Can colors make guys stumble?
Millions of women around the world have been posting their bra colors on Facebook in recent weeks. Allegedly, the trend started as part of an effort to raise awareness about breast cancer. Here's are a few examples of bra statuses posted by Christian girls:
None—I'm not wearing one. LOL
Black and edible.
Hot pink and glow in the dark.
Participants say it's just good fun. And I can see where something as simple as a status update seems pretty harmless. I'm all for supporting a good cause and having fun doing it, and I hate to sound like a party pooper. But when news of this trend reached my computer screen, warning bells started to sound.
I read one news article that had this to say about the Facebook bra phenomenon:
"In the last 24 hours, women have randomly been posting the color of their bras on their status updates, bewildering their friends and titillating the men in their lives—all to raise awareness for breast cancer research."It's the titillating the men in their lives part that concerns me. Bra color may just be fun girl talk to you and me, but to the guys in our lives bras are more than just an annoying undergarment. They're alluring. They are sexual. And knowing exactly what kind of bra you're wearing is probably more than a little tempting.
The apostle Paul put it this way:
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall" (Romans 14:19–21).
"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone else to stumble" (1 Corinthians 10:31–32).
Paul wrote these words long before Facebook. In his day, Christians were arguing about whether certain foods were fitting for Christians to eat. I imagine that there were some who argued "it's just food" in the same way that many Christians will argue "it's just fun" when confronted with the bra status trend. The specific issue may be different, but Paul's point is so valid to us today. Don't do anything that causes others to stumble.
I'm no expert on the male mind (even after nine years of marriage). But I do know that reading about the specifics of a girl's bra on Facebook is likely to cause our Christian brothers to struggle in the area of purity. And I don't think guys are the only ones getting tripped up by the "what color is your bra" trend. It will also impact the many, many women joining the trend. This type of stuff desensitizes our minds and turns our focus toward ourselves.
The bottom line is that following God's standards means realizing that the words we say matter, even when they seem like just good fun. With that in mind, I'd encourage you to steer clear of Facebook bra mania and stick to statuses that edify others.
What status can you post today to glorify God?