Thoughts On Suicide From One Of Its Victims

posted by Erin Davis on 09/13/11 | Twitter: @ErinGraffiti
Category: Myself; ; 40 comments

In yesterday's post, eighteen-year-old senior, Will Jaggers opened up about the impact of his father's suicide, fifteen years ago. Check out the second half of his interview here. (Note: Pay close attention to where Will finds hope.)

Erin: What would you say to one of our readers who is considering suicide as a way to escape their circumstances?sad young man

Will: Your emotions and your circumstances will change. That is just how life is. However, if you choose to kill yourself, that is permanent and you can't get a do-over. You can't take it back. Others do care. Suicide should not be an option. It is a horrible thing. Being a victim of suicide, I want you to think about others around you and how much it will hurt them. However, if you are just thinking about you ... if you don't know Jesus and you kill yourself, you are definitely going to hell. It is a real place, and there is no escape from the eternal torment you would face. You will not find relief.

If you believe you are a Christian, and you believe you can still go to heaven even if you kill yourself (and I am not going to argue this one here), then you have to agree you are at the very least giving up some of the rewards you would have in heaven. You are missing things God has planned for you. He has GOOD things planned for you. He really does.  He can and does bring good from awful, hard situations. I am living proof of that. So is my family.

Erin: Where do you find hope?

Will: JESUS, prayer, the Word, other believers ... especially my dad, Deron Jaggers. He married my mom and adopted me and my little brother. He is the greatest man I have ever known. He chose to love me. He is a good friend to me. The cool thing is he loves God more than he loves us, and that helps me know he will always love us, too. He has always encouraged me to stay close to God and depend on Him more than anything. He has been through some hard things of his own, and I have seen God be his peace.  

Erin: Specifically, who has helped you as you work through the pain of losing your father?

Will: My dad (Deron) ... and I have to say my mom and God. My mom kept making me talk and sometimes when I didn't want to. The Enemy is the father of all lies, and he loves to try to get us to believe some garbage. When you talk about things and bring them out in the light, it helps you see the lies for what they are—lies.  God says in His Word that we are to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Cor. 10:5). I try to compare my thoughts against God's truth. This helps me with lots of things in life and gives me hope.

Erin: What steps would you encourage our readers to take who are struggling and don't know where to turn for help?

Will: Tell someone! Tell your pastor, a friend, your parents, call a suicide prevention hotline. Don't sit there and be a lone ranger. The devil loves a lone ranger. Go where you can hear some truth. Pick up your Bible. God loves you so much. You have so much to live for. Run to Jesus. Run to a real relationship with Him. God says His plans for you are exceedingly, abundantly more than you can ask or imagine. You will get past this. Tell someone!

Comments

HEY, GIRLS! We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. For one thing, we’re not trained counselors. If you’re seeking counsel, we encourage you to talk to your pastor or a godly woman in your life as they’ll know more details and can provide you with ongoing accountability and help. Also, the following comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Revive Our Hearts. We reserve the right to remove comments which might be unhelpful, unsuitable, or inappropriate.

