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AbbyS
Loneliness.
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 1:41 am
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Even from a seemingly "very liked" girl's perspective, I can honestly say there are times where I feel so alone every single day of my life. I feel like I'm too difficult to handle sometimes - I don't even think I'd be friends with myself if I weren't me!

But I know that's because my satisfaction and my mindset is off. Only CHRIST satisfies (ps 73!) 100%. Because my mind has been so focused on myself, I've lost sight of who truly matters.

Thanks for this post! We are having a girls fellowship soon, and I think this makes an awesome discussion topic!!
Miriam
Me too :(
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 1:59 am
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My sisters and I have felt quite lonely for some time now. But our circumstances are a little bit different. We moved to a new state about two years ago and ever since have not been able to make some good deep friendships. And the thing is, I know that "Social Networking" is not the same as having a real friendship because that is my situation right now :) We are kind of secluded, and it has had some bad effects on us. Even our oldest sister moved out and now has those friendships but.....we now barely see her.......and I do think that the Christian community in which we are living sometimes Over-does the Social life stuff, so its kind of confusing...... BUT I know that God causes ALL things to work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose. I am constantly praying! And I know that God will work things out! :)
Esther
Thankfull
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 2:07 am
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Really, really!!!!!!!!!
i give you a clap for this article!!
God is really AWESOME & YES, He created to the women with a need more deeper than all other, THE NEED of BE LOVED, BE UNDERSTOOD, BE/HAVE FRIENDS, being a mother, not necessarily natural but spiritual mother of another, be talkative...
Sometimes in the past, i felt like the women that you describe...but one day i pray for have a friend, a real friend...and God give me one, my best friend. Today have friends that are special for me, maybe they don´t be a big number but give me their hand when i have a need o give a ear and listen to me...but yes...I had to discover I can not have a friend like that, if I am not.
My name Esther, Mariaesther
many people said me in many ocations that i should give honor to my name and shine like a choosen start and many time i prefer hidden my light but my friends learn to me that JESUS is the best and Him is worthy OF ALL, REALLY I thank but this place, God use all the women who writte here to bless and speak to us.

Many times i was to feel like you describe...but i also learn that the ONLY best friend in all the EARTH is MY LORD, he never leave me.
My friends can not always be, can go to sleep and I don´t find when I'm drowning in pain, but He does not sleep, he have care, he listen when i cry and surrounds me with His wings of love.

The Enemy wants to you think that you are ALONE, but is a LIE, you HAVE a great GOD, a faithfull friend, a LOVER.

Girls...remember the PROMISES OF HIM:)
God knows your heart, your dreams and ALL that you desire...and HIM is crazy for you!!And yes...He´ll hold if you want! and even if you do not want ...
because He REINGS, AND HAVE ALL THE WORLD IN HIS HANDS.
Don´t despair if your charming prince don´t arrive...ALL have his time...and GOD is desing and endow to you and him for can be able to HONOR HIM with a beautiful marriage!!
Genevieve
Thank You
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 3:30 am
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Words can not even describe how thankful I am that you posted this. I'm home schooled and I lost all my old "friends" so I've been very lonely, despite the fact that I have a pretty big family. My grandma passed away this Valentine's day, and although I am so happy that she has finally returned home and that she is no longer suffering, I miss her because she was like a second mother to me and my #1 role model. Today was an especially hard day for me. Looking for a distraction, I checked my e-mail just now and saw the words "I'm lonely, too" and just sat there totally dazed. At first I thought it was an advertisement lol, but then I saw the "Lies Young Women Believe" and I was so happy! Just seeing those soothed my lonely heart. And the words you wrote in this post gave me hope and confidence that I am not alone.
Thank you for posting!!!!
Janice
Along the same path
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:07 am
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Thanks for the post Erin.

This would be the last topic I expected to read, mainly because I would have never realized that I'm not the only one feeling lonely!

Sometimes I would feel so much isolated by being in a room full of people, than actually being alone. I remember once this lonliness drove so deep that I stopped going to church. However coming back, I regretted doing that. It's so much harder coming back than staying at church.. I've learnt that you just need to keep hanging, no matter what the feelings are because God will come and save you.

You're so right Erin. I've also come to learn that God desires my heart so passionately. I realized that the hole in my heart can only be filled with God's unfailing and jealous love. Once I am filled with God's amazing grace, he sends me to share the cup with other lonely and broken people.

Although I still feel lonely sometimes, God deserves my whole life and he loved me and you before we even looked his way!

Love Janice.
Holly
U guys are awesome
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:13 am
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I love you guyyyysssss!!! Can you write about what to do when you're shy?
Anonymous
Thanks! :)
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:41 am
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I love love love this! Lately I've been feeling like I don't have many friends to talk to about what's been going on in my life, but I haven't recognized that it takes me being a friend back to them.
Thanks for that encouraging word of advice! :)
Meg
He fullfills all prayers, just not in the way you would expect.
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 8:05 am
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Two summers ago, I went on a trip to France and Spain with my choir. I didn't really have any friends at the time, so I spent a lot of my time lonely. I hung out with my roomates and their friends a lot, but I knew they didn't really like me. I prayed tuo be popular, and to be friends with them, or juat to have friends at all, and two months later, my prayers were answered. Instead of giving me cliquey, popular girls for friends, though, God have me my very best friend, who has really been there for me, and she really changed my life. And the funny thing, is that I asked to be popular, and unlike everyone else, she doesn't notice that I'm socially awkward. Frankly, what I got was infinitely better than what I prayed for, ao you just have to trust Him.
Mattea
Same With ME!!!
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 8:42 am
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I feel the same way..sure I have FRIENDS but ...maybe I should be the one to reach out to them and then they'll feel more comfortable and want to be around me more. I give gifts for all my friends b-day and Xmas but most of them don't give anything back!! WHAT NOW???
abbyheart
Question
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:29 am
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Here's my problem, I am having a hard time finding a girl who shares my values. I am homeschooled, so at my Church most of the youthgroup seems to think I am a naive goody two shoes. (Maybe I am naive, but I don't want to defile my mind) we don't connect because I am not boy crazy and obsessed with seeing some hot celebrity's butt in the latest movies, or listening to trashy music. I don't do that, and I don't want to start. I was really okay with that for a while, because I had an awesome youth leader, but she passed away two summers ago, and my only really close friend is graduating and heading to college in the fall.
Is there anyway liesyoungwomenbelieve could do an email prayer buddy/penpal sort of thing?
Cloie
thank you
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:31 am
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I like this post! Thank you!!! Its NOT a good feeling to feel like no one really knows you..What do you do when you feel like you cant open up to other people or are to scared or too shy to?
Thanks for the encouragement!
LindseyV
Thanks
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:40 am
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Wow, thank you so much for this post. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. There's so many people out there just desperate for someone to reach out to them...and I can do that.

