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Missy
new topic???
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 3:09 pm
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I am a grown woman with a heart for young girls. When I hear the song "Does Anybody Hear Her", by Casting Crowns my heart just breaks. I think of all of the girls I knew in high school and the ones I know now and I guess myself as a young girl. Girls just slipping away and no one notices or cares. How about a series addressing these girls that feel forsaken and how we can minister better to them.
Lauren Veitch
Not enough
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 3:36 pm
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I daily struggle in my mind over not being good enough. I am very critical of myself, and am constantly finding areas in which I fall short. I do try to apply truth to the lies that I'm not good enough (because I know that it is only Christ that can accomplish any good in me, not myself), but are there practical things that I can do? Large areas that I battle are my body image, meeting expectations, being good at everything, etc.
DoOdLeBuG
re
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 3:40 pm
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I would like to see the tongue addressed. It's been touched on but I wonder if we could talk more about it. I really struggle with controlling my tongue. One other idea would be focusing a lot on the inner beauty. I also really struggle with wanting to be gorgeous on the outside but neglecting the indside. Thanks for asking us! I think it's a great idea!
Gabby
Re:
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:02 pm
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I would like to c u guys talk
more bout peer presides nd stuff that happens in skool. Nd why guys have to b sooooo confusing ....nd wat u think of today's style of clothes
Aero94
Re:
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:04 pm
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Judging others.. I am judged all the time Its really hard sometimes exspecially when the things people are saying arnt true.. i mean its like i have to be this perfect person all the time I cant have feelings its something I am really struggling with..
Also how to forgive people who have said things about you and treat you like you are a horible person just because you have made some mistakes..
Lynn
topic to do
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:06 pm
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i would like to see eating disorders discussed because i think a lot of girls really struggle with that including me.
Countrygirl101
Re:
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:09 pm
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Relatioships... How to make them last how to be a good girl freind... How to cope with depression...and freindship... also working outside the home..
Alexa Gross
idea
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:16 pm
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I think a good thing would be if you talk about avoiding the look of sin, like not being in a car with a guy alone, or something to that extent.

or another thing is what were talking about at church. Living in the gray areas, in 1 corinthians 9-12, where its talking about how we have rights, but we are supposed to be willing to give up those rights if it causes a brother or sister to stumble, like eating meat, thats not bad and we are allowed to but if it causes someone to stumble then give it up

those were just a couple of mine=)
Laura Olech
Sharing Our Faith
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:39 pm
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I would REALLY love to see a blog post (or a series which would be even better) on SHARING OUR FAITH with friends and peers. Sometimes it's so hard to know how to introduce people you care about to God, or people you know and you want to experience God's love with you but you don't want to seem pushy. I would love to hear about ways to SHARE FAITH with those around you in ways that inspire and build up, not cause guilt and defensiveness.
THANKS!
Caty
my idea
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:44 pm
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I think it would be good for us to talk about creation vs. evolution. It is a topic that is important especially in today's society. If we have a better understanding about creation we can stand up for what it is true and right instead of not having an answer to the criticism and questions of evolutionists.
Eyleen Lopez
the POWER of God
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 4:58 pm
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I see that many people teach God's love and peace and hope, but there is not much of God's power. He is a jealous God. There is never anything about being HOT or COLD in the path of God. Seriousness in God. Sanctity...

We must get to know God in all aspects of His ways.
Thank you for this opportunity.

God Bless
LindseyV
Salvation and works
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 5:12 pm
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I would really like to see stuff on salvation and works. Can you lose it? Can you be absolutely sure you are saved? Are doubts just from the devil or are they valid concerns after you have accepted Him? I've been really eaten up by this question lately: How do you balance accepting God's grace, faith in Him, and letting Him work, and feeling like I'm not /doing/ enough? There's a verse in James that says you are not justified by faith alone and in Matthew it says trees that don't bear fruit get thrown in the fire, and then there's the one in Ephesians that says it's by grace you've been saved through faith, it is the gift of God, not of works lest any man should boast, and tons of grace passages in Galatians. I feel like if I don't do enough I'll lose my salvation or something...and then I've heard when you love God and are in a deep relationship with Him you don't worry about that...gah, I'm so confused. I'm not sure all that made any sense....*blush*
erin
I'd just Love to see...
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 5:36 pm
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I'd love to see you talk about how the story throughout Song of Solomon applies to us in our relationship with Christ as well as with others!
Talking about the virtuous woman found in Proverbs 31 and how we can become more like the Bible describes us there too!
Sarah Paige
RE:
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 5:45 pm
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I would love it if you would post about prayer.
Deanna
Comforting
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 6:05 pm
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Hey, I was wondering if you could touch upon the topic of helping a friend. I know you probably have already created blogposts touching on this topic, but could you delve in deeper? What do we do in situations where our friends need us, but we don't know how to express our love in a way that they can be comforted? How do we deal with a friend who wants help, but does not want to recieve it from you?
Madi M
idea
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 6:06 pm
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How about Prayer? we are always asking and asking God for things, i would like to know ways to strengthen my prayer life!
thanks!
~Maddog
Marissa
My topic
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 6:20 pm
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I've noticed on the blog that there are many girls who struggle with body image. I have seen numerous girls (me included) comment about having an eating disorder, a friend having an eating disorder, thinking they're fat, ugly, worthless, and many other things. As Gods daughters, he created us and we are beautifully crafted by our Father. I think we should have more posts about dealing with negative thoughts on our body image--- who are we really?

Well thanks for listening!

