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Stephanie
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:32 am
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Wow, this post really resonated with me.
I am currently a freshmen in college and I definitely can relate to this writer.

I had struggled a lot with measuring about to boys' expectations in order to feel worthy or attractive. I became envious of my friends whom had all the attention from the boys. Therefore, I would wear eye-catching clothing in order to attract a cute guy to notice me. And it did work. I would let boys dictate on what I wear, say, and do with my self. I was never truly satisfied.

I came to a epiphany a few months ago. What makes me really happy is seeking God, serving others, being my true self, and being around people whom I feel comfortable with. I cannot fill that empty void with superficial things like many people do. The only thing is God. God is forever and everlasting. He is perfect.
claire
re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:38 am
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... i am actually boy-crazy too. I hate to admit it though... ick. I am just always thinking about a real life guy, or some fantasy I made up in my head. I think I should really read her book. I don't know why... I just know I need to read it! I am glad God is so patient with me... I need all the patience I can get. thanks for the post! and the picture so perfectly depicts what a girls mind is like! =)
Heather Sv.
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:40 am
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I've never been "boy crazy" so I can't really relate much, but ever since I graduated high school I've had this intense desire to get married. And it only intensified even more after I became a Christian! I wish I could also come to that place where I could truly say that if I never get married, then I could still lead a happy life. But I know that if I remain single forever I can never be happy. I just really, really hope that marriage is in my future.
Zakeyia
awesome
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:53 am
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I was just like you as a teenager. God has promised me he has a husband for me but I choose to manipulate it over and over again. I'm almost afraid to love another man because I don't want it to end in another heartache. I feel like I'll disappoint God if I make the wrong choice again. There's a man that loves me now but I'm too afraid to accept it. I need God.
Monica S.
sounds good!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 2:56 am
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i would love to read the book! And i also pray that i can be "crazy" about Jesus instead of boys.
kenzi
re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 3:34 am
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Hmmmm let's talk about a slap in the face. haha Okay I get it... So, my friend and I just spent the entire evening prank texting guys we used to like.... Then we got all upset about guys and then we watched Louie Giglio and then we looked at this.. Okay God, I get it... You couldn't be anymore clear. But thank you cuz o seriously needed the firm but gracious discipline from my Daddy....
Divya
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on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 3:36 am
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Reading this, the extent to which you basically wrote my LIFE STORY is just plain scary. This is me! It's sad and painful and it hurts. I was always thought it was only me. No one could be as needy as me, sucks. I'd love if you wrote more about how to deal with this. I've come to accept that it's part of me, and just waaaaaay to hard to change. I've stopped trying. It hurts in the end, but it's like I never learn.
Rachel
yes!!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 4:28 am
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Thankyou for this post Paula, it's really really timely :)
I've always struggled with boy-craziness, maybe not in the sense of flirting but more a struggle in my thought life. There's been very few times in my life when a certain guy/guys haven't been on my mind...and its really challenged me when i think about how much time i spend thinking about guys, relationships, marriage etc in comparison to how much time i spend with God.
Its SO hard to let go of your romantic thoughts when they're starting to take over, its so much easier just to say, 'God, this isn't wrong!' but in fact it is enslaving..
Here's a quote from Elisabeth Elliot in her book 'Passion and Purity' which I actually have as a 'sticky note' on my laptop background to remind me...i think its very appropriate :)
"The love life of a Christian is a crucial battleground. There, if nowhere else, it will be determined as to who is Lord: the world, the self and the devil, or the Lord Christ."
~Elisabeth Elliot
Stephanie
THANKYOU!!!!!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 4:37 am
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WOW! what a great post. this is just what i needed. i've been struggling with boy-craziness too. i prayed to God last night that he would help me and this has given me an extra boost of encouragement. thankyou so much :)
Nonhlanhla Mangena
Mary Kassian Girls Gone Wise In a World Gone Wild
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 5:22 am
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Great entry,I would love to be entered into the draw for the copy of this book
Esther Falcetta
From the perspective of a mom!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 6:13 am
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We don't need to be entered in the drawing for the book as we already have it! Another great addition to our growing collection!

