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Emii
Re:
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 1:21 am
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That is really, really good. I love the part about where it says someone says they don't believe Jesus is God but that he was a good person -- but that's not true if they don't believe He's God, since that's who He said he is. And He is! And no, I don't think I am giving Him His rightful place in my life. I'm getting there -- I think I really am.
Char
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on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 1:45 am
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Growing up I was in church and a Christian school but never truly believed until I was at a Christian college with my RSs. I accepted Christ as my savior on october 18,2008 but Satan took hold of me hard after. I was removed form school and turned my back on God. Since then wasn't truly living or serving Him until I went to Calvary church of the qc and started attending a group called COOL (christ over out lives) and that's when I gave my life back to God to fully serve and follow Him. Honestly that was back in aug but I'm still having trouble giving Him complete control over my life. It's something that I'm working on with the help of some godly women in my church. Please keep me in your prayers. With Gods help and power I can and will have victory over my struggles.
ErinBrooke
Amazing
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 6:48 am
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Wow, it's amazing how God works things out. I'm a youth leader at my church and I was just focusing on basically everything you said in this blog as a part of our Easter program about Jesus being our one Hope. I'm so glad that I know who He is, but even better, He knows me!
m
Cool
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 8:06 am
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That was a great post! I have heard that before that Jesus was either God, a lier or something else but I really like that because it tells us that Jesus was and is really God.
Mary
Wow!
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 8:30 am
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This was amazing! I think that standing up for our faith and claiming that Jesus is who He really is, can be very difficult. Especially if you are in a public schools. Nothinh against the public schools, but you do see a lot more sin and have way more opportunities to share. Do we make the best of those opportunities? That is between us and God.
Meghan
Question
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 8:51 am
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Great post Paula thank you! I know this is off topic but I have a question. If you love something so much that you turn it into an idol (I'm not talking about a statue here) what do you do? I really don't want to stop this thing I am doing and it is not a sin at all! It is perfectly fine its just I love it so much that I have turned it into an idol. How do I stop this thing from being an idol without having to stop the thing itself? Please help!
Emma
HELP!!!
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 8:58 am
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Paula,I have this sort of friend at my band and she won't let me tell her anything about Christ.I don't feel bad telling my (sort of )friend about Christ but she always purposely changes the subject when I try to tell her.HELP!!!What do I do????P.S-thank you for another great post.
Jessica
A little off topic
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 10:45 am
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All right. This is a little off topic, but it's been on my mind and I wanted to ask. What to do think of headcoverings? It says in 1 Cor. 11:3-5 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head. But every women that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. For if the women be not covered, let her also be shorn; but if it be a shame for a women to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the emage and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man... Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a women pray to God uncovered? Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hari, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have long hair it is a glory to her: for her hair is given to her for a covering."
Whew! That's a long verse. So, I know that many people say that having long hair is enough for a covering, but what about earlier on in the verse? Consider that if the hair is the covering, then a man would need to shave is head to be uncovered. Also, 'if the woman be not covered (her hair removed), let her also be shorn.' How can she cut her hair if it's already been removed?
On a sidenote, headcoverings also make you appear totally different from the rest of the world, and we are not to be part of this world. They also show total submission to God. Think about this for a minute: honestly consider what it would be like to wear a covering. Doesn't part of your heart rebel thinking of all the worldly things you would have to give up? How incredibly different you would be? Jesus freely gave all He had~ should we not be willing to give all for Him?
Any input would be appreciated.
Anonymous
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on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 12:00 pm
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thanks for this post!
i'm just praying for help to stand for Jesus. it's not easy and I'm just afraid of how i'm suppossed to answer my freinds' questions ... thanks for the help :)
Arianna
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on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 3:20 pm
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Great Post! thanks so much <3

What is the Incomparable Christ book and study and how do we follow it?
Anonymous
Paula
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 3:23 pm
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Thank you so much for the book! I just got it in the mail today!
andrea
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on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 4:27 pm
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yeah jessica!!! i have always wondered this....all my life that is what iv'e been taught but ... i guess i don't really want to wear one....if i'm really honest... i don't want to look wierd and stand out...
Jade
@Emma
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 5:01 pm
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Emma - One thing to do is, don't "front" with God. I know that seems like giving in, but it's not. Don't start with "Hey, come to my church". When you are talking about books (or music, games, etc.) you like, and she asks you WHY you like those things or why you don't want to borrow her cd collection you can use that to explain. Use what you would normally talk about to talk about God.

