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redvacuum
it is hard
on Thursday, September 17, 2009 at 1:18 am
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it is very hard to honour a parent(s) that have hurt you and do things that are contrary to the ways of God.

so is it a heart response and doing the things that are ok and that dont defile Gods ways?

like for example, i had to say no when my father wanted me to do things that God clearly says is wrong, but i can honour him now by not going out of my way to say hurtful things about him.

this is something i struggle with a LOT!
Heather
Re:
on Thursday, September 17, 2009 at 7:44 am
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I should obey my mom even when I realize that she is making decisions that will cause lasting and painful consequences in my life? Uhmmm..no thanks lol I'll obey her when she's right, but I'll make her see that she's wrong when she is.
cowgirl
AMEN!!
on Thursday, September 17, 2009 at 8:55 am
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This is such a great reminder for me!! Thanks so much for writing it!! I have a hard time sometimes submitting when I think my parents are incorrect. sometimes I am tempted to feel "above" them because I recognize their mistake, and for once i didn't make it! But I thank the Lord that both my parents are strong Christians and rarely do they make mistakes. And if they do they always listen to me and will apologize and make it right.
LaWanda
Obey and Honor
on Thursday, September 17, 2009 at 12:09 pm
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There is a difference between obey and honor. The Bible tells us to obey our parents "in the Lord" which means what they are asking of us should be in no ways in conflict with our salvation. For example, if our parents ask us to steal of course we know that's against the Word of God, but if our parents ask us to go to college and we don't want to then that has nothing to do with our salvation. We should never disobey God to obey our parents.

We should always honor our parents inspite of how they are we must love and respect them all the days of our life.
Sarah Paige
The Perfect Daddy
on Thursday, September 17, 2009 at 8:51 pm
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It is so easy to be deceived into believing that parents have it all figured out and that they are "perfect". It makes it really hard to admit that parents do have flaws. It also hurts when their mistakes affect you directly. It helps to remember that we have the Perfect Daddy. He will never let us down, never make a mistake, never have a flaw. We can always go to Him and sit on His lap and have a good cry when we need to. He will always be there (or rather, here) for us, 24/7/365.
Scaried of life!!!
OMG!! My parents sometimes drive me crazy!!
on Saturday, September 19, 2009 at 11:53 am
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This is really hard to follow everyday. My parents can sometimes drive me crazy! But, I have learned to obey them. Jesus Christ has helped me alot I try to pray for me to follow where Jesus wants me to go in life. I want to keep my head and smile for the LORD!!! That I love. I want me and my parents to follow him and love each other. It is really crazy at my life because I have 5 brothers I really wish we could get along o and I have 1 sister. Yelp Hope you can help.
mckayla
my dad & me
on Sunday, September 20, 2009 at 7:52 pm
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no parents aren't always right. most parents will admit that they are wrong. my dad on the other hand never admits i'm right and he's wrong, we get in so many arguments because of it.
idontknow
trouble with dad
on Wednesday, October 14, 2009 at 4:31 pm
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same as you mckayla my dad will NEVER admit he is wrong...he has to always be right. Even when i'm right and he is wrong.
Ashley
trust your parents:):)
on Sunday, October 18, 2009 at 3:00 pm
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you should always trust what your parents. no matter if you don't want to. my parents don't let me have sleepovers and i get very mad!!! i don't get why they don't let me!!!!!!:(
Mr Data
Re:
on Sunday, February 21, 2010 at 8:52 pm
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Thank goodness I never had to grow up with parents who were into drugs and be forced to take them because not submitting will be dishonoring them breaking the commandment of (God). (gasps)

Psssssst here is a secret most churches will never tell you because they will lose popularity from their sheep.

God just contradicted himself which means that part of being perfect is <B> admitting and learning from mistakes <B/> and sooner or later God will have to admit the mistake of his overstrict rule.

Maybe that rule will someday be (amended) like what we can do to our constitution without totally taking our rights/laws away?

It's not the law that's the problem it's people behind the laws that are the problem.

Problem people+ uneducated statistic only society equals bad laws everywhere:

(hears pin drop in empty room sense people cannot handle being corrected and learn from it)

Don't worry I have been there before and you will see someday the truth the church doesn't want you to know. :(



As long as the big O doesn't cause us to be under a permenant martial law and people wake up to get our goverment to stop signing laws without representation then we will always have a consitution.
biblebabe
excuse me?
on Wednesday, August 4, 2010 at 5:42 pm
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ok so if God is always right and perfect then you better believe he wont contradict him self. sorry to object but the bible says that God is perfect 100% of the time so would he really be able to mess up? i dont think so but thats just my opinion. didnt mean to be blunt but God cant mess up. ;) love in Christ, haleagh
halli
dads
on Wednesday, August 4, 2010 at 5:47 pm
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my dad has to be right ALL the time. he is any thing but perfect the things he makes me do are stupid! i mean really he threatened to ground me if i didnt start making sure that my sheets were not sticking out from under the comferter on my bed he said it was untidy and he would NOT tolerate it! :( what do i do when he is being a clean freak?
Anon
Honoring parents
on Saturday, November 19, 2011 at 4:14 pm
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It's funny the biggest upsets on here are about chores and what not. I have a hard time understanding what it means to honor my mother since I've been dealing with mental disorders and physical afflictions since birth. Besides the seizures I had as a baby she blames me for all of the problems I have and all the problems she had raising me due to them. The most I can do to honor her at this point is distance myself and not badmouth her and take care of when she's old If I'm able mentally. I find that most articles about this act like there are no parents who are outright abusive, verbally or physically and I can never find the answer on what it means to actually honor your parents. How do you go about honoring parents that hate or only use you? Or raise you out of freedom from guilt, human nature? What does it mean?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: Anon
on Tuesday, November 22, 2011 at 1:41 pm
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I am so sorry to hear of the pain you are experiencing because of the sin of your parents. I appreciate your desire to do the right thing in honoring your mom.

