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Janine
DON'T BE CHEAP!
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 1:34 am
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Yes! Don't show off much of our body to any guy out there! Revealing and barely covering our sacred parts to anyone is being cheap! CHEAP = NOT MUCH DIGNITY. Be expensive and don't wear skimpy clothes and don't act like cheap girls out there! EXPENSIVE = HIGH DIGNITY AND SELF WORTH.
God paid a high price for you, so you're not cheap. And you shouldn't be.
Sam
thx! =)
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 1:52 am
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I believe that modesty is very important. . .and this encourages me, because sometimes I do feel like I stick out just because I don't want to dress that way. . .but this encourages me that other girls might wanna be modest too!! =) God bless!!
Brianna
clothing
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 7:53 am
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I often have a hard time with this. I love tank tops, but they are very immodest, and the Bible says to dress modestly. I've gotten rid of most of my tanks, and I often find that I feel much better wearing something modest.
The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
Re:
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 8:50 am
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I wear what I wear because it's hot outside. And I'd like to get an all over tan.
As for swimsuits, one pieces are for little girls and tankinis are irritating in the water.

I just hate that sticky feeling that you get when you're too hot, so I dress appropriately for the weather.
Katie Sarah
Convicting
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 9:26 am
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I LOVE this blog. Thanks so much for writing this, Bethany!

Even if we don't purposely wear bikinis to attract guys, it will happen anyway because that is how God made them. We must do our best to help them not to sin by dressing modestly. I hope this is eye-opening for a lot of girls and again, great post! Not a lot of people could have said it better, especially me! Thanks!
Melissa
Re:
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 11:06 am
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Wow, this is exactly what I needed. I'm on vacation and I've been thinking about my bathing suits and I've been feel pretty bad about it. I don't want all of these other men seeing me the way only my husband should see me. Especially my little brothers! This definitely tells me its time to cover up!
cesperbeck
Thanks for this timely post!
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 11:37 am
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Over the 4th of July weekend, I was celebrating with a big group of close family and friends, and there was a lot of pool and volleyball time. Four of these people were young girls sporting string bikinis without a second thought. I had a more conservative athletic tankini with board shorts -- you know, something you can actually SWIM in -- but felt totally prudish and left out. I even went as far as to think I was fugly in my husband's eyes because I wasn't in a cute little bikini.

This sounds so ridiculous in retrospect, but I really was presented with a serious choice then: do I just go out and look good with the other girls and wear the bikini I have on hand (used when no one's around), or preserve my modesty -- something God greatly cares about? My husband didn't care much either way; and even my mom said it wouldn't be a big deal, but if I was uncomfortable with it, then I shouldn't do it. I knew the bikini just wouldn't be right. The deal-breakers were the people who were there, the people who would see me. They included my parents, my teenage brothers, another young newly married couple, grandparents, a family I have great respect for (with four young kids), old friends, new friends, some strong Christians, some not. I did not want to lose their respect or be a source of temptation (by choice!). I love those little kids and wanted to set an example for them. I love my husband, and I am not going to put my body on display for all the other men of all ages. I love the Lord, so I made the choice to obey instead of giving in to subtle, stupid peer pressure. I still felt somewhat frumpy out in the pool, but looking back, I am insanely glad I made the right choice. I even got complemented on my "cute suit" by the very people I respected... and the question "why can't they make swimsuits with better top coverage?" was posed to me and a few others when a 12-year-old with ridiculous swimsuit cleavage thoughtlessly paraded around the area. If that made me angry, I can't imagine how the guys felt.

