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Amienda
thanks
on Sunday, August 23, 2009 at 3:47 pm
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This is so helpful people in my class always bully me for being a christian and I just was looking for advice because schools starting again and I found this
nicole
Re:
on Sunday, August 23, 2009 at 5:45 pm
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to be honest, i dont think this post is very realistic. altho some girls would love to get out of their schooling situation, most have a network of friends there they arent willing to completely change just because of an annoying bully. also, even if a girl DID want to change schools, the parents would most likely not be on board. christian schools are really expensive, and homeschooling is not feasible for some families. is there something to actually help DEAL with the bullying if you have to stay in your same situation?
chloe
my friend
on Sunday, August 23, 2009 at 11:36 pm
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my friend isn't always very nice to me. she says things that are extremely rude like for example (she's never said this it's just an example), she'll be like "chloe, ur laughs really weird....u have to stop laughing so loudly." okay maybe it seems to you that it's not that affensive...i see were ur coming from but the truth is that i don't have a weird laugh all of my friends say so. and thats a NICE example....she says a lot of meaner things that i can't say becuz it involves bad words. did i mention that she gave me a bloody shin the other day? what should i do? i wanna quit being her friend but i'm afraid that if i do she'll do something even worse. what should i do?
HR
Re:
on Monday, August 24, 2009 at 10:42 am
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There's a high chance that most bullies are bullied themself or feel insecure so they bullies others to make theirselves feel better. I know cause I've been there done that from time to time. My question is how can a girl who sometimes says mean things, how can she stop and how can she deal with her insecurity levels? I have the nicest home imaginable, parents that love me, but I still pick on my sister and constantly ask mom if she loves me or not.

That is just total insecurity and I don't know how to deal with it.
Tiffany
Help
on Monday, August 24, 2009 at 3:49 pm
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i am always being picked on at skool people always talk about my shoes and clothes because its not name brand and it really bothers me they call me all kinds of names i need help. what should i say or do i talked to God about it but i am so confused someone help please!
denise
HELP PLEASE
on Monday, August 24, 2009 at 4:14 pm
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i have really low self esteem and my family doesnt have a lot of money and people constantly talk and tease me. it got to me and now everyday at skool i go in the bathroom and cut my self. Because i dont feel like i can take it anymore. i need help can someone encourage me. please cause i just feel like all hope is gone!
Corissa
Chloe
on Monday, August 24, 2009 at 7:58 pm
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Have you tried confronting her? She needs to know that it hurts or she'll keep doing it. You could also talk to your mom or dad.I'm sure they'll have some sort of advice.
And don't worry about your laugh. Mine's weird,too. It's turning into a snort!

Corissa
Erin Davis
Tiffany
on Tuesday, August 25, 2009 at 1:21 pm
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Unfortunately, being picked on can be a normal (but painful) part of junior high and high school. That doesn't make it any less painful at the time, but I do want you to know that you're not the only girl who is going through what you're going through. Also, it isn't usually something that lasts past high school (or even really past sophomore year). Hang on, girl! I promise you. It will get better.

In the meantime, I strongly encourage you to press into Jesus during this tough season. Don't just talk to Him once or twice about what you're going through. Make Him your best friend. In fact, Paula just wrote a blog post about that. Here is the link: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=319.

Also, seek out some Christian friends who accept you just the way you are. Do you belong to a youth group? If not, I strongly encourage you to find a youth group where you can just be yourself.

I am sorry that you are going through this. I know it is painful. But know this, it won't last forever and God accepts you just the way you are.

Erin
Erin Davis
denise
on Tuesday, August 25, 2009 at 1:26 pm
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Teasing at school can be very, very painful. I am truly sorry that this is something that you are enduring right now. The best thing I can do is to give you some perspective. I promise that the situation you're in won't last forever. In fact, it won't really last long at all (probably only a few months, but certainly less than a few years). You have your entire life ahead of you. And most of that life won't involve the kind of people who would tease you for not wearing the right thing.

Usually when girls cut themselves, they are looking for help. I understand that it may feel like no one gets what is going on with you and no one can help you, I assure you, that isn't the true. But you will need to seek out some help.

Are you involved in a church? Can you talk to your youth pastor, youth pastor's wife, or pastor's wife about what's going on? I strongly encourage you to tell someone about the cutting so that it isn't a problem that continues to grow in secrecy.