    Bethany
    Thanks!
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 6:39 am
    Thank you, Will, for your willingness to be open with us here on LYWB. May God continue to use you and your testimony in the lives of many.
    Christine
    Great Advice
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 7:57 am
    Great advice, Will! I don't think anyone could have said it better! You're an amazing man of God!
    Rebecca
    Re:
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 8:36 am
    That's really amazing! I'm so glad Will has Deron who is a great example to him. This is an amazing story in how Devil plans for evil but God turns it into good. :)
    I have a question, I've seen and heard about suicide prevention hotlines, but what do they really do? I remember when I was in that place I thought about calling but I kind of thought it was pointless. So if anyone actually knows what they do that would be kind of cool to know.
    Gods Jewel
    Great Post
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 9:08 am
    I've never had thoughts of suicide, but a friend did. Please don't ever think of that...you never will know how many peole will miss you, and beliieve there will be people who will miss you. Tell anyone, even your nest friend, who can go tell a pastor of your parents..
    Lauren
    thank you
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 9:39 am
    First of all I want to thank Will for sharing with us your experience. This truly is a topic that needs to be addressed in today's society. I must agree that suicide does suck in all honesty. I am 17 and know at least 4 people who have considered/attempted suicide. It is soo easy to get depressed I have been there myself and it too is awful. Second, thank you LYWB for doing this article. you are such blessings
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    Hotline
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 10:37 am
    Rebecca…
    When you call the suicide hotline, there is a trained person on the other end of the line that talks to you and helps you sort through the situation. They offer other support resources also.
    Ashley-mist
    Thank you
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 12:28 pm
    Thank you for doing this post Will. It is really moving to hear someone on the other side tell there story and how it had a inpact on them. And being a '"lone ranger" is so true. You want to keep the thoughts to yourself in fear of what others may think, but in truth the most help i have is turning to the Lord in prayer.
    I was doing something somewhat not good for my body and when i finally told my mom it did feel good to know someone is watching you. But its not very easy to tell someone you love what your doing. It would be so nice to just hitt rewind and go back and never do it in the first place. But you just can't. Even if you think no one cares... there is always someone that loves you all the more, God!
    I really learned that the hard way and i'm still tryin to get myself out of the pitt i dug. I just pray that whoever is starting down a path that is not good, please turn back now and run for the Lord!
    Kaylee
    Re:
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 3:09 pm
    I've never really had thoughts about killing myself but... I just wanna go home! I wanna be with Jesus and my mom, and she's been with Jesus since I was 4 years old, and I'm 13 now. My mom was killed in a car accident when I was 4 and I feel like a big part of me is missing! I have 2 brothers n no sisters so I feel more alone then ever. I feel so lost and alone and confused and I don't think Jesus can ever make me better. My bible school teacher said it's not wrong for me to wanna be with Jesus but He's with me right now. She said I need to concentrate on that but how can I? idk I'm just really confused about this but I know Jesus loves me!
    Heidi
    Re:
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 4:34 pm
    Thanks again, Will for doing this. I love your passion for God and for getting the TRUTH out there. You can help so many people. God bless you!
    Heidi
    Rebecca
    Re:
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 5:05 pm
    Ohhh okay. That's cool. I always wondered what they did. Thanks!
    Vicky
    "accident"
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 5:32 pm
    My friend got accidently pregnant and she doesnt know if she should do aboard or not.she said if she will then she will probably commit suicide because she doesnt wanna kill the baby but she doesnt think shes ready to be a single parent.
    Meg
    kaylee & vicky
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 7:01 pm
    kaylee- keep praying! God has a plan for you and He will definitely help you through this! take a look at Isaiah 46:4, where God promises to sustain us. love you!

    vicky- has your friend considered adoption? and also i would encourage her to get guidance from someone. being a single teenage parent is no easy burden to bear by yourself! but her life is precious. if she trusts God, He will help her get through.
    Starlene
    Re: "accident"
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 7:36 pm
    I definately recommend adoption, my friend had an abortion and it has weighed so much on her mind. her abortion came from thoughts of not being to cope with raising a rape baby but she says if she could do it over, its a child that God loved. Adoption could let the child live and become everything God wants and plans for his/her life without the biological mother feeling like she can't do it or becoming helpless. It is hard raising children as a single parent. My mum was a single parent for a long time. I'll keep her in my prayers, as well as you to help her make the right decisions..she needs friends at this time.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Kaylee
    on Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 7:57 pm
    Dear Kaylee,


    Oh, precious Kaylee; I’m so sorry you lost your mom. I can’t even imagine the pain you have known as a result of her death. Jesus heart too grieves for your loss, Kaylee. He mourns with you and understands your pain. He is filled with compassion for those who are grieving the loss of precious loved ones (Luke 7:13).

    He created the world good and perfect; a place of beauty, saturated with His presence. He created humans to enjoy the blessing of His presence and His creation, but man chose to turn away from God’s plan. And as a result of sin, death came into God’s perfect creation. Death came then as a consequence of sin…and was never God’s perfect plan.

    But God is the process of redeeming all things, Kaylee. He does indeed love you beyond anything you could ever imagine. “I will not forget you! See I have engraved you on the palms of My hands (Is. 49:16).”