With re: to boy-craziness: we see this all the time among our daughter's peers and it is incredibly difficult to watch young girls give away pieces of their 'hearts' and often, their bodies, too. I, too, was a needy girl that sought affection and attention from boys. I look back on my later teen and young adult years and realize that I was a 'serial dater', just because I always needed to have a guy in my life to make it seem like I was worthwhile. Thankfully, the Lord blessed me with a wonderful husband, but not until I was in my late 20's, and not until after I had surrendered this area of my life 100% to Jesus (or, at least as much as I could at that age and my understanding of myself as a human being). Girls, SAVE YOUR HEARTS as well as your bodies. Trust me, it is better to walk down that aisle towards your future husband with NO REGRETS than to struggle to forgive yourself (and other people) for choices you made in the past. A lot of attention is given to purity of our physical bodies, and that should never be dismissed or diminished. However, purity of heart/soul and mind is part of Godly VIRTUE, too. When you're struggling with watching all the other girls have boyfriends, remind yourself that you are waiting for that one special guy. Sure, he'll be human and have his faults and quirks, but when it's the 'right one', it makes all of the 'waiting' well worth the pain of not having a boyfriend before. Trust me, THAT pain is much less than the pain that comes from having regrets! STAY STRONG in the LORD!
Lindsey
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 6:41 am
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Way to go, girl. It's so refreshing to see someone else's struggles presented in an honest but hopeful way that we can all relate to in some way. It's really encouraging!
Vic
Book
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 6:45 am
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That book sounds really good! Boy- craziness is such a big idol in our culture. That was very well put! ;)
Grace
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on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 7:01 am
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Thanks Paula for this.

It's somehow comforting to hear that I am not the only one who is boy crazy. For me, I don't know why it bothers me so much. I haven't been in a relationship for the last 9 years - my last one and 2nd one was when I was 14. I've always wanted a boyfriend, and then when I turned 18 (I'm 23) I wanted a husband so much that whatever I did in life was so that it can improve my marriage or for my future family - it had become my idol. I never actually went to the extent of following boys around and stuff, I'm too shy; but the devil makes you feel that you are alone because you are not this or that. Earlier this year I realized that this idol had basically taken over my life and I took the reigns back and gave my desire to be married to God. This doesn't mean that I don't think about it sometimes, it just helps me know that God has in store for me a great man, I need only to be patient and wait on him. In the meantime, I'm trying to keep myself busy, working for God. I would also Like to be considered for the book.

Thanks again.
Cheyenne
Girls Gone Wise
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 7:05 am
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Thanks for the opportunity to receive Mary's book... I would love to read it!! I want Jesus to be first place in my life... and I've prayed a prayer very similar to yours, paula, except about other areas of my life. :)
Si-Si
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:03 am
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Great post! I really enjoyed reading it.
Jenna
thanks!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:23 am
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I was just praying last night that the Lord would help me to guard my heart. He is the one I should be putting first in my life. Thanks for the great post Paula!!
April Garretson
THANKS!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:37 am
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Thanks for the offer of this great new book. I am teaching the SOUL SURFER Bible Study this school year and would love to give this book away as a door prize in our class! Thanks for sharing such Truth!
Sara
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:41 am
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I used to be boy-crazy, too, until I got into a relationship that began to tear apart my relationship with my family. God's love was (and is!) never-ending, and I was finally able to recognize His will in my life without the young man.