For example, when you talk about music you like, you might say you like christian music or that you like "_______ singer\band". When she asks why, you can say you prefer not to listen to unedifying music or that you find that their music really lifts you up in your Christian walk. Does that make sense?
Kate
Emma
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 6:16 pm
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The biggest thing you can do for your friend is pray for her. Tell her that you are praying for her because you are genuinely (I think that's how it's spelled...) concerned about her and that you love her (as a friend), but don't push it. I wish someone had told me that they were praying for me when I had a hard heart towards God. I'll be praying for you both. :)
Ella
RE: Meghan
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 6:21 pm
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Hey Meghan, there's definitely been some times when I've spent a lot of my time doing other things rather than focusing my time & energy reading my
Bible and spending time with God.
In my situation, this may have been as innocent as spending hours on Facebook talking with friends, but that eventually became my idol. There are many places in the Bible for example in Exodus when God gives the Ten Commandments to Moses He tells us that we should have no other gods because God is a jealous God. God loves us so much, that He wants us to spend as much time getting to know Him, therefore if there is anything that'll take His place or become a higher priotity than Him, eventually He will take that think away. So for me, I'm trying my best to limit the amount on time I spend on the computer, and I have set a time, that every day I will go to my room and spend time with God.
And I definitely understand that yes it gets really hard to break those habits but think about the pros, would you rather give up having an intimate and deep relationship with our Heavenly Father or spend meaningless time doing something else. Clearly, the first option outwieghs the second by ALOT.
Hope this helps :)
Mikayla
Re: Jessica
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 7:12 pm
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Hey! Your way of thinking that if a woman's head is not covered she also should be shorn is exactly the reasoning my pastor used to show how we are commanded to wear a head covering. You have some really good ideas. I agree with you that if Jesus gave His life for us, the least we can do is follow this command. Yes, people sometimes stare at you, but the Bible says we are to be different from the world. Thanks for bring this up! I've always wondered why most Christians think "long" hair is a head covering like the Bible commands.
Chloe
I Believe
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 8:48 pm
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I believe in God, but I cannot say that I make that clear around my friends. Sometimes when we get in discussions about religion or faith, I'll say things like "well, i think God's real but lately I've been doubting" or something like that. Sometimes that's true and sometimes it isn't. Lately though I've been trying to either keep my mouth shut or be honest.
Molly
this was a good post
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 9:00 pm
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Hey Paula!!

Nice job on this one!!! I have had a really hard time in giving the gospel to hard-headed people. But, I have given it to one of my best friends. She told me about six months ago that if I hadn't become her friend, she doesn't know where she would be today, if she had even lived that long!!

I often get nervous when I am giving the gospel. I try to give him credit for everything that I do, or that happens to me, but sometimes, it just feels like it was all a "human happening" (the only way to describe it). I am a tutor for an 11yo girl. She is Christian (at least her mom is, and she, the 11yo, is living in a home with a parent who wants to obey Gods laws) and she is stuck in the wrong crowd. Apparently, she is becoming rude, and snotty. When I first met her, she was the sweetest girl!! I am not sure how to handle it, since she views me as an older sister. I am also the oldest girl in the US Consulate here in Thailand, so, all of the younger girls come to me with problems. I love giving advice, but it tends to be from what I would do, and from my stand point. I know that the girls are most probably not Christian, and my answers come from a Christian point of view. What should I do? Continue helping them, and giving them an answer to a problem, and have them solve it like I would? Or just tell them about Christ, and hope that they do what is right?

@ Jessica. I went to a Mennonite Church for several years. It wasn't a super conservative one, since everyone had different color cars, and wore modest, but stylish clothing. And, after asking the same Q, learned that they do it simply because that is what they believe what Gods want's them to do. They *never* excluded me or any other person in my family because we didn't have coverings. If you don't know, pray. That is what my parents did, and they believe that long hair is sufficient for a covering. Also, as long as you go to God in prayer with a pure, humble, honest heart, I believe that he will listen to your prayers. Michael Pearl (if you don't know who he is, he runs a Biblically based, lifestyle Christian Magazine that is AWESOME!! :p) has some videos on his site. He also has them all on youtube. Here is the link from youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U94gCwNlUqM. The other videos he has are on the side panel. I would suggest watch all that are interesting to you. If you like him, go ahead an order the Pearls magazine, No Greater Joy.

Wow, sorry for making this such a long post........