...I feel afraid for my sister. She's really lonely and hurt, but reaches out less and less and stays in her room more and more. She won't really take friendship from me...I guess because she feels like she needs to be the "big sister". She needs people but she's afraid and tired. I know the feeling, (I stayed isolated for years) but it is really really unhealthy for her. Any thoughts?

(I think there will be many, many responses to this post.)
Lydia D.
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:58 am
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I completely agree with your advice Erin. Last winter I went through a really hard time, and struggled with relationships. I was hurt and pulled away from people. Then this past year I made a concious effort to try and be a friend, and I have met new people and have the beginnings of good friendships.
I also discovered last year that Jesus is my best friend. He is my Lord and Savior, but He is also my Friend and the One I can confide in.

Holly- I've always struggled with shyness until I heard it said that shyness is another form of pride. This might sound a little weird, but hang on. :) Shyness usually results from being afraid of what others think of you, or fear of man. For example, if your in at youth group and there's a new girl over in the corner. You want to go over and talk to her, but you're stopped by a thought like "What if I say something stupid? Or what if I have met her before, and I just don't remember? Will she be offended?"
Though it may not seem like it, we are being stopped by not wanting to ruin our reputation and image. And this is actually pride.
I really struggled with this. My mom was the one who came and convicted me for being prideful. I didn't receive her correction, and had to learn some really tough lessons. So, you may not agree with this, but that's what I've learned about shyness. I hope it helps!
RachelAllison
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 10:35 am
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Thank you so much for sharing this post, Erin. :) It's given me lots to think about.
Meagan
Just what I needed!
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 10:37 am
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It's so easy to feel lonely. I attend a Christian college, and even there where you think you're surrounded by friends, it's so easy to feel completely alone. This post really challenged me to go make new friends and let God use me in someone's life.
One thing I think we have to be careful of is not just trying to find out more information about the girls around us. This could lead to gossip which could hurt someone very badly. We have to have a genuine concern for those other girls around us. (That's where the friendship comes in :) )
Thank you so much for this post! I'm going to share it with the girls in my prayer group tonight! :)
Kayla
I love this! :)
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 10:47 am
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I really love this! You guys are awesome! :) ¢¾ Yes, I agree with Holly, can you write something about what do when you are shy? :D
Darby
wow...God answers prayers
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 10:58 am
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two days ago i was talking to one of my friends and telling them how lonely i felt. That i was tired of it. I have a HUGE problem with trust that i'm working on and it effected my friendships. I didn't want to get hurt so I stayed a distances away. Reading this was such a blessing... Reminded me that God hears my prayers.
Shanni
How?
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 11:01 am
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How do we go about reaching out to those who are lonely? How do we know who they are? How do we know who needs us?
Kayla
Trust issues...
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 11:24 am
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My former best friend and I had a fight and now we're not friends anymore and we were very, very good friends. When we had the fight and became no longer friends I felt like I could no longer trust any of my friends. I have trust issues and I don't want it anymore. How can I trust my friends again?? It feels like one day my friends are going to turn on me and not wanna be my friend anymore.
O.
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 12:05 pm
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I used to really have problems with being lonely, but God has used that to teach me.
Even when you are completely alone, God is enough! God is enough, no matter what. I know that it doesn't feel like that when your so lonely, but that loneliness you feel? God can fill that void. I had to learn that the hard way.

"But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." -2 Corinthians 12:9-10

God knows what you can handle. God knows what you need. He'll never give you more than you can handle when you lean and depend on Him.
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." -1 Peter 5:7

abbyheart- I used to have that same problem. But, God provided a friend for me, even though she lives 4 hours away. Friends aren't a necessity, but they are so helpful and important to us. Could you maybe switch youth groups? I know that sounds awful, but I started attending another youth group in addition to mine (which sounds like yours), and the people there believed the same things I did and were actually pursuing God. I really hope that you find a friend!

Thanks for this great blog post!
Heidi H.
Thank You!
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 12:46 pm
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Thank you SO much for writing this article! I have been having a hard time with this at school. I go to a boarding school (but it is 30 minutes away from my family so I come home on the weekends), and I am surrounded by people all the time, yet it's so easy to feel alone and for awhile I have been really wanting some close friends that I can be 'real' with. Erin, thank you for challenging me to love the girls around me. I've heard the quote before that is something along the lines of 'We're blessed by blessing others.' The other comments about this post have encouraged me that I'm not the only girl facing this, and it is SO nice to know that I'm not alone! But I agree with Shanni - how do we reach the lonely? What does this mean for us?
EmilyJ
Yeah...
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 1:47 pm
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I struggle with this too. I do have a really great friend who I love and can be open with more then anyone else, but she lives kinda far away and we don't see eachother very oftan.
I actually heard someone on here a couple weeks ago say something like loneliness was God's call to my heart, and I like that alot(: Thats a cool way to think of it. But its still hard sometimes.. were meant to have friends.