Thank you for your post, Paula!
Jules
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on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:58 am
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yes, boycraziness has been a huge obstacle in my life as well. i have been learning to rely on God to be my lover in the past year as a single woman. There is a guy i am interested in now though, so i ask for your prayers ladies:)
Emily
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:02 am
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I have also struggled with this. I have been challenged lately to give the pen of my love story to God, because he has bigger plans than I could ever imagine. Thanks again for the reminder to be God-crazy instead of boy-crazy because I think its something every girl struggles with at some point in her life.
Karie
book entry
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:16 am
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What a great post. Thanks for being honest and sharing. I would love to read the book.
quinn emery
wow, awesome post!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:42 am
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Wow, I really think I need this book. I feel like I am such a boy-crazy person. To have self-control to not just fall all over them is so super hard...I need to God-crazy instead. It's just hard because God isn't a real person to hug me. But He tells me I'm beautiful, which I have recently discovered in reading Song of Solomon. If you read it with God in your mind, then it's such an amazing book. It really helped me see how much God thinks of me.
Thanks for this post, Paula! I really needed it.
Gabriella
Wow!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:47 am
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That is so similiar to what happened to me! I was that same way in 6th grade. At the time I knew a lot of guys like, and I would try to use that to my advantage. Not too longlater one of my friends told me I was boy-crazy and I was shocked, I couldn't believe she would say something like that. I was a pastors kid, I always obeyed and knew all the right answers in Sunday School. I couldn't be boy crazy. But as I examined my hear God told me I was, I prayed and asked Him to take my focus off of guys and put it onto Him, and it worked! Slowly but surely I stoppe focusing on guys and started focusing on Him. Thanks so much for posting this!
Livia
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on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:57 am
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Thanks for this great post! It really hits home with me.
I am nineteen years old, and have never had a boyfriend. But for about ten years, I have absolutely adored this guy who also happens to be one of my best friends. The only problem is that he is not a Christian. In all these years, I have struggled between what God wants and what I want. So many times I ran to my godly friends crying, asking for advice, wondering why those stupid feelings just would not go away. Their reply was, "Maybe God is showing you what's in the way of your relationship with Him. Maybe you need to want God more than you want that guy." That, for me, was a revelation.
Even now, I still get those fleeting feelings for that guy; but I know that God has a plan and that He is in control. So for now, I've given my heart to God. And when the time comes for "Mr. Right" to step into my life, I'll leave it up to God to give my heart to that man, because I know for sure that the man God picks out for me will be much better than the one I would pick on my own.
"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field:
Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." Solomon 2:7 NIV
Andrea
The book
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 10:06 am
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This book sounds amazing! I love Mary Kassian as a speaker. I really related to a lot that you said Paula! Thank you so much for sharing!
Hannah
re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 10:14 am
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Thanks for the great post! The book and author seem really interesting!
Faith
Yikes
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 10:25 am
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It is so hard to get over a guy without going to the opposite extreme and hate him!

I'm not even sure how that is possible. :( Because as long as you stay "just friends" at least to me it seems that there will always be a sadness element. :P
Libby
Yes!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 10:33 am
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Wow! This is me! I struggle sooooo much with this, and every time I surrender those feelings to God, I take them right back. I would loooooove to read this book!
Elisabeth
Thank you
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 11:08 am
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Thank you for the post. I have heard many good things about the book. I would love to read "Girls Gone Wise".
Libs
Seriously...
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 11:09 am
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this is a great testimony! It relates so much to mine! Praise the Lord He is gracious and slow to anger and willing to keep His promises to those of us who try to sometimes replace HIM. I want to want to learn to please God and LOVE God more than I want to breathe. I'm not really there yet, I don't know if I'll get there, even, but I am willing to be transformed by the renewing of my mind - by HIS grace!
Shanni
WOW!!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 11:13 am
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WOW!!! Praise the Lord!! That is such a neat testimony, Paula! Thank you for the TREMENDOUS encouragement!!
I think that the Lord is really gonna this to reach a lot of girls.
Lynette
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 11:59 am
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We are hosting a purity retreat for young ladies in November. This book would be a great addition to our "curriculum."
Isabel
boys
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 12:02 pm
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I am 11 and not boy crazy just yet but I am currently doing the lies Young women Believe bible study with a friend and we just talked about the boy chapter and this collum target pointed what we talked about. I love the book.
andrea (dorcas)
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:01 pm
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wow...sounds like a good book...i'm trying to surrender that part of my heart to Jesus but it's hard..especially when you have a wild streak... my sis doesnt.. she's so perfect >_< ..*sigh*...

you go, Paula! Remember...it's not about you. ;) i'm sure you'll do good...
Megan
I'd like the book!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:07 pm
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I was so encouraged when I read this post. I have had struggles with liking guys a lot. And I have never been able to completely cure myself of that, but God is helping me little by little to overcome "boy-craziness" as you call it. :)

Thank you so much for the post!

I would LOVE to have a copy of the book "Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild", I am always looking for good books to help me in my Christian walk with God, and if this one will help me to switch my focus, then I'd really like a copy!

God bless!

-Megan
Meredith
@ Stephanie
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:14 pm
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You said it, girl! It's hard to go counter-cultural as Nancy Leigh talks about and completely give yourself up to God. But the fulfillment found in trusting Him to heal your past, hold your hand in the present, and give you a hope and a future is incomparable. We serve and amazing God, and His love is far above anything that guys can give. I pray blessings and grace over you as you're away at school. Keep your eyes toward the hills (Psalm 121) and take courage in your stand against the fray!

