A List Of Prayers For Your Future Husband

Bethany Baird 03/22/12
Category: Relationships ; 119 comments

As a single girl, have you ever thought about the fact that your future husband is out in the world living and breathing? He could be out on a ranch in Texas or sitting in Starbucks drinking a mocha or in class listening to his professor. So what can you do to help your future husband?

 

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    Aubry
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 1:26 am
    Haha, I made my list of things I want in my future husband a while ago and it has 18 things! Maybe I'm too picky or specific or something... =P

    I've always thought about praying for my future husband, but I never thought about praying for those qualities to be in him. That's a really great idea. It always seemed a bit too dreamy to just pray for my future husband, I struggle with thinking too much about it anyways, so I sort of avoided that subject. But you bring up a great point that when I get married, I'm going to be serving him and praying for him even more, so why not start right now? Thanks for the great insight, I'll definitely be keeping it in mind:)
    God's girl
    Praying!!
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 2:44 am
    I think I can honestly say the book 'praying for your future husband' changed my life:) It's been months now, and I've prayed for my future husband off and on. This vid re-juvinated my longing to pray for him again! I'm gonna commit to it this time. Pray for me to pray for him and that I'll work on my own heart and charater qualities in the meantime aswell!

    Also, I'm in the process of developing a new wardrobe that's more modest. Even though I've been progressivly swapping out not-so-modest clothes for way-more-modest clothing for a while now [a year or two], I've decided to *takes deep breath* switch totally to skirts, minus ocasions such as phisical labor type work, [yard work, sports, etc] and ya know, when all my skirts are in the dirty laundry. Right now I have lots of full-length [can't see my ankles...haha, can't see my feet!], flowy type skirts. Like, if you stretched the skirts material out or spun around it'd prob be about half my size or more in width. They're [I guess] extreamly modest since they are [I guess..] considered full skirts. I'm trying to be really sensitive about modesty and all it's little components and some people think I'm over doing it [like my mom and some of my friends] but I think I could do better! It's hard though, I don't have brothers and my dad doesn't really like 'modesty' questions and sends me to my mom, who really can't offer much more insight than I already have. I've read all of the modesty survey site's opinions [and just about all the nuggets of wisdom from the guys] but it's still hard to figure out exactly where the clothes in my closest match up with the clothes the guys on that survey are referring to when they're talking. I'm thinking of getting skirts that are 'loose' and about 6 inches above the ankle, that I can walk, run, etc in without them going crazy in the wind and flying up in my face, or clinging to my thighs, OR getting sopping wet in the mud puddles and morning due. As for shirts, I'm not sure yet. I'm prob good on those for right now. I don't show any cleavage and my shirts I wear under everything keep getting higher and higher up to my neck;) They're not tight either. I know some people might look at me and say I don't need to bother with all this, but I'm convicted to be radically modest, if those words can be paired together and still make sence...;) So, since I am striving to be so modest, does anyone have any older-woman tips for me, the young nieve girl who doesn't know most of what she's doing?
    Kym
    My Future Husband
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 5:06 am
    I love this idea! It's a great thing to do. I would pray probably the same type of things as you do - that he loves God with his whole being and that he's committed to applying the Word to his life; that he keeps his mind pure so that we both enter the marriage with pure godly hearts; and that he will be able to develop the type of love that we both should be showing; another biggie for me is that he knows how to communicate and deal with confrontations - it happens in every marriage and i want us both to be able to handle it without yellling at eachother.

    And I take up your challenge! If he is to become like that then I should focus on that too.

    Thanks for the great post :)
    Danyale chiles
    My future husband
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 7:49 am
    I love this idea I think its great. I tried to get out of the dreamy stage about my husband do I never thought to pray for him because we weren't together never met for that matter but this is great.
    Elizabeth
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 7:52 am
    What an amazing post... that is the greatest idea ever. I love the part about keeping our mind pure for the husband.

    i will make a list and post it as soon as i can. :)
    Marissa
    Yes!!!!
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:11 am
    Read the book "Praying for your future husband" by Robin Jones Gunn. It will change your life! I have a piggy bank called my prayer piggy and I write notes to my future husband about what i prayed for sometimes after i pray for him and for our relationship and future family. I am planning on giving it to him on our wedding night :)
    Darby
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:29 am
    Love this! :) i've actually been doing this for a while! I'd write letters praying to God about him and then at the end of the year i'd attempt to stuff all the ones from that year in an envelope and label the year.

    my characteristics are:
    1. Full of joy
    2. Has a heart for serving God
    3. Has a pure heart/mind
    4. Has a steady relationship with God
    5. Respectful and selfless
    Lexi
    Incredible Post
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:37 am
    What an inspiring post!! Instead of complaining to God about how I'm single, I need to start praying to Him for the person who has planned for me in His perfect timing. And I hope that whomever he is, that he will pray for me too. Wow! I can't wait to make my list. Thanks!
    Lauren
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:38 am
    This is a great topic!! My mom has encouraged me to be praying for my future husband for awhile now, and I have been, but thanks for the idea of making a list of specific things to pray about!!
    Some of the things that I pray about for whoever that man is are that he would always follow God wholeheartedly, that he would be able to be strong and withstand the temptations that the world throws his way (because I know that there are a lot of them!!), and also that he will become the kind of man who will be a good father to my kids :)
    And I know it might seem silly, but I also pray that we will meet each other at the right time, and that I will know for sure who the right one is. And sometimes I even pray that our families will get along and like each other. I mean, that might seem stupid, but I think it will make everything much easier if there isn't fighting and stuff going on between our families :)
    Lv
    Er...
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:49 am
    I don't really agree with this. What if "he" doesn't exist because it's not God's will for me to get married? It's a lot of wasted time and focus that could be focused on God and loving other people. Plus as Aubry says, I already think about guys far too much. I need to focus on GOD, not some idealized picture of a guy that may not exist for me...
    Lexi
    My List
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 9:51 am
    Okay! I've made my list and I wanted to share. I'm going to pray dilligently for my husband, and I am going to pray that these qualities are reflected in my life as well. (Wow! What a challenge...)

    1. He loves the LORD more than he could ever love me.
    2. He lives a life of prayer.
    3. He has a heart of worship.
    4. He doesn't compromise with the world.
    5. He is called into ministry and becomes a partner in ministry with me.
    6. His life reflects the joy of the LORD.

    I not only see spiritual growth in my future husband with these specific prayers, but spiritual growth within myself as well :)
    Faith Emily
    Future Husband
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 10:06 am
    Thank you for posting this message! I plan on doing it. It's amazing how many girls are sticking to God's word and are going to be patient and wait for their husbands. Praying, and writing journals, or letters to him is a great way to keep strong.
    Flora Caroline
    Prayer journals
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 11:58 am
    I did this last year! I had like twenty things on my list and I keep adding to it. . . :) I'm also keeping a prayer journal, every time someone asks me to pray for them I'll write it down in my journal and then pray for them every night. Then when God answers their prayer I write that down too, to remind me that God always answers our prayers.
    There was a little boy who had leukemia ever since he was one year old, I had been praying for him. He was one of the very first entrees in my prayer journal. Last year, a little after his eighth birthday, God took him home. I never even met him, but just from praying so much for him I felt like he was my little brother. I still cry.
    M
    I Concur!
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 12:15 pm
    I have been praying off and on for my future husband for the last few years. I also have another piece of advice that's somewhat related. When I am tempted to think about a guy I see or know in a way that is not pure, I start praying for him and for his future bride. I pray that they would be prepared for one another and that their marriage would be founded on God's strength.

    Not only is this offering prayer for others, it also helps keep my mind in the proper vein as I consider the young men around me.
    AbbyS
    my future husband
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 1:36 pm
    I think the most powerful thing about this post is the call to be the same kind of woman we want in our husbands. I was stunned. We hear it so much but I don't think we truly understand what that means. Though it is ultimately the husband who leads, we are BOTH fellow pilgrims for Christ, so we both need to making that commitment of being set apart.

    Keep goin' sisters :)
    Beka
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 2:03 pm
    Wow...I have made up a bit of a list of qualities in my future husband, but I never thought to pray for him in those specific areas...thanks for the challenge!

    And you go God's girl! I'm sure it must be hard to totally switch, and to stand out as being modest. God will bless you for it! Said a prayer for you, that you would remain faithful to that commitment.

    Flora Carolina, I like what you're doing with your prayer journals. Do you mind if I ask you...like, how do you do it? Do you eventually have a whole huge list that you pray through every night? Do you stop praying for the people even after what you were requesting for them is answered? Do you ever feel swamped? Maybe there's just something wrong with me =), and I need to work on it. Thanks for hearing me out.

    God bless you all!
    Melon
    Same
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 3:19 pm
    I pray for my husband, from head to toe:

    His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
    His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
    His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turnhis eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
    His Ears - That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
    His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Psalm 19:14)
    His Neck –That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
    His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
    His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
    His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
    His feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
    Kat
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 4:39 pm
    I made a list and pray for him always
    Heidi
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 5:08 pm
    I can't see the video....really wish i could.....too poor for internet that loads videos, but i can add my say anyway, i kinda got the jist.

    i have a shoebox under my bed with letters to my future husband. i have had a list of what i'm looking for for years, as well as my standards. pray for him, too, whenever i feel led. i have actually already felt so desperate. like i absolutely HAD to pray for him NOW. like he was going through something difficult in his life. (can't wait until i meet him :D)
    EmilyJ
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 6:04 pm
    Cool post! I pray for my future husband regularly. I pray that God would help him fight the battle for purity and just to grow him into a godly man.
    I was reading in 1 Timothy a few months ago when I stumbled opon...
    "But you, man of God, flee from all this and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, and gentleness. "
    ... which is chaptor 6 verse 11. And then it went on a little ways, but I mean, how much clearer can you get?! it says right there in the bible what kind of characteristics a man of God should have! So now I have a better idea what to look for. I highlighted it and am working on memorizing it.
    I also write in a diary for him. Actually, I think I got that idea from the LYWB book.
    Anyway, yeah..... thanks for the post Bethany!(:
    Me :)
    Great Post Bethany!
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 7:13 pm
    I actually started praying for my future husband when I was 13 too! And I made a pretty extensive list haha. But when I was about 15 1/2 I was reading a book on marriage and in one of the chapters it told a True story that really struck me! It was about this guy who was looking for the perfect godly woman! And then he found her!! But nothing happened because she was also looking for the Perfect godly man.....and that wasn't him! It really made me think! And I then started challenging myself in that way and it's hard! But God Is So good! And It is so encouraging to see other girls doing the same!

    Here is part of my list:

    To have a pure heart
    To Not have anger issues
    To be humble
    To be patient
    To want to grow
    To understand modesty
    To Love The Lord
    To Love to worship
    To be wise with his finances
    And there's actually more! haha
    But i am challenging myself also! And You were very Encouraging Bethany! Thanks!!
    Jenni
    Qualities..
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 10:28 pm
    Of all the things I want my future husband to be (besides a strongchristian)
    I would choose gentleness. I see so many guys who are loud and rough and if I see a guy who is gentle...they really catch my eye.


    Also a guy who loves kids/babies :)
    Jazzy101girl
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 22, 2012 at 11:00 pm
    Hi!!!

    Thank-you so much for posting this I really needed to hear this right now!! I started praying for my future husband a couple years back when I read on my status that he would be a: A Man after God's own heart, an encourager like Barnabas, as passionate like David, as wise as Solomon and as fearless as David against a Goliath!