and @abbyheart, I have almost the exact same problem. All the way from not really having a friend who shares my values, to the kids at church thinking I'm some goody-goody because I'm homeschooled :/ I don't really have anything helpful to say, but just so you know, I'm there too.
Meghan
Friendless for a reason?
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 2:23 pm
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Does God sometimes not put friends in a person's life to draw them closer to Him? I am at a stage in life where God has seemingly said no to having friends around me. I have two or three friends, but only one of them is a really good friend who I can talk about my faith with. One friend (my really good friend) I haven't seen in three years because she lives in a different country, the other lives a few hours away and I only get to see her a few times a year. The last, I only see once or twice every couple months because she too lives farther away. My lack of friends is not because I don't work at friendships. I have been raised in a very different way than most people and I find that everyone around me is so different that by hanging out with them, I am just exposing myself to things I believe are wrong. The language, jokes, beliefs, and way everyone around me dresses is repulsive to me and I prefer to guard myself from them. Could God be saying no to friends, or am I doing something wrong?
Julie (A lily Among Thorns)
Re: abbyheart
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 2:36 pm
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I think it would be nice to be able to connect with gilrs that way..a prayer email thing. I'll be praying for you. I like this post, thanks for sharing.
~anon~
God using us as blessings to the outcasts.
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 4:12 pm
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There's a boy who isn't popular in my school (I'm in high school, 9th grade). I went to elementary school with him. He was picked on a lot before and though he still receives some teasing now it seems to have subsided and people in general seem to be kinder to him, more accepting. I have prayed for him before and will sometimes say something silly to him in an attempt to make him smile. I love it when it works; I like to see him smile :)

Today in gym class we were told to get with partners. My female friend who I always go with (so long as she's there that day) went with a different girl. I was just thinking, "?? Um ok, who do I go with?" I ended up being in a group of three with that boy and another unpopular boy.

At first I was thinking people were going to label me as uncool - but then, I really don't care much what people think, and I'm *not* popular, I'm aware. I was enjoying myself during class and at some point I realized something: God was using me to be a blessing to this boy. Multiple times I made him smile, and he laughed some, too. :) I was really happy.

It wasn't that big of a deal my usual partner abandoned me; it allowed God to use me as a blessing to someone else. A few weeks ago I may have just gotten mad at the girl who left me, but now I can see that sometimes God allows the occurance of things that we would initially view as bad in order use us as a blessing for another. I am very happy about what happened in gym class today. :)
Megan
Re. Anon
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 5:07 pm
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Hi Erin, this is so true! I always want God to give me more friends. I love the ones I have but still often feel left out and lonely.

Hey Anon, just wanted to say that your post was a massive encouragement to me. I've had to work really hard this year and I worry that I'm not as 'in' with my friends as I used to be and it really hurts when I feel left out. You've encouraged me that I should always be selfless and try and be a blessing to whoever I end up hanging out with.
Vic
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 5:11 pm
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Yeah, Sometimes I feel lonely....
I am an out going person and I have a lot of friends but not good edifying friendships. Recently hanging out with the girls in my Christian school caused discontentment in my life. I only see one other girl with the same convictions as me but she is kind of shy and hard to talk to. I am still trying to pursue a friendship with her. Right now I'm just praying God might send me a godly friend. But, I am enjoying this time resting in Him!
Heidi
A Lonely Girl
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 5:12 pm
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I officially have 60 friends on facebook. I hang out with a bunch of different people, but it's just hanging out. A lot of them have their own agendas and friends and are just hanging out with me when there is no one else to hang out with. I have one really close friend, but she has so many other friends and hangs with them more than me (yeah, i'll admit, i'm the kind of person to keep track.) And, another thing i have to admit is that when i first read the facts, right away, the thought that was going through my mind was that i had to share this post on facebook so everyone can see it and start being a better friend to me. boy was it a slap in the face when i kept reading.

obviously this is something i need to work on

but i have trouble also with people hanging around me that do NOT have good values, have awful language, and do things that aren't good. the reason? i tried being nice to them because no one liked them, so i would say hi and maybe ask about their weekend, but now, they think that means that we get to be all buddy buddy or something, when in reality, that's not true, because i don't want to hang out with people who could eventually cause me to stumble (and probably inevitably, after all, it is easier to pull someone standing on a chair down, than it is to pull someone standing on the floor up onto the chair.) any suggestion for help???? bible verses?????? past experiences????? it would all help, anything, just HELP!!!!!!!!!!
AbbyJoy
At College
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 5:50 pm
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I go to a large Christian college, and I have begun feeling very disconnected from my friends for the two years since I started living off campus. Every time I see one of my good friends, I have the urge to stop them and talk for hours. Unfortunately, we all lead very busy lives. Getting the chance to sit down with them and talked comes at unplanned times in-between classes, before work, or sometimes on the weekends. I feel like I need someone outside my family to turn to once in a while. But your point about reaching out to others is right on! Christian girls need to pursue and build friendships that help someone else, not the ones that just boost their egos. Thanks for the post! What an encouraging read!
Melon
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 5:58 pm
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Thank you for this post, I was just thinking about my relationship with my friends recently. Sometimes I feel like I am listening to my friends but I'm actually not listening, so I had to keep on asking them the same question:/ There is this girl in my school really need some help, because she just bragging about the things she is doing(which are not something to be proud of) to everyone. I feel so sorry for her, I feel like I need to help her but just don't know how. And its really hard when all my friend are gossiping about her, and I just need strength to not join in.
I<3 relientk morgan
Friend-wanter by society; loner by nature
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:07 pm
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I really liked the post today. I actually felt sort of abandoned by my friends this weekend. I wanted them to come with me to certain booths when we went to a career fair. Neither of them did. I felt so alone and disconnected. I even sat by myself on the bus ride back to school, but the sad part was that my friends and I were all O.K. with me being a bit of a loner.
I do want friends but I think that I am a natural loner. I thought that for a while. Then one day my guy friend defended me in front of these girls he is friends with but those girls HATE me. He defended me and risked his acceptance in that group just so I would not get orally bashed more than I already was.
I am very thankful that I was sent this friend very recently. (I just started talking to guys this year, in eighth grade). The friendships I have with guys are great but I also want some girl friends that I can always know will be there for me no matter what we all go through. I want a great relationship but with a girl.
Is it bad that I feel closer to my guy friends than to my girl friends? Yes, my girls and I are close but I don't know for a fact that they would defend me so. I feel a little guilty that I think such thoughts but it is the truth of my heart speaking. I am a friend-wanter because our society says so but now I think that I am meant to be a loner.
P.s. Is it a bad thing to be close to my guy friends even though I don't have any romantic undertones?
Becka4Christ
This really spoke to me
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:21 pm
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I'm going through an extremely lonely stage at the moment, so this post really spoke to me. I have a very close friend, who's a guy, and a few reasonably close girl friends, but two of these girls are younger and I feel like I need to be the mentor, and the other two are older and starting uni this year, which means I'll see them less and less. I'm also not totally close to God right now. Please can I have some advice? Or...encouragement, or prayer, or whatever you have time for...