Thank you for your post, Paula, and good luck with the video shoot! Can't wait to see ya'!
Sarah Anderson
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:28 pm
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Wow what a story! I'd love to read this book!
Meghan
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 1:59 pm
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I would love to read the book. I have heard about it before, but have never gotten to read it.
Tori
Interesting
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 2:44 pm
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I think you pretty much just summed up my life. Thank you for writing this post, I think I need to go buy that book.
Heidi
Wow
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 3:04 pm
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I can so relate to this! I'm maybe not as bad as some people, but right now there's this guy i can't get over, i very quitely keep looking at him and stuff. it annoys me but i can't help it. i'm trying to help it, but it's hard.
Abi
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 4:36 pm
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This was an interesting post to read... I have struggled with boys before, but I try not to.
Sarah
thanks
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 4:39 pm
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Thanks for this amazing post and sharing your story! I have a friend who literately just got her heart broken... and me and my friends have been encouraging her and spreading truth to her! If anyone has any verses or something u have shared with a heartbroken friend before.. it would be greatly appreciated!

And I would love to read Girls Gone Wise! its sounds wonderful! So sign me up!
Thanks again!
God bless! <3
denna
coolness
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 5:21 pm
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wow. i am a sophmore but i havent gone to that extreme. but in other ways i have given my heart away. it is hard to admit it, but i'd say it is pretty true.

i'd love to read this book.
Tori
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 5:40 pm
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Thank you so much for this post!!! It is just what I needed to hear!
Jenna
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 6:04 pm
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I'd love to read it!
Mikayla
wow
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 6:23 pm
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This post came at a very good time for me. Thanks so much for the reminder that I need to seek God first. This would be a great book for me to read.

Thanks!
Mist
So cool!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 7:33 pm
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Wow I would love to read this book! Thanks for the chance!
Coram Deo
Re:
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 7:53 pm
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This testimony is beautiful. I know first hand about boy craziness and I love hearing how others turn to God's love. Nothing can compare!!!
laura
only in books
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:02 pm
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i dream of having of boyfriend, but the only guys i ever really have are in the romance novels i read. and i know its bad to read books like those..that mkae my heart vulnerable. but i love the thought of happily ever after...especailly when i have never had my own. i have never had my heart broken but i have longed for a boy to sweep me off my feet. its hard waiting on Gods promise. but i too am committed...its just a long struggle. the only thing i have going is that no guy had paid attention to me yet...so whats the worry.
Gods Jewel
Great post
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 8:14 pm
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I would love to read this book..it sounds like it will provide great inspiration. I know I have thought lustful thoughts over boys, so it would be a great help... Thanks for the offer!
Waiting
Hey, me too!!!
on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 10:50 pm
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I just transfered to a new private school from being home schooled. Long story short, I only hung out with like 2 guys when i was homeschooled, only cause I didnt know any others! So, now, at my new school I notice every guy there!!! I know I'm not madly in love! And I know that they are not in love with me, but I think I'm "boy-crazy" cause normally I am keenly aware of them at any given moment, and randomly can remember what they say or do, hahaha :)

I would really love to read that book you were talking about, so I could apply it, and learn what it has to offer!
Thank you!!!
Abby
Boy Crazy
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 1:32 am
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Oh wow. No matter how much I think I know, I don't think I could ever know enough. I'd love to be encouraged by this book!
anonymous
Re:
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 7:46 am
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Thank you for this blog, sometimes people don't directly touch the topic of "boy-crazyness" but it is absolutely something I struggle with on a day-to-day basis. The book sounds very interesting, I would the chance to win a copy!! :o)
I'm also excited to see what other blogs you post in the future...I read all the LYWB posts-- I'm signed up through email.
Erica
Lies we believe...
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 10:03 am
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I would love to be considered in the drawing for this book. Single girls, just to let you know, if you struggle with neediness and feeling unfulfilled pre-marriage, getting married does not kill the lies. I am married and the lies I am struggling with merely followed me right into marriage. Thanking the Lord for His desire to be intimate with me, to be the true fulfillment and guardian of my soul. His constant desire for relationship with me has taken me down a sorrow filled path but one that He has walked with me and used to draw me near to Him. Deal with the lies as soon as He starts showing them to you, start asking for His truth and His will to be done.
Rebekah
Re:
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 12:47 pm
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I love this post. My "platform" so to speak is about moving "beyond waiting" for a future husband and fully living life now. I would love to read this book.
Beth
Re:
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 4:03 pm
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Yeah...I know I'm boy not crazy just, well I guess crazy! I think about real-life guys I'd love to marry and dream about the life I'd share with them...the book sounds amazing and this post was extremely helpful! :) THANK YOU SO MUCH!
BTW quick ?: is it wrong to dream about the future family you'll have/want to have?