Sister in Christ,
Marissa
Noelle
Hearing God's voice
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 6:38 pm
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I would love to see an article about hearing God's voice and discerning whether we are hearing God or just "talking" in our own minds. Sometimes it's very frustrating when we think that God has spoken to us, then wonder later if it was really Him. This feeling especially comes if I think God has answered a prayer in the way that I was hoping -- I get stuck in the mindset that God just won't say yes, so I must have been hearing my own thoughts. How do we avoid thinking we are hearing from God if we aren't? And how do we stop thinking we aren't hearing God when we are?
Kristi
Topic I'd like to hear about
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 6:41 pm
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Could you do a post on assurance of salvation? I have been looking at some verses about it but I would like to hear what you have to say about it. Thank you.
Krlosier
Ideas
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 7:17 pm
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Hmmmm..... Ok here are some ideas:
1. What flirting is exactly
2. Not being conformed to the world
erin...i love ur book grafitti...im reading it now its awesome!!
Breetynne
Parents!!!
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 7:50 pm
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I am pretty bad at talking back to my parents, getting irritated quickly with them, and getting mad at them! I would love to hear some tips/verses with help on how to deal with parents. I know I'm wrong most of the time, so please give me something that might change my attitude Please!! Thanks!
Christa
Waiting on the Lord
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 8:01 pm
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Waiting on the Lord, specifically in the area of dating/marriage, would be a very encouraging subject to read about.
Oh! Thank you!
topic
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 8:16 pm
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I would really be interested in how to edify, and correct other Christians, if they need it...

that seems like it would be really awkward, but it seems to pop up all over the Bible.
Jen
Re:
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 8:29 pm
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I think a good topic would be, being in the world, but not of the world. Like, being a good influence to the unsaved people around us, and showing them Jesus by what we say and do.
Miss Anonymous
What Matters to Me
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 9:20 pm
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God( I try to make Him number 1)
Family
Friends
Outward Appearance
School
Track
Pets
iPod
Missy
what mattes to me
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 9:31 pm
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Sometimes I just don't understand what happened to people. People used to live together in peace and in harmony. Now there is so much war and so much pain. Sometimes it is just so hard to feel safe, even though I know God is in control, i get so anxious. Everday we see in the news about another school shooting, another innocent town demolished by war, and so much more. It is so hard to feel safe in a place that is full of so much turmoil and chaos. When did things go so wrong and why? It used to be that no one ever dared back talk in class, let alone try to assault school faculty. Now days, violence is everywhere, its hard to get away from. It just seems like society is drifting farther and farther away from God..but it doesn't make sense to me because...were not the first societies formed based on God? What happened...and what can we do to stop this increasing trend of disobedience and unfaithfulness?
Rebekah
Dealing with other Girls
on Thursday, April 22, 2010 at 10:44 pm
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I find it hard to sometimes deal with other girls who want to be friends with you but, you have a hard time agreeing to this friendship. You don't want to be mean, but you know personally that you cannot seem to understand and truly get along with this girl yet she continues to pressure you to become friends. How do you handle a situation like that? You've tried to be friends but you know what is doesn't seem possible to have that close friendship they desire.
Cutie
Prayer
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 12:28 am
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I would love to hear some tips on prayer or having a quiet time, but specifically on prayer.
gg
Media Addiction
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 5:03 am
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Hi Erin~

This topic of media addiction comes to mind. As I am able to check my emails on my regular home page from my IP provider thinking it's new news, it turns out to be quite the contrary.

One can go read and it's nothing more than threads into a news forum on DWTS let's say as an example that happened recently. Then posters are typing away what starts out as innocent opinions and shared thoughts by many quickly leads to personal attacks. The topics can be over but the hate and words are still carrying on with many months later and the banter continues. Including religious battles when others stand up against the great divides.

I started looking around at Media Addiction and it sounds like a real problem leading to great destructions.

I hope this gets covered before I allow my tween to ever get to Facebook or Myspace etc. in the future. We don't even have a family account here because of friends who are having problems with something they thought was a good way to just share photos and daily activities.

Turns out even with privacy settings things are not so private. I have prayed for many. I have tried to witness. It's very disheartening and I am a Mom who cares about our kids of the future. How are the teens and tweens supposed to go down this road? Things are coming in faster and faster daily at everyone.

Yesterday I set up my homepages to all my Chrisitan sites I love and made my email site the last in the tabs. I get Gods word first and check last for my emails and close it out. Prayed to the Lord for forgiveness for any part I had in commentary and made a covenant not to look back at the pit of destruction taking place on these sites that entice us as "News".

Thanks for considering this topic! God Bless us all.
Jess
wise words
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 8:03 am
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I would like to see a piece be done on wise words - and how a simple word - or a phone call can impact a friends life - so how we should make that something of a habit to encourage instead of discourage. God can help lead these words directly to the heart.
Sarah
Issue
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 9:24 am
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Hey~ I would like more discussion on dating and standards on how to deal with relationships in this corrupted world. I myself have had many questions. I believe this issue should be addressed.

Another issue is modesty. Nowadays even Christian women aren't dressing appropriately and modestly and some think that it doesn't matter.

