and none of us 'like' each other.

Shieldmaiden

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 9:09 am

Thank you!!
Exactly what I needed.
I find it hard NOT to flirt, because I do it without meaning to. Not the Bimbo flirting, but snappy, witty talking that guys take as flirting.
But I'm working on it!

Denae

Thanks.
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 9:24 am

Thanks this helped alot. :)

margaret

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 9:36 am

thanx for posing those last 2 blogs! luv yall :)

Viv

Great post!
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 10:12 am

Thank you for posting this. I have a few friends who tell their guy friends about their whole romance life, discuss future spouses with eachother, and yes, talk about periods. It bothers me a lot-- I'm sure they'd be interested in reading this.

anita

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 11:39 am

we can be casual, with the opposite sex, but even now adays, casualty has a entirely different meaning, so be watchful.

Amber

:)
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 1:06 pm

thank you for these two post. i've learned alot from them and it's something i'm gonna keep in mind as school starts!

Doodling

Well..
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 3:42 pm

" And even more often we claim to be "just friends" with a guy while we're secretly doodling his name in all our notebooks, hoping the relationship will evolve. I think it's great to have guy friends, but only for the right reasons and with the right motives. "
What if you are already doodling? Do you have any suggestions of how to 'nip it in the bud' so to speak?

Painfully Growing

RE: Shieldmaiden
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 5:25 pm

I know exactly how you feel! I have the same difficulty, except it's made worse by the fact that I'm not exposed to Christian guys much (believe me...even though I don't have much exposure to guys in general....there's a BIG difference between the ones that are saved, and the ones that aren't!) I'll be praying for you!

Judith

Re:
on Sunday, August 16, 2009 at 11:21 pm

I like this blog a lot...
We (my church friends) are reading together LYWB (mentiras que las jóvenes creen, in spanish) and we are learning a lot... but the thing is that they would like to enjoy this blog too, but they can't understand... and a close friend ask me: "why this have to be in english?" ...
and that made me think, that's right... and my cuestion is: Can someone traslate this blog to spanish?
It would be a big help for us...

Erin Davis

Judith
on Monday, August 17, 2009 at 9:24 am

Thanks for checking out LWYB.com.

We simply don't have the manpower to have a Spanish version of this site. It takes a great deal of logistics to either translate all of our blogs from English to Spanish or hire a Spanish writer.

However, the book, "Lies Young Women Believe" is available in Spanish. Here's a link to check it out: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=179

Hope this helps!

Erin Davis

Jenny

Guys
on Monday, August 17, 2009 at 11:46 am

When I first meet a guy and I think that he is sort of cute or nice or whatever. I say to myself I can not let my heart run away with me! I need to love this young man like a brother in Christ and be there for him. I tell my self that I do not need a dating relationship right now and even if I did want to date, why would I date this guy? The world is a whole lot simpler if I don't date and just have guys as friends. But if that is my ulimate goal, "to be friends," then I need to let him know that also. If he knows that all I want to be is friends, then we can be friends without any set backs.

Traci

Think of Guys as Brothers
on Monday, August 17, 2009 at 2:56 pm

Some advice that I've gotten, and found extremely helpful, is to think of ALL guys as brothers. We girls would think it's gross to flirt with our brother(s), but still enjoy having good conversations with them - I definitely agree about limiting what you talk about with them! Anyway, that advice has helped me alot, though I admit I still struggle with thinking of guys as something other than brothers. I'm working on it, though, and God is slowly but surely helping me!!! Don't give up!

pepees

Indeed.
on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 at 4:51 am

Indeed. definetly right! As Christian young ladies vulnerable to wrong relationships. It is better to have limitations regarding guy-girl friendships that often lead to serious disasters. I had a genuine guy friend whom I could be transparent with alot things. He is younger than me though and I led him to the Lord. It kept the realtionship in a platonic level where I first told him that our relationship is real-FRIENDSHIP and not a romantic one. I always feel the collide between opposite gender relationships. People from outside circle may try to put a label of the friendship and later on the friendship ruins. We could have guy friends! I definetly agree BUT must be balnce to treat them into brothely love. As well as give our time to our girl friendships. By God's grace we can always pray to preserve us from wrong relationships that will led us to misery. THERE IS LIMITATIONS in guy-friendships. And MUst ask GOD to keep and take our HEARTS in its right place, where it is safe in HIS hands

jane:)

thx so much!!
on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 at 9:58 pm

i really needed that...especially with school starting!thanx!!!!

ibby

ummm....
on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 at 2:49 am

ok, so my clsest friend happens to be a guy from my church. and he is great. but we both know that our relation ship is on a basis of friends, and nothing more. i mean i hane girl friends too. but i just trust him the most and i am more comfortable around him, because i always feel like my other friends are judging me. it makes me feel really bad, that i cant talk to them. but i just cant bring myself to trust them. is it really bad that he is my friend?