I really would love to win this book!
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Beth
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 9:29 pm
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Hey, Beth,

Most of us, as girls, dream about the day we will one day be married and have a family. That’s normal and natural. But it’s a bit different from allowing our minds to daydream about being married to a specific person etc.

Mark 7:21-22 says, “For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality…”

James 1:14-15 says that all sin beings in the mind and comes from our own evil desires. While longing to be married and have children is certainly not wrong, wanting what we don’t yet have and daydreaming about it can quickly lead to fantasy and impure thoughts.

Romans 13:14 says, “Clothe yourself with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature ( Rom. 13:14).

So bottom line, Beth. Be very careful what you allow your mind to dwell on (Phil. 4: 8). Ask God to help you think of young men as your “brothers” rather than just potential husbands.

Blessings,
Carrie
Anita
Being Boy Crazy
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 9:35 pm
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I try not to be boy- crazy anymore, although sometimes the occasional "cool/cute guy" comes along. I'm learning to wait on His timing.
Rae L.
thanks
on Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 10:51 pm
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I used to be really boy-crazy, but thankfully a past problem helped me to "think on whatsoever things are true". Every little while, I find myself slipping back into it, but I can say by God's grace He keeps me from going back!
Katie
Re:
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 3:27 am
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Hey! This post is something I've needed for a loooong time. I have to admit, I am boy-crazy... I think about them all the time and wonder if they notice me. When someone looks, I feel good. I have thought before that I should stop this, but I can't seem to. Lately though, I have done more devotions, like 'And the Bride Wore White' or 'A Young Woman after God's own Heart'. and they have helped to keep me focused on Him, and not guys. I would love to read 'Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild', by Mary Kassian. I live in Germany, so the shipping is really expensive so it would help a lot, if I would win the book, since there are not so many bible devotions in English in Germany... ;)
Blessings, Katie
Abigail Elizabeth
Me too, but i'm learning.
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 7:56 am
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Wow. Your post arrived at such a perfect timing! I'm exactly similar to the old you 1 year before, how I would like to be like you now. I'm learning. Learning hard to put my trust and hope on God, and try to switch my focus to Him.

I made that crazy prayer too. God apparently stopped me from indulging in someone unworthy. Again and again.

And now, this is the 3rd time since I started making that prayer. I met another guy a few weeks ago. He is affectionate, mature, caring and open-minded. I fall for him head over heels ignoring his life problems. I crazy about meeting him, I cried for him for no reasons. Suddenly, I was alarmed to realize things has gone out of control. Again I came to God and pray that prayer. I asked God to straighten things out. If he is not the chosen one, I asked God to stop the idolatry and help me focus. After a while, we were no longer in contact and my life get back to normal. I'm glad.

I know how great it feels to be pursued. To end it, it hurts. But it worth all the pain when come to end an unfruitful relationship. I hope I'd be transformed and free from "boy-crazy"! Yes, I'm 25 and I'd like to get married someday, but I now learn to wait for God's perfect timing.
Eab
thanks
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 10:56 am
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Thank you for this post. It is a great reminder that God is bigger than any issue in life whether it is an addictions or being "boy crazy". Thank you again.
Karli
Re:
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 2:57 pm
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I liked your post and would love to read the book!!
Paula Hendricks
And the winners are . . .
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 5:25 pm
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Thanks to each of you for your response! I prayed for you by name as your comment came in.