Molly
v
wondering
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 9:02 pm
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This is a great post!!! Lately it feels like i have been straying from God. I also know that before i felt this way God was really working in my life. He felt so close and loving, and intern i drew closer to Him. So i am wondering now if i am under spiritual attack. If satan is tempting me to run away from Christ. Well anyway it would be the bomb if you would keep me in your prayers:) thanks and God bless
andrea
to jessica
on Monday, March 28, 2011 at 9:25 pm
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doesn't jesus require us to give everything to Him??? ( maybe not all at first but He shows us little by little)
hippie4ever
Re:
on Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 12:41 am
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I often hear from relatives, that there are many ways to God and many names for God and it is extremely JUDGEMENTAL to declare there is only ONE way. But if, as I believe, there is only one way to God, salvation and heaven, then it is an extreme act of love to tell others this truth. Despite the strange looks, the condemnation of being narrow minded and judgemental, love speaks the truth warning of the lies devised by the Great Liar, Satan. Christ was unafraid to declare the truth, "I am the way, the truth and the life: no man cometh to the Father but by me." John 14:6
Jessica
Re:
on Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 11:07 am
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I agree that if you "go to God with a pure and humble heart" he will listen to my prayers and I guess I don't think that headcoverings are necessary... but like Molly said, we should be willing to give everything to Him. Whenever I see women wearing headcoverings, they always look to incredibly joyful and at peace, you know? You can tell that they don't value the things on this earth and are willing to put everything aside for the One that they love. Part of me has always really wanted to wear one, but then the other part of me goes "What are you thinking??? Are you crazy or something? You have already accepted Jesus' gift and been baptized! You don't need to do this! What would people (like your family -or boyfriend-) think? Maybe I'm making too big a deal out of this. But if it's in the Bible then it must be important to God, and therefore us.
Also, 1 Cor.11:16 says "But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the curches of God." I have read elsewhere that Paul is appealing to the Corinthians not to be contentious abuot this ordinance of headship (headcovering). Apparently it was not an issue in other churches. They were practicing it, and he commanded the Corinthians to do the same. (1 Cor. 4:7)
"You will apear eccentric. Your obedience will challenge others." -Charles Finney
"Our society is bulging with self-seeking, an dself promoting people that need to be challenged to consider submitting to God. In a culture which loathes meekness and submission to authority, it requires spiritual strength and sheer bravery for a sister to cover herself in public. Perhaps for those sisters who are persecuted for their convictions the veil itself becomes a badge of courage for all to witness! Be of good cheer - the Lord is pleased!"
"Remember that He did not entrust the visual beauty of the local assembly to the brothers, but to the sisters. Sisters, you're on display for the entire universe to see. The angels are watching you. Will you be a glory seen or unseen?"
Puts a different spin on things, doesn't it?
Also, there is a website: www.headcovering.info that is dedicated purely to the topic of headcoverings. Please let me know what you think cause I'm still struggling with this. Paula? What do you think?
Meghan
Ella
on Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 12:29 pm
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Thank you for your advice!
Gracefalls
re
on Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 1:45 pm
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For some reason... this just seems to easy! just going through Jesus? Why is it so easy?
Emma
@ Jade and Kate
on Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at 6:00 pm
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Thank you both for the advice!!!Jade-thank you that makes a ton of sense.I never thought of it that way and actually i asked her to come to my church in the almost exact way you mentioned in your advice!!!Kate-thank you also!!!I will pray for her and tell her that too!Thanks again both of you! I asked Erin the same question on today's blog(Mar.29).
Vic
Jessica
on Wednesday, March 30, 2011 at 7:37 am
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You pointed out that verse and at first I wasn't sure what to think so I asked my Dad who is a pastor, bible teacher. He went and looked at the verse. He told me that the hair is the covering. You have to look at the situation of the Corinthians they were in one of the most immoral places in Greece with the temple to Aphrodite, the goddess of love at the top of it. The women in the church were cutting their hair short to mimic the temple prostitutes. They commanded to keep their hair long. Men were not to have their hair covered. This is where you may get confused wait men having hair is a covering. Hold on, my dad also looked at in greek the origanal form of the new testement it has been translated wrong it acctually means coming down in the context of this text long hair. In the 2 century men were looked down upon for having long hair. So women are commaned to not be a man by having shorter hair and men to keep their hair short.