Your sis in Christ,
Becka
sarah s
exactly how i feel
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:46 pm
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Wow! Can't wait for Ur next posts Erin! This is how I have been feeling for like the past year! While I was reading this I thought of a girl who I could reach out to! I gave it God and I gained a new friend but if I start being a better friend reaching out to the lonely I think I will be freed from this! Thanks so much! You girls are always encouraging!
Thanks,
Sarah
www.wearedaughtersoftheking.webs.com
Abigail
Friends
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:52 pm
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I recently have made three or four really really close friends! I'm so thankful that God has put these people in my life because I am currently going through some major problems. God uses our friendships to take care of us ^_^ But before these friendships, I was alone. I only had one "friend" who I talked to and hung out with. But even that friend was not someone I could actually talk to. To be honest though, my loneliness brought me to God! He used my bad situations for His good purpose ^_^ if you are lonely, put your trust and faith in God who will never abandon you.
Madeline
Fear of Man
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 7:54 pm
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Thanks for posting this. I am surprised by how many other girls have expressed feelings of loneliness.

In response to Lydia D.'s comment- I too have struggled with loneliness as a result of fear of man. I hesitate to trust people, often doubt myself, and pull away from people because I am afraid of damaging my pride. The Lord has convicted me of this, and is constantly working in my heart in this area. He is teaching me to find my security in Him and to seek His honor through loving others instead of seeking praise of man. Jesus has become my dearest Friend. Loneliness is still a struggle for me, but God is faithful and He will bring to completion the good works He has begun in us. We are not alone, sisters!
Kayla
Some loneliness...
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 8:00 pm
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I am dealing with some loneliness too...it is not fun. I have friends but it is just hard to hang out with them because of school and a lot of homework. :(
kelsey
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 8:43 pm
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Well i can totally relate to the idea of feeling lonely...I had this great friend she was amazing!! Then my family moved and i was shoved into a new house, new state, the city, and a new school!!!!! AHHHHH I know that it can be scary...I remember laying in bed just crying to God because i didn't have any friends....Then i met this really really really nice girl at school...She and i clicked and to this day were still super good friends...I thought that God would answer my prayers by bringing me thousands of great girlfriends, but he brought me one and i have spent a lot of time investing in her and making sure that i am being just as friendly as i want her to be....I could never have asked for a better friend...In fact she is like my only friend but hey one is all that matters!


to abbeyheart: i don't really know what it is like to be home schooled and what not, but i do go to church with kids just like you.. :D all i can say is don't give up...It may seem like forever, but God will give you friends who have the same values as you! And NEVER EVER forget your values just for a friendship. Let me tell you it is not worth it!!! I will be praying for you..God has that right friend out there for you...Let them come in His timing!
Kayla
Love this<3
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:00 pm
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I love your posts Erin. :) They soo make my day, because they are really interesting and soo true! :)

Thank you,
Kayla :)
Kayla
Cool!
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:08 pm
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I don't really need/want a lot of friends. I would just really like one true bestfriend. :)
chocolate
Re:
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 9:46 pm
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Wow! This really hit home! I'm shy and quiet, and homeschooled. I feel so out of everything my friends do. But Jesus is my true friend that sticks by me and is always there.=D
Thanks Lydia D. for reminding me of the pride in shyness!
KingsDaughter
abbyheart
on Tuesday, March 6, 2012 at 10:48 pm
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hey girl, i thought i was only one in world where i just don't fit in properly anywhere. just like i don't do all those stuff and doe want to start. but its hard to find that friend you sit with and have a positive conversation with and don't turn negative. I'm glad to see i am not the only.

I love this blog erin, don't stop keep talking what God shows you cause i want to learn more.

In all in all God is the bestest friend anyone can ever ask for but yet we still feel lonely sometimes.
Elaine
Re:
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 7:27 am
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I realllly like this post! Us kids in our family were pretty lonely years after we moved here. It was harder on my older sister because she is an extravert and I'm an intrevert, but I felt it too. Now I have a few friends. My first close friend taught me a good way to try to make close friends. She asked me one day when we were on the phone if there was anything that she could pray for me for. At the time our relationship was wavering. We became really close friends after that, encourageing eachother in the Lord. I have used that since with some of my friends that our relationship was wavering.
Commitment
Meaningful friendship
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 10:10 am
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With all the distractions in this busy life, I try to seek out true friends and not just "good time" friends. Meaningful friendship is like having meaningful relationship with GOD. It requires commitment. The problem in today's world is exactly that.
Cloie
this is gr8
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 1:30 pm
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this is gr8 hearing from other girls. somehow we get the feeling that we are the only ones in the whole world who feel lonely and stuff like that.
Madeline, thankx for your post. I too struggle alot with the fear of man and insecurity...
Praise God we are not alone!!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Mattea
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:32 pm
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Mattea, I encourage you to continue to reach out to your friends. Giving gifts is a great way to show your love to others. Even if they don’t return a gift to you, you have followed the leading of the Lord on your heart and that is very, very special. Don’t give up on reaching out to others, Mattea! They will be blessed to have a friend like you.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Lindsey V
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:33 pm
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Thank you for your heart for your sister, Lindsey. I encourage you to continue to reach out to her and look for ways to serve her and minister to her heart. Leave her notes. Bake her cookies. Send her an e-card. Do some of her chores. Invite her to go on a walk with you. Even though you are the “little sister”, she will be blessed by knowing you care and are demonstrating your love to her. Praying for you and your sister today, Lindsey!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Shanni
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:33 pm
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Thank you, Shanni, for your excellent questions. I can tell you are beginning to apply Erin’s teaching to your life and that is great! Loneliness is not something that is easily discernible. It’s easy to paste on a happy face and to steel feel alone inside. I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord to show you who to reach out to. As we learn to listen and see with God’s eyes and ears, we can trust that He will show us who needs a friend.