Libby and Lynette, you both won a copy of Mary Kassian's book "Girls Gone Wise"! Look for an email in your inbox with all the details.
Beth
@Carrie
on Friday, September 23, 2011 at 7:26 pm
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Thanks Carrie...I will keep that in mind! I appreciate you input...I'm glad to finally be able to ask questions about things without people looking at you like your rebellious or spiritually something wrong! I appreciate the LYWB website and the study I started this past week and God is already changing my life with it! God Bless you all!
~Beth :)
Jill
:)
on Saturday, September 24, 2011 at 1:51 am
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I would def love to receive a copy! And I have been through/ am still going through this even though i try not to. It's hard. I look for attention but at the same time I know I'm gonna do things His way
Alice17
An Continuing Process
on Saturday, September 24, 2011 at 11:25 pm
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This is something that I've really struggled with in the past. I'm not near as bad as I used to be, but I still have to watch what I think! Thanks for the great reminder! One thing that I noticed though is how a lot of girls seem to think that if you're pretty and get attention from guys, then you're not boy crazy. That's so not true! I'm definitely not super pretty, but I do get guys paying attention to me quite a bit, it really doesn't change how hard it is not to be boy crazy! One more thing, whether or not guys seem to pay attention to you has nothing to do with whether or not you're pretty. Guys do not determine your worth or your beauty! Anyways, that's for the really great post!
ana
book
on Monday, September 26, 2011 at 4:22 pm
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great post :) how do i get that book
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Ana
on Monday, September 26, 2011 at 6:05 pm
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Hey, Ana ~

You’ll find Girls Gone Wise here:
( http://www.reviveourhearts.com/store/author/mary-kassian/). And Mary’s short video teachings for each chapter beginning here: ( http://www.truewoman.com/?id=1116).
Cupcake
Thanks for this
on Monday, September 26, 2011 at 8:26 pm
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This was very encouraging and honest thank you so much
Anonymous
Same Story, Different Girl
on Monday, September 26, 2011 at 10:03 pm
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Its the same story, different girl... I, along with a number of other girls deal with this same issue! I pray the Lord would deliver all of us from this cycle. This cycle of loathing guys, yet retracting from them- all in the name of love and purity. I am so over this! Yet, I still am walking this out. Let every Christ Following Woman find freedom from this in Jesus Name.
Rebecca
Re:
on Tuesday, September 27, 2011 at 1:33 pm
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Okay at first I didn't really want to say anything because I can't really relate anymore but what I have to ask kind of falls in this category. When I was younger I was extremely flirtatious and boy-crazy to the point when I was 8 some boy who was I think 12 asked to sleep with me...seriously. Now, I didn't do anything but tease him because when I was little that's basically how I was taught to get attention. And then, I don't know I've never really, like, okay, basically I've heard that people who have been sexually abused tend to sleep around to recreate the abuse but be in control and stuff and that's always worried me because I 1) never want to be in a vulnerable position again but 2) never want to hurt or use anyone else; especially like that. But the last couple of years I've really just felt worthless and like I wasn't worth anything or anyone and that I wasn't going to be living much longer anyway ( I was suicidal) and then even after I got saved up until a couple of weeks ago that I didn't need a guy, but it was more my pride because I find it SO hard to believe that a guy would want me. I don't think I'm pretty, I don't think I'm the hunchback or anything either though haha but then I have a horrible past that guys wouldn't want and scars from cutting and stuff and so I always just blocked it out like it wasn't even an option. Like really, I have just cuts but I also have the word help cut on my upper arm, broken on my left leg and ribcage and then where is hope? on my right leg. I kind of want to get a tattoo to cover up the one on my ribcage though. But out of like nowhere recently I had this thought pass through my mind about how it would be nice to have a guy in my life that like, really loves me. Not to use me or anything, not so I could use him, but just something real, you know? I've already made a "deal" with my friend that we wouldn't date until we were 18. so I've still got like 9 months, but after that I have a really busy schedule for school and I'm planning on leaving to Africa for about 6 months after hs and I won't be able to work on any relationship and so I'm kind of like "I'm never gonna get a guy" I know it sounds dramatic but it's still something that I've had this underlying worrying thought.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
re: Rebecca
on Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 4:15 pm
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I want to encourage you not to worry about getting a guy! God has a very special plan for your life! You can trust Him to bring just the right guy into your life at just the right time in His sovereign plan. You have a wonderful opportunity to spend the next months/years focusing on your relationship with God! He is the lover of your soul and the only One who can meet your deepest heart needs. He tells us in Matthew 6: 25-34 some very key things about worry. He cares for the birds of the air – He cares more for you! We cannot add a single hour to our lives (or get a guy to us sooner) by worry! God knows our needs! So as we focus on His kingdom and His righteousness, He will take care of all the rest.