I hope this helps! :)
Vic
oops
on Wednesday, March 30, 2011 at 6:32 pm
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If i said moral i meant immoral...
Vic
Headcovering
on Thursday, March 31, 2011 at 7:39 am
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Sorry I am posting so much. As I said before the Chorintians were in an immoral city. When you see headship you said it meant headcorvering. Headship means athority. You are to be in submission to your parents under their head ship. When women are married they under the headship of their husbands and men under submission to God nd responsible for their actions. Because Paul does not right this to the other churches that does not mean they don't have a problem with that. Submission is also a big part in Ephesians. You said something ike we need to stand apart from the world and show we love God. Thats what the Chorinthians were commanded to do by having longer hair. I still think women should not make their hair look like a mans. Wearing a headcovering might show the world you love God but what does that little piece of cloth do or if you wear a hat. What DOES it do sure it shows the world your diffferent but I have seen those people who wear a "headcovering" but the people live in sin. There is no sign of spiritual birht in their life. If you want to wear a headcovering great but yoou can make a n=inpact just as big or bigger by saying no to things christians should avoid. Not saying certain words or watching certain movies or going places. Honoring your parents being as noticable seperate from sin. Dressing modistly and just praying before you eat in public. Being kind to everyone you meet. These will help you make a big impact and be like the Chorintians and stand out.
Jessica
Vic
on Thursday, March 31, 2011 at 10:21 am
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Huh. You know, that really does help... Thank you! :-)
<3
Katie
Help!!!
on Friday, April 1, 2011 at 3:00 pm
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I have a friend who believes in God and he knows what God does for us, but he doesn't talk about God at all, even when the subject is brought up. He suddenly gets very quiet and doesn't talk at all!! I need help getting him to talk!!!!!!!!
Amythyst
Char
on Saturday, April 2, 2011 at 7:26 am
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I've been going through the same thing! It's nice to know that I'm not alone. I will be praying for you.
Char
Re: Amythyst
on Saturday, April 2, 2011 at 7:58 pm
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Thanks Amythst. It's nice to know that I'm not alone either. I'll be praying for u too. :)
One of the ladies from my church also told me to listen for Gods still small voice, but honestly I don't hear it...vie tried to read my Bible and listen to what God says in His word but I still don't hear it and it's really frustrating. Where I am now 21 and still living at home I feel holdback fro being who I can be who God made me to be. I'm treading water and I feel like I'm slowly drowning.
andrea
Re:
on Sunday, April 3, 2011 at 5:37 pm
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ok, jessica might be convinced, but i'm still skeptical. my pastor says that you have to look at the greek translation of the bible, because its more accurate. you have to look at the greek word for covering, which means veiling. I have also been pretty much told that if i don't wear a veiling i'll go to hell, because that's what i've been taught that the bilble says. Supposedly you don't realize that you're supposed to wear a veiling and God will tell you eventually that you are supposed to. the grecians did live in a wicked culture, but so do we. i'm soooooooo confused!!!!!!!!!!
Carina
Hair Covering
on Sunday, April 3, 2011 at 11:38 pm
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This is an interesting subject...I have looked into myself. I actually got a small pamphlet that talks about it. Starting off, I think that wearing a head/hair covering is a heart issue at the root, and definitely doesn't determine your salvation, God's favor for you, or even the "guarantee" that your prayers will be heard. It is simply a physical/visible item that symbolizes your submission to God and His Word, Christ, and your husband. The pamphlet I have talks about how a woman with a wrong heart (but wears a hair covering) will somehow find a way to show her hair still. If you don't have a modest, pure heart it will show on the outside, and vice versa. Where's our hearts at? Do we not want to wear hair coverings because people will stare? This has really been tugging at my heart...I don't wear a hair covering but I don't feel that I should skip over this part of God's commands for me. It makes me think about how I've heard people say "Well that part of the Bible isn't meant for me." and they pick and choose. Like saying evangelism (sharing the Gospel) is not meant for me to do, but telling the Truth and not lying is. And I know that we absolutely cannot pick and choose from the Bible. All of it is God's Holy Word and ALL of it is for us...so I guess it's just a matter of wether or not we will submit to God in this command and wear a head covering (and by the way the hair is not the actual covering). But it's harder than it sounds; easier said than done....

Thanks girls for talking about this important subject. Thanks for the website Jessica. I agree with what you said about giving everything up to God.

Any input Paula? Erin? Thank you!

Love To All My Sisters In Christ,
Carina
Paula Hendricks
To Carina
on Monday, April 4, 2011 at 3:42 pm
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Hey, Carina,

We're planning to post something on this topic next month . . .
Vic
Headcovering
on Monday, April 4, 2011 at 3:59 pm
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The Greek translation is the accurate and that translation does not say covering it the word means to come down upon over the eyes. So yes I have thought about this and had a good talks with my Dad and it IS the hair. Translations have not put the correct word.

Where in the Bible does it tell you you will go to hell if you don't where a head covering! That is wrong and I have never worn a head covering or veil in my life. No where in the Bible does it say that our salvation is dependent on headcoverings. That is a perversion of the true gospel. No where in the bible greek or english does it say that. The word covering in greek may be veiling but that is not what the greek version says.

If you so where a headcovering there is nothing wrong with that but it is not esential to salvation and making others where them and telling them you have to is a wrong.
I'm sorry if I seem angry, but this concerns me that you believe you will go to hell without a covering.

Paula do you disagree with me? Just wondering.