Lael

Thanks!!!
on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 at 2:57 pm

I'm really grateful for this post. You see I'm in a acting group and I have made friends with some of the guys. I'm 18 and they are pretty much 3-4 years younger then me, so I think of myself as the big sister type. Which means they pick on my (out of fun) and I keep a eye on them. I also have a few guys that I know, that are just friends.

A great way to think about guy friends is this. What if he married my best friend? You certainly don't want to flirt with "her" guy. Having relationships with the opposite sex can be hard, especially if he is cute. In my case some are, but I think it will help us to be able to stay true to our own husbands in the future.

Erin...thanks for addressing this issue, it has encouraged me a lot.

Nicole

some questions
on Friday, August 21, 2009 at 10:22 pm

these are really good points!!!!!

one question - why do you think we shouldnt share fantasies for the future with guy friends?
and also why do you think we shouldnt discuss crushes and such with them to get their perspective? in the past, my guy friends (a select few godly guy friends) have really helped me see perspective on guys i like and guided me in that.
i loved this post.

wonder(ing)girl

friends be4 dating?
on Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 11:39 am

hey don't you think its good to be friends with a guy before you start to date him? just wondering. like do u think relationships with guys are stronger if u started out as friends?

justme

guyfreinds
on Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 2:08 pm

I just wanted to say that the reason i havvce Guy freinds is cuz somrtimes they are soo much easyer to tlk to and there not as judgmental adn they have a complelty dif veiw on alot of things so it kinda evens the opionions out and mine are soo suportive!! i like having guy freinds but i def spend most my time with my girl freinds

chloe

Re:
on Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 8:45 pm

the one thing that i think is espically great about guys is that they aren't all dramatic....sometimes girls can be really dramatic and every once in a while it's really nice to have someone who isnt dramatic and doesnt get upset or angry at things that don't even matter.

Erin Davis

Nicole
on Tuesday, August 25, 2009 at 1:36 pm

I just think that those are the type of conversations that can awaken romantic feelings. Talking with a guy (even if he's just a friend) about your wedding, sex after marriage, your kids ect. is bound to awaken some curiosity for each other.

I don't think it's a good idea to talk about crushes for the same reason. It happens so many times that a girl runs to a certain guy when her relationship is struggling just to get his point of view and before long they start liking each other. I just don't think it is necessary to talk through your relationships with guy friends. Seek out more Godly wisdom.

Erin

Christa

Re:
on Saturday, August 29, 2009 at 10:01 pm

Thanks for posting this!!

k. rose

good advice
on Monday, September 7, 2009 at 8:59 pm

thank you for sharing this. sometimes it is really tempting to flirt with your guys friends, but this blog really put things into perspective.

Anonymous

some of my best friends are guys
on Sunday, October 4, 2009 at 5:37 pm

I think it is okay for someone in their early teens, like me, to befriend guys. I, personally have many guy friends. The last couple years I have gone to a very small private school. Last year my class consisted of the entire 7th and 8th grade; me and 3 guys. I became very close friends with them and we still are in my opinion. I admit that I have developed a small crush on some of them, but I think that is part of being young and having fun. As Christians get older they aquire more standards because they are more serious about dating.

Anonymous

some of my best friends are guys
on Sunday, October 4, 2009 at 5:39 pm

maria

thanks!!!!!!
on Tuesday, November 17, 2009 at 3:26 pm

this post has been very helpful and has some very awesome truths that us as gurls just have to stop and think aobut them and take wise decisions thanks you sooo much for this!!!!!!!!!!