I thought to share this because other girls need to see that this is a real choice that we are faced with -- ignorance and nonchalance are inexcusable -- and it's not usually pleasant. But as Christians, we HAVE the choice to not sin! Why aren't we taking it seriously? Girls, cover up. Something is WRONG if your conscience isn't sharp in this area. Raise your standards, even if your Christian sisters and friends haven't. Urge them on in the right direction, too, and set a trend towards being different in your obedience to the Lord. It may not "feel" right; you probably don't even see the big deal because you've been wearing skimpy summer clothing (or lack thereof) since you were 10. But now you know what God is looking for. Save those bikinis for your future hubby; you'll be admired plenty then. Do something that honors and is valuable to Christ and is eternally worthwhile.
Caty
the oh so important subject of modesty
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 2:56 pm
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Bethany, this was a great post! Thanks for speaking out on the subject of modesty. Most girls don't like to hear it bc we know it is wrong but we want to be like everyone else around us. Our culture has become so comfortable with immodesty that we hardly notice it when people are walking around in practically nothing. I went to a popular theme park the other day with my church group and we were way over-dressed compared to most of the other guests there. It is sad that girls are selling themselves cheap by wearing sensual, 'barely-there' clothing. I pray that each girl who reads this will be challenged to re-think their standards of modesty. God Bless! <><
Cassie
:)
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 3:05 pm
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Thank you sooo much for posting this! I am from a big family myself, the 5 of 7 kids. I just got in an argument with my mom yesterday about the shorts I was gonna wear to cheerleading. (And as most people know, cheerleaders are famous for being immodest)....now I have a whole new outlook on modesty, and this really opened my eyes. Thanks! :D
Emily Ruth
Thank you!!
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 6:05 pm
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Bethany, thank you so much for this post! So often we let ourselves set lower standards. Thank you for the reminder that we need to set our own standards by the Bible and not let other people influence them. Even other Christians can set a bad example. Thanks again!
Samantha Alison Brown
Wow!
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 8:22 pm
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Wow... I was very much convicted by this blog post! It has never occurred to me that my clothes could be a stumbling block for the guys I encounter everyday! I am most diffidently going to go through my closet and be giving lots of "clothing" away! ;) Thanks so much! GB!!!
Heidi
Wow!
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 9:11 pm
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Sorry for being a little cliché, but you hit the nail on the head! :) I really really appreciate this article. Thank you so much for writing this, Bethany. It's true, you can be modest and fashionable. True, it might take more time, but the results are very rewarding.

Thanks again!
~Heidi
Meghan
Blazing Lies Quiz
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 9:14 pm
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I have a question. I took the Blazing Lies Quiz and I picked the second answer the majority of the time. How do I fix that? How do I battle things like fear, pride, doubts, etc?
MK
:)
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 10:17 pm
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I can relate to this. In the summer I usually use the fingertip rule especially if I know i'm going to be around guys, When I ask my dad if something is modest enough the answer is usually yes but then he jokes around by saying something like 'no, the only modest outfit you could ever wear would be a turtleneck and a long skirt to your ankles.' haha I try as best I can ;)
The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
Re:
on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 at 11:09 pm
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If we're going to be around guys who aren't Christian and don't care about lust, do we still have to try?

Will our future husband actually care? I doubt any normal man would mind that his wife wore a bikini to the lake when she was 16.