    And this really gives me more to think about, because I was just thinking about how I'm finally over-coming something long story like how to become a Godly woman of Jesus Christ like Proverbs 31.

    I pray that prayer for my future husband nearly every night! And not only that I used to have this huge crush on a guy friend of mine way back in High-school and then to make a long story short I don't know if this was a God thing or not, but the same crush I had when I was in High-School suddenly contacted me and wanted to meet with me after seven years of zero communication!!!

    I saw him once, when I got back into town, and then seven months later we get together, and then he asks me out again! And I've been truly waiting patiently, I don't know if this is from God or not because I'm trying to be waiting as patiently as I can!! I just am wondering what to do but pray!!!

    Last time I was obsessed with the other guy I liked, but this time I'm truly being patient and I don't think about him as often, and just patiently waiting and boy is it hard!!

    thank-you for this challenge about challenging myself as well never thought about that as well!!!:) Hope to hear more!!:)

    Blessings!!:)
    Meg
    My List and a question
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 1:13 am
    1. Passionate about God and his God-given talent, whatever that may be.
    2. Incredibly kind, without a mean word.
    3. Humble and silly- He has to be willing to make a complete fool of himself for fun.
    4. He has to be at least a little musical, because otherwise, he will not be able to understand me at all.
    5. I need to be able to understand him and his passions.
    6. Honest with me, God, and himself.
    7. He needs to love me and be my best friend.

    So right now I have a boyfriend, who is a really nice guy, and seems almost perfect, except for one huge problem: he's not a Christian. I'm cringing right now to think about all of you reading this and silently (or not so silently) dissaproving. I know my situation isn't exactly advisable, but I just sort of found myself here and didn't want to break this boy's heart. Also, I am trusting in Romans 8:28, no matter what happens. My best friend's mom was not a Christian when she met my friend's dad, and their relationship was what led her to accept Jesus, so I am praying that the same thing will happen in my relationship. A very important thing in my relationship is that my boyfriend, although not Christian is very respectful of the fact that I'm waiting for marriage, and is just as naďve as I am when it comes to relationships, so all we've done is hold hands. What's your best advice for this relationship? I really like him, and don't want to have to break up, so how can I make it work and hopefully save his soul in the process?
    Meg
    Re: God's Girl
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 1:38 am
    What's wrong with pants? (I'm not criticizing, I'm actually quite curious). Also, I think short-sleeves (weather permitting of course) are fine. No man is going to stumble from the sight of your arms. As an athelete and aspiring marathoner, I cannot make the choices that you have, although I certainly admire them. I have to wear shorts to train, although I am increasingly trying to be mindful of what might cause a brother in Christ to stumble. I used to not worry about my track shorts at all, because I figured: who would be attracted to a sweaty, disgusting girl who looks like she just spent a month in the wilderness and smells like it too? Then I met my boyfriend, and realized: he would. So, since then, I have tried to be more careful with what I wear when I run, saving my shortest of quick-dry shorts to use only as pajamas. I had also madethe decision to phase out my shorter jean shorts in favor of longer ones that showed a bit less skin. However, I am having a hard time convincing my mom that I need new shorts. How did you convince your parents to buy you new, more modest clothes?
    Jenna
    To Melon
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 4:46 am
    I love your idea! I wasn't going to make a list, but I might now. It's a great idea!
    Elaine
    Re God's girl
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 9:08 am
    Way to go God's girl! I just want to encourage you in this. I dress like that and trust me, you'll get some questions. Some will be pure curiosity and some will be criticization but hang in there! It's really hard to be too modest! And I've also found that if you're really commited you can do almost anything in a skirt. We live on a farm so I do a lot of physical active work.
    I love the idea of this post. I've been praying for my husband for a while but never thought about special charictor qualities. Mine would be,
    1 seeking God with all his heart soul and mind through daily Bible reading.
    2 views children as a blessing from the Lord.
    3 servant hearted
    I'm sure I will have more later but that's the ones I can think of now.
    Lia
    @ Meg and God's Girl
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 9:28 am
    Hey, Meg! :) I think that it is awesome that you are trying to be more conscious of the way that you dress! It is not the easiest thing in the world, like you said, but God is most certainly going to bless you for it!!!

    I know that you asked God's Girl your question about pants, but I hope you won't mind if I attempt to add my two cents! :D What's wrong with pants? After a lot of studying God's Word (and TONS of help from my Godly parents), I think that I would say, nothing. Now. A lot of good, Godly people disagree on this, but hear me out! :) The Bible says in Deuteronomy that a woman is to not wear anything that "pertaineth to a man's clothing", just that women should look distinctly feminine and men should look distinctly masculine. In the time that Moses wrote that verse, men as well as women were wearing robes, so obviously there were robes for men, and robes for women! :D

    At God's Girl, I deeply admire you for your decision to wear skirts most of the time! That is awesome!! I truly believe that in the end, what is right for you is between you and God. Obviously the Bible outlines certain things that are totally right and totally wrong, but the Bible does not say, "women, thou shalt not wear pants. End of story." Some of my very best friends think that wearing pants is not right for them, but for me, weraing modest pants (that my dad ok's! :) is not going against God's plan for my life!

    I hope that my jumbled thoughts sort of made sense! Love you girls!! Can't wait to hear your thoughts on the matter! :D

    Love,
    Lia
    Cloie
    gr8 post
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 9:45 am
    Thank you so much for the post.
    I had made a list of 5 things...after I watched the video I added one more thing so now I have 6 Here it is:

    -A guy that loves God with his whole heart.
    -A courageous leader
    -A guy that loves children-a family man
    -A guy that does not love the world
    -A guy that loves his Mom
    -Serious about life, yet fun-loving

    I think it would be neat to write letters to give to him later. It helps to realize that this is a real man I am keeping myself for and he will be worth it!
    Great post...keep pressing on!
    God's girl
    Re: Beka and Meg
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 10:55 am
    Beka: Thanks for your prayer! I've been a little worried about what people will think, but I know changes made for God are always worth it:)

    Meg: Well, most guys will say there’s nothing generally WRONG with pants, but the fact that usually, pants are too tight, too low, call to much attention to hips and thighs, rear and crotch. It’s so difficult to find pants that don’t have some ‘downside’ to them. I have a few pairs of jeans, and they’re fine. But the main thing that made me want to switch, not just how hard it is for me to find jeans that fit [I’m short and not a stick, so my shape and length is hard to find], was that most guys said they found skirts more feminine. That, and that they also found it easier to talk to a girl wearing a skirt, that is was more comfortable for them, they said they thought of pants as something more for guys, not that they’re being male chauvinists with this, I think they’re just being honest, pants really are more [originally] for men and the skirts were specifically for woman. As for the arms showing thing, it’s funny you said that, because my mom was saying the exact same thing the other day. I personally don’t have that big a problem with arms, it’s just that I’m not really uncomfortable with my arms, I don’t know why, I just feel less awkward without sleeves. I feel better in longer sleeves, I mean, short sleeves and things like that are totally fine, but no sleeves feels kind of weird to me. Also, shirts that don’t have any sleeves tend to be for not-so-petite woman such as myself, and the arm-hole is bigger and usually you can see too much. I never noticed this as a problem till I looked though pictures of myself from the summer before and saw it happen over and over again, and it bothered me a lot. You could see part of my bra, and that's NOT what I want to be happening.

    So proud of you for making changes to be more modest! I’m ALWAYS glad to hear any girl making a change for Christ’s sake [and the guys around her too!]. I’ve heard a lot of problems from girls in athletics and physically demanding activities and how it sometimes can almost be a tug-of-war between modesty and necessity of having to wear less clothing for whatever sport they’re taking part in. I bet that is hard.

    As for my parents, well, they don’t buy me my clothes. I pay for them [unless my mom treats me or pays part of it if I run out of money], most of the time with my allowance…which isn’t a lot. That’s part of the reason it’s taking me a while to ‘switch things out’ in my wardrobe. I’ll be an outfit repeater for a while, until I get more things to work with..;) I shop at thrift stores, I have for years, I think it’s great, I can’t stand to pay more than 5 dollars for any clothing [believe it or not, you can get beautiful wedding dresses under formal wear there for $10!! I know where I’m shopping!] I can walk in with 10 dollars and walk out with a few shirts and a skirt, with change left. And if you know what you’re looking for, people will never know you’re wearing ‘used clothes’. People actually complement my clothes, so it’s not like I look like a ragamuffin or anything. And even though my mom and I don’t always see eye-to-eye on my standards, she knows that for me to go against my convictions would be a sin. If I tell her I need higher-neckline’s to wear under things, I don’t think she’ll have much ground to say I’m being unreasonable. She knows I’m passionate about my modesty. If your mom doesn’t think you need to switch your denim shorts for longer ones, maybe you could try sitting down and discussing how you’d feel more comfortable in them, and how you’d likely wear them more, since you wouldn’t be worried about showing too much in them. Tell her your concerns, even if she doesn’t agree with them, she should still respect that it’s your body and there’s nothing wrong with clothing it in more modest attire. If it’s about money, you could always try your hand at thrift stores, but be warned, it’s usually harder to find pants there than shirts, since pants aren’t as forgiving in fit. But it can be done! Praying for you girl! May God take the trials in your life and make something beautiful come from it!
    Cass
    Something That I Never Thought About
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 10:57 am
    Wow, I've been struggling with this week and this is just want I needed. I've never thought about praying for my future husband, I think that is a really good idea, which I'm going to start.
    God's girl
    BTW
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 11:02 am
    to get guys insight on modesty and different types of clothing, check out this site,
    http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/browse

    Nancy Leigh DeMoss and the 'do hard things' people are affiliated with it to my knowlage, and it's very helpful, at least, it's been for me. I recomend it!
    Mattea
    Future Hubby
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 11:11 am
    Ha-ha.... I just wrote that list a couple of months ago... I had kind of forgot about praying about it: however I'll get back on it... Here is what I wrote:
    1. A Christian (of course) 2. Gentle 3. Kind 4.Patient 5.Funny 6.Pure
    7.Understanding 8.Faithful 9.Loyal
    10. A good leader 11. Smart 12. Friendly 13. Loving 14. Romantic 15. Tall 16. Blue eyes 17. Strong and muscular 18. to love animals and babies 19. Last but Most of all.... to have a close walk with the Lord and to follow Him all the days of his life. ;)
    God's girl
    Re: Elaine and Lia
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 11:31 am
    Elaine: Thanks for the encouragment! It's nice to know I won't be the only girl out there wearing a skirt! I know some who do, but I know they also have to deal with people pointing fingers and asking questions [like you said, some just cuirous, others judging] but it'll all be worth it for God!

    Lia: So right! I've heard Dannah Gresh say the same thing, and I so agree! But since everything tends to come down to a 'matter of the heart', I have to go with my gut on this one. I have the conviction that skirts are the way to go FOR ME. I soo don't mind other girls wearing pants, and even I will have some ocasions when I'll wear them, but for me, skirts just seem like the best choise. Like they say, every man to his OWN convictions;) At least on the 'gray' areas where God isn't spesific and leaves room for the heart to learn. God bless you today!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    God's Girl
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 11:54 am
    Thank you, friend, for caring enough about the men in your life to want to dress modestly. It sounds like you have done your research well and are doing a good job working through the process of changing out your wardrobe. Keep on doing what you are doing. If you have any question about whether something is too tight or too low cut, it probably is. Layering tops helps to be modest.