It all boils down to trusting God - trusting that He knows our needs and our wants and can be trusted to take care of us. So, Rebecca, don’t sweat the relationships. God will bring it around in the perfect time! Focus on your relationship with God and cultivate the beauty that comes from a woman sold out to God. When God bring the right guy along, he won’t care about your scars or your past. He is going to love you for being you – for the godly woman you have become as you pursue your Lord! You cannot lose by putting God first in your heart and your mind and your life! Praying for you, Rebecca!
Rebecca
@Lorree
on Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 11:10 am
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Thank you so much Lorree! I'm feeling more encouraged! love xo
Kiwz
just what i needed
on Thursday, October 6, 2011 at 10:37 pm
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thank you so much! i came on this website looking for some form of rescue and words of encouragement from my turmoil of emotions! i'm so happy it was the first blog here, so that i didn't have to go searching.

---> please put a search button on this website :):)
Rebecca
@kiwz
on Friday, October 7, 2011 at 10:03 am
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Girl, you found the right place for sure! It has been such a blessing to me and I've only been on it for like 2 weeks.
Welcome to LYWB!!
Hope
Great
on Friday, October 7, 2011 at 12:00 pm
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Somtimes i struggle thinking I won't ever get a guy. This just showed me I need to trust in God for this and everything!!!!
Vernelle
This Strucks Me.
on Saturday, October 8, 2011 at 8:44 am
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right now, though i'm a Christian for years already, i can't refuse when it comes to guys. i can say that i am guys-crazy. but not to the extent that i do things just for them to notice me. my problem is that, i have lots of crushes. i mean literally, a lot of them!

that's what i'm praying for these days. i want a change. these feelings don't come from Him. and i want these away. i need you prayers, girls.
Chloe
Thanks!
on Tuesday, November 22, 2011 at 3:39 pm
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This was a great reminder for me. I think that all of us need to be reminded every once in a while that we need to wait until God brings us the right guy before we date. I have a question though, how do you know when God brings you the right guy? Is it a feeling that you get inside, or does God just indicate to you that he's the one based on his behavior or something like that?
Sarah, with the LYWB team
Thanks!
on Friday, November 25, 2011 at 7:34 pm
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Chloe:

Stay close to the Lord and learn to discern His voice. You will find His leading becomes clearer the more you "hear" from Him.

The age-old answer to your question is: "you will just know." And remember, if you don't know, he's not the one or it's not the time.

Keep seeking the Lord and listening for His leadership in your life: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths." Prov. 3:5-6
Mikayla
Reflection
on Wednesday, December 7, 2011 at 7:17 pm
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I can relate to this, sometimes I am a little, sometimes alot boy crazy! But God is teaching me to leave all that to Him and to just focus on Him because He will always love me! Really amazing to think about that!
But thanks guys for this. This is an awesome ministry so thank you for all that you do!
Bekah
boy crazy....me? More than u know!
on Thursday, December 29, 2011 at 2:02 am
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Okay so recently i had a picture of Loki from Thor under my pillow and my dad found it. I needed that picture to be found but i was hoping it would be later because I was and still am so obsessed with him. I have watched everything with Tom Hiddleston from youtube to actual movies. I had an issue and still do. I havent done anything to continue this crush but i know its not healthy! does anyone relate? and to top it all off hes 30 and im 12 years younger than that!
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Bekah
on Thursday, December 29, 2011 at 11:50 am
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Its God’s kindness toward you that your Dad discovered the picture, friend. We cannot serve two masters. Obsessing over anything ( other than God) means an idol has been erected in your life. I’m praying today you’ll do what’s necessary to crush that idol, Bekah. God has so much more for you! Trust Him with your dreams and desires.

