We Need to Talk

posted by Erin Davis on 11/08/10 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Sin; ; 42 comments

girls drinking coffeeHas there ever been a tough conversation that you wanted to have but you didn't know what to say first so you just held your tongue? Me too. In fact, there's something I've been wanting to talk about with you for years, but I just couldn't get the first sentence out. Until now.

I think it's time for us to talk about homosexuality.

Before Lies Young Women Believe was even written, I traveled the country, talking to girls just like you to see what lies Nancy and Dannah needed to address. Everywhere I went girls mentioned the subject of homosexuality. Of that group, none of girls were personally struggling with being homosexual, but they told me over and over that they felt unsure about how to respond to the homosexual debate.

Since that time, several girls have written to us here on the blog to tell us that they are wrestling with homosexual feelings or curiosities about a lifestyle that is increasingly esteemed by our culture.

Most recently, I had lunch with several girls at the True Woman Conference. All of them told me that they had homosexual friends. When I asked them if this was a subject that they wanted us to write about, they said, "Yes! Please give us some tools for how to talk to our friends about this issue."

The need to talk about this issue has been apparent for a long time. It's a subject I'm finally ready to talk about. Why now?

Because of Tyler Clementi.

Tyler was a freshman at Rutgers University. He was a bright student and a talented musician. He recently ended his own life by jumping off of a bridge.

In the days before his death, Tyler's roommate secretly taped him with another male student. That encounter was live streamed over the Internet. One headline about the incident read: "Sexuality, Bullying, Humiliation: Did Trio Claim Tyler's Life?"

Shocking. I know. My goal isn't to sensationalize the issue. It isn't to blow this up into a finger pointing battle. But I do want to make it clear what the stakes are when it comes to the issue of homosexuality.

Tyler's story reminds me of Jesus' encounter with the adulterous woman in John 8:1–11. Just like Tyler, the woman was caught in the act of a sexual indiscretion. She also felt the sting of the trio of sexuality, bullying, and humiliation.

What I most want us to see is the way that Jesus responded to her. He didn't ignore her sin. In verse 11, He clearly tells her to "leave her life of sin." He didn't avoid the conversation simply because He didn't know exactly what to say. He didn't make her sexuality a subject that was off limits. Most importantly He didn't ignore the woman herself. He didn't run from the conversation. The result? She was pulled back from the brink of death.

My heart physically hurts when I consider that Tyler may not have known about the loving compassion that Jesus offers, even to those deeply entrenched in a pattern of sin.

Yes, this subject is sticky, but we need to talk about it.

It isn't something we take lightly, can unpack easily, or can wrap up in a neat little blog post. We need to hover here a while. Not because we have an agenda, but because an issue this complex warrants a thorough coverage.

Before we get too far, I want to hear from you. What are your questions on the subject of homosexuality?

 

Comments

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    Evelyn Gonzalez
    Super Christians!!
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 1:23 am
    I always hear the "super christians" say how gay people are going to hell. And that they shouldn't be doing that stuff. And that I shouldn't accept it because its a sin. I don't know how I respond to them. If I say it's thier choice and it's between them and God, they still act like gay people are killer zombies. The "super Christians" I refer to are the older people in my church, and my mom.
    Anonymous
    Bi?
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 2:29 am
    I have several gay friends and many bi/ questioning friends. And being a Christian I always thought that it was wrong but I still accepted them for they were. Gay or not. But now, I find that I'M the one questioning if I'm totally straight. I'm pretty sure I'm bi sexual. I know it's wrong and I know what the bible saids about homosexuality. But I can't ignore the feelings. They are SOOO strong. I catch myself "checking out" or wanting other girls. Wondering what it would be like to be with anyother girl. Even though I know it's wrong. Can I be saved and still be Bi? Will God still love me if I'm gay? I'm so confused!!!!
    Jazz
    Help with talking about it with friends!
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 3:48 am
    I have friends and family who live homosexual lifestyles and one of my really good friends at school is gay.
    It's really hard to talk about that subject, cos once you mention that being gay is wrong, people think you're a terrible homophobic bigot. Some of my christian friends don't even realise the bible clearly says it's wrong!
    The hardest part is when I think about the fact that the bible say's that practicing homosexuals will not "inherit the kingdom" it makes me feel sad and I know I have to share Jesus with my friends but I just don't know what to say.
    I know it's not a matter of saying "stop being gay cos you'll end up in hell," and I also realise that it's also not a matter of encouraging homosexuality as a way of staying politically correct and keeping friends...
    I'm just super, super, SUPER confused about how I can talk to my friends about it! :(
    The hardest part is saying that it's wrong, cos once people know you think that, they think you hate the people that are gay, which is totally NOT TRUE. I love my friends and family members who are gay, I just am at a loss of how to share Jesus with them if I have to tell them that their sexuality goes agains the bible...