    Revive Our Hearts has several articles you can read as you continue to develop your modesty wardrobe. You can find them at this link (http://tinyurl.com/73xqn5a). We hope you find these beneficial as you seek to please and honor the Lord in all areas of your life, including how you dress. Praying for you, friend!
    Grace
    Re: Lv
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 12:07 pm
    I agree with Lv. Some of us spend too much time thinking about guys anyway. So, this might not be very helpful. And we need to spend as much time as we can focusing on loving God and His church. Our marriage to Christ will last for eternity, while earthly marriage only lasts for a few years. I'm not trying to minimize it; I'm just pointing out that right now, as young woman, we have so much time to devote to the Lord and be concerned about pleasing Him and loving Him (1 Corinthians 7:34). So, we should focus on that. And earthly marriage will happen when (and if) God plans it for you. Just a thought with love.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Lv
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 1:12 pm
    You are right, Lv, we don’t know if and when God will bring a husband into our lives. But praying Scripture for the guys in your life keeps your heart in line with God’s. It also is a great way to take your thoughts captive as it protects your mind from running the wrong way into romantic notions and wishful thinking. Bethany’s idea about praying these things into our own lives is an excellent way to work on our own character. Praying for you, friend, and asking God to show you how He wants you to walk through this season of your life.
    Jazzy101girl
    Re:
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 2:09 pm
    Hi!

    I have a question how do you know if you should wait around for someone, I usually go gaga over a guy I like and this time I'm being extremely patient! Like I'm not sure when I should move on?

    Because when I met my friend again after seven years I'm completely clueless like this was the least expected thing!

    And I kind of like him:) Being a little girlie:)

    And if anything my friend did open up the opportunity for me to heal from my issue from when I was five years old... It's not easy to work-through but that is something that God opened up for me to work on and heal from.

    Anyhew, despite that I'm just not sure what to think!

    Anyone else been in a situation like this before? How should I pray?

    I'm wondering what in the world to do except pray while waiting! It's hard waiting and I took the challenge and started writing a list of things to become a true women of God! Thank-you so much for the help!!

    The only thing I know is that we have a ton of similarities and better yet He is a believer which is even way better!! :) Otherwise, I would love to get input!

    Thank-you and blessings on this wonderful ministry!!!:)
    Candi
    Great!
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 4:28 pm
    I love this idea! And I'm engaged!

    I loved the book "Praying For Your Future Husband" by Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn!!! I read it last month--and I wish I had read it a long time ago before I was engaged!

    I don't remember making a list before I started dating my fiance. Maybe I did. But it wasn't that I was trying to make him fit into it. I didn't do anything specific like "blue eyes, blond hair....height" or anything. I wrote it more like a journal entry or an article or something. :D

    Every since I started praying a lot more, and really preparing for my marriage has a lot changed in both me and my fiance. Not a whole lot of major stuff, but prayer does help a whole lot! It has strengthened us both and our relationship(S)!
    Vic
    Re: Meg
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 4:48 pm
    Saying a prayer for you right now!
    I have a question. Ok, maybe a few. Does is this man attending church, youth group, or anything of the sort? Is he curious about the things of the Lord? Is he seeking to be saved?

    I am not someone who knows a lot about human nature, but I do know this.... You cannot change anyone. The only person who can change someone is God. So, first things first here... Give your boyfriend to God. That is the only way he'll be saved. I appreciate your desire to see him saved! That is the most important thing, we should constantaly be concerned for the salvation of others. Maybe you could find a godly man in your church that would be willing to talk to him?

    Next, girl, there is only one relationship on this earth that will ever matter, and that is the one between you in the Lord. God will be with you always guiding you and showing you the way. He will comfort, and heal. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

    I'm not an expert on relationships. I know though that the Lord says, "Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelievers." Until this boy becomes a christian, the Bible advises you not marry him. I'm not sure if marriage is on your mind right now... (maybe its the last thing on your mind! I don't know :)) But is it worth it to you have a close relationship with a man you won't/shouldn't marry? If you end up not marrying him would you regret being with him? You can still be a friend and pray that God would work in his heart. Always remember that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! Even, break up with this boy, if that's what God desires for you at this point in time He will bless you for obeying Him.

    Sorry for the long post! :) I hope it encouraged you, and gave you something to think about. I don't know all the details, I am praying God will give you wisdom and peace about this. I recently gave to God this guy I like because God told me not know, right now you're mine. It was hard, but God gave me strength.
    In Christ,
    Vic<3
    Tessa
    My List :)
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 6:05 pm
    I wrote a list of husband qualities a long time ago, but this last summer I became convicted to take another look at it, to update it now that I live with Jesus. After a lot of prayer and thought, I ended up with a list of 46 QUALITIES! At first I though that I had way too many, but then I realized that it's good to be specific about the character of my husband. I can better recognize him and be sure of him now! My top three qualities are: 1) a close realtionship with Jesus, 2) honesty and genuinity, and 3) compassion.
    Lia
    @ God's Girl
    on Friday, March 23, 2012 at 11:51 pm
    You GO for your gut feeling, girl!! :D:D God put that feeling there for a reason!! I wear skirts a lot of the time, and as I'm sure you know, it isn't always easy sticking out! Thanks for being courageous! You have really encouraged me today. :)

    Keep it up!

    Love,
    Lia
    Anonymous
    Hubby prayer
    on Saturday, March 24, 2012 at 1:04 am
    I've been praying for my future husband for three or so years now, but I never thought once to reflect the things I'm praying for on myself. Thank you for the insight!!
    Jenna
    To God's Girl
    on Saturday, March 24, 2012 at 2:11 am
    I love to hear that there are still girls desiring to be modest! I, personally, don't wear skirts in place of pants, but it has always been lingering in the back of my mind. What made you decide to switch? I'm currently looking more up on the subject.

    On the overall topic of modesty, I would like to hear your opinion on head coverings for women. This subject came up between a me and a friend a couple days ago. 1 Corinthians 11:4-16 and 1 Timothy 2:9-10

    While I've been looking deeper into this, I found the following site. http://www.achristianhome.org/ModestFeminine/ModestyFeminineAttireIndex.htm
    It has some interesting material.

    I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this!
    God's girl
    Re: Lia and Jenna
    on Saturday, March 24, 2012 at 5:46 pm
    Lia: It’s true, the past day or two, I’ve been out a lot wearing skirts and I feel like people are looking at me and judging what I’m like ‘just by my skirt’, which is a little intimidating. But I know GOD looks at the heart, and that makes it easier:) Plus, I think having the world look at me like I’m some sort of alien is a good sign…lol!

    Jenna: I had the same feeling. I went back and forth between ideas “should I switch” “naw I’m fine” “well..maybe I’m not” “no no, it’s okay, I’ll just wear pants” “wait, maybe skirts are better after all..” and it went on like this for a while. Part of the ‘last straw’ for me was when I went shopping with my mom the other day and I was on the hunt for some nice pants to wear, since I only had two pairs of nice jeans, one of which got too tight, so I had to put them in the yard sale stuff, and the other was getting super worn out, too worn out to be ‘nice pants’ anymore. So I needed new pants, and fast. I’ve always been looking for them but this day, I felt really lucky, like I was going to find some FINNALLY. So we went into the *thrift* store and I picked out around 30-some pairs of nice jeans. I thought I’d be buying a lot of them, but I found myself only thinking two were ‘sort of okay’. After showing them to my mom, I realized they were still inapropriot, and feeling defeated, I put them on the rack and wanted to go home. Oddly enough, out of the two skirts I tried on, both fit perfectly, and I took one home with me. Now, I thought to myself, “Okay, pants are so hard to find…why don’t I just wear skirts? Maybe this is a sign for me to stop trying so hard to be ‘cool and modest’ and just be simply, ‘modest’?” So I made the switch. That, being the main push that got me into it. This might sound like a weird way to decide, but sometimes God shows us things through unexpected sircumstances, this being the case for me.

    I was thinking about this topic just the other day! I actaully know some woman who cover their heads with bonets, and I have to admit, that seemed weird to me [just because it’s so unusual to see]. I’ve only seen that done once or maybe twice…as for me, I think long hair is just. I myself, used to love short hair, and for the majority of my life, I sported short hair cuts. A few years ago I cut my hair VERY short, and looking back, it looked nice, but at the same time, I felt like it was kind of boyish. Not very feminin. I have long hair now and am growing it out longer. Personaly, I don’t know that having short hair is neceserelly bad, although I haven’t researched the topic too deeply [I probably should]. As for the 1 Timothy 2:9-10 thing, I always took this as more of a example of how they ‘showed themselves off’ back then, for instance, back then, beautiful jewlrey likely meant you were wealthy, it was a way to draw attention to yourself. These days, you can get jewlery at the dollar store, and most woman wear it without thinking of it as being a big deal. Most guys will say it’s fine so long as you don’t over do it, so long as it’s not screaming “hey guys, look at me!”, because modesty is to not call attention [at least, attention that can lead to lust] to yourself. Now, I braid my hair, and I don’t think guys will lust over me because of it. I think now the type things we’d have to look out for would be more along the lines of mini skirts and tight clothing, too much make-up, things that draw attention, that are pourposfully asking for people to look and ‘notice’. Although I have friends who don’t wear jewlrey due to conviction from this verse. And I respect their choise, there are days when I feel like I need to play down my outfits just because I feel convicted to. I know in my heart my clothing should relect my heart, which is sold out to God, not to promoting myself. And after a while, I have to give in. I’m never truly happy until I do, the guilt/conviction [no matter how small] stays there, and for me to ignor it is like to ignor God. Part of me used to think “there’s no way God would make me do THAT…” and I believed it. For a while. Then I realized, that in giving my life to God, I not only gave my words, time, actions, but also my body, and how I present it. Nothing’s my own anymore, and to let God take control of it, instead of me trying to do it my way, is like a burden’s been lifted. One less battle I’m fighting God on now. He has a way of changing my heart…;)
    Serah
    Re: Candi
    on Saturday, March 24, 2012 at 9:04 pm
    That's real encouraging to hear that even the little things you pray for are already making a difference for your marriage! Thank you!
    mist
    thats hard
    on Saturday, March 24, 2012 at 11:40 pm
    To tell you the truth thats one thing I have a hard time to do.
    I know its wrong and im tryin to change my way of thinking, but I`ll take whoever wants me.
    Elaine
    @Jenna
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 8:04 am
    Hey, I know I'm not "God's girl" but I have some thoughts about head coverings. Our family has always went with it being culture, but about a year ago I didn't think that made much sense. I felt like if you start taking stuff for culture you could take a whole lot for culture. It was also ironic all the ones I had heard of people taking for culture is all about women. (speaking in church, headcoverings). But, I had a really hard time with figuring out if it was your hair or another covering. I decided that it was another covering, for multiple reasons. 1It seems that there is more verses supporting that, 2 At the time Paul was writing the women wore other headcoverings besides their hair. Also I know some men (including my Daddy) that really enjoy their wives and daughter's hair, so that would have more reasons to save it for your husband.
    But I also think it is a personal conviction thing. Like Paul talks about it's sinful for this gie to eat meat but not this gie.
    I really haven't totally figured it out but that's my thoughts on it now.
    Caroline
    modesty
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 5:13 pm
    I have been going through my wardrobe lately and eliminating items that I feel aren't modest enough. What do you girls think about jeans? Is there a good rule of thumb to go by when wearing them? Mine are straight and skinny and I wear them a lot with dressier tops. My dad didn't think they are too immodest, but I don't know what to think. If I choose to replace them with more skirts, where are some places that have cute skirts that aren't way above the knee? I have looked in the mall but length is an issue for most skirts and dresses there. Where do you ladies shop for clothing that is both stylish and modest?
    Emerson
    Future Husbad
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 6:36 pm
    My prayer is that the Lord gaurds my future husbands heart, and mind. Because on my list, my future husband has to love the Lord more than anything and be willing to say, " Lord...I don't know what to do....but YOU do..You lead." And if my future husband does that I know I can allow myself to trust my husband, because he follows the Lord. I've never really thought of making sure I'm asking the Lord to do the same things for me....thanks for that!!
    Harlow
    Praying for my future husband
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 8:39 pm
    I Started praying for my future husband when I was 16, but then it started to go down hill. I started to pray for him every now and then. But you have encourage me to start up again, praying every day for him. Thanks for the post you put up.