Whenever I try to talk to my mom, she just gets mad and won't give me a good answer. :/
Hannah
Re:
on Thursday, July 28, 2011 at 11:26 am
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If I was going to wear a bikini, it would be because I feel confident. when I wear a swimsuit though i wear boardshorts and a sports bra. I wear anything for myself, not to impress people or guys. but one thing that is hard is when tops are cute but they are just so low! I have a c cup so its sometimes harder for me to find clothes that will cover, it gets me frusterated. Another comment I have is that guys get to have their shirts off, and girls are attracted to that. So I have to cover up so much and guys dont have to, just cuz they dont have breasts.... double standard in my opinion.
Kaylah
Awesome post
on Thursday, July 28, 2011 at 4:20 pm
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This was so great!
Who do I have to contact if I want to feature this article in my newsletter? Thanks.
aftergodsown<3
Re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Thursday, July 28, 2011 at 5:08 pm
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I would seriously encourage you to look at your heart and ask yourself whether your reasons for wearing what you wear are selfish or God-honoring; this is something I struggle with a lot. It's easy to justify skimpy clothing in the GA heat, but God would have us take a different path.
Brenda
for The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Thursday, July 28, 2011 at 11:25 pm
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You said in your earlier comment that you wondered if your future husband would care if you walked around revealing yourself to other men/guys. I believe that he would care! Its sort of like me saying, I dont want a husband that has had sex with every women he's met! Not to the same extent, but If your future husband has any standard of purity, He wont want a wife that every other guy has seen! And I wouldn't want a guy that has been with other girls either, because then I as his wife would be just like "another female" to him instead of "The Only female, My Wife!" Does that make sense to you? I also believe that How we act is what we will attract! If we walk around showing off our bodies, we will probably get a guy that doesnt care about any level of purity. But if we present ourselves modestly, we will attract a guy with higher standards who appriciates our modesty and most likely is pure!! If you want a guy who only wants you and hasnt been with other girls, raise your standard! I believe it will be worth it, and it will make our future marriages so much more special!~**
Brenda
for cesperbeck
on Thursday, July 28, 2011 at 11:33 pm
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Thanks so much for taking courage and not giving in to the family peer pressure! Its hard, and i think i might understand what you were feeling a little bit! I was with my brother and my sister at a swimming pool and I decided to wear a t-shirt over my bathing suit, because even though my bathing suit is one piece, I still dont like how tight/revealing it is of my figure. I didnt want to cause my brother to stumble or to lust. Not necessarily after me, but he could always just remember my body. I just didnt want to hurt him at all! And my mom kept telling me how a t-shirt wasnt necessary! I did feel better afterward for taking my stand on what i felt was necessary! And i think it is a tremendous witness and example when we stand up and are different! Its gives people something to think about something to maybe consider for themselves!! Thanks for taking a stand!!! =)
Shining Star
Want pretty, MODEST swimsuits?
on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 11:55 am
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Hi sisters! I have found a great place to find comfortable, modest, and stylish swimsuits. The company is swim modest, if you do a google search it should come up. I was so glad when my friend told me about it! Our bodies are temples of a holy God- let's keep them covered!
Jenni
savedbigrace
on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 12:40 pm
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This is really encouraging, because my brother has been telling my to GET RID OF THOSE TINY SHORTS!!! And I really didnt care 'cause lots of my Christian friends wear that but now I feel like I'm honoring God more with my body.....Thank God for BROTHERS!!!
Julia
Re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 12:59 pm
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Hi! I agree with aftergod'sown<3, and I wanted to quick address the first part of your question, where you asked if you should still dress modestly around non-Christian guys. My answer would be a big YES! They are precious in God's sight, too, and dressing modestly can help them be less likely to lust. You don't want ANY guys at all lusting after you, right? You're worth more than that! =)
I hope that helps!
Your sister in Christ,
Julia
Lydia
Thanks!
on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 1:11 pm
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Thanks, Bethany, a good post. So many of us forget that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit... But I want to encourage you girls to remember that while modesty is crucial, God has equipped all of us with a unique beauty, and we aren't suppsed to hide that... So you don't have to wear a potato sack to the pool! While many Christians stress the side of "modestymodestymodesty!" I'm afraid that they sometimes go too far. It's my belief that we should be modest, but feminine--wearing clothing that accent our beauty without showing off our bodies. The "modest" line is different for everyone, but a good way to check is by asking your dad/brothers. We don't realize how visual guys are, and we need to be encouraging our brothers in Christ, not tearing them down.
God bless <3
Miss M
Hannah
on Friday, July 29, 2011 at 10:04 pm
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I agree with Hannah. Most Christians agree that girls need to cover up, but never say ANYTHING about modesty for men. It is SO distracting for me when I'm swimming or elsewhere and a guy with good muscles has his shirt off. It gives me a sample of what guys feel about immodest girls. It takes a lot of will power to look at something else besides his chest. Guys, (if there's any reading this) have heart and where a rash guard or something? Please? its most disturbing and annoying when I view you that way. Thanks. :)
Erin Davis
Kaylah
on Saturday, July 30, 2011 at 9:44 am
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I checked with the post's article, Bethany Baird and she granted you permission to re-post this material in your newsletter.