It never hurts to be kind to everyone we meet and to cultivate an encouraging and grateful spirit in our own hearts. Our words are so powerful. I often use Eph. 4:29 as a guideline for what to say. Look at who tends to stay off by themselves, those who are made fun of, those who appear sad or angry. Those are great places to start. Praying that God will use you in a mighty way to minister to the lonely and to fill the lonely places in your own heart.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Heidi H
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:34 pm
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Heidi, you are not alone in this at all! Thank you for wanting to reach out and be a blessing to someone else. You are right, it reaching out to someone, God will warm your heart and bless you, too. I responded to Shanni and gave some suggestions--the biggest one being to pray and ask God to give you His eyes for those around you. When you sense that He is telling you to connect with someone, obediently follow His lead. You can trust that He has your best interest at the center of His heart. I’m asking the Lord to open your eyes to see others as He does.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Reliantk Morgan
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:35 pm
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Great questions, friend. We did a couple of blogs on relationships with guys a while back. I hope you take the time to read these (http://tinyurl.com/73bxgpk and http://tinyurl.com/79g3c6t).

Guys aren’t our enemies. It is wonderful to have non-romantic friendships with guys. But it is also important to have friendships with girls. I’ve prayed for you today, friend, and asked the Lord to show you who needs your friendship and to give you the courage to be a friend to her. While you are waiting for that friendship, remember that God is the best friend you could possibly have. I encourage you to spend time with the Lord by reading His Word and praying. He will love you, guide you and He will never leave you nor forsake you! What a wonderful friend He is!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Becka4Christ
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 3:36 pm
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Oh, sweet friend, the best thing I can advise you is to get in the Word and spend time with God each day. He promises us that when we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us (Jas. 4:8). I also encourage you to look around you and see who might need a friend. It may not even be anyone your age – perhaps an older woman in your church might need a friend to come along side of her – even mentors are lonely. Then you’d have the blessing of a mentor and a friend.

I’ve prayed for you and asked the Lord to allow you to see others as He does and to have sensitivity to those around you who might need your friendship. As you reach out to others and befriend them, they will return your love to you. I know God has a way through this as you choose to put Him first, and reach out to others (1 Cor. 10:13). Hang in there, Becka!
Heather Sv.
Re:
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 6:25 pm
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I've always been sort of a loner. I have one friend on campus, a guy.. and I'm his only friend too. For some reason, the people on campus and in my Christian club don't really care too much for me. They'll say that I'm funny and cool, but I guess I'm not cool enough to be part of their group. Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me that people don't care about me. I'd almost rather if they disliked me than not ever see me. It's not like I have a bad personality.. I'm just kinda weird. I like to be corky and silly, so maybe that's it. But I can't help being who I am. It's whatever, though. Maybe I'll look for people who are lonely and try to befriend them.
Michelle
abbyheart
on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 at 8:22 pm
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I am also somewhat of an outsider in regards to the whole trashy music and boy crazy stuff. I don't have very many friends and the ones I do have we aren't close enough to really talk. I love the idea of a penpal or email thing so if anyone knows of one to join or anything please let me know!
LindseyV
RE Loree
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 10:08 am
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Hey, thanks so much for responding and praying Lorree! Those are some good ideas too. <3
Sarah Nicole
My very long friendship story.
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 10:32 am
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I am sort of in the same boat with Becka4Christ:

I usually hang out with guys, because right now that is all I have. But I can't really have a heart-to-heart with them.
I have very few girl-friends, but most of them are too busy, don't have the same/any faith, live an hour away, or are younger than me so I don't feel I can talk to them.
I am not totally close to God right now either. But I am praying that God will bring me and all you girls what you need.
Any advice or….anything would be helpful.
Hugs- Sarah Nicole.
ashley
im lonely too
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 1:33 pm
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being lonely isnt bad well im not lonely but girls who are ur lucky because u dont have to deal with argueing and the lies and being deppressed if they cheat and being lonely helps alot there is a reason your lonely because God has a plan for you
Elizabeth
I completely agree
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:41 pm
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This article is probably more relevant to me than any other subject out there. My family has been "excommunicated" from two separate churches because we believed that some of the main points of those ministries were not Biblical. I continued going to the youth group of one of those churches, and hardly anyone would even speak to me. In less than two years, I had lost nearly every friend that I had, and no one would even look my way if I happened to see them somewhere.
Later in the year that we left the second church, I made a friend that I was closer to within weeks than I had been through my entire life with the girls from our previous churches. We could confide in each other and discuss pretty much anything. But then, for very complicated reasons, we were not allowed tospend time with her family anymore. I was devastated and suffered from horrible depression for several years, snapping at everyone and being very rebellious. I decided that I wasn't going to try and make any new friends because I didn't want to have to bear breaking that friendship.
But God helped me through all of it, through ways I cannot even begin to comprehend or remember clearly enough to say "THAT is exactly where God helped me turn my life around." I am still struggling with making new friends, but I believe that it is an improving struggle.

Thank you so much for your article. I guess I'm not the only one who feels lonely after all. :)
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Heidi
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:46 pm
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Thank you, Heidi, for reaching out to the lonely in your life. There are different kinds of friendships. Check out Erin’s blog on 3/8/12. It is important that you also have strong friendships – people who love the Lord and will encourage you, pray for you and hold you accountable in your walk with the Lord. It takes time, courage and work to get beyond the surface and risk becoming friends on a deeper level.