    HELP!

    Thanks for reading. Love from Australia xxx
    Enyo
    Judge it God's way
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 8:41 am
    Hi Erin

    Thanks for the selfless job you're doing; may the good Lord bless you.

    Before we talk about homosexuality, we have to first all look through the word of God. What the word siad about it's effects. So that those who are in it would'nt think otherwise.

    Thank you.
    jesse
    Re:
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 8:47 am
    this girl likes me but im straight. i think its disguisting but i still want to shine God's light to her!
    Renee
    Homosexuality
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 9:55 am
    I understand that homosexuality is wrong. One of my good friends struggles with those feelings even though she is married. She doesn't want to turn to God because she doesn't think her feelings are wrong. I tell her that God loves her unconditionally. I tell her the grass is not greener on the other side and that God is the one One that can fill our voids. What I focus on is that I can only love her, and not judge her. All I can do is share my faith and be a good example for her. What can we do for our friends that are in this situation?
    marissa
    homosexuality
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 12:16 pm
    why do people want 2 b homosexuals???
    Chloe
    I have a few questions
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 12:47 pm
    Personally, I don't see anything wrong with homosexuality. I have a few friends who are bi or gay. I think that you can't control who you're attracted to but you can control what you do with that emotion. My question is that as long as they're not doing anything wrong sexually or anything that would be considered wrong between a boy and a girl who are dating then what's the harm with them dating? I'm not trying to be rude and I'm not trying to encourage homosexuality, I'm just confused with what's wrong with it. Another question that I have is if there's a girl, for example, who's a lesbian then does that mean that she shouldn't date because she's not attracted to guys? I've heard of people being born attracted to the same sex, so if people are born this way then how can it be wrong? Once again, I'm not encouraging homosexuality, I'm confused about what's wrong with it and would like some clarification.
    Faith
    Thanks so much
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 1:29 pm
    First of all, I really appreciate your being willing to broach this topic. I wish that Christians in general, were more willing to discuss sticky topics instead of shoving them under the carpet.

    Here are some of my questions:

    Can someone be a Christian, and still be entrenched in the GLB lifestyle?

    What do you say to someone who has just come out to you?

    What do you do when you're confronted with the question, "You're saying that two people really loving each other...is wrong?!"

    How can I be careful not to accept homosexuality, but to keep loving gays/lesbians at the same time as made in the image of God?
    katie
    Family Member
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 1:35 pm
    I want most to know how to be a witness to a relative who is homosexual. I know being a good example in life is one thing I can do for God, but how do I approach the subject of God without putting a rift in the family?
    Shyla
    Thanks!
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 1:36 pm
    I'm not struggling with it (Thank the Lord!) nor do I have any friends with this sad issue. But I'm just scared of it. I'm scared me, my family or my friends will somehow get sucked into the terrifying fight. Please pray.
    Steph
    .
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 2:19 pm
    my question is, is it wise to have friends who are homosexuals? like, a girl having a girl friend who is gay?
    Lise
    questions
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 2:23 pm
    Do you think someone can be gay and be a christian?
    AbbyS
    ?
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 2:30 pm
    Yeah, this is a tough subject. I firmly believe that homosexuality is a sin, and that's that. There's no if's or but's. Really.
    I like how you reminded us of how Jesus treated the woman with several husbands... He didn't gloss over her sin.

    But when does tolerance come in?
    I'm a huge theatre kid, and I am constantly surrounded by openly homosexual guys who are extremely proud of who they are. And in the theatre world, it's not a "no-no," because there's so many of them.