Thank you.
KSmith
Authority
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 10:00 am
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I am wondering how you honor your authoritys? I am working in the minstery and Mr. Gothard is my boss. I had a hard time to honor my dad and Mr. Gothard. Mr. Gothard expects me to share everything to him and I don't really like share everything to him. I am sure it is not right because He is not my father. I know that you are to honor your parents. But I didn't see that I should respect others who is in authority? What should I do?
cass :D
Relationships/Schoolwork
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 10:35 am
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Hi, there are mainly 2 topics I would like to see being address. (:

1. How can a Christian girl bring an unsaved guy to know Christ without giving the guy the wrong idea, especially if there seems to be mutual feelings between the both of them?

2. How can we be focused on our studies & to glorify God through our studies?

Thank you! (:
Lydia D.
Femininity
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 12:40 pm
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I would like to hear some about Biblical feminity and the roles of women opposed to men.
Brittany Lee
Re:
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 1:16 pm
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I would like to see something about how to deal with our past and how to walk in the healing that God is doing in our lives.

I'd also like to see something about purpose and God's calling on our lives..

Death...Spiritual. Physical. (This came up as my great great aunt just died this week, my best friend's grandma died the day after. And several other people I know all in the last week. Death never seemed so real to me as now...so maybe something with that.

One last thought (Although I have many) is thoughts on eternal security.
Lakiah
Sin
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 1:25 pm
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I'd enjoy talking about the "little sins" that can easily become "big sins"
Ann
Questions
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 2:57 pm
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1. How important is the local church supposed to be in a believers life?

2. I don't agree with everything my friends at school do and say but, I can't go through high school without friends, can I?

3. What is the gospel really all about? Just getting to heaven or living for God?

4. Is doctrine important?

5. What Christian biographies do you recommend reading?
laura
issues
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 2:58 pm
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I have always wanted to ask:

What do you do when u get far from God?

like you know, when u are doing and sport and there are bad infulences and suddendly God isnt so close to u anymore. Do you give up the sport? Or do you work on yourself? i am sure this has happened to others and i just wondered....
AnnaKate Jackson
Gossip
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 8:03 pm
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I'd love a post about how to handle gossip in the church.
Maree
Talking with guys
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 10:39 pm
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Hello,
Personally, I have for several years struggled to not buy into the lies that every nice Christian guy I meet is a "potential boyfriend." Lately, God has really been challenging me to change my entire thinking about guys, especially Christian guys to that of "brothers in the faith."
If you could show exactly what the Bible says about brother/sister in the faith relationships and what would that look like in practical situations? Any ideas or examples would be awesome!
P.S. Any tips for how a shy person can become more confident in talking with other Christians and unbelievers especially guys, no matter their age. Thanks!
monica
please give tons of advice
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 10:59 pm
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I have a question. I really really love sports especially hockey, but I wondering if organized sports is any good. For example, I'm in Vancouver so I'm a canucks fan. I only watch the games ocassionally so I won't be spending too much time (don't have a tv so only when I'm at someone else's place) and never go to the games because it gets very wild and there's alot of the wrong spirit. Especially during the playoffs there's alot of hate and of course that's not the christian way. But I'm wondering of that means I shouldn't watch it or be a fan.
Also a friends is giving us tickets to a soccer game. I don't know if I should decline the invitation. It's so confusing because some christians think organized sports is definately not for christians but most think it's totally OK. I'm not talking about the Olympics because that's different. They're doing it for their country and there's no fighting or hate. But of course in the NHL for example they get paid a crazy amount and there's so much fighting and stuff. On the other hand, are we supposed to abstain from something just because people ruin it? It's kind of like, do we not drink because alot of people abuse it and drink too much? But then again if there was no fighting etc in sports it probably wouldn't be very popular anymore. And then there's the thing about all the time and money they spend on it. Is it a waste? anyway, just some thoughts and I'm looking forward to hearing what everyone has to say about it. It's a big issue for me as I absolutely love sports and not watching it would be denying myself alot. Thanks! I love this blog it's so nice to have somewhere to go to ask advice.
Kristi
Oh one more I thought of
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 11:00 pm
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Could you maybe talk about election and predestination? What do you believe about that? Moreover, what does the Bible say about it?
Amanda Farris
Topics to possilby discuss
on Friday, April 23, 2010 at 11:38 pm
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I really enjoy reading your blog and would love to win one of the books. I'm going to list a few different things that I would like to see discussed to see if it's anything you guys would be interested in discussing.

- Where to draw the line on TV and Movies. There is so much sin in television and movies, but where do I draw the line without being lawful. I want it to be a heart thing- not a rule thing.

- What should teenage girls be doing with their free time? I would like to see this topic discussed scripturally. With a world of media, texting, facebooking, and various other things- What does God want us to spend our time on? What are things that we should be doing with our time that would please God? Most girls spend hours on facebook and texting- What is God's plan?

- What are the most important things that a Christian girl needs to look for in a guy when dating? Should you date for fun? Or should you only date if you are ready to get married?

- How much does a white lie hurt?

-How can you be a "cool" christian girl, without being a goody goody or cramming christianity down someones throat?

- How do you know when God is talking to you? Is it a feeling? I know in the bible when it talks about prayer- God tells us to be silent- Is this when you hear him?

just a few suggestions
katydid
possible blog subject...
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 6:16 am
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i think something that would be suitable is the fear of God and exactly what that means. so many ppl tht i talk to fear God for all the wrong reasons and in the wrong ways. how do we balance love of God and fear of God, and is it possible to do both? keeping that balance is something i struggle with and i know that a number of my friends do too.
Steph
Re:
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 11:13 am
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I have two topics I'd like to see covered. :)

First one is when we finally get in a relationship with a boy, how are we supposed to act to glorify God? I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend, but I know eventually I will have one, and I'm wondering I guess what are some guidelines when we're in a relationship.