Love in Christ <3
Vic
Stuggling
Re:
on Monday, April 4, 2011 at 10:20 pm
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This might not have a lot to do with the post, but I just really need someone's help right now. I thought I was a strong Christian and knew well what I belived.. but lately, I am starting to doubt my faith, as well as doubt so many things and even come to think; "does God really exist?" How do I get on the right track again, and not lose my faith in Christ?
Erin Davis
Struggling
on Monday, April 4, 2011 at 11:05 pm
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Baby girl, the God if the Universe is about to blow your mind. The next three posts on this blog are about doubt. They were written and uploaded before I got your comment and timed perfectly to answer you. God literally dropped the answers to your questions about having a struggling faith into your lap...or rather straight to your computer screen. Keep reading the blog all week. Sounds to me like God planned the next three posts just for you.

Erin
Carina
Hair Coverings
on Tuesday, April 5, 2011 at 1:35 am
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Hey Vic! I totally agree with you that wearing a head covering is not required for salvation, God's favor upon you, or the "guarantee" that your prayers will be heard. My source of information says the hair is not the covering but maybe it's wrong, because if you have access to the original Greek translation and it says otherwise then I guess it has to be wrong...???

Anyways, I found this awesome blog post talking about Hair Coverings, written by Kim Wagner: http://www.truewoman.com/?id=1643
It's a really great post! And Paula said they will probably be doing some blog posts on the subject soon so I hope that will help us too...

Love To All My Sisters In Christ,
Carina
Carina
RE: Paula
on Tuesday, April 5, 2011 at 2:27 am
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Okay, sounds great Paula! Thanks so much! :)

Love To All My Sisters In Christ,
Carina
andrea
Re:
on Wednesday, April 6, 2011 at 11:43 am
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hey, i'm sorry, maybe i wasn't clear enough. I'm not sure if i personally really believe that, but that's just what i was taught. My church believes that its a commandment for us to wear an extra piece of cloth on our heads. And if its a commandment and you don't do it, then, (like if you delibrately don't for example, love your nieghbor, and you don't repent) you'll go to hell. Does that make sense? i'm really sorry, i didn't mean to condemn you or anything, i just wrote that because i was really confused cuz something just sounds fishy.
andrea
to vic
on Thursday, April 7, 2011 at 1:34 pm
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hey, dear girl, i am certainly not trying to tell you what to do!! At least that's NOT what i meant!!! And i know that wearing a head covering is certainly not essential for salation. i was just frustrated because sometimes i think that my church and parents put too much emphasis on being "seperate from the world". ( they think that you should dress totally different so you stand out, and that is at least partly what it means to be different from the world. which i don't really think that is what the bible says, but anyway...) anyway, i'm really sorry for exploding and giving you the wrong conclusion......PLEAZZZ forgive me.....
Vic
Re: Andrea
on Thursday, April 7, 2011 at 3:16 pm
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I understand. I didn't think you were condeming me. I just wanted to let you know that I didn't think that was essential to salvation, I totally forgive you. I tend to be REALLY hard headed on my and my families doctrinal standpoints. I realize that there are diferent denominations and people can truly be saved without totally ageeing on the nity gritty stuff in the bible. I just want everyone to think the way I think because that is what I've grown up to know so I just have to come to grips with the fact no one agrees on everything. :)
I want to know what is your denomination and the name of your church? f you don't mind me asking.
:) Love in Christ
Arianna Victoria
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Paula Hendricks
To Arianna
on Friday, April 8, 2011 at 9:39 am
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Hey, Arianna,

Nancy Leigh DeMoss is teaching through J. Oswald Sander's book "The Incomparable Christ" for these 40 days leading up to Easter. Check out today's teaching here: http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/roh/today.php. You'll find a link to the book on the left-hand side of the page. Enjoy!

paula
andrea
Re:
on Friday, April 8, 2011 at 12:19 pm
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no i don't mind your asking. i go to Hopewell Mennonite Church.
hey by the way i think its really cool that your dad is a bible scholar.
this is horrible but i hate going to town and getting wierd stares from people because of how i dress. i just can't help wondering why in the world most mennonites think they have to dress different and where in the world they got that idea...
anyway sorry for rambling... what church do you go too?
Vic
Re:
on Sunday, April 10, 2011 at 5:33 pm
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I go to Calvary Baptist Church
I understand what its like to be stared at I do not have to wear a skirt all the time. I do dress modestly and I am fine with that. I am different from the world sometimes it makes me feel awkward. Then I remember I'm Christ girl and I feel great!
hey
do you have any questions or concerns you want to ask i'll do my best to help :)
Paula Hendricks
To Gracefalls
on Tuesday, April 12, 2011 at 11:10 am
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Hey, Gracefalls,

I did my best to answer your question here: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=703.