    As a believer, I'm not sure what my response should be to that? I absolutely love theatre, but surrounding myself with those people and also people who accept homosexuality as okay/normal, makes me wonder if I'm being lukewarm to Christ and His message?
    Nichole
    Re:
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 3:36 pm
    This is a good topic to get on because no one is willing to talk about it. I believe homosexuality is wrong because God says it is. he created man n then he created woman to keep man company. Not any other way. I had to friends that became lesbians n its really scary to me. I don't have any contact with them any more and don't really want to. I still love them because God says to love everyone even your enemies. It's still kinda weird to be around them the few times I do see them. I'll tlk to them but sumtimes i'm worried to let them get at all close to me. I don't want to give them any ideas and I don't want them sinning on my account. i don't have a problem with being friends with ppl that r gay. My only concern is that the friends u hang with will determine the way u act. being around those who r gay can influence u 2 do the wrong thing. that's y i choose 2 stay away. i'm not afraid 2 stand up 4 wat I believe in n if sum1 asks me wat I think about homosexuality I am not afraid 2 state my beliefs.
    Gods Jewel
    Homosexuality
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 3:50 pm
    I am so thankful that me, nor my family is into all of that stuff. But sometimes I hear about people who are and I wonder how do they do it? I mean How do they go against what the bible says?
    Thanks for touching on this topic :)
    Chloe
    I forgot to mention something
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 4:35 pm
    I forgot to tell you that I have been finding that I am attracted to my best friend. I can't help it, I just find myself looking at her and listening to what she says and I'm attracted to her. She knows that I feel this way about her and she says that she likes me too. Now that I understand more about why my friends are attracted to the same gender it makes more sense. I know that the Bible says that it's wrong when we act on our sinful emotions but I am finding it harder and harder not to. What should I do?
    Mary
    Love the sinner...not the sin
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 4:46 pm
    Thanks Erin for broaching this timely and confusing topic.

    I hope you'll remind all Believers out there that we are to be compassionate and show the love of Christ and be a light in the darkness. Our job isn't to condemn people or hold them to a Biblical standard if they are unbelievers. It is up to God, via the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of those in the darkness. It doesn't matter what I think, feel or desire...but what does God say on the subject? And, the Gospel isn't for the clean, but the messy, unclean. We all deserve hell, but for the grace and mercy of God. Any sexual sin is tougher as mentioned in I Corinthians cause it is outside the body. I hope you cover some pretty essential Truths about God's nature and character, especially when answering the question, God made me gay so why isn't it okay? I will be praying for you to "rightly divide the Word of Truth" as you cover this important topic.
    Syl
    Re:
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 5:45 pm
    What I am struggling most with is how to approach friends that are struggling with homosexuality in a way Jesus would have done it. When I look at how many Christians treat them, thats definitely not with love. They condemn them as if homosexuality would be a greater sin than the ones they have in their lives. By acting that way I think they don't show Jesus love. But on the other side Jesus clearly pointed out the sin of man. So were is the fine line between saying something in love and condemning?
    Allie
    Question
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 6:10 pm
    What's the best way to tell someone the truth about the sin of homosexuality without being offensive and sounding like, "You're going to hell"? What does God say about those people who protest at military funerals about gay people going to hell?
    Mayrin
    WoW!!!! For Chloe and those confused girls
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 7:09 pm
    I just cannot believe how youth is confused I didn't know that so many people don't have the truth of this. I don't know everything but I can share something with you about it. Well... Chloe and those confused girls I really hope this help. 1 Corinthians 6:9 says: Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! The SEXUALLY IMMORAL, idolaters, adulterers, PASSIVE HOMOSEXUAL PARTNERS, PRACTICING HOMOSEXUAL 6:10 thieves, the greedy, drunkards, the verbally abusive, and swindlers WILL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD. This is clear to let us know that homosexuality is definitely a sin, but apart from this I want you to know what else is wrong with this: homosexuals and bisexuals are rebels because they are against the God's will, He made them men and they want to be women and He made them women and they want to be men, they are just saying "God, you're wrong and this is not what I want for me, I just gonna do what I want, and I'm gonna be who I want to be
    I don't agree with the way you created me" they don't accept the sexuality God gave them. So this is a principle of rebellion and you know that rebellion is a serious sin that goes against the God's authority, but how can we treat our gay friends? well... God hates the sin but loves the sinner, and as Romans 5:8 says God demonstrates his own love for us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. It is very hard to make our friens understand that homosexuality is a sin but we should pray for them so that James 5:20 (he should know that the one who turns a sinner back from his wandering path will save that person’s soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.) can be real in our friend's lives. We know we love them but remember "They must become as you have been. You must not become like them". Now, a real Christian cannot be a gay because if I am a Christian then I follow Christ and this means His word His rules and I obey the principles of His kingdom, His behaviour and His patterns, so if I want to please my Lord I'll do what He asks me to do.
    phoebe
    Re:
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 7:19 pm
    Thanks for talking about this! This is definitely something that is talked a lot about in school that I don't really know how to respond to.

    I know that homosexuality is wrong--it says so all throughout the Bible--Leviticus 18, 20, Romans 1, 1 Corinthians 6, etc.

