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Vanessa
Friends?
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 1:27 am
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I understand what you are saying and i often feel the same way. I have some really great friend that i know i can always talk to about anything, but a lot of my "friends" on Facebook don't know the real me. They only see the surface and they make their judgments of me on that. I think having friends on Facebook has become more of a competition that a way to communicate.
whitney henderson
ii know right!!
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 3:41 am
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i totally feel like this! i really have no one to share my most intimate thoughts, feelings, and struggles with and that hurts i have been on a quest for sometime for an older person guidance who has been through and overcame what i go through today. every time i feel like i have found someone the all to quickly turn away i just wish i had a friend with no bias and love that covers our relationship so we can become stronger in Christ and grow with each other i think internet connections our bogus i have been a participant for quite some time and have yet to find a long lasting authentic relationship. then again i have also been a participant in my church for quite sometime and i have yet to find someone there so what am i to do???
Noelle
friends
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 6:22 am
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Wow. I have thought about this a lot. I have sort of a different perspective because I am 16 but don't use Facebook. I've thought about if I want to start using it (when I have permission) or not. I realized that there are a lot of great interactions/conversations I've had recently that would not have happened, because I would have just talked to the person on facebook. I think some girls don't realize that if you throw yourself completely into your digital social life, you're going to see some face-to-face relationships weaken. Wouldn't you rather someone come and talk to you and be your friend because they chose to rather than because your name popped up on a screen and felt an obligation to reply? I definitely think I would ... But here's a QUESTION: if you are on facebook, would you recommend it to someone else who already has a good face-to-face social life? Reply and tell me please!
Natalie
Just a Few
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 7:30 am
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I don't have a facebook (gasp!) because of my dad's job, but honestly, I think my parents have done me a huge favor. Its cool I guess to be connected to people you havn't seen or are distant from you, but I don't think it replaces a few real good friends. I go to a small school, but that means I have a few good close friends, and alot of people who are like my siblings, even though we arn't deep. I do text (mostly my boyfriiend), but I feel like I don't need to be obsesively connected online. I love my laptop, but I love my real friends. I love being with people who really care about me. There are advantages to being able to see and talk more people, but at the end of the day, I want to invest in the ones that love me.
Megbug
Friends
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 11:05 am
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I travel on mission trip frequently and meet too many people to keep in contact with by just writing letters. i have a Facebook but am never on it and all the kids that i meet that live around the state have myspace, but it is stress fun trying to keep up with 100 kids even with social networking in the whole idea...It is so hard to do it! It seriously is not worth the time.

I have 2 friends that are the people that I know I can go to, and about 2 people who I know will be here if I need them. I am 16 and sometimes not being the popular one hurts...But I know that I have 4 friends that will be there no matter what.

I do text but it is just with my best friends usually. (They live out of state) But we also do regular webcam things so that gives us face-to-face time sort of...

I would not recommend someone to be on facebook anymore..not unless they are very social or need it for contact with people. I am probably going to delete mine because it is just a hassle. (And flair is terribly addicting!!!) or closing down the one that has a ton of friends and making one that is just for my best friends and no one else...I don't know yet. :)

I am enjoying hearing the responses. It is making me think about it!
Shelby
mmm
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 11:30 am
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Ive never been into IM-ing,texting,talking on the phone or any thing not face to face.The reson why is everybody acts so different online and on the phone.I prefer to just talk in person.
Steph
Re:
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 11:53 am
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Do you have plenty of people you can text but very few you can sit down and have a serious conversation with?

Is it possible that you've forfeited meaningful relationships for the illusion of connectedness?

I so feel this. I read Leslie Ludy's books, which explained how Leslie was obsessed with the culture. She always had a boyfriend on her arm, always was in the popular crowd, always needed to go to more dances, more get-togethers, and more parties. Then when she had an encounter with God at age 16, and realized God had something BETTER for her, she had to leave a lot of her other friendships behind. It was really interesting to read about, because she actually dropped out of public school to be homeschooled in her senior year. She found that her many friends were just dragging her down. She found that instead of having some meaningful friendships, she had bought into friends that weren't even real friends. They only considered Leslie another person to gossip with, and another person at sleepovers. So she pretty much stopped investing in friends that were not helping her in her walk with Christ. And the amazing thing was, they didn't even really miss her. Then she began investing in real, meaningful friendships. People she never expected - like her family, elderly people at her church, and people that God brought into her life - godly guys and girls who wanted to live a set apart life like she did. It was weird - when she stepped out of the mainstream, super-1000000-friend culture, then she began to notice and cultivate true friends that meant a lot.