Hope that helps,

paula
Selah
RE:
on Tuesday, April 19, 2011 at 5:06 pm
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My mom was in a tight situation with some of our friends. They're in there late 20's. They were asking her "How could such a good God just have one way for people to go to Heaven? Like, what about the devoted Muslims, Buddhists and Hindus (etc.)? Where do they end up? Hell?" Those are hard questions! And there is a fine line between God's divine grace and His divine judgement. What should I say when these conversations come up? A lot of my extended family are religious; many of them do not understand the importance of the RELATIONSHIP with Jesus. This is definitely something to pray about!
Sarah
Can't get him to talk...
on Monday, May 30, 2011 at 11:31 am
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Katie…

Have you asked your friend why he is quiet when the subject of God is brought up? You might simply ask him, and then respect his answer.

You can’t “get him to talk”, but you can pray for him and ask God to work in his life. Share what God is doing in your life, but don't push him. Make sure your life and conversation point to Christ and His ways, and be the light of Christ in your friend's life.
Sarah, Revive Our Hearts
Advice? For sure!
on Monday, May 30, 2011 at 11:34 am
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Molly…

What a great opportunity you have to be the light of Christ! Take every opportunity to speak the “Christian way” to the girls who ask you questions. Since you are a Christian and the Holy Spirit dwells in you, you can lead them in the right way—your view point is not just "your" views but your thoughts are influenced by the Spirit of Christ in you. Use these conversations as a vehicle to share why you think like you do, why you act like you do, why you make the choices you do. Point them to Christ. Make it your daily prayer that you will meet every opportunity with the priority of the Gospel.

The kindness and “coaching” you do as you tutor the 11 year old will be an example of the Gospel. Don’t hesitate to ask her leading questions about the way she responds and encourage her to act right. Ask her why she is responding as she is and then speak truth into her life as an older sister would.

Don’t be surprised when God opens the opportunity for you to share the Gospel! It is OK to be nervous—you are sharing the words of Life!
Sarah
Idols
on Monday, May 30, 2011 at 12:01 pm
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Hi, Meghan...

Paula asked me to respond to you.

If you have made an idol of anything, confess it as sin. Anything we love more than God is sin. I encourage you to pursue God so that you love Him more.

When the thing you have made an idol comes to mind, instantly pray for someone or something else. For example, when thinking about guys, pray for the girls that are being trafficked in India. This will get you in the habit of going to prayer rather than guilt!
Lorree
To Char
on Tuesday, May 31, 2011 at 3:07 pm
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Char,

I am so thankful that you are seeking the counsel of some ladies in your church. Having someone to ask questions and to invest in your life is a wonderful gift. I encourage you to spend as much time in the Word as you can. Read it without an agenda – just with a desire to get to know the Lord. Pray before you read and ask the Lord to teach you things about Himself through His Word. By spending time with Him, much like spending time with a friend, you will get to know Him, His ways and His will better. You won’t hear Him speaking to you in an audible voice. But it’s more like your thoughts are being filtered through Him. He will never tell you to do anything that is contrary to His Word.

God has brought you so far, Char. But if you feel like there are areas of your life you haven’t completely surrendered to the Lord, you might find Nancy DeMoss’s book Surrender good to read. God loves you so much, Char! He has plans for your life (Jer. 29:11) and can be trusted to work all things together for your good (Rom. 8-28-29).

Lorree
Lorree
To: V re: Wondering
on Tuesday, May 31, 2011 at 3:29 pm
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V,

If you feel like you are straying from the Lord, then you need to turn around and run back to him. I encourage you to make the choice to spend as much time in His Word as you can – immerse yourself! God tells us in James 4:8 that as we draw near to God, He will draw near to us.

I don’t know whether this is spiritual warfare or a testing from the Lord, but the key to either trial will be to draw near to the Lord through reading His Word and through prayer. Jesus set this example for us in the Garden of Gethsemane (Matt. 26:36-46) and we should do the same in our trials.

Praying for you and asking that the Lord will surround you with His awesome, loving presence!

Lorree
Serra
youth group
on Thursday, June 2, 2011 at 2:48 pm
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We talked about this in youth group. They asked us a question that was the quistion you asked. I just wasn't sure, but I think I figured it out now. :)
Carrie Gaul
To: Vic re: headcoverings
on Thursday, June 9, 2011 at 7:34 pm
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Vic,

You are exactly correct; our eternal destiny is determined by our response to Jesus (accepting or rejecting His gift of salvation) not upon whether or not we wear a headcovering.

At Revive Our Hearts we believe there are two things that are clear from Paul's words in 1 Corinthians 11. First, it is vital that Christian men and women maintain clear-cut distinctions-men ought to be distinctively masculine and women distinctively feminine. While masculine and feminine distinctions will vary from culture to culture and era to era, the lines should not be blurred. The second thing is that it should be evident that women are walking in submission to God-ordained male leadership. She can demonstrate that she is in submission to God as she submits and responds to the leadership of male authority.