You could ask your godly friends to join you in reaching out to the lonely. There’s strength in numbers. And as you pray for your new friends and invest in their lives, you may find that Christ’s love is reaching out to them through your friendship.

If you ever find that these friendships are pulling you down, and weakening your walk with the Lord, Heidi, you can gather your praying friends around you to pray, spend time in the Word and get your strength from the Lord to keep going strong. Your relationship with God is what will keep you strong in your walk here on earth (2 Cor. 12:9-10). Praying for you, Heidi and asking God to strengthen your resolve to be a good friend.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Kayla
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:47 pm
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Hey, Kayla! I’m so sorry to hear about what happened with your best friend. One thing about friends is that they will come and go. As you grow and the seasons of your life changes, friendships change, too. That’s why it is so important to have a deep, growing friendship/relationship with God. He is the only One in this life who never changes (Mal. 3:6) and can be trusted 100% of the time (Ps. 56:3-4). He will always be your friend. His steadfast love never ends (Lam. 3:22-23).

Please take the time to check out Erin’s blog on friendships posted on 3/8/12. Trust is something that you can learn to do again. It will involve choosing to risk being hurt so that you can be blessed through new friendship. God has girls who will love being friends with you, Kayla. I encourage you to be courageous and continue to reach out to those around you! I’m praying for you!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Meghan
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:48 pm
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What a great question, Meghan! I went through something like that, too, many years ago. It seemed like God removed all my sources of security until the only One left to turn to for the help I desperately needed was God. What a difficult yet wonderful season of my life that was! I didn’t know I was turning to people to have my needs met rather than God. But God knew my heart and my needs and worked these difficult changes in relationships for my good. I learned to put Him first place in my heart and that He was the best Friend I could ever have.

I’ve prayed for you, Meghan, and asked God to open your eyes to others in your life who may have the same values as you do and who could encourage you in your walk with the Lord rather than pulling you away from Him. Stay close to God, friend! His love is steadfast and His mercies are new every morning (Lam. 3:22-25).
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Abbyheart
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:49 pm
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I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling with friendships in your church. I’ve prayed for you today and asked the Lord to show you someone who is lonely and would love to be friends with you. We are all sinners in desperate need of a Savior. Sometimes if we take the time to get beyond the surface stuff (music, videos and guys), we find that each of us struggle with many of the same things. I wonder if you were able to get one-on-one with some of the girls in your youth group if you would find someone you could relate with on a deeper level.

About the email/pen pal thing, I’m sorry, but we cannot share your information or allow you to share your contact information with each other because we want to keep you safe. You are always welcome to share things and prayer requests with each other in the comment section.

Remember, Abbyheart, we do need friends with skin on – people we can see, touch and share a coke with. We need to pursue these friendships first and our cyber friends second. So I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord to show you who you can reach out to for friendship. Erin blogged today (3/8) on the different types of friends we need. I hope you take the time to read that blog, friend.
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Cloie
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:50 pm
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Oh, sweet Cloie. It is risky business to put yourself out there and be vulnerable looking for friendship. Even shy people need friends. I’ve prayed for you today, friend, and have asked God to give you a spirit of courage (Jos. 1:9) and desire to befriend someone around you. God has created us to be in relationship with others. Our enemy tries to keep us isolated by instilling fear and discouragement. But God wants us to give us life by connecting with others who canencourage, pray, support and connect with us. I encourage you to take the risk and reach out, Cloie! Someone will be greatly blessed by having you as a friend!
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Kayla
on Thursday, March 8, 2012 at 4:51 pm
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We’ll make sure that Erin knows about your idea for a blog! Thanks for the suggestion.
Meghan
Lorree
on Friday, March 9, 2012 at 10:08 am
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Thank you Lorree for your prayers!
Tessa
Thank you!
on Friday, March 9, 2012 at 5:48 pm
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This is very relevant to me and what's been on my mind and my heart lately. Thank you very much for the encouragement :)
Vanilla
Re:
on Saturday, March 10, 2012 at 2:10 pm
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I've felt alone a lot recently. The people I sit with every day at lunch are graduating in a couple months. And no one in my class really cares about spending time with me. There's one girl that's super nice, but she's friends with everyone, so normally she doesn't spend much time wiht me. I'm so tired of being alone and being the one person excluded from something they're all doing together. Like a couple days ago someone invited everyone else in the room to get coffee together the next day. I was the only one not invited. It hurts to see something like that happen right before your eyes. When I saw them all at the coffee shop, I felt so alone, and I felt like such a dork. I don't expect everyone to like me, but it would be nice if a few more people liked me! I prayed about it for awhile last night, and God did comfort me some, but at the same time we need someone physical beside us. God designed it that way - for us to have a desire to be friends with others. LYWB, thanks for the message. It makes me sad to see what other girls are going through, but it helps me to realize that I'm not alone in my loneliness.
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Re: My very long friendship story
on Monday, March 12, 2012 at 5:31 pm
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Hey, Sarah Nicole ~

I’m glad you’re here on the LYWB blog. Getting right with God is THE most important step, friend. Our relationship with God totally impacts our relationship with friends.

Can you talk to your mom or your pastor/youth pastor about what’s keeping you from a close walk with Jesus? Will you do it today, friend? Nothing is more important!

Praying for you.
MoniqueHeartSong
Lonlieness
on Thursday, March 15, 2012 at 8:16 pm
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Everyday i go to school i feel like i am the last girl standing nobody wants to be around me my parents are telling me try to find friends that will make you feel good about your self but lately that has been harder that i thought
Becca
Re:
on Saturday, March 17, 2012 at 12:18 am
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Hey! I totally agree with this...and I get lonely sometimes too. I have a lot of friends....but I feel like I am always just the "buddy" the out-going girl who not many people actually get to know...I mean I do have awesome friends...but I feel like I don't have many friendships...if you know what I mean =P I just don't like to share my feelings...and I guess people take that as I don't want to be close....do you have any advice? I'm just tired of always acting happy and loud and fun...but inside I feel like nobody cares that much...
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Becca
on Wednesday, March 21, 2012 at 1:53 pm
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Hey, Becca,

Thanks for being transparent. Sounds like the Lord is working in this area of your life… and that’s a great thing, friend! Close friendships do develop over time as we get to know the hurts, fears, joys and dreams of other people… and as we begin sharing honestly from our own life in those same areas.