    But my question is this--why do some people seem more inclined to be homosexual? I know a lot of guys at school who have higher voices, are flamboyant, and just seem more physically feminine. A lot of times I have difficulty telling friends that homosexuality is wrong, especially when a lot of people say that homosexuality is not a choice, that "it's just who those people are, that they're just following their feelings."

    It can also be difficult talking to friends about this, especially if they seem to be homosexual...some of my more flamboyant guy friends are some of the nicest people I know...I'm not sure how to talk to them about something like this, since it is a deeply personal subject...I'm afraid of talking to them since I'm afraid of appearing as prejudice or like I'm imposing my beliefs on others.

    I have heard that some men may be more feminine or some females may be more masculine because of past generations' sexual sins, but why do certain people seem more feminine or masculine? Or could it be that our culture has made it so that people with characteristics (whether personality or physically, like men with higher voices) of the opposite gender are more likely to be labeled as homosexual?

    Sometimes I feel like it is unfair to people who label themselves as homosexual, that they seem built more one way than the other...it seems like it's easier for some people to not have homosexual feelings than others because of how they are physically built. But then I have to remind myself that God is a Just, Loving God. I have found that a lot of my friends think that God doesn't love homosexuals...I find this sad, since God does love them, but doesn't want them to be entangled in this sin.

    Thanks again for talking about this subject.
    Katie Sarah
    Homosexuality
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 7:32 pm
    The Bible says that it is wrong to be a homosexual. People are not born liking a person of the same sex. It is sinfull desires. if someone is truely a Christian, the Bible says that God will not test them beyond their ability to resist. If you are a Christian, I believe that you will not havewrong sexual desires that you cannot resist. Therefore I think that you cannot be a Christian and a homosexual. perhaps for a while they will still follow God, but eventually they will fall away. What is your opinion on this, Erin?
    Mayrin
    saved and still be homosexual or bi?
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 7:37 pm
    I don't think a person can be saved and be homosexual or bi, once he/she knows what God says about it, but lets the God's word tell us: Romans 13:2 So the person who resists such authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will incur judgment. I already said that homosexuality is a sign of rebellion.
    Jhon 3:19 Now this is the basis for judging that the light has come into the world and people loved the darkness rather than the light, because their deeds were evil. We know that homosexuality is a sin becuse of 1 Cor.6:9. besides Jhon 5:29says: and will come out – the ones who have done what is good to the resurrection resulting in life, and the ones who have done what is evil to the resurrection resulting in condemnation.
    I know we're saved by grace and by Jesus' sacrifice and we cannot do anything to save ourselves but it doesn't mean that we can do whatever we want rember Romans 6:1-2 6:1 What shall we say then? Are we to remain in sin so that grace may increase? Absolutely not! How can we who died to sin still live in it?
    Madison
    Biblical Truth
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 8:22 pm
    “’This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.’” –Genesis 2:23-24 (NIV)

    “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” -1 Corinthians 6:9-11

    “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” –Ephesians 5:23-24

    “’For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’” –Ephesians 5:31

    I know that homosexuality is a tricky subject and one that is beginning to rise up more and more in our generation. When we're confused about things, the best place to go is the Word of God.

    Never does God in Scripture commend marriage between man and man or woman and woman, but between man and woman. The point of the matter is, God created us for relationships with the opposite gender, not a gender of our own sex. When God speaks of marriage being an example of Christ and the church, he doesn’t use an example of a marriage between a woman and a woman, but between a man and a woman. God gave us unique roles as women and one of those roles, if God calls us to it, is to be married to a man, as it shows in Scripture. The Bible does not say that we should be in a relationship with another woman. If you’re faithful in reading Scripture, you will see that the position that marriage between man and woman is correct and that God does not commend homosexuality. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 shows that homosexual offenders will not inherit the kingdom of God. But this Scripture says that they were “washed.” So if homosexuality wasn’t wrong, why would the homosexual need to be washed after accepting Jesus?

    I think homosexuality has been on the rise because of our society. With the media all around us, viewing homosexuality as something that should be accepted is becoming more and more prevalent. I think we need to be on our guard at all times against false teachings and always be studying the Word of God. When everything around us seems to be shouting confusing messages, the Bible is a place of absolute truth that we can depend upon.

    I do not hate gays. If I did, I might as well say I hate liars or thieves. The point is, sin is sin. When it comes down to it, we need to love the person but not accept the sin. This is not to say that we should go out judging gays, for we ourselves have our own sins we deal with. Love the people and point them towards the truth. Let your life be an example to others. The saying is cliché, but oh so true: Actions Speak Louder than Words.