Thanks!

Erin Davis
Shannon
this is just what I needed today!
on Saturday, July 30, 2011 at 11:33 am
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Thank you so much for writing that little article about modesty and clothes. You're very right, even some of my Christian friends wear bikinis, super tight shorts, and other clothes that aren't right. I personally have had some trouble with modesty as well. Just the other day my mom and I were shopping and I really wanted to buy this sundress. My mom wouldn't let me and now that I realize it, I'm glad she didn't let me buy it. Thanks for taking the time to post that article!

Shannon
Kaylah
Thanks so much!
on Saturday, July 30, 2011 at 3:57 pm
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Alright! Thanks again!
The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
Re:
on Saturday, July 30, 2011 at 7:41 pm
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@Brenda,
I admire your high standards. But there's a big difference between hooking up with every guy on the street and wearing a bikini. I think a person is a lot more than what they wear or who they've been with.

@Julia,
Let's be honest. Who doesn't enjoy being checked out or complimented? It boosts your ego, nothing wrong with that. But you're right, I don't like being treated like a thing. It feels gross.
susan
the_good_miss_lollipop
on Sunday, July 31, 2011 at 10:17 pm
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hooking up with guys, and wearing a bikini sound like two different things. but by wearing a bikini, guys will lust after you, therefore hooking up with you in their hearts. it is adultery whether you actually hook up, or act it out in your mind. but I do agree with you that a person is more than what they wear, or who've they've been with.
Brenda
@ The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Sunday, July 31, 2011 at 10:39 pm
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I guess what i meant is, most guys if they're honest, dont want to spend their wedding night and the rest of they're lives with a girl that has been seen in a bikini by many other men! I know if i was a guy and even as a girl, i dont want to marry someone who's body has been viewed by many others! I would prefer, that he saved himself for me! And we could flip that to the guys perspective, in him wanting a girl that only he can/has seen! Sorry for the maybe confusion! of my earlier post!
Elena
Re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Monday, August 1, 2011 at 8:45 am
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Dear The_Good_Miss_Lollipop,

When we decide to follow God, we will always be called to higher commitments than non-believers. I think one thing that needs to be specified here is that, while dressing modestly to preserve yourself for your future husband is important, our first priority is God. Everything we do should honor God, and when we live to honor him we will be honoring our future husbands. That means that God is the first person we are trying to please, and as a result of following him we will be blessed. So, yes, look at yourself in the mirror and say would this outfit honor my future husband? But, even more importantly will this outfit honor God? Will these clothes declare to other Christians and non-believers that I honor my purity? Now, I know that I sometimes fall short, not wearing immodest clothing, but wearing things that might cross the line a tad bit. It is hard to find modest clothing these days, but with God's help it is not impossible. Also, your best friend is the cami...... I live in Florida, and it is HOT here. So I do know that the heat can be insufferable. But it is not hard to wear a t-shirt and some not-too-short shorts. I hope this helps. Because in the end it is not about if your husband will care if you wore a bikini at 16, it is if God cares.

Much Love,
Elena
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: Meghan
on Monday, August 1, 2011 at 4:16 pm
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The only way we can fight the lies of the enemy are with the truths found in God’s Word. You must make a choice to not dwell on the lie, but instead to dwell on the truth that God says. It will require you to spend time reading the Bible, Meghan, and asking the Lord to reveal the lies that you believe. God’s Word has the power to free you from the bondage of the enemy and to free you to be the one God created – His precious daughter.

If you haven’t read the book Lies Young Women Believe, we encourage you to get it and to read it. Many of the lies we have bought into are exposed and the truths to believe are shared in a way that helps us to walk in the freedom that God wants us to. Praying for you, friend!