Good post. I totally agree. That's one of the reasons I deactivated my facebook on January 1st of this year. I have not wanted to get back on yet! It has been very interesting to see who actually cares about me, and who will continue to contact me. Friends who actually care enough to call me, or email me (which is soooo hard compared to facebook... not), or to check my blog. It's really interesting! I've cultivated less, but TRUE friendships, and even made some new friends along the way. I'm a lot less distracted. And also I get to spend more time on websites like these :)

If any of y'all would like to check out my blog, it is:

stephaniesblogmylife.blogspot.com

Or the blog I co-write:

setaparthearts.blogspot.com

God bless you all!
Audrey
I agree
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 1:36 pm
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I agree with Natalie. My parents don't let me have a Facebook and I feel like they have done my a HUGE favor. I don't have to worry about updating my status every 30 seconds or if my flair is cool enough to fit in with the rest of the group.
Sarah
Sisters at Church
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 1:39 pm
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Although I have facebook, I have friends at school who I hang out with a couple times a week, have lunch, and just have fun talks. But not only that, I have a couple sisters from church that I am I able to open up to and throughout the week, we talk through email and sometimes even in person. We meet up sometimes and take accountability for each other because we are supposed to do that for each other to make sure we're on the right track.

The other friends I have on facebook are classmates and sometimes are there to get missed homework assignments and etc.

I think that you don't need a whole lot of friends to be happy but that one or two close friends (who are christians) to help you through.

:)
Marissa
Re:
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 1:50 pm
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That is sooo true! I've been getting mad at my mom for not letting me have a facebook because everyone else has one and it seems like I'm left out of something that's not harmful or anything. But now I see facebook is harmful.
Erin, thanks for showing me that facebook harms what we know of as a relationship. Speaking to someone in perosn is better than digitally. When we get used to communication over technology, we can get lonely and not be able to really have real friends. I have been feeling lost because my friends are all pluggd into facebook and myspace and such and I don't have anyone that wants to have a real friendship. I really hope that this post reaches out to all of those on this blog that don't know what a real friendship is like. Psalm 1 explains what real friends are like and how they affect you. You can't get that from over a text or facebook message. I hope y'all understand and this helps.
Love from your sister in Christ,
Marissa
evelyn
no favebook, myspace,etc
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 5:03 pm
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I deleted myspace and not really wanting to make a facebook. I don't really have a good friend. But i have those few who lift me up when I'm spiritually down. I use to be that crazy girl everyone knew. But just like they say, when ur gone nobody is going to remember you. I'm at independent now and none of the people i use to kick it with have called me. But I'm glad because all they ever did was influenced me to do bad things.
Rose
Friends.. the more the merrier?
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 7:23 pm
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I don't have a facebook. I feel good that I'm not obligated to check it twelve times a day, post things on "walls" and update my status. I understand it can be addicting. I got to a point when I was so addicted to the internet i spent four hours a day on it. theres just so much to explore. I feel like you can have tons and tons of friends, as long as you keep face to face relationships instead of haveing 1000 friends on facebook, few of whom your actually have discussions with when the school day rolls around. the friends I have in school will always be there for me because we have a bond stronger than the computer screen. Some people are my very good friends, others not so much. I talk to them occassionaly, but always wave hello in the halls. I feel like the human mind can take more than 150 friends, as long as the bonds are strong and you can talk about more than facebook and twitter. I also feel like i have the obligation to befriend people with few friends. When I think about how much support I get from my friends, I always feel guilty for the kids who sit alone at lunch. Alot of my friends invite them to sit with us and we learn they are actually really talkative and nice if you give them the chance. And there are always those girls who make it their job to be "better than you" I don't really care about what they think. Of course, if they need help with homework and they come to me I don't intenionally sabotage them. I treat them with respect even if they dont treat me that way! Oh well!!!
Ann
Stays on the Surface
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 8:56 pm
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I have a couple friends that I can go deep with and I am so thankful for that. One is my mentor who is very godly and the other is a friend who is striving to grow in the Lord along with me. But, in my other relationships I definitely do tend to stay on the surface. I struggle with knowing when and how to get deep with some of these girls. There are several in my life that are younger than me and I would love to be a good friend to them.
Lucy
Good Friends
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 9:31 pm
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I really understand what you've written about. I have a Facebook account, but I can't seem to bring myself to invest much time in it. I find it a struggle to find and keep good friends; I'd much rather be with my family. I've been praying that God will help me find and grow with a few really good friends, but I seem to only be interested in the security my friends bring me. I don't seem to be interested in really spending time with them, although I often enjoy their company. Is this strange?
Marissa
Agreed
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 10:06 pm
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i totally agree with this article. its hard to maintain my friendships with all my 200 facebook friends and when i honestly think about it half of those friends are just aqaintances that i never actually talk to. this article helps to re-evaluate who my TRUE friends are :)
Marissa D.
Name change
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 10:55 pm
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There is another Marissa on the blog I have found and I am the one that always signs my comments sister in christ. My name is now Marissa D. So I don't confuse people!
Jasmine
to Noelle
on Wednesday, March 17, 2010 at 10:59 pm
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Hey, I can really relate with you on this subject. I was on Face Book for about eight months, until it became addictive. At that time I noticed that my best friends were slipping away, and i was not there for her like i needed to be. That is when, I deleted my account. I have not had FB for six months now. I really feel like my time that I do not spend Face Book, I can put to work some where else. For example, doing school, spending time with my family, or helping around the house.
I have especially found more time to strengthen my relationship with God I really do not have that many friends. (Most of them have moved away) Therefore, I decided to make God my very best friend. The more I think about it, I guess every minute I do not spend in FB, is another minute that I can spend doing things for Him.

