You Are Not Alone in Your Struggle

It’s confession time! In high school, I would have been labeled the “model student.” I made good grades, played basketball, and was well-known and respected among my peers. I went to church and strived to live a godly life.

But every Monday I had to hear those in my extended peer group discuss the great Friday or Saturday night they had partying. They talked about how fun it was, what a great time they had. And I wanted to know what that was like. I wanted to have fun, too! I fantasized often about drinking and partying.

The Root of FOMO

I felt alone in this struggle. I felt alone because I did not feel like I could tell anyone I was constantly tempted by alcohol. I felt alone because I wondered what my parents and church friends would think if they knew.

So I continued to struggle. Alone.

Feeling alone is a dangerous thing. Satan uses loneliness as a tactic to rob us of our joy, leading us to focus on all that God is keeping us from instead of all He has already given us. Have you also noticed how loneliness makes it easier to give in to temptation? This strategy is nothing new.

  • Eve was alone when she was tempted by the Serpent to disregard God’s instructions (Gen. 3).
  • David was alone when he first saw Bathsheba and lustful thoughts entered his mind (2 Sam. 11).
  • Jesus had to endure forty days in the wilderness alone being tempted by Satan (Matt. 4).

It seems Satan has much to gain by getting us to feel like we are all alone. Feeling like we’re missing out or like we cannot tell anyone makes us more vulnerable to lies and sin. Because of this, I am here to tell you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

A Dose of Truth

The Bible tells us this: “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man” (1 Cor. 10:13). Your struggle is not unique. There are others out there who struggle with the exact same thing you do.

Here’s what other girls, just like you, tell us they’re going through:

  • 20% were bullied in the last year.
  • 19% contemplate or attempt suicide.
  • 20% self-harm.
  • 25% have anxiety.
  • 11% are treated for depression by age eighteen.
  • 18% regularly look at porn.
  • 20% regularly smoke weed.
  • 15% abuse prescription drugs.
  • 21% binge drink.
  • 33% are sexually active.
  • 20% sext.
  • 10% have been abused by a dating partner.
  • 50% admit to a “addiction” to their mobile device.

These statistics show what the Bible already tells us: You are not alone. If you took a sampling of ten teenagers, each of them would struggle with at least two of the issues listed above.

The facts prove that you are not alone in your struggle, but what can you do when you still feel alone?

The first step to get help is to admit your struggle. Tell your youth pastor, a mentor, parent, or another trusted adult. There’s tremendous power in dragging things out of the dark corners of our hearts and lives and into the light.

James 5:16 gives us clear instructions to tell:

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

After struggling with the temptation of alcohol for over ten years, I finally admitted it to my husband. Much to my surprise, it was not as earth-shattering as I imagined. He simply replied, “We all struggle with different things, and I think it’s admirable you’ve never given in to something you’re truly convicted about.” That was it. No gasps. No outrage. No judgment.

We all struggle with something, and telling others about it can help us in our battle to live a life of purity.

Let’s start that conversation right now.

  • Is there a temptation you’re struggling with?
  • Have you ever felt alone in your struggle?
  • Do you have any uplifting stories about overcoming temptation?

Let us know in a comment below!

About Author

Sarah Garrett

Sarah Garrett is a passionate educator and founder of the Transformed4More Ministries that she runs with her identical twin sister. It is her desire to reach struggling teenagers and tell them about the transformative power and love of God. Her book, "So, You Think You Are Ready to Date?" released in October 2017.

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  • TLC

    I know this doesn’t have anything to do with your post but…. was going to ask for prayer? My baby brother is going in today for a follow up to see if he has cancer or if it’s just an infection , his lymph nodes are swollen, they already did blood test and ruled out leukemia but it could still be a different kind of cancer… prayers please! I just keep saying ” Your will be done Lord not mine” thankful the Lord has given me some sort of peace that everything will be ok even if it is cancer, and that if he does have it GOD will be using him for a good purpose. Thanks for the post! God bless!

    • Keren

      I’ll surely pray for your brother and your family during this uncertain time. Praise God that you are experiencing His peace!

      • TLC

        Thank you Keren!

    • Hosaena Collins

      Praying for you as well.

      • TLC

        Thank you Hosaena Collins! He’s appointment is at 1:00pm.

        • TLC


        • Hosaena Collins

          Keep Romans 8:28 in mind. God knows what He’s doing. Let us knows how it goes!! I’ll keep you in my prayers!

          Your Christian sister

          • TLC

            Update! Thank you everyone for the prayers! Doctor isn’t worried at this point because his lymph nodes aren’t any bigger and he checked his blood again everything came back fine, he goes in again in four weeks to check again. Thank you again for the encouragement and prayers! God bless!

          • Hosaena Collins

            Praise God!!!!! That’s what God’s faimly does, they lift each other up. May God bless you and your faimly!! And may God be with your little bro! All my love to you in Christ!!

  • Kassia

    I struggle with feelings of insecurity where I just feel really ugly and unattractive. I respond to these negative emotions by turning to sexual sin.

    • Hosaena Collins

      But you are not ugly; Kassia. God has made you very beautiful and you are very special to Him. Psalms 139:14.

  • Kayla Christine

    I struggle with fear- anxiety I think. Things happen. I get upset and feel alone. I let fear take hold by hiding in my mind, in a “daydream”. I’m a visual person so seeing my biological dad cornering me and saying things like I never wanted you is so easy and especially tempting when something hurts. I don’t like when someone’s mad or arguing. I hate crying in front of people so I give in to fear which is easier to hide. The devil doesn’t deserve to see me crumble but I do. He knows how my father gets to me. My “daydreams” aren’t real but I feel every word. It keeps me down and I’m okay with feeling broken by now. I let him win again. He can take over and tell me what’s what. I don’t tell people about this. This is me needing to just get it out. Its hard to explain. I start to say it and I lose my words… I’m addicted. Its tempting to feel threatened and broken and to see the enemy in the winners circle. I have tried to give this to God, I took it back. Even with drawn out bunny ears, he scares me and I’m drawn to that. And my addiction is embarrassing. Who wants to feel broken that way? How hard is it to just let go and to forgive and forget?

    • Transformed4More

      Forgiveness can be extremely difficult. Unforgiveness becomes an obsession. We think about the person or the act constantly and then when it isn’t there or we try to give it up our minds don’t know what to focus on. You have to put something in its place and there’s nothing better than God’s word and his promises.

      I wish I could give you more in depth information but I am not a counselor. I highly suggest you find one (or a pastor) to talk too. There is NO SHAME in counseling. I have been at different points in my life and have always found it helpful.

      I will be praying for you ❤️