Serving Him,
Lorree
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Tuesday, August 2, 2011 at 11:20 am
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What matters most is our heart before the Lord. We need to honor God with our heart, our souls, and our bodies. We need to seek to please the Lord rather than pleasing man. We should care about all men in the same way – whether they are believers or not. By dressing modestly, we are not causing others to stumble. We are putting their needs before our own. If you can, I encourage you to humbly ask your dad for his thoughts about what a young man sees and thinks when he sees a young woman in a bikini. God created guys and girls so very differently. We need to be concerned about the men in our lives and seek to help them to keep their hearts and minds pure. Dressing modestly is a very considerate way to do this. You might also humbly ask your mom what she thinks about how girls should dress on the beach. She may have some real wisdom to share with you. But you need to make sure you are going to her in humility and are open to what she has to share. Would it be possible for you to approach her in this attitude and not try to be defensive about the bikini you are choosing to wear?

When the Lord brings a husband into your life, he will be honored that you have done all you can to remain pure for him – pure in your body, in your mind and pure in your heart before the Lord. Praying for you, friend!

Serving Him,
Lorree
anon
Re: Brenda & The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Tuesday, August 2, 2011 at 4:12 pm
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Brenda - Wow. That is ignorant to say most guys don't want women who've worn a bikini in front of other men. I get that bikinis aren't modest but I do not know one guy who, if he loved someone and she was a really good Christian woman, would say, "You know, I love you and you're the most amazing woman I've ever met, but I can't marry you because you wore a bikini in front of some guys ten years ago." I hope you realize that is completely ridiculous. I also hope you realize that there are married people whom go to the pool or the beach with the wife wearing a bikini and the husband DOESN'T CARE. It's not like she's having sex with other guys. And everyone makes mistakes. That'd be like saying to your boyfriend, "You know, you are such a godly man but because when you were 17 and unsaved you snuck into a strip club, I can't marry you." That's horrible! Jesus forgives, and He commands us to, as well. And I'd say especially for the things someone did before they were a really serious Christian because before that, they weren't enlightened and just purposely disobeying, you know?

What if God had it planned for a man to marry an amazing Christian woman. Both people were 27. She was whom he was supposed to marry. And he knew it. But she wore a bikini when she was 12 so he decided to disobey God and not marry her. Because of something she WORE that was immodest way before she even knew him. See how ridiculous - and WRONG - that is?

If guys don't want to marry girls who have just worn a bikini - that's all, we're not even saying has had sex; let's say she's a virgin and it's just that guys have seen her in a bikini - then PLEASE explain to me how there are any married couples at all. Because I know for a fact there are women who wore bikinis in their teen years before they were saved, but don't anymore because they ARE saved now. And they are married now, too. Your past is your past which Jesus erases for you when you get saved. You cannot deny that truth.

I'm sorry if I sounded like a jerk in any part of this but COME ON. You've probably gotten some girls who have worn a bikini in the past worried half to death now that they'll never get married. I don't believe what you said, though, so I am not concerned there. (I've worn a bikini before but I don't anymore, and I'm a teenager.) I agree with you when you say that we shouldn't wear bikinis; I'm not fighting you there. There are many valid reasons not to wear bikinis. However, your reason about our future husbands is false. What upset me so much is what you said about guys not wanting to marry women who have worn bikinis. That is not true (at least for *nearly* all the guys on the planet, I'd say) and is why I am even replying.