Do not get me wrong. I do not think that FB is a bad thing or that it is sinful. I just know, that once I got sucked into it, it was hard to stop. I started viewing it like a drug. I was an addict to Face book.
I felt so worthless, and that i just could not get away from that blue page of updates.
The story above(which is true) was only my experience. Every one is different. My two sisters have FB, and it does not bother them. All things considered, I suggest trying it, but being careful not to become addicted to it.
Thanks Erin!! It was a great post!!!

~Jasmine
Diana
My FriendS
on Thursday, March 18, 2010 at 11:30 am
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I am grateful that you have posted this Erin.
You have been a blessing. Starting summer, we are starting a program on the book '' lies young women believe ''
any way, here is my point.
Yes, I have a good bit of friends, mostly in my church because I am home school.
In my church, there are however, a few girls who are very rude, un kind, and people who never want anything good for you. yet, I am or try to be nice to them,
of course, my freinds, especialy one of them are very upset with both of the not so good for anything girls.
My friend cristy, has no respect what so ever, she is not Mean, she just does not respect them ( for personal matters. )
I wish I could be friends with everyone, but That just isnt possable.
I need help, how can I try to be friends with somone, who is always doing somthing wrong to me, being rude and stuff. Any advice?
Jen
Facebook
on Friday, March 19, 2010 at 8:28 am
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There are some good things about facebook and some not so great things. My sister, mom and I have facebook, and my sister and I have these friends on there who are going through a tough time because their parents are getting a divorce, and they make a mountian out of a mole hill because they are so insecure. And there are some arguments that we probably would never had, if we had not had facebook. If you don't have it, I would suggest NOT getting. When you talk to someone face to face, it's always nicer, because you can see their facial expressions and can tell if they're joking or serious.
pinkiepie
Re:
on Friday, March 19, 2010 at 12:10 pm
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definately. i have tons and tons and tons of friends...but they are only my friends when they need something. i am utterly alone. there is no one there for me. but no one would know that. i use over 5000 texts a month. i email and facebook and blog and many other things. i know half the state i live in. but its not the same as having friends.
countrygirl101
Marissa D. ??
on Sunday, March 21, 2010 at 5:25 pm
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um i just wanted to check and see if you are the one that talked too me about my boyfreind and not having children was that you?? or the other one?
Jasmine
to pinkiepie
on Sunday, March 21, 2010 at 8:59 pm
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I will be praying for you!! Hang in there girl. Remember that Jesus is the best friend we could ever have!!
God be with you,
~Jasmine
Marissa D.
Re: countrygirl101
on Monday, March 22, 2010 at 2:02 pm
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Yep that's me. You can always be sure because my comments have sister in Christ or love from your sister in Christ and such.
I've been meaning to comment to you and ask how things are. I reread your original comment saying that your bf and you are getting married in 2 years. My bad for missing that originally. So how's it goin with the children issue? Your bf sounds really supportive. I'll keep praying for ya!
I have a request for all you girls. I made a loooong list of BIG mistakes at around midnight today. It was a lot of sin and could you pray for me. I don't know if I want to share it all... Maybe... I wrote it on the truth or bare post from a couple of years ago. Thansk!
Sister in Christ,
Marissa
Countrygirl101
Marissa D
on Tuesday, March 23, 2010 at 7:42 pm
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Hey!!! i left you another post under The deppresion section!! thanks for listing!! and im hear if you wanna talk about those mistakes.. it usally makes me feel better too talk about them! just know that i am not gonna judge you at all for any of it i hate it when people do that we are all human!!! we all mess up i should no i think I do it more than anyone!!!