    Kaylee, Jesus love for you exceeds anything you could ever imagine. His love for you in unquenchable. “Many waters cannot quench love, nor can the floods drown it out (Song of Songs 8:7).

    In the midst of your pain and brokenness Jesus wants to heal your broken heart; to comfort you and to give you the oil of gladness instead of mourning (Is. 61:1-3). That’s why He came to earth, Kaylee. To bring hope and healing to that which is so desperately broken as a result of sin.
    Cry out to Him tonight, Kaylee! Tell Him how you feel… pour out your heart to Him. He is right there to comfort you. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
    Kaylee, is there someone you can talk to about how your feeling? Maybe your dad, a youth pastor, or an older godly woman?

    There is hope, my friend! Praying for you tonight. Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning ( Psalm 30:5).


    Grace and peace,
    Carrie
    Vicky
    Re;Re 'accident'
    on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 at 2:23 pm
    thank you Starlene!! That helped me alot, and hopefully it will help her too! and if she needs help with the baby, im pretty sure her mom or even me can help! :D
    Live_Laugh_Love
    Your never alone
    on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 at 4:29 pm
    I just wanted to tell you girls that you are never alone!!!!!!!!!..if you feel like you going through somthing and no one can hear you cry out and that the only thing left is harming your self DONT!!!!!!!!!!!! Jesus is always here! always was and always will be no matter what the problem is!...and im NOT saying this because i think im a pro or im perfect!!!!!! NO NO NO!..im saying this because i was the girl who thought she was all alone and that i thought the only answer was to harm my self:(...but i want to let you know what you are never ever ever EVER alone Jesus will be there right beside you when all of your friends have left you or the ones who said they loved you...you are never alone....your not the only person in the world who goes through that kinda stuff.....girls all over the world go through the same stuff you do everyday!...JESUS LOVES YOU AND IS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU..next time you feel down..just look up<3
    Nicky
    don't let satan in
    on Sunday, September 25, 2011 at 2:56 pm
    when people consider taking their own lives because they can't control certain circumstances, before I was a Christian, I would have said: Why can't they fix it? Why are they scared to fight back? But now I realized that suicide is the devil's idea. Lean on God in your hardships.
    Robyn
    I tried to kill myself..
    on Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 9:42 am
    I tried on saturday night to kill myself by swallowing 20 pills...thankfully it didn't work and I'm still here. But they made me so sick, and I threw up all sunday. I still don't feel good...like right now I'm so nauseous. I can't tell anyone..I can't tell my parents cause they are the reason I did it in the first place. And I can't tell my best friend because I don't want her to hate me.. I don't know what to do right now.. I realize that what I did was so stupid, and I realized while I was in the bathroom throwing up that I really do want to live. I don't want to die...and now I'm scared that I might still die.
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    Robyn
    on Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 12:36 pm
    Robyn…
    I am so sorry for the despair you have felt over the last few days. We too are so grateful the Lord has given you life and He has given you aid in the dark moments of despair. Robyn, you need to talk with a trusted adult to give you help in these days—today. Do you have a pastor or youth leader that could help you? An aunt or uncle that are close to you?

    In these moments while you are afraid, I encourage you to look to God and draw on His strength. The Scriptures tell us that God is a refuge, a dwelling place, a place where we can put our thoughts and rely on Him…and then it says underneath are the everlasting arms…that means that He will hold you and carry you. He will not let go. He has you in His care. (Deut. 33:27)

    If you have no one there you feel you can talk to, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255). There you will find trained counselors that will talk you through all that is going on and give you a place to find help--today.

    We care; we are praying even right now that God will carry you though and give you direction for help and guidance…and a place to know you are loved deeply and cared for. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to love you from afar and pray for God’s grace to shower you and give you peace. Let us know how God works.
    Danielle
    Longing for Home
    on Sunday, October 9, 2011 at 12:18 am
    I have thought about suicide a lot. My parents both know how I feel and I have spoken to at least three different councelors. I have never killed myself. I consider myself to have a really strong faith, and I have a lot of head knowledge. I love God so much and I want to do His will, but I am so tired of fighting for my life.