The_Good_Miss_Lollipop - sweetie, please don't get worried by anything that has been said to you about guys not wanting to marry you because you've worn a bikini! That is so false. I agree completely with you, I highly doubt our future husbands will care if we wore a bikini in the past. However, the reason we shouldn't wear bikinis is because they are immodest and may cause guys to start thinking sexually impure thoughts while looking at us. I know I read something someone said to you about, once you are married, just looking lustfully at someone other than your spouse is committing adultery (in your heart, anyway). That part is true, the Bible says that. We wouldn't want to cause a man to commit adultery in his heart because we were wearing a bikini, now would we? The man we will one day marry has nothing to do with what swimsuit we choose. It's the immodesty and being a stumbling block to others that are the concerns. :) With love. <33
The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
Re:
on Wednesday, August 3, 2011 at 4:42 pm
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@anon,
Thanks for the encouragement! You have a great way of giving advice. :D

One more question: Why are boys allowed to go shirtless if we're not?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
on Thursday, August 4, 2011 at 2:11 pm
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We will all be accountable before the Lord for the things we have said and done in the body whether good or bad (Rom. 14:12; 2 Cor. 5:10). We need to put the needs of others before our own desires, just as Christ did (Phil.2:3-4). The effect of a man appearing without a shirt on in comparison to the effect of a woman appearing without her shirt on is significantly different. In either case, we should be modest because we represent Christ to the world even in the way we dress. I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord to search your heart and guide you in how you should dress. Praying for you, friend!!!
Brenda
@Anon
on Sunday, August 7, 2011 at 10:11 pm
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Anon,
I'm sorry if i offended you by what I said! I agree totally with you on how Christ forgives us of EVERYTHING in our past and that now we are clean and new. And I wasnt trying to scare girls about never getting married because they wore a bikini before or still do. What I was trying to bring across was the fact that in the Bible its says that we arent supposed to even hint a impurity. And i can only imagine that girls immodestly dressed and/or wearing a bikini causes men of every age to remember/think/lust about the girl. And if I personally was a guy I would want a girl that had saved her all for me! Of course many of us have made mistakes, but we can go on forward from here saving ourselves for our future husband!! And dont get me wrong, I did NOT mean to say that if you have worn a bikini infront of men that you will never be able to get married. But i guess my standard of purity has me saving my all for my future husband. And I'm EXCITED about saving myself!!! :) I hope that cleared things up a little bit!!
anon
Re: The_Good_Miss_Lollipop & Brenda
on Monday, August 8, 2011 at 2:34 pm
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The_Good_Miss_Lollipop - Aw, thanks! And you are very welcome! :)

Hmm... Good question. I'd say it's because we have breasts which are sexual, whereas guys have chests which aren't? Well, your milage may vary on that, but for me personally a guy's chest is not something I find sexual. Then again, even though I'm 14, I haven't reached the point where I have lustful thoughts about guys, all I think physical-wise is like if they're cute, so maybe it really is just me. But I must be at least kinda right because, as Lorree said, the effect of a guy appearing without a shirt on is significantly different from that of a girl appearing without her shirt on.

Hope I maybe helped at least a little? Haha. :) <3

Brenda - No worries, it's cool. :) I agree, as the Bible says, we are not supposed to even hint at impurity. I'm glad you cleared up what you meant, thank you. :) And I'm glad you are excited about saving yourself for  your future husband! I'm excited about saving myself for my future husband, too. :) <3
The_Good_Miss_Lollipop
Re:
on Tuesday, August 9, 2011 at 11:54 pm
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Women can lust too, and ripped dudes without their shirts on are sexy. So if they inspire us to lust and therefore stumble, shouldn't they wear shirts too?

The only reason a woman without her shirt is so shocking is because it's cultural. Girls run around naked in the Amazon all the time, and the men don't even seem to notice.
Jen
Re:
on Wednesday, August 10, 2011 at 12:04 pm
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Great post. I wish that it got better as you get older, but I am 29, married with a 4 month old baby boy, and I am still fighting for modesty. When I was pregnant and now that I'm breastfeeding my baby, it is really really hard to find modest clothing. I am often appalled at the clothing that other women in our church are wearing to worship on Sundays. These women are my age or older, and should know better. Until our mothers, grandmothers, pastor's wives, Sunday school teachers, worship leaders and youth leaders start dressing modestly and appropriately for worship, we should not be surprised when our teenagers and young women dress immodestly. They are just following the example set by their leaders and role models, and unfortunately there are fewer and fewer women willing to set the standard for Christian modesty.