Liya
Friends
on Tuesday, March 23, 2010 at 9:38 pm
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I have facebook but I have less than 160 friends. I usually use it to stay intouch with friends from school and family. I rarely uploads my status and everthing about me is private . I don't really have lots of friends because i don't trust people esp girls . Sometimes it do get lonely because all of ur friends are doing fun things with their girlfriends. I have like 3 friends that i can really talked to .
dancer4Christ
Friends
on Wednesday, March 24, 2010 at 3:56 pm
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I have recently thought about this and brought this topic up to my mom. For years I was the quiet girl and only had one good friend. I didn't fit in with the people around me and many people I considered aquaintances. Through this past year I became more confident with myself and I've made a ton of new friends.. I don't have a ton of friends on facebook because I don't accept friends that I don't talk to on a normal basis. Most of my friends I do consider very good friends. The problem is, its so hard because i offend people because I can't spend enough time with each of my friends. I try not too and I try to spend it equally with everyone, but i don't know what to do. And it leaves me extremely uncomfortable.
Ciara
Friends
on Wednesday, March 24, 2010 at 9:42 pm
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I have so many friends but its like i cant talk to them. I am 13 and I have been the best of friends with these two girls. They met a couple monthes ago and didnt like each other too much. Now they are best friends and I have been left in the dust. I dont feel like i have any friends. The friends i do have seem to make fun of me. I have recently been having trust issues and now i feel like I will never have friends like i did.
chloe
my friends
on Thursday, March 25, 2010 at 12:56 pm
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I have a lot of friends but I only have 24 on my myspace page and 40 contacts in my phone and some of those contacts are my relatives. I think that I have some pretty good friends. I know who to go to when i need advice, when I need a shoulder to cry on, or when I just need to laugh. But I only discovered which of my many friends were my real friends about 6 months ago. 6 months ago I was hanging out with this one group at my school and they were suposedely the "popular group". Now I don't really consider them all that popular because I go to a private school and there is about only 28 middle schoolers all together. but I guess that they are because everyone thinks that they're the coolest. Anyways, I had been hanging out with them ever since the seventh grade and like I said before about 6 months ago I realized that they were fakes. I discovered that they were spreading these horrible rumors about me and that when the did hang out with me rather than just ignore me they only did it so they could laugh about it later. They tried to apologize and tell me that they were sorry and that they had learned and for a while I believed them. Then one day I was having a sleep over with one of my friends that has now proved herself to be a true friend and one of the fake ones. I thought that we had a great time but the next day at school I found out that there were even more rumors flying around about us that someone had probably gotten from the sleepover. That was the last straw, after that I found my real friends and I got rid of the fakes. I am now proud to say that I have myself some true friends. And I know that they will always be there for me. I may not be popular, but yes I have friends. My point to this story is don't fall into the popular crowd. Because one day, the popular girls are going to fall apart. Just be yourself, and nobody else! :)
kasey
unrelated.
on Thursday, March 25, 2010 at 9:38 pm
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Sorry, this is kinda unrelated to the blog post, but i noticed that in the picture, one of the girls is wearing a pretty immodest shirt.. it's just confusing for us girls when the writers say modesty matters, yet here in this picture the girl's shirt is waay too low. that's all i wanted to say :)