There have been a number of posts recently on getting rid of the idols that so easily become a part of our lives. I hope you’ll read them, Bekah…and ask the Lord to help you lay aside your obsession with this guy. Praying for you today, friend!


http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=859 – More than a Bush Demon

http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=862 – The Story of a Girl and Her Idol


http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=860 – Your God’s Don’t Love You

http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=861 – How an Old Guy and a Diet Taught Me to Replace My Idols


http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=863 – Steps Toward Removing an Idol
Kelsey
SOS!
on Friday, May 4, 2012 at 2:26 pm
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I am going through this exact situation. I am dating a boy I have been crushing on for 7 years, finally everything worked out, we were both single at the same time, so we took it to the next level. Since then I have constantly been questioning if he truly cares as much as I do, and wondering/doubting everything. I talk with a woman who scolded me for pursuing him, by texting/calling/asking to hang out and not leaving it in his hands. This is day two that I have held myself back from initiating anything with him, but I feel like it is killing me. My heart sinks when my phone goes off and it's not him, I think of so many things to tell him throughout the day, but can't. I have been trying to busy myself with cleaning and reading, but I feel it's impossible to keep my mind from wandering back to him. Please help!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Kelsey
on Monday, May 7, 2012 at 2:29 pm
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I can sense the difficulty you are having and the way you can identify with Paula in this blog. I encourage you to commit to pray for this guy every time you think about him. When you find him consuming your thoughts, pray for him – for his walk with the Lord; for the purity of his heart, eyes and mind; that the Lord would grow him into a godly leader; that he would be sold-out to God and love Him above all relationships and material possessions on this earth. You can also find a passage of Scripture to memorize and use that as a way to control your thoughts and your emotions. I’d encourage you to memorize Philippians 4:1-9.

I’d also encourage you to examine what you are feeding your mind. Are you reading romance novels or watching chic flicks? If you are, I would encourage you to get rid of them because those can feed your desire for a relationship with a young man and can be adding fuel to the fire that you are battling right now.

The other thing I would encourage you to do is to share your struggle with your mom so she can help you, pray for you, and encourage you as you seek to turn from the idolatry of this young man and you strive to love God with your whole heart. I’m praying for you, Kelsey!
Eva
What is the cure?????
on Sunday, May 27, 2012 at 7:24 pm
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I can totally relate! I struggle with this too! It seems I'm always crushing on somebody! If I don't have a crush on a guy, it probably means I have already like, then hated that guy for some rediculous reason! What is the cure for boy-crazyness??? I struggle with lust, and I continue to pray about it. Your website has cleared up so many things for me! I now see some of the places that I was believeing satan's lies! Thanks so much! But what is the cure for boy-crazyness?????
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Eva
on Tuesday, May 29, 2012 at 6:33 pm
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The solution for not being overcome with “boy craziness” is to be crazy about Jesus instead. He needs to be the center of our attention, our hearts and our lives. I encourage you to continue to pray! That is great! Add to that reading God’s Word each day – or even several times a day. Putting sticky notes up on your mirror or your locker or over the sink are great ways to you’re your heart focused on Jesus. You can memorize Scripture (Philippians 4:8 would be a great place to start). Listening to Christian music can also help. When you find your mind wandering and focusing on boys, take those thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:4) and choose instead to focus on Scripture and the Truths of God there.

I’ve prayed for you today, Eva, and asked the Lord to help you as you seek to take your thoughts captive for Him.
Mary
so true
on Tuesday, August 21, 2012 at 4:11 pm
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this is basically my life. I was super duper boy-crazy when i was between the ages of 10 and 13. in that time i dated a few guys behind my parents back, each of them leaving me for another girl. one experience really hurt me. i've never been the same care-free girl since. after that experience, i didn't get into any relationships for a bit, but then one of my brother's friends started hanging around and it got me started again. i've been trying to stop being so boy-crazy, but it just isn't working. this blog was just what i needed
chelsea harrison
instagram
on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 at 9:16 pm
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this guy(harper) in my school made up an instagram and said it was me, well harper knows i like a guy(christian), so he started saying things on instagram and started stalking christian, but i would never do that, and know everybody thinks i am stalking christian. What should i do?
Lorree, with the LYWB team
@ Chelsea
on Thursday, March 14, 2013 at 1:09 pm
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Chelsea, I encourage you to tell your parents what is going on so they can help you walk through this trial. They can help you talk to Harper and confront him with what he did and help him learn that it wrong to do what he has done. I have prayed for your parent’s wisdom as you work through this with them and also that your friends will choose to believe your past character rather than what is being said now.