I am so thankful that my mother lives close by, owns a sewing machine and is willing to help me alter clothing to protect my modesty. I often wear tissue weight shirts under clothing that is "in fashion" so that I can still wear it and be modest, or I sew in panels on tops that are cute but too low-cut. I had a really difficult time finding a modest swimsuit while pregnant, and ended up buying one and cutting up an old swimsuit to piece in and cover up all the cleavage I would have been showing!

Unfortunately the fashion industry is what it is, and unless many of us begin demanding more modest, fashionable clothing, they will continue to produce what they consider to be eye-catching and appealing.
Alisha Brys
Re: The Good Miss Lollipop and Jen
on Wednesday, August 10, 2011 at 10:29 pm
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I agree, I don't see why guys are alllowed to go without shirts! I know that I find it attractive and it is wrong! and if anyones looking for modest swimsuits, check out Swimmodest.

Jen: I totally understand( I am 19 though) It si sooo hard to find modest clothing! Thats why I sew my own clothes, and for sometime now I have felt like God wants me to sew modest clothes for other teens. Could you all pray for me on this? I'm not sure where to start :(
Rachel Johnson
Seek to please Christ in how you dress!
on Thursday, August 11, 2011 at 11:39 pm
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My heart is grieved when I look around and see all the girls, young women and adults selling their bodies to fulfill the lust of the flesh. Many of them don't even realize they're doing it.

I know some who dress modestly for the most part but when it comes to swimwear or even their wedding day, they dress like the world. If it's something we know the Lord wouldn't want us to wear normally why would we wear it at all?? Where are the exceptions?

The clothing I wear should honor Christ. Whether it is in normal day to day life, at the beach or on my wedding day. So many young ladies desire to "save themselves for their husbands" yet when they wear revealing clothing they are giving part of themselves away to anyone who might look at them.

What about if Jesus was coming to the beach with us, or even just coming to spend the day with us? Would we still be comfortable wearing what we normally do, or would we get something else to wear? Something more "appropriate." Should that even make a difference? He already knows everything about you. Knows what clothes you wear (and why you wear them)... shouldn't we be dressing to please HIM?

Guys especially struggle to keep their thoughts pure. Let's make it our goal to make life easier for them, not harder! When we dress to please the Lord, we also make it easier for men to keep their thoughts pure! This blog post and short video are an excellent reminder of this... http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=718

1 Thessalonians 4 has some great instruction on this subject. Verses 1 and 6 specifically stick out to me. "Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please GOD, so ye would abound more and more... ...That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter..."