We are never instructed to honor the sins others commit, but to honor the position of authority that God has given them. It helps me to think about relationships more distant than parents to understand this. I may not agree with the President or like what he is doing, but I can choose to honor him and respect the position of authority he has. He is in that position by God’s grace (Jn. 19:11; Rom. 13:1).

Your choice to not bad mouth your mom is a great way to demonstrate honor and respect to her. A great way to honor her is to pray for her each and every day and to demonstrate God’s love to her even though she may never demonstrate her love to you in the same way. Romans 12:9-21 give some great guidelines for showing God’s love. Your mom will be held accountable before God for her actions (Rom. 14:12). You cannot change her or control how she responds. But you can choose how you are going to respond to her. Responding in love is never wrong.

You have a choice in this, friend. You can choose to harbor bitterness (Heb. 12:15) or you can choose to forgive your mom (Eph. 4:31-32). Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what she is doing is right. It simply means you are transferring the burden of judgment off of your shoulders and onto the shoulders of our Just and Merciful God. Choosing to forgive frees you from the prison of un-forgiveness and bitterness.

I encourage you to do what you can to find an older godly woman who can walk with you through this season of your life. Your pastor or youth pastor may have ideas of someone who could meet with you on a regular basis to encourage you, pray for you, and disciple you in your walk with the Lord.

Psalm 27:10 says:

For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in.

Run to the Lord, friend, and seek His refuge by spending time reading His Word and talking with Him in prayer. When your mom hurts you with her actions or her words, I encourage you to run to God. He cares for you and wants to walk with you through this trial. He can be trusted to care for the deepest parts of your heart and soul. People will always fail us, but God never will. He is faithful (Lam. 3:21-25) and is worthy of all our trust.

Praying for you, my friend! Stay in the Word! Choose to forgive and choose to respond in love and respect trusting the God will bring all things into account in His time.
Anon
Re:
on Tuesday, December 6, 2011 at 11:56 am
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Thank you so much Lorree. The scriptures are right on and I feel more sure about what am I to do. Again thank you :)
Gloria
My Parents say this..
on Friday, February 24, 2012 at 6:47 pm
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My parents no longer want me to be with the person I am in love with. We broke up and fee like we need time apart in order to focus more on God, so later on we can have a better christian relationship where we can honor God. We failed many times before, that's why we feel it's better to grow stronger in God being apart for now. We hope to one day get married.
But my parents say he isn't the one. They are completely CONVINCED he isn't the one God has for me because they said he isn't very spiritually strong. I believe that this time apart is for that. To be stronger, and have a waaay better relationship with God. The thing is, I like to listen to my parents, I like to take in consideration what they say to me. The problem is that I believe STRONGLY that my parents don't want me to be with him because my mom had an affair with his dad. I know, horribly. It was a VERY hard time, and was ONE of the reasons we broke up. That's a long story anyway.. But the point is that I feel my parents speak from their hearts, and feelings and thoughts and not from God. Can I still have hope, faith and believe I can still marry him even if my parents don't want me to. We love each other, and want to make the right decision.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: Gloria
on Monday, February 27, 2012 at 3:07 pm
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How my heart aches to hear of the effect another person's sin is having on your life. So often we think our “hidden sins” don’t affect others and this is a perfect example of the effect of our sin on others around us.

Thank you, Gloria, for being willing to be submissive to your parent’s request. That speaks volumes about your heart and your life! I have prayed for you and your family today and have asked the Lord to work in everyone’s heart to find surrender to His will. We do not know what the Lord has for your future relationship with this young man, Gloria! But you will not go wrong to use this time of separation to cultivate and grow in your relationship with the Lord. If God wants you to be together, He will work out all the details. You must work on surrendering even your love and hope for marriage to God who knows what is best for your life today and through eternity. Even though it may not seem like He is doing anything, He is at work doing a thousand different things behind the scenes to bring His will in our lives. He is the God of hope (Rom. 15:13).

I encourage you to use this time to pray for your parents and their marriage and to do all you can to minister to their hearts right now. As you continue to walk humbly and honestly before them, God can use your testimony to work in their hearts and draw them to Himself. Look to others in your sphere of influence for opportunities for ministry, as well. As you seek to serve others during this waiting time of your life, you are demonstrating the love of Christ to all those around you (Phil. 2:5-11).