    We’re all sinners. We have all sinned and fall short of the glory of God; however, with the blood of Jesus, we are forgiven.
    Hanna W:)
    a sin??
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 9:20 pm
    is homosexuality a sin? didn't God make men and women for it to be like htat...men and women? not men and men or women and women? i guess it's kinda confusing to me. i'm definitely not homosexual, but a lot of jokes are made like that at our school and i was just wondering...
    Lise
    Transgender
    on Monday, November 8, 2010 at 11:08 pm
    This issue is tied to the transgender issue which the Christian church doesn't talk about!! What do you think about transgenders and transvestites? I struggle with this because female/ male isn't always so clearly defined. Some people are born with male parts but are female and vice versa. I'm trying to find literature on this but I can't. I think Christians can be insensitive towards struggles that people genuinely have, like people who feel trapped in the wrong body usually feel that way since childhood. 1 out of 2,000 children are born as intersex. If we continue to neglect this issue and shut transgenders and transvestites out of the church we are truly missing out on a witnessing opportunity/ spreading the gospel to them.
    Miss Anonymous
    Re:
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 12:06 am
    Thanks, Erin :)
    I talked to my aunt about this issue this summer, and I have a few questions about it. I believe that being gay or lesbian is a choice. And that its sin. My aunt agrees on it too, its just she said that some people are born that way. Is that true? I talked to some friends about this, and one person accused me of having a problem with gay people. I don't have a problem with them as a person, I just don't like what they're doing. Who you are and what you do are two different things. Although what you do influences who you are, they are different things. Who's right and who's wrong?
    monica
    Re:
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 12:56 am
    thanks for bringing this up.
    I have a cousin who is gay and I really like him, he's so much fun. I just dont understand why he wants a guy and not a girl! Yeah, I find it kind of hard to know what to say about it. His mom (my aunt) of course thinks its not a sin, she is his mom so I can understand that she excuses him. She says that he tried and tried to love girls before but he couldnt make thos feelings go away so she thinks that it cant be that God doesnt accept that since He gave him those feelings. And then I dont know what to say cause I dont want to hurt her feelings.
    And also I was wondering, is it wrong if it doesnt bother me and I accept it? I'm totally convinced its wrong myself, but is it a bad sign that it doesnt really bother me.
    Janine
    Gay because....
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 6:07 am
    Homosexuality is esteemed... maybe bacause of mistreatment of gay people. People are said to be homosexual because "It's what I am!" "I was made this way!" and other justifications. In a world where gender equality includes warm acceptance of homosexuals and homosexuality itself, and that gender equality is morally right (i'm not saying gender equality is wrong),
    How can we persuade gays to forsake their homosexuality and embrace God's design for them as men/women without condemning them?
    kenzi
    its a choice
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 10:33 am
    i've heard people say that homosexuality or bisexuality is something some people are born with but since its very clear in the Bible that homosexuality is a sin then why would God make you that way. It's a choice not something you're born with.
    Re:
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 3:19 pm
    I feel horrible when Christians say, "i can't be friends with that person. they are gay. its horrible, they are going to hell!" isn't that doing what God doesn't want us to do? Shouldn't we accept everyone as they are, no matter how they are made?
    Born Homosexual?
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 3:34 pm
    I think that many people mistake their love for their friends. I have girl-friends that I love dearly. I don't think that someone is born homosexual. Since the Bible says its a sin then it isn't a natural thing and, therefore, we weren't created to be homosexual.