Am I truly seeking to please the Lord by what I wear or am I trying to please myself and get the attention I desire? I am reminded of a convicting verse in James 4:17 - "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin."
C
Re:
on Thursday, August 18, 2011 at 10:30 am
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When I do wear a bikini to the beach I stay at the beach. It's not like I'm romping along the streets in it. And when I do leave the beach I put a cover-up on. I think it's more practical, because it gets hot in the summer. And I don't wear it because I want guys to lust after me.
Chloe
Wow.....
on Friday, August 19, 2011 at 1:12 am
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So I realize that I'm about two months late on reading this, but I decided to comment anyways. Now that the summer is over, I haven't been swimming a lot lately and our school has a limit on how short your shorts can be. But during the summer I wore my bikini and short shorts almost all of the time. The only time that I didn't wear my bikini when I was swimming was when it was a youth swim party. The girls have to wear a shirt over their swimming suits. As I was reading through these questions, I realized that there is no real, honest answer. All of the answers that I do have are just excuses, and I'm sure that if most of us were being honest, we'd agree that there is no real reason. Some of us have better excuses then others, but they're still all excuses.
C
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on Friday, August 19, 2011 at 10:30 am
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You guys are right. I just recently came to conclusion when pictures were up on facebook of me and my friends in our bikinis. I untagged myself (removed so no one could see it). And I thought, if I wouldn't want my church friends to see it on facebook why would I wear it? And another thing; if I wouldn't wear it to church, why would I wear it at all?
me
omgs
on Saturday, September 3, 2011 at 9:38 am
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Omgs i am sooo angery with my mom she is SO picky about what i ware! Resesnly we were going to a church gathering out side it wasnt formal or anything just were a bunch of people talk and mess around.Most of the girls ware name brand clothing(wich i dont have) or tank-tops---LOW tanktops and those are the popular girls (and im not).So i wanted to fit in for once and ware a tank-top.But i made sher it was modest i wore a very high sports bra and a high up camisaw.But when i showed it to my mom she said it was sleasy because my shoulders were showing! i mean come on! Who cares that my shoulders are showing! So she gave me a really hard time about it but finally let me were it.Then im joining a church club and they give you a HUGE shirt that they give you the option of wareing,but my mom resently got swichted to my club 2 be a leader UHHHHHH!!!! And she is forcing me to ware that shirt that most the girls in that club dont even ware. And she said she was easy on me with the tank-top (which she SO was not). So i have to ware this oversized nerdy shirt to the club ware i can be even more less likely to have any friends, not to menchon my mom breathing down my neck every two seconds!?! Well sorry mom but i AM going to make this hard for YOU!!!!! Please give me some advice to convince my mom that its ok to look like most the people around me. Love, me.
Alisha Brys
Re: me
on Sunday, September 11, 2011 at 11:48 am
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I sorry you feel that way :( If you really are a christian, you would trust your mothers judgement. I'm sure God knew what he was doing when he made her your mother! Being modest is very important, especially since he said so in the Bible! Wearing a cami is the same as wearing lingere! And being popular isn't important :) Its better to be light for God than like everyone else.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
omg
on Monday, September 12, 2011 at 2:42 pm
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Me…

Have you re-read your post? I don’t think you are going to convince your mom of anything with your attitude. And it is not ok to look like most of the people around you if they are wearing tank tops that your mother doesn’t approve of.

I would encourage you to work on your attitude toward your mom. I was surprised at your statement “Well sorry mom but i AM going to make this hard for YOU!!!!!” I know you are upset because you want to “look” like everyone else, but to really feel like you are going to make it hard for your mom to be around, to make it hard for her to guide you in modesty and purity?? Think about that. Be grateful she is involved in your life and in your church and that she cares about you. She doesn’t make up rules for dress, she longs to guide you until you make mature choices. God honors your obedience to His commands: "Honor your father and mother" and "children obey your parents." Get your relationships right and your dress will fall into place.

By the way, Your clothes don’t make you friends or cause you to fit in. Your clothes advertise your character. God thinks too much of you to make you look like everyone else. Make wise choices in every area. Your life will change and you will enjoy activities much more.

God bless you.
me
re:Sarah
on Monday, September 19, 2011 at 9:57 pm
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I understand that its important to be modest and all, and im sorry i sounded like an idiot.I just feel like nobody likes me, and i guess im being selfish with the idea of wanting to fit in.But isnt that are instinct? i dont understand why the girls at my church dont like me,am i too fat?im twelve and wheigh like 90 somthing lbs! ive tried to talk with them but they just end up laughing and snickering about me. My guestion is WHY? why am i the one who cant afford nice clothing?why am i the outcast? why am i fat and ugly? why did God put me with a family thats falling apart? so many questions and no answers. Im sorry and ask you to forgive me for my bad attitude. love, me
Alisha
Re:me
on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 at 9:53 pm
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Don't ever think no-one likes you :) You said that your twelve, and thats a tough time for girls. We tend to feel unliked, fat, and that the whole worlds against us! Perhaps instead of trying to make friends with the so-called "popular girls" try making friends with the other girls, the nice ones :) And I'm sorry things are going bad in your family :( I'll keep you in my prayers. P.S. your weight is normal for a girl your age. :)