thanks,
kasey
Victoria
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on Friday, March 26, 2010 at 12:32 pm
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I am a stay at home mom with 2 little ones and a husband to care for. I love it and I also see in God's Word that this is my role as a married woman. (I am 22 years old, by the way) But, since I do stay at home I don't have a lot of friends at all... actually I only have one true friend. She also is a stay at home mom/ wife... so we rarely see each other and when we do we have our children with us. We also haven't found a church that we think is right for our family. We see certain things in God's Word about church and what things are supposed to be like... and we just haven't found one yet. But, the lack of fellowship and that closeness and accountablilty is draining me. I feel so alone, even though my husband is a good man and he encourages me it's not the same as having that one on one time with another girl. I try to find time for God's Word every day and praying is a constant thing for me, but I still feel like I dont get as much out of it as I used to. I recently started listening to Nancy Demoss and She has been a BIG encouragement to me.. I dont feel so alone in a sense. Anyway, I only shared all that because I have no one else to share those feelings with and to ask for someone to pray for me... that God would bring someone in my life that cares enough about my relationship with Christ and will encourage me, and that I would be able to do the same for that person. My constant prayer is.. Psalm 119: 79 " Let those who fear You turn to me, Those who know Your testimonies."
Anonymous
Kasey
on Friday, March 26, 2010 at 3:39 pm
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ok the shirts not that bad!! please dont be judgmental!! im not trying to be rude, but if it wasent for "Christians" being so judgmental then there would be allot more of them!! i mean yeah I know that we HAVE to have stands thats a must but we nead to understand that baby christians need a chance to grow before you throw all that on them!! i'mnot trying to be rude i am just sick of everyone judging everyone else all the time.. mabey ;just mabey we should try to worry more abotu oursleves not everyone else and just be a good example!!!!
kasey
Re:
on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 10:18 am
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i knoww the shirts aren't 'that bad', but this is a christian site, right? I mean, in a book that dannah gresh wrote she said that you shouldn't be able to see any skin past that little bone on your neck, i have no idea what it's called. And i am .not. saying anything right now towards other girls wearing immodest shirts, that was actually kinda directed towards the website using that pic to be truthful. and i do worry about myself hun, and i know, i know that i have waaaaaaay more to go and i'll always mess up, even though i have Christ as my savior. i'm sorry if i offended you with that post, i just wanted it to be a heads up.

-kasey.
Anonymous
Kasey
on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 11:30 am
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you didnt really offend me.. and i didnt mean to soound mean!! I am sorry if it sounded that way!!! its just that everyone seems to be judging everyone else all the time and i have seen more people leave churches over little things then anything else!! Well anyway i am sorry if i sounded mean in that first post!! love ya!
kasey
Re:
on Sunday, March 28, 2010 at 10:01 pm
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haha, nooo it's fine :) and yeah, i know what you mean, being judged just because your yourself is not fun, believe me. i know what you mean with that also. this one time, my friend at my church very accidentallyy flung a piece of brownie at this bald guy's head. and it landed right smack in the middle, and even though she apologized right away, they never saw him again haha. k, this probably sounds creepery, but do you have a facebook or something? i want to get to know you better haha :)
Anonymous
Kasey
on Monday, March 29, 2010 at 2:04 pm
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lol Ok that was really funny lol!! I am not alllowed to have fb though :( or anything elese like that.. so idk.. I am a pk so i get judged allot!! it is so hard sometimes i'm like this is me acept or get over it but it never happens liek that because of my dad blah blah blah lol but any way love ya!!
Erin Davis
Victoria
on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 at 10:40 pm
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I am also a stay at home mom of two small boys. I do know how isolating it can be. Keep looking for that church home. That will make a huge difference. I would also highly recommend finding a MOPS group. It is an opportunity to fellowship with other Christian moms of preschoolers.

I hope this helps.

Erin
kasey
Re:
on Thursday, April 1, 2010 at 12:05 pm
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oh, okay that stinkss :( yeah, getting judged is deff not fun, but remember that Christ said, "Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."(Matthew 5:10) so that's always good to remember :) luv u too!
Nichole
:)
on Saturday, April 17, 2010 at 1:21 pm
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I have wonderful friends! About 3-4 years ago i would come home crying and would ask God why i had no friends. He told me not to worry and that He was my friend. After those hard years i became homeschooled and got involved with a homeschool group now i have 4 wonderful friends that encourage me to trust and do things that please God. God provided. He can also provided good friends that will be there when you need them. Dont give up on God or yourself.