    I think that homosexuality is mostly the fault of the school and government that is telling people that these natural feelings of endearing friendship are really feelings of homosexuality. And if you believe you are homosexual then it is only normal to start having homosexual feelings for those friends. I'm sure that does not speak for everyone.
    Priya
    RE: Chloe
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 5:47 pm
    The reason you're finding yourself attracted to your best friend probably has to do with the fact that you hear what she thinks on the matter a lot. I used to go to private school, and there weren't any homosexuals in my grade at all.
    But when I went to high school (my first time in public school) I found myself surrounded by the LGBT community/ people who strongly support them. That's about the time that I started having the strangest dreams- well, I don't really like talking about them, but they were disturbing to me and they were homosexual. They also reminded me of a similar dream I'd had when I was little. The terrible part was, these dreams weren't forgotten after I woke up. They stayed with me.
    After I prayed to God about it, I lost contact with my first and only gay "friend" (for lack of a better term), and I stopped discussing homosexuality with my friends who strongly support the LGBT community. Suddenly, the dreams went away and so did all the attraction.
    Trust me when I say that you're under peer pressure, and satanic forces probably have a hand in it too. Put more control on who and what you listen to, and pray hard! Whatever you do, remember that your friend is loved by God too. Show her that without giving off the impression that you're flirting, and God will take care of the rest :)
    what to do?
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 7:05 pm
    in my case i have a friend who's not gey but he doesn't act like a man. And since we are friends all the time i see him doing girls gestures.
    and all my friends at school think that he is gey but he is not! and sometimes i want to talk to him about that subject but i don't no how to do it! and i don't want to hurt his feelings.
    he is christian but i think he is a little bit confused.
    (hopefully you will understand something cuz i don't speak a lot of english)
    thanks!
    what to do?
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 7:12 pm
    in my case i have a friend who's not gay but he doesn't act like a man. And since we are friends all the time i see him doing girls gestures.
    and all my friends at school think that he is gay but he is not! and sometimes i want to talk to him about that subject but i don't no how to do it! and i don't want to hurt his feelings.
    he is christian but i think he is a little bit confused.
    (hopefully you will understand something cuz i don't speak a lot of English)
    thanks!
    A Confused Girl...
    Help?!
    on Tuesday, November 16, 2010 at 10:21 pm
    Ive was gay for 3 years living that way and everything then I got saved. After that I broke up with my friend but that was a couple years and I still struggle with the attraction a TON. Im only 17. Help?!
    Erin Davis
    A confused girl
    on Friday, November 19, 2010 at 2:20 pm
    You need a support network of believers where you live. I want to strongly encourage you to seek out a wise, Christian mentor and an accountability partner who can pray for you and ask you specific questions about your struggle.

    Do you have someone you can talk to?

    Erin
    SegaFreak4ever
    We shall have victory!)
    on Tuesday, December 7, 2010 at 10:09 pm
    I LUV this verse, "This is my command, be strong and firm, don't be afraid or weak. For the LORD is w/ u, wherever u go." Joshua 1:9. I have been bullyed 4 three years. Now why I metioned this? Well, my parents luved me, and they always protected me. They warned me that if anybody is picking on me, than they punch their guts out (trust me, my whole family had a rocky bully problem life). One time, I've almost ran away because the bullys won't stop picking on me. However, w/ GODS help, I finally stand firm.
    ELIZ =]
    where i stand...
    on Wednesday, May 11, 2011 at 9:39 am
    at my favorite place in the world this summer, the summer camp i go to, the speaker said that there is no such thing as gays and lesbians. and i never really realized it till then, but it's soooo true!!!!!!!! i soooo agree with that. no one is born that way... God doesn't creat people that way, it's plain as plain a choice on the part of the individual. i have a "friend" sho is really just an aquaintance that loves me to death because i'm the only one who challenges him and doesn't follow him around like a sreaming fan. h's the most popular guy at school and everyone thinks he's really hot but i don't think he is. that's beside the point though. he's gay and no one believes that he is but he tells me everything and he says that i am his best friend but he drives me crazy! his manerisms are crude and perverted but he trries to be a little less uncouth around me. lately he has been asking me tons of questions God and my faith and christianity. he is a sceptic and adn agnostic (he doesn't know what he believes). he says that it's not applicable to his life and that he doesnt believe it and this kills me because i am so in love with my Savior that it hurts me so bad to hear that. please pray for him.his name is jorden. what do u all think of this? i really don't wanna have anything to do with him because he appals me so much but yet i feel like God is calling me to minister to him but i really hate being around him and associating myself with him. but if i avoid him then i wont be able to lead him to Christ. what to i do? ;(
    rae
    just no.
    on Tuesday, June 7, 2011 at 6:27 am
    Look, you can't say "he may not have known the loving compassion of jesus". That's just rude. The poor kid was tortured by some stupid kids. Leave it alone. Its not right to exploit it just for you to say how homosexuality is forgiveable.
    Jillian
    Warfare
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 9:45 pm
    I wanted to say something a lot of people don't hear often. This issue actually deals with spiritual warfare, as Ephesians 6:12 mentions. There is a spirit of homosexuality which can make this whole issue something very hard to deal with. When Christ died for us He gave us deliverance and healing, and that includes from death, from bondage of sin, and from every unclean spirit or curse there is. However, unclean spirits need to be cast out in Jesus' name, otherwise they're just hanging out in our vehicle (our body so to speak) trying to take the wheel.

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