Secondly - tips on how to find out which college to go to. There are so many choices and I want to follow God's will for my life but what are some guidelines and advice to help me with that?

Thanks :)
Courtney
Re:
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 1:18 pm
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hmm, one topic i think would be good is spiritual gifts and how we can use them for god's glory.


also, i'd love to see something on seperating morals from god. i hate it when people sin because they know god will forgive them and still love them!
monica
Re:
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 2:30 pm
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hey I wonder why mine wasn't posted
DoOdLeBuG
one more suggestion
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 4:40 pm
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Another idea is contentment. I was in the mall today and as I was walking around i thought about this post and I realized how much I struggle with the issue of contentment. How fitting, huh? Right in the mall. :P It's hard to walk around and not just want the things you see.
anonymous
re:Monica
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 4:49 pm
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I love watching sports. I don't think as Christians we should shy away from sports. I think when we play the sports we need to have a Christ like spirit even on the field.(have you ever seen the movie "Facing The Giants?" it's a good Christian sports movie. you should check it out.) I just went to a hockey game with my family and we had a ton of fun. wether the fights are wrong or right in the game is up for debate, but that's not really my point. The players got in a few fights but that's part of the game. we can't prevent that. I don't think the time and money they spend on sports is a waste. I think it provides fun and entertainment. Ok so yeah they spend a ton on sports but that's not gonna keep me from watching them. It's not just hockey players that get paid a ton either. Sports are good exercise. I think some people take them too serioulsy, but that's again something we can't prevent. And just because it's the olympics and they're fighting for their country doesn't mean there isn't hate or dislike for the other teams. Is this making any sense? I hope I helped in some way or other. :)
just me*
Something I would love to see you write a blog post on.
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 5:21 pm
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I think a blog post talking about making our teen years count would be great. A lot of the books I've read about this topic challenged me to not waste my life, but after that I had no idea how to go about doing that! I recently read this quote in a book: "TRULY blessed people go around blessing OTHERS." That was a challenge for me. I would really appreciate a post on HOW I can bless others.
Jojo
Topic
on Saturday, April 24, 2010 at 8:03 pm
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What about how to know God's will for us? I've recently had some hard decisions to make (concerning schools and summer jobs and things) and it's hard to know what God wants/is telling me to do.
hilary k
re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 12:40 am
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How about something on spiritual warfare, how it affects us, and how we combat the evil around us?
Prisy
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 8:46 am
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I think this is one issues that girls go through:

1) The temptation to fix problems when it isn't our job to be doing it.

i.e I sometimes feel that the guys in my Church aren't doing their duties as christians boys properly, such as building up and encouraging other male believers who are going through problems. Sometimes I want to go to other countries where there is little mission work and plant Churches though I firmly believe that church planting is job for the men to do. It really frustrates me that the christian boys I know don't seem to care at all and it makes me wish I was boy. :(
monica
to anonymous
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 1:03 pm
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yeah, I guess it's true that in the olympics there's probably hate too. I don't really know anymore. anyway, thanks for the feedback:)
ashley
Just a thought, idk if you have some like this.
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 1:41 pm
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I would love to see ablog on how to talk to your friends about dating and courtship. Whats the differance? and i have friends that end it with a guy but still like to talk with them and pursue other guys,is that right? idk? Or what to do when you think you found the one for you and it all of a sudden ends. How do you get over it and not feel plain ugly? And not loved.?

I'm sorry but just one more,
I'm not sure if there is one out there like this,but. What to do if your deep in sin or your friend is and how to over come it by what the bible says. And when a friend asks you not to tell or you yourself don't want no one to know and keep it to yourself is that okay if you end it? And does God still love you if you don't tell your parents? Or friends?

Thanks for looking over my post!
I would love to read your book!!!

Love a sister thats getting right with God!
~Ashley
Heather
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 2:51 pm
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I would like to see a blog discussing jealousy. This is a very difficult area for me. Another thing would beeeee...lying. Whether it's a little white lie or a big lie, how do you deal with this sin and the guilt? One more idea. Hmmm... Dealing with nonbelievers or extreme liberals. For some reason in my college we get into a lot of debates on homosexuality and birth control etc. and I seem to be the only one there who holds a conservative belief when it comes to topics like this. I'm afraid to express my opinions because I'm afraid of being called a hater or a crazy fundamentalist or whatever even though I know I should probably speak up for what I believe in. How do you deal with these situations?
Brittany Lee
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 5:06 pm
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I've been thinking a lot about this one...this blog goes through all the lies that we believe and faith and so much more, but what I think is that Spiritual Warfare would be a good topic to go by just because it's something that we need to know daily. We need to take up our armor and we need to realize that there is a spiritual battle going on daily for our souls!
Jess
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 8:52 pm
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What about only God can make you happy not a husband,boyfriend,or material. Maybe how to get through tragedy without blaming God.
Mary
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 9:02 pm
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I would like to see see topic about bad music, because it sounds like it's no big deal,but it really is!!!Once I start listening to i it's like a drug, I have to listen to it over,and over again.....
Elaina
Ideas
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 9:47 pm
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Ideas huh? Well, I would love to learn what you guys think about dating vs. courtship, what God thinks and what the world thinks about when you should go to college (when you're ready to leave home etc). One topic that has had me really confused is whether wizards like Gandalf in Lord of the Rings are bad and wether we should be reading stuff about them. I mean, I think Harry Potter is wrong, but I LOVE LOTR. How do I resolve the two? Siblings would be a good topic too. I personally would love some practical tips on how to handle your heart when you're a teen and a boy starts to show interest in you.
Painfully Growing
Topic
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 10:37 pm
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Could you write about anger? I'm really struggling with it right now.
Bess
Something to consider
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 10:52 pm
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OK well first of all, I would definitely second the effects of media, as this is a HUGE problem with teen girls today. I've done my share of research, and it's devastating to see how much damage it is doing to girls nationwide.
As far as what I could use some more of, definitely discerning God's voice from my own and at times even the enemy's. This has been something I have been struggling a lot with lately.

