Meet My Love Coach

I’d planned a special day out for my mom’s birthday. We’d tour the Billy Graham Museum, bike the Prairie Path, and sample the food at Manhattan’s.

Only problem was I’d been sick for weeks now, and this past weekend was no exception.

Mom called the morning of her birthday outing to encourage me to stay home and get better. That’s right, the birthday girl—on the day of her party—encouraged me to do what was best for me, not her!

Over the years Mom has modeled that love always chooses what’s best for the other—and not just with words but with her life. It’s 1 Corinthians 13:5 lived out before my very eyes:

[Love] does not insist on its own way.

A couple of days later, I did make it home, still under the weather. Mom met me at the door with a hug, put on a pot of soup, and told me she’d had my brother get the VCR all ready so I could watch The Jungle Book.

How had she remembered? I’d mentioned in passing, months ago, that I wanted to watch this movie again.

Over the years, Mom has demonstrated that love remembers the little things. It’s 1 Corinthians 13:4 in action:

[Love] is kind.

These aren’t a couple of isolated incidents. I could tell you the same story with slightly different details over and over again, because this is the pattern of my mom’s life.

Paula and her momI guess you could call her my “love coach.” I’m watching her, learning from her, making clumsy attempts to love others the way she loves me. The way Jesus loves me.

‘Cause while mom is my “love coach,” I know the One loving me through her is really Jesus. Without Him, she couldn’t love like she does.

But because my mom has first been loved by Jesus, she is now free to love without requiring anything in return.

Because Jesus’ Spirit lives in my mom, she now has the power to choose what’s best for others rather than for herself.

And because Jesus laid down His life for my mom, His is the model she seeks to follow.

For His love, and for her love, I couldn’t be more grateful.

Happy birthday, Momma! I want to be like you when I grow up.

Who’s your love coach? How have they modeled Jesus’ way of love to you? I’d love to hear.

And if you don’t mind, I think I’ll stretch out and watch The Jungle Book while I’m waiting for your reply . . .

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York.

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