krlosier

hmmm
on Wednesday, November 18, 2009 at 4:34 pm

so...wut exactly would u describe as "flirting"? i mean...sometimes I think i mite b but im not sure...i mnea, i have this friend thats a guy....and i dont treat him much differently than my friend thats a girl...i mean, i dont talk about anything or doing anything with him that would b wrong for a mixed group to talk about....just like idk lol. I mean i tease my friends and stuff, and my friends that are guys. But is that considered flirting? this is all probably a stupid question...just wondering :)

krlosier

?
on Wednesday, December 9, 2009 at 7:35 pm

anyone hav any comment on what i posted on Nov 18? thanks :D

steven

Some of my best friends are girlS
on Saturday, January 9, 2010 at 9:20 am

ok one thing i loved this artical. also i saw a miss spelled word. You miss spelled word. perimeter* and thank u, this artical helped me with my relationship very much. (:

Erin Davis

Steven
on Saturday, January 9, 2010 at 2:42 pm

Hey Steven. Thanks for checking out LYWB.com.

I think the word you're referring to is "parameters." It means limit. It is a different word than perimeter (although now that I think about it, their meanings are similar). Thanks for keeping me on my toes!

Erin
Erin

Krlosier

Erin
on Tuesday, February 2, 2010 at 10:47 pm

Hey erin! I was wondering if you could tell me like a definition of a flirt and some like examples. Especially like in the line of in conversation. Thanks! Kris

Erin Davis

Krlosier
on Thursday, February 11, 2010 at 12:43 pm

Hmmm...good question. I think flirting is anything we say or do that indicates to a boy that we might be interested in a romantic relationship with them. It can be the way that we dress, or what we talk about when we are with them, the text messages we send them or even the way we look at them. We just relate differently to boys we are interested in romantically than we do to other guys (like those who are just our friends or other men (like our dads and brothers).

If you're looking for a list of dos and dont's I really can't give it to you. This is really a matter of the heart.

Does that make sense?

Erin

JaimeC13

Hmm....
on Thursday, February 11, 2010 at 9:48 pm

This is a very nice post. I have discussed romance, etc with my closest guy friend, but now that I've taken a stand to be less emotionally promiscuous and less boy crazy, I don't think I'll be talking about that sort of thing as much. I like the rule of thumb about what we'd discuss with our dads, and I also like Traci's idea of thinking of EVERY guy as our brothers.

My guy friend is quite possibly the closest friend I have at the moment (other than family). We live rather far away, so we don't spend too much time together. He's involved in a relationship, so flirting and sexting and anything else is EXTREMELY off-limits (even if I'd WANT to, which I totally DON'T. Ew). Granted, our friendship is the aftermath of a pseudo-dating relationship from last year, but we never even mention those days to each other. I wouldn't describe him as a brother, or someone I'm romantically interested in/lusting after. But I DO love him. I think platonic is the perfect word for how I feel -- I looked it up. :)

I like having a rock I can fall back on if I'm having trouble with my girlfriends (it's okay to talk to him about girls, right? I mean, I would with my dad...). Girls can be extremely catty and backstabbing, and if they're angry they could make something up or even spread around a secret you've told them once. I feel like my guy friend wouldn't do that to me, which is why it's especially tempting to tell him some of my closer secrets. But I know I shouldn't. That might make it easier to turn (back...) into romantic feelings for him, which is something I DEFINITELY do NOT wanna do. Ever.

Krlosier

to Erin
on Monday, February 15, 2010 at 8:33 pm

Yeah it makes sense! Thanks Erin! It's just something I wans't totally sure about...but yeah I know what you mean thanks again :D

Mayah

to edavis
on Sunday, April 11, 2010 at 12:41 pm

i have this guy friend who's really moody.I dont know if i can text him or not cuz it might start a fight or something.How do I know if i'm bothering him when i text him?do i ask him?i dont want to be like a stalker friend.Please Help Erin!!!!!!!!!

Love,
<><Mayah<><

Jessica

to everyone
on Wednesday, June 2, 2010 at 9:02 am

My best friend is a guy. It seems like most of my life, that's how it has been. But at an event recently I was reminded, we aren't kids anymore. The lady said that if I'm going to have friends who are guys, use them as models for what I would look for in a husband; the characteristics I like and don't like, what I'm looking for that he meets and doesn't to get an idea. I feel bad, because I want things to just stay as they are, but she's right. I have never dated, mainly because I was always kind of doing this, if I couldn't see me spending a whole lot of time with them, it wasn't worth it. Hope that helps someone.
Love, Jessica

Morgan

Boys
on Saturday, June 26, 2010 at 8:33 pm

a lot of my friends are boys but if i like one is that good as long as i dont try to get in a romantic relationship with him?