    P.S. Here's the list of things I want in him.

    1. Have a personal relationship with God.
    2. Love God more then me.
    3. Have a Godly life style.
    4. Pray and read the word every day.
    5. Won't do the things the world do.
    6. Our family's to get along good.
    7. Have a pure heart.
    8. Be the person God calls him to be.
    9. Loves to worship.
    10.A funny person to be around.
    Mikayla
    God's girl
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 10:15 pm
    I was really encouraged and excited by your comment. Wearing mostly skirts would take lots of courage, especially if your friends and mom don't really understand you! As a sixteen-year-old girl who has worn skirts all her life (except for night pants and snow pants when she was younger), I really like them. Sticking out in this worldly culture can be hard. The idea of having the exact shape of my legs outlined creeps me out slightly. I'm not saying pants are necessarily wrong. They can be modest.

    I really commend you, God's girl. May God guide you as you seek to glorify God with your clothes and love your brothers in Christ (Romans 14:13,15).

    By the way, if you could share any of what you learned, I would greatly appreciate it.

    Blessings!

    Mikayla
    Mikayla
    To Jenna
    on Sunday, March 25, 2012 at 10:44 pm
    I'll share a bit about the head covering for women. We had a sermon about it recently, and my Sunday school class studied it for two Sundays. I hope this doesn't get really long, but I'll share my notes.

    1 Corinthians 11:3-16
    The main emphasis of this passage is on headship and creation order. 1 Corinthians 1:2 indicates that Paul was writing not only to the Corinthians, but also to us. The veiling reflects creation order. Man was created with headship under God; woman was created to be a helper for man. This order was in place before the fall and will continue into the future. As Christ is equal to God, women are equal to men. But women should submit to men socially because Christ submitted to God. The view that men are superior is wrong, but the feminist idea that sees women as equal, perhaps even better, than men is also wrong. Eve probably didn't wear a veil before the fall but wore one afterward. Simply legislating a veiling without understanding it is harmful. Scriptures must be interpreted and put into action; we can't ignore them. If we obey some parts of the Bible but not follow other parts, soon nothing in the Bible will apply to us. In this passage there are two Greek words for covering. The first implies a cloth (verse 4-7, 10, 13); the second implies the hair (verse 15). The veil shows we believe what the Bible says. Although many are leaving the faith, the Bible's requirements don't change.

    Our hair is our glory.I thought it was really interesting that hair is a sensual part of the body; it's beautiful. (I just learned this today!) As women we need to cover our beauty, saving it for only our husbands.

    I hope this at least gave you something to think about. Looking different than nearly everyone else by wearing a veiling is tough, but God does bless those who obey Him. God bless you as study and pray about this.

    Blessings!

    Mikayla
    Emily
    Future Husband :)
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 12:15 am
    Well, can I just say that this really challenged my heart in the best way possible! I've read lies young women believe twice, and started it a third time and every time I really realized the importance of praying for my future husband. After watching this video though, I decided to make a personal list of traits I sincerely want in a husband and then follow through on praying for them.
    Here they are:
    1. Loves God more than me
    2. Not angry or prideful
    3. Good leader to me and my family
    4. Unwillingness to compromise with the world
    5. Bold witness for Christ
    6. Diligent in prayer and daily time in the Word

    It helped me a lot reading other people's comments and after making this list, I realized that I have a lot of things to work on as well. Also, if I can ask for some prayer that God would work in my heart right now to continually make Him my focus over guys and that I'd be seeking to grow in my relationship with Him rather than looking good for other people. I need to take a break from looking good for others and focus on the inward person of my heart and what is really going on. Thanks and love to all my sisters in Christ! <3
    Nee
    Broke up for the Best
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 5:42 am
    Hey Guys! Thanks for such an encouraging post! This motivated me to do the right thing by breaking up with a non Christian last night. I realy loved him and he treated me so well so it was the hardest thing to do. He was so hurt, so heart broken, sweared at me and said mean things to me. I was upset but I knew that i did what was the best. Hopefully that one day he will realize that I did it cos it was right for both of us. We had different values and it was a long distance relatioship. I am still prayin for him to find God, and to hav a gud eternal life. We were doing that behind my parents back, my parents didnt even know his name and I dont want to miss out the experience of having a wonderful marriage with someone who is crazy about God! :) thanks again, you guys helped me to do the right thigns! Keep going. Sister in Christ, Nee
    God's girl
    Re: Caroline
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 11:41 am
    A great place to find longer skirts is the thrift store, you can find nice, cool skirts that come past the knee, and most of the time they're only around 3 dollars.

    As for jeans, a good rule of thumb is that you can pintch the fabric. If you can't or it's difficult to, then it's likely too tight, it's easyer though to find flair-out and boot-cut jeans that fit looser. If the pants look like they're painted on, then you may want to consider a size larger. I personaly, have no idea what size I wear in anything, because I NEVER look at size numbers, I go compleatly on weather or not it fits. It's always made it easyer for me.

    Also, since skinny jeans usualy to lean more on the fitted side, a good idea to elliminate any trouble with it being too tight on the backside, is just to have long shirts, not TIGHT long shirts, but cute, almost short-dress like shirts. I've used that trick for years and I never had to worry about my pants being too tight or low in the back.
    Sarah
    Future Husband and Modesty
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 2:39 pm
    Hi everyone,
    Its so great to be back! I have been so busy with school,family,friends and church and the worst part my computer was down. This was a awesome post. I have constantly been praying for my future husband. I dont exactly have a list but i have an idea of what i would like in a husband.That he loves God, honoring to his parents, kind to his sibs, is not afraid to be diffirent from the crowd and that he will love even though i had a miserable childhood untill i was eight. I will be glad to share my story.Not all of us can fully understand the life of a foster child. I was happily adopted at eight! Well, you all may think i am crazy but one way i remeber to pray for my future husband is writing letters to him and saving them to one day pass on to him. On the topic of modesty i ware high neck tees and lose fitting pants. If i see a shirt i like and its not modest i put a shirt under it. I have a guy friend who told me it makes him uncomfrotable when girls ware low cut shirts and tight pants. I want only my husband to see me and not all of the guys. i want to help keep my Christian brothers eyes focused on Christ and not on me. I am gratefull that i have a guy friend who can tell me what he is comfortable that way it gives me insite on how i can inprove my outfits! I have a female metor who told me that Modesty is what makes a girl beautiful! We are all beautiful in JESUS who loves us and made us. I love you all sisters in the Lord!!! I am praying for you all God Bless :) I am willing to tell you my story too.
    Emma
    Prayer Box
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 5:55 pm
    Awesome post! I actually already have a list of my Future Husband's charasteristics, so here they are:

    1) A solid Christian
    2) A good provider
    3) A spiritual leader
    4) He puts others first
    5) He is wise
    6) Not self-seeking
    7) Not easily angered
    8) He cannot be perfect (but he can be really close) =)

    I have more, but this is a good majority. The wonderful thing about having a list like this is that you can compare all the christian guys in your life with it. If they don't match the list, then keep looking!

    I also started writing down my prayers for my future husband, and I made a box to put them in. So when I feel lonely or confused, I pull them out and read them. (I am planning on giving him the box as a wedding gift). =)

    God bless you all! Isaiah 41:13
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Jazzy101Girl
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 7:11 pm
    Keep praying my friend! That is the most powerful thing you can do as you wait God’s leading in your life. When God is ready, He can be trusted to bring the right guy to you in His timing. Let the guy pursue you and wait for God to direct Him your way. In the waiting, focus this time on your own personal relationship with Christ. You will be a better and stronger woman when the time for a relationship comes along. Praying for you, friend!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Nee
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 7:12 pm
    I am so proud of you for doing the right thing and breaking up with this guy! I know that must have been hard for you, but as you said it was the right thing to do. If you have to hide something from your parents, it probably is not a good thing. You are worth waiting for and following God’s lead to have a godly husband who can lead you in His ways for the rest of your life. Keep your parents in the loop, Nee. They can help you to be discerning in your relationships. Stand strong in your decision and draw your strength to go forward from God’s Word. Praying for you today, sweet friend.
    Christen
    Way to go God'sGirl!!!
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 7:27 pm
    That's so encouraging about how you want to be more modest!! Very refreshing to hear something like that after seeing and hearing so much of the opposite!!! Thank you so much and continue following God's lead in your life!!
    Blessings!,
    Christen
    Elaine
    re Sarah
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 9:54 pm
    Hey, I have a younger sister who was adopted (internationally) and a younger brother who is adopted, who is in heaven right now. I really love to hear about adopted children. If I get married I am sooo going to adopt!
    Also, I don't think it's strange that you write letters to your future husband. I've heard of that before.
    God bless!
    Jenna
    Re:
    on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 11:23 pm
    @God's Girl
    Haha. I'm so indecisive like that! It's so cool- all the little things God uses. Who would've thought it would be in that form! [I heart thrift stores.] I've worn skirts the last three days, actually. Now, I'm not quitting pants cold turkey, so to speak. But, after researching the subject and people's opinions [based on the Bible] very thoroughly, I've come to the conclusion that I'll wear skirts and pants. I'm going to wear skirts more frequently than I have been of late. [Let's be honest, it wasn't very often!] I definitely believe there are benefits to wearing skirts. On Saturday, I read a survey on different clothing things that Christian guys said were stumbling blocks. [ http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/browse ] [Sorry, I keep giving you all these links. Take the time to read it, if not, a lot of it. It was very insightful to me.] I went through my closet and purged 10 things. Now, they weren't things that people would look at me and be like, "Woah. What is that girl wearing?!", but they weren't necessarily as God-honoring as I would like my wardrobe to be.

    As to the head covering, I believe that I'll keep my hair as a covering.

    About the whole "I want my clothing to reflect my heart.", I commend you. I've recently realized that we're commanded "to live from the inside out". I pray that God will give me someone everyday to be a living testimony to. I know I may not realize it, but I know He can use me, whether it be through kind words, the Gospel, or even just actions. I realize that by actions, I can show it even more with my dress.

    @Elaine
    This is very true! My friend and I had been attributing some things to culture. It's an easy trap to fall into! You mentioned that you find many verses to support it. Would you mind sharing those? I'd really like to read them, and hopefully shed some light on the matter.

    @Caroline
    In my opinion, I believe jeans are fine if they don't draw much attention to you. Just plain pocket, no decoration jeans, I think are best. If your dad used the words, "They aren't TOO immodest.", you might want to rethink them. That's just my opinion on the matter though. Almost all of my skirts are from the Goodwill. It can be really hard to find good clothing there, but be patient, it will appear one day. I don't know how much you spend on clothing, but http://www.lovemyjeanskirt.com/ could be a good place to find skirts. You can find them on facebook to see their skirts. Or http://achristianhome.com/ModestFeminine/A_Christian_Home_Modest_Clothing.htm They link many places that sell modest clothing. Again, I don't know what your spending preferences are, so some of those sites may not apply. I hope that helps!