But I do have one topic to request that I have not seen mentioned (to my knowledge, there's still a lot on here I haven't read), and that would be, how should I put it, uh, "Giving girls a voice"? I don't think that's really what I'm looking for so let me explain. I know there's a lot on here (and various other places) about mean girls and bullying, but most of it seams to be aimed at appearances and such, which makes sense because a lot of it is. But I have suffered years of living under the lie of "shut up, nobody cares". And while I know God cares, that doesn't always help when it comes to voicing my opinions, let alone just making conversation! I would really love to hear any advice on how to overcome this!
~MaRy~
Re:
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 11:19 pm
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I would like to see the topic about how our bodies are suppost to be a temple to God,A LOT of people thonk it's cool to get body piercings,tatoos,and all sorts if things.But, you never really think about it that much!!!
Ann
Another Question
on Sunday, April 25, 2010 at 11:25 pm
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I don't have time to read through all of the other questions posted so don't know if someone already asked this but I thought of another one I know I and other girls struggle with a lot.

6. How should you handle the tendency to compare yourself to others? Mostly this is outward appearance (e.i. I wish I was skinny like her, I wish I had her hair, etc) but can also be things like life situation or personality (e.i. I wish I was bubbly like her, I wish that I got the attention from guys like she does, etc).
Katy
Re:
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 12:09 am
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Why do guys act the way they do? Why are they always confused? They always give me mixed emotions and I don't know what to do.
Britt
Re:
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 10:49 am
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Predestination


sorry so many posts...lol...just every time I read the Word more ideas come to me. :D
Randa
A good subject
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 1:55 pm
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I think a major issue today is trying to find Gods will for your life. I have always struggled with that, where to go to college, what to major in, and ect. Even the smaller things like to work at camp, or work on the bus, and what sunday school class to go to.
Randa
A good subject
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 1:57 pm
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I think a major issue today is trying to find Gods will for your life. I have always struggled with that, where to go to college, what to major in, and ect. Even the smaller things like to work at camp, or work on the bus, and what sunday school class to go to.
Jesse-kuh
Our Calling
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 3:43 pm
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When God is calling us to give up something that we love to do, why is it so hard to do sometimes? Even when we want what God wants and we pray for him to use us but then when he tells us to quit something or to give it up.. We can't!
Lindsey
Books
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 4:25 pm
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I find that we waste so much of our time with electronics and so people tell us to read a book... I've found several good books that I would highly reccomend to other girls my age... I think it would be neat if once a month you had a book list on the blog... I read some comments about "finding Gods will" and I just started a book called, "Just do something" By Kevin Deyoung. VERY thought provoking & awesome. Thanks for all the time and thought you put into so many girls you don't even know.
Sarah
Jealousy
on Monday, April 26, 2010 at 7:38 pm
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For those of us who have committed to not dating until we're ready to be married, it is really hard to see friends (esp close friends) who are the same age as us who are already in a relationship with a young man. We have contradicting feelings, jealousy, and yet we know that it's better for us the way it is.
It's so hard! If there could be a way you could address something of this kind, that'd be great. I know I need help to keep bitterness, jealousy, anger etc forming.
Ann
Re: God's Will posts
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 9:26 am
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Hey girls, I was reading several posts of yours about God's Will and had to suggest a book that has been very helpful to me. It's called "Found: God's Will" by John MacArthur. Very grounded in the Word and a short read.
Jen
oooooo new topics!
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 4:01 pm
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I really wanna see you talk about embarrassing moments. like how to handle them in a godly way, how to get your friend to stop doing what is embarrassing(if thats the case) etc etc etc. pleaseeee talk about this one i need the help
Countrygirl101
Erin Help
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 4:18 pm
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Erin! O.k I know you have heard allot about me by reading my post and by now Im sure you have figured out that I have allot of problems!! but I was really wanting you to maybe blog about or just give me some advice on this.... O.k so you know what i have been going thrue but theres one thing i havent talked about much.. Sucide... I need some help here at night when I am by myself its all i can think about and I try to make it stop adn it wont go away Its like it's flying around my head and wont stop I think about all the different ways to die and how the best way would be.. And I scare myself I dont want to die but i dont want to live at the same time It's like I want to die but and too afraid to at the same time idk whats goin on.. I have been trying to call my freinds at night so I can talk to someone That helps and then usally I can get to sleep after that but I am teird of the thougts i want them to go away and Idk how.. I was just wondering if you post some on sucide and stuff like that..
Thanks and I love ya and appreciate all that you do for us here!!
Erin Davis
Countrygirl101
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 5:07 pm
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Hey, girl.

Yes, I've been watching your conversations here on the blog and yes, it is clear to me that you are hurting.

We have talked about discussing suicide here on the blog. Since it is such a complex issue, we want to make sure we really cover it well, so it won't be something I write about quickly.