Love,
Nichole
Creeauna
i know!!!
on Monday, April 19, 2010 at 8:39 pm
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I totally no what u guys r talking about. I have alot of freinds but i only have about ten really close freinds. I know like half of the people in my city yet i cant tell them secrets and stuff bcause im not comfortable around them. My closest bff lives seven states away and the rest of my close freinds dont really live in my city. Sometimes i can feel really alone. I try 2 make freinds in my new school but most of the kids have grown up in the school and have a click. Again, i know alot of people in my school but i only have about ten really close freinds. But my real problem is making freinds with guys, when i make a new guy freind he either ends up liking me, which ruins the whole relationship or he ends up agnoring me. How can i fix my guy problem? Im not weird or stupid i just cant make a good guy freind that lasts.
Nichole
Creeauna
on Wednesday, April 21, 2010 at 10:42 am
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Creeauna,
i have a few questions,

1. How do you at around your guy friends?
2. How do you dress?

I am sure that there is nothing wroung with you becaise my best guy friend also likes me. But just because they like you does not mean that you cant still be friends. Just make it clear to them that you only want to be friends, and pray that God will help you.


I will be praying for you!!

Nichole
Olivia
I'm going through this right Now!
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 4:49 am
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All these are true to me. I used to be like that as if I was busy, everyone always wants to come up to me and talk to me. Its like I didnt need to worry. then my junior year which is right now, everything changed. My bf cheated, my best friends turn their backs on me(they all want to party and drink so I stopped all contact) and now I just hang out in the Library morning and lunch by myself. Honestly, I come to realize Im not so lonely I bring my book lies young women believe and my Bible and I get closer to God. I realized Jesus is my best friend and Im full and truly satisfied. By reading this book, i dont need a boyfriend, i wish i did get this book sooner so I can learn from it. Now I guess Im suffering from the mistakes I made. Although life would've been better if I had just listened, Im glad God got me out of my mistakes, I couldnt do it without him. I know for sure that these events are all supposed to happen because God wanted my full attention, and he got me good.
s
School vs. city
on Wednesday, May 5, 2010 at 11:07 pm
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I have a lot of friends where I live, but I feel really left out at my school because most of the kids there grew up there and have made clicks too. I'm creeauna's big sis just for your info so we have a lot of the same situations. I always feel really loved when im at my church or when im at the baseball or soccer field but i feel so lonely at my school. for some reason it's way harder to make friends at my school then in my small city. i dont want to graduate in my private school with a bunch of "hey, i see you all the time" friends. i want to graduate with with a bunch of "we're real close" friends. luckily im only in my freshman year so this can all change. any advice? im so bummed on my situation at my school and i guess i need some encouragement real bad. i dont know what to do and i dread being the loner at all my school events. i have some friends, but were not close. id love some advice. thanks.
Sequoia
School vs. city
on Wednesday, May 5, 2010 at 11:08 pm
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I have a lot of friends where I live, but I feel really left out at my school because most of the kids there grew up there and have made clicks too. I'm creeauna's big sis just for your info so we have a lot of the same situations. I always feel really loved when im at my church or when im at the baseball or soccer field but i feel so lonely at my school. for some reason it's way harder to make friends at my school then in my small city. i dont want to graduate in my private school with a bunch of "hey, i see you all the time" friends. i want to graduate with with a bunch of "we're real close" friends. luckily im only in my freshman year so this can all change. any advice? im so bummed on my situation at my school and i guess i need some encouragement real bad. i dont know what to do and i dread being the loner at all my school events. i have some friends, but were not close. id love some advice. thanks.
Creeauna
Nichole
on Thursday, May 6, 2010 at 11:05 pm
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Im sorry im replying late, but 2 answer ur ques. I act just as i do when im around my girlfriends when im around guys, energetic and funny, and how i dress? I wear the usual skinny jeans, some cool shirt and vans. I dont no exactly what u mean when u ask, what do i wear? But reply back and try 2 explain things 2 me, i really can use some good advice.
p.s. thanks 4 praying 4 me. it means alot.
ur sister in christ

Creeauna
Nichole
Creeauna
on Wednesday, May 12, 2010 at 2:06 pm
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Hey,
How are you? When i asked you what you wear i was wondering if it was modest. But it sounds to me that you are doing really well. Just make sure that what you wear isn't to tight because that could cause a guy to think things that are not healthy. Trust me i know iv been there without realizing that it was not modest. It was bad i would have guys flirting with me and i would get so aggravated. Then a friend asked me if i ever thought about what i was wearing and i said no. She told me that my clothes were causing them to flirt and stumble. So when she told me that i went home and got rid of everything that was not modest and after that the guys that were flirting with me went away and i was stress free. know i realize that God did not like the ways i was dressing.(this happened 3 years ago) Jesus has also helped me and i am so thankful that he gave me such a friend to help me! I will continue praying for you!

