I’m so excited to introduce to you a thirty-four-year-old love story. This couple is very special to me because they happen to be my parents.
Meet Mike (my dad) and Heidi (my mom). With more than three decades of marriage experience, this amazing couple has been an example of love, faithfulness, and commitment. I’m offering you a front-row seat to the insights of a couple who have stood the test of time.
Q: Give us a quick introduction of yourselves. How did you meet? How long have you been married?
A: My beautiful bride, Heidi, and I met thirty-seven years ago at Florida Bible College over appetizers at the freshman welcome party. We had a lot in common. (We were both really tall!) But we also had a love for children’s ministry and foreign missions. We struck up a sweet friendship, studied together, and served in ministry together. Needless to say, we were soon engaged and married a year later.
God is always gracious and merciful to see us through in spite of our prideful hearts.
Our mutual love for God and children’s ministry continued into our marriage. We moved to San Antonio and served in ministry together as husband and wife, which was an incredible unifying part of our marriage.
We also started a business together, which was sweet. We spent a lot of time together working side by side. Soon, God began to bless us with children. We had nine children in eighteen years.
We will be married for thirty-five years this December and truly count every year a sweet blessing.
Was every year perfect? The answer is of course “no.” There were times we found ourselves on our knees praying through some pretty stressful stuff. Unfortunately, many times we were too prideful to seek answers through wise counsel. But through it all, in spite of our prideful hearts, God has been so gracious to us in many, many ways.
Q: If you could go back in time and give your newlywed selves advice, what would you say?
A: If we could go back and counsel the newlywed Mike and Heidi, we would definitely tell them to seek out an older, wiser couple to give them some much-needed guidance and wisdom, such as:
- How to communicate better with each other in every area.
- Never ignore problems. Get them out and discussed ASAP.
- How to ask for forgiveness. Plus choose to forgive often.
- How to serve one another more humbly.
- How to meet the other’s needs more effectively.
- How to seek to proactively praise and encourage one another.
Q: How can single people best prepare for marriage?
A: Having a godly mentor, whether you’re single or married, is one of the most important things you can do. We were too prideful many times throughout our marriage to humbly seek advice, just assuming we could figure it on our own. How many roadblocks could have been avoided had we sought godly advice in those early years? But again, God is always gracious and merciful to see us through in spite of our prideful hearts.
He is the perfect picture of pure, unconditional love.
Single or married, we all need to seek out guidance from older, wiser, godly folks.
Single or married, we all need to seek out guidance from older, wiser, godly folks. God did not intend for any of us to do life alone. As a single person, you can seek out an older, wiser married couple now to begin forming good ideas for what married life should look like. Ask questions, spend time in their home, observe how they communicate and how they seek to love one another.
Heidi and I have such a deep and abiding love for each other and seek to serve one another and be a true blessing in each other’s lives.
Love is a choice, not a feeling!
We are blessed to be lifelong best friends, sweet and loving husband and wife, father and mother to our precious and amazing children, their sweet spouses, and our adorable grandchildren.
We truly are blessed beyond measure and look forward to growing old together, serving and honoring one another and bringing glory to God through it all.
Thanks so much Mom and Dad for sharing with us!
I’m so grateful for my parents’ willingness to answer a few questions about their marriage. I would love to hear your practical takeaways.
In what ways can you better prepare for marriage as a single woman?
Did they say anything in particular that stood out to you?
Whom do you look to as an example of godly marriage? Tell me about them below.