If you’d like to learn more I encourage you to listen to Nancy’s interview with Dr. Bruce Ware - Practical Questions on Submission.


Carrie
Lies Young Women Believe Team
Carrie Gaul
Jessica re: headcoverings
on Thursday, June 9, 2011 at 7:51 pm
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Jessica,

I love that you are seeking the Lord and want to obey Him… even if it means being seen as “different”.

I just posted a response to Vic that will be helpful to you. Also if you’ve not already read them I think you’ll be encouraged by Kim Wagner’s post’s “Doin’ things My way!” and “No drama queens allowed!” (http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=716 and http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=717).

Keep pursuing Jesus with your whole heart, Jessica!
Jessica
my goodness...
on Friday, June 10, 2011 at 9:45 am
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Wow. I hadn't come back here since my last response, and was certainly suprised at how many comments there were! Thank you Carrie for your reponse.
To be honest, things have been really busy in my life and haven't had time to think about the topic of headcoverings much. I guess my view on it is that it isn't nescessary to wear one, but if you choose to it is to show a great love for Christ, and a willingness to do anything for Him. There are many Godly women out there who don't wear the covering (example: Corrie Ten Boom) but are undoubtedly in love with Him and lived their whole life to please Him.
I'm thankful for this conversation because it has brought us closer to God, and made us think about and pursue Him even more. :-)
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Selah
on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 5:21 pm
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Selah,

God’s love is amazing! He loves us before we ever even acknowledge Him as Lord and Savior. He loves us while we are still dead (spiritually) in our sin (Rom. 5:8). It’s His love that sent Jesus to die for our sin. We’ve all sinned (Rom. 3:23) and because of that we all deserve hell. But God didn’t create hell for people – He created it for Satan and his demons (Matt. 25:41). He doesn’t want anyone to go to hell (2 Peter 3:9), but he has given mankind the freedom to choose. Each person must decide what they will do with Jesus.

The best thing for you to do, Selah, is pray…pray…pray for your family! Ask God to remove the blinders that keep them from seeing the love of Christ for them. And then ask the Lord to help you display the love of Christ to them. Let them see Jesus in you…in your kindness, your respect, your servant’s heart, the way you respond to your parents and siblings. As they see a difference in you they’ll become curious about what you have. They may even begin to ask you questions. When God opens the door for you to share with them, tell them freely how Jesus has changed your life. Share the ways you are seeing Him answer your prayers and tell them of the love of Christ that died for them and wants to spend eternity with them.
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Struggling
on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 9:43 am
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Struggling,

Thanks for your honesty; I’m sorry you’re struggling. If you’re a Christ-follower the devil will attempt to plant thoughts of doubt in your mind. He’s done that since the beginning of time (He’s line to Eve in the Garden of Eden was, “Did God really say?” So don’t be surprised by his schemes (2 Corinth. 2:11).

The key to overcoming doubts is to guard carefully the thoughts you allow to stay in your mind. 2 Corinth. 10:3 says that we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. A wrong thought ( or doubt) itself is not sin; it becomes sin when we choose to dwell on it and then act upon it.

Begin to practice what someone has called “threshold thinking”; every thought that crosses the threshold of your mind must be examined in light of God’s Truth. If the thought is in line with God’s Word – then you may think on it; if it is not, then you must choose to dismiss it from your mind. As you refuse to dwell or “entertain” a wrong thought or doubt, you must also quickly replace that thought with God’s Truth – with thoughts that are true, honorable, and pure ( Phil. 4:8). Here’s a few of the passages that have been helpful to me in renewing and refocusing my mind on God’s Truth (2 Corinthians 10:3-5; Ephesians 6:10-18; Romans 12:1-2; and Romans 6).
stuggling
Thank you... to Carrie and Erin
on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 2:00 pm
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Thank you for all your advice.. I do appresiate it, and it is truly getting better :)
andrea
Re:
on Sunday, July 17, 2011 at 6:06 pm
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hey maybe i'm imagining it, and i'm sorry if i am, but why is everybody ignoring me? i mean, i'd really appreciate it if someone would at least try to get ME to understand about the headcovering...i'm sorry, i feel sortof bad about posting this, you don't have to if you don't think its appropriate or something...
andrea
Re:
on Sunday, July 17, 2011 at 6:08 pm
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i'm sorry vic, i know you did, and thanks... i mean, i'm just confused, i guess maybe i am imagining that no one wants to have much to do with me any more..
Erin Davis
Andrea
on Monday, July 18, 2011 at 3:58 pm
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We want you to use this blog as a place to ask questions, but we cannot respond to everyone personally on this site. We have about 30,000 visitors to this site each month and a very small staff (there are only three of us who respond to comments), so it is impossible for us to get to every question.