In the meantime, I want to continue to encourage you to get some help from a wise Christian adult where you live. We simply aren't able to give you the wisdom and council you need through this forma.t I know that it feels scary to let those around you know that you've been struggling, especially if you've been wearing a mask of perfection, but it sounds like you are in a very dark place and will need wise council, accountability and support to get out of it.

Is there anything I can do to help you take this step?

Erin
JaimeC13
my issue
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 6:01 pm
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HOMOSEXUALITY!!!

please. i'm really struggling with this. i've mentioned before how i want to believe everything God says, but at the same time i don't think i can stop loving the people i knew before God. Jesus didn't say ANYTHING about homosexuality, at least that i'm aware of, and i really need to get some Truth with this issue.

please and thank you....
jaime
Countrygirl101
erin
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 6:32 pm
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Hey thanks for commenting... I was considering talking some to my teen leader.. Theres one problem i would love to just tell him everything about my x about the hole situsation btu I cant because it dosent jsut get me in troubel if he tells anyone it gets allot of people in trouble.. So I am pretty sure I am goin to talk to him I just dont know how I can tell him some of thesse things withot revealing something that gets other people in troubtl.. I'm thinking about just asking him for some verses on depression or something but im not sure yet.... it's just it's going to be such a shock because i mean if you seen me around other people you would never guess that it was em,,, I have to act energetic and happy all the time i mean I appear to have not a worry in the world.. But inside it's tearing me apart and I have to get some help somewhere my brother is trying to help me some aas well as my cousin... But i am still thinking about going to my youth pastor do you think that that would be a good idea?? I really really apreciate you erin And I am not just saying that!! love countrygirl
Hannah
guys
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 6:57 pm
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Am i going to date or do courting/courtship i have no idea. How do i know what is right or not? i wouldn't want to be in a situation with a guy alone but i would like to do something without people staring at me.
Sara
here's one
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 7:28 pm
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My siblings agervate me so much. I get so mad sometimes I yell at them and sometimes push them down. I really need some help.

Thanks,
Sara
Paulina
Parents
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 9:42 pm
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I wish to really know if we as daughters (or sons in case there's a boy round here) have the right to tell our parents if they're doing something wrong. I'm not talking about keeping rules for us or not letting us befriend with some people. Nor am I talking about ground our parents and treat them as little children because obviously they're not and I also recognize entirely how much they give us. But sometimes is hard for me (and it hurts also) to see their behavior and not being able to say anything.
gg
Praying for you Countrygirl 101
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 10:40 pm
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I am sorry you are having some tough nights right now. I am so proud of you for reaching out the Erin and the Blog. I am praying that you will continue to reach out to the ministry here as they have such a great support structure that can help. I have seen them all in many facets and it's a godsend. I just wanted you to know I am praying for peace and contentment and assistance in your area so you can see someone fast. Please use Erin to your fullest. I don't know her but I have not seen her or anyone just let someone go. They truly care as well as the others on this blog. Together we can be here for you as you fight these battles.

Thinking of you..We will bind the devil up in the name of Jesus. He will have no hold on your mind or thoughts. I am claiming victory on this battle with the mind. In Jesus name...Amen.
Marissa
Re: countrygirl
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 11:11 pm
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Hey chica! I've actually tried to commit suicide... It's true... Don't do it! God has a purpose and a plan for you!!! Don't throw that all away just because you can't take life! None of us can handle life alone, but Jesus can help! If you commit suicide, it's like telling God you don't think he can help you so what's the point. That must hurt because he gave his SON so you could live yet you choose not to... I hope this helps I really love you and would love to talk to you in person and really just tell you everything that's happened to me and how you can overcome everythign with God! I love ya and my prayers are for you!

Sister in Christ,
Marissa
Emily Jo Benedetti
Bible
on Tuesday, April 27, 2010 at 11:43 pm
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I would like to see something about the different translations of the Bible. KJV, NIV, NKJV, etc. I've recently found that verses from the KJV have been deleted out of the other translations, and many key words and phrases have been left out!! It's outrageous! I've also found that the other translations (not KJV) are based on unreliable manuscripts. Very intersteting, and I think that many should know about it!
Katie
re:
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 9:53 am
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Yes, modesty is a big one for sure. I think that in our culture it's hard to feel close to God when the media and stuff tells us it isn't important.
2xr
Erin
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 12:31 pm
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Hey I was just wonderin if you could email me or something because I need to talk to someone about a situation and I dont no anyone other than my parents but they already no
Nichole
Friends
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 2:06 pm
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I have one friend that i was really close to for 2 years and then she started dating and now she does not return my phone calls, say hi to me, or even give me a hug she also ignors me... how do i tell her how i feel ... last time i told her how i felt she blew up at me and made me cry. So was happy that she made me cry and then went around and told everybody that i new that i was crying. I need help and pray! Thanks!!

Nichole

p.s. suggestions
Connie
Re:
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 2:07 pm
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How about we do a study on spiritual warfare. I never really quite understood it and its something that confuses me.
Countrygirl101
GG and Marissa
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 6:23 pm
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GG..
Thanks soo much for the prayers.. I am still considering talking to my youth pastor but i really cant tell him everything.. It's gonna be such a shock because i have fooled people for so long them thinking that i just have the perfect life I mean I am the girl who jumps from person to person at churfch and gives them a hug and tlaksk to them all.. And teh whole time I am dieing inside it's tearing me apart.. Thanks for the prayers!!