    @Mikayla
    That's very interesting to read. I never considered the hair "sensual", so to speak.
    God's girl
    Re: Mikayla and Christen
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 12:31 am
    Mikayla: Glad you're glad! You've worn skirts your whole life? Just out of curiosity, what's that like? I mean, I've worn dresses and skirts throughout my life, but not totally, there's been lots of jeans... and I'm just wondering what it's like to just, grow up with it, rather than start doing it way later on in life. Did it make it easyer to learn about modesty when you were older, cause I think that since I've grown up wearing clothes a lot of Christian girls might take as imodest, it made it really hard for me to adjust to dressing more modestly. I mean, I started re-doing my wardrobe a year or two ago and it hasn't been till recently that I've started doing skirts so much. I have to admit, part of me was wavery about doing it. I still am a little afraid... but the encouragement I've gotten the past few days on here has really been a blessing! To know I'm not alone in it, I think will really help me.

    Christen: Thank you! I know what you mean, I see a lot of Christian girls who don't think modesty is important, and so when I see girls who do appriciate and practice it, it's really exciting!:D
    Cheyanne
    Making a list
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 11:40 am
    This is one I really enjoyed, and one of my favorite things to do is make lists. The list I made has over 100 things on it, and it is also split into categories. My best friend always teases me about it because I am such a detailed person... her list has less than 20 things on it. I know it seems a little over the top, but some of it was in response to a relationship I had just gotten out of and many of them are things I do NOT want in my future husband! Have fun with it, many of my items are silly and make me laugh knowing that if God were to give me a guy who was exactly what my list describes I probably wouldn't be as happy as I could be. The best thing to remember is that even though you want certain things, God still knows best!!!
    God's girl
    Re: Jenna
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 12:52 pm
    Hey, that's great! The fact that you researched the issue and decided Biblically what you thought to do is inspiring, because I know a lot of times, we just like to kind of glance at a problem and then shrug it off and say we'll get to it later, but to hear girls are taking anitiative and doing their homework on modesty is really refreshing to hear!:D

    That's great! I've read the survey and I did the same thing, went to my room and started subtracting some clothes from my closet. Not neceserrically [like you said] horribly imodest clothes. But clothes that I was convicted to be 'pushing the limit' or 'had some downsides to'.

    That's so true! You really never know who's watching you and if you can set an example through all the components of your life, you'll likely impact peoples lives, even if they don't say anything, because people silently comment and ponder things in their hearts when they see how people act. If we can live in a way that causes people to be pointed to Christ, then we're doing exactly what this quote says: "Preach the gosple wherever you go. When necessary, use words". lol! There's this song by Warren Barfield [Christian music artist] called 'Mistaken' and it really is a great way to look at how we should live out life, you can read the lyrics here: http://www.jesusfreakhideout.com/lyrics/new/track.asp?track_id=1601

    I've come to learn that no matter how true my heart may be, if my clothing doesn't reflect that, if my clothing states that I live for myself rather than Christ, then people will not listen to what my heart says, because I'll appear as a hypocryte. If we're representing Christ, we want to do so in the purest of ways, which inclueds, non-flaunting and/or revealing clothing. It's not always easy, in the world we live in today, but of course, for God, it's always worth the time and effort, and even the hard points of 'letting go' [you know worldlyness has worked it's way in our homes if we as children of God find it painful to part with our clothing! I have to admit that greed was part of why it took so long for me to reach the point I'm at now, and greed that likely keeps me from venturing further on past it. Part of me wants to keep what I think's mine. My clothing, how I show myself and make a name for myself to those who don't talk to me, only see me. But to lay down my pride for Christ's sake will make me stronger, and teach me to trust Him, even when I want to keep things the same and for myself. God knows best! The song Surrender by BarlowGirl is a good reminder of this. http://www.jesusfreakhideout.com/lyrics/new/track.asp?track_id=159. Although the song is more about dreams rather than personal posessions, the same attachment applies. "God, I thought this would be mine to keep?" "Don't you know by now dear child, nothing is your own anymore, you've surrendered your life to Me. I'm enough, and I will provide for you what you need. Trust me"]

    While I'm on the topic, let me post this link too, just because [I love Christan music] and I use it to connect issues in my life, like you would with verses, to keep you focused on God, I do the same with songs:) This song by ZOEgirl is very inspiring to me, it's a song of submitting and changing for Christ, something we must commit to doing daily, knowing it'll 'work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose'. http://www.jesusfreakhideout.com/lyrics/new/track.asp?track_id=4466
    Sarah
    re: Elaine
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 2:39 pm
    Hi!,
    Thx for the post it is so awesome to hear that other people are adopting! I too would love to adopt. I had a hard life and not so great memories i still have to deal with so can you ALL pray for me that i will learn to forgive my birth family. I still sruggle with the hurt over why they didnt love and want me and why my birth dad left before i was born. So can you all please please please pray for me?
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Mist
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 2:48 pm
    Oh, sweet friend, even though it is hard for you to do, I am so thankful you are working on changing your thinking and bringing it in line with God’s thinking. Please don’t be satisfied with whoever will take you, Mist. God loves you far more than for you to be content with just anyone. He knows your future and He knows who you will need to lead you as a wife – someone to encourage you in your walk with God; someone who will protect, love and serve you in a way that honors God.

    I’m praying for you, friend! You are valued and loved by an everlasting love (Jer. 31:3). God has a plan for your life (Jer. 29:11). Trust Him and be willing to wait for the best He has for you.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Caroline
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 2:50 pm
    Great job, Caroline, in going through your wardrobe and making it more modest. You are doing a great job. God’s girl wrote and gave you some great recommendations on blue jeans and long skirts. I hope you read what she wrote. I was going to recommend similar things. Another idea is to find someone who can teach you to sew. Making your own skirts and shirts enables you to alter them so they are modest. It would be a great opportunity to connect with an older godly woman for mentoring in this area. Keep on doing the things you are doing, Caroline!
    Melody
    Praying
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 4:10 pm
    I really appreciate this post! My sister told me about praying for my future husband probably around the time I was 13 too. She told me that whenever I see 11:11 I should pray for him. :) It's a very neat idea, and it reminds me to pray for him. Sometimes I'm not paying attention to the clock, and suddenly I look and there 11:11 is! Also, this past August, my sister talked about how she prayed for certain things in her husband, and that got me thinking. Since then I have been praying for certain character qualities and that he would grow spiritually. This video challenged me to write down what I want in a husband and to pray for those things, but also to work at those qualities in me. It's easy to pray for the qualities in someone else, but hard to work at them in yourself.
    Bri
    future husband
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 6:46 pm
    Hey if anyone has any verses you could share with me that deals with praying for my future husband I would greatly appreciate it!!
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Re: My List and a question
    on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 at 7:39 pm
    You’ve started a great list to begin praying for your future husband, Meg! And it’s good you’re seeking advice about the relationship you’re in currently.

    Learning to do what is right (in God’s eyes) in spite of how we feel means acknowledging that not only does God know what is best for us, but He also wants what is best for us. It means believing that His ways (though often very different than our ways) are best…in fact they are far better than our ways.

    The question then, dear friend, is will you believe that? Will you trust that honoring God’s ways will bring His blessing in your life? Will you choose to believe that God’s ways are not only best for you, but they are best for your friend that you care so deeply about? I’m praying tonight, Meg, that you’ll have the courage to do what is right.

    When you get a chance take time to read Erin’s post “Is it okay to date non-Christians (http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=662). Erin asks the 22 year old college intern at their church to share his insights regarding dating a non-Christian.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Sarah
    on Wednesday, March 28, 2012 at 1:34 pm
    Oh, sweet Sarah, it has been my pleasure to pray for you today. My husband and I adopted two young boys and I know the struggles they had with forgiveness. I want to assure you that God is sovereign and He knows exactly what you need. Even though your birth family chose to give you away, He has placed you right where He wants you to be.
    Forgiving is always the right thing to do, Sarah. When we choose not to forgive, it eats away at our insides like a cancer. Forgiving doesn’t make what was done right, but it releases the one who wounded you into the hands of a just and merciful God who can be trusted to judge rightly. It frees you from the prison of bitterness and un-forgiveness so you can have the abundant life God wants for you.
    Will you talk with someone soon, your mom or dad or your youth pastor who can help you walk through the process of forgiving your birth family? I’m praying you have the courage to do that and you will choose to forgive them. Praying for you, sweet friend!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Bri
    on Wednesday, March 28, 2012 at 1:35 pm
    Hey, Bri! While there may not be a specific verse that says we are to pray for our future husbands there are a couple that can be applied to this situation. We are to pray about everything (Phil. 4:6-7). Proverbs 31:12 says “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Praying for our future husbands is a great way to do him good – even before we meet him. You can pray any of the “husband” passages that lay out a “job description” for husbands including Ephesians 5:22-28, Colossians 3:18-19 and 1 Peter 3:1-7. Revive Our Hearts also has a guide to praying for husbands (http://tinyurl.com/6ro98s4). We hope you find this helpful, Bri.
    Jazzy101girl
    Re:
    on Wednesday, March 28, 2012 at 3:30 pm
    Hi Lorree!

    Thank-you so much for the reminder!!!:) I certainly will, I'm not doing what I did last time, and it's hard waiting, and thank-you! Do you have suggestions about what passages to pray to grow closer to God and heal from well my past when I was five if you catch my drift.....

    Otherwise, thank-you!!!:) We may be meeting this weekend to catch up! I'm praying and waiting :)

    Blessings on this wonderful ministry!!!:)

    I'll continue to keep reading!!!:)

    Jazzy101girl pursuing to become a woman of Proverbs 31
    Sarah
    Re:Lorree
    on Thursday, March 29, 2012 at 1:56 pm
    When i read your post i almost started to cry. I will admit it has been hard but im getting there. I have talked with some trusted friends and my youth pastor's wife. I soo want to forgive but its hard. I am almost there. Please keep praying for me. The hurt isnt just that why they didnt love me and gave me up its the sexual abuse. i went through counsling with a wonderful women and my pastor and parents so i am doing fine. Keep praying for me and your sons are soo LUCKY to have you!!!
    K
    RE: God's Girl
    on Thursday, March 29, 2012 at 5:07 pm
    I just want to say that I've been thinking about modesty a lot lately and trying to decide whether or not to wear skirts all the time. I always thought that people who wore skirts were legalistic and narrow-minded. Now it's starting to make more sense to me. You've encouraged me to look into it further and pray about what God wants me for me.
    namelessmalehuman
    nice thoughts...reality is the test
    on Thursday, March 29, 2012 at 8:28 pm
    i was searching as i always am and i stumbled across this thread...i applaud your focus and thoughtfulness and foresight in this topic, the thoughts and archetypes that have become your actions can only come from divine origins...truthfully, in a sea of narcissistic sensation addicts i did not know women actually thought this way. you asked for feedback...here is mine, you have a nice shopping list and i am in perfect agreement that these virtues are absolutely essential to a healthy relationship, but humans are truly a mixed bag of virtue and sin.... when the chemicals your body produces to help you you forget this fact wear off and you see the person in front of you for the beauty and horror that they really are, will you choose to love or run in fear? when you see that your shopping list has a darker side will you still focus yourself on the task of loving your friend/enemy as yourself? or will you do what the walking dead deaf and dumb do when faced with their true selves.. convince themselves that they married the wrong person and that they need to get out that shopping list again? just a thought...
    Taylor
    Re:
    on Thursday, March 29, 2012 at 10:46 pm
    I just had a purity tea and our youth leader gave us a task and it was to go home and make a list of what we wanted in a husband but she wanted us to be specific on the color eyes and hair the body build. But my pastor reminded us that God might not give us exactly what we write down He Might Give Us Something Even Better!!!!!!!! I had a lot of fun writing this down i imagined what my husband might be like. i wrote alot down but here is some of the things i put down.