    Besides a lot of physical pain, I also have a mental disability that I have had when I was born. On top of that, I have a very aching and wounded heart.

    I have grown up in a Christian family and was saved when I was 5, and I know God has a plan and purpose for me, but I just want to go home.

    I just bought your book today and am only on part two. I know there are so many lies that I am letting Satan tell me, but I don't know what the point is any more. I love My Beloved so much! Why can't I just go home to be with Him?! I am so tired of hurting every day (physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually) and can't even imagine living more than another year.

    I just needed a place to vent really badly. I honestly don't know why I took your book home, but I did, and hear I am, being selfish and whinning, when my life hasn't been half as hard as a lot of people's.

    Thank you so much for all your love and care for people and the next generation.

    Heaven bound, Bride of Christ,

    Danielle (God is my judge) Renee (Joy)
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Longing for Home
    on Tuesday, October 11, 2011 at 3:41 pm
    Danielle,

    My heart thrills to know your love for Jesus and your hearts longing to be with Him forever! He has placed that desire in your heart, dear friend. But it is a desire that He will bring to completion in His perfect timing. Your days are numbered, Danielle. God placed you at this point in HIStory for His purposes in His plan for redemption. He has works ordained for you from before the foundation of the earth was laid (Eph. 1:4; 2:10). Your life is not your own…it is His. He wants to bring glory to Himself through your life! He’s weaving into the fabric of your life a message of hope that He wants to bring to others, Danielle. To others who are suffering and struggling in similar situations.

    Oh, my friend, I hurt for your suffering and the pain that is yours each day. But you must remember that you are not alone in that pain. Isaiah 63:9 says Jesus is right there with you each step of the way.

    “In all their suffering He also suffered, and He personally rescued them. In His love and mercy He redeemed them. He lifted them up and carried them through all the years (Isaiah 63:9). NLT”
    Jesus knows you are weary; he knows your areas of weakness and He promises to show Himself strong on your behalf (2 Chronicles 16:9). “I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint." (Jer. 31:25).”
    Your suffering is not without purpose, Danielle. God does all thing well. He is, even now, working His eternal purposes into your life…even in the midst of your suffering. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal (2 Corinth. 4:16-18).
    Jesus suffered horribly, Danielle. Horribly. Yet even as He desire to be released from the suffering He was about to endure, He surrendered to the will of God for His life. He turned His eyes away from the immediate suffering and fixed His eyes upon the reason for that suffering – that you and I might be with Him in glory!!
    Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfector of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame… Consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you may not grow weary and lose heart ( Heb. 12:2-3).

    You can do that, Danielle. You can fix your eyes upon Jesus. You can consider His suffering and the result of all that He endured. He will help you to do that. And as you do, you will sense your heart gaining courage to go on. You will engage in the work God has appointed for you. And you will be storing up eternal rewards for the day when our Heavenly Father chooses to call you home!
    Fix your eyes, my friend… one minute at a time. Choose today to say, “ Thank you, Lord” for the place where you have placed me today!
    If you get a chance I encourage you to read this blog post from the True Woman Blog.
    (http://www.truewoman.com/?id=1542) – I trust it will bring strength to your weary soul.

    Praying you will sense the overwhelming power of His grace and peace today!
    Carrie
    Robyn
    Thank you.
    on Sunday, October 16, 2011 at 7:19 pm
    Sarah, thank you for praying for me and giving me advice! It means a lot to me just to know that somebody cared, and that they were listening and praying for me! I haven't told anyone, and I don't know if I will ever be able to tell anyone. But I am doing so much better now! I am so thankful that God gave me another chance at life, and I am not going to waste it. I don't understand why I did what I did, but I know that it will never happen again.
    Thank you so much! And God bless you!
    Robyn
    Lindsey
    Re:
    on Monday, October 17, 2011 at 9:08 am
    I have to agree i have thoughts about suicide regularly
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    Robyn...Thank You, Lord
    on Monday, October 17, 2011 at 10:56 pm
    Oh, Robyn…I am so glad to hear you are doing so much better. It is a blessing to hear it meant so much to you for us to pray and love you from afar; we do care about you!