Marissa
Omg When did you do this??? Please talk to me if you start having suicidal thoughts again I wanna be here foffr you like you are here for me!! I love ya chicka.. LIfe is just soo hard I was doing so good for like a weak and now things are going down hill again.. I am trying to hold on but it's like Theres nothing to hold on tool.. I dont want to die i really dont Most of the time... I want to live but The thougts won't go away.. I am trying to I love ya and thanks for praying and talkng to me!!
Brittany Lee
Re: Connie
on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 8:39 pm
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Spiritual warfare is one of my favorite topics.

There's a Spiritual battle going on all around you. This battle is for your soul. Your armor is the full armor of God.

Start up with reading Ephesians 6. :) Any questions just ask, I'll be around, and I'm sure people will jump right in. :)
Countrygirl101
Erin
on Thursday, April 29, 2010 at 6:59 pm
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Erin I am really really sorry to bother you again but I reallly need some answere on this..

O.k I just have this feeling that death is coming for me.. And Idk how I know I am having sucidal thoughts but I feel scared like god is gonna kill me.. Idk why maybe it's cause i have been brought up around people talking about the sin unto death... And my brother just resently started "Getting right with god" and he;s telling me I should do the same and I dont even really read my bible I sometimes do nbut not regualarly and I cant pray.. And he said that God was gonna kill me.. I dont think he was serious but it kinda stuck.. and I just have this feeling like maybe I'm not gonna be here much longer.. liek life is ending for me and in a way i want it too.. I dont know if i am making any sense at all but how do you know if god is gonna punish you to the point of death?? and can he do that if you are not saved?? ( I think I am but I reall have doubts allot of the time).. I am sorry to boither you with all this but I dont have anyone that i can really talk to abiut all this.. Thanks
Erin Davis
2xr
on Friday, April 30, 2010 at 4:58 pm
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Hi, girl. Let me give you the email address to our Biblical correspondents. They are great girls and they know a lot about God's Word. You can contact them at info@reviveourhearts.com. Reach out to them. They are great!

Erin
Erin Davis
Countrygirl101
on Friday, April 30, 2010 at 5:03 pm
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I think you should talk to your youth leader. You don't need to worry about getting people in trouble, you need to worry about bringing things into the light so that they can be dealt with.

You can do it! I believe in you.

Erin
Countrygirl101
Erin
on Saturday, May 1, 2010 at 9:40 am
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Hey erin THanks for beleiveing in me!! i dont think any one ever has before!! I am planning on going to my youth pastor soon.. I had a long tlk with my brother who recently went and tlked to him and it has litterally changed his life he is getting right with god and it is actually making him happy.. you know I always have heard people say "I Want to read my bible and pray I enjoy nit" but I guesss I never really beleived tthem but now my brother is saying it and if you would of know my brother before this would of shocked you he has done horrieble awfull things i mean things that normal people dont do and he se3mi got right about some of the stuff (drugs) last year but he sitll struggled with alot of stuff and he struggled with carrying a burden because he knew that he had caused a lot of problems and he said after he prayed last week and asked forgivness he literaly fetl like a burden was lifted away.. I have heard all of this before but now i know it is true because my brother is not gonna lie to me and he honestly wants me to be happy to! so I am gonna tlk to my youth pastor i am not sure when but i am goning to and i am gonna tell him everything I am postive that he will keep it just between us so no one will get into trouble he is a great guy I wish all of you could meet him!! well please pray that i willl go through with al this love u and thanks
gg
Checking in on you - Country Girl
on Sunday, May 2, 2010 at 7:39 am
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Good Morning CG101~

I was thinking of you today and wanted to make sure your doing OK and to see if you spoke with your youth Pastor yet? If speaking to a man is too hard I am sure you can request someone within the ministry who is a woman so you can start connecting and getting some of these barriers released :)

What exciting news about your brother. Walking together and sharing your love of the Lord and all your learning as you walk can be an awesome experience. It may also help you both keep each other on track. Hey, you too can make sure your brother doesn't stumble. :) I think you know what I mean but how wonderful to grow in the Lord at the hardest times in both of your lives.

Don't let the devil paralyze you with fear about not speaking to your youth pastor. If that doesn't work don't hold it in and keep seeking and speaking OK?

I was on another site yesterday called True Woman. One woman had suggested a site to help memorize scripture. This is an area I have had big road blocks in. I wanted to pass it onto you just in case this will help you with those quiet times while you and your brother learn. I look forward to learning from it too!

http://www.scripturetyper.com

Have a great week! Good Luck on your meeting. Thinking of you..

gg
gg
Sin Unto Death Q? - To Country Girl
on Sunday, May 2, 2010 at 7:50 am
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Hi Again~

I just saw your question posed to Erin on this topic. I am praying that LYWB will check this for me before posting so I may not mislead you.

I am feeling your spiritual struggle right now and as you can tell am very concerned for you :) The devil knows your fears and he is preying on them. I hope this breakdown below will help a bit. This may just be the ice breaker for you to go talk to your youth pastor.

Maybe LYWB has a site or book they can recommend so we all can resort to it to break down scripture in the proper context. It's so easy to see something or hear something and the fear (which can be a sin) is the very thing we run with because we don't know better. Keep seeking as your doing. The devil doesn't want you to do that and you are doing great by seeking first the kindgom of God....

Thinking of you..

gg



Question: What is the sin unto death?

Answer: John wrote, "if any man see his brother sin a sin which is not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death. There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it" (I Jn. 5: 16).