The truth is that you cannot change what other's do. But you can find your worth and significance in who God says you are, whether or not others recognize it. When the going gets tough, you need to press in to Him and His Word.

Will you talk to someone this week about your going through? Specifically, I want you to find a Christian woman to talk to about these issues.

Is there anything else I can do to help?

Erin
cowgirl
thankful
on Tuesday, August 25, 2009 at 2:47 pm
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reading this makes me appreciate my homeschooling status. My parents both had bad experiences in public school and wanted better for me. Therefor they have homeschooled all five of us. So I am glad to report that I have never had a problem with bullying. But to read this reminds me that I very blessed to have such caring parents who would devot their lives to give their children a richer, more blessed life.
emma
denise
on Tuesday, August 25, 2009 at 7:28 pm
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hey girl i used to have a problem with low self-esteem but i came to the conclusion that if i was good enough for God it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me. everytime some one would call me something or say something that really hurt i just tried to remember a song 'bout how God loves me and that gets my thoughts off of me and onto God. hope this helps. it takes a lot of guts telling every one what you just did.good job.=)
Denise
thanks
on Wednesday, August 26, 2009 at 8:31 pm
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thank u erin and emma i will try to stop cutting and i will talk to my youth pastor i am just afraid of what he will say. but now i look so ugly i cut my legs all over i regret it so much. if only i would hav got it out sooner. i talked to God about it but i just dnt hear him. So i am making an appointment with him tomorrow
Erin Davis
Denise
on Friday, August 28, 2009 at 12:38 pm
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I am so glad you've made an appointment to talk to your youth pastor. Bringing your struggle out into the light will go a long way toward helping you stop and get better.

Please tell me how it went after you've talked with him.

Erin
denise
erin
on Wednesday, September 9, 2009 at 6:08 pm
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Erin thank you so much for telling me to talk to him. now i feel so much better i have stopped cutting completly and a couple of people gave me some cloths. so now i look like everyone eles thanks so much ERIN. God Bless You I also now see a christian teen therapist to help me talk about my problems. Thank you Sooooo Much!!!!!
Erin Davis
Denise
on Friday, September 11, 2009 at 1:10 pm
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I am praising God with you! He is so faithful to help us even when our situation seems desperate. If there is anything else I can do in the future to help you stay close to Him, let me know.

Erin
Morgan
Re:
on Thursday, February 25, 2010 at 7:17 am
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This article is truly helpful, thanks

I am a junior in highschool, a christian, and homeschooled.. I left last year after all the rumors and taunting became to much. I started out the year with many friends, and ended it with one 'friend' who now that i am homeschooled only calls every blue moon because he is bored. I am not having sex until i get married, and am vocal about it, i wear a purtiy ring everyday. and because of my commitment i became a game to the guy. they made bets to see who could have sex with me. (none of them did)
they would call me name, talk about me behind my back and to my face. I went home many days and just cried. Some people will never understand what i went through. The crude and horrible things they guys said to me like one of the things was 'you WILL have sex with me weither you want to or not" you can only take so much of that..
I found strength in God to get through the year, but i found strength in him not to go back next year. Bullying is a serious thing, and is not taken seriously enough. I took it to the principal, but when he called in the main students to handle it and said that the complaint was 'annoynomous' they all knew exactly who he was talking about. So it only got worse from here. I know how it feels to hate school and to be afraid to go. this is a serious matter and more people should take it more seriously.

God bless,
Morgan
Anna
bullying does happen after high school
on Thursday, July 8, 2010 at 10:06 pm
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Erin, I don't understand why you'd suggest that bullying doesn't happen after high school. It does. It happens in the work place, in adult sunday school classes there are still the cool girls cliques who only talk to certain others. Realisticaly, noone can promise that bullying will never be a problem for you once you get out of high school. But, there is hope in Jesus Christ. Cling to him. He will be your defender whether you are 13 or 33. That is encouraging. He will show you how to love the unloveable, stick with him always.
Erin Davis
Anna
on Thursday, July 8, 2010 at 10:22 pm
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I'm not sure where you're coming from. Dannah doesn't suggest anywhere in her post that bullying stops in high school. I think you are right, Jesus is our defender at any age.

Erin