We have posts about headcoverings in our archives. Here are the the links:

http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=716

http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=717

Also, it sounds like you might be wrestling with some larger issues. If the fact that you blog comment didn't receive the response that you wanted led you to believe that no one wants much to do with you any more, than it seems pretty clear to me that the Enemy has been lying to you about your worth. I want to strongly encourage you to seek out a wise Christian mentor to talk to about what you are feeling and ask her to pray for you. That's not a cop out on my end. There are simply some struggles that require us to seek out someone near us for more than one conversation. I can't help you identify the lies you are believing, replace them with God's Truth, pray with you and hold you accountable on this format.

Who can you talk to about how you are feeling?

Erin
andrea
erin
on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 at 3:53 pm
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hey, i know , i'm sorry. i have very much appreciated you godly women and this blog...but...i dunno... i often feel inferior to Christians who don't wear a head covering and i don't think i'm the only mennonite who does...a lot of people misunderstand us and seem to think we are a cult, but we're not; we try to obey all of the Bible...and so i dunno...im confused... that's why i don't want to wear an extra thing on my head...i just wish there wasn't such a gap between the protestants and the mennonites...after all, we are brothers and sisters in Christ...well, anyway thank you for taking the time to respond to me... love in Christ, andrea
Esther
Bible Camp
on Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 3:50 pm
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Off topic* But read. You might be interested. Almost every year i go to this Bible Camp. Its a different topic every year. What i like about this camp is that it is full of Christians ready to learn but there is also a fun part to it. You don't have to be a Christian. Ages are from 8-18. If you are 18 and up you can be a counselor. You can still be a Camper if you like too. Here is the Website. Check it out. The camp cost $425. You don't have to pay it all. You can pay 25, 50, 55, 80.What ever you have. This year i only paid a little. If you don't pay it all, you write a letter to the person who donated the money to you. They provide you with paper and pens. You get divided into age group cabins , so if you16, you wont be with 12 year olds, you'll be with 14,15, 16. Check out the Website. Tell your mom, your dad, your brothers and sisters. http://www.northeastfccamp.com/index.html


Youll be glad you came. The director of the camp is Gardner hall. This year on the 4th of July, i got baptized. The topic this year was love. I cant wait to find out about next year. There is also a camp just for girls, this august. The topic is, choose today whom you will serve. Aside from that, we are going to learn how to be faithful to our husbands in the future and how to cook and be holy women. You can contact Gardner Hall on the same website. Only Girls.
des
Jesus said he was God?
on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 9:33 am
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Jesus is either God or a liar or a lunatic! - This is incomplete. There is a 4th option. Jesus' followers could have said he was God. John's gospel was written as much as 60-90 years after Jesus died. It is the church's words not Jesus. When they said Jesus was divine they really believed it. The Jesus way of self-sacrifice is the true way and the early church expressed their devotion for Jesus in the words 'I am the way...' If I say my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world is that true? Yes for me but it is not universal truth. Jesus is the only way - for Christians. His way (the early church was called the way) is the true way and the only way but it is found elsewhere not just within Western evangelical faith!
des
Response to andrea re headcovering
on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 9:52 am
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Hi Andrea, your pastor is right that the word in Greek is a veil. The issue paul was dealing with was one of temple prostitutes! In Greek cities the Temples had prostitutes who would serve their god by sexual favours. these lasies were oftne bald or had short hair - hence Paul's sense of disgust at the thought of a woman having short hair! He argues that long hair is given to women to cover such shame but then goes on to argue that the woman is the glory of her husband - this is a cultural issue for him. The reasoning is - God's glory is shown by man, man's glory is shown bu woman therefore woman should cover her hair (glory) because it is showing off man's glory and not God's! This made good sense to Paul in his culture but makes no sense in ours because we don't have such thinking. Compare the OT law about if your house has mildew you should tear it down - we just scrub ours with mildew cleaner. If you want to cover your head by all means do so - but do it on the basis choice not theological reasons because quite frankly such theological reasoning does not make any sense in our modern culture. Another cultural quirk is that of women remaining silent - in Paul's day for a woman to speak in public to a man other than her husband was shocking (the modern equivalent would be to walk around topless) hence Paul advised be quiet. This was not universal even at that time because clearly some women were house church leaders - how could they lead a church while being silent? Paul applied the Gospel to each context - sometimes he obeys Jewish ceremonial laws other times he breaks them to make a point! - It is a shame that church leaders today can't apply the brains God gave them the way Paul applied his! The 'Bible says' can not be used to justify not bothering to research and think - it is lazy and an insult to God who handed our brains in the first place. Hope this helps