Sin is a failure to do what God has required (I Jn. 3: 4). Sin may entail a failure to do what is right (sins of omission, Jas, 4: 17). Sin can involve missing the mark (Greek meaning) by doing that which is forbidden (2 Jn. 9; sins of commission). However, all unrepented-of sin results in spiritual death or separation from God (Jas. 1: 14, 15; Isa. 59: 1, 2). But John mentioned a sin not unto death.

It is always best, when possible, to allow the inspired writer to define his own statements. In chapter one, John states that if we confess our sins, "He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1: 9). Hence, all confessed sin is forgiven. Of course, confessing sin to God presupposes repentance. Five chapters later, John mentions two "kinds" of sins: Sin unto death and sin not unto death. The sin not unto death must be sin which is confessed to God. Conversely, sin unto death must be sin not confessed or unrepented-of sin.

Every time unrepented-of sin is mentioned, it is in the context of spiritual doom. Under Moses' system there was no provision for those who sinned presumptuously (Num. 15: 22-31). This sin involved, "...despising the word of the Lord" (vs. 31). This appears to be the "great transgression" regarding which David prayed he might avoid (Ps. 19: 13).

Beloved, while sin is sin, some sins are more consequential in that they involve more rebellion, The "sin unto death" appears to be a sin which involves the sinner in ultimate rebellion against God: a condition of impenitence, rejection, and defiance. We must always avoid such.
Countrygirl101
gg
on Sunday, May 2, 2010 at 9:08 pm
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Hey girl thanks for the advice and info!! I did tlk to my youth pastor and I feel like a completly different person!! I explained the whole thing to marrissa under the "spoiled brat brithday" if you wanna check it out... I feel great I have never experianced such joy! I have been forgiving because I asked for it!! love ya and thanks for everything!! ket me know if theres anything I can help you with!
Sara
Non-christian reletaves
on Wednesday, May 5, 2010 at 5:57 pm
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About half of my family are not Christians. Can someone help
girl lovin' the Lord 4 ever
Fasting
on Thursday, May 6, 2010 at 6:29 pm
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Hi Erin, I think a great topic would be fasting. I've been thinking about it a lot, and I'd like to see what your view on fasting is.
gg
Countrygirl 101
on Saturday, May 8, 2010 at 9:51 am
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Hi CG101~

Just wanted to let you know I read your other post. I am very relieved that you are doing OK and things are starting to move in a positive direction for you.

I am happy you are here being open and honest and helping the other struggling girls too! That is just wonderful. Just keep being real and it will be exciting to see how God uses you for his glory.

I am here if you ever need me too! Thanks to everyone for the wonderful posts on these blogs. It's great to see everyone sharing, caring and learning together in Christ.

Have a blessed day!
Claire
Pants..
on Saturday, May 22, 2010 at 3:14 am
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I'd like to hear i topic about whither it's ok for women to wear pants and thing like short denim jacket etc.. I'd come to an almost deceided about it myself, but it something that has held me back for a long time, and i think knowing the truth about it would set a lot of girls free.
Thanks
Claire
P.s,
on Saturday, May 22, 2010 at 3:23 am
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i also think that talking about how to defend creation and that side of your faith would be a great discussion
Krlosier
Question
on Friday, June 11, 2010 at 12:21 am
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Hey Erin! I have a question! So I have a webpage for my Bible study girls in the Bible Study I lead with a blog. I did it for a while and stopped cuz I "didnt have time". But I think God wants me to start it up again. So here's my question: Is there anyway I can interview you? Either like by email or on here? I think it would be awesome to interview you on a subject that I know a couple girls in the group are struggling with. Thanks! I don't know if you really want to see it or not, but the link to it is: (it's the link to the blog)
http://onlywhatisdone4christwilllast7.webs.com/apps/blog/
i know you are really busy and stuff....but Idk it was just a thought :)
Erin Davis
Krlosier
on Friday, June 11, 2010 at 3:04 pm
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Cool blog!

Sure, you can interview me. Just shoot me your questions via email at erin@graffitiministries.com. I should warn you I am VERY slow about returning emails at times. But I will answer your questions as soon as I am able.

Grace and Peace!

Erin
Krlosier
Thanks!
on Saturday, June 12, 2010 at 2:09 pm
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Thanks so much Erin! That will be awesome! I will get some questions ready and email you!
It's okay if you're slow...take your time! :)
Krlosier
To Erin
on Wednesday, August 11, 2010 at 10:17 am
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Hey! Sorry....but I have another question. Would it be okay if I posted my blog address on some places on this blog? Just because I want to see if they have any suggestions or anything on how I can make it better... Also, the girls in my Bible study don't talk much. I know at least some of them lead the blog, but for the past two years there have only been a couple talking. I know many girls on here do talk and comment frequently, so I think that maybe if a couple of them commented, than my girls would be encouraged to, also. :)
Thanks Erin! I appreciate everything you do on here so much!!
~Kris
Erin Davis
Krlosier
on Wednesday, August 11, 2010 at 2:54 pm
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Sure. Go ahead and post the url.

Grace and Peace!

Erin
Krlosier
Re:
on Thursday, August 12, 2010 at 12:39 am
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Thanks!!! :)
Heather
Re:
on Tuesday, December 14, 2010 at 1:20 pm
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Suggestion: A post about Christmas! I feel like the true meaning of Christmas disappeared underneath the commercialism. You're not even allowed to say 'Merry Christmas' nowdays, you have to say 'Happy Holidays.' I feel like society has forgotten that Christmas is about the birth of Jesus, and NOT about gifts, Santa, or even the spirit of giving.