    If the feelings ever seem overwhelming again, would you promise me that you will post immediately and call 911 or the suicide hotline? One good thing that has come out of this experience for you is you know the feelings will never be able to unknowingly come upon you…and you now KNOW that you can navigate through the feelings.

    God bless you, Robyn. I know the Lord has amazing things ahead for you—He loves your life and orders your steps to accomplish His purposes. (Ps. 37:23)

    I am praying for you tonight!
    Rebecca
    Robyn
    on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 7:43 am
    Hey Robyn! Hopefully you don't mind me jumping in, but I am reading this book right now that I think would *really* help you. It's "Living Beyond your Feelings" by Joyce Meyer. It is really good, and you could probably get it from a local library.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Lindsey
    on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 2:51 pm
    I’m so sorry you have been in a dark place. You are not alone, dear friend. Jesus is right there with you. You can choose, even today, to fix your eyes upon Him. “But as for me, I will watch expectantly for the Lord. I will wait for the God of my salvation. My God will hear me! Do not rejoice over me, o my enemy. Though I fall, I will rise. Though I dwell in darkness the Lord is a light for me. He will bring me out to the light. And I will see His righteousness (Micah 7:7-9).”

    Even when overwhelming feelings of despair come over you, Lindsey, you can know that the Lord is there…holding your right hand! He will never let you go. I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you, Do not be afraid… I myself will help you, declares the LORD ( Is. 41:13-14).

    Is there someone you can talk with about how you’re feeling, Lindsey? Your parents? A youth leader? Your pastor? An older godly woman?

    I’m praying for you this afternoon.

    If I say, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me, and the light around me will be night,” even the darkness is not dark to You, and the night is a s bright as the day. Darkness and light are alike to You (Psalm 139:11-12).

    Love and prayers,
    Carrie
    Danielle
    Thank You
    on Thursday, October 20, 2011 at 12:53 am
    I agree with Robyn. It's so nice just to know that other people feel the same and you aren't alone.

    While reading y'alls book, I was so surprised about how many lies I have bought into.

    I am still hurting, but am trying to trust Jesus more as my Beloved Husband, who waited for me from the beginning of the world. :)

    All my love to all the hurting girls out there.

    Heaven Bound,

    Danielle
    Chloe
    Thanks!
    on Thursday, November 3, 2011 at 4:45 pm
    I really appreciated this advice because it's really good.
    Aundria
    Thank you
    on Monday, November 7, 2011 at 6:58 pm
    Thank you so much to every one who has commented. Live_Laugh_Love I really wanted to thank you because i have struggled with thinking self harm was the only answer.. and I have thought about taking it he extreme and commiting suicide. the thimes i have tried i have failed at the time i was so upset it didnt work but at that time i didnt know Jesus and i felt i had no one to talk to so i was alone and everyone thought i just had a bad flu. I still have thoughts once in a while and i still fight self harm but its a lot easier now that i have Jesus in my life and i have a church family that supports me. Especially my pastors and youth leader. My youth leader is such an insperation she follows after Gods heart and so does her husband and i trust her but sometimes i am scared to go to her. and i am sometimes scared to talk to God even though he knows my thoughts im scared for some reason that He would be disappointed or would be mad? I dont know probaly sounds kinda stupid i think that way.. But i am thankful i found this blog because i do read the comments and they encourage my heart!!
    aj
    Re:
    on Tuesday, November 8, 2011 at 2:51 am
    thanks will im praying 4 your family
    maria
    help
    on Monday, August 27, 2012 at 10:40 am
    i've been going through some depression lately and i need a TON of help i've been getting thoughts of suicide lately and i've acctually almost done it but i just don't. I really want to tell someone but everyone at my church judges you. same thing with my family. are there any verses you could give me to help me think twice when i get ideas about suicide? please pray for me.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    To Maria
    on Tuesday, August 28, 2012 at 11:23 pm
    Thank you, Maria, for being open with us about your struggles. We are not counselors, but I want you to know that I have prayed for you today and want you to know that we care for you.

