If Your Outfit Threatens to Ruin Your Day

I inhaled a big, quavering sigh as my shoulders slumped and a tear made its way down my cheek. How could this day be so terrible already? It’s only 9 a.m.! Another tear slid down my chin, and I finally threw myself on my bed and hosted a personal pity party.

I let my brain run away with me, and I thought about how miserable I was, and how awful the morning was, and how I just wanted to crawl back into bed and forget I ever woke up. And what was this horrible struggle I was going through? What was making my morning feel like World War III? My outfit looked awful, and I didn’t have time to change because this was the tenth outfit I had tried on and I was already late.

The rest of that day, I was constantly thinking about my appearance and paranoid I didn’t look good. I lacked the joy that should have been flowing out of me and allowed my outward appearance to dictate my inward mindset—all because I felt insecure about what I was wearing. Been there? Done that? It’s a miserable way to spend this beautiful life we’ve been given.

That day, when I was so miserable about the way I looked, it would have been easy to say that I wasn’t secure in who I was, that I lacked confidence. But confidence in what? Myself? My appearance?

Recently I came across this verse: “For the LORD will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught” (Prov. 3:26).

The message that screams at us through our iPhone speakers is that we should be confident in who we are, in what we look like, in how we feel. All around us we get the message that if we’re discontent with our appearance, we need more confidence in ourselves. But after reading that verse in Proverbs, I realized something that put an end to my pity party. Our problem isn’t lack of confidence; our problem is misplaced confidence. The truth is when we place our confidence in ourselves, we will always be disappointed.

There are days when my hair is frizzy or I step on the scale, and I’m discouraged by what I see. There are days when the lies of the world eat away at my soul, and I have come to the bottom of my strength.

You and I will be disappointed every time we make a mistake, because we’re human and we fail. But God never falls short. He does not fail. He is perfect and never makes a mistake. When we try to find confidence in ourselves (in our clear face, trim body, stylish outfits, or shiny hair) we’ll always end up hopeless and depressed because those things don’t last.

But when we place our confidence in Him, no matter the day, no matter what we feel like, we can still be confident because our confidence isn’t dependent on us and how we feel. It rests on our Maker, who never fails and never leaves. We can have confidence not because of what we’ve done or what we look like but because of who we are in Christ. That’s the kind of confidence that a bad wardrobe day can never take away.

What tends to shake your confidence? The next time your confidence is rattled, what truth from God’s Word do you plan to cling to?

About Author

Liza Proch

As a Jesus-follower, blog-loving writer, and coffee-drinker, Liza is constantly looking for new ways to inspire and encourage other young women in their walk with Christ. She recently launched a hand lettering company and blog of her own (BriarberryType.com), and lives in the sunny hill country of Texas where she's in a band with her three brothers.

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  • Tiana

    Great post!! Since I’m homeschooled, I don’t have to worry about that on a daily basis, but I’ve experienced that going to church on Sunday mornings. Thanks for this inspirational post 😊👏👏

  • Ryely

    I go to homeschool to because real school was hard for me because of other girls there, Thankyou so much for this post, in my neighborhood everyone is so competitive in what clothes you where or the volume in your hair, so I am trying to put down my script of many and just play for 1, ( God ) this blogs answers a lot of my questions Thanks so much🤗

  • Kaitlyn Burdick

    This post!! So good! If I don’t feel good in the outfit I’m wearing I get angry, and end up super lazy. I won’t listen. And I’ll fight anyone who asks me to do something. When this happens I change my clothes to something I love, and I’m instantly willing to help where I’m needed, and be sweet. It’s weird. My environment effects my attitude SO MUCH. I don’t know how to change that :/

    • Jenna

      I completely get that!! I do it too, where my attitude totally changes when I like what I’m wearing/how I look. And I hate that I do that! This was a great reminder that this attitude is because of misplaced confidence. Thank you!!

    • The first step is recognizing what is underlying your discontent and you have done that. Knowing that will help you to speak truth to yourself and make changes in how you respond to others. Your clothing and how you feel in your outfit is only reflecting what is true in your heart. As you change your heart, your emotions will be better controlled and you’ll respond more appropriately to what is going on in your day.

      Will you memorize these verses and speak it into your heart and life next time you are discontent with how you look? I’m praying for you!

      Prov. 30:31: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

      1 Pet. 3:3-4: “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

      1 Sam. 16:17: “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

  • Rose

    I’m homeschooled too, but I know that what shakes my confidence in myself is how people think about and if I don’t receive a compliment in something that I have done for others, it makes me feel a lot less confidence about myself and how I thin about myself.

  • Goodness-Mercy Weme

    When I first encountered this verse I was wowed. Thanks for the reminder that God is my confidence

  • Emma!

    Wow… Liza I’m blown away! It’s totally a struggle of mine… because I tend to outwardly exude confidence but inwardly I’m overthinking everything! From my hair, to my speech. And yet that’s so so so not where I should be trying to get my confidence from! I know that I should be finding it from God, one of my prayers is that I’ll turn my eyes from things of this world and focus on Him. So thank you for speaking truth.
    Sister in Christ

  • Elizabeth Omosa

    confidence is a very good thing but the question is the source and you are right because when we place confidence in our outer appearances or ourselves like you said it would mean that whenever there is a fault in those areas we lack confidence but when you concentrate on who GOD is,nothing can make you quiver.Lovely article!!!!

  • Allison

    I love this so much! Thank you!

  • Hannah grace

    Thx Liz very timely!

  • Sabea

    Thank you for this great article! Does anyone have any advice on staying positive and joyful when you have quite bad acne? I’ve had it for a long time now, and so often feel discouraged, or upset about how unattractive I feel. I think I also worry too much about how others view my skin… Any advice is appreciated, I really want to conquer this! 🙂

    • I’m so sorry you are struggling with acne, Sabea! You are right – others may not think about your skin appearance nearly as much as you do. God tells us that our true beauty comes from our heart in 1 Pet 3:3-4: “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

      So I challenge you that whenever you begin to focus on the way you look, take those thoughts captive through Scripture passages the above one or like Psalm 139:14: “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

      Will you give that a try? I’m praying for you right now!