Ask the Lord to help you see what keeps you, at times, from being authentic with your friends, Becca? What’s causing you to feel you need to be the “loud, happy, funny” one? What would it look like for your friends to know the real Becca…the one who was intimately created by her Heavenly Father and is unbelievably loved by Him today!

Praying for you, precious friend!
Jazzy101
Feeling Alone A lot as Well but Findind some hope! :)
on Tuesday, April 17, 2012 at 3:07 pm
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Hi!!!

I'm sooo glad I came across this post!! That's how I often feel all the time!! I'm finally recovering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and my younger brother is so needy as well more then I am because I'm heailng and that's why I like being at school because I love being around people!! I am healing, but there's times when flash-backs home etc and there's no one to go to and some-times when your folks are so busy it's like all I can do is turn to God.

And I hate feeling invisible some-times at home, I don't feel like that when I'm at school though, however one of the worship song God sings over me that I holod tightly too is: "You make the stars in the sky and you know me by name! You are an amazing God!"

:)

It's just hard, I do have a spiritual mentor.
I have some friends kind of, not like ones I used to have and it's hard, but despite all this unwanted pain and everything God is bringing an old friend back in my life after 7 years!!! :) He likes a lot of the same things I do and is a believer!! :)

Any verses to recommend especially when your Mom is focusing mostly on her attention on my younger brother?

Thanks!!! :)

Blessings on this wonderful ministry!! :)
I hope to hear what you have to say!! :)
anonymous
Re:
on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 12:51 am
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I feel alone all the time. I don't like being around people because my parents n sisters n my friends make fun of me. Usually about how quiet and awkward I am n how I look. I'm 15, home schooled, so I'm by myself anyway. I stay in my room a most of the time. I can't sleep a lot, n every day I get so angry at myself n want to cry n scream. I don't like myself nd I always feel ugly, fat, n stupid. I also cut myself. I was saved when I was little but now I don't understand about God n I don't feel like anyone cares. I'm too scared n embarrassed to tell people everything.II don't have many friends, I don't think the ones I do have would understand . I feel so depressed n alone, I don't know what to do
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Jazzy101
on Thursday, April 19, 2012 at 3:09 pm
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I am so thankful that you are finding the need to turn to God. That is the best thing you can do for yourself, sweet friend! Parents and friends are great, but they are human and will fail you at some point in time. God is the only One who is there for you all the time, everywhere you are and will never leave you, forsake you or fail you!

I encourage you to reach out to your parents, your mom especially. Look for ways you can minister to her by helping around the house, with your brother and just doing things to lighten her load. Ask her out on a date – she could probably use some time away from the house and the struggles your family is dealing with. Parents hurt terribly when their children go through difficult times – as you have been. Love her with the love of the Lord.

Would you consider memorizing Philippians 2:1-11? These are great verses for looking at life through the eyes of Christ. I’m praying for you, sweet friend!
Carrie, with the LYWB team
Anonymous
on Monday, April 23, 2012 at 4:10 pm
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Precious friend, as I read your post I thought of the verse in Isaiah 62:5 which says, As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so your God will rejoice over you. Can you imagine that the Lord is, even now, rejoicing over you? He is! He delights in you. For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty Savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With His love, He will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs (Zephaniah 3:17).

My heart is sad to know your family is unable to speak words of encouragement into your life. That’s hard, my friend…that is very hard. But God’s love for you is not dependent upon your family or friends; it’s not dependent upon your looks, your intelligence or your abilities. In fact, nothing; absolutely nothing will ever be able to separate you from His love. Nothing you will ever do can change His love for you! The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. “The LORD is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in Him (Lam. 3:22-24).”
Believing His love for you will transform your life, my friend. The Bible will come alive to you… you’ll begin to see the depth of God’s love for you on every page. His love will transform the way you think, the way you speak and the way you respond to other people. Believing His love is the key to gaining freedom from fears, loneliness and our desperate need to be loved and accepted.
If you will contact me at info@reviveourhearts.com I’ll send you a book that will help you on your journey of embracing His love for you, dear friend.
I’m praying 1 John 4:16 for you today, my friend. “We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us.”
Abby
A lonely girl
on Thursday, April 26, 2012 at 12:33 am
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This article seriously describes my life. I have been struggling terribly lately with my relationship with my friends. I basically have a group of 3 friends, one of them has always been my BEST friend. The other two will talk to me, but theyre mostly there for my best friend. anyways, me and her played basketball together and we grew really close, we talked to eachother about everything.

Well lately she's been acting really different. Pretty much the only reason she talks to me lately is to either make fun of me (she thinks she's being funny but it really stings) or to ask me for something. And then whenever one of the other girls is around, it's like I don't even exist. well actually I exist, but she gives me this look like 'don't you dare come anywhere near this conversation you don't get to hear it.' I am very bluntly excluded, and it happens often. They actually do a lot of it behind my back too, they just think I'm too stupid to realize it.

I'm just really struggling with this hurt. If I could get some prayer, or bible verses or something to help me out, I would be so grateful. 
-Abby
Lorree, with the LYWB team
Abby
on Thursday, April 26, 2012 at 2:14 pm
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Hey, Abby! I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time with your friends. We don’t realize how painful and damaging our words can be to each other. Have you thought about humbly speaking to your best friend and sharing with her how her words are hurting you? Erin did a couple of blogs recently on how our words can hurt (4/16/12, 4/17/12).