Jen

hanging out
on Saturday, July 17, 2010 at 12:35 am

I'm thankful for this blog--just kinda stumbled upon it and would say that there are some awesome women out there with great points! Yeah, it's something I I also struggle with a bit myself--learning to have godly relationships with guys in my life without lines getting blurred or intentions scrutinized. I would say there are two questions we're looking at: 1. what is my motivation in seeking a friendship with men (as a single woman) and 2. how does this affect God's Kingdom. I would say each friendship is different, so it's difficult to make a blanket statement. Christ gave us the Holy Spirit and He guides us in making wise decisions about who we spend time with and what we spend time doing. If we think about, there are also female-female relationships that can be unhealthy or just have some warning signs (dependency, leading to gossip, etc.). In Christ we have freedom apart from cultural 'you should or you shouldn't', but this should lead to the increasing of a godly life and increasing faith. Do your relationships reflect this? Keep up the great dialogue!

Jen\jenifer

MMHHHHMMMMM!
on Thursday, September 2, 2010 at 5:37 pm

ok ladies why on this whole huge earth would you want to talk about your period with guys?!?!?!?!?!?!?! i find it embarassing and further more i am inclined to believe it would gross a guy out! i mean really who wants to hear you vent about peuberty? im just sayin'... keep your guard up!!!! period! ;)

Mikayla

about to die laughing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on Friday, February 18, 2011 at 11:02 pm

i agree with jen. why would you want to talk about your period with guys? guys most likely know about the horrors (almost!) we women experience, but that part of your life should be personal and only discussed to a certain extent with your best friends! in biology class, we are going to study HUMAN REPRODUCTION! i already know everything, but everyone is going to be so embarrassed! :( why would you want to embarrass yourself further? i personally don't think you should have to tell us to not talk to guys about that.

1questar

guy friends at church
on Monday, March 14, 2011 at 7:05 pm

I have very good guy friends at church and I know that they are always there for me to talk to and give a helping hand. But I'm afraid that somewhere along the course of our friendships, we might start to like each other. I don't want to ruin our friendship just because I'm scared, but I feel like I just want to remain friends and not like each other that way.

Annie

I regreat I haven't read it earlier
on Thursday, May 5, 2011 at 12:07 pm

Thank you so much for this great article! I am so sorry I haven't read this BEFORE getting married - it would have made my life SO better. But I'm thankful I've read anyway - it will be helpful even now.
Dear Evin, is it OK if I translate the article into Russian and spread about my friends (of course with you as an author and the link of the web-site)?

I think it would be helpful!

Erin Davis

Annie
on Thursday, May 5, 2011 at 2:34 pm

Sure! Translate away.

Thanks,

Erin

Emma R

Guy I know
on Tuesday, November 1, 2011 at 3:40 pm

So there's this guy I know, he is a really strong christian and I've gotten really close to him. He only has about three friends (including me). I want to be "Just friends," but I know that he wants more. For a while now he has been all over me. So how do I break it to him, without breaking him?

Carrie, with the LYWB team

re: Guy I Know
on Wednesday, November 2, 2011 at 2:01 pm

Emma R.

I so appreciate your heart not to hurt your friend. You are kind and gracious, Emma.

Guys are much stronger than we often think. While he will no doubt be disappointed for a time, the Lord will give him the grace He needs to accept that you only want to be friends. And beyond that, you can rest knowing that the Lord uses all things for our good (Rom. 8:28). God will use his disappointment to bring your friend even closer in his walk with Jesus.

Praying for you to have the courage you need to do the right thing.

anonymous

Re:
on Sunday, October 21, 2012 at 2:38 pm

I am friends with these guys because I want to be someone who will accept them for who they are. neither one of them are accepted very well by a lot of people. They need someone who will accept them. I do have a question though. How can I talk to them about God and how He will help them without sounding self righteous to them? They are both atheists and the difficulties in their lives are difficulties only God can help them with. I don't know how to tell them that without starting a heated argument.

Lorree, with the LYWB team

@ anonymous
on Monday, October 22, 2012 at 2:11 pm

Your heart to support and reach out to these guys is a blessing to my heart, friend! I encourage you to make sure your life – the way you live out your faith – is in line with Scripture. As you walk in holiness (1 Pet. 1:15). Your walk of faith will speak volumes to them. And pray for them each and every day. Ask God to allow you to see opportunities to share your faith with them.