    Even though you think the church people and your family are judgmental, I wonder if those could be the lies of Satan? There are people in your life who love you and care deeply for you. Can you share with them that you are struggling with depression and need help? Perhaps they could get you into some counseling to help you work through your emotional struggles. I pray you will find the courage to confide in someone – perhaps your mom, a girlfriend’s mom or a godly woman from church. It will be scary, but you (and they) will be so glad that you reached out for help.

    Also, keep this number close, Maria. When you have thoughts of suicide, please call the Suicide Hot-line. There are trained counselors that will talk you through all that is going on, and will give you a place to find help. 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They offer other support resources also.

    I encourage you to read your Bible each and every day even if it is just a couple of verses and pray each day, too – ask God to help you understand what you are reading. The Psalmist struggled with depression, too. Take a look at Psalm 42 where he counsels his own depressed heart to choose to hope in God. I also love Psalm 103 because it assures me of how much God loves me. Could you try to memorize these passages and then read or quote them when you are struggling?

    I am praying right now that God will give you the courage to reach out for the help and guidance you need as He carries you through these difficult days. I’ve asked Him to show you where you can get help and find those who love and care for you. We want you to know that we are loving on you from here, Maria!
    maria
    Re:
    on Saturday, September 15, 2012 at 12:08 pm
    The thing is my church judges me because i'm goth
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @ maria
    on Monday, September 17, 2012 at 7:20 pm
    I’m sorry you feel judged, friend; I know how hurtful that can be. The enemy loves to convince us that “everyone” is against us…including Jesus.

    God’s Word says differently, Maria. It says Jesus is fighting for you right now. He sees the hurts and the pain of rejection. He’s reaching out to you, my friend. Would you be willing to share your heart with one person you respect in your church – maybe your youth pastor or his wife, an older godly woman? Let me know, Maria, what you decide.

    When you get a chance, I’d love for you to read through this post: http://www.fathersloveletter.com/.

    Praying for you tonight, my friend.
    Anonymous
    This is long but please read it.
    on Wednesday, October 10, 2012 at 11:03 am
    A year ago I was diagnosed with Severe mental depressive disorder and severe anxiety.I wasn't doing well at school,it affected part of my brain and due to this things like my vocabulary,concentration,memory,speech and writting skills were affected.I was a straight A student then my grades went down and teachers would call me dumb and slow.I graduated high school with lower grades and I couldn't get into a good college,this devasted me.I was a born again christian before I got sick,not a day would pass by without talking about God or the bible.I would carry it with me wherever I went,then after I was diagnosed I questioned Gods existance,"why would God give me this illness"I've always served him.why?I wasn't normal anymore.I think I'm ugly and fat even though people tell me otherwise,I get consumed by anger when I see someone my age (21) doing so well in life,I depend on pills to make me feel better .My parents are old school so the don't believe in depression,if anything they are misinformed.They refused to get me treatment and accused me of faking it so wouldn't go to college.I didn't care anymore,God no longer existed to me.I get so angry when someone mentions God or Jesus.I am unhappy with my life,my looks and I'm scared I won't find someone who will love me,I don't want to burden someone with my illness.I'm scared I won't be successful,what are the odds of that happening if I keep forgetting things like my phone number,my best friends name,1+1=?,yes I forgot the answer to 1+1.See?I can't even construct a proper sentence or paragraph(it took me a while to write this down) anymore.I was a happy,God fearing,confident,healthy intellect,what went wrong??I don't pray anymore and haven't been to church in a year.I just want to live a normal life again.Killing myself is my only option right now.
    Last Edit: on Wednesday, October 10, 2012 at 8:39pm by cgaul  
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Anonymous…
    on Thursday, October 11, 2012 at 10:58 am
    My heart aches to read your post. I am so sorry to hear of the suffering you are going through. Let me assure you of our prayers for you this day.