    1. On Fire For God!!!!
    2. musculer/strong=)
    3. i wanna get along with his parents and him mine.
    4. blue eyes
    5. i dont care what color hair ( but i do like blond blue eye boys)

    even though i write these things down i know that whatever God wants my husband to look like i know hes gonna be the best husband i can ever dream of. I do pray for my husband i pray that he is saving himself for me and that he is also praying for me knowing im in this world saving myself for him!!!!
    God's girl
    Re: K
    on Friday, March 30, 2012 at 12:48 am
    Wow K! That's so great to hear, and I feel so blessed to know that God has used my words to help encourage you in this! I'm really glad you're trying to do what you feel like GOD wants for you to do!:) I'll pray for you that God will clearly show you the path in which He wants you to take! God bless!
    Elaine
    @Jenna
    on Friday, March 30, 2012 at 7:05 am
    Sorry it's taken me a while to look at this blog. I've been overwhelmingly busy!
    When I said that I meant in that passage I found more verses supporting an aditional headcovering besides the hair than the ones that seemed to mean the hair. For aditional headingcovering, explicitelly vs.5&6 For hair vs.15
    and then there's other's that potentially could be translated both ways but most of the time it would make more sense to translate it in an aditional headcovering.
    I know, it's really confusing! Hope that helps!
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Sarah
    on Friday, March 30, 2012 at 11:48 am
    I am praying for you again today, sweet Sarah! I love the verse in Romans 8:28-29. God can and will use all the things of your past to work for your good as you trust Him and surrender it all to Him. He loves to bring good out of evil and to turn our mourning into joy (Gen. 50:20; Jer. 31:13). I’m so thankful to know you have received the help you need to move on beyond the pain of your past. Paul’s words in Philippians 3:13-14 are good for all of us to follow;

    But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

    May you feel God’s presence in your life in a powerful way, Sarah, as you surrender your past to the one who can use it for good in your future.
    Sarah
    Re:lorree
    on Friday, March 30, 2012 at 12:57 pm
    Thank you again it is so great to know that i have a dear sister prarying for me. Thank you for the great Bible verses. I know that God will use my story to infulence other peoples lives including my futre husband who will love me no matter where i came from.
    Julia
    That he would be...
    on Sunday, April 1, 2012 at 12:17 am
    I absolutely *love* your list Bethany!!! If you don't mind, I think I'll add them to mine! :D
    Some other characteristics of mine are:
    That he would be full of joy. (In a spiritual way and a humorous way!)
    That he would be bold in his faith.
    That he would have an enduring/persevering spirit.
    That he would have an inner gentleness.
    That he would love Jesus more than he could ever love me.
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Jazzy101Girl
    on Tuesday, April 10, 2012 at 12:30 pm
    Sweet friend, I appreciate your heart to heal from your past. I love the verse in Romans 8:28-29. God can and will use all the things of your past to work for your good as you trust Him and surrender it all to Him. He loves to bring good out of evil and to turn our mourning into joy (Gen. 50:20; Jer. 31:13). Paul’s words in Philippians 3:13-14 are good for all of us to follow:

    But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

    You might want to consider going through Beth Moore’s study “Breaking Free” as a study to help you deal with your past and encourage you to move on. It is an excellent Bible study. I’m praying the Lord will set you free from your past!
    Micky Mouse
    My list
    on Wednesday, April 11, 2012 at 5:09 pm
    My Mom and I have recently been praying about my future husband, and we've made up a list. We haven't finished it yet, but this is just the beginning.
    1. That he loves God
    2. He's financially stable
    3. He's appropriately romantic
    4. He will do anything to protect me

    That's the first few things on my list. My Mom is very happy about this blog because she is happy to share her/our feelings about my future husband.
    Molly
    Sorry...
    on Thursday, April 12, 2012 at 7:01 pm
    Sorry, girls. I really, really dislike this idea. I feel like it takes the focus off of serving God right now where He has placed us. This is, of course, just my opinion. But when I've done this it has only made me wistful.
    Bri KB
    @ God's girl and Caroline
    on Friday, May 4, 2012 at 10:58 am
    I have several long full skirts, a couple of long denim/khaki skirts and a couple of knee length skirt/dresses. I wear either pants, capris or below finger tip length shorts everywhere else. I sometimes even wear jeans to church if we are going from church to somewhere else and I don’t want to pack an entire other outfit. I like the floor length full skirts because they are almost like pants and I can still play two-hand-touch or ultimate football and not have to worry about my skirt flying up or something bad like that happening.
    Over all there is nothing wrong with pants, shorts, or knee length skirts, the issue comes in when you factor in the guys you are around. I have friends who live near and often visit a Mennonite community and they are always careful to dress accordingly so as not to offend them. I have a group of friends who have a higher view of modesty than I do so I’m always careful what I wear around them. In my normal circle there is an expectation for modesty that is a little lower than I would prefer, so I don’t have to worry too much about what I wear.
    Modesty is no set rule. You don’t have to wear skirts all the time unless you know it will make the guys around you stumble if you don’t. You posted the link to the Rebelution Modesty Survey and said you had read it. There are some extremes on there. You have to remember some of the guys who comment come from legalistic homes and if you are not around a lot of people like that you don’t need to worry about following every little thing someone says makes them stumble. Remember your job is to be modest, but the guys also have a responsibility to guard their minds. You can wear a potato sack, but if a guy wants to lust after you can’t do anything about it and at that point you aren’t responsible for him not guarding his mind.
    If you feel like something is modest, but saw on the survey there were some guys who disagreed, or you’re not sure if a pair of jeans is drawing too much attention to the wrong places, ask your dad or brother what they think. If you can’t do that ask another guy you are close to, like maybe an uncle or cousin or someone at your church. (And when I say someone at your church make sure it’s someone you can really trust. Don’t just go up to a random young man and ask, it would be better to ask an older guy, maybe a young man you are REALLY close too, because the last thing you want is to make a guy stumble by asking him if you’re modest or not, making him feel like he has to think about things he doesn’t need to be thinking about.) Most of these people would be happy to help you in your quest for modesty.
    Rachel M.
    The Eight Things
    on Saturday, May 5, 2012 at 12:58 pm
    Well I was just going through some of these older posts, and I noticed that I hadn't read this post. Intrigued by the title, I opened it and watched the video. I must say, that was a powerful video.

    When I was younger, I made a list for my future husband. Actually, I made two. One of them was more important to me, and the other was, to tell the truth, a list of qualities that, looking back, I don't know how any one person could have. I think at that time I just listed things. So now, I'm taking a few moments to reflect on this video and what I really want. I am not going to list all the things I desire, I don't think, but I'm going to make another list with things that I want to pray for specifically. So here goes:

    1. A humble spirit. Few things turn me off and disgust me more than a haughty heart. I want him to be willing to do the lowest of jobs without complaining (not that I want him to!), because it shows that he does not think he is greater than everyone else.
    2. An unexplainable joy and an quickness to laugh. I find it much harder to get along with others if they are not willing to laugh at what I say and if they are not willing to laugh at themselves when they mess up.
    3. A forgiving heart. I am crushed when I don't think a person truly forgives me when I wrong them. It hurts me deeply. If he has already forgiven me by the time that I ask forgiveness, I will forgive myself more easily too.
    4. A leadership in our spiritual life. As he will be the man in our marriage, I believe that it is his responsibility, for Ephesians 5: 23 says, "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior." I think that the husband is to be the one who takes a spiritual lead in our lives, and that I, while submitting to him, should follow his leadership, as long as it is from God, and I should do my best to encourage him.
    5. Encouraging lips. Ephesians 4:29 says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." My desire is that he would be a man who speaks words of life, not death. The tongue, as James talks about, is so powerful. I want him to use his to building others up, not tear them down.
    6. A gentle accountability. He needs to be able to hold me to account about my life, but without a harshness that would drive me away. Gentle reminders are much more powerful than rashly spoken words. Proverbs 15:1 says, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh words stirs up anger."
    7. A slowness to anger. Patience is much more trying than just letting anger lash out, but it is much more rewarding. If he is slow to anger, then many unnecessary conflicts can be avoided.
    8. A love that does not fade. He should first of all love God above all else, being willing to give up everything for the sake of Christ. Then, his second love should be me. He should have a complete love for me that is not led astray by other women, people, or things. He should love me as Christ loved the church, and gave His life for it (Ephesians 5:25).

    So these are just some things that I desire in him. Thank you so much, Bethany, for this encouraging post to remind me to pray for him!!

    Love in Christ,

    Rachel
    Lilangel44
    Help!!!
    on Wednesday, May 9, 2012 at 11:25 am
    i need help!!

    there is this guy i met at camp and he is a christian and everything and he really likes me and he says he wants to kiss me and everything!! what should i do?
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    Re: Help!!!
    on Thursday, May 10, 2012 at 11:15 am
    I’m so proud of you for wanting to do what is right, friend. Here are three principles Erin has mentioned in the past to help you decide how far is too far.

    • First is the “Whatever” principle based on Philippians 4:8. Our thoughts are to be on whatever is true, honorable and pure. Will holding hands tempt you in this area? How about kissing, hugging, making out, etc? There will be a point where your actions will cause your thoughts to cross a line. Plan ahead of time what your line will be in order to maintain pure thoughts.

    • Second is the “No Hinting” principle based on Ephesians 5:3 – that there should not even be a hint of sexual immorality in our lives. Is what you are doing with your guy hinting at sex? If it is, you are going too far.

    • Third is the principle of the “Unlit Fire” from Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:5 and 8:4. Is what you are doing causing your partner to want to become more physically involved? Don’t ignite a fire of passion in your partner by the actions you are engaging in.

    All three of these principles teach us to ask, “How much can I save for my future spouse and preserve in order to experience God’s best?” rather than “how far is too far?” Deanna, we hope these principles help you to begin to plan out where your line will be in relationships with guys.