I encourage you to pray and see who God shows you who need a friend. Then make a decision to be a good friend to that person. Romans12:9-21 is a great passage to read and implement in a situation where we are struggling in our friendships. Our “natural man” will want to retaliate and hurt back. But God says to do just the opposite. I encourage you to pray for your friend, Abby, and ask God if you should speak privately with her and when. I also encourage you to let your parents know what is going on so they can be supporting you in prayer. Jesus knows exactly how you feel as His friends didn’t always treat Him well, either. Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you (Jas. 4:8). I’m praying for you today, Abby.
Julie
Thoughts
on Thursday, December 13, 2012 at 10:19 am
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I just discovered this blog yesterday, and I really like it! (I am probably making excuses for myself to take break from studying for finals:))
I definitely feel lonely a lot of times, even thought I'm surrounded by brothers and sisters in Christ. When looking at other girls with their best friend that they've known since they were a little kid; I just hope that I have someone like that too, the "friendship" that belongs to us. A lot of times, I tried hard to join the group that I wanted to hang out with, but I just don't feel connected well.
I've been struggling with friendship since I was little, and even till now. Because of my insecurity-causing jealousy, anger, comparison, I've lost a lot of close friends.
When I wasn't included in an event or wasn't participating in an activity (like writing a card together, those small activities that you would just naturally ask your friend to do with instead of others), I instantly felt lonely and a little unworthy. Even thought it does not seem a big deal to them, but in my mind I'm going through a hard battle, insecurity telling me all lies- they like you less, you are not good enough, and most of the time I fell into the lies.
I just want to let God to heal the wounds inside me. But I don't know how he is going to do this and how I am going to hear from Him. It is hard to believe that he will heal this part of me, but I will need to trust Him.
I wanted to pray to Him that he will show me what true friendship is, how He will heal and change my heart and ask Him to give me a close friend that I've been longing for (a friend that I wanted her to need me as well). I wanted to feel the love from Him, and to have an intimate relationship with Jesus.
Sarah, with the LYWB team
@Julie...
on Saturday, December 15, 2012 at 11:37 pm
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I don't know of many girls that have not experienced much of what you are going through. The search for deep and satisfying relationships is certainly common to all of us, but yours seems to have brought you even more grief than usual. I encourage you, Julie, to do just as you said--PRAY and ask God to fill the deep hurting places of your heart and become to you a sweet and loyal Friend. As I read your post I was reminded of the song that says: "And You are my brother Even though You are a King. I love You more than any other, So much more than anything. You alone are my strength, My shield." I pray that for you, Julie. I pray you will know the depth of His love and fellowship. That is found through prayer and reading His Word. He ministers grace through His Word. And, as you find fellowship in Him, diligently seek Him for a friend to share life's journey. Know that I am praying for you this night.
jocelyn
Feeling alone
on Tuesday, December 18, 2012 at 6:11 pm
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I can say that I have felt alone in life where u think that no cares about u. There were times where all I wanted to do was to give up and want to die because to me being alone was not fun. I struggled with this and I still do but to me at that time dying was all I could think of but if I just give up people will say see I told you. I grew up feeling alone till I turned 19 1/2 and realized that God doesn't want me to feel alone anymore. But its sooooooooo hard to feel alone
kenzie
Glad i found this site :)
on Tuesday, February 12, 2013 at 5:18 pm
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Yep...some loneliness has been going on for some months...longer actually..but i'm more aware of it now. It's been especially in high school. I feel i am the only Christian girl in my school..at least the only one who's willing to stand up and stick to her standards. Everyone else is always talking about sex and drugs and i can't relate to any of that. I try saying maybe you shouldn't do that...but they say: well how would you know you've never done that! So, i sorta don't talk much...Also i am drawn to the outsiders...to the people others exclude...i don't know why...i've just aways been naturally drawn to be friends with them..usually when that happens everyone else stops talking to me or excludes me cuz i hang out with this person which didn't used to bother me until recently.

I've always been the girl who can pretty much get along with anybody...or try to. So i have lots of acquaintances or people that i thought were my friends...but then i notice they slowly start to drift or we just don't have anything in common anymore...or we can't relate cuz i'm a Christian. I don't have a true friend..a best friend. My dad would probably be my best friend...nope Jesus...cuz there's some things i can't tell my dad. But i guess part of my loneliness is that i haven't been talking to Jesus a lot. But even when i do..i can't "hear" the Holy Spirit like i used to..it feels like i'm talking to a wall sometimes even though i know God is listening.

So, in school i feel alone. In youth group too...i don't know why..but lately in school and youth group..i act nice and friendly to people and even though i want a friend...i don't put in much energy learning about them...maybe i think i've done this so many times...i'm sorta tired of giving everything...and then either getting nothing back or them drifting away. It's sooo hard to open up..and it usually takes me awhile to open up..but i've been in this youth group for a year..and i still feel i have no friends.During prayer i've heard people pray over me saying i have a hard heart. That makes me sad...but i don't know how and am sorta wary of opening up. In youth group..i feel i can't relate to anyone...i feel so far behind from everyone else spiritually. And there's really only one girl my age...the others all have a "group" the rest are 20. I almost had a true friend in my old youth group..but then i had to leave that one because we moved churches...we still keep in touch...but i find i'm very lazy in actually setting up dates to hang.

So, how come i'm so lazy in this area? i know a lot of the reason i don't have friends is me...yet...i feel so weary and worn to do anything about it. Lately i just feel like crying.. Does anyone know where i'm coming from? :) Reading this article though has helped me realize i need to be a better friend...and focus on Him not me...thank you!
Carrie, with the LYWB team
@kenzie
on Monday, February 18, 2013 at 9:33 pm
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I’m glad you found this site too! I want you to know I’m praying Psalm 143:8 for you tonight; that you would hear personally the Lord’s lovingkindness for you in the morning that your heart would trust Him as He teaches you the way in which you should walk. Think much of His love for you, my friend.

Would you consider reading through Ephesians over the next few weeks and writing out all that Scripture says is true of those who love Jesus? I know you’ll be encouraged by what you find.

Press on, dear friend! “The LORD your God wins victory after victory and is always with you. He celebrates and sings because of you, and he will refresh your life with his love (Zeph. 3:17).”