    We live in a fallen world, dear one. God doesn’t promise us a world where there is no trouble or pain, because we live in a world that has been going “wrong” since the fall of Adam and Eve. But God does promise that He will walk through every difficulty of life with us and He will redeem it for our good if we will but trust Him (Rom. 8:28). I can tell you by experience, that there is absolutely nothing like the relationship with God forged through difficult times and having to cling to Him when nothing else seems right. He really does "heal the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit." (Ps. 34:18)

    So, get the help you need medically, and then begin to walk with the Lord; baby steps are OK. He sees your heart and longs to be compassionate toward you. “Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; how blessed are all those who long for Him.” (Isaiah 30:18)

    Start this Sunday going to church; find a strong evangelical church in your area where you will hear the Word of God faithfully taught, where there is inspiring worship in song, and where you will have the fellowship of other believers. You NEED this in your life; all of us as believers do. Go with an open mind to hear from God and know His presence. Talk with the pastor and ask him to help you find a godly woman to walk with you and pray with you about the things that are so hurtful.

    Then, take these steps to work toward peace and freedom… read your Bible every day if only one verse, pray every day if only to say, "Lord I don’t know what to say but I need Your help", find a verse that is most meaningful to you and memorize it a few words at a time.

    Nancy DeMoss says it like this when you are facing such anger and pain:

    “You’ll never experience all that there is to know of God until you have found yourself in a place of drought, in a place of desperation, in a place where you think you’re drowning. In the midst of those most desperate circumstances, you’ll be driven . . . In that little boat of yours on that overwhelming sea, you’ll be driven to the place that is your only true hope, and that is God.”

    Know that I am praying for you this day.

    P. S. Killing yourself is not your "option." You are far too valuable to God and to us for you to do that. Keep this number close. When/if you consider suicide, call the Suicide Hot-line. There are trained counselors that will talk you through all that is going on, and will give you a place to find help. 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
    Smiley:)
    Life
    on Sunday, November 18, 2012 at 7:03 pm
    Suicide. You may think that it's the only solution, but it's not. You may think you have nothing to lose, but you do. You have everything to lose. If you attempt and you fail, you may lose the trust of other people. If you attempt and you succeed-well...you're dead. Being dead doesn't help anyone. You lose your life. Everyone you love loses a part of them. Everyone you know loses a friend. Everyone you don't know loses someone who could bring so much to the world-so much happiness and joy that is the light at the end of the tunnel-which you will find isn't far away.
    Through your struggles, there is always a second chance. God has something planned for you. Something special, because He planned it especially for you. If you commit suicide, you don't get a second chance. Life is your only choice, peeps. You have too much to offer to the world. (Although the world doesn't have a whole lot to offer to you, you have a ton to offer to the people on it.) Never forget that.
    Your friend,
    ~Monica~
    smiley:)
    P.S.
    on Monday, November 19, 2012 at 3:43 pm
    I hope I wasn't too harsh or whatever with that last message. I just want to encourage you all. Have a wonderful day!
    ~Monica~
    Anonymous
    Standing on the edge
    on Thursday, February 28, 2013 at 12:58 pm
    I dealt with suicidal depression for 5 years of my life.
    I remember being 10 years old and laying on a couch...I began to imagine my funeral. I thought no one would miss me. I thought my life was worthless and that I was worthless. "There is no point in living," I thought. But I knew I would go to hell.
    The thoughts didn't stop.
    I wanted to cut myself but I couldn't b/c I knew my family would find out.
    At 13 I called a suicide hotline. The woman told me, "Honey, you're young. You have so much to live for." She was wrong. I had nothing to live for. Everything in this life was vain and nothing gave me happiness. I felt so guilty for my sins and so empty. So unloved. So unfulfilled.
    When I was about 16 God's spirit really touched me. I couldn't resist Him. I told Him in my heart that I wanted HIs love and forgiveness and that I wanted to live for Him b/c I had nothing else to live for.
    Living for God is life worth living.
    Waking up to the beautiful sun rise and singing birds and giving praise to the One who made them is wonderful. And there are many other wonders to be discovered.
    And now... I love others and I know I am loved.
    I have purpose.
    I have joy.
    I have Jesus.
    Hebrews 13:5
    Last Edit: on Thursday, February 28, 2013 at 3:04pm by cgaul  
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @ Anonymous
    on Thursday, February 28, 2013 at 3:05 pm
    Praising Jesus with you today, sweet friend, for the hope He has brought to you! Thanks for sharing your story with us and bringing glory to our Great God!
    Just so you are aware, we did remove a few details that we believe are best left unmentioned.
    Blessings to you today ~

    Carrie,

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