    You might also check out the past “The Power of a Kiss” http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=744


    Praying for you today!
    Lilangel44
    Help!!!
    on Thursday, May 10, 2012 at 11:32 am
    no i am not thinking about it.
    i just want a friend relationship, but he wants to have a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. But he still loves me and he dreams about me!!!!
    what should i tell him?
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    Lilangel44...
    on Saturday, May 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm
    Be honest with him. Simply tell him that you don't want to be in a romantic relationship, but you really enjoy being friends with him and trust that you can continue to be friends. Know that I am praying for you--that you will have the courage to be honest (I know it is difficult to say) and that he will find a good friend in you! (Be careful in your actions around him that you don't give mixed messages.)
    Lilangel44
    Sarah...
    on Friday, May 18, 2012 at 11:37 am
    i know that i should but what if he refuses to becoming friends and what if he wants to stay in our "Romantic relationship"?
    Sarah, with the LYWB team
    @Lilangel44
    on Monday, May 21, 2012 at 10:35 pm
    Trust the Lord for His help as you do what is right. You know the next thing to do is honestly tell him your feelings. Do that...and then face any difficulty that comes from that. Perhaps the Lord will go before you and your friend will do what is right in return for your honesty and kindness. God bless you, Lilangel!
    austin
    I am a wreck.
    on Saturday, June 23, 2012 at 3:49 pm
    kay...
    so as I write this, the man I love is asking my father if he can date me...
    I am going crazy and I need to vent somewhere...so here is a good place.
    I have been praying about this man for 4 months, and God has given me and him, individually, an incredible peace that this is right. My dad likes him, and told me so. But he wants us to wait. Which is fine, not prefferable., but fine
    so here I am, laying on my zebra bed having a cow while I hear hushed voices downstairs from the two men I love most in the world. I still have a peace about it, so I canno doubt,,,but I'm just..nervous. Anyone feel that way or has felt that way?
    Please pray that my dad will have the same peace that we have.
    Love,
    Aussie
    Lorree, with the LYWB team
    Austin
    on Monday, June 25, 2012 at 5:11 pm
    By the time you see this response you will know how your father answered this young man. I encourage you, whatever his answer, to trust that he has your best interest at heart. I’ve prayed for you, Austin, and have also prayed for the two men you love the most. I’ve asked the Lord to give wisdom (James 1:5) to them and a beautiful, submissive, sweet spirit to you (1 Pet. 3:3-4). May the Lord be glorified through your relationships, Austin!
    Elizabeth
    @ Gods girl & @ Meg
    on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 7:17 pm
    @ God’s girl about modesty tips
    Let me tell you, when you live with an older sister, who also cares about modesty, and who tells you what’s ok to wear and not to wear, is quite helpful at times. I mean I can see why you like wearing long skirts they not only are modest but comfy as well. And though I have one question, do you only always wear skirts? Because if that is, some other modesty clothing, I’d also suggest is you could wear jeans, but make sure they aren’t the skinny jean types, they aren’t modest because they are all tight around your whole leg, or you could get the skinny jeans and then do what I do, stretch them, so that their not as tight, though the bad thing, is right after a wash they seem to get tighter again. As for shorts, most shorts now a days are just super short, I like to call them diaper shorts, because that’s how short they are. I’m going to a camp in about 3 more days, and that camp which is called Regeneration Camp, really wants us girls to dress modest, and because its in new mexico and the heat is just super hot, they have a rule that you could wear shorts, but it has to be to right about, say for example your standing up and your shorts have to be right up to where your hands reach. I’m not sure if that makes sense. Also maxi dresses are modest. As for tank tops and speghetti’s not so much. And dresses have to be up to your knees. I recommend going to this link, this article explains more about modesty.
    http://setapartgirl.com/issue-archives-MAY_JUNE2012.html the article is called from trashy to tasteful. It does a good job on explaining modesty.
    Hope this helps though. :) and let me know what you thought of the article.

    @ Meg: I saw your comment and it said that you wonder, what goes on through boys heads, about modesty, I think this article/video explain it well. Enjoy! :) its called what do boys really think about modesty. http://www.projectinspired.com/what-do-guys-really-think-about-modesty/
    Elizabeth
    @ Lv, Flora Caroline, and Meg
    on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 7:59 pm
    @Lv: I agree with you. I was reading a book titled Authentic Beauty, and chapter 12, said to keep a box for your future husband, about letters that you’ve written for him, I don’t believe in doing that, because what if God’s will for my life isn’t to get married. And just my thoughts here, I haven’t done a list because as I mentioned I don’t know if that’s God will for me, but I do pray and I ask God that when the time comes that He would bring me the guy that He has for me, but until then, I’m just continuously surrendering to God my love story, and leaving the pen in His hands.
    @ Flora Caroline: me too I have a prayer journal as well and it’s amazing what prayer does! :)
    @ Meg: I know that this probably a little to late to comment, but I’m not sure whether your still in the relationship with your boyfriend, but theres a verse in the bible 2 Corninthians 6:14 about not being equally yoked with unbelievers, a verse is all that I can come up with right now, but I hope this helps. :)
    Elizabeth
    @ Austin
    on Thursday, July 26, 2012 at 8:42 pm
    so what happend?
    JC girl
    heeeeeeelllllllllp
    on Friday, July 27, 2012 at 10:40 am
    hellow, i LOVE WHAT I AM READINNG HERE,GOD bless you Giirls.I wanted to share my Looooooong story(am a francophone sorry for the broken english)

    i became a christian at 16(am 22 today),and decided not to get invilved in a romantic relationship until i know am sure i want to marry him and obviously the guy had to be a Christian;i met a guy at 18,not a christian ,i was in love with him but i had sword to God to never have relationship with non beleiver, it killed me inside but i prayed and got over him...i started praying seriously for my husband but i was not spiritually mature.here is the list i made:
    =he has to be a Christian
    =light skinned
    =tall
    =he have to have a car

    oooh Lord have mercy on me for those stupid criterion
    i found a guy few time later he was exactly that way but was not a Christian, i was madly in love but it made me realised that i needed a Christian, i prayed and forgot abt that guy.
    in 2011 i was studing in a small toan 3hours from home,i came back and i noticed that in the youth gathering i used to go to before i leave the town was a nice guy, he was verry calm,we never realy talked but we use to meet since 2010 but i never noticed him,the guy is not cute,dark skinned,not that tall but a great God centered man; he preached one night and i started thinking about him, but he was not my type at all...LOL
    we started chating on facebook and one month later the 15th of august 2011,we talked,and decided to start a relationship...i was impressed by his spiritual life and i started having an inferiority complex,i was thinking "i dnt read the Bible often,i sing at church but i dnt pray infront of people "and i had many problemes in my familly,my mother has a mental disorder,we have financial issues,he used to tell me his familly story and his life was so good while mine was a mess;i started thinking that if he knew all that he d leave me; i started hidding things to him,not talking abt personnal staff and when he wanted to make a bible study with me i would let him talk and never contribute to the Bible study,he was the one ^praying me i was praying alone where he doesnt here me,but GOD i love this Guy, he started talking abt marriage two month after the relationship had started,he said we should plan when i finish my studies(December 2012) i was not ready for marriage,i felt i will be ready the day i ll be ready to tell him my all story,i felt i was lying to him and sinning,i told him i am not ready and i wont be ready soon...he started noticing that there was something wrong with my mom,with my familly but i never wanted to share with him;i was weird,i hated my self for that. He begged me to tell him whats wrong and i said no all the time; he felt bad and said these words to me "we r never going to move forward spiritualy if you dont help me,i know you do Bible studies with your friends and they tell me what a strong Christian u are, your sister told me that you wake her up every night to ptay with her but you never pray with me,i know you have problemes but you dnt want to share with me, i love you,i want to marry me but you say no and dnt give me a reason,i think we should end the relationship to avoid future problemes and sins" i cried ,he cried too but we broke up; i let him Go;i though i ll get over,went back in the small town for my last year of studies, 4 month after the break up i decided to come back in town and complete my studies,we started meeting every time ,every where and the feelings came back(on my side)cant get my heart over him;now,9month after am ready to marry that guy, i love him but i dnt know if he still loves me, he calls me often,i told him abt my mother,my familly issue,he said he ll pray for me,but we were talking like simple friends; now i fast and pray almost everyday asking to God to help me having my love back,i know all things works for my Good,the breakup did,it helped me realising how wrong i was and am nolonger ashamed to share the word of God with him,am ready cause am soon completing my studies, the Lord gave me a small Job and am conviced that i ll get a better one as soon as i have my degree. PLZ PRAY FOR ME
    Ira Juniarta P
    newbie
    on Monday, August 27, 2012 at 11:50 am
    hi! i am ira from indonesia, i'm 36 yrs old. Honestly i've never had a boyfriend until now :) and thank u for the share, i'll start to pray for my future husband... God bless :)
    Olivia Rose
    My list of what I want in my future husband.
    on Tuesday, September 4, 2012 at 11:43 am
    I have a very long list of what I want in my future husband. I'll only give you only a few that are a must and on top of my list!

    1. He must be a Christian and love God with all of his heart.

    2. He must love me! He needs to respect and be "sensative" to my feelings.

    3. Must love and respect his future in-laws.

    4. Be mission-minded and be willing to serve others.

    5. Be romantic. Take me out on dates and surprise me with candles, flowers, candy or a card. Don't forgot special occasions!

    6. Be adventurous and likes to do new things and travel!

    7. Be a hardworker. Find creative ways to save/earn extra money. But I don't want him to be a cheapo.

    8. Funny. I need a guy to make me laugh!

    9. Love children! (I want a lot of kids)

    And number 10 really means a lot to me! I want my future husband to be pure and remain a virgin until marriage and to save his first kiss for marriage!
    God's girl
    Re: Elizabeth
    on Sunday, September 30, 2012 at 12:24 am
    Thank you for your advice! I have an older sister, but unfortunetly we're not in the same place spiritually, so our modesty ideals are a bit different. And I'm really glad to hear modesty is important to you too! It's cool that your camp enforces girls to dress modest-- I've never heard of a camps doing that actually:O And even though I said before I was going to basically switch compleatly to skirts, I haven't totally done that-- I have a lot more though! I wear skirts every Sunday and during the week too sometimes, but I spend a lot of time at home so I tend to wear casual pants around the house. And yeah, I have a couple pairs of pants, but none of them are skinny jeans, they're all flair outs [I think they put less emphesess on the curves of the legs, and also make me look more porportional]. And YES, I know exactly what you mean about them getting tight again after washing them! I usually end up wearing long shirts or jackets with my pants because the rear is usually the snug-est part. But I keep it modest, and modesty is still very very important to me, and I admire any other girls striving to be modest too, because it's no walk in the park! And I read the article, and I liked it! I think Leslie Ludy is a great example of a modest, beautiful, feminine women:D

    I've debated swimwear a lot. At first I thought the answer was a simple one piece, but soon discovered there were many more components than that-- how high does it come on the hips? You know, sometimes they come up higher on the sides to make your legs look longer-- but it just shows more skin and makes you more prone to having to 're-ajust' the lower half of your swimsuite more often. Then there was the back of the swimsuite-- it might come up high in front, but the back can come down low. So I thought, okay, I'll get those one pieces that look like little dresses. But then I thought after buying a few, "these really look like dresses....and would I dare wear a dress this short out in public?" of course not! So I ditched those too. Then I considered giving up on swimming all together-- it wasn't that important to me anyway. But Then I came across a sort of surfer-top at a thrift store, and it was cute and TOTALLY covered me! I can wear it with long cargo shorts [knee or longer] and be totally modest! And the cool thing is, people don't think "wow, that's hidious" they just think, "cool look". I can wear it over a regular once piece and be good to go.

    And also, about shorts, what I've found is the safest thing to do, is just buy things past the knee-- because when you sit, it will ride up at LEAST 3-5 inches. Longer shorts look like short-shorts sometimes when you sit-- so I dropped them. I have a lot of short capri's, that are loose and sort of sporty [but not ugly or boy-ish], and I really like them. I feel pretty good wearing them in P.E.-- when all the other girls are showing all they've got, I'm safe and covered up. And it's not like it's "way too hot" because guys wear jeans and long shorts all the time and they're not dieing from the heat yet! And also, I hope I'm not offending you with what I'm saying, these are just my personal preferences of what I've found to work best for me and my convictions. So long as you follow the conviction of the Holy Spirit, you'll be good to go:) God bless in your quest for modesty:D
    Cassandra
    Prayer
    on Tuesday, October 2, 2012 at 11:02 pm
    This is amazing. I have been called by God to pray for my future husband and this is very encouraging. I've had several people doubt me but I'm going to keep pushing forward. Thanks for the encouragement:)
    Christine
    praying
    on Saturday, October 6, 2012 at 6:33 pm
    Hi,

    I have been praying for a while, but have not been as diligent as I could be.