As they see you leaning hard on God and relying on Him to get you through the difficult times you are going through, it will make them inquisitive about what gets you through. Then you can challenge them to examine their own beliefs by asking them questions. “So what helps you get through the tough times in your life? I’ve found something that really helps me. Would you like to hear more?” In this way, you aren’t actually preaching to them or trying to start an argument. You are simply sharing what works for you.

I’m praying for you, friend, and asking God to guide you as you seek to reach out to your friends. May His light shine brightly in your life and draw your friends to Him.

What?
on Thursday, March 28, 2013 at 1:32 am

What kinds of topics would be suitable for talking to a guy friend?

Carrie, with the LYWB team

@K
on Thursday, March 28, 2013 at 3:11 pm

Great question, friend! We have a co-worker here at Lies Young Women Believe that gave me a list of questions several years ago that she and her husband created to help initiate conversations.

I’ve included several of them below that will give you an idea of the kinds of questions that help to build good friendships.

• If you could do anything you want, what would it be?
• What would you most like to change about yourself?
• What is one thing you would like to try?
• What is one place you would like to go?
• What is a funny thing that happened to you?
• What is your spiritual gift?
• What is your favorite food?
• What is your favorite tradition?
• If you could change one thing about your personality what would it be?
• What was your most frightening experience?
• What are your hobbies?
• What sports do you enjoy?
• Who is your favorite author?
• What book has most affected your life?
• Favorite Bible verse, Bible character
• Favorite pastime
• If you could have lived at any other time in history when would it be?
• Where would you like to live?
• When you have a free day, how would you like to spend it?
• How has God blessed you this week?
• How is your relationship with Christ changing?
• When did you become a Christian? How?
• If you could spend 1day with another person – who would it be?
• What song is special to you?
• Favorite movie?
• Summer activity? Winter activity?
• What is the most daring thing you have ever done?
• Most famous person you’ve ever met?
• Before you die what would you like to do? Bucket List?
• Greatest adventure you’ve ever had?
• What does your name mean? Why were you named that?
• Most interesting person you’ve ever met?
• Nicest thing anyone has ever said about you?
• Best thing that happened to you today?
• Toughest thing that happened to you today?
• What do you do that you think brings God pleasure?
• Who had positive influence in your life
• Good things about the church where you grew up
• One accomplishment you feel proud of
• What is your favorite city?
• Where do you go or what do you do when life gets too heavy?
• If your house was on fire, what things would you take?
• Biggest fear of future?
• If you had free tickets to any event what would it be?
• In this last year what are some ways God has pushed you to grow?
• Describe yourself in 5 words
• What are you passionate about?
• What is your greatest disappointment?
• Greatest joy?
• Who is your best friend

Thanks
on Thursday, March 28, 2013 at 3:55 pm

Thankyou very much, I see that these questions can also be used when talking to girlfriends.

May GOD continue to bless this site :)

Carrie, with the LYWB team

@K
on Thursday, March 28, 2013 at 7:44 pm

They sure can, friend!

Blessings to you this Easter Weekend.
Carrie

rachel

Re:
on Sunday, May 26, 2013 at 7:30 pm

honestly it stinks but I do not have any friends that are genuine biblical christians whom are males around my age! I have some aquantices at church but thats all they are:P
Since I'm in highschool though I do have many guy friends who arent christian! What do you think about that have male friends that arent christian when you are a christian??? I know for a fact males and females can be friends if they look past the lust and other foolishness! I read so many articles about that! Please share your thoughts about non-christians friends!?!

Lorree, with the LYWB team

@ Rachel
on Tuesday, May 28, 2013 at 6:13 pm

The Bible is clear about the importance of choosing our friends carefully because we are influenced by the ones we hang around with. Proverbs 12:26 says: “The righteous should choose his friends carefully. For the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 13:20 says: “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.”

So the question comes back to you. Are your non-Christian friends encouraging you in your walk with the Lord? While it is ok to have “friends” who are non-believers, our closest friends should be like-minded and those who encourage us spiritually. These two blogs may help you as you examine your heart in this area. I’m praying for you as you read through these and asking God to speak clearly to your heart.

Should Christians Befriend Non-Christians?
http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=325

Is it Okay to Date Non-Christians?
http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=662

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