Nichole

ps i hope this helped
Creeauna
Nichole
on Sunday, May 16, 2010 at 11:24 pm
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Waz up,
Iam doin fine. How r u? I admit ive had some guys flirt with me but most of the time i just ignore them. i totally get where ur comin from when u ask about what do i wear now, thanks 4 explainin. Do u think me being homeschooled is part of my problem? i mean, i dont get very much time 2 interact with guys. write back soon, i lov ur input. And this totally helped.

again, thanks 4 praying 4 me

ur home slice
Creeauna

p.s. im from Cali [tence the whole home slice thing] where u from? dont worry im no creeper.
Sequoia
Changes!
on Wednesday, June 9, 2010 at 11:30 pm
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Last month I wrote that I was having friend problems at my school and all of a sudden 5 new girls showed up in my life and they all love me and i've been invited to a party be one of them and a sleepover from the next. They hug me and hang out with me all the time and like last month i didn't even know them. how crazy is that???? Plus, i got like way closer to one of my guy friends and his older bro's. im so excited....things are lookin' up. <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3
Nichole
Creeauna
on Wednesday, June 16, 2010 at 1:10 pm
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Hey im great i got a job and just finished dancing. No i don't think that being home schooled is part of the problem. I am homeschooling too. I live in NH. I am so happy that you are doing better i think that being home schooled is better than going to regular school because you can do and talk about things that they do not let you talk or even learn about in school.

ps write back soon i look forward to hearing from you!!
Nichole
Creeauna
Nichole
on Tuesday, June 29, 2010 at 4:30 pm
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sorry 4 not writin back ive been kinda busy lately. thats so cool that u got a job, what is it? i hav a new problem and i was wonderin if u cud help? k, so i found out that 3 guys in my scool like me right now and 1 of them i like back, weve been friends 4 abot a year now and we both liked eachother 4 a couple months. so i dont no if i shud tell him i like him back so hell ask me out or if we shud continue 2 b friends? wright back asap.

peace out ur homie,
creeauna
Helper
Re:Creeauna
on Monday, July 5, 2010 at 7:13 pm
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Dearest,Creeauna. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but I'll tell you anyways. I think you should just stay friends with this guy. If he likes you then don't push things. If he hasn't asked you out yet then maybe it's because he's not ready or because he wants to just stay friends with you. He'll ask you out in his own timing,sweetie. Who knows? You could be messing with mother nature if you push him to ask you out. Don't mess things up by forcing a bf/gf relationship on you two if things are great now. Aren't you satisfied with being friends and only friends for now? You don't have to be romantically involved with someone in order to enjoy them. Just stay friends,ok? That's the best advice I can give.
Nichole
Creeauna
on Monday, July 26, 2010 at 8:23 pm
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Hey I am so sorry that it has taken me so long to reply. I have been in that same situation before only a couple of months ago with my best friend chris. I told him that i liked him only because he was hearing things from other people telling him that i liked him. He said he did not believe them unless i was the one to tell him because i had no desire to date or be intereste in somebody untill i was done with school. So i told him and we talked about it and be both agree that we shoul pray and ask God for guidenss and peace and what we should do. And God ade it clear to both of us that it was not time yet. So we are waiting on God to give us the go ahead. I dont remember where in the Bible it says this but it says not to awaken love before it is time. Yes i find this hard to follow sometimes but i remind myself that i can do all things through Christ who streaghthens me. So we both started to have Bible studys toghether which has helped us stay closer to God and each other. so my advise to you is to pray before you say anything. Which is something that i did not do and i should have. i hope this helps.


Nichole
sarah
Re:
on Wednesday, August 24, 2011 at 10:44 pm
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I totally feel like this.... But how do I fix it?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: Sarah
on Thursday, August 25, 2011 at 3:44 pm
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Having a true friend is such a blessing. We all long to be able to connect heart-to-heart with another person. Erin did a blog on what true friendship is that might be good for you to read, Sarah. (http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=458) She speaks about changing our focus from having friends to being a true friend. Spend time with the Lord by reading His Word and praying. As you spend consistent time with the Lord, your heart will begin to think of others and see them as God does. I encourage you to look around and see who needs a friend. Then step up to the plate and be that friend for them. Friendship is cultivated as you spend time with someone. As you reach out to others, God will bless you.

Serving Him,
Lorree