    I think the list thing could help me to refocus:
    made a new list
    1. closer to God
    2. loving Him and others with all His heart
    3. growing in the word & spirit
    4. vision for family and for what God has called him to
    5. likemindedness in convictions on family stuff (open to life, full quiver)
    6. that he would find me.

    I have also been asking older ladies in the faith for ideas and have been keeping a prayer journal about those things I've prayed and included some letters. Hope that you are having a good day, and God bless!
    Christine
    abbeyy
    letters
    on Sunday, November 11, 2012 at 7:52 pm
    so i have read a series of books called the Christy Miller series. from them i got the idea to write letters to my future husband. things like tough times youve been through and letting him know you have stayed pure for him, and all these little things. si i have started doing that too(:
    saudi
    great idea
    on Tuesday, December 4, 2012 at 7:53 pm
    I have had an idea of making a list from ages ago , because I believe it will make me more focused in this area of my life and not to mess it up, and also a way to surrender it into God hands.

    here is my list so far.

    1.Loves God more than me, more than anything 'personal relationship with GOD'

    2.He has a sense of humour and is willing to be silly just for a laugh

    3.he is generous

    4.he is handsome

    5.he is not lazy

    6. commited to spiritual growth

    7.knows how to comunicate

    8.he doesnt compromise his faith for nobody and nothing

    9.he is confident

    10.patient ,

    11.not easily angered

    12.has to be wise with his finances

    13.ambitous

    14.must be honest

    15.good leader 'spirtiual & financial'

    16,decisive

    17.strong and a bit musclur not too much lol

    18.will do anything to protect me

    i know its a bit long lol
    Mary Beth Sharp
    Re:
    on Friday, January 25, 2013 at 2:39 pm
    Well said! You are wise beyond your years. I was married at 18 years old and now at37 going through a divorce to the man i thought was saved. Your list is perfect . I stumbled accross this as i am struggling praying for my boyfriend and x husband at tje same time. Your advice about praying this list for yourself is so important. Thank you sweet girl.
    Anonymous
    Re:
    on Saturday, January 26, 2013 at 5:57 pm
    This is great.
    Rosalyn
    praying
    on Thursday, February 28, 2013 at 9:37 pm
    I started praying for my future husband when my sister challenged me to. I think it helps me not to look for a boyfriend as much, and helps keep my focus on Christ, because I am talking to Him about my love. I pray that my future husband will strive to love Christ, serve others, not have another girlfriend, love his family, and guard his heart.
    I also write letters to him, which tell him of my thoughts on that day, what I'm praying for him for, and what's important to me. I'm using a journal called "Praying for you Future Husband". The pages aren't long, and there are helpful starting points on each one. Its made by Rebecca St. James. I love it, and it helps me not to be jealous of other girls that have boyfriends, and it reminds me to pray for him.
    Thanks for the video. You said it well! May God bless you!
    Kenna
    Re:
    on Saturday, March 16, 2013 at 2:17 am
    As a 16 year old "praying for your husband" didn't seem relevant to me. I've come to realize- through much prayer and time with God- that I have someone out there for ME. Why wouldn't I want to pray for him? Not only do I pray for the qualities I want, but for him in the present moment. I pray for his family, his school work, his church, and for his relationship with God right now.
    Because I pray for my husband , I'm not caught up in " high school relationships" or " summer flings". I have grown closer in my own relationship with God through this!
    Ruth
    Praying For Future Husband & @ Gods girl
    on Saturday, March 23, 2013 at 10:31 pm
    Wow! How blessed I feel to have come across this blog. It was probably two years ago that I came across the concept of praying for your future husband, but I haven't been at it diligently. With this I am greatly encouraged to start again with God's help and direction.

    @ Gods girl.
    It's wonderful to see fellow sisters who want to dress modestly and honour God. What I can suggest to you my dear is that you let the Holy Spirit be your guide. God has given his word in the bible about how we ladies ought to dress, however many have their own interpretations because God did not give precise specifications. In order to know EXACTLY what God means and wants when he says dress modestly, you must know God in a very personal way first- Seek the baptism of the Holy Spirit, and he will lead you into all truth. After that, it will not be a struggle to dress modestly, he will be your yard stick and you will comply with pleasure out of a pure heartfelt love for him, rather than a religious "rule"

    Here are some scripture verses pertaining to modesty. As you read and meditate on them, ask God to show you what he means. He said in Psalm 25:14 that "The secret of the Lord is with those who fear him"

    1 Timothy 2:9-10
    1 Peter 3:3-4
    Deuteronomy 22:5
    Romans 12:1
    Matthew 5:28
    Romans 12:2

    And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord (Colossians 3:17).

    God bless you
    kln0430
    wonderful post.
    on Monday, May 6, 2013 at 10:57 pm
    This is something I struggle with everyday. For years, I have felt like I was going to be alone. I see all these happy couples and I've wanted that for years. I know that God has somebody out there for me. And that when I meet him, he'll be far better than anything I could have ever imagined or pictured for myself. I'd never really thought of praying for my future husband, but I think it is brilliant. I'm gonna start writing him notes and give them to him when we are married.

    Here are some of the things on my list:

    1. He must love the Lord more than he will ever love me.
    2. He must be patient and slow to anger. I've had issues with these things in the past and I am trying to work on them to better myself to please God.
    3. Accept and be thankful for the gifts God has given him, no matter what those gifts may be.
    4. There's a lot more...

    One big thing I have noticed in couples lately is that when they fight, they just sit there and yell and argue with each other until somebody finally gives up. Sometimes they won't talk for a few hours and the issues still doesn't get resolved. I do not and will not have this with my future husband. When and if we argue, I want us to sit down, talk about it, but most importantly, PRAY about it.

    I cannot wait to start doing all these things for my future husband. Thank you so much for your post. God bless you.
    Kat
    Here's my thoughts on modesty
    on Monday, June 3, 2013 at 7:44 am
    Hey Everyone

    This has been very interesting to read. I'm 20 years old and have been single my whole life. I'm also a christian. In the last few years i've been reading alot of self help books and reading advice blogs and stuff. I've also struggled with modesty etc.

    I believe personally that God cares more about our heart motive than our actions. He will always love us no matter what. We also should not feel condemned if we have gone too far or made a mistake. Condemnation says "Who are you to run to God after that big mistake you made? You'll ask for forgiveness and then do the same thing again. You're a hypocrite." CONVICTION says, "I love you soooo much, you're way tooo awesome to be doing that. Here let me help you up and i'll show you the right way."

    So i believe firstly we need to believe God loves us, he will never turn us away and he will never make you filled with shame or guilt. He always has open arms to you no matter what you have done.

    Although i do believe we need to place some boundaries on clothing and dating and such.

    I seriously recommend two books:(LADY IN WAITING), AND (KISSED THE GIRLS AND MADE THEM CRY)

    In Lady in Waiting (By Sabrina Peters) Sabrina talks about modesty in the terms of context. She says that two people could be wearing the same dress and one could come across modest and the other seductive. It is purely about heart motive behind what you are wearing. She also talks about wearing the right clothing for the right context. She says you should wear clothes that suit where you are going and what you are doing. She said she use to go to the beach and totally cover up because she believed she was making boys stumble but only later realised that it is perfectly fine to wear a nice tasteful swimsuit and still be modest. Because she was wearing appropriate attire for the occasion. Ultimately if you're heart is in the right place, and you are mindful of the place/event in which you are going to then you can be modest in most things.

    Personally i also believe something that has helped me is to wear flattering but modest clothing suited to your figure. This way you can dress femininely, flattering but NOT suggestively. My body shape is rather top heavy and researching has taught me to find tops which divert attention from my chest (As there is way too much there already and it needs no extra attention) and to my waist which balances my body nicely, giving me an hour glass figure as my hips are rather narrow. I then choose nice tops and put under tops if it is too sheer or low cut. I wear jeans (skinny and normal) but wear flowy tops that cover my rear if they are too tight and unflattering but i love the jeans themselves. You can wear short dresses but with cool tights or stockings underneath. Its all about layering. its not necessarily about "no jeans", "no short skirts or tight tops", you can wear tight tops with a scarf, or cardigan or a vest even. You can wear low cut tops but with modest under tops.

    There are clever ways to wear trendy stuff but still keep it modest.

    Also the second books "Kissed the girls and made them cry" (By Lisa Bevere) In this book Lisa Bevere addresses the subject of "how far is too far?" and in this she writes that "Go so far as what you would comfortable doing in front of your dad" as dads are the keeper of a daughters virtue. This is an awesome concept. It no longer says "can we kiss? hold hands? make out?" it says, "What would be appropriate infront of company and then only do that" This books really is a great book on purity.

    Anyway there are my thoughts. I believe mostly its not about specifics but about our heart motive and what is appropriate in what setting.

    Hope this helps girls

    God Loves you all! Never doubt that!
    La Side
    Re: my list
    on Monday, June 10, 2013 at 8:22 pm
    all of the prior items are great but my specifics are:
    1. Love Lord with all heart mind and strength and have desire for sound doctrine, not turn away from faith, due to "itching ears, eyes or prideful heart"
    2. Love himself and do self care with having male friendships like Johnathan and David. So he will not expect me his wife to fill all of his emotional needs via sexual sublimation .
    3. Follow Christ's example and thereby develop leadership and Headship of home and over our children. He will always take time to ask me my perspective before any decision, as I have been' "functionally" wounded when growing up by constant inconsideration.
    4 Spiritually alert to Satan's schemes and attacks. Prayer warrior and know how to and learn more ways to protect family via prayer.
    5 learn and express his emotions and resolve anger or other impasses regardless of the source of kids, family relations or friendships. Making sure that our "being one flesh" is always at the center of priorities.
    6 Micah 6:8 that He follow this verse in what ever area of service and worship we as a couple do unto the Lord.
    7. These are for those "special things that the Lord will display that are the Lord's putting HIS stamp of approval, "as a good pick"; as my earthly father is in glory and can't be here to advise me.

    Needless to say I could go on but this is my list. I am over 50 and never have been married and as one older saint said to me today, your praying for a husband DEFINITELY is from the LORD. (LOL!)
    Anonymous
    Re:
    on Saturday, December 28, 2013 at 10:19 pm
    This vid definitely has some good stuff. I just am wondering something. I've tried praying for my future husband and have also written him a couple letters before, but I feel silly when I do it because I don't know if he exists. Is praying for a future husband a waste of time if I don't end up getting married? Is it okay then if I just ask God to "transfer" those prayers to another guy?
    I've gone through stages in my singleness. My only boyfriend and I broke up a couple years ago. So, it's been just me. I've gone through times where I really wanted a man in my life. Now I'm pretty content where I'm at. I'm okay if a guy comes, and I'm okay if a guy doesn't come.
    Carrie, with the LYWB team
    @ Re:
    on Sunday, December 29, 2013 at 6:21 pm
    Sounds like you’re in a great place of trusting the Lord for your future.

    Talking to the Lord is never a waste of time, friend. Prayer is simply the avenue through which we communicate with the Lover of our soul and He communicates to us through His Word and His Spirit. Keep talking to Him…keep sharing your heart and asking Him to give you His desires for your future.
    Ebony
    Topic
    on Wednesday, February 19, 2014 at 5:00 pm
    I listened and really appreciated this. I am actually going to share